Texts, Calls, and Stellarosa: Exploring Dating, Gender Dynamics, and Social Connections with Shadra Styles

Get ready for some laughs and genuine insights as we welcome the amazing Shadra Styles to the podcast! We kick things off by sharing our thoughts on texting, calling, and FaceTime preferences - and what it all says about us. Spoiler alert: connecting with others is essential for success in life and work, and we dive into that topic with gusto.

Pour yourself a glass of Stellarosa black-label wine (just don't spill it like Shadra did!) and join us as we venture into the world of dating, relationships, and gender dynamics. We discuss women taking the initiative in dating, traditional gender roles, and the delicate balance of work, hustling, and maintaining a social circle. And, of course, we share our favorite songs for this season of our lives - you won't want to miss it!

As the episode winds down, we reminisce about our incredible Bae Night experience at a local restaurant. We share our thoughts on the food, drinks, and overall atmosphere, even getting into a playful debate about whether the waffles were too dry or not. So grab your headphones and join us for this fun-filled and candid conversation with Styles and Shadra Styles aka S.Dot. Cheers!

Transcript

Back and Ready to Hustle

Sound Bite 0:00

Somebody's pulling me close to the ground. I ain't panicked. I've been here before. Seems like only yesterday when I got up on that stage In front of that crowd and show them who was who and what was what. Man, look at these suckers. I ain't no rapper, i'm a hustler. Just so happens. I know how to rap. Okay, i reloaded.

Styles 0:24

You are now rocking with the brunch hour podcast, the best hour today.

Shadra Styles 0:29

It's the only podcast I listen to.

Styles 0:33

With your host staz.

Sound Bite 0:43

He is the life of parties he has never attended. If he were to punch you in the face, he would have to fight off the strong urge to thank him. Sharks have a week dedicated to him. He is the most interesting man in the world.

Styles 1:02

I'm really not, though. I promise you that I'm really not. However, i am back. I am back and it feels so good to be back. It feels so fucking wonderful to be back.

Styles 1:12

For those of you that know me, i've been going for about a year, and this is me, so I want to say a year and three months Maybe, sort of kinda. My previous co-sids held it down For as long as they could with my bullshit, and then they bounced it, went and did their own thing. Shadows to goodie and Taniqa, glowing. Right now They off, doing their own thing with a level of consistency Not seen on this side. Love it, um, and then, if you want to check them out, go over to Until next time. That's the name of the podcast. Shout out to y'all Salute, salute. Back to this right here. I'm happy to be back. Gone through a lot of shit. It's gonna be a gym pack season. It's gonna be a hot summer, super hot summer. So I came across this sound bite and the sound bite wasn't me, so it's kind of like the sound bite was a mirror. I'm let y'all here first, but these are some of the habits that I'm trying to bring I don't want to be in the mix.

Sound Bite 2:04

I don't like niggas. I don't want to hang with you. I don't want to get drunk with you. I don't want to go fuck hoes with you. I, i'm cool, i fuck with who I fuck with and that's off. Energy like.

Styles 2:15

I'm trying to break those habits. I mean not to have it with you know, fucking holes and all of that. I'm married. Shout out to my wife, nothing like that. But I'm trying to be less anti-social in this game. You have to be less in something, anti-social With things. And you got to pop up and you got it. Nah, i'm not doing. I'm not doing that, i figured shit. If I gotta do about myself, i gotta do about my soul.

Sound Bite 2:49

You'll get as far as the motherfuckers you talk to for no reason.

Styles 2:51

You'll be successful as the motherfuckers that you talk to For no reason and again people, i can't tell you how happy I am to be back, so I'm gonna leave you with this before we jump into the show.

Sound Bite 3:00

We just want to win, That's it Doesn't matter. All the extra shit is corny. It's about getting that bread and looking good doing it and always being on your ding. Have an honor being cut from a certain cloth like a real home cat, right, You know, that's all just knowing that if you're not number one now, you will be right. You know cuz we hustlers So we don't give a fuck about betting at all every time There's no fear there.

Styles 3:24

But let's not be confused. I'm still fucking ignorant too.

Sound Bite 3:30

All the haters. I don't want to be friends after this, so I'm gonna get this up my chest. braille urbis, stop it. We need two shots. It's a combo.

Styles 4:01

Yeah, like I said, i'm back Anywho today for Happy Owl. We're going to talk about Happy Owl, but before we talk about Happy Owl, let me talk about my guest. Right, i have a very interesting guest on today. All right, shadra Styles. Right, she goes by the name of. I don't know if she goes by Your Instagram handle is.

Shadra Styles 4:23

Hiden.

Styles 4:24

Hills, okay, and.

Shadra Styles 4:26

And Flights. Fashion and Food.

Styles 4:28

Okay, i'll never get that right, because the F's always fucked me up. Pun intended. Anyway, this is my beautiful wife and we will try to get through this without any side eyes. Any, you know all that other stuff, So let's get straight to the shits. Listen. First of all, let's talk about what we drink, And you know I'm ignorant as it relates to wine, so I'm going to let you have it.

Shadra Styles 4:51

Let's see, tonight we have Stellarosa, so we're drinking the Stellarosa wine. It's black. Well, the black wine, i guess, is red.

Sound Bite 5:03

But it's the black label.

Shadra Styles 5:07

Okay, I've already been sipping a little bit.

Styles 5:09

Yeah, you have been sipping a little bit, so there's a story behind it sipping a little bit Before she even got the sip and she spilled an entire bottle.

Shadra Styles 5:16

Wow, it wasn't a bottle, it was a glass.

Styles 5:18

Fuck it. It may as well have been a bottle, it's a glass I wish I had back, because it's actually really good, really fucking good. All over everything, not everything, mostly the table and the floor, which was right. And one of the left side of my headphones.

Shadra Styles 5:36

So I got. He's still trying to get wine. I think I have a boozy ear right now.

Styles 5:43

What we're going to do have a quick little icebreaker So the people get to know you right?

Sound Bite 5:48

now.

Styles 5:49

Right, we're not married, because I don't want you to. You know we are married, but we're not married. Make sense, right, all right? cool, all right, stop touching shit. So let's go with this Ready Text call or FaceTime, what's your preference?

Shadra Styles 6:06

Text definitely Don't call me, Don't FaceTime me, i just prefer text.

Styles 6:13

All right, shoot your shot, chill it in the cut.

Shadra Styles 6:16

Definitely chill it in the cut. I'm not shooting my shot.

Styles 6:19

I hate pretty women. It's not even about that. It's really not. It is, it's not.

Shadra Styles 6:24

What is it For me personally. Please, I'm just not that girl. I'm just not going to go up and shoot my shot Like I've just never been that type of woman.

Styles 6:35

Well, why not? Is it the rejection?

Shadra Styles 6:38

It's not even about rejection.

Styles 6:39

So what is it?

Shadra Styles 6:40

I just feel like a man Shit, shit, shit shit.

