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Unveiling Identity: Exploring Pride, Relationships, and Personal Growth W/ Danielle
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How does that pride shape our identity? Join us as we dive into this intriguing topic, with our special guest, Danielle formerly of the Chocolate Wasted podcast. We share hilarious anecdotes about growing up in the Big Apple, (Danielle is from Illinois) reminisce on our family ties, and explore how we supported each other during the COVID lockdown.
We also touch on topics such as dating, intuition, and protecting your peace. With Danielle's insight, we discuss her signature drink called 'Put the Lime in the Coconut,' our favorite indulgences, and the do's and don'ts of FaceTime etiquette. Plus, we delve into love and its portrayal in movies like Black Movies, Queen Slim, and Poetic Justice, while contemplating the power of energy and the importance of taking risks.
Lastly, our conversation navigates the complexities of the social media phenomenon 'Thirst Trap' and its impact on today's dating scene. We emphasize the significance of being honest about our relationship needs and the dangers of getting caught up in the superficial aspects of attraction. Don't miss out on this engaging and thought-provoking episode with Danielle.
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Good afternoon, good evening, good morning, good something, good day. How about that? Good day? I have no idea when you're listening to this. Anyway, this is your boy, Stiles. Listen, i gotta have a question right, and this is where we're going to start off at. I really just let that shit ride out. Anyway, listen, if you approach a New Yorker right, this is my question, and I guess this is the scenario in which I'm pulling this question from If you approach a New Yorker, that New Yorker happens to be out of town, a real New Yorker, not a transplant, all right, not somebody that was born somewhere else and then went to New York or whatever, and none of that.
Speaker 1Respectfully, i'm talking about somebody born in bread, in the city, all right, born in the five boroughs, not New York upstate or anything like that. Respect to them. Shout outs to you, know, schenectady and all of that, but I'm talking about the city. They will quickly give you the borough before they give you anything else. Like, if you approach me, i'm out of town, you from New York, instinctively I'm just going to say Brooklyn, i'm never going to say New York. That's some crazy shit, you know, and it might be because this shit is coursing through our veins. You know all of that, like that shit is like I don't know. It's literally coursing through our veins. And then, of course, the ego was retarded.
Speaker 3So the ego was like I'm him, i'm not them. I'm him Jones, i'm him Duncan. I will beat a nigga ass and stomp him in my himber lens. I've been him, i'm always be him, i'm gonna stay him, i'm not them. You understand me.
Speaker 1And with that saying, i need to grow the fuck up. Just not today, though. Let's get to the show.
Speaker 3I used to be in love with this bitch. They me and J The fuck with her. no more. now I fuck with Tango Ray. Tango Ray, hey yo. what Then? do we need two shots? It's a combo All right.
Speaker 1so this one I'm excited for. I'm super excited for this one right Because I have a family to the show, not a friend to the show. family to the show, like when I say that anybody that you've made friends with when you were locked behind doors because the government said you had to lock your doors and hello fresh was your best friend And that's what it is. I have Danielle from the chocolate wasted podcast, hey. Danielle.
Speaker 1Say hello to the people in there, hey y'all. Oh, we definitely are, they definitely are. I'm gonna need a lot of the youngs for these glasses, these glasses that pop in, yeah. I like, i like where see now which is that's EES.
Speaker 4Yeah, that's yeah, we out here, we see and out here.
Speaker 1That's a fact, though. See in the style though.
Speaker 4Yeah, for sure. I'm excited to be here, for sure.
Speaker 1Excited to have you You know we go back. We do, we do. Can I tell a short story?
Speaker 4Yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 1I make this three sentences or less. During COVID comma, still continuing the sentence, danielle was selling shirts. It was like some melanin pop and whatever. It was black, but it had the gold, what you call it.
Speaker 4Yeah, gold vinyl. Yeah, for sure, right, i'm in here.
