The Day I Stopped Outsourcing My Life to Others

Today I had a massive breakthrough into my power and how I've been outsourcing my life to others.  Seeking to learn and be taught by many teachers about how to breathe, how to change my mind, how to feed my body, and how to exercise.  The truth is, all of these answers are within me, and today I got to stand in my true power.

• Years of self-imposed pressure to perform flawlessly in all areas of life
• Tendency to seek external validation and guidance for every aspect of living
• Revelation that constantly following others' teachings means surrendering personal sovereignty
• Understanding that authentic living comes from filtering wisdom through your perspective
• Recognition that true power comes from making choices aligned with your authentic self
• Importance of questioning whether you're living by others' expectations versus your truth
• How removing self-doubt and anxiety allows your true essence to shine through

I love you

Em x

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Chapters

• 0:01 Welcome to Becoming Your Warrior
• 0:15 A Breakthrough Day
• 1:28 Outsourcing Life to Others
• 3:32 Reclaiming Personal Sovereignty
• 5:32 Living Authentically
• 8:11 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Welcome to the Becoming your Warrior podcast. This is the place where you get to feel inspired and empowered to step into your very best life.

Speaker 2: 0:15

Hey, hey, it's Em, and welcome to this episode I just want to share. I have just had one of the most incredible days today, and that is because I've had a massive, massive breakthrough in terms of the way that I was looking at the world, in terms of my perspective on the world. And to get to these breakthroughs, sometimes you need to not always, but sometimes you need to go through a little bit of resistance and a little bit of, dare I say, struggle and kind of be in the pits of it all to actually have the breakthrough and come out the other side. And something that I've been, um well, struggling with I can say that now something that I've been struggling with. I can say that now something that I've been struggling with recently, because and I think this happens a lot when you're doing a lot of work on yourself, when you're removing a lot of stuff, when you're clearing and opening up your mind and your mindset is, there's a lot of pressure. I'm just going to speak from my perspective, actually, rather than saying you because, who knows, but I have been someone in my life that's put a lot of pressure on myself to get it right, and so that means like even in, you know, school or in work, you know there's always been this like, oh my goodness, I've got to get it right, otherwise, I don't know, I'll get in trouble or I'll get told off, or then I'll be wrong, or then people will realize that there's something wrong with me. You know I'll get in trouble or I'll get told off, or then I'll be wrong, or then people will realize that there's something wrong with me. You know, whatever the story and the narrative's been in my mind, and so what that's meant is, through life I've been very hard on myself. I'm like I've got to get this right. You know I can't let this person down. I'm, you know, I can't be late, or, you know, even though I was a lot because I was putting so much pressure on myself. Anyway, I want to sort of share that.

Speaker 2: 2:08

When you've been looking through that lens, or when I've been looking through that lens which I have, which is I've got to get it right, what that can manifest into and it did in my circumstances is it's almost like I have kind of been outsourcing my life to other people. So it's almost like I've, you know, because I've got to get it right, I have constantly been seeking out people that can teach me. Teach me how to look after my body. Teach me what foods I need to eat. Teach me how to change my mind. Teach me how to meditate. Teach me how to do yoga. Teach me, you know, constantly searching outside of myself. And that is not to say that is not valuable to go and study with people, and I will continue to do that. But what I've realized I've been doing is I've also I've been like handing essentially the reins of my life to other people and being like show me what to do, because I don't know if I'm going to get it right. I don't know if if I'm going to get it right, and I'm scared. And so that energy and that's why today has just been such an amazing day, because really the question, because really the question I had a coaching session with my coach, jesse, who I just adore.

Speaker 2: 3:37

He's just such a wonderful human being and you know he did some magical coaching on me. But he also just turned around to me and just said is it wrong the way that you're looking at this? Is it wrong that you think this way? Is it wrong? And as soon as I said no, because of course it's not wrong, it's not wrong to look at my life like that.

Speaker 2: 3:54

As soon as I did that, everything just dissolved and I just realized that, yeah, I've been looking at other people to teach me how to live my life and what this whole coaching session. It's very hard to put it down into like a few words, but essentially what it came back to was we are sovereign beings and when you hand your sovereignty over to somebody else, or when you look to another teacher and invest, you know kind of follow this teacher. You know to the ends of the earth going. I will follow your teachings, I will do exactly what you tell me to do. You're handing your sovereignty over to that person and what's happened today is all of that sovereignty has come back to me and I've realized that from now on I am just going to live my life my way. Like you know, that doesn't mean I'm not going to take other people's opinion or advice or if there's a really cool course in the future that I really want to study. It doesn't mean it just means now I'm not putting all my eggs into really into one basket and being like this is the teaching and this is the person that I will follow. It's about taking that power back and being like I'm so grateful for the teachings. I've got them now and now it's time to, like you know, filter them through my lens and actually come back into power in myself and start living in my unique way.

Speaker 2: 5:27

And this is something I would love for you to really think about. Are you living your life in your own unique way, or are you being affected by the energy, the perception of others, the expectation of others? Are you doing things because you know it will make other people happy? Are you following a parent's guidance, even though you're an adult person and you, in your heart, you feel like you want to go a different way? This is when we outsource our sovereignty, when we hand our, our power, our personal power, our intuition, our intelligence over to somebody else.

Speaker 2: 6:08

Where really the, the, the, the, really the most authentic way to live your life is to live your life authentically to you. And that can be really confusing because you know, you can kind of see yourself in different ways, the way that I used to. You can kind of have self-doubt, you can have anxiety, you can think that you're not very good at something you know. But once you remove those parts of you, the authenticity, the true you, the real essence really starts to shine through. And so that's where I am today and it feels really really good and I really just wanted to share that with you because, you know, this is why I do coaching even though, like, I do coaching with people and I'm a coach to so many people, it's because I also invest in myself and I do coaching because this is what it allows me to do and then I can bring this to my I don't want to say students, but the people that I work with.

Speaker 2: 7:09

And so, yeah, I just want to share you can probably hear in the energy in my voice. I'm just buzzing. I literally feel like today I just got some amazing code, some amazing key has been, you know, handed to me and I've just unlocked it and it's just like just be authentically me and how wonderful that is and how amazing that is to show up in that way and allow other people to see that and to feel that energy. And, um, yeah, I'm just oh, I'm just having such a good day and I just wanted to share it with you. So, um, yeah, just now I really understand what it means to be truly authentic and to really be in my power and it's from this place you can create the life you know. That that's, that's, that's it. I'm going to just start creating the life that I am, I love, from this place. All right, that's my little positivity. All right, that's my little positivity powerful authenticity, living life on my terms.

Speaker 2: 8:14

Rant. Well and truly done. I really hope it landed. I hope it resonated. If you want to find out more as always reach out to me on the website, which is www.

Speaker 2: 8:29

I don't know why I said that that's so weird, it's so old. It's just Emma-Ritchie R-I-T-c-h-i-e dot com, emma-richiecom, and you can find my work there. You can find me and um, yeah, just drop me a message. And um, yeah, oh, so happy, have the most amazing morning, afternoon, evening, and I will talk to you soon.

Speaker 1: 8:50

Lots of love, as always. Thanks for listening today, and if this episode helped or inspired you, just remember to share it to friends or family who could also use some inspiration. Today we are all about sharing the love.