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In this episode, host Bidemi Ologunde explores five Yoruba proverbs about limitation, empathy, responsible speech, credibility, and reputation. What happens when a small weakness disrupts a powerful system? Who suffers quietly while others continue as though nothing has happened? How should elders, leaders, parents, and professionals speak when their words carry public weight? Through historical reflections and modern anecdotes, Bidemi connects fish bones, grazing foals, drunken speech, thieves' families, and dirty clothes to today's workplaces, families, online spaces, and public life. This episode invites listeners to examine their limits, their concern for others, and the character behind their words.

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In July 2024, on what should have been an ordinary Friday morning, airports, hospitals, banks, broadcasters, and emergency services in several parts of the world suddenly felt the weight of one hidden weakness. A faulty crowd strike software update affected Windows systems. And within hours, departure boards froze at airports, surgeries were delayed in hospitals, newsrooms scrambled, and workers who had never heard the phrase content configuration update were forced to explain it to angry customers. So the striking part of that day was how quietly the trouble began. No thunder announced it, no enemy army crossed the border, and no dramatic villain appeared on a screen. A small technical defect moved through a highly connected world. And millions of people discover that even the most advanced systems have throats that cannot swallow every fishbone. And that's where today's episode begins. You're listening to Yoruba Proverbs with Bidemiologunde. And on this proverb, I take the wisdom of Yoruba speech and bring it to the marketplace, the family compound, the workplace, the airports, the group chats, and the private rooms where people make decisions that shape their lives. Today I'm going to be looking at five Yoruba proverbs about limitations, indifference, careless speech, damaged credibility, and public reputation. These proverbs may sound old, and some of their images come from farms, horses, elders, thieves, dirty clothes, and fish bones. Yet their lessons belong firmly in the modern world because every generation has to learn how to live with limits, show concern, speak responsibly, and protect the trust that makes speech powerful. So the first proverb I have says, Onofmu bae gu. The throat cannot accommodate fishbone. Ono faiguja. The throat cannot accommodate fishbone. So the meaning, pure and simple, is that everybody and everything has some kind of limitation. This proverb talks about the human body because Yoruba wisdom usually starts with what everybody already understands. The throat is built for swallowing, and food passes through it every day without ceremony, without you even thinking about how that happens. However, the same throat that can swallow yam and rice and meat and water and medicine can be troubled by one very small piece of fish bone. So the lesson is direct and humbling because capacity always has boundaries. So let's imagine an old Yoruba household during an evening meal. A grandmother has cooked fish stew, and the children eat quickly because the smell has filled the entire compound. One child trying to prove that he's grown swallows too fast and all of a sudden grabs his neck. The room changes almost immediately because everybody knows that a tiny bone, a tiny fish bone, can defeat the proudest appetite. The elders don't laugh at first because they understand what the child has just learned. Strength without caution can still be interrupted by something very small. So that's the historical style image behind the proverb. In a world without modern hospitals nearby, people learned from the body, from cooking, from farming, from animals, and from daily danger. Fishbone became a teacher because it showed that the issue was rarely about size alone. A small thing could become serious when it enters the wrong place. In modern life, we often forget this lesson because our tools look powerful. A company may have thousands of employees, advanced software, large budgets, and consultants with impressive titles. Yet one overlooked process can become the fishbone in the throat of that corporate organization. A person may have intelligence, charisma, and ambition, yet poor rest, uncontrolled anger, or bad timing can become the fishbone in a promising life. This proverb also teaches compassion. When we understand that everything has a limit, we become slower to mock people who reach their own limit. A student who fails an exam may have reached the limit of preparation, energy, or emotional strength. A parent who becomes overwhelmed may have reached the limit of patience after years of carrying invisible pressure. A country with beautiful plants may reach the limit of institutions that were never strengthened properly. So the point is not to celebrate weakness, no. The point is to recognize limits early enough to manage them wisely. Every throat must respect the bone before the bone demands respect. For a business leader, this proverb asks a very practical question. What is the fish bone inside the system that looks smooth from outside? For a family, it asks another question. What small resentment has been swallowed for years without being addressed? For an individual, it asks an even quieter question. What limitation do I keep pretending I don't have, even though my life keeps showing me the same evidence over and over again? So the proverb gives us permission to design around reality. If the throat cannot handle fishbone, then the wise person has to eat carefully. If the team cannot handle unlimited pressure, then the wise manager builds rest into the schedule. If the relationship cannot survive constant suspicion, then the wise couple addresses the fear before it hardens into distance. A limitation ignored becomes a crisis invited. A limitation respected becomes a boundary, a plan, and sometimes even a source of strength. The throat cannot accommodate fishbone. So the second proverb says, Amu yai so unjeku kiri. Problems hardly make any impression on a young horse. Its mother is tie down, but it still grazes nonchalantly about. Its mother is tied down, yet it grazes nonchalantly about. So