Drinks, Merchandise, and FaceTime Etiquette
Speaker 1I ain't doing nothing. I ordered the shirt because, of course, i support everybody who I fucks with, so I ordered a shirt. Shirt come up sitting on the floor. I just got matter of fact this time right here. I just got this and I got the brunch hour joint right and took a picture. I think I'm in GQ with some shit looking crazy because I couldn't get to the barber. Fuck it, it is what it is, right, you know. But I greatly appreciate that shirt. Still have that shirt. But you know, after COVID, too big for the shirt.
Speaker 4Thank God I'm black. That was definitely merch. It was fire, yeah, i appreciate that I got to find mine. Now you're going to make me want to wear mine You got to. I don't know where it's at.
Speaker 1It's only right. Well, this is what I'm doing. As far as the mixed drinks are concerned, I really don't have that this week, but this is what I do. Have I made a run of Dunkin Donuts? Did you Right? I did. My wife calls it mud water. She can't stand the shit she does.
Speaker 5Yes, I mean.
Speaker 1I need to elevate my game. I get it.
Speaker 4It's alright, in due time.
Speaker 1I need a pay bump to go to fucking Starbucks, man. But look what I did, though. Oh okay, i'm going to go to. Starbucks. Yeah, so I put the screwball peanut butter whiskey in it In here, yeah, oh God. You, you, you finessing, Yeah, kind of sort of Kind of sort of This is like I get away with this shit at work. I don't drink at work, by the way, you just said you, but if I were to drink at work, i would get away with it.
Speaker 4Okay, cool, we on a recorded line.
Speaker 1That is the one. Nothing to do with me. I am useless.
Speaker 4Man, what are you drinking? You drinking something, so I mean, i keep, i keep watering here all day, but once I wrap up, because I don't like drinking on an empty stomach and I got to eat dinner before I drink, like we getting old Copy that Copy that Cool, gracefully, but still the drink that I've been hitting on I made it up. Well, a little bit, i bit off of something that I had at a restaurant and then I finessed it, so I made this up. I call it put the lime in the coconut, right, right, it's tequila reposito, lime juice and cream of coconut shaking over ice.
Speaker 1So it's like a pina colada hybrid Lime with the joint.
Speaker 4I got it. Yeah, wow, it goes crazy Because you know, most cases pina coladas, they use rum, right, tequila, and I don't measure none of this shit, so it's hard for me to tell you. Hey, yeah, this is how you do it, i just be pouring shit Right, somebody mama back there making drinks. I be pouring shit, i just be pouring shit, but it's really one of those where you need two, two macks. Put the lime in the coconut to get you right.
Speaker 1That's crazy. You should have told me that before, because I definitely would have tried my hand at it. As a matter of fact, that shit just might pop up. Yeah, you credit though.
Speaker 4Yeah, but this should definitely pop up on one of these episodes. Psycho sources, that's all I ask.
Speaker 1Oh, nah, nah, nah. You know what it is, what it is.
Speaker 5I'm going to have to picture it up again, you don't plagiarize over here.
Speaker 1Absolutely not, absolutely not, absolutely not All right. So this is what we're going to do I'm going to hit you with quick hitters.
Speaker 2Let's get it Because the audience wants to know who you are.
Speaker 1Yeah, they want you to leave for the people that are driving in the car. They're not going to get to see the lip and the glasses and all the other. You know, you know The aesthetic. That's all right, though I wouldn't tell them to close their eyes, but I want them to crash.
Speaker 4Yeah, we don't need them.
Speaker 1So this is what we're going to do. I'm just going to go through a list of things, run it Right, and then they're going to develop their own guest profile in their heads Right. So let's start with this Text. call or FaceTime.
Speaker 4It's dependent on the situation. Can I break that down? Sure. All right. There are certain people that I'd rather text. There are certain people that I'm okay with calling. There's a select few people that can FaceTime me.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 4Okay, so what's situational? Respectfully, i feel like I made a post the other day kind of talking about like people who kind of FaceTime without notice, you know like the people who will call without you know like we texting that don't mean call me, or we on the phone that don't mean FaceTime. And especially like I feel like somebody who FaceTimes you that don't really have the clearance to do that kind of a thing.