Styles 6:43

All right, cool, we're going to save that for later. All right, so in your social circle, what would you say is the ratio of entrepreneurs versus die hard? nine to five is.

Shadra Styles 6:55

Being that my circle is pretty little, pretty small, I don't know. I think right now, well, everybody in my circle no, listen, everybody in my circle is either I mean, that does have a nine to five also are like entrepreneurs at the same time, Like everybody has a hustle or trying to be, you know yeah, especially the day in time we in right now Like yeah, we're going to need some extra on the side.

Best Friends, Brunch, and Thirst Traps

Styles 7:25

So that's a whole fact. Yeah, that's a whole fact. All right, who can call you at 3am and get you out of your bed?

Shadra Styles 7:37

Definitely, family, friends, kids.

Styles 7:40

Friends, I mean what best friend?

Shadra Styles 7:42

I'm saying like a best friend, like my best friend for sure, okay.

Styles 7:46

Best friend for sure, yeah. How many best friends do you have?

Shadra Styles 7:50

One best friend Yeah.

Styles 7:53

I don't know, because, as it relates to me, like with best friends, they're interchangeable. So I have a couple of different best friends.

Shadra Styles 7:59

Well, again, my circle is small. I don't have a lot of friends, But no, but I have one best friend. And then, of course, like I said, family and friends. I mean what family in my kids? of course.

Styles 8:09

I think the whole best friend thing is debatable too, because I have multiple best friends Right, so my best friend basically is a tear. You can reach the best friend tear right, and then your best friends, and then you turn to your left to right and you see my other best friends, because Okay.

Shadra Styles 8:28

But with you, though, I would say, um are your best friends females.

Styles 8:33

So moving on to the next question What's the song for this season of your life? I?

Shadra Styles 8:40

was trying to think about that. I think right now I'm going to say Lucky Girl by Collina or Carlina, yeah.

Styles 8:49

Lucky Girl.

Shadra Styles 8:50

Yeah, it's the song on my last post on my Height and Heels page.

Styles 8:54

But um, yeah, i'm it, let me, i don't, i'm not familiar.

Shadra Styles 8:59

Do you want to hear it?

Styles 9:00

No, nothing. It would take time for you to pull it up, and you know how I feel about that air.

Shadra Styles 9:04

Well, you can go to my post after we get off of here and, and and listen for yourself.

Styles 9:10

All right, cool Um for brunch. What drink do you start off with?

Shadra Styles 9:15

Definitely Mamosa.

Styles 9:17

No, okay.

Shadra Styles 9:17

Or Bellini.

Styles 9:18

Bellini, okay.

Sound Bite 9:19

Bellini Um like a peach.

Shadra Styles 9:21

Bellini.

Styles 9:22

Okay, i thought Bellini's were just inherently peach. There are other types.

Shadra Styles 9:27

Oh well, i don't know.

Styles 9:29

If you could live in any sitcom, what would it be?

Shadra Styles 9:32

Um, yeah, let's skip it for now. Wait a minute. Can you answer these questions? or no, That's not that's not the way this goes. It's just me.

Styles 9:41

I mean it could, but I was just being a bully And since you should have answered some of those.

Shadra Styles 9:45

Yeah, I should have, but I didn't.

Styles 9:47

Okay, i did. We can circle back on a future episode, maybe. Okay, now that you're trying to make the rules, um, anyway, uh, let me see. Let me see. What would you consider a decent amount to spend on the first date? Now, let's let the people know that you live in Dallas.

Shadra Styles 10:07

Right, right.

Styles 10:08

So the dollar stretches there, you know, and I currently am in New York and you can't get off the block. What a dollar. So, god, i'm going to let you do your thing.

Shadra Styles 10:23

Um, let's see a decent amount for a first date. Well, i really wouldn't know, cause I don't really pay on first days, but if I did pay on first days. No, i'm just saying I just want to you know, um, put it out there. Um, i guess, about, um I don't know. I don't know. I'm gonna say like $100, $150, i don't know $150?. I mean, it depends on where we going.

Styles 10:53

I'm glad I prefaced that with like you can stretch a dollar in Dallas.

Shadra Styles 10:57

Maybe $200, I don't know like, if you going to.

Styles 11:01

In bed we spent.

Shadra Styles 11:01

Like. What restaurant are we going to? We?

Styles 11:03

spent like $240 the other night. just the other night That was $240 and it don't even feel like that with that 6-1 time, but we're gonna get back to that.

Shadra Styles 11:13

Okay, but that was here in New York, that's not in.

Styles 11:15

Dallas. That's what I'm saying, Yeah so I don't know.

Shadra Styles 11:18

I don't pay for first date, so I wouldn't know how much the tab is or what so.

Styles 11:22

Okay, that's right, because you don't even You want to be approached and not the approach, right, so I'm not gonna pay for the first date.

Shadra Styles 11:30

I'll definitely pay for second date if I invite you somewhere. But yeah, i'm not paying for the first date.

Styles 11:36

Okay, I hate you, Sorry. No, it's cool. nothing to apologize for. What's your dream vacation spot?

Shadra Styles 11:45

Bali Okay.

Styles 11:46

I was sure All right, why.

Shadra Styles 11:50

I don't know, it's like it's a vibe Pictures, but it looked relaxing, though at the same time Like, yeah, definitely Bali.

Styles 11:58

Okay, and last but not least, what's your example? What's your example of a thirst trap, a thirst trap. A thirst trap. It's not Chinese a thirst trap, What the fuck?

Shadra Styles 12:17

Can I get your example of a thirst trap?

Styles 12:20

Absolutely not. You can get your own podcast and you can ask questions. Wow, this is my podcast.

Shadra Styles 12:27

Quick play. All right, yeah, I don't know. I don't know A thirst trap, a thirst trap.

Styles 12:35

What's a thirst trap? I don't know what it is. I'm sure you know what a thirst trap is?

Shadra Styles 12:39

No, not really.

Styles 12:41

Bad with your 1.5 friends. I'm sure that you guys have had conversations about thirst traps.

Shadra Styles 12:46

We've never had a conversation about thirst traps.

Styles 12:49

Okay, so you've never had a friend that pulls something real crazy as far as like exuding sex, like dripping, dripping sex.

Shadra Styles 12:59

My friends don't do that kind of stuff Anymore. No, Yeah. I'm married. Well, i guess like, yeah, if you go back and think back, okay, well, how did you get your man? Then maybe, um, yeah, i don't know, i don't have an example of a thirst trap.

Styles 13:15

I don't know I wasn't thirst, trapped into a whole situation Like it wasn't. Nah, i don't think that up. Even I'm lying. I was about to say I don't think I've ever fallen into it Because you're a Leo, Anyway, um. I don't know why you got to bring that into it. So my, there was a follow up question, but you felt miserably on the first part of that. So, and have you sat in these? So I guess not. She being, she being pictures with turtlenecks In the middle of the fucking summer.

