I Wanted Him and Then I Didn't

Eye-Opening Moments Unleashed are real-life stories of adversity, encounters, and perspectives intertwined. In this episode you will hear about I Wanted Him and Then I Didn't.

                                                                                       
Website: https://inspiremereads.com
Books: https://amazon.com/author/emily-kay-tan.2021_

Transcript

Hello and welcome to episode #217 of Eye-Opening Moments Unleashed where you’ll hear stories of adversity, encounters, and perspectives intertwined. They are moments that can lift your spirits, give you some food for thought, or move you. For the introspective mind that likes to reflect, discover, and find solutions or meaning in a complex life, this is for you. I’m your host Emily Kay Tan. In this episode, you will hear about I Wanted Him and then I Didn’t.

I Wanted Him, and Then I Didn’t

He listened attentively as I shared about myself.

He seemed so interested, so I wanted him.

The more he listened, the more I shared.

I felt comfortable sharing anything about myself, so I wanted him.

Feeling comfortable with him, I was calm and relaxed.

Feeling no need to impress, I was my authentic self, so I wanted him.

He sent messages to show he was thinking of me.

He texted brief but sweet words to me, so I wanted him.

He learned that I was a writer and was impressed by it.

He asked for details about my stories, so I wanted him.

He wanted to hear about my stories from my books.

He said my stories inspired him, so I wanted him.

He learned about my podcast and wanted to hear about it.

He said my voice expressed feelings that stirred him, so I wanted him.

He wanted to see me every week and asked for my time.

I could predict that we’d see each other weekly, so I wanted him.

He surprised me with his perceptions that were different from mine.

He opened me up to new viewpoints, so I wanted him.

I shared my dreams, and he shared his, too.

He joined our dreams together to make our dream, so I wanted him.

He started to tell me to take action to make our dream come true.

He waited for me to give him directions; I didn’t like that.

He pressured me to move forward faster after only a month together.

All he talked about was the future; I didn’t like that.

Immersed in the future, he was not present with me.

He wanted to invest in the future rather than our relationship first; I didn’t like that.

Spending all day with him, he never suggested that we eat anything.

He did not seem to care about my well-being; I didn’t like that.

I suggested lunch one hundred percent of the time.

He took a long time to pull out the money; I didn’t like that.

Lunch was always less than twelve dollars.

He paid in slow motion; I didn’t like that.

After a month together, he started to only text me once a week before we met.

He said if he called me, he would be too excited to sleep; I didn’t like that.

I asked him how many girlfriends he had in the past.

He struggled to tell me because he never really had one; I didn’t like that.

He said he would build me a home and buy me many things.

But he didn’t have the means and struggled to pay for lunch; I didn’t like that.

I asked for his opinions, and he did not share any of them.

He said I was smart, so he expected me to decide everything for us; I didn’t like that.

I had wanted him for three months and then I didn’t.

He proposed and sold me a dream future but did not follow through.

He texted sweet words of love but never gave me a full-body hug.

He gave a great talk but expected me to make our dream come true.

He wanted many things and expected me to make all the decisions for us.

He asked me to share stories on demand and didn’t care for dialogue.

He wanted me to choose the places we went and never offered suggestions.

He stopped calling after a month, only texted and expected me to understand.

He texted and expected that to be sufficient communication before meeting up.

He said he was coming over and didn’t care if I was busy.

I let him know he disrespected my words and my time.

After three months or ten dates, I didn’t want him anymore.

Key Takeaway: Though I wanted him at first, I later didn't and was glad I did not dismiss the red flags.

Next week, you will hear a new real-life story called When I Made Them Cry. If you enjoyed this episode of Eye-Opening Moments Unleashed, please text someone and ask them what they think about this podcast, or go to www.inspiremereads.com and leave a message. Thank you for listening!