Perimenopause, Brain Fog & the “F**k It 40s”: Real Talk with the EngErotics Crew

Perimenopause and menopause are not “just hot flashes” — they’re a full-body, whole-life shift that most of us were never prepared for. In this episode, Jacki (CMO of EngErotics) sits down with Raven (Founder & CEO), Heather (COO & formulation specialist), and Amanda (sexologist & CBD researcher) for a brutally honest, often funny, and deeply validating conversation about what this transition actually feels like.

We cover:

• Early perimenopause in your 30s: weird cycles, night sweats, and feeling like a stranger in your own body
• Brain fog, mood swings, and “second puberty” no one warned us about
• Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT): fighting for diagnosis, access, and insurance coverage
• Medical gaslighting and why women are still dismissed when they talk about pain, fatigue, and hormonal changes
• Generational trauma and TV tropes: how 80s/90s sitcoms shaped our ideas of “nagging wives” and “crazy women”
• Body image in midlife: learning to love the body you have now and set boundaries that protect your energy

We also touch on hysterectomy, vaginal atrophy, long COVID’s possible hormonal impact, and why younger generations’ boundary-setting is giving us hope.

If you’re moving through perimenopause or menopause and wondering, “Is it just me?” ...  it’s not. You’re not alone, you’re not broken, and this episode is your permission slip for more information, more support, and way more self-compassion.