Back and Ready to Hustle

Sound Bite

Somebody's pulling me close to the ground . I ain't panicked . I've been here before . Seems like only yesterday when I got up on that stage In front of that crowd and show them who was who and what was what . Man , look at these suckers . I ain't no rapper , i'm a hustler . Just so happens . I know how to rap . Okay , i reloaded .

Styles

You are now rocking with the brunch hour podcast , the best hour today .

Shadra Styles

It's the only podcast I listen to .

Styles

With your host staz .

Sound Bite

He is the life of parties he has never attended . If he were to punch you in the face , he would have to fight off the strong urge to thank him . Sharks have a week dedicated to him . He is the most interesting man in the world .

Styles

I'm really not , though . I promise you that I'm really not . However , i am back . I am back and it feels so good to be back . It feels so fucking wonderful to be back .

Styles

For those of you that know me , i've been going for about a year , and this is me , so I want to say a year and three months Maybe , sort of kinda . My previous co-sids held it down For as long as they could with my bullshit , and then they bounced it , went and did their own thing . Shadows to goodie and Taniqa , glowing . Right now They off , doing their own thing with a level of consistency Not seen on this side . Love it , um , and then , if you want to check them out , go over to Until next time . That's the name of the podcast . Shout out to y'all Salute , salute . Back to this right here . I'm happy to be back . Gone through a lot of shit . It's gonna be a gym pack season . It's gonna be a hot summer , super hot summer . So I came across this sound bite and the sound bite wasn't me , so it's kind of like the sound bite was a mirror . I'm let y'all here first , but these are some of the habits that I'm trying to bring I don't want to be in the mix .

Sound Bite

I don't like niggas . I don't want to hang with you . I don't want to get drunk with you . I don't want to go fuck hoes with you . I , i'm cool , i fuck with who I fuck with and that's off . Energy like .

Styles

I'm trying to break those habits . I mean not to have it with you know , fucking holes and all of that . I'm married . Shout out to my wife , nothing like that . But I'm trying to be less anti-social in this game . You have to be less in something , anti-social With things . And you got to pop up and you got it . Nah , i'm not doing . I'm not doing that , i figured shit . If I gotta do about myself , i gotta do about my soul .

Sound Bite

You'll get as far as the motherfuckers you talk to for no reason .

Styles

You'll be successful as the motherfuckers that you talk to For no reason and again people , i can't tell you how happy I am to be back , so I'm gonna leave you with this before we jump into the show .

Sound Bite

We just want to win , That's it Doesn't matter . All the extra shit is corny . It's about getting that bread and looking good doing it and always being on your ding . Have an honor being cut from a certain cloth like a real home cat , right , You know , that's all just knowing that if you're not number one now , you will be right . You know cuz we hustlers So we don't give a fuck about betting at all every time There's no fear there .

Styles

But let's not be confused . I'm still fucking ignorant too .

Sound Bite

All the haters . I don't want to be friends after this , so I'm gonna get this up my chest . braille urbis , stop it . We need two shots . It's a combo .

Styles

Yeah , like I said , i'm back Anywho today for Happy Owl . We're going to talk about Happy Owl , but before we talk about Happy Owl , let me talk about my guest . Right , i have a very interesting guest on today . All right , shadra Styles . Right , she goes by the name of . I don't know if she goes by Your Instagram handle is .

Shadra Styles

Hiden .

Styles

Hills , okay , and .

Shadra Styles

And Flights . Fashion and Food .

Styles

Okay , i'll never get that right , because the F's always fucked me up . Pun intended . Anyway , this is my beautiful wife and we will try to get through this without any side eyes . Any , you know all that other stuff , So let's get straight to the shits . Listen . First of all , let's talk about what we drink , And you know I'm ignorant as it relates to wine , so I'm going to let you have it .

Shadra Styles

Let's see , tonight we have Stellarosa , so we're drinking the Stellarosa wine . It's black . Well , the black wine , i guess , is red .

Sound Bite

But it's the black label .

Shadra Styles

Okay , I've already been sipping a little bit .

Styles

Yeah , you have been sipping a little bit , so there's a story behind it sipping a little bit Before she even got the sip and she spilled an entire bottle .

Shadra Styles

Wow , it wasn't a bottle , it was a glass .

Styles

Fuck it . It may as well have been a bottle , it's a glass I wish I had back , because it's actually really good , really fucking good . All over everything , not everything , mostly the table and the floor , which was right . And one of the left side of my headphones .

Shadra Styles

So I got . He's still trying to get wine . I think I have a boozy ear right now .

Styles

What we're going to do have a quick little icebreaker So the people get to know you right ?

Sound Bite

now .

Styles

Right , we're not married , because I don't want you to . You know we are married , but we're not married . Make sense , right , all right ? cool , all right , stop touching shit . So let's go with this Ready Text call or FaceTime , what's your preference ?

Shadra Styles

Text definitely Don't call me , Don't FaceTime me , i just prefer text .

Styles

All right , shoot your shot , chill it in the cut .

Shadra Styles

Definitely chill it in the cut . I'm not shooting my shot .

Styles

I hate pretty women . It's not even about that . It's really not . It is , it's not .

Shadra Styles

What is it For me personally . Please , I'm just not that girl . I'm just not going to go up and shoot my shot Like I've just never been that type of woman .

Styles

Well , why not ? Is it the rejection ?

Shadra Styles

It's not even about rejection .

Styles

So what is it ?

Shadra Styles

I just feel like a man Shit , shit , shit shit .

Styles

All right , cool , we're going to save that for later . All right , so in your social circle , what would you say is the ratio of entrepreneurs versus die hard ? nine to five is .

Shadra Styles

Being that my circle is pretty little , pretty small , I don't know . I think right now , well , everybody in my circle no , listen , everybody in my circle is either I mean , that does have a nine to five also are like entrepreneurs at the same time , Like everybody has a hustle or trying to be , you know yeah , especially the day in time we in right now Like yeah , we're going to need some extra on the side .

Styles

So that's a whole fact . Yeah , that's a whole fact

Best Friends, Brunch, and Thirst Traps

Styles

. All right , who can call you at 3am and get you out of your bed ?

Shadra Styles

Definitely , family , friends , kids .

Styles

Friends , I mean what best friend ?

