Growth Mindset

A growth mindset is quite possibly the most seismic mindset shift you can make for breakthrough results that unleash your next level of growth, evolution and success in life.

Too often we are indoctrinated into a fixed mindset.  A fixed mindset is one where you see everything in terms of duality: right or wrong; good or bad; success or failure; black or white.  It’s classic all-or-nothing thinking.  It’s at the root of perfectionism or a near compulsion-like tendency to need to prove your worth or prove your right.  (ahem, this was me for years!!!)

A growth mindset is the single greatest thing you can cultivate and practice to yield the greatest amount of growth, evolution and breakthrough results in your work and in your life. A growth mindset means you are committed to the process of learning and growing MORE than anything else. 

This has been an area I’ve had to double down again and again over the years.  I’m in the thick of it once again.  And now I celebrate it!!  

I want you cultivating this skillset and celebrating your own process of growth every step of the way.  Why?  Because THAT is EXACTLY where fulfillment, joy and success live and I want that for you!  

Listen on to find out more on how to adopt the growth mindset for yourself…it’ll make your success inevitable…so it’s 100% worth listening to so you can start applying it to your own life now!

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Transcript

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Hello there. Welcome to another episode of Dr. Tammy Talks. I'm your host, Dr. Tammy. Today we're talking about a growth mindset. This is something that I really had to do a lot of work on. I am a little embarrassed to let you know how many years of mentorship and coaching and counseling I had to receive in order to embrace a growth mindset. There were so many reasons for this, but it wasn't really until I recognized like it had to be broken down for me very specifically, and it was this understanding that a growth mindset was one that actually fosters growth and that when I was introduced to some of these ideas, Carol Dweck, she has a great book mindset where she talks about a fixed mindset versus a growth mindset, and this was just like so illuminating for me because I could see how so much of my educational medical training had inadvertently. Instilled in me. I don't know if it was inadvertent or not, because it's certainly a great method of control and manipulation if you can instill a fixed mindset into people where they're constantly looking at things in terms of hierarchy right and wrong, good and bad success failure, black and white. There's a black and white all or nothing thinking. Becomes incredibly helpful to systems of control because there's so much judgment there's such an elevated sense of anxiety and stress and self consciousness. That it is somewhat debilitating. It reduces the sense of one's agency for change. And in this research, Carol Dweck, who is a PhD in education, has studied how people learn, how people grow the process of achieving. And how those who have been nurtured in a growth mindset just continue to maximize their abilities, to evolve them, to develop them, and to grow and cultivate the character, the personalities, and the abilities of successful people. And when you put this into contrast, it's a fixed mindset that thinks that those things have to be proven, that you, either have them or you don't, and you're constantly trying to prove that you do. Ugh. That is such a toxic paradigm of thought, like the whole belief systems. And the whole thought structures and then the emotional energies that maintain the fixed mindset is so defeating and depleting and demoralizing, and it is the fast track to burnout, my friends. And so it is why I wanted to bring this conversation here for us to really talk about growth mindset. That the growth mindset is an invitation for us to come into stronger, healthier relationship with our own evolution, our own becoming, our own learning, and to realize that all of these characteristics of ourselves are not set in stone. That we can change, we can evolve, we can grow. And that that's actually where fulfillment and satisfaction and meaning and joy come from. They come from the journey of becoming. so this growth mindset is one that we can cultivate. And I think the key piece here in anchoring into a growth mindset is that we're all year learning. Nobody came here to prove their. That is a thought construct that we've adopted from the people around us, but it's not what actually sustains our lives. It's not what nourishes us deeply and it's where we get stuck playing sort of tit for tat rather than tapping into the greatness and the goodness. That is us. That wants to be expressed and discovered and played with in new ways. So I have done massive amounts of work on embracing a growth mindset. It's one of the first things I introduce my clients and my students too. It's the thing that we're gonna come back to again and again, and again, that we're here to grow and evolve and learn. And as long as we're staying steadfast, committed to that part of the journey, then success is inevitable. It's when we get stuck in cycles of thinking that we should know this already. It's ridiculous. We don't know this. It's that conditioning that we've experienced that leaves us thinking that like we should already know this already. That prevents us from being able