Speaker 1Right.
Speaker 4That's kind of like you. Just that's like forced entry, i feel like, because that's very personal.
Speaker 1I'm going to take a time. I've heard that and I'm going to politely disagree because it's the thing, right.
Speaker 4You breaking into my home and I'm going to alert the authorities.
Speaker 1You are not Stop. You're doing too much. Now Listen, i'm not the authorities.
Speaker 1This is the thing. I'm a former enjoy user right So I would never understand what these psycho Apple people would be talking about. as far as like FaceTime, like oh, facetime me, i'm like yo y'all make it sound like if somebody FaceTime you, it automatically opens up the phone and you can see their face. What it is not like. duo duo used to do that. You see, call it, knock, knock right, but which all it doesn't do that. So if that, person FaceTime.
Speaker 1You come on so the phone call bill collectors are intrusive, all of that I can't stop them from calling because I ain't asked for this which is fine. So just you can politely decline or aggressively decline or whatever, because they can't see it. All they see is the client.
Speaker 4If I could do the like the old flip phone clack.
Speaker 1That's what I'm the odd 90s right. That's crazy. I used to love those. Just for that. Um, all right, Yeah.
Speaker 4So, it's selective, it's selective.
Speaker 1No, no, no, I get that part. The part that I don't understand is like why is this? you know a visceral reaction to a FaceTime call. Like I think what happens is when you decline it, the person on the other end feels worse than you feel. When you decline it, you get what I'm saying, like I've been declined before and it's kind of like oh, i didn't know, all could have been avoided had you just got the okay go Like that's you.
Speaker 4You don't. You don't match the gas at a red light. You wait till it turned green. Get the green light FaceTime.
Speaker 1All right, come here with your analogies, making it make sense. Yeah, you right, though. That's a fact, though.
Speaker 4That's all.
Speaker 1That's a fact.
Speaker 4That's all I'm saying, i just said that's a fact. I just said, literally unexpected FaceTimes are so intrusive. There's a sprinkle of people I even talked to on the phone. They're permitted, you know, hey, facetime me, you know, if I'm free and free if I'm not, i'm not, i'll hit you back. But the random FaceTimes be given breaking and entering energy, like, and I'd be ready to alert the authorities.
Speaker 1There's a lot of people who agreed. For those who are listening and your friends with Danielle, you better get that permission slip sign. Please Just don't go hitting that button.
Speaker 4There's an expiration date on them slips too. Oh my God. I'm just telling them, just talking shit.
Speaker 1You're doing a lot right now.
Speaker 4You got to pay for registration too, oh, man, You know you got to pay your dues.
Speaker 1I hear you Boom Shoot, your shot of chill in the cut.
Speaker 4I'm going to shoot that jumper You want to shoot your jumper. Hell yeah, what does that look like?
Speaker 1I'm going to put you all the way on the spot. What does that look like?
Speaker 4I mean, if I like something, i say something. Oh Okay, i've kind of always like I have not always been like that I feel like maybe as I came to more confidence in myself, like Sometimes I mean even the Bible says you have not because you ass not.
Speaker 1So What's today? It's not Sunday. It's still pulling scripture out. I hate you.
Speaker 4I'm just saying, i'm not, look.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 4But seriously, in a lot of cases people pull that whole shy roll and a lot of the times, like you never understand. sometimes people kind of feel the same way And they might be shy. so both of y'all shy and I say nothing, missed opportunity. So I'm gonna shoot the J. What's the worst that could happen?
Speaker 1No Bruised ego. Bruised ego.
Love, Movies, and Sneakiness
Speaker 4That I mean. Even that it kind of just. You can't feel entitled to a yes all the time.
Speaker 1I mean, I don't think that people feel entitled to a yes.