Shadra Styles

I'm saying like a best friend , like my best friend for sure , okay .

Styles

Best friend for sure , yeah . How many best friends do you have ?

Shadra Styles

One best friend Yeah .

Styles

I don't know , because , as it relates to me , like with best friends , they're interchangeable . So I have a couple of different best friends .

Shadra Styles

Well , again , my circle is small . I don't have a lot of friends , But no , but I have one best friend . And then , of course , like I said , family and friends . I mean what family in my kids ? of course .

Styles

I think the whole best friend thing is debatable too , because I have multiple best friends Right , so my best friend basically is a tear . You can reach the best friend tear right , and then your best friends , and then you turn to your left to right and you see my other best friends , because Okay .

Shadra Styles

But with you , though , I would say , um are your best friends females .

Styles

So moving on to the next question What's the song for this season of your life ? I ?

Shadra Styles

was trying to think about that . I think right now I'm going to say Lucky Girl by Collina or Carlina , yeah .

Styles

Lucky Girl .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , it's the song on my last post on my Height and Heels page .

Styles

But um , yeah , i'm it , let me , i don't , i'm not familiar .

Shadra Styles

Do you want to hear it ?

Styles

No , nothing . It would take time for you to pull it up , and you know how I feel about that air .

Shadra Styles

Well , you can go to my post after we get off of here and , and and listen for yourself .

Styles

All right , cool Um for brunch . What drink do you start off with ?

Shadra Styles

Definitely Mamosa .

Styles

No , okay .

Shadra Styles

Or Bellini .

Styles

Bellini , okay .

Sound Bite

Bellini Um like a peach .

Shadra Styles

Bellini .

Styles

Okay , i thought Bellini's were just inherently peach . There are other types .

Shadra Styles

Oh well , i don't know .

Styles

If you could live in any sitcom , what would it be ?

Shadra Styles

Um , yeah , let's skip it for now . Wait a minute . Can you answer these questions ? or no , That's not that's not the way this goes . It's just me .

Styles

I mean it could , but I was just being a bully And since you should have answered some of those .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , I should have , but I didn't .

Styles

Okay , i did . We can circle back on a future episode , maybe . Okay , now that you're trying to make the rules , um , anyway , uh , let me see . Let me see . What would you consider a decent amount to spend on the first date ? Now , let's let the people know that you live in Dallas .

Shadra Styles

Right , right .

Styles

So the dollar stretches there , you know , and I currently am in New York and you can't get off the block . What a dollar . So , god , i'm going to let you do your thing .

Shadra Styles

Um , let's see a decent amount for a first date . Well , i really wouldn't know , cause I don't really pay on first days , but if I did pay on first days . No , i'm just saying I just want to you know , um , put it out there . Um , i guess , about , um I don't know . I don't know . I'm gonna say like $100 , $150 , i don't know $150? . I mean , it depends on where we going .

Styles

I'm glad I prefaced that with like you can stretch a dollar in Dallas .

Shadra Styles

Maybe $200 , I don't know like , if you going to .

Styles

In bed we spent .

Shadra Styles

Like . What restaurant are we going to ? We ?

Styles

spent like $240 the other night . just the other night That was $240 and it don't even feel like that with that 6-1 time , but we're gonna get back to that .

Shadra Styles

Okay , but that was here in New York , that's not in .

Styles

Dallas . That's what I'm saying , Yeah so I don't know .

Shadra Styles

I don't pay for first date , so I wouldn't know how much the tab is or what so .

Styles

Okay , that's right , because you don't even You want to be approached and not the approach , right , so I'm not gonna pay for the first date .

Shadra Styles

I'll definitely pay for second date if I invite you somewhere . But yeah , i'm not paying for the first date .

Styles

Okay , I hate you , Sorry . No , it's cool . nothing to apologize for . What's your dream vacation spot ?

Shadra Styles

Bali Okay .

Styles

I was sure All right , why .

Shadra Styles

I don't know , it's like it's a vibe Pictures , but it looked relaxing , though at the same time Like , yeah , definitely Bali .

Styles

Okay , and last but not least , what's your example ? What's your example of a thirst trap , a thirst trap . A thirst trap . It's not Chinese a thirst trap , What the fuck ?

Shadra Styles

Can I get your example of a thirst trap ?

Styles

Absolutely not . You can get your own podcast and you can ask questions . Wow , this is my podcast .

Shadra Styles

Quick play . All right , yeah , I don't know . I don't know A thirst trap , a thirst trap .

Styles

What's a thirst trap ? I don't know what it is . I'm sure you know what a thirst trap is ?

Shadra Styles

No , not really .

Styles

Bad with your 1.5 friends . I'm sure that you guys have had conversations about thirst traps .

Shadra Styles

We've never had a conversation about thirst traps .

Styles

Okay , so you've never had a friend that pulls something real crazy as far as like exuding sex , like dripping , dripping sex .

Shadra Styles

My friends don't do that kind of stuff Anymore . No , Yeah . I'm married . Well , i guess like , yeah , if you go back and think back , okay , well , how did you get your man ? Then maybe , um , yeah , i don't know , i don't have an example of a thirst trap .

Styles

I don't know I wasn't thirst , trapped into a whole situation Like it wasn't . Nah , i don't think that up . Even I'm lying . I was about to say I don't think I've ever fallen into it Because you're a Leo , Anyway , um . I don't know why you got to bring that into it . So my , there was a follow up question , but you felt miserably on the first part of that . So , and have you sat in these ? So I guess not . She being , she being pictures with turtlenecks In the middle of the fucking summer .

Styles

I'm here saying I don't know about thirst traps , i don't , i don't know A whole windbreaker . I'm fucking scheme ass .

Shadra Styles

That was gonna be sexy .

Styles

Like I'm attracted , yeah , i mean I cast , if you into that type of thing , right Shit , that's kind of crazy .

Sound Bite

Next question . There's no more questions . You got a question , all right , so .

Styles

I'm going to open up the floor to you . You got any questions .

Shadra Styles

No , I want you to answer the questions that I answered . I'm not going to go back to people don't want to hear that They don't want to hear you All right here .

Styles

I'll give you the paper and you can tell . You can ask the questions . Ask specifically what you want me to ask . Answer rather Go ahead .

Shadra Styles

Let's see How . about this one ?

