Two Become Family
Welcome to the podcast that talks about Catholic marriage, without pretending it's easy.
We are Renzo and Monica Ortega, we've been married 13 years, we have 5 kids, and our apostolate, Two Become Family, helps Catholics who love the Church, love each other, and still have no idea why marriage feels so hard sometimes.
Through our very candid, and sometimes uncomfortably vulnerable, conversations about sex, NFP, conflict, family life, we hope to spark conversations between you and your spouse.
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Two Become Family
175. 5 Ways NFP Can Break Your Marriage (And How to Fix It)
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Can Natural Family Planning actually damage a marriage?
Many couples quietly struggle with NFP — feeling disconnected, frustrated, or even resentful — and wonder if something is wrong with them, their marriage, or the Church’s teaching.
In this episode, we respond honestly and pastorally to five of the most common objections to Natural Family Planning and offer practical guidance for couples who want unity, intimacy, and peace — not pressure or guilt.
In this episode, we cover:
1️⃣ “Feeling that NFP doesn’t really work — it’s too complicated or unreliable.”
2️⃣ The emotional and sexual strain caused by long abstinence periods.
3️⃣ What to do when spouses disagree on when or why to use NFP.
4️⃣ Is NFP basically the same as contraception?
5️⃣ How to navigate marriage when one spouse struggles to accept NFP.
Rather than defending NFP with theory alone, we focus on how NFP is lived inside real marriages — including communication, sacrifice, desire, resentment, and love. This conversation is especially for couples who feel exhausted by oversimplified answers and want something deeper, more human, and more faithful.
If you’re asking:
• Why does NFP feel so hard in our marriage?
• Is abstinence damaging our intimacy?
• Are we using NFP for the right reasons?
• How do we stay united when we disagree?
— this episode is for you.
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Go To Joseph: 10 Day Consecration to St. Joseph
Go To Joseph For Children
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