Speaker 4That's what I'm saying, so. But at the same time, though, like You'd, be like oh damn, i was hoping it was a yes.
Speaker 1And then you already. It is the thing When you show up to the situation. If you're not reading it right.
Speaker 4You gotta be able to read energy too, though Like you can kind of peep and feel to a degree.
Speaker 1I see we're gonna have an argument.
Speaker 4You could peep it to a degree Like am I saying that everybody who's interested in you is giving these, just like these super expressive notions like yeah, come get it? Like no, but there's no harm in shooting your shot, aside from the bruised ego in which you'll get over. But would you rather miss the shot because you didn't take it?
Speaker 1I mean, i would feel the same walking away that I felt prior to the shot, except for the anxiety of sitting here wondering not even wondering, but debating whether I should take the shot or not.
Speaker 4I mean, sometimes you just gotta shoot, Yeah.
Speaker 1And that's not to say all right, cool. That's not to say that I'm not taking the shot. We're talking to Danielle right now.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1Because I'm taking the shot every time. Yeah, okay, i'm gonna shoot Black movies. Black movies.
Speaker 4I see, yeah, I'm gonna shoot.
Speaker 1Black movies. We got the. We got the photograph Queen Slim if Bill Street could talk, which I saw in the movie theater, and a late edition poetic justice.
Speaker 4I'm kind of toss up between the photograph and also poetic justice, because they're kind of similar in their love story. You had a woman who was, you know, more prestigious, and then you have a man who's not really. I don't want to say not on shit, but you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4You have two. Pah Koo was, you know, he wasn't the acclaimed like let me see what this brother's talking about over here. He was fine, Like he fine, right. But at the end of the day, what I love about both stories is that they had to journey through the ups and downs in order to kind of reconnect with each other, like, yeah, you for me, Understood, I'm a lover girl. I love love.
Speaker 1Right.
Speaker 4So Okay.
Speaker 1Go ahead. I think on the love wavelength we're pretty much the same, right? Yeah, i'm the same way, but if Bill Street could talk, that shit moved me. It shook me to my core, as a matter of fact, because, like just the whole inner city life, the trials and tribulations were like I cried a lot.
Speaker 1They were yeah, they were real, yeah. But it kind of reminded me of when I grew up You get what I'm saying Like I'm not a 70s baby, because I believe it was like 70s, early 80s type, like that whole timeframe which they did what they did, but I wasn't 80s baby. Yeah. You know, and shit was rough, but the love that emerged from that, you would have seen it. I'm saying love is different when it when it comes from war, as opposed to the person that lives right above you on the fourth floor.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1Right That you just bump into in the elevator all the time. Yeah, you know, you're not the school with but when you go through it together, you want to say and I'm saying, i'm talking like different families, there's a certain level of relatability and connectivity.
Speaker 4Yeah Yeah, yeah Yeah.
Speaker 1Trauma bonding almost to a degree but still, you know, yeah, i know, i know I'm toxic. I'm not toxic, but you know.
Speaker 4You know I feel like in love there's essentially a certain level of whether it be you trauma bonding on the other side of the healing that you did.
Speaker 1Right.
Speaker 4Because there's, i feel like there's two coin. You know there's a. There's two sides to that coin, you know. Are we trauma bonding based on solely the trauma or the fact that we overcame it?
Speaker 1That's a fact. That's a fact. So it yeah, it definitely depends on the two individuals.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1Right, cause you can grow up in a crack house and never sell crack or use it, and still going to be president of the country. A fact, right. So that whole thing. So that's, that's damn. I never, i didn't get that shit in no thought Perspective. You shake that perspective. That's what I'm here for, absolutely All right. So what's the? what's the song for this season of your life? Shut.
Speaker 4Your song Immediately. I'm telling you shut it down, drake, drake, what Shut?
Speaker 5it down.