Styles 13:47

I'm here saying I don't know about thirst traps, i don't, i don't know A whole windbreaker. I'm fucking scheme ass.

Shadra Styles 13:55

That was gonna be sexy.

Styles 13:56

Like I'm attracted, yeah, i mean I cast, if you into that type of thing, right Shit, that's kind of crazy.

Sound Bite 14:04

Next question. There's no more questions. You got a question, all right, so.

Styles 14:07

I'm going to open up the floor to you. You got any questions.

Shadra Styles 14:10

No, I want you to answer the questions that I answered. I'm not going to go back to people don't want to hear that They don't want to hear you All right here.

Styles 14:15

I'll give you the paper and you can tell. You can ask the questions. Ask specifically what you want me to ask. Answer rather Go ahead.

Shadra Styles 14:22

Let's see How. about this one?

Sound Bite 14:24

What.

Shadra Styles 14:25

I'm not even going to call you and get you out of your bed at 3 am.

Sound Bite 14:28

Nobody.

Shadra Styles 14:32

You just playing it safe.

Styles 14:33

No, I'm not even playing it safe. Try calling me in the middle of the afternoon. You know you can't get me. What fuck? Why would you even think that you can call me at 3 in the morning and you can get me? You can't get me at 3 in the morning. You can't answer your phone even then At all.

Shadra Styles 14:45

I'm not, not even family.

Styles 14:48

Listen, see, you're going down a path where I would look at the phone because I know that I'm drinking, and then make a decision from there. I don't even know that it's ringing, so nobody. Okay, what's next?

Shadra Styles 15:02

Keeping it safe. I see How about this Answer the question that I didn't answer. If you could live in any sitcom, which would it be, martin? Well, sure.

Sound Bite 15:14

Right.

Sound Bite 15:15

Yeah.

Shadra Styles 15:15

Definitely, because I definitely wanted that type of relationship. When Martin was out, i was like, oh, martin and Gina, that's right. Okay, okay, um dream vacation.

Styles 15:26

Um, anywhere with my wife. You're so politically correct. Listen, I'm a podcaster.

Shadra Styles 15:34

I see What's the song for the season of your life.

Styles 15:39

Can I Live by Jay-Z?

Shadra Styles 15:41

What's your example of a thirst trap?

Styles 15:45

Let me see What's my example of a thirst trap, a chick on a grand with everything out. Well, twerking now because we're past pictures. So she could be twerking. She could be sitting there, you know, sticking the tongue out doing things, thirst trap it.

Shadra Styles 16:02

Why are those things showing up on you in your feed in the?

Styles 16:05

first place, my feed is filthy.

Shadra Styles 16:07

I have no idea why. I've seen your feed. It is filthy Very I don't know why, though. You know, why?

Styles 16:14

No, i don't know why. I promise you, i don't know why. I don't.

Shadra Styles 16:17

It's the Instagram algorithm. All right, let's Okay, this will be the last one. Thanks, call or FaceTime.

Styles 16:26

Um, text. The reason why text? because I can abruptly end the conversation and come up with a reason why I ended the conversation later. I don't need to, you know, figure out how I'm going to get off the phone.

Shadra Styles 16:38

Well, that's all I want to know.

Styles 16:39

And then if I do FaceTime, actually FaceTime too, because FaceTime I could just literally just start showing my surroundings to you and you'll want to get off the phone.

Shadra Styles 16:46

She's like why, you know, just surround her with shit, hit the uh button and be like oh.

Styles 16:52

I mean, I could do that too. I could do that too.

Segment Break 16:54

Main course, it's time to eat. What's on your mind All?

Styles 16:59

right. You know what? I think that the last few questions from the icebreaker segment actually led up to this. I'm going to get your take on this Okay, because I know where it probably diametrically opposed, but anyway, i got a quote off of the grab right. This came from Ruby Rose, um, and she said I feel like the man is supposed to chase the woman. She said she doesn't text or call guys first ever, unless it's her man or they're locked in. And then she also wanted to know what she asked Am I childless? Use your?

Shadra Styles 17:38

words.

Styles 17:38

That's the one It is. It is that lazy tongue. Women hate to hear that lazy tongue. Anyway, um, am I childish or is this the one? All right, i need to stop being childish right now and grow the fuck up. Am I childish or is this the way it's supposed to be? So I'm going to let you weigh in on that, because you know, of course, i have thoughts.

Traditional Gender Roles and Proposal Debates

Shadra Styles 18:06

Yeah, um, i would say well, i definitely I agree With the quote Um, because I'm, like I said before, like I don't. I feel like a man should chase. Of course, that's just my opinion.

Styles 18:22

Okay, at least we know opinion starts with a no. Oh, what else is your opinion? It's sarcastic.

Shadra Styles 18:32

Um, yeah, like I said, i just I feel like a man should be the one that's chasing the woman or or at least I would say, instead of like, like what one of your questions was, you know, chilling in the cut or shooting your shot? Like if a man shoots this shot, like I can appreciate that I'm, i'm just not that girl. Like I'm not going to chase after a man because I just feel like if you don't want to be with me, then you don't want to be with me. Why am I going to chase after you All?

Styles 18:58

right. So when you say chase, you mean after the initial introduction is over with, or I feel like. So what? okay, what is?

Shadra Styles 19:07

what is the scenario in that?

Styles 19:09

I don't know, she was confused. She put a bunch of shit in here.

Sound Bite 19:12

Okay.

Styles 19:13

Um, first of all, she says she's not calling or texting a guy first ever.

Shadra Styles 19:18

All right, And But she said, if it's her man or someone, she.

Styles 19:23

Unless it's a man, but if it's her man, which is a contradiction, like somebody had to go, somebody first.

Shadra Styles 19:30

Well, hopefully he. he called her first. You said hopefully, According to this quote.

Styles 19:36

he absolutely did Cause, unless you know they was out there throwing up gang signs and shit. I don't fucking know how that would happen, but yeah, no, um. And then she mentioned something about being childish.

Shadra Styles 19:49

I mean, I don't think that's childish too.

Styles 19:51

I think this, I think that It's a tradition.

Shadra Styles 19:56

It is a tradition, right?

Styles 19:58

We need to research and find out where this tradition came from, because I'm opposed to fucking European traditions And then black people, just you know, holding onto them. It's kind of like. I do know an African guy who's a Christian And on top of that, he's not just a Christian, he's a Christian priest, preacher, or pastor, there we go. One of those you know.

Sound Bite 20:19

Clearly I don't go to church.

Styles 20:22

But he's that and I had to ask him the other day. I was like yo, let me ask you a question. Before the Europeans came to Africa, didn't you have your own religion? What made you shed your religion and then rock out with them? Whole different conversations, so I'm going to leave that alone, but I feel like, you know, we should be in a space where one we do what we feel is comfortable right And I think she feels comfortable with that And not necessarily rest our laurels on what you know, what she feels like the tradition should be.

Styles 20:58

You and I have had heated debates over being the whole proposal thing.