Sound Bite

What .

Shadra Styles

I'm not even going to call you and get you out of your bed at 3 am .

Sound Bite

Nobody .

Shadra Styles

You just playing it safe .

Styles

No , I'm not even playing it safe . Try calling me in the middle of the afternoon . You know you can't get me . What fuck ? Why would you even think that you can call me at 3 in the morning and you can get me ? You can't get me at 3 in the morning . You can't answer your phone even then At all .

Shadra Styles

I'm not , not even family .

Styles

Listen , see , you're going down a path where I would look at the phone because I know that I'm drinking , and then make a decision from there . I don't even know that it's ringing , so nobody . Okay , what's next ?

Shadra Styles

Keeping it safe . I see How about this Answer the question that I didn't answer . If you could live in any sitcom , which would it be , martin ? Well , sure .

Sound Bite

Right .

Sound Bite

Yeah .

Shadra Styles

Definitely , because I definitely wanted that type of relationship . When Martin was out , i was like , oh , martin and Gina , that's right . Okay , okay , um dream vacation .

Styles

Um , anywhere with my wife . You're so politically correct . Listen , I'm a podcaster .

Shadra Styles

I see What's the song for the season of your life .

Styles

Can I Live by Jay-Z ?

Shadra Styles

What's your example of a thirst trap ?

Styles

Let me see What's my example of a thirst trap , a chick on a grand with everything out . Well , twerking now because we're past pictures . So she could be twerking . She could be sitting there , you know , sticking the tongue out doing things , thirst trap it .

Shadra Styles

Why are those things showing up on you in your feed in the ?

Styles

first place , my feed is filthy .

Shadra Styles

I have no idea why . I've seen your feed . It is filthy Very I don't know why , though . You know , why ?

Styles

No , i don't know why . I promise you , i don't know why . I don't .

Shadra Styles

It's the Instagram algorithm . All right , let's Okay , this will be the last one . Thanks , call or FaceTime .

Styles

Um , text . The reason why text ? because I can abruptly end the conversation and come up with a reason why I ended the conversation later . I don't need to , you know , figure out how I'm going to get off the phone .

Shadra Styles

Well , that's all I want to know .

Styles

And then if I do FaceTime , actually FaceTime too , because FaceTime I could just literally just start showing my surroundings to you and you'll want to get off the phone .

Shadra Styles

She's like why , you know , just surround her with shit , hit the uh button and be like oh .

Styles

I mean , I could do that too . I could do that too .

Segment Break

Main course , it's time to eat . What's on your mind All ?

Styles

right . You know what ? I think that the last few questions from the icebreaker segment actually led up to this . I'm going to get your take on this Okay , because I know where it probably diametrically opposed , but anyway , i got a quote off of the grab right . This came from Ruby Rose , um , and she said I feel like the man is supposed to chase the woman . She said she doesn't text or call guys first ever , unless it's her man or they're locked in . And then she also wanted to know what she asked Am I childless ? Use your ?

Shadra Styles

words .

Styles

That's the one It is . It is that lazy tongue . Women hate to hear that lazy tongue . Anyway , um , am I childish or is this the one ? All right , i need to stop being childish right now and grow the fuck up . Am I childish or is this the way it's supposed to be ? So I'm going to let you weigh in on that , because you know , of course , i have thoughts .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , um , i would say well , i definitely I agree With the quote Um , because I'm , like I said before , like I don't

Traditional Gender Roles and Proposal Debates

Shadra Styles

. I feel like a man should chase . Of course , that's just my opinion .

Styles

Okay , at least we know opinion starts with a no . Oh , what else is your opinion ? It's sarcastic .

Shadra Styles

Um , yeah , like I said , i just I feel like a man should be the one that's chasing the woman or or at least I would say , instead of like , like what one of your questions was , you know , chilling in the cut or shooting your shot ? Like if a man shoots this shot , like I can appreciate that I'm , i'm just not that girl . Like I'm not going to chase after a man because I just feel like if you don't want to be with me , then you don't want to be with me . Why am I going to chase after you All ?

Styles

right . So when you say chase , you mean after the initial introduction is over with , or I feel like . So what ? okay , what is ?

Shadra Styles

what is the scenario in that ?

Styles

I don't know , she was confused . She put a bunch of shit in here .

Sound Bite

Okay .

Styles

Um , first of all , she says she's not calling or texting a guy first ever .

Shadra Styles

All right , And But she said , if it's her man or someone , she .

Styles

Unless it's a man , but if it's her man , which is a contradiction , like somebody had to go , somebody first .

Shadra Styles

Well , hopefully he . he called her first . You said hopefully , According to this quote .

Styles

he absolutely did Cause , unless you know they was out there throwing up gang signs and shit . I don't fucking know how that would happen , but yeah , no , um . And then she mentioned something about being childish .

Shadra Styles

I mean , I don't think that's childish too .

Styles

I think this , I think that It's a tradition .

Shadra Styles

It is a tradition , right ?

Styles

We need to research and find out where this tradition came from , because I'm opposed to fucking European traditions And then black people , just you know , holding onto them . It's kind of like . I do know an African guy who's a Christian And on top of that , he's not just a Christian , he's a Christian priest , preacher , or pastor , there we go . One of those you know .

Sound Bite

Clearly I don't go to church .

Styles

But he's that and I had to ask him the other day . I was like yo , let me ask you a question . Before the Europeans came to Africa , didn't you have your own religion ? What made you shed your religion and then rock out with them ? Whole different conversations , so I'm going to leave that alone , but I feel like , you know , we should be in a space where one we do what we feel is comfortable right And I think she feels comfortable with that And not necessarily rest our laurels on what you know , what she feels like the tradition should be .

Styles

You and I have had heated debates over being the whole proposal thing .

Shadra Styles

Right .

Styles

Right Heated debates .

Shadra Styles

Heated Right .

Styles

And I personally don't want a woman to propose to me . I'm fine with it , but at the same time , though , i don't see anything wrong with a woman proposing to a girl I don't see anything wrong with it .

Shadra Styles

I think y'all should do it differently , don't get on your knees , yeah , and especially in the dress on your knees , like proposing ? Definitely not . But again , like I said , my thing is , i mean I feel the same way , like I mean if a woman wants to do that , then that's fine . I'm not going to be like girl trying to , you know , run up and be like girl , don't do that , stop , don't propose or whatever . Because , again , i mean , if a woman wants to propose and that's on her , you know I can't , you know that's what she want to do , that's what she want to do . But I'm just saying for me , again , speaking for me , uh , yeah , i'm not doing that .

