Mom2Mentor
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Mom2Mentor
From Mom to Mentor: Teaching Kids to Handle Disappointment with Grace
We explore disappointment as a skill, not a fate, and share a simple four-step framework—Acknowledge, Accept, Appreciate, Adjust—to help moms teach resilience at home. Through sports and relationship examples, we model how to process loss without shame and turn it into growth.
• redefining disappointment as failed expectations
• why kids need clear language for hard feelings
• sports as a safe way to normalize losing
• the Four A’s explained with real examples
• appreciating setbacks as feedback for growth
• modeling calm, honest responses at home
• adjusting routines, boundaries, and standards
• saving tears by preparing before the outcome
• inviting creativity to tailor the framework
You can go to my YouTube page, Mom to Mentor
You can go to Singamom's United Podcast.com and leave me some feedback there
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As Mom's we are more than nurturers we are Mentors to our children.
Hey ladies and maybe some gentlemen. Welcome to the Mom to Mentor podcast, where this podcast is a reminder to you, Mom, that you are more than a nurturer and a provider. You are a mentor, meaning that you are setting the example for your children and how they should conduct themselves in society. That's a strong task to take on, but you can do it. How do I know? I am a mom as well. I'm a mom of two. Yes, it's not gonna be easy, but you'll get through it. My kids are older. It wasn't always perfect parenting we're talking about. But we're talking about good and bad parenting. When we're talking about being a mentor, if you are a first-time listener, well, if you are a weepy listener, thank you for your loyalty. I cannot express that enough. As I started on this journey three years ago, I was just feeling around in the dark and trying to bring encouragement to single moms or moms in general. When it comes to parenting, and here I am three years later, and I have folks that keep coming back. And I didn't think that was gonna happen, but thank you. Alright, what am I talking about today? These past few weeks, I've been talking about planting a character garden and planting character seeds, dropping them in and teaching you how to cultivate those seeds. In other words, how do you feed that seed for it to grow? Today I'm doing something a little different. It's still something that should be taught to our children, but it's not really planting a character seed. I'm stepping outside of the box a little bit, but I think you'll appreciate it because it has value. We always want to go down that lane that has value because now it's productive. Today I'm talking about disappointment. What is it? Disappointment is the result of failed expectations. And why do we need to teach or talk about disappointment? Because it's going to happen. And guess what? It happens often. And it's going to happen throughout their entire life. And so we got to prepare them. We have to prepare you, right? Because someone didn't teach you about disappointment. No one taught me about disappointment. I had to find out the hard way. And it's not fun. It jumps on your emotions. And if you don't know how to process that, then that can take you down a path of depression, anger, and many other negative emotions as a result of not being able to accept disappointment. So along that line, I'm going to give you the formula for how to deal with disappointment. Yeah, so you're going to have to wait and listen to me to the end of this episode. Sorry, but I'll try to be brief and to the point. All right. So really with disappointment, sometimes when disappointments happen, we don't see the good in that. For example, a relationship. Maybe your baby's father is no longer in the picture and he's not doing what he should be doing as a father. And so it didn't start out that way. But now you're feeling alone. You're disappointed. Now you're trying to figure out okay, where do I go now? What's my next steps? How do I deal with raising a child on my own? But secondly, maybe he just wasn't the right one for you. Y'all just got into the moment and whipped bambly boom. Here comes little Johnny. However, there may be another gentleman out there, a true gentleman that is going to value you and respect you for who you are, and also accept your child on that perspective. That's going to allow you to accept that disappointment that the relationship did not work out. I promised you I would give you the formula for accepting disappointment. And are you ready? Here are four steps to consider when it comes to being disappointed. Again, you're going to have to teach this to your children because they're going to encounter it and they're going to encounter it often. When do you discuss disappointment? Right when it happens. When you're delivering this to your children, one example that you can use is a sporting event. You can say, hey, there's two teams out there, and one is expected to win and one is going to lose. So you have to embrace that. Yeah, well, I want to win, but there is a chance that we're going to lose this game. And that's how you share that with your children. That somebody's not going to win. You accept the loss because somebody's going to have to deal with that. So it shouldn't be an emotional burden because now you're in acceptance that somebody's going to lose and somebody's going to win. That's how I would approach it initially, depending on your child's age. This is real life. Now you can take it outside of the sports mindset. Back to the four stages, okay, to help you prepare for disappointment. Number one, you acknowledge it. And it's going to happen often. I'm older. I cannot count the number of disappointments I've experienced through my life. It's a lot. And I wish that I would have