Shadra Styles 21:02

Right.

Styles 21:03

Right Heated debates.

Shadra Styles 21:04

Heated Right.

Styles 21:07

And I personally don't want a woman to propose to me. I'm fine with it, but at the same time, though, i don't see anything wrong with a woman proposing to a girl I don't see anything wrong with it.

Shadra Styles 21:20

I think y'all should do it differently, don't get on your knees, yeah, and especially in the dress on your knees, like proposing? Definitely not. But again, like I said, my thing is, i mean I feel the same way, like I mean if a woman wants to do that, then that's fine. I'm not going to be like girl trying to, you know, run up and be like girl, don't do that, stop, don't propose or whatever. Because, again, i mean, if a woman wants to propose and that's on her, you know I can't, you know that's what she want to do, that's what she want to do. But I'm just saying for me, again, speaking for me, uh, yeah, i'm not doing that.

Approaching Relationships and Blessings

Styles 21:52

All right, so let's dig. Let's take a deeper dive, though, okay. Do you think that that type of mentality going back to Ruby Rose, do you think that that type of mentality might be blocking her blessings?

Shadra Styles 22:04

Some would probably say yes.

Styles 22:06

And you, i'm, i'm asking you, i don't care about the sum.

Shadra Styles 22:11

No, because I, because the only reason I say that's because I know, like um, looking again, going through Instagrams and posts and and seeing these type of conversations happen. You know, i've seen that conversation too, where you know um. You know if you see something you want, go after it. You know, being a woman, go after it. You know you blocking your blessing If you're not um, but for me, again, i don't. I don't think she's blocking her blessing.

Styles 22:38

Okay.

Shadra Styles 22:39

So if you're not going to be again and you can call me a traditionalist and all that, that's fine. I'm fine with that, Um, because I just feel like I mean, if a man, if you're in a relationship, and if a man has not proposed to you, I just feel like maybe you're just not the one, yeah, but you don't know the dynamic, i don't know.

Styles 22:57

I know the relationship And that's true, and we can't say that No no, no, and that's fine, that's true.

Shadra Styles 23:04

But yeah, for me, again, just my thoughts, because again you're, you're asking, you know, about how I think about it or what I think about it. Um, yeah, mm-mm. So I just feel like I mean, if he's not proposing to you, maybe you're not the one. So I don't see your blessings being blocked because he's not the one.

Styles 23:23

Anyway, So had I not approached you in the way that I approached you and I and you know there's a story behind that too, ladies and gentlemen, I'm just not going to get into it right now. I hate the backstory and I'm horrible at it. However, had I not approached you and I met my wife online had I not approached you Actually, you know what? What? Hold on, hold on, hold on Because, as memory serves me, you, kind of lightweight, approached me.

Shadra Styles 23:50

I did not.

Styles 23:50

Yes, you did. No, I didn't.

Shadra Styles 23:51

You're a liar, Because you were the one You stole the entertainment. See I had to clean that up, here we go I didn't want to get.

Sound Bite 23:58

Who was liking whose pictures That's not me approaching you, though I mean that's not All right so let me put it out there So what you went, so what you saying That is, if a person comes through, your great.

Styles 24:11

If a person comes through, starts liking your pictures, that's a form of No Okay.

Shadra Styles 24:18

Okay, so let's just give a little backstory, because okay. so someone I'm not going to mention any names- that was like in my pictures And so I did. I was like oh so is this how you flirt, or something like that.

Styles 24:34

So you reached out.

Shadra Styles 24:35

I did reach out.

Styles 24:35

Amen. So, ladies and gentlemen, just so you know, has won for styles and zero for sguide. Wow, really.

Shadra Styles 24:44

You can, but You just said it. I did reach, but no, you reached out first because he was liking my pictures. Okay, so I'll.

Styles 24:54

Sellers, beware, i was just That. Double tap is the double tap of deaf And you will get a story. We'll definitely get twisted. Go ahead.

Shadra Styles 25:03

That's. That's basically how I don't you know what.

Styles 25:05

I'm going to go back, because It's not even a form of communication. So what do you mean?

Shadra Styles 25:09

Listen, but we had already been.

Styles 25:12

No, no, no, no that was not at all Yeah.

Shadra Styles 25:15

So yeah, so I reached out and so I was like oh, is this how you, is this how you flirt? Is what I had And you were like something about yeah, this, i'm flirting, or something like that. And then we just started talking from here.

Styles 25:26

I mean, I got poetic after that but And that was it. Yeah, but you, you I guess that was like the You weren't thirst trapping. I want to be clear on that, Because you definitely had on turtle next, turtle next and makeup. Her face is beat. Who knew what that body in for?

Sound Bite 25:46

Wow.

Styles 25:47

But, um, so you weren't thirst trapping, i wouldn't like pictures. So is that your thing? That was your thing Like prior to me, and somebody likes your pictures and you reach out to them and that's the that opens the door for you. No, okay, because I mean okay, i'm just going to move, walk about it at. So you do go for what you want.

Shadra Styles 26:10

I'm a whole walking contradiction.

Styles 26:12

Clearly saying it No, definitely not.

Shadra Styles 26:14

No, she was like I'm not going to block my blessings, god damn it.

Styles 26:19

That nigga double tap, and I'm here for it.

Shadra Styles 26:23

Hey, that is not what you see, that is not what happened.

Styles 26:31

And I was like yes, ma'am, How you doing Um. anyway, yeah, All right.

Shadra Styles 26:40

Um, but had you not liked my pictures, right? No, i wouldn't have never probably said anything to you, though.

Styles 26:47

Okay, i mean, but all right. So let's also be clear, because you got me out here sounding like a simp, i wasn't. I didn't go through like 10, 15 pictures, it was like three.

Shadra Styles 26:56

No, it was a few. No, I'm going to tell you why.

Styles 27:00

So, boom, what I did was you did homework after I double tapped a couple of pictures and then I was also out in Houston and that was your segue and what you're waiting Like. Oh, he was down here saying because I had posted some pictures.

Shadra Styles 27:14

Yeah, you had a bunch of people making comments and I was just another person making a comment. That was it.

Gender Dynamics in Dating

Styles 27:20

That's a fact. Yeah, that's a fact. All right, maybe you got out of that one, yeah, move on What's your perception of women that do make their first move? Um like is it something? you sit on the sideline like damn. I wish I could do that, yeah, probably. Yeah.

Shadra Styles 27:34

I would say I mean, i definitely think it's all about. You know, i'm definitely for women empowerment and just women doing that thing, and so I mean for a woman to be able to do that and have the confidence to do that, definitely Like I would never take that away from a woman or be like, oh my God, why would she do that? Or, you know, think any different or less for a woman that does that? because no, that's. If a woman has the confidence to do something like that, go for it, girl.