Styles

All right , so let's dig . Let's take a deeper dive , though , okay .

Approaching Relationships and Blessings

Styles

Do you think that that type of mentality going back to Ruby Rose , do you think that that type of mentality might be blocking her blessings ?

Shadra Styles

Some would probably say yes .

Styles

And you , i'm , i'm asking you , i don't care about the sum .

Shadra Styles

No , because I , because the only reason I say that's because I know , like um , looking again , going through Instagrams and posts and and seeing these type of conversations happen . You know , i've seen that conversation too , where you know um . You know if you see something you want , go after it . You know , being a woman , go after it . You know you blocking your blessing If you're not um , but for me , again , i don't . I don't think she's blocking her blessing .

Styles

Okay .

Shadra Styles

So if you're not going to be again and you can call me a traditionalist and all that , that's fine . I'm fine with that , Um , because I just feel like I mean , if a man , if you're in a relationship , and if a man has not proposed to you , I just feel like maybe you're just not the one , yeah , but you don't know the dynamic , i don't know .

Styles

I know the relationship And that's true , and we can't say that No no , no , and that's fine , that's true .

Shadra Styles

But yeah , for me , again , just my thoughts , because again you're , you're asking , you know , about how I think about it or what I think about it . Um , yeah , mm-mm . So I just feel like I mean , if he's not proposing to you , maybe you're not the one . So I don't see your blessings being blocked because he's not the one .

Styles

Anyway , So had I not approached you in the way that I approached you and I and you know there's a story behind that too , ladies and gentlemen , I'm just not going to get into it right now . I hate the backstory and I'm horrible at it . However , had I not approached you and I met my wife online had I not approached you Actually , you know what ? What ? Hold on , hold on , hold on Because , as memory serves me , you , kind of lightweight , approached me .

Shadra Styles

I did not .

Styles

Yes , you did . No , I didn't .

Shadra Styles

You're a liar , Because you were the one You stole the entertainment . See I had to clean that up , here we go I didn't want to get .

Sound Bite

Who was liking whose pictures That's not me approaching you , though I mean that's not All right so let me put it out there So what you went , so what you saying That is , if a person comes through , your great .

Styles

If a person comes through , starts liking your pictures , that's a form of No Okay .

Shadra Styles

Okay , so let's just give a little backstory , because okay . so someone I'm not going to mention any names- that was like in my pictures And so I did . I was like oh so is this how you flirt , or something like that .

Styles

So you reached out .

Shadra Styles

I did reach out .

Styles

Amen . So , ladies and gentlemen , just so you know , has won for styles and zero for sguide . Wow , really .

Shadra Styles

You can , but You just said it . I did reach , but no , you reached out first because he was liking my pictures . Okay , so I'll .

Styles

Sellers , beware , i was just That . Double tap is the double tap of deaf And you will get a story . We'll definitely get twisted . Go ahead .

Shadra Styles

That's . That's basically how I don't you know what .

Styles

I'm going to go back , because It's not even a form of communication . So what do you mean ?

Shadra Styles

Listen , but we had already been .

Styles

No , no , no , no that was not at all Yeah .

Shadra Styles

So yeah , so I reached out and so I was like oh , is this how you , is this how you flirt ? Is what I had And you were like something about yeah , this , i'm flirting , or something like that . And then we just started talking from here .

Styles

I mean , I got poetic after that but And that was it . Yeah , but you , you I guess that was like the You weren't thirst trapping . I want to be clear on that , Because you definitely had on turtle next , turtle next and makeup . Her face is beat . Who knew what that body in for ?

Sound Bite

Wow .

Styles

But , um , so you weren't thirst trapping , i wouldn't like pictures . So is that your thing ? That was your thing Like prior to me , and somebody likes your pictures and you reach out to them and that's the that opens the door for you . No , okay , because I mean okay , i'm just going to move , walk about it at . So you do go for what you want .

Shadra Styles

I'm a whole walking contradiction .

Styles

Clearly saying it No , definitely not .

Shadra Styles

No , she was like I'm not going to block my blessings , god damn it .

Styles

That nigga double tap , and I'm here for it .

Shadra Styles

Hey , that is not what you see , that is not what happened .

Styles

And I was like yes , ma'am , How you doing Um . anyway , yeah , All right .

Shadra Styles

Um , but had you not liked my pictures , right ? No , i wouldn't have never probably said anything to you , though .

Styles

Okay , i mean , but all right . So let's also be clear , because you got me out here sounding like a simp , i wasn't . I didn't go through like 10 , 15 pictures , it was like three .

Shadra Styles

No , it was a few . No , I'm going to tell you why .

Styles

So , boom , what I did was you did homework after I double tapped a couple of pictures and then I was also out in Houston and that was your segue and what you're waiting Like . Oh , he was down here saying because I had posted some pictures .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , you had a bunch of people making comments and I was just another person making a comment . That was it .

Styles

That's a fact . Yeah , that's a fact . All right , maybe you got out of that one , yeah , move on What's your perception of women that do make their first move ?

Gender Dynamics in Dating

Styles

Um like is it something ? you sit on the sideline like damn . I wish I could do that , yeah , probably . Yeah .

Shadra Styles

I would say I mean , i definitely think it's all about . You know , i'm definitely for women empowerment and just women doing that thing , and so I mean for a woman to be able to do that and have the confidence to do that , definitely Like I would never take that away from a woman or be like , oh my God , why would she do that ? Or , you know , think any different or less for a woman that does that ? because no , that's . If a woman has the confidence to do something like that , go for it , girl .

Styles

See the thing , the head scratcher for me is this like I've definitely been approached and picked up for sure , right , and that's not an ego thing , that's just a real thing . But I guess it will put me in a headspace like the initial shock of it all . Like I like aggressive women . I don't like aggressive women . You get what ? I'm saying Like is this , is this the height of your aggression Cause ?

Sound Bite

I can't take anything else beyond that ?