the meaning of this is that some people do not show concern for the afflictions of the people close to them. This proverb is painfully sad because it describes emotional distance inside physical closeness. The young horse sees the mother, knows the mother, and depends on the mother, yet it continues grazing while the mother is restrained nearby. The picture is almost unbearable because the young horse benefits from a bond that it does not yet fully honor. So let's picture a roadside scene from an older farming community. A female horse has been tied to a post while her owner bargains in the market. A young offspring wanders nearby, nibbling on grass, flicking its tail, and enjoying the open field. The mother cannot move freely, yet the young horse still feeds. To the observer, the scene becomes a moral lesson about people who continue enjoying life while someone close to them is suffering. In family life, this proverb usually appears when one person carries a burden that everybody else can see. A mother struggling to pay school fees, yet the children demand new clothes without asking how she's coping. An elder brother sends money home every month, yet younger relatives treat the support as if money grows naturally from his phone. A friend goes quiet for weeks, yet everyone assumes that silence means strength because checking on people requires effort. Modern life has made this proverb even more relevant. We cannot watch suffering from a distance and just continue scrolling. A colleague may be drowning under workload while the team adds on more tasks. A spouse may be emotionally exhausted while the household continues asking for more. A community may benefit from the labor of nurses, teachers, cleaners, drivers, and caregivers while barely noticing the strain on their bodies. So the young horse in this proverb is not necessarily wicked. Sometimes the young horse is immature, distracted, or simply untrained in empathy. That matters because the proverb now calls for correction as well as judgment. Yoruba proverbs usually expose behavior so that a person can adjust before shame becomes permanent. So consider this modern-day example. Imagine a young professional whose father has been paying rent, tuition loans, and family obligations for years. So the young professional gets a new job, celebrates online, buys expensive things, and posts captions about independence. Meanwhile, the father quietly sells land to settle debts that have been created by the same education. So one day the father falls sick and the child discovers that the man who looked strong had been tied down for years. And that discovery is usually the moment when the young horse finally lifts its head from the grass. So the lesson here is that love without attention becomes entitlement. Gratitude must become more than a polite phrase during holidays. It must become the habit of noticing who is tied down so that everybody else can graze freely. So this proverb also applies to citizenship. Some people enjoy roads, security, hospitals, public schools, and neighborhood peace while refusing any responsibility for the systems that support them. They complain when services fail, but they've never attended a meeting or paid fair dues or obeyed reasonable rules or even helped to maintain shared spaces. They graze in the field while the mother that supports the field remains tied to a post. So for listeners today, the proverb is asking a very personal question: Who is currently tied down near me while I continue grazing? That person may be a parent, a friend, a partner, an employee, a colleague, a neighbor, or even a younger person who looks cheerful while carrying significant anxiety. The answer may require a phone call, a transfer, an apology, a visit, or a more honest conversation. So in other words, concern must be practiced before emergency arrives. The young horse that waits until the mother collapses has waited too long. Its mother is tied down, but it grazes nonchalantly about. So the third proverb says, Ora botibotio yeagbalagba. Speech like drunken babu does not befit a venerable elder. Speech like drunken babble does not befit a venerable elder. So the meaning is that responsible adults should be very careful about what they say. This proverb honors the connection between age, speech, and dignity. In Yoruba philosophy, elderhood is not only about years lived, it's also about restraint, judgment, memory, and the ability to speak in a way that cools the room rather than setting it on fire. When an elder speaks like a drunken person, the community loses far more than elegant language. It loses confidence in that elder's judgment. So let's imagine a dispute in an old compound. Two families are arguing about a boundary between farms, and young men on both sides are already raising their voices. So the elders are called because their words are supposed to bring balance. One elder arrives angry, speaks carelessly, insults one family, exaggerates the facts, and repeats gossip as if it were testimony. Instead of reducing the fire, he adds dry wood to the fire. And in that moment, age remains visible, but elderhood becomes questionable. That's why the proverb says, careless speech does not befit a venerable elder. Speech carries status, and status carries obligations. The higher a person stands in public respect, the more disciplined that person's words must become. So in modern day life, this proverb belongs in boardrooms, churches, mosques, classrooms, political rallies, WhatsApp groups, live streams, podcasts, and family meetings. A senior executive who mocks employees in public weakens more than their morale. A parent who insults a child's future during anger may plant words that grow for decades. A religious leader who speaks recklessly can turn spiritual authority into social danger. A public figure who posts without reflection can damage the trust that has been built across many years. The phrase drunken babble is powerful because it suggests loss of control. A drunken person may speak loudly, repeat himself, reveal secrets, misread the room, and mistake noise for importance. The proverb is warning that responsible people cannot afford that kind of verbal wandering. Their words may become evidence or memory or instruction or even injury. So consider this modern workplace example. A respected manager joins a meeting after a stressful morning. A junior