Styles 28:03

See the thing, the head scratcher for me is this like I've definitely been approached and picked up for sure, right, and that's not an ego thing, that's just a real thing. But I guess it will put me in a headspace like the initial shock of it all. Like I like aggressive women. I don't like aggressive women. You get what? I'm saying Like is this, is this the height of your aggression Cause?

Sound Bite 28:25

I can't take anything else beyond that?

Styles 28:27

Yeah, You know we're not going to be slap boxing in the middle of the street because we play fighting. We're not doing none of that. So like is that? is this the height of it? You know I don't need you pulling out my chair when I'm sitting down and she's like that, opening up your door. All right, stop, cause we know we're going with that.

Shadra Styles 28:42

I'm just so glad. Yeah, we're going to leave it, leave it alone.

Styles 28:45

Let it die I know, you say Oh no, in New York, there's just no time to open up to so much.

Sound Bite 28:52

It's 20 minutes. It's 20 minutes. Listen, you gotta get in your car, i'm a handle.

Styles 28:57

You gotta make time One of us don't make it, somebody got us. You gotta make time.

Shadra Styles 29:06

I'm going to need you to open up my car door. I'm going to need you to open up the door. Remember that time we went on a date and you you didn't even open up the car door for me And you went ahead and walked around to the driver I'm standing there, like I know his nigga did that See, that's the difference between being southern and somebody on the East Coast.

Styles 29:32

We just offended an entire coast.

Shadra Styles 29:36

Because y'all do, y'all be moving fast here in. New.

Styles 29:39

York, like y'all ain't got time You just explained it. There's too much shit going on outside.

Shadra Styles 29:43

I'm gonna need you to make some time for that, all right.

Styles 29:45

We gotta get in the car half the time, which means you handle your car door and I'll handle mine.

Shadra Styles 29:51

I understand that That's cool.

Styles 29:53

And then when you, you can hop in first, and I'll keep my head on the swivel, and then vice versa.

Shadra Styles 29:57

Yeah, that's cool, but now I'm gonna need you up into my car door. I got you.

Styles 30:01

I mean, it was a lesson learned the other night, so I open all the doors, didn't I? Yeah, you do.

Shadra Styles 30:06

I did, you did. Okay, cool, because in the beginning I had to train him y'all. He wouldn't do it. I did.

Styles 30:12

My name is fucking Rova. What the fuck Do I bark too.

Shadra Styles 30:23

Oh man, all right Moving on.

Styles 30:29

The way I look at it is this Women that don't approach men, mm-hmm A. They follow one tradition right. Which I think is silly, and then B.

Shadra Styles 30:41

So she couldn't just be shy?

Styles 30:43

I'm getting there. Okay, go ahead. That's why I professed it with A. This is B, so B. I don't know if you have a real B or not, i do. Okay, good, it's ego driven. Okay, yeah, it's ego driven, i don't know. Woman likes rejection. See, dudes, we hate rejection too, but it's kind of like we've dealt with it for so long, we know what it feels like. It's not unexpected. So when we walk into the situation, we already know the potential of the hurt and pain that we could be in when we have to walk away from the situation. Hence, you know that lonely walk away, like that, lonely walk after you know I do the approach.

Shadra Styles 31:23

We had to turn around and walk back and go back to your seat. Holloway across the room.

Group Dynamics and Dating Objections

Styles 31:28

Exactly, put your head down. Yeah, exactly Exactly. And shit Fuck it If I approach you. It better be a group, this way you know you can say you're big, which one you want?

Shadra Styles 31:41

Somebody gonna get it, somebody gonna get it, somebody gonna laugh at it it draws Cause I'm gonna be a whole fucking comedian.

Styles 31:50

You might say no and she might be like but he's funny.

Shadra Styles 31:53

Yeah, she gonna be like okay, girl, i'll be right back, exactly.

Styles 31:59

And then you know, leo's are one of the most frowned upon signs in the astrology, for some fucking strange reason.

Shadra Styles 32:06

But you know, and then you'll get, yeah, you get that group, that's like You think it's because of the mouth. Like being sarcastic.

Styles 32:13

It's because of the shit I don't think Oh, i think it's the.

Shadra Styles 32:17

is it the ego?

Styles 32:20

It's not the arrogance either, you sure No, it's our low tolerance for bullshit And certain and unfortunately, people like to hear themselves speak. They're not always saying shit that makes sense or matters. We're the ones to tell you that. Okay. I mean it's not even. I mean you have to, you know, in a clever manner, to tell people that they're stupid without saying you're stupid, you know. So what I do is I just have people who plead to shit back to themselves slow.

Shadra Styles 32:46

Be like maybe they'll catch on to it. Yeah, yeah, exactly, Exactly. And then?

Styles 32:50

most times it's funny Like we both end up laughing. But anyway, get back to the group of women And it's just kind of like one of them is bound to like Elio, right, Wow So it's four Exactly.

Shadra Styles 33:01

No, no, think about it. Think about it.

Styles 33:03

So it was four, i'm thinking 3.5 are not going to like Elio right. But, I have a 0.5 chance of actually overcoming that objection right Cause there'll be one.

Sound Bite 33:14

That's that funny math.

Styles 33:15

Exactly, there you go, there you go. Cause three will be definitely no. Then there'll be one of being like no, yes, maybe, and I'm like all right cool, so no, yes, let's make it happen, that's all I need.

Styles 33:26

Kick that door wide open, stop playing. She's coming with me Now. Fuck out of here. Anyway, all right, but I definitely think it's an ego trip And I don't think that women know how to deal with objection, right, which is why you don't hear a lot about how women are like shooting a shot and shit like that. And then on the other side of that, some dudes be like yo. They're intimidated by women that shoot their shots Cause they be on a Kevin Hart. I'm with the man you know what I mean.

Styles 33:56

That type of shit. And if a dude is out and about whatever he could be out and about in between jobs, thanks. And then if you approach him, that ain't gonna be like wait a minute And you could be everything that he wants and needs in that moment Right, but he's not really.

Shadra Styles 34:12

Yeah, but and too, like you said, and I think, like you said, nowadays, well, in the time that we're in now, i do think a lot more women do shoot their shots. Now, you know, slipping in people, dms and that whole thing. So, but like I said, I mean, i don't know, i just you know to eat your song, you know, and, like I said, i would never put a woman down. but hey, if you, if you want to shoot, your shot go for it.

Styles 34:38

Shoot your shot.

Shadra Styles 34:39

Shoot your shot.

Styles 34:40

I'm here for it. I mean, I'm not here for it.

Shadra Styles 34:42

If you see something you like, go get it. Girl, exactly That's what I'm talking about.

Styles 34:46

Do it, don't be afraid of the whole Walker shame and all that other. I don't think women actually go through the whole Walker shame thing, though, like the women's Walker shame is basically waking up at a dude's house that lives with seven other people And you know, you in the back room and it's 10 o'clock in the morning. They all sitting at the table.

Shadra Styles 35:07

And you got to walk with tiptoeing athletes. Exactly You know where this bitch come from. With your weed cock to the side, you're fucking lashes hanging off. Hey, don't talk about that.

