Women's Dating And Confidence Podcast

How To Not Freak Him Out With Your Strong Feelings For Him

September 10, 2019 Amber Grubenmann Episode 82

Today I get REAL with you about freaking men out with your strong feelings for them. And by real I mean I share more of my story with you as well :) This episode is based on the following listener question:

"Honestly I catch feelings with someone who I am seeing, too fast - that goes for friendships and dating. I don't know what else to do unless I just embrace it. The only other option I can think of is to just put walls up but that doesn't feel good. And yes, there is an element of neediness to it. It sucks to type this, but I am being honest.

So here's the question. When being transparent and really being honest in the moment, what if I reveal feelings of insecurity about where I stand with that person or the unhealthy quick attachment I have got to them or compliments about their beauty I want to give. Because that is real to me in the moment. And yes, unfortunately, it shows a lot of neediness and an element of feminine energy.

I understand that the long term answer would be to be on my purpose, have an abundance mindset and not get attached too easily, raise my self worth so I don't think this is the only person who will like me. But it's happened all my life, I just get attached too easily. And I go on dates with these women and the first date when I literally know nothing about them is fine. But then once I get an idea that I like them, I want to share all the neediness baggage BS and when I can't let that out, I heavily filter what I have to say, the conversation dies, and no connection gets made. I know this is similar to the podcast Dr. Aziz and yourself recorded. However this one particular block I have about being honest and transparent really trips me up."

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