Styles

Yeah , You know we're not going to be slap boxing in the middle of the street because we play fighting . We're not doing none of that . So like is that ? is this the height of it ? You know I don't need you pulling out my chair when I'm sitting down and she's like that , opening up your door . All right , stop , cause we know we're going with that .

Shadra Styles

I'm just so glad . Yeah , we're going to leave it , leave it alone .

Styles

Let it die I know , you say Oh no , in New York , there's just no time to open up to so much .

Sound Bite

It's 20 minutes . It's 20 minutes . Listen , you gotta get in your car , i'm a handle .

Styles

You gotta make time One of us don't make it , somebody got us . You gotta make time .

Shadra Styles

I'm going to need you to open up my car door . I'm going to need you to open up the door . Remember that time we went on a date and you you didn't even open up the car door for me And you went ahead and walked around to the driver I'm standing there , like I know his nigga did that See , that's the difference between being southern and somebody on the East Coast .

Styles

We just offended an entire coast .

Shadra Styles

Because y'all do , y'all be moving fast here in . New .

Styles

York , like y'all ain't got time You just explained it . There's too much shit going on outside .

Shadra Styles

I'm gonna need you to make some time for that , all right .

Styles

We gotta get in the car half the time , which means you handle your car door and I'll handle mine .

Shadra Styles

I understand that That's cool .

Styles

And then when you , you can hop in first , and I'll keep my head on the swivel , and then vice versa .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , that's cool , but now I'm gonna need you up into my car door . I got you .

Styles

I mean , it was a lesson learned the other night , so I open all the doors , didn't I ? Yeah , you do .

Shadra Styles

I did , you did . Okay , cool , because in the beginning I had to train him y'all . He wouldn't do it . I did .

Styles

My name is fucking Rova . What the fuck Do I bark too .

Shadra Styles

Oh man , all right Moving on .

Styles

The way I look at it is this Women that don't approach men , mm-hmm A . They follow one tradition right . Which I think is silly , and then B .

Shadra Styles

So she couldn't just be shy ?

Styles

I'm getting there . Okay , go ahead . That's why I professed it with A . This is B , so B . I don't know if you have a real B or not , i do . Okay , good , it's ego driven . Okay , yeah , it's ego driven , i don't know . Woman likes rejection . See , dudes , we hate rejection too , but it's kind of like we've dealt with it for so long , we know what it feels like . It's not unexpected . So when we walk into the situation , we already know the potential of the hurt and pain that we could be in when we have to walk away from the situation . Hence , you know that lonely walk away , like that , lonely walk after you know I do the approach .

Shadra Styles

We had to turn around and walk back and go back to your seat . Holloway across the room .

Styles

Exactly , put your head down . Yeah , exactly Exactly . And shit Fuck it If I

Group Dynamics and Dating Objections

Styles

approach you . It better be a group , this way you know you can say you're big , which one you want ?

Shadra Styles

Somebody gonna get it , somebody gonna get it , somebody gonna laugh at it it draws Cause I'm gonna be a whole fucking comedian .

Styles

You might say no and she might be like but he's funny .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , she gonna be like okay , girl , i'll be right back , exactly .

Styles

And then you know , leo's are one of the most frowned upon signs in the astrology , for some fucking strange reason .

Shadra Styles

But you know , and then you'll get , yeah , you get that group , that's like You think it's because of the mouth . Like being sarcastic .

Styles

It's because of the shit I don't think Oh , i think it's the .

Shadra Styles

is it the ego ?

Styles

It's not the arrogance either , you sure No , it's our low tolerance for bullshit And certain and unfortunately , people like to hear themselves speak . They're not always saying shit that makes sense or matters . We're the ones to tell you that . Okay . I mean it's not even . I mean you have to , you know , in a clever manner , to tell people that they're stupid without saying you're stupid , you know . So what I do is I just have people who plead to shit back to themselves slow .

Shadra Styles

Be like maybe they'll catch on to it . Yeah , yeah , exactly , Exactly . And then ?

Styles

most times it's funny Like we both end up laughing . But anyway , get back to the group of women And it's just kind of like one of them is bound to like Elio , right , Wow So it's four Exactly .

Shadra Styles

No , no , think about it . Think about it .

Styles

So it was four , i'm thinking 3.5 are not going to like Elio right . But , I have a 0.5 chance of actually overcoming that objection right Cause there'll be one .

Sound Bite

That's that funny math .

Styles

Exactly , there you go , there you go . Cause three will be definitely no . Then there'll be one of being like no , yes , maybe , and I'm like all right cool , so no , yes , let's make it happen , that's all I need .

Styles

Kick that door wide open , stop playing . She's coming with me Now . Fuck out of here . Anyway , all right , but I definitely think it's an ego trip And I don't think that women know how to deal with objection , right , which is why you don't hear a lot about how women are like shooting a shot and shit like that . And then on the other side of that , some dudes be like yo . They're intimidated by women that shoot their shots Cause they be on a Kevin Hart . I'm with the man you know what I mean .

Styles

That type of shit . And if a dude is out and about whatever he could be out and about in between jobs , thanks . And then if you approach him , that ain't gonna be like wait a minute And you could be everything that he wants and needs in that moment Right , but he's not really .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , but and too , like you said , and I think , like you said , nowadays , well , in the time that we're in now , i do think a lot more women do shoot their shots . Now , you know , slipping in people , dms and that whole thing . So , but like I said , I mean , i don't know , i just you know to eat your song , you know , and , like I said , i would never put a woman down . but hey , if you , if you want to shoot , your shot go for it .

Styles

Shoot your shot .

Shadra Styles

Shoot your shot .

Styles

I'm here for it . I mean , I'm not here for it .

Shadra Styles

If you see something you like , go get it . Girl , exactly That's what I'm talking about .

Styles

Do it , don't be afraid of the whole Walker shame and all that other . I don't think women actually go through the whole Walker shame thing , though , like the women's Walker shame is basically waking up at a dude's house that lives with seven other people And you know , you in the back room and it's 10 o'clock in the morning . They all sitting at the table .

Shadra Styles

And you got to walk with tiptoeing athletes . Exactly You know where this bitch come from . With your weed cock to the side , you're fucking lashes hanging off . Hey , don't talk about that .

Styles

I'm just saying All them sisters look like Chinese fans and shit .

Shadra Styles

Who ? all that is grandma that is doing the Walker shame . Okay , let me stop .