to know this already. And I am inviting all of us to engage with a growth mindset because, If you wanna create anything new in your life, it's 100% required. It's required that you're gonna fail a hundred times. It's required that you're going to attempt something new and you're gonna stumble and you're gonna fall, and it's 100% require. That you're gonna pick yourself up, dust yourself off, shrug your shoulders, and go, Let's try another way, shall we? And to be in community, to be connected with other people that are embracing a growth mindset, it's so galvanizing, it's so inspiring. Because when I am doing this work, I get to rely on my clients as much as they get to rely on me. This inspiration fest that's going on over here is so bidirectional that we see each other trying new things, reaching for new heights, achieving new dreams, daring to dance a new dance, and it is a conspiring as all. For real. To be around a community of change makers, to be in proximity to the power that's unleashed when you're willing to try is magnificent. And so certain things that I like to anchor into when I'm wondering like, am I in a growth mindset? Right? Because when I'm not in a growth mindset, I don't actually cultivate maximum levels of self-awareness. I'm not actually cultivating radical levels of curiosity. I am not practicing epic levels of compassion and self friendship if I'm not in the growth mindset. And one thing I know for sure. Is that if you're gonna change, if you're going to evolve and become the greatest, best, biggest, most successful version of you, it's going to require a growth mindset. It's going to require an allegiance, a dedication to the process of learning over anything else. This has to become the new yard. We have to be charting our milestones to success by every milestone of learning, by every piece of a new information. When we surrender the fixed mindset in so many ways, we're surrendering this critical judgmental ego that really stunts our ability to evolve and grow. Because it's, as long as we are more committed to perfection and proving ourselves that we stunt our ability to truly be alive and learn and grow and become who we want to be, the growth mindset is something that we cultivate by practice. By repetition. We train our brain for it. We train our mind to adopt it. We train our nervous system to acclimate to it. We train our energy feel to rise to it, and we're in training. It's sometimes we need a growth mindset to achieve a growth mindset, and that's. It's okay. There's humility and humbleness on the journey of becoming and when you can do that dance with other people who are willing to laugh, who are willing to raise their hand and say, Oh, you wanna hear a failure? Listen to this one. Ugh. You wanna see how I got stuck in that fixed mindset? This is what I did next. That is one sticky habit. And to laugh with it as we reach for the growth mindset, to have this relationship with yourself that it's not all so serious, that it's all really a process of becoming an unfolding. There is so much delight and wonder and awe at what becomes possible. And I wanna say that like my own personal develop. Has been 100% predicated on my ability and willingness to adopt a growth mindset, and this is something I'm really doubling down on in my parenting style. I have a toddler and I want to be. Advocating for her mind, like I wanna be instilling this framework, this paradigm in her psyche, in her body, that she's embodying a growth mindset for herself. I want to always be acknowledging and applauding effort over results. I want to always. Acknowledging and championing for her a commitment to the process of learning and growing and trying rather than just saying, Oh, wow, you did it. The outcome is here. The success is here because we actually inspire the journey for lifelong achievement when we celebrate the process of what it is to learn. And so we celebrate. We celebrate to integrate these new neural pathways in the brain. A growth mindset means we're spending just as much time celebrating as we are reflecting. We're spending just as much time acknowledging and honoring the process and the discomfort that comes along with it. We spend just as much time celebrating that. As we do the breakthrough results that are inevitable, as we embrace this process of growing and learning, we aren't born with a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. They're cultivated, we're conditioned, we're taught them, and we get to condition and teach ourselves new anytime we want. I am so happy you're here because this means you are opening yourself to conditioning your own magnificent mind with what it is to have a growth mindset, to prioritize and celebrate your own process of learning and growing and discovery. And to acknowledge that you're gonna stumble, you're gonna fall, you're gonna fail. And it's all a lesson in learning. And for that, and because of that, we celebrate. We celebrate. We celebrate our way to success. This is how it's done. This is how greatness is made. It has cultivated my friends. And it is cultivated in your mind before it shows up in the material world around you. What a beautiful thing. Because we are 100% sovereign in building the mind that we need for the success that we walked. I'm here for it. Ooh, am I here for it? Ooh, let's fucking go. So happy you were here. Thanks for tuning into this episode of Dr. Tammy Talks. I will catch you on another episode. Bye.