known back then would have shared with me about disappointment and the emotional toll that it takes on you. But that's neither here nor there. It's a new day, and we're moving forward. And that's why I want to share with you what it means to be disappointed and how to prepare for it. Secondly, we want to accept it, a part of acknowledging it that it's going to happen. So when it happens, yeah, I knew it's going to be a day like this. Yeah, I knew this was going to happen because disappointments are a fact of life. Going back to the sports analogy, somebody's going to win and somebody's going to lose. And remember, the definition is disappointment is just failed expectations. You know, I think the relationship is going to last. My kids aren't going to misbehave. They're going to be perfect children. Wrong. They're going to be exposed to different things in the world that is going to cause them to adapt and adjust to feel like they have to belong, which is not aligned to what your expectations are. So you have to get prepared, mom, that your child may come home and do stuff that is unacceptable. You accept, you acknowledge it, right? That this is going to happen. Because guess what? It's going to save you some tears. Yeah. It's going to save you some tears. But you have to have a plan to address it. But it's going to save you some tears. Because when they come in, it's the exact opposite of what you were hoping for. And now you're going through this experience. But now you're ready. You are ready. You are in position to catch the disappointment ball. And football and baseball, you have there that are designed to catch the ball, right? They have gloves in preparation to catch the ball. Disappointment is a ball. So, ladies, go suit up, go get your gloves. It's coming. And now, once you catch the disappointment, what are you going to do with it? You appreciate it. How do you appreciate disappointment? It's a learning opportunity. I knew it was coming and I accepted. What do I do with it now that I have the ball? Hey, the ball came to me. And now I learn from it. Why didn't the relationship last? What was it about him? What's about me? It's not always the other person. You have to learn, right? Why is your child displaying these behaviors that they weren't taught? Why? That's exactly it. They weren't taught. Why are they doing this versus that? Because they weren't taught. So we need to learn to appreciate these disappointments. Because if you just acknowledge it and accept it, it goes nowhere until you appreciate it. Because appreciate you should be going to another level. And if you have multiple children, okay, I learned it with my oldest that I didn't do this right. Now I have another opportunity. I have another chance to do right by my next child, educating them on some things about life's disappointments. You take it, you embrace it, and say, you know what? I'm going to another level. I've learned from this situation. I've learned from this disappointment. And now I'm going to move on and things are going to get better. And guess what? When that next disappointment comes, and it will, you're ready for it. Because you appreciate it, you've learned from it. Now you're growing. So I guess this does tie back into planting a character seed, right? Because we're cultivating and really appreciating is feeding that seed or nurturing that seed so it can grow. I'ma tell you what, it's going to save some tears later, ladies. And if you do shed tears, they're not going to be as many because you knew this was coming. All right. Finally, and I think I just alluded to that, is we want to adjust your approach going forward, knowing that there's an upgrade, there's something better. We take this opportunity of disappointment, we capitalize on it, understand why it's a disappointment, and then understand where we want to go as a result of this disappointment. Have you heard a common theme here with these four different opportunity areas? They all start with A. If you need a quick way to remember these opportunities, just sing the four A's. Acknowledge, accept, appreciate, and just. All right, ladies. I know I can be passionate at times. This is something that is really close to my heart. I feel we need to do a better job at. And again, we are more than just moms. We are mentors. We are teachers. We have to set an example. So your children should see you accepting disappointment and how you deal with disappointment. Hopefully, these four areas, you'll start thinking about it. And at least giving you that opportunity of saying, I never thought of it that way. Let me sit down and really do a deeper dive. And what you'll find out is you'll start adding some additional things to those four areas of the acknowledge, accept, appreciate, and adjust because you just have a creative mindset like I do. But we just got to get you to thinking about it. It's not a one-size-fits-all, but it's to get us moving in the right direction. Hopefully, you're able to take something from them, not just take it, but be able to build, right? To make it your own, that it fits within your household, your mindset. You can go to my YouTube page, Mom to Mentor. You can go to Singamom's United Podcast.com and leave me some feedback there. I would love to hear from you. I want to know if you do go that next step and educate your child about disappointment. I want to know what the result is, what they said, what they thought. In the very near future, I am going to be having guests on my show. If you go to SingamomsUnited Podcast.com, you can fill out the form there. All right, ladies, and maybe some gentlemen. Thank you for joining today's episode. I hope you enjoyed it, and I hope you will take this to another level in educating your child or your children about disappointment and what it means. Take care.
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