Styles

But think about it like this though Like yo for real , like real shit You . The Walker shame in the morning is crazy , right Cause I've done the Walker shame . I've done it at a college dorm actually , which was fucking weird , but anyway for a woman though , like if you do it and it's kind of like . Cause you know , everybody knows . Yeah , cause you not taking a shower . That's unfamiliar , yeah .

Shadra Styles

You get up and you get nothing but laughter 30 feet away .

Styles

You like nah , and they're not talking about you , cause they don't even know that you're there yet .

Shadra Styles

Right , but it's like a whole . You got to go through that .

Styles

Yeah , when you walk about that though , like a whole family bar if you happen in outside right now And you don't even know this dude So you know it's last night , you're not hopping in the shower So as you walk by , and especially me , i mean . But we might do a little burp And sink Just a little song . I mean , i hope so , but it is still . is just like you know that illus side up .

Shadra Styles

We know what you did , yeah . So when you walking out , craig , you ever did the walkshade . It wasn't really the Walker shame , why , well , all ?

Styles

right . So the Walker shame consists of two or more people . One person you could , you could give a fuck Like you can blow it past that person , never think twice . But if it's two people , cause now you know those two people actually having a conversation .

Shadra Styles

But see , like I said , it wasn't really like the Walker shame . No , it was . It was . I don't even want to talk about it , nevermind .

Styles

We want to know who won as I sip my wine . Matter of fact , who won ? Let me pour up .

Shadra Styles

Wait a minute And it was definitely back in the day , like back , oh no , no , no , no time ago . But it wasn't so much , like I said , the Walker shame , it was more , you know , like other people was in the room , kind of situation .

Styles

Wait a minute .

Shadra Styles

No wait .

Styles

Wait , wait , wait , wait , wait , wait , wait , wait . That's not a . there's nothing shameful about that If everybody signed a consent form .

Shadra Styles

Well , it okay , but it wasn't that type of party though It was . Just other people was in the room and then , like you know , Things started happening . Well , i was already like in the bead and other people Wait , so they wait time out ?

Styles

Did they come in after you were in the bed ?

Shadra Styles

It was , you know what . I think it was more like a sweet like it was .

Sound Bite

Can you stop trying to clean this shit up in this painting picture ? No , okay , that's what it was .

Shadra Styles

I think it was more than people was already in there , but or maybe they did come in after the fact . You know , like it's been years I've slept since then . I don't remember it all , but yeah , no , it was definitely . I think some people had came in after the fact or something like that Of me being in the bed and done , but they ended up leaving , so like .

Styles

I said did they even know ? Did they know , Or were you pretending to be asleep ?

Shadra Styles

No , it was like the act was already over and done with . You know , are you just like in the bed , you know , with your person ?

Styles

Yeah , marinating , yeah , yeah , yeah .

Shadra Styles

And then the people came in the room and kind of like did some walked around da , da , da , whatever they had forgot ? Oh , they did what they was doing And then well , it wasn't sexual or nothing like that . They just like come in there , like like they forgot something , i don't know what it was , and then they walked back out . So I technically didn't have to do like a walk of shame , because they were already out the room , like when I had got up to leave .

Styles

Right .

Shadra Styles

But they was in there , like when I you know was in the bed and stuff like that .

Styles

All right , we gonna never mind all that bullshit Cause I had no idea , but it wasn't , that's what I'm saying .

Shadra Styles

It wasn't a walk of shame , though .

Styles

No , it definitely wasn't , it wasn't , so you shouldn't even mention this , okay .

Sound Bite

We're gonna cut that out .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , I pretend like y'all didn't hear that .

Styles

Yeah , how about that You want the last two minutes of your life back . All right . So to wrap this up , though , i think that and then , oh , there was a response from Blueface as well to this , and it's kind of late with me throwing this in there , maybe because I really didn't want to read it , and I think that still is a fucking idiot . Anyway , okay , respectfully . So he said the Bible says men should never chase women . You know how I ?

Shadra Styles

feel about that . I ain't never seen that in the Bible , but okay , so I'm moving on to the next .

Styles

Yeah , i don't think this nigga even knows how to read , but you need to hear it or there We gonna let that ride . My thing is this the women that don't go for theirs , so to speak , those are the women that just think they're entirely too pretty for it to happen . You know , i have to disagree , but okay , No , no , no , no . some of them . I'm not saying all of them because I haven't met all the women on the planet , But I think that when I was younger , it was my ass cremation .

Shadra Styles

Okay , I better say I know you . That was the goal . That was the goal , Hey you no , hey ma .

Sound Bite

How are you ?

Styles

Don't niggas want to buy you See me , i want to fuck for free , anyway . So those are the , those types , the pretty types , the eagle thing , because they don't want to get let down . What have you ? I think I enjoy the type where it is the pretty woman doing , approaching , and if you ain't with it , you ain't with it .

Shadra Styles

They understand their value when they walk away , I think that shit is fire , right , right , so well I was , you know , like I said , as far as even with the women , well , with the men , as far as like , even rejection , you know , like if a woman isn't , um , you know , like if a man trying to shoot a shot , a woman , you know , is like , well , no , I'm good , or whatever . Like you know , a man has to be good too with the rejection of that , you know , because sometimes men would be like , yeah , niggas don't handle it well .

Shadra Styles

Not at all Throwing bottles , bitch , you was ugly anyway .

Styles

Which is retort like this , i don't even want to get in there .

Shadra Styles

So yeah , but yeah , just be respectful , of course , But again , like I said , for the women I mean the women that do it more power to

Bay Nights and Blessings

Shadra Styles

you . I wish I had . I wish I had that much confidence to do it .

Styles

You don't need it .

Shadra Styles

I mean I'm saying back in the day , back before the I do's , and all that , Thank God you .

Styles

you didn't have the confidence because you might have found a different type of blessing .

Shadra Styles

I would have missed that on my blessing . Well , I don't know .

Styles

Well , this is a blessing , specifically , but there might have been another blessing out there for you . It's definitely ego driven and all this other thing , and not to repeat myself , because I'm drinking this wine and you'll probably be driving or doing whatever y'all doing like nigga when you get on with it . All right , cool , so I'm gonna get on with it And you got any closing words .

Shadra Styles

No , you could Go ahead .

