Two Become Family
Welcome to the podcast that talks about Catholic marriage, without pretending it's easy.
We are Renzo and Monica Ortega, we've been married 13 years, we have 5 kids, and our apostolate, Two Become Family, helps Catholics who love the Church, love each other, and still have no idea why marriage feels so hard sometimes.
Through our very candid, and sometimes uncomfortably vulnerable, conversations about sex, NFP, conflict, family life, we hope to spark conversations between you and your spouse.
Visit us at https://twobecomefamily.substack.com for more resources for your marriage
Two Become Family
174. Husbands Don’t Need Sex… But Does Your Marriage?
Use Left/Right to seek, Home/End to jump to start or end. Hold shift to jump forward or backward.
What does every married couple need to understand about sex—especially when conversations online say things like “men don’t need sex”?
In this episode, we unpack 5 essential truths about sex in marriage that are often misunderstood, oversimplified, or argued about without enough clarity. While it’s true that no one needs sex to physically survive, reducing sexual intimacy to something optional—or purely personal—can quietly damage a marriage over time.
We explore why sexual desire isn’t just about pleasure, release, or pressure, but about desiring the spouse as a whole person. We also address the real fears many people carry into conversations about sex—fear of being used, objectified, or reduced to a body—and why those fears are sometimes justified and sometimes misplaced.
Most importantly, we present a vision of marital sexuality that’s bigger than both obligation and autonomy. When rightly understood, male sexual desire can reflect Christ’s self-giving love and pursuit of His Church, transforming sex from a battleground into a place of unity, trust, and mutual gift.
In this episode, we cover:
• Why men don’t need sex to survive—but marriages do need sexual intimacy
• How sexual desire goes beyond pleasure and points toward the spouse as a person
• Why the phrase “men don’t need sex” can confuse the lived experience of male sexuality
• How fear of being used or objectified shapes misunderstandings about sex
• How male desire, properly ordered, can mirror Christ’s love for His Church
We wrote a Catholic sex book! Check it out: Order LOVEMAKING!
Our other books
Go To Joseph: 10 Day Consecration to St. Joseph
Go To Joseph For Children
SUPPORT OUR APOSTOLATE
Thank you all for your ongoing support. We love what we do and pray that it is a blessing to you and your families. If you are benefitting in some way from what we're doing read and subscribe to our Substack: https://twobecomefamily.substack.com/
Our Apostolate
About Us
Connect with us and send us a message on Instagram
YouTube Channel