Styles 35:18

I'm just saying All them sisters look like Chinese fans and shit.

Shadra Styles 35:25

Who? all that is grandma that is doing the Walker shame. Okay, let me stop.

Styles 35:29

But think about it like this though Like yo for real, like real shit You. The Walker shame in the morning is crazy, right Cause I've done the Walker shame. I've done it at a college dorm actually, which was fucking weird, but anyway for a woman though, like if you do it and it's kind of like. Cause you know, everybody knows. Yeah, cause you not taking a shower. That's unfamiliar, yeah.

Shadra Styles 35:55

You get up and you get nothing but laughter 30 feet away.

Styles 35:59

You like nah, and they're not talking about you, cause they don't even know that you're there yet.

Shadra Styles 36:03

Right, but it's like a whole. You got to go through that.

Styles 36:06

Yeah, when you walk about that though, like a whole family bar if you happen in outside right now And you don't even know this dude So you know it's last night, you're not hopping in the shower So as you walk by, and especially me, i mean. But we might do a little burp And sink Just a little song. I mean, i hope so, but it is still. is just like you know that illus side up.

Shadra Styles 36:28

We know what you did, yeah. So when you walking out, craig, you ever did the walkshade. It wasn't really the Walker shame, why, well, all?

Styles 36:38

right. So the Walker shame consists of two or more people. One person you could, you could give a fuck Like you can blow it past that person, never think twice. But if it's two people, cause now you know those two people actually having a conversation.

Shadra Styles 36:51

But see, like I said, it wasn't really like the Walker shame. No, it was. It was. I don't even want to talk about it, nevermind.

Styles 36:58

We want to know who won as I sip my wine. Matter of fact, who won? Let me pour up.

Shadra Styles 37:04

Wait a minute And it was definitely back in the day, like back, oh no, no, no, no time ago. But it wasn't so much, like I said, the Walker shame, it was more, you know, like other people was in the room, kind of situation.

Styles 37:19

Wait a minute.

Shadra Styles 37:19

No wait.

Styles 37:20

Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. That's not a. there's nothing shameful about that If everybody signed a consent form.

Shadra Styles 37:26

Well, it okay, but it wasn't that type of party though It was. Just other people was in the room and then, like you know, Things started happening. Well, i was already like in the bead and other people Wait, so they wait time out?

Styles 37:39

Did they come in after you were in the bed?

Shadra Styles 37:42

It was, you know what. I think it was more like a sweet like it was.

Sound Bite 37:45

Can you stop trying to clean this shit up in this painting picture? No, okay, that's what it was.

Shadra Styles 37:49

I think it was more than people was already in there, but or maybe they did come in after the fact. You know, like it's been years I've slept since then. I don't remember it all, but yeah, no, it was definitely. I think some people had came in after the fact or something like that Of me being in the bed and done, but they ended up leaving, so like.

Styles 38:10

I said did they even know? Did they know, Or were you pretending to be asleep?

Shadra Styles 38:14

No, it was like the act was already over and done with. You know, are you just like in the bed, you know, with your person?

Styles 38:20

Yeah, marinating, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Shadra Styles 38:22

And then the people came in the room and kind of like did some walked around da, da, da, whatever they had forgot? Oh, they did what they was doing And then well, it wasn't sexual or nothing like that. They just like come in there, like like they forgot something, i don't know what it was, and then they walked back out. So I technically didn't have to do like a walk of shame, because they were already out the room, like when I had got up to leave.

Styles 38:42

Right.

Shadra Styles 38:43

But they was in there, like when I you know was in the bed and stuff like that.

Styles 38:48

All right, we gonna never mind all that bullshit Cause I had no idea, but it wasn't, that's what I'm saying.

Shadra Styles 38:53

It wasn't a walk of shame, though.

Styles 38:54

No, it definitely wasn't, it wasn't, so you shouldn't even mention this, okay.

Sound Bite 38:58

We're gonna cut that out.

Shadra Styles 38:59

Yeah, I pretend like y'all didn't hear that.

Styles 39:01

Yeah, how about that You want the last two minutes of your life back. All right. So to wrap this up, though, i think that and then, oh, there was a response from Blueface as well to this, and it's kind of late with me throwing this in there, maybe because I really didn't want to read it, and I think that still is a fucking idiot. Anyway, okay, respectfully. So he said the Bible says men should never chase women. You know how I?

Shadra Styles 39:24

feel about that. I ain't never seen that in the Bible, but okay, so I'm moving on to the next.

Styles 39:28

Yeah, i don't think this nigga even knows how to read, but you need to hear it or there We gonna let that ride. My thing is this the women that don't go for theirs, so to speak, those are the women that just think they're entirely too pretty for it to happen. You know, i have to disagree, but okay, No, no, no, no. some of them. I'm not saying all of them because I haven't met all the women on the planet, But I think that when I was younger, it was my ass cremation.

Shadra Styles 39:54

Okay, I better say I know you. That was the goal. That was the goal, Hey you no, hey ma.

Sound Bite 40:02

How are you?

Styles 40:03

Don't niggas want to buy you See me, i want to fuck for free, anyway. So those are the, those types, the pretty types, the eagle thing, because they don't want to get let down. What have you? I think I enjoy the type where it is the pretty woman doing, approaching, and if you ain't with it, you ain't with it.

Shadra Styles 40:21

They understand their value when they walk away, I think that shit is fire, right, right, so well I was, you know, like I said, as far as even with the women, well, with the men, as far as like, even rejection, you know, like if a woman isn't, um, you know, like if a man trying to shoot a shot, a woman, you know, is like, well, no, I'm good, or whatever. Like you know, a man has to be good too with the rejection of that, you know, because sometimes men would be like, yeah, niggas don't handle it well.

Shadra Styles 40:50

Not at all Throwing bottles, bitch, you was ugly anyway.

Styles 40:53

Which is retort like this, i don't even want to get in there.

Bay Nights and Blessings

Shadra Styles 40:57

So yeah, but yeah, just be respectful, of course, But again, like I said, for the women I mean the women that do it more power to you. I wish I had. I wish I had that much confidence to do it.

Styles 41:09

You don't need it.

Shadra Styles 41:10

I mean I'm saying back in the day, back before the I do's, and all that, Thank God you.

Styles 41:16

you didn't have the confidence because you might have found a different type of blessing.

Shadra Styles 41:19

I would have missed that on my blessing. Well, I don't know.

Styles 41:22

Well, this is a blessing, specifically, but there might have been another blessing out there for you. It's definitely ego driven and all this other thing, and not to repeat myself, because I'm drinking this wine and you'll probably be driving or doing whatever y'all doing like nigga when you get on with it. All right, cool, so I'm gonna get on with it And you got any closing words.

Shadra Styles 41:38

No, you could Go ahead.

Styles 41:39

I'm gonna get that. You know you wish that women would do.

