In the Thick of It
Welcome to 'In the Thick of It,' a podcast where candid conversations make you feel genuine understanding and connection. Hosted by Coach & Consultant, Robin Angela Baglietto, this show is a sanctuary for women braving the multifaceted female experience.
Each episode delves into the myriad of experiences that define womanhood today, from the joys and challenges of motherhood to the nuances of career and personal growth.
Robin’s approach is unfiltered, compassionate, and a little bit rebellious. Armed with a slightly foul mouth and a wealth of wisdom, she’s the feminist bestie you’ve always wanted, guiding you through life's thickets with humor, honesty, and a hefty dose of motivation. Whether discussing mental health, relationships, or societal issues, 'In the Thick of It' is your go-to source for encouragement, inspiration, and a much-needed sense of sisterhood.
So, for a dose of real-life stories, actionable insights, and a community that gets it, tune into 'In the Thick of It' and start feeling a little less crazy, a little less broken, and a lot more connected.
In the Thick of It
1. Done is Better than Perfect
Ever felt the weight of striving for perfection only to be met with the echoing silence of procrastination? I definitely have, and in this intimate chat, I take you through the trials of rebranding our beloved podcast, where the harmony of music and message proved as elusive as ever. It was a dance with the devil of details, leading to an unplanned break from the airwaves. I share how the mantra "done is better than perfection" became my lifeline, a rallying cry to embrace our beautifully flawed efforts and to push through, reconnecting with this precious outlet and, more importantly, with you.
As we stand at the threshold of new beginnings, let's talk about the 'lizard brain'—that primal force that governs our fears and often holds us back from leaping into the unknown. It's a beast that I, too, have wrestled with, and in this episode, I lay bare the struggle and the strategies to triumph over it. We'll explore why courage isn't the absence of fear, but the determination to move forward in spite of it. I wrap up with a heartfelt expression of gratitude and a shared toast to the new year, inviting you to find your own unique way to celebrate and to join me on this journey of growth, authenticity, and heartfelt podcasting. Cheers to new adventures and the beauty of imperfection!
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Life is so complex, especially for women, and we need a place where we can hash it out, laugh about it and toast to it. Welcome to the In the Think of it podcast. My name is Robin Angela Baglietto and I'll be your host as we navigate the diversity of the female experience. Whether you're here for some inspiration, some validation or a dose of humor, you're in the right place, so let's dive in. Hello, welcome to the In the Think of it podcast.
Speaker 1:Gosh, I mean, for those of you who have kind of been listening as I'm releasing, it's been a minute. I think I've been saying that a lot the last couple of years, but it's true this is the longest stint that I've gone between recording and, to be honest, it's not because I haven't had the time or I've been super busy those things have been true but I mean I can always make time. The reason is because, gosh, months ago, months and months ago, like last, like almost a year ago now, I think I was like into a rebranding of the podcast, not like crazy, but I felt like the intro and the theme music didn't quite match up to where the podcast was going, and so I was like I kind of need to get refocused and come up with a like you know, get where I'm going with this, the things we're going to talk about. You know, I needed to clear that up and then I wanted like new music and a new intro and a new trailer to all go with it. So all of this makes sense, right? All of this is like yeah, it's the new, I'm evolving, I'm growing Sorry, my dog in the background, but he's so cute, so we're just going to ignore it.
Speaker 1:Anyways, it's an important thing for me to do, to come back and go what are we doing here? And I was it was. I wanted to share that with you. I wanted to make sure that anything I put out in the future had that focus, and so I got into the weeds with it. Right, it's like well, what should the new intro say? And what should the new trailer say? What's the music? God, what's the music? How do I capture my heart and soul and a sound? How do I do it Like?
Speaker 1:I mean, you know, I'm like really trying to make it perfect, like just embody everything that I want it to, it just be perfect. And so you want to know how that's been going, because it can't be right, it's never going to be perfect. That's a concept, that's a total illusion. It's. It's a. What is that called? Do you see things on the sand? A mirage? Oh, teddy Geez, a mirage, that's. That's kind of what perfection is right. Like you think you can see what that's going to be like, but it's never going to be tangible, it's never going to happen.