employee presents an idea that is incomplete but promising. Instead of asking questions, the manager dismisses the employee with sarcasm and then the room becomes quiet. The idea dies, the employee withdraws, and the team learns that silence is safer than creativity. Later on, the manager may apologize, but the first speech has already traveled through the building. So the proverb would say that the manager spoke below the dignity of his or her position. Authority gives words longer legs. Once released, they can walk into places that the speaker never intended. Authority gives words longer legs. Once released, they can walk into places that the speaker never intended. This proverb also matters in the age of voice notes. People now record anger, they forward suspicion, and they share accusations faster than they can verify them. A person may speak from irritation on Monday and spend the rest of the week explaining the damage. The old proverb understands this perfectly because technology has changed the speed of speech while human memory still keeps the wound. So for listeners, the practical lesson is simple enough to carry into the week. Before speaking from anger, ask whether the words will still represent you when the anger has passed. Before forwarding a claim, ask whether your name should stand beside that claim. Before correcting a younger person, ask whether your words will guide or merely humiliate. Careful speech does not make a person weak. No. Careful speech shows that the speaker understands the weight of being actually heard. Speech like drunken babble does not befit a venerable elder. So the fourth proverb says, Speech is not pleasant in the mouth of the mother of a thief. Speech is not pleasant in the mouth of the mother of a thief. So the meaning here is that there is little a miscreant or the miscreant relative can say that will impress anybody. So this proverb concerns credibility, and it does so through a harsh image. The mother of a thief may speak beautifully, explain sincerely, and even plead emotionally. Yet the community hears her through the reputation of that person connected to her. The issue is not the grammar of a speech or her eloquence, no. The issue is the damaged trust surrounding her position. So this proverb requires careful handling because the image can sound unfair to modern ears. A parent should not automatically bear moral guilt for every action of an adult child. However, the proverb is teaching a social reality that a lot of people recognize. When trust has been damaged, even good speech struggles to land well. When someone is associated with wrongdoing, listeners become suspicious before the sentence is even completed. So imagine a marketplace in an old town. A young man has been caught stealing clothes from a trader. His mother arrives in distress and begins pleading with the crowd. She may be innocent of the theft, and her tears may be real. Still, the trader who lost goods is angry, the crowd is noisy, and every word from her mouth sounds less persuasive because the theft has already filled the air. So now her speech travels through another person's misconduct. This proverb also applies strongly to leadership. A leader surrounded by corruption may give brilliant speeches about accountability, but people listen with narrowed eyes. A company known for cheating customers may launch a polished campaign about integrity, but customers remember their unpaid refunds. A school that ignores bullying may publish a statement about student welfare, but parents measure words against experience, against action. Once credibility is injured, speech becomes heavy. So a modern day example can bring this closer to home. Imagine a neighborhood association where the treasurer is accused of misusing funds. For months, the chairperson defended the treasurer and dismissed concerns as gossip. Later on, missing money slowly becomes undeniable. At the next meeting, the chairperson gives a long speech about transparency. The words may be correct, but the room receives them coldly because previous loyalty. To wrongdoing has weakened the chairperson's standing. And that is the force of this proverb. Speech doesn't live alone, speech carries the history of the mouth that releases it and the associations standing around that mouth. This proverb is also useful for personal conduct. People sometimes believe that an explanation can repair anything. The damage thrust repeatedly then arrive with language that sounds polished and wounded. Yet, words spoken after repeated misconduct often face a wall built from memory. The proverb is now reminding us that the best way to make future speech believable is to protect present character. The best way to make future speech believable is to protect present character. There is also another side to this wisdom. If someone close to you is doing wrong, your silence may eventually become part of how people hear you. Friendship, family, party loyalty, ethnic loyalty, professional loyalty, and religious loyalty can all become dangerous when they require defense of the indefensible. The mother in the proverb suffers because closeness has consequences. The proverb therefore asks us to think carefully about what we excuse in the people we love in the people close to us. For leaders, the lesson is direct. Don't wait for scandal before building credibility. Make your processes clean while nobody is shouting yet. Correct your people before outsiders force correction upon you. Keep records before suspicion arrives. Speak plainly before the crowd believes every statement has hidden corners. For individuals, the lesson is equally direct. Your reputation is a microphone placed in front of your future words. If your conduct damages the microphone, even wise words may sound distorted. Speech is not pleasant in the mouth of the mother of a thief. So the final proverb says, What kind of speech can there be in the mouth of the person whose clothes are brown from dirt? What kind of speech can there be in the mouth of the person whose clothes are brown from dirt? So the meaning is that people with blemishes should keep a low profile. This proverb moves from family reputation to personal appearance and public standing. The person whose clothes are visibly dirty may have something important to say, but the condition of the clothes affects how the person is received. In traditional