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#152: The Science of Depletion: Why Small Changes Can Feel Impossible

August 30, 2025 • Becca Silver • Season 3 • Episode 152

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Every coach and leader has felt the sting of teacher pushback, especially when the change you’re asking for seems so small it shouldn’t cause resistance. But here’s the catch: sometimes it’s not the change itself that sparks resistance, it’s depletion. When teachers are constantly pulled in a dozen directions, their self-control tanks become empty. That’s when even minor adjustments feel like mountains.

This episode unpacks the concept of ego depletion and why willpower is more like a muscle than an endless supply. You’ll discover how exhaustion masquerades as resistance, why “just one more thing” pushes teachers over the edge, and how to spot when pushback is really about depletion. More importantly, you’ll learn practical ways to protect teacher bandwidth so that when you do introduce a change, it has a fighting chance of sticking.

Because here’s the shift: what looks like defiance is sometimes just depletion. And if you can recognize that difference, you can respond in a way that actually builds trust and momentum instead of frustration on both sides.

🔗Check out this research on Ego Depletion

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