Speaker 1:And so I have spent months, months, just like building up topics in my head and strategizing and doing all this stuff and not ever sharing any of it, like recording episodes, like I've been just doing the podcast just behind the scenes and not sharing a damn thing, because it wasn't like ready, it wasn't like perfect. And you know what I just was? Finally like fuck, done is better than perfect. I can't, I don't want to do this anymore. I don't want this haunting me anymore. I'm so tired of feeling like I'm not doing my best, I'm not doing anything, and I you know, I'm talking to people about it all the time. Like I said, I'm working on it. I'm excited about it. People are excited about it. They're like where are you? Like come back. And so I I've been like, ah, there's just been this thin veil between me and the world and that's just like not having everything like perfectly ready. Did any of you do that with Christmas gifts at the retirement of recording? We're almost to the new year, so like I'm curious, think about Christmas. Are you like, hmm, when I get so and so like the perfect, I just come up with a perfect thing. And then you keep waiting and chasing that mirage until like December 23rd or fourth and you're like, okay, well, whatever's on like still on the shelves at Target is what they're getting. It wasn't never going to be perfect. At least it could have been thoughtful, at least it could have been something right, because ultimately, done is better than perfect. We're never going to get perfect Right. Done is better than perfect.
Speaker 1:One of the gals I studied or like studied, I didn't like study with her for months and months. I took a couple of her classes on podcasting. That's what her mantra is Done is better than perfect. And it's so true, it's so good, right. And so I hope you, I hope you like the new intro. You may not have even noticed. Oh my God, that is going to be hilarious If you're like I didn't even notice the new intro, I just jumped right to the episode.
Speaker 1:I don't even listen to the intros and it's been like months of me acting I think, oh, that would just be perfect. That'd be so hilarious. Now, that would be perfect. Desire Nate, oh my God, no, it's never gonna happen, right, it was never gonna be perfect. It doesn't even matter. You probably don't listen to the intro. You probably don't even remember what they're. One before this sounded like right, maybe you do, but you probably don't, and so it doesn't even matter. It doesn't even matter.
Speaker 1:I have wasted months not being connected to I consider this my art, this is my self-expression and not being connected to that and stifling that because, like, the bio wasn't perfect. That sounds so ridiculous, but we do it all the time. We do it all the time, right? We just we hold ourselves back from what we want for our lives because we're not ready or it's not perfect, like we're waiting for all the stars to align. It's ridiculous if you think about it, because it's never gonna happen, right? I mean, I've talked on here before that you know courage is being scared and doing it anyway, like your leg shaking, you've got no voice, you're pretty sure you're about to pass out and you still walk up and say the thing Like that's courage, being scared to death and doing it anyway, pushing through that, like not letting that fear stop you, because we remember, we have to realize this very important thing that our brains are just.
Speaker 1:You know, they're antique models. They are extremely smart computers. Our brains are very like the most intelligent thing on the planet, but they're antiques. They're relics of brains of years ago the four years, what am I trying to be poetic for? From a long time ago.
Speaker 1:Our brains are old, okay, the general structure is old, and so we have that lizard brain in us. That's like cave person, like just survive, like that's if you could just survive, like that's pretty much the extent of what's required of you. We're not like asking you to invent a light bulb right now, just like don't die and make babies. That's pretty much what your brain is programmed to do. And so we're more advanced than that, though, right, we know today's world like we're smart computers, we're very advanced computers, but we still have that piece of our brain, and so we have to recognize it when it's happening that it's just a piece of that lizard brain, like when we're scared and we feel like we're gonna die because we have to walk up to a microphone or have a crucial conversation, or join the membership or attend the event, like we feel like we're gonna die because our brains are like we're leaving the cave. We're dying for sure.
Speaker 1:Lizard brain is in full mode. But our advanced brains know better, right, we know that we're not gonna die. We're just scared and we're probably gonna be okay and maybe even God forbid have fun. We might get something out of it, we might enjoy it, it might enhance our lives greatly, but that's all possible. But we often let that lizard brain win in situations that it's not really logical for it to be there. Does that make any sense? So the whole concept of courage, then, is being scared and knowing better and doing it anyways.
Speaker 1:But I think we also have to call bullshit on that part of our brain that thinks we have to be ready. Teddy, it's very loud Because you're never gonna be ready. Ready is like perfection. It's a mirage Because you don't know what you don't know. You can't ever be ready for something that you can't anticipate. All the things you need to be ready, right? The only way to actually be ready and to know what that means, to know what you need to be ready for something, to like slay at it is to have done it. Doing is the absolutely only way that we know how to do something Right.