Speaker 4Shut it down. It's a oldie, but I've been replaying that damn thing. Replay on the replay Yes, i'm not even I'm not familiar. Him and the dream.
Speaker 1I'm not a. Okay, you know why How old you talking, cause you know that nigga was moist at one point.
Speaker 4I mean, he was, this was, this was soft Drake.
Speaker 1Hmm, or he was moist, all right, this was soft Drake. What Look at?
Speaker 4this come out? Um, shut it down. This was when Drake barely had, like his beard was kind of steadily coming in at this point. This was young chap Drake.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 4For sure, the album thank me later. This came out in 2010,. But this is why I really like. I feel like he said like go, go, go get him girl, but it sounds like he says go Coco, and Coco is my middle name, not my middle name, but you know my nickname.
Speaker 1So you just out here remixing songs again. Go Coco, hit him girl I imagine Yeah, that's my shit, i just want to really like even just the title of the song.
Speaker 4Like you know, you've had your humble season and you've had your season where you kind of you you went to mud with it and you kind of develop it and you coming into your own and you, you know you might have had your things that you've endured, and now's the time where you, you've been humble long enough. So shut that shit down.
Speaker 1I feel you Shut it down. Coming in with you. This fuck it. I think I put too much um whiskey in that coffee. See Niggas starting to lean to the left a little bit. Oh snap, it was like Stads, you not in frame. My fault. I'm back. I need to kickstand right now.
Speaker 4Man, you're putting no elbow on for some.
Speaker 1Yo I, but I am kind of. I need your chair. That's what I need.
Speaker 4Well, you seen this chair.
Speaker 1Yeah, i did, oh, yeah.
Speaker 4This chair is official.
Speaker 1I was lightweight, jealous and shit, because I'm sitting on a fucking bar stool, oh yeah. And you got to be drunk to sit on bar stools.
Speaker 4See, i work from home, so you got to have like a good, like a good ergonomic chair Working from home For sure.
Speaker 1Yeah, let's get to the nitty gritty, though Let's do it. Who's sneakier, men or women?
Speaker 4Again subjective Who do?
Speaker 1you think is sneakier You know I'm a Libra Stiles. Who do you?
Speaker 4think.
Speaker 1Women, women, women. Yeah, all right, it's so good, we can do it now Go ahead.
Dating, Intuition, and Protecting Your Peace
Speaker 4All right. If a woman's doing something and she gets caught, she don't give a fuck. Is that right, though? In most cases, like don't give Right. In the instances that I know Right, when a woman just don't cover her tracks to a point where you figure some shit out. and you end up figuring it out, it's like all right, whatever, i'm willing to eat it.
Speaker 1But does that make her sneakier or just a fucking savage?
Speaker 4No, i'm just saying, in those instances, if she gets caught, it's because she didn't care, right? No, that's fine, I need you to, so watch that away.
Speaker 1You only answered the question Now, you just giving us.
Speaker 4I'm just putting some shit out there. You know I'm sorry, Apologizing in advance, But like the women that I know who have kind of had some sneaky energy to them, he never figured shit out, But if she didn't want him to, In the instances where I felt a man was doing dirt women, we figured. First of all my intuition. You got to be careful when you fuck with spiritual women too, Right? I'm religious, yet I'm spiritual, cool Right. So somebody gonna tell me something, in my dream, of course.
Speaker 1The instances is always on your side.
Speaker 4So it's just like you really don't get, you don't men, they you might have a proclivity, and I feel like that's when a woman may even turn kind of narcissistic, where she kind of turn your thoughts against you, like you really going to accuse me of something like that, knowing how I feel about you.
Speaker 1She gaslighting. You know what? This is probably the fourth time in three days of gaslighting And I've never used the word gaslighting so much in my life.
Speaker 4But that is super gaslight material. Right, for sure, for sure. But you can't really lie to a woman. And even if she goes on with it like I'm telling you, my appetite will get fucked up Like something ain't right. But then the body gonna tell me.