Styles

I'm gonna get that . You know you wish that women would do .

Shadra Styles

No . Bay night , sexy nights and good food .

Styles

So this is the part of the show that every one of my guests have managed to fuck up in the 10 episodes that I've actually recorded . Not everyone , not every one of them . Actually , i have some really , really , really good Bay nights . Shout outs to Danielle . Shout outs to a couple of the other ones . I'm , danielle was definitely one of my favorite ones , but I'm gonna let you do this . Why are you looking at me crazy ? You don't look at me crazy .

Shadra Styles

What are we doing ? We're talking about .

Styles

Bay night . Actually we can talk about a day night . We had the other night , So she touched down the other night . We were supposed to do five dates and five nights , right ? So that turned into a two and a possible . Here we started playing spades with it . That's what we do . But yeah , two and a possible , that's funny . That's funny , all right . So she touched down What we do the first night We um oh , we just ordered food ordered food watch movies watch movies , did some adult things .

Shadra Styles

We'll try to watch movies with somebody who went to sleep , but go ahead .

Styles

Yeah , I don't even understand why you keep telling my business like that . Come on . Okay , so we watch movies , ate some food , blah blah blah . That was cool because you know we did the whole catch up thing . Right . So the following night we went to this spot called free bird Okay , So free bird . The aesthetic was fire .

Shadra Styles

Nice Right , that's what you agree . Yeah , all right Cool .

Styles

So , uh , what do you want to ?

Shadra Styles

Um the chicken and waffles .

Styles

Chicken and waffles . We don't collect it Right Chicken and bricks .

Shadra Styles

I'm always trying to , um , you know , find a good chicken and waffles or shrimp and creases . Um , whenever it's on the menu , i'm like , okay , let me see how good you know , but right , It was , it was a oh , okay .

Styles

Let's tell them what I ordered .

Shadra Styles

Oh , what you ordered .

Styles

She's getting a relationship to become a fucking bully . Oh yeah , i won't approach you , but I definitely hit you with this elbow after I get to know you . So I have a salmon and , uh , it was salad and a salad . It came with a salad . Now , white people I don't understand the pomegranates . No , definitely white people , because black people don't do this shit , so I don't like . When I was younger , we get the pomegranate or whatever , and we used to call them Chinese apples back in the day That's what they were called .

Styles

And when I grew up , they turned into pomegranate all of a sudden , and I even realized they were Chinese apples .

Shadra Styles

I'm pretty sure they was pomegranates back then . No , they weren't , it might have been . No , they weren't It might stop it .

Sound Bite

It

Restaurant Review and Food Critique

Sound Bite

might have been an age . I feel like I found it . I feel like .

Styles

I found it . I feel like I found out that they were fucking Chinese apples in this moment .

Shadra Styles

I'm sure there was pomegranates Like can you ?

Styles

Google .

Shadra Styles

Chinese apples ?

Styles

I'm sure it's not going to put a picture of a pomegranate . Listen , I probably couldn't pronounce it when I was younger .

Shadra Styles

So you just made up the word .

Styles

There weren't any whole foods when I was coming up , so basically it was Chinese fucking apples , okay .

Shadra Styles

Where you get that from . You know what I'm a Google Chinese apples .

Styles

Chinese fucking apples . Okay , so did the whole thing Now with the pomegranate , right , I didn't know what When I was younger . You know we bite into it and it spit the seed out . So you get the juice , whatever , whatever , and spit the seed out , But apparently you're supposed to eat the seed too . Pause .

Sound Bite

Right .

Styles

So I'm sitting here and I'm like so they brought out this whole plate , or whatever . The salmon was phenomenal , phenomenal , but that salad was definitely straight out the backyard from the dirt , it was fresh , yeah For a while I was still on it .

Shadra Styles

It was so fresh .

Styles

They washed it Little false and water Sprinkle some pomegranate on it . It was a lot . It was spinach , it was spinach You know they lightly bathed it in some type of I don't know , some bland ass something . It was like a vinegar or something . It wasn't , though . It had potential to be vinegar , but it just didn't turn out like that .

Shadra Styles

Interesting .

Styles

Yeah , now you can tell them about your chicken and bricks .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , so the chicken was good . The chicken was good . I don't know about the waffles . The waffles was a little bit too dry for my taste . I mean , i've had waffles where you know , like okay , they still kind of fluffy on the inside , but yeah , those waffles was pretty crumbly and hard . So I'm not sure . But yeah , but the chicken was pretty good though .

Styles

Yeah , but I was offended at the fact that you sat there and said that the shit was nasty . Right , not nasty . You know I'm paraphrasing . I know you're a little bit more elegant than I , but then you hit me with it . You want to try this and I was like what the fuck ? what I ?

Shadra Styles

want to try . I want you to experience what I'm experiencing .

Styles

That's why listen that shit . That shit dissolved in my name and dissolved in my mouth , but it was , it was . It wasn't what it should have been . That was , that was a problem .

Shadra Styles

It wasn't what it should have been and then they were kind of they weren't even warm . Well , the chicken was more hot and yeah , i know . So I basically gave it what I give a seven out of ten .

Styles

Yeah so we got about it there .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , talk about the , the fries , oh the fries were crazy .

Styles

Yeah , we had the pork , pork And it was sweet potato fries .

Shadra Styles

They were sweet potato fries .

Styles

And those were phenomenal .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , they were pretty good .

Styles

I want to go back right now for those . I don't like just to take out . No no , fuck it . So , alright , so on top of that , because you said so , so we got about it in . And Also , they had some live music that started to play towards you know the end of the night and stuff like that , you know so yeah , that was pretty cool . And then we we had , we had reservations for the rooftop , but um , mother nature decided to play games again and forget that she must be on .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , so that was . Um , it was like the ambiance in there was really nice Food , like I said , probably if I had ordered something else , but oh , and the service service was dope . Oh , the service is really good service was dope .

Styles

You can't go wrong with that .

Shadra Styles

And the drinks we did have .

Styles

Drinks We had drinks at a hen is a fire Hennessy , which consisted of a bunch of shit that I'm not gonna name right now because I can't remember . However , it was supposed to be smoky and Although there was minimal smoke when he actually poured it .

Shadra Styles

Flavor was there . It definitely was smoky for sure .