Speaker 1:There's this line I love to use all the time with clients of like you can't learn to swim by reading it in a book, you can read all about it, you can read all the breathing and the strokes and everything, but you don't know how to swim until you are in the water, surviving kicking. You have to implement it in your body, experience it in the 3D, to prepare to experience it again. Right, like I remember when I moved into this house, all I wanted to do was paint it. I wanted to paint it before I moved in, but my husband's grandmother said something to me. She goes you just need to live in it first.
Speaker 1:You don't know where the light's going to be hitting the walls and you know how it's going to look. You could think this is a beautiful color, but you don't realize how much you know light or shade and it's different. You just got to live in the house for a minute, see what comes alive, what, what really is needed, what's beckoning you don't know until you're in it, until you're doing it, you don't really know how to hold a do do the whole like hold your breath but blow out your nose thing in the pool until you've, like, been doing it with water, right, your body just needs to experience this and it's in its life to know how to be, to do something. And so, of course, you're not going to be ready. Right, you can train and you can prepare, and I think we should do those things. I'm not saying throw all caution to the wind, but we can do an amount of thinking and preparing and learning.
Speaker 1:Sure, but wherever you're at right now, if there's something in your life that you're thinking like you want to do a shakeup, you want to make big or small, but you're telling yourself you're either scared or you're not ready, if those things are happening to you, I just wanted to give you the space and invitation to notice, to just notice that, because those are just our lizard brains trying to keep us small, safe and protected. It's a very sweet part of it and I of us and I always give it credit, I always give it love. Like you're so cute, thank you. Like I know you're just trying to keep me alive and it's really cute of you. It's so sweet, I love it, I love you. But going into this networking event isn't really going to kill me. Just like being there and having to talk to people isn't going to kill me. It's going to be uncomfortable because I'm not used to it. My body hasn't done it a whole lot and so it feels like that unfamiliarity, that unpredictability of what it's going to feel like is fucking terrifying for sure. But we know we can just like, tell it like I love you, you're so cute. But no, I'm going to be okay, we're just going to go do this and practice it so that it's not so terrifying. I tell you this because, for you know where we're at in this current reality.
Speaker 1:It is approaching New Year's Eve, but regardless of whatever you're listening to this, it still remains true. Of course, around the end of the year, you know we all get, I think, excited and hopeful that there'll be some kind of renewal in the new year, some kind of redemption for the year we've had. Even if we loved it, we're like, oh, more of the same, please. But most of us, you know, nobody has a perfect life right. We all have the human experience and it's freaking hard and you know it's brutal. Our lives are brutal, and so there's a good chance that a fair amount of your year last year and by that I mean a quarter to half of your life this year was hard. Even the good things are hard. Children are hard. They're brutal. They are Some of the most beautiful and precious and stop your breath Wonderful moments, and the ones that absolutely terrify you and piss you off and make you want to break down and cry, right. So everything has gold and everything has just punishing effects Anyhow. And so, as we get closer to the end of the year we're going to be talking about as we go into the new year, we're just hopeful, right? We're hopeful that the good things will be just as good, if not better, and that the bad things will get better. And we just, you know, we're hopeful, and a lot of times we want to.
Speaker 1:You know, set intentions. And what does that even mean, right? What does it mean? I used to do an event called the intention studio. I'm sure I probably mentioned it, but anyways, I love it. I really do love it, and I'm sure sometime in my spare time I will bring it back. But what I used to do was we'd really talk about that word intentions. How is it different than goals? What does it mean? And to me it means the energy that you're bringing in your showing upness, the energy you're bringing to your vision, to your goals, that sense of knowing, that sense of clarity, of truth to yourself, authenticity, being in balance Like um, being aligned with your inner knowing, your inner self, like that is all about. That is the intention that you bring into the new year, into anything that's new. But especially again, as a collective, we tend to get nostalgic about the past year and thinking about the future, and I just was reflecting on this as New Year's approach and I have very big plans to return to the podcast and I'm really trying to be proactive and carve out time and all the things and giving myself permission to not be perfect.