Speaker 1Well, I'll let you in on a little secret. It's not just women, dudes as well.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1As far as like intuition is concerned, and it comes with the bond- That's what I was just about to say.
Speaker 4It really is bond related. Yes, certain men don't allow themselves to feel the way that women do. So that may be what prohibits them from, you know, having those feelings or those gut feelings where you like, your ass shorty is definitely doing something.
Speaker 1And the reason why they shut it down is because they're pretty much, and then we about to we shed light on both sides, we getting thrown out the club. We got four in my own club.
Speaker 4Man.
Speaker 1The reason why they pretty much. It's not that they don't allow themselves to. They kind of numb it because they're just doing their own thing anyway.
Speaker 4Yeah, so it really don't matter.
Speaker 1Exactly So. When the focus is all on her, you know the term clingy may come up, but God damn, like am I supposed to not focus on you? Yeah, focus on you, you know, like that type of thing, but you can't win for losing.
Speaker 4So I feel like that's when it's important that you. I just had this conversation with somebody earlier. They was like so, men, you just gotta feed them empty day sack, compliment them, brush up their ego a little bit every once in a while.
Speaker 4That's all you think they require And I said at this point, me dating, i would like to get to know the things that you enjoy so we can enjoy them together and then have that energy be reciprocated, because I don't feel like it's just the things that I'm interested that should be highlighted, but also two of the things that you're interested in And us be able to build on that right. And I feel like that's where a lot of partnerships suffer. In my relationships I can say in the past suffered because it was a lot of pouring in but not being poured into.
Speaker 1That's so sad And I will tell you this I want to be loved. You understand what I'm saying. I want to be loved. I don't give a fuck about any of the outside forces. I don't care about Trace Song Song, I don't care about whatever it is you happen to be listening to. that's telling you the exact opposite of what niggas really require. I don't require part and a term. I dick me and suck in order for me to be happy.
Speaker 4Of course I'm not the sole focus.
Speaker 1Yeah, and I'm going to be honest with you, with me, i want to come home and be able to hug on my woman.
Speaker 4Home, when you come home to your home. That's that energy.
Speaker 1Absolutely That part. Yeah, yeah, see, that's probably what the podcast should have been about, but I digress and we will get into that. So would you choose violence to protect your peace? Look at that. See what I did there.
Speaker 4Switch the energy flow real quick I kind of did. Yeah, in certain cases it's necessary. Ok, i don't just condone violence, right. But don't fucking play with me, don't piss in my face and say it's raining.
Speaker 1It's all in your head. Don't play with me. More gas, like it.
Speaker 4What'd you say? Don't play with it. Don't play with it. Don't play with it. Don't play with it. Don't play with it. Don't play with it. Play with it.
Speaker 1I tried to get the sound clip, but it was just too much going on so I couldn't get it.
Speaker 5Yeah, but yes, just shut up.
Speaker 4Because my objective is not to disrupt somebody else's peace. So I can't allow you to, just you know, to disrupt mine Right, and there's certain people who get off on that.
Speaker 1That's the fact, because that's all they know, Right, Right. So I stopped blaming people Like, for instance, toxic motherfuckers. I just got to get away from I'm not. I'm no longer blaming toxic people.
Speaker 5You understand what I'm saying, because that's all you know.
Speaker 1Yeah, No, no, no, that's a fact. If you dropped out in kindergarten because you couldn't stack the blocks right, I can't blame you. You understand what I'm saying? That's not your, it wasn't your thing. You just didn't go any further. So how can?
Speaker 4I be mad at you. You couldn't force the triangle to fit inside the circle.
Speaker 1You could Exactly, there we go, that type of thing. So I'm going to just leave you smooth. The fuck alone. Just leave you alone.
Speaker 4Yeah.
Speaker 1Can't do it, no more.
Speaker 4You find that it's more self-sabotaging to not, and that's really weird.
