The Excellent Life Podcast

Resetting Excellently

• Abolanle Matel-Okoh • Season 2 • Episode 25


🎯 Pause and Reflect when the unexpected happens and things do not seem to pan out the way we want them to - 3:56
🎯 Turn a situation into a bitter-sweet success with the right mindset - 5:45
🎯 As a Christian, pausing and reflecting is more than just thinking for a while about how things are going, and what to do next - 6:11
🎯 Pausing to reflect helps you to make a conscious decision to stop, take stock, and reflect on what is happening - 6:32
🎯 It allows you to see more clearly what really is important, and helps you make better choices to stay on course in the right direction - 6:45
🎯 Taking time to reflect creates greater self-awareness and helps to separate your own perception of the situation as an objective observer - 6:57
🎯 It allows you to notice your thoughts and feelings and become aware of your internal story - 7:10
🎯 Reflection is important and valuable but it is not always easy - 7:26
🎯 It can also be quite challenging because true reflection can bring more to the surface than just the beautiful things of life - 7:40
🎯 When you take time to pause and reflect, you become wiser and more compassionate not just for yourself but others as well - 7:51
🎯 It is okay to admit that you are not okay - 8:03
🎯 Admitting you’re not okay gives you a sense of freedom because from the idea that the strongest people are always okay, which is wrong - 10:11
🎯 Admitting you’re not okay helps you slow things down and go through what you’re going through at your own pace, so you do not put too much pressure on yourself - 10:27
🎯 Admitting you’re not okay means you will get to understand how your weaknesses will only make you stronger in the long run - 10:42
🎯 Admitting you’re not okay can bring you to the people who do care for you which will make you realise that you’re not alone - 11:00
🎯 Admitting you’re not okay gets you to open yourself to all other ways to make yourself better - 11:11
🎯 When the unexpected happens or things are not going as planned, it is also important to take a time out - 11:50
🎯 Taking time out allows you to rest, heal and recover - 12:00
🎯 An effective way to take time out is to embark on a spiritual retreat - 12:13
🎯 Some practical steps toward a successful retreat are making the decision to schedule the time to embark on your retreat - 12:24
🎯 Choose a quiet place that offers comfort and a minimum of distraction - 12:50
🎯 Spend time in prayer and scripture reading. It will provide the necessary tools to recover as well as provide direction for the future - 13:11
🎯 Use your retreat to create tangible goals for your next few months which should include goals for your physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional well-being - 13:36
🎯 Come up with a plan of action - 13:55
🎯 A proper plan of action will help you navigate the road ahead - 14:09
🎯 A plan of action will provide sufficient motivation and drive to pick up and continue from where you stopped when the unexpected happened and stopped you dead in your tracks - 14:33
🎯 A plan of action ensures that you will act with purpose and a clear goal rather than trying to figure things out - 14:45
🎯 A good plan of action must outline the tools, resources, and people that you will need in accomplishing your goals - 14:58
🎯 Seeking help is not a weakness but can be very empowering - 15:15
🎯Your plan of action should have a very realistic timeline but give yourself sufficient time to accomplish your goals so that you are not overwhelmed - 15:24
🎯 Execute, Execute, and Execute your plan of action - 15:35
🎯 It takes commitment and consistency with great intentionality to be able to execute - 15:50
🎯When the unexpected happens, it is only a temporary setback. With the right perspective and an effective course of action, you can turn things around to reset excellently - 16:25