Shadra Styles 41:43

No. Bay night, sexy nights and good food.

Styles 41:48

So this is the part of the show that every one of my guests have managed to fuck up in the 10 episodes that I've actually recorded. Not everyone, not every one of them. Actually, i have some really, really, really good Bay nights. Shout outs to Danielle. Shout outs to a couple of the other ones. I'm, danielle was definitely one of my favorite ones, but I'm gonna let you do this. Why are you looking at me crazy? You don't look at me crazy.

Shadra Styles 42:13

What are we doing? We're talking about.

Styles 42:14

Bay night. Actually we can talk about a day night. We had the other night, So she touched down the other night. We were supposed to do five dates and five nights, right? So that turned into a two and a possible. Here we started playing spades with it. That's what we do. But yeah, two and a possible, that's funny. That's funny, all right. So she touched down What we do the first night We um oh, we just ordered food ordered food watch movies watch movies, did some adult things.

Shadra Styles 42:44

We'll try to watch movies with somebody who went to sleep, but go ahead.

Styles 42:47

Yeah, I don't even understand why you keep telling my business like that. Come on. Okay, so we watch movies, ate some food, blah blah blah. That was cool because you know we did the whole catch up thing. Right. So the following night we went to this spot called free bird Okay, So free bird. The aesthetic was fire.

Shadra Styles 43:11

Nice Right, that's what you agree. Yeah, all right Cool.

Styles 43:17

So, uh, what do you want to?

Shadra Styles 43:20

Um the chicken and waffles.

Styles 43:21

Chicken and waffles. We don't collect it Right Chicken and bricks.

Shadra Styles 43:25

I'm always trying to, um, you know, find a good chicken and waffles or shrimp and creases. Um, whenever it's on the menu, i'm like, okay, let me see how good you know, but right, It was, it was a oh, okay.

Styles 43:37

Let's tell them what I ordered.

Shadra Styles 43:40

Oh, what you ordered.

Styles 43:42

She's getting a relationship to become a fucking bully. Oh yeah, i won't approach you, but I definitely hit you with this elbow after I get to know you. So I have a salmon and, uh, it was salad and a salad. It came with a salad. Now, white people I don't understand the pomegranates. No, definitely white people, because black people don't do this shit, so I don't like. When I was younger, we get the pomegranate or whatever, and we used to call them Chinese apples back in the day That's what they were called.

Styles 44:13

And when I grew up, they turned into pomegranate all of a sudden, and I even realized they were Chinese apples.

Shadra Styles 44:18

I'm pretty sure they was pomegranates back then. No, they weren't, it might have been. No, they weren't It might stop it.

Restaurant Review and Food Critique

Sound Bite 44:23

It might have been an age. I feel like I found it. I feel like.

Styles 44:27

I found it. I feel like I found out that they were fucking Chinese apples in this moment.

Shadra Styles 44:32

I'm sure there was pomegranates Like can you?

Styles 44:35

Google.

Shadra Styles 44:36

Chinese apples?

Styles 44:38

I'm sure it's not going to put a picture of a pomegranate. Listen, I probably couldn't pronounce it when I was younger.

Shadra Styles 44:43

So you just made up the word.

Styles 44:45

There weren't any whole foods when I was coming up, so basically it was Chinese fucking apples, okay.

Shadra Styles 44:50

Where you get that from. You know what I'm a Google Chinese apples.

Styles 44:53

Chinese fucking apples. Okay, so did the whole thing Now with the pomegranate, right, I didn't know what When I was younger. You know we bite into it and it spit the seed out. So you get the juice, whatever, whatever, and spit the seed out, But apparently you're supposed to eat the seed too. Pause.

Sound Bite 45:15

Right.

Styles 45:15

So I'm sitting here and I'm like so they brought out this whole plate, or whatever. The salmon was phenomenal, phenomenal, but that salad was definitely straight out the backyard from the dirt, it was fresh, yeah For a while I was still on it.

Shadra Styles 45:38

It was so fresh.

Styles 45:40

They washed it Little false and water Sprinkle some pomegranate on it. It was a lot. It was spinach, it was spinach You know they lightly bathed it in some type of I don't know, some bland ass something. It was like a vinegar or something. It wasn't, though. It had potential to be vinegar, but it just didn't turn out like that.

Shadra Styles 46:11

Interesting.

Styles 46:12

Yeah, now you can tell them about your chicken and bricks.

Shadra Styles 46:18

Yeah, so the chicken was good. The chicken was good. I don't know about the waffles. The waffles was a little bit too dry for my taste. I mean, i've had waffles where you know, like okay, they still kind of fluffy on the inside, but yeah, those waffles was pretty crumbly and hard. So I'm not sure. But yeah, but the chicken was pretty good though.

Styles 46:41

Yeah, but I was offended at the fact that you sat there and said that the shit was nasty. Right, not nasty. You know I'm paraphrasing. I know you're a little bit more elegant than I, but then you hit me with it. You want to try this and I was like what the fuck? what I?

Shadra Styles 46:54

want to try. I want you to experience what I'm experiencing.

Styles 46:56

That's why listen that shit. That shit dissolved in my name and dissolved in my mouth, but it was, it was. It wasn't what it should have been. That was, that was a problem.

Shadra Styles 47:09

It wasn't what it should have been and then they were kind of they weren't even warm. Well, the chicken was more hot and yeah, i know. So I basically gave it what I give a seven out of ten.

Styles 47:20

Yeah so we got about it there.

Shadra Styles 47:24

Yeah, talk about the, the fries, oh the fries were crazy.

Styles 47:28

Yeah, we had the pork, pork And it was sweet potato fries.

Shadra Styles 47:33

They were sweet potato fries.

Styles 47:36

And those were phenomenal.

Shadra Styles 47:39

Yeah, they were pretty good.

Styles 47:41

I want to go back right now for those. I don't like just to take out. No no, fuck it. So, alright, so on top of that, because you said so, so we got about it in. And Also, they had some live music that started to play towards you know the end of the night and stuff like that, you know so yeah, that was pretty cool. And then we we had, we had reservations for the rooftop, but um, mother nature decided to play games again and forget that she must be on.

Shadra Styles 48:22

Yeah, so that was. Um, it was like the ambiance in there was really nice Food, like I said, probably if I had ordered something else, but oh, and the service service was dope. Oh, the service is really good service was dope.

Styles 48:35

You can't go wrong with that.

Shadra Styles 48:37

And the drinks we did have.

Styles 48:39

Drinks We had drinks at a hen is a fire Hennessy, which consisted of a bunch of shit that I'm not gonna name right now because I can't remember. However, it was supposed to be smoky and Although there was minimal smoke when he actually poured it.

Shadra Styles 48:53

Flavor was there. It definitely was smoky for sure.

Styles 48:56

Mm-hmm, what'd you?