Speaker 1Not even you know what. Yes, it's definitely self-sabotaging, But at the same time, though, you know, if you keep showing up at the, at the playground, talking about you don't like any of the games, that it is you lying to yourself. Yeah, part of that shit That's that's what you like.
Speaker 1You understand what I'm saying, Like what you like. So this that's a fact. That's a fact. Yeah, Um, yeah, this one's going to throw you a little bit because I don't even know how Well, in my head I'm kind of preparing What's your average cost for a first date. Hmm, in this inflation, Right, Well, no, no, no, I'm talking about from you, from you personally. So whether whatever factors you have that might factor into that, that final dollar cost, let's talk about it.
Speaker 4Well, I mean.
Speaker 1What's your expectation?
Speaker 4I don't have like a numeric expectation, because I feel like your date is more of an experience. So whatever it is that we're doing together, it might, it can be different.
Speaker 1I'm not going to let you do that, Hold on Time out. I ain't going to let you do that. I'm calling them throwing a flag on the play and I need everybody back in the huddle. This is the thing. What. No, no, no. We're going to do this because I'm going to put a dollar amount on it. You don't?
Speaker 5have to Okay.
Speaker 1So what is it? What is it In a short form, because you know, of course, we got Bay Night coming up. In short form.
Speaker 4Okay, so if we do, if we doing dinner in an activity right Um, like take for instance, I went on a date, you know, we went, we had dinner and we You going to bring this up? That's not that. That's not that date. It's a different day. Let's go. So I'm. You see, we can.
Speaker 1I know I'm just going to shut up.
Speaker 4You know, mr Leo, we can hear you roar. All right, so with this particular date, we had dinner and then we bowled. Um, now we had an appetizer. We had two appetizers. We split them together, right. Um, we had two drinks apiece and we had an entree. Okay, um, now I'm just doing rough calculations The drink was like $13 apiece, $30 for drinks. The appetizer we got some calamari and some, you know, garlic, something with some like pesto dip, whatever That was like. I'm going to say like maybe $30 for the two or two. So we have $60 right now. Our entrees are both like 20 apiece. So it was $100. On dinner, maybe like $40, $45 for the bowling and the shoes, right, so a buck 50 was that particular instance. Now, every time you go on a date, you might not always include an activity, so that's not fair to say. So I would say ranging from like a bill to a buck 50.
Speaker 1I'm talking about your first date. I don't care about the rest of them.
Speaker 4So that first date was like $150. But that's not average. We can't just say first date and then say average. That's only one.
Speaker 1So we can't, it's my thing, we can't. we can't go to the deli get a chopped cheese and then go to the park on the first date.
Speaker 5Why not?
Speaker 1No, i'm asking. That was a question. Yeah, okay.
Speaker 4I feel that's why I said it's more of an experience. Like, don't take me to Panera and get me a like, oh, you want a coffee. I don't even drink coffee. Let there be some intention behind it. Hey, like you, you could be on some. Hey, i'm trying to put you on one of my favorite. Hey, this, this. It might look like a hole in a wall type spot, but this motherfucker slap. Like I want you to have this with me.
Speaker 1And see, that's the thing. like fellas, if you're listening and I'm not giving you advice, i probably would be the wrong one to get advice from. However, it is all about the experience. It's the thought behind it, Right, ladies? it's the thought behind it. You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 4You heard me just say it.
Speaker 1Yeah, no, absolutely, and I'm just, you know, trying to drive that home because a lot of motherfuckers think that you know one about spending like spending the most amount of money, like somebody you could.
Speaker 4Here's the thing we go to the most expensive restaurant and you could. We could order the most expensive shit off the menu and I could have an awful fucking time with you.
Speaker 1That's a fact.
Speaker 4Awful, awful, fucking time with you.
Speaker 1Am I going to?
Speaker 4want to spend the block and do this again, which you likely not.
Speaker 1That's a fact. It's the experience that you share with a person.
