{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":4.56,"endTime":6.66,"body":"Welcome to Dula Tips and Tits,"},{"startTime":6.86,"endTime":9.9,"body":"the podcast where we cut through the noise and get real"},{"startTime":9.9,"endTime":12.72,"body":"about what it takes to build a sustainable doula business."},{"startTime":13.22,"endTime":14.42,"body":"I'm Kaylee Harrod."},{"startTime":14.82,"endTime":19.24,"body":"I've been a doula informally for 14 years and full time for"},{"startTime":19.24,"endTime":19.68,"body":"seven."},{"startTime":20.2,"endTime":21.96,"body":"Around here, we don't sugarcoat stuff."},{"startTime":22.38,"endTime":24.48,"body":"We talk autonomy, owning your worth,"},{"startTime":24.66,"endTime":26.36,"body":"creating a business that works for you."},{"startTime":26.96,"endTime":28.56,"body":"No fluff, no burnout,"},{"startTime":28.66,"endTime":32.22,"body":"just the honest truth on how to be your own best boss."},{"startTime":33.0,"endTime":34.38,"body":"Let's get into 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asking."},{"startTime":704.84,"endTime":707.6,"body":"So I will see you in next week's episode."},{"startTime":707.6,"endTime":708.48,"body":"Until then,"},{"startTime":709.18,"endTime":712.5,"body":"I wish you the best in your doula business magic."},{"startTime":717.52,"endTime":720.92,"body":"Thanks for joining us for this episode of the doula tips"},{"startTime":720.92,"endTime":721.82,"body":"and tips podcast."},{"startTime":722.06,"endTime":724.88,"body":"If you learned something today or had an aha moment,"},{"startTime":725.16,"endTime":728.04,"body":"we'd love for you to share that on Instagram and tag us at"},{"startTime":728.04,"endTime":731.1,"body":"hara doula so we can celebrate alongside you."},{"startTime":731.44,"endTime":733.42,"body":"If you found this podcast helpful,"},{"startTime":733.64,"endTime":736.46,"body":"we would so appreciate you taking a second to leave a"},{"startTime":736.46,"endTime":740.7,"body":"rating and a review on your favorite podcast app that helps"},{"startTime":740.7,"endTime":743.3,"body":"other doulas find us as we do this work together."},{"startTime":743.76,"endTime":746.94,"body":"This podcast is intended as educational and entertainment."},{"startTime":747.24,"endTime":749.52,"body":"It is not medical advice or business advice."},{"startTime":750.14,"endTime":753.18,"body":"Please consult your own medical or legal team for your own"},{"startTime":753.18,"endTime":755.24,"body":"needs around your health and your business."},{"startTime":755.8,"endTime":756.76,"body":"We'll see you again soon."}]}