Shadra Styles 48:56

drink. I had the picking a peach, something to that. That's what it was called on the menu. Yeah, um, it was really good. Nice Refreshing drink. Um, yeah, it was good. But yeah, like I said, i definitely give The food, definitely seven out of ten. Service was a ten out of ten, i guess service was a ten out of ten.

Styles 49:21

For sure I'm beyond.

Shadra Styles 49:22

So ten out of ten for sure.

Styles 49:25

So what we did was we got about it in, took a couple of selfies on the way out, looking crazy Because you know we old and shit, you know all the millennials speak for yourself, listen, yeah, okay. All right. So this is a thing, but you all the beautiful.

Shadra Styles 49:38

Okay, but you're older, so it doesn't matter.

Styles 49:40

I'm married, i want to get my one. I won. It's like I don't even need to be out here like, see, think it's to be out here. Like Looking like a fucking wet bag of socks and Unattached to anything, talking about I'm never gonna get married. I'm gonna. I'm gonna be by myself the rest of my life. Listen, across the finish line. I'm good, all right, and I'm not too shabby, so Thank you, I appreciate you.

Styles 50:08

Well, i hope so. So we got up out of there. When we left, i actually was still hungry, be oh, they put it on, didn't? they put it on a better plan, like not that, it was a puddle of polenta the salmon.

Shadra Styles 50:25

Um, I didn't see it on anything.

Styles 50:27

Okay, Well, Oh was it was. No, I wasn't.

Shadra Styles 50:31

It looked like plate but it wasn't real quick.

Styles 50:33

Talk about it.

Shadra Styles 50:35

Chinese apples. I looked it up palm granates, also called Chinese apples. All right, yo, i'm out. All right, cool Yeah.

Styles 50:54

All right, so we just muted her mic, ladies gentlemen, it was an act of God and I'm God sitting here at this fucking uh board. So here we go. We got up out of there because I know you guys are waiting here. What? what happened next? We, we got up out of there.

Shadra Styles 51:11

Can you swear my mic? I'm not turning shit on.

Styles 51:13

We got up out of there and, um, i'm like yo, i'm still hungry, though Luckily enough, cheesecake factory was around the corner. So we decided to go around the corner to you know, cheesecake factory. Unbeknownst to me, that karma, that bitch was hitchhiking in my back seat. Because we got there, got out, we ordered some food. Remember, i said I was hungry, we ordered some food, went straight to the bar Give me some food. So We get the fried wontons, right, fried wontons, i think, like 13 dollars.

Shadra Styles 51:50

So we're in friday with potstick potstick is whatever.

Styles 51:55

No more wine for you and i'm fucking muting you like so over here talking hella, shit, they were, they were potstickers. Well, you got the flatbread right, you got the flatbread. That everything. Flat, flatbread, fatbread, that's funny. Um, you got the everything flatbread.

Shadra Styles 52:13

No more wine for you either.

Styles 52:15

Uh, yes, I got the flatbread. So we got four minutes to get through this.

Styles 52:22

I just need four minutes Relax. This is what happens when you come back after a year and a half. Um, okay, she had that. So your man brings out the plates and shit like that. Remember I said this shit was 13 bucks, right. And this this, uh, what is it? Let me move this glass this? um, cheesecake factory is attached to Whole Foods. Your man comes out with the potstickers. There are five of them, five baby potstickers. I'm like, oh, this must be like. They must be gold inside these motherfuckers for 13 dollars, right. So I started doing my fucking funny math. I'm like, but you can go right next door To Whole Foods, like if they get the frozen bag from next door because clearly you got it from next door.

Styles 53:06

The motherfuckers was definitely not chef, any shit's up in the back.

Shadra Styles 53:10

They were not making them from scratch At all.

Styles 53:13

Right, it's like 30 in a bag, right. Five and 50, 20, 30, that's five batches and 13 dollars. 26, 50, 40 Yo son, you making about 70, 80 dollars over each bag of five.

Shadra Styles 53:29

Look, times are hard. We got to ration out everything at this point and this one sitting here talking about too slow.

Styles 53:37

I don't want you slow. Anyway I was. I wasn't happy about that.

Shadra Styles 53:43

Um, The drink Was uh, I had a lemon drop.

Styles 53:49

You did What did.

Shadra Styles 53:50

I have something frozen.

Styles 53:52

It was worldly? I don't know I don't frozen drinks throw me because it always seemed like there's not enough alcohol in frozen drinks at all. I don't care what you do, except when we went to jamaican We had to buy a molly, like we lived off of them. Sheds right, but um, yeah, now back in the stage. I'll play too much. Anyway um, we dropped another way 120 dollars there for that.

Shadra Styles 54:18

Oh yeah, you definitely need to hear mootadallas because The cheesecake. Yeah, I don't know about that. Yeah, it was crazy that one worth it.

Styles 54:29

No, it wasn't even there for like 45 minutes and then we they validated the ticket, the parking ticket.

Shadra Styles 54:34

Then we get out to the park and I still had to pay the three dollars.

Styles 54:38

So yeah, that bitch calm was sitting in my back seat laughing her ass off. Um, um, yeah. So that's about it for bay night this week. Next week, hopefully we do something better for y'all, hopefully dessert.

Segment Break 54:52

I hope you guys enjoyed your meal. Can I get you something off of our dessert menu?

Styles 54:58

All right. so you know what We didn't talk about, either of the thing We just talked about your instagram handles, you know, tell them a little something, make it quick, because you only got two minutes, all right.

Shadra Styles 55:08

So real quick, yeah. So my instagram handles is hiding hills, um, and also flights, fashion and food, flags, fashion, fashion and food Is basically gonna be, or it's still growing, but basically just um, all things flights, taking trips, you know, food, anything food related and, of course, fashion style over there. Um, hiding hills was basically my um, um Modeling page. I guess you can say, um, but uh, i will be, you know, creating a youtube channel as well, uh, which is gonna basically incorporate a lot of the flights, fashion and food and lifestyle. So, um, once I get that created, i'll let you know and uh, yeah, I tell people they can find you heights And heels on instagram, or flights, fashion and food on instagram.

Shadra Styles 56:07

Yeah, that's it.

Styles 56:09

All right, so this was fun. We won't make this a habit.

Shadra Styles 56:12

I enjoyed you.

Styles 56:13

Uh, you better Um.

Shadra Styles 56:18

I hope you have that Always. It's your wine, but okay.

Styles 56:21

You really spilled that whole fucking bottle. I do, i mean it was a glass. It feels like a bottle now because the bottle's finished, All right anyway. Um people, thank you for joining us at the bunch out podcast.

Styles 56:38

If you have any questions, comments. Well, you know all that other shit. Anyways, in my fucking outro I think it's an outro, we're about to find out It's that time again and since we really don't know how to say goodbye, i'm not gonna say goodbye, but listen what I will ask, part. I'm not even asking. If you liked it, please don't forget to like, comment, subscribe and shit. Um, and that's homework. Also, there is no. Also, we'll catch you next week. We'll save a seat at the table for you.

Sound Bite 57:08

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