Styles

Mm-hmm , what'd you ?

Shadra Styles

drink . I had the picking a peach , something to that . That's what it was called on the menu . Yeah , um , it was really good . Nice Refreshing drink . Um , yeah , it was good . But yeah , like I said , i definitely give The food , definitely seven out of ten . Service was a ten out of ten , i guess service was a ten out of ten .

Styles

For sure I'm beyond .

Shadra Styles

So ten out of ten for sure .

Styles

So what we did was we got about it in , took a couple of selfies on the way out , looking crazy Because you know we old and shit , you know all the millennials speak for yourself , listen , yeah , okay . All right . So this is a thing , but you all the beautiful .

Shadra Styles

Okay , but you're older , so it doesn't matter .

Styles

I'm married , i want to get my one . I won . It's like I don't even need to be out here like , see , think it's to be out here . Like Looking like a fucking wet bag of socks and Unattached to anything , talking about I'm never gonna get married . I'm gonna . I'm gonna be by myself the rest of my life . Listen , across the finish line . I'm good , all right , and I'm not too shabby , so Thank you , I appreciate you .

Styles

Well , i hope so . So we got up out of there . When we left , i actually was still hungry , be oh , they put it on , didn't ? they put it on a better plan , like not that , it was a puddle of polenta the salmon .

Shadra Styles

Um , I didn't see it on anything .

Styles

Okay , Well , Oh was it was . No , I wasn't .

Shadra Styles

It looked like plate but it wasn't real quick .

Styles

Talk about it .

Shadra Styles

Chinese apples . I looked it up palm granates , also called Chinese apples . All right , yo , i'm out . All right , cool Yeah .

Styles

All right , so we just muted her mic , ladies gentlemen , it was an act of God and I'm God sitting here at this fucking uh board . So here we go . We got up out of there because I know you guys are waiting here . What ? what happened next ? We , we got up out of there .

Shadra Styles

Can you swear my mic ? I'm not turning shit on .

Styles

We got up out of there and , um , i'm like yo , i'm still hungry , though Luckily enough , cheesecake factory was around the corner . So we decided to go around the corner to you know , cheesecake factory . Unbeknownst to me , that karma , that bitch was hitchhiking in my back seat . Because we got there , got out , we ordered some food . Remember , i said I was hungry , we ordered some food , went straight to the bar Give me some food . So We get the fried wontons , right , fried wontons , i think , like 13 dollars .

Shadra Styles

So we're in friday with potstick potstick is whatever .

Styles

No more wine for you and i'm fucking muting you like so over here talking hella , shit , they were , they were potstickers . Well , you got the flatbread right , you got the flatbread . That everything . Flat , flatbread , fatbread , that's funny . Um , you got the everything flatbread .

Shadra Styles

No more wine for you either .

Styles

Uh , yes , I got the flatbread . So we got four minutes to get through this .

Styles

I just need four minutes Relax . This is what happens when you come back after a year and a half . Um , okay , she had that . So your man brings out the plates and shit like that . Remember I said this shit was 13 bucks , right . And this this , uh , what is it ? Let me move this glass this ? um , cheesecake factory is attached to Whole Foods . Your man comes out with the potstickers . There are five of them , five baby potstickers . I'm like , oh , this must be like . They must be gold inside these motherfuckers for 13 dollars , right . So I started doing my fucking funny math . I'm like , but you can go right next door To Whole Foods , like if they get the frozen bag from next door because clearly you got it from next door .

Styles

The motherfuckers was definitely not chef , any shit's up in the back .

Shadra Styles

They were not making them from scratch At all .

Styles

Right , it's like 30 in a bag , right . Five and 50 , 20 , 30 , that's five batches and 13 dollars . 26 , 50 , 40 Yo son , you making about 70 , 80 dollars over each bag of five .

Shadra Styles

Look , times are hard . We got to ration out everything at this point and this one sitting here talking about too slow .

Styles

I don't want you slow . Anyway I was . I wasn't happy about that .

Shadra Styles

Um , The drink Was uh , I had a lemon drop .

Styles

You did What did .

Shadra Styles

I have something frozen .

Styles

It was worldly ? I don't know I don't frozen drinks throw me because it always seemed like there's not enough alcohol in frozen drinks at all . I don't care what you do , except when we went to jamaican We had to buy a molly , like we lived off of them . Sheds right , but um , yeah , now back in the stage . I'll play too much . Anyway um , we dropped another way 120 dollars there for that .

Shadra Styles

Oh yeah , you definitely need to hear mootadallas because The cheesecake . Yeah , I don't know about that . Yeah , it was crazy that one worth it .

Styles

No , it wasn't even there for like 45 minutes and then we they validated the ticket , the parking ticket .

Shadra Styles

Then we get out to the park and I still had to pay the three dollars .

Styles

So yeah , that bitch calm was sitting in my back seat laughing her ass off . Um , um , yeah . So that's about it for bay night this week . Next week , hopefully we do something better for y'all , hopefully dessert .

Segment Break

I hope you guys enjoyed your meal . Can I get you something off of our dessert menu ?

Styles

All right . so you know what We didn't talk about , either of the thing We just talked about your instagram handles , you know , tell them a little something , make it quick , because you only got two minutes , all right .

Shadra Styles

So real quick , yeah . So my instagram handles is hiding hills , um , and also flights , fashion and food , flags , fashion , fashion and food Is basically gonna be , or it's still growing , but basically just um , all things flights , taking trips , you know , food , anything food related and , of course , fashion style over there . Um , hiding hills was basically my um , um Modeling page . I guess you can say , um , but uh , i will be , you know , creating a youtube channel as well , uh , which is gonna basically incorporate a lot of the flights , fashion and food and lifestyle . So , um , once I get that created , i'll let you know and uh , yeah , I tell people they can find you heights And heels on instagram , or flights , fashion and food on instagram .

Shadra Styles

Yeah , that's it .

Styles

All right , so this was fun . We won't make this a habit .

Shadra Styles

I enjoyed you .

Styles

Uh , you better Um .

Shadra Styles

I hope you have that Always . It's your wine , but okay .

Styles

You really spilled that whole fucking bottle . I do , i mean it was a glass . It feels like a bottle now because the bottle's finished , All right anyway . Um people , thank you for joining us at the bunch out podcast .

Styles

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