You Are Not Behind

We open the year with a Sunday reset that releases pressure and replaces comparison with momentum rooted in surrender. We name fear, honor seasonality, and close with a mantra to move with courage before confidence.

• the Sunday pause as a weekly reset
• why “you are not behind” changes pace
• how comparison steals your season
• the role of obedience before confidence
• lessons from Called Not Qualified
• reframing last year as refinement
• moving from preparation to motion
• a mantra to carry into the week

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Chapters

• 0:00 New Year Sunday Reset Introduced
• 0:31 You Are Not Behind
• 2:32 Comparison Versus Your Season
• 5:01 Called Not Qualified And Surrender
• 7:29 Refining Year To Momentum
• 9:12 Mantra And Closing

Transcript

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Welcome to the She's on Fire podcast and happy new year. It's 2026. I am so excited. And I'm actually introducing a new weekly Sunday podcast episode. And what it's going to be is a short episode, a pause before Monday, a place to breathe, reset, and really realign before the week begins. So the first episode is called You're Not Behind. All right. So if you're listening to this as the new year begins, you might be listening to it a couple months from now. That's okay too. But I want you to pause with me. Not to plan, not to decide, not to fix anything, just to arrive in this new year. Because the beginning of a year carries a certain weight, right? Almost like a doorway. And most women don't step through that doorway gently. They drag last year in with them. The unmet goals, the moments they hesitated, the version of themselves they thought they'd outgrow by now. And somewhere in that reflection, a familiar thought rises up. And that's I should be further along. Not just in life, but in the thing that you're trying to build, right? And before the year even begins, that thought tries to name you. Behind, late, running out of time. So I want to speak something completely different over you right now. At the start of a year, I'm calling momentum. You are not behind. You are not. You are standing at the wrong altar. All right. Momentum does not come from pressure. It does not come from force. It does not come from punishing yourself into movement, punishing yourself for what you didn't do last year. Momentum comes when you stop letting fear sit in the seat of authority. Most women enter a new year comparing their current chapter, whether it's year one or year five, doesn't matter, to someone else's visible victory story. Those highlight reels after everything comes together. You scroll, you listen, you absorb certainty that didn't belong to the beginning. You don't see the trembling hands, the private doubt. The years where obedience came before confidence. And for many women, the pain isn't that they're new. It's that they've been called forward and fear has kept asking them to wait. So they stall, they circle, they stay busy instead of moving. Not because they don't know what to do, but because stepping fully into motion requires surrender. Here's what comparison steals from you: it pulls you out of your season. It makes you rush what was meant to root. It convinces you that stillness means failure, when sometimes it actually means preparation. Every timeline has sacred seasons. A season where you listen more than you speak, a season where your voice is being forged, not broadcast, a season where your trust is built, not with an audience, but with your own within your own nervous system, your own spirit. And then there is a season. This season where you're no it's time. But fear has been negotiating your obedience, calling it clarity, calling it one more year, calling it one more week, calling it when I'm ready. Before we go further, I want to share something personal with you. Because I think it'll help you. Recently I read a book called, it was actually named Called Not Qualified. Okay. It's a book about stepping out in faith, especially when you feel unqualified, unsure, unafraid. And I'm going to talk more about that part of things later. I don't want to make this episode long. But what hit me wasn't just the encouragement, it was the reminder. That God never asks for perfection. He asks for surrender. So stick with me here. That being called doesn't mean you feel ready. It doesn't mean you feel confident. And it definitely doesn't mean you feel fearless. If you're waiting to feel fearless, you're gonna be waiting for a long time. It means you feel the pull and you choose to listen anyway. You choose to move anyway. And as I read it, as I read that book, I couldn't stop thinking about how many times in my own life throughout my 50 years that I've delayed, that I've delayed movement, not because I didn't know what to do, but because I kept waiting to feel more prepared, more certain, more qualified. When in reality, the calling was already there, was already in my heart, it was already, the nudges were already coming through my mind. I just kept negotiating with fear instead of answering it. And I see that same pattern in so many women, not unqualified, not incapable, just hesitating at the threshold of something bigger than their comfort. And I want to say this with love and fire. If that's you, you are not stuck. You're standing at the edge of momentum. Last year, no matter what happened, it was not a waste. It was not whatever happened, doesn't matter. It was not proof that you missed your chance. It was not God dangling something in front of you and watching you fail. That's not how it works. It was a refining year. A year that burned away what wasn't true. A year that showed you what pressure shuts you down and what alignment wakes you up. A year that strengthened your discernment. That's not delay. That's not being behind. That's preparation. But don't fall into the trap of, well, I can keep just doing the same old thing because it's preparation. That's not true. I want you to ask yourself, what if this year I stop resisting the movement I'm already ready for? Because momentum doesn't come from more knowledge. It comes the moment you stop pulling back from what you've already been entrusted with. Those nudges coming in your mind, the skills that you already have. So I want you to release the lie that you're late. You're not late. You're not behind. You're not starting over. You're being called forward with more wisdom than you've ever had before. And I want to seal this episode with a mantra that you can carry with you, not as motivation, but as truth. And I want you to write it down. I move when I'm called, not when I feel fearless. Write that down. I move when I'm called, not when I feel fearless. Carry that with you this year. Don't carry urgency, don't carry comparison, but movement, even if it begins quietly, because momentum begins the moment you stop arguing with your own readiness and you finally say yes. I hope this helps. I'll see you in the next episode.