society, clothing often communicated readiness, respect, discipline, and social awareness. Dirty clothing could suggest carelessness, disgrace, poverty, hardship, or recent trouble. So the proverb is using that image to talk about moral blemish and public restraint. So let's picture an old town meeting where elders gather under a tree to discuss a serious matter. A man arrives late, wearing clothes that have been stained from a fight he caused earlier that morning. He immediately begins advising others on peace, discipline, and public order. People may agree with the content, but they struggle with the messenger. His clothes has spoken before his mouth opened. The proverb is sharp because public life requires self-awareness. When a person has visible blemishes, loud moral instruction may create irritation instead of respect. The wise person first cleans what can be cleaned, repairs what can be repaired, and speaks with humility where full repair is still in progress. In modern life, the dirty clothes may be old tweets, unpaid debts, hypocrisy, cruel behavior, professional negligence, or a pattern of treating people poorly. A person may lecture others about loyalty while betraying friends privately. A company may sponsor a charity event while underpaying workers. A politician may condemn waste while living from the same waste. A celebrity may preach kindness after years of public bullying. In each case, the clothes are already speaking. This proverb doesn't mean flawed people must remain silent forever. No. Every human life has things, and wisdom would become impossible if only perfect people could speak. The proverb teaches proportion, humility, and timing. A person with dirty clothes should avoid arrogant speech, public condemnation, and theatrical moral superiority. That person can still confess, repair, learn, and speak carefully from their own experience. So a modern-day example makes this useful. Imagine someone who has just been exposed for spreading false information online. The person returns the next day with a long post attacking others for being irresponsible with facts. So now the audience reacts badly because the dirty clothes remain visible. Someone has taken screenshots of their false information. So a better response would begin with accountability, correction, and evidence that the person understands the harm already caused. After that, future speech may now slowly regain strength. So the historical style version is just as clear. A hunter returns from the bush covered in mud after getting lost through poor judgment. When he reaches the village, he begins mocking younger hunters for weak tracking skills. The elders may laugh, but the laughter carries instruction. A man covered in the evidence of his own mistake should speak with measured humility. So this proverb is especially important for people who live online. Digital life preserves stains longer than ordinary clothes. A careless statement can return years later. A private cruelty can become public through a screenshot. A reputation built for insight can suffer from one pattern of arrogance. The wise person therefore asks, before speaking loudly, what clothes am I wearing in the eyes of the people listening? The proverb also protects us from perfumative outrage. Sometimes people criticize others loudly because they want attention moved away from their own blemishes. Yoruba wisdom recognizes this human trick. Dirty clothes do not become clean because the wearer points at dust on someone else. Public speech without self-examination can become another form of dirt. So the practical lesson is not to stay silent forever. No. The practical lesson is discipline humility. Clean what you can, admit what you must, lower your volume while repair is ongoing. Speak from responsibility rather than superiority. Let your restored conduct prepare the way for your restored voice. So when we place all five proverbs together, we see one larger teaching about maturity. The first proverb says that every throat has limits. So wisdom begins with knowing what we can handle. The second proverb says that empathy must notice the person tied down near us. The third proverb says that responsibility requires speech disciplined by judgment. The fourth proverb says that credibility can make words either light or heavy. The fifth proverb says that visible blemishes should teach humility before public speech. So these proverbs form a chain. A person who ignores limits may create trouble. A person who ignores the suffering of others may become entitled. A person who speaks carelessly may damage trust. A person connected to wrongdoing may lose persuasive power. A person with visible blemishes may need humility more than volume. Together, these proverbs describe the kind of character that Yoruba wisdom respects. This character is aware of limits, is attentive to others, careful with speech, protective of credibility, and humble before public judgment. So let's return to that opening story about the global technology outage. The Walt discovered again that powerful systems still have delicate throats. A small defect could disturb hospitals, airports, banks, broadcasters, and emergency services because connection increases consequence. That same day also showed the other proverbs at work. Some leaders communicated clearly, while others struggled under public pressure. Some organizations showed concern quickly, while others appeared slow to understand the people tied down by the disruption. Some explanations were received with patience, while others met suspicion because credibility had already become part of the story. That is the brilliance of proverb language. It travels from the village path to the digital age without losing its bite. So as we go into the week, let's choose one proverb as a mirror. Ask yourself where your throat has reached its limit. Ask yourself who is tie-down while you continue grazing. Ask yourself whether your words match the dignity of your role. Ask yourself whether your associations weaken your message. Ask yourself whether your clothes are clean enough for the speech you are preparing to give. This has been Yoruba Proverbs with Bidemulogrande. In Yoruba wisdom, the oldest images often know the newest problems before the newest problems know themselves. Please share the podcast with everyone you feel might benefit from it. See you next time. Bye for now.