Speaker 1:So, as you start considering what it is that your goals are, if you do that, what do you want for the new year? Whatever that thing is, that kind of excites you, maybe that you're scared of it a little bit, like you have this thing like I'd really like to right. We tend to say like that well, I mean, in a perfect world, whatever that is, ask yourself in a perfect world, what would I want to see out of 2024? Ask yourself that question. Let's see if it scares you a little bit. If you immediately lizard brain kicks in, it's like, no, we're never going to do that. That's impossible. Here's a million reasons why. If that starts to happen, that's good, that's a cool thing, that's like, hmm, let's sit with that a little bit. Whatever that is, again lizard brain is going to kick in, with a million reasons why that can't be ever true for you.
Speaker 1:You're not ready. You're not even close to ready. In fact, you're probably so far from ready you shouldn't even try to get ready and just ditch this whole crazy idea, you kiddo. Or if you're like hell bent on it, let's just get really ready. Let's take another class, let's read another book on it for sure. Let's carve out time to meditate and really focus on manifesting it. Like we have a lot of things we can do before we're ever going to consider being ready to take that massive leap of faith and action. Never, no.
Speaker 1:If that's happening, notice it. It's just fear in a different costume of like preparedness. So just notice it, give it a little bit of love and ask yourself if, in a perfect world, could this be possible? In a perfect world, how would this be possible? What could this look like? What could one step towards it look like Just what? Hypothetically so, whatever it is that thing that's terrifying you, that scares you a little bit. That you need to practice rather than spending this time going into the new year or the new month for whatever you're listening instead of spending all of your time like just thinking about what you could do.
Speaker 1:I mean, create the vision boards. By all means, bring that intention to life so you can bring it to your action. But you've got to set up like. You've got to take action. You've got to get in the freaking pool. You've got to get in the freaking pool. I don't want us to get so caught up.
Speaker 1:And again, I say this because I realized what happened is that I got so caught up in the perfectionism and it was really just a coping mechanism of I'm scared, I don't know what I'm doing. I want it to be right, I want it to land with people, I want it to move the needle for women in our community. I so I just want it to be perfect. It needs to be, everything needs to like, fit it perfectly. And nothing came of it until I was willing to just do it as good. It's good, it's fine, it's fine.
Speaker 1:The intro, the outfit, the gear, whatever all of that is just a distraction. It really is from the thing that you're supposed to be doing. This is my art. It's not for everyone and that's fine. No one's is. But if you get something out of this, then, oh my God, I have a responsibility to show up. It's a privilege, what a gift, and I'm so glad. I so love being here with you. I know I'm not with you, but I feel you listening. So I just wanted to share the lesson of the year that I've had with you and I hope it serves you well, as you maybe are going into the new year or again, like a new month, a new job, a new moment.
Speaker 1:Take action. Don't get caught up in the planning. I have a vision board workshop on my website. It's under my freebies. You're welcome to go watch that and totally sink into finding what it is that you want and getting into the energy of it. Yes, and then set some tangible goals, like you've got to take the action with it. You've got to get in the pool. We don't need to read another book on it.
Speaker 1:Get in the pool, take some action by the end of January. I'd love to hear what it is that you've done. But by the end of January, shoot. If you want to go mid January, you're feeling crazy, like let's go get in the pool, let's go, you know enough. You know enough and you'll realize what you know and you'll learn the things you don't. That's just just go get in the friggin pool.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'd love to hear what you do, what leaps of faith you take, how it's going? What's my email address? Robin, at RobinAngelacom. I'd love to hear from you. But even if I don't, I'm just I'm proud of you and I'm excited for you, and I mean that in no condescending tone. I just genuinely want to see you thrive, and so you know, I hope that you do.
Speaker 1:I am sending you loads of love and gratitude. I hope you have a beautiful day. I hope you have a fun and safe but thrilling years. As much pressure is put on that day, god, I hope you not help you. Just celebrate it in whatever low key, chill, ass, fun way you want to celebrate it. You go as big or as small as you want, sit in your bed with a split of champagne and watch the office Cheers. Happy New Year. I'll talk to you soon. Bye. Thank you so much for tuning in to today's episode. I hope it served you well. Be sure to check out my ever expanding library of free resources at RobinAngelacom. I hope you have a beautiful day. Stay true to yourself and I'll talk to you soon. Bye.