Speaker 4So that's why we get to date two. That's why we get to date three because I enjoy the experience with you, not necessarily what we're doing. Yeah, we have fun together, but it's an overall experience.
Speaker 1So And a couple other intangibles. Don't get confused people.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1Couple of other things that go with that For sure. So lastly, before we get up out of this segment, if you could live in any sitcom, which one would it be?
Speaker 5Um.
Speaker 4That's a stumper And I had it in my head, but then I changed it, did you? Yeah, i did. It's a rare condition this day and age.
Speaker 1Don't do that, don't do that.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1I won't even let you move in.
Speaker 5Yeah, it's over.
Speaker 1Yeah, let's change the channel, find another show. Yeah, that was my shit.
Speaker 4What I loved is that family dynamic. You had two parents who actively gave a fuck.
Speaker 1That's a fact. That's what I loved about it. What I hated about it was the buffoonery behind it. You right?
Speaker 4So, yes, right, but I'm just saying the dynamic, the caring family right, and it didn't it did. A lot of sitcoms can put us out there to look like, ah right, living single. Because I love the camaraderie between friends. We can call each other out on our bullshit, but we can still love each other at the end of the day.
Speaker 1Absolutely. Living single And that to me was like one of the best all female cast, you know, dominant female cast shows that there ever was. It showed the dynamic of friends, friendships.
Speaker 4We don't all have to be the same. We can look different, have different style, have different appeals, have different walks of life and still love each other at the end of the day. It was like genuine sisterhood, genuine sisterhood, black ass sisterhood. I love that element of it. It just showed the straight hair, the braids, the locks, like all of it. It was just yeah.
Speaker 1And they were all from different walks of life as well.
Speaker 4For sure, for sure.
Speaker 1Living single. Living single is actually pretty dope. Yeah, i can see you're living single, good end. Main course, it's time to eat. What's on your mind? Now, this is the shit I've been waiting for. Uh-oh, let's wait for this.
Speaker 5I'll be, scared of you Today now don't do that.
Speaker 1Today, ladies and gentlemen, we are talking about thirst trapping. I was doing a little research because I want to know when exactly it started, and I knew that when I found what I was looking for, it would be absolutely incorrect, because there's so many different forms of thirst trapping. I guess, in this truest form or the modern day form, they gave it a name And it was thirst trapping, but it was so many other things. But this is what I found.
Speaker 1Thirst trap is a social media term for when someone posts a statement or photograph usually a sexually suggestive selfie to tongue twister on Twitter or Instagram or elsewhere, creating a sexual thirst. That shit just sounds weird A sexual thirst in a person who's receiving it. Some white person wrote this Man. The term thirst trap was first entered into the urban dictionary on October 11, 2011. 10, 11, 11. Whatever The find is any statement or picture used intentionally to create attention or thirst. Okay, so now we got that out of the way. We got that out of the way with social media, right, cause this is like this is the new bar scene, this is the new lounge, this is the new supermarket, right? So this is the new where we go to actually interact and meet people For sure, right. So with that, first of all, have you ever knowingly participated in any Thirst Trappery?
Speaker 4Um, this is going to also sound like full of, like, i'm full of myself, like, and it's not even that, it's not a Thirst Trap. I just look like that, what That's? it was like a meme, i seen it was like I'm not, it's not a Thirst Trap, i just look like that.
Speaker 1Okay, right, so you was like this is me in real life.
Speaker 4This is just like I exude sexual energy without really trying Right? So am I getting on here like posting, like see-through shirts and you can see my nipples all the time, type shit, no, sitting on bathroom counters with my ass tutored up and you getting mirror shot, i know, but like it could be, i don't have small. I don't have a small chest. Like cleavage is going to be inevitable, like I may look-.
Speaker 1I see people rushing to the video right now. They just bookmarked this shit. They wait for the video to come out.
Speaker 4You know like it's not even I need to see what she talking about.
Speaker 4It's not even, and this is like a regular shirt, like somebody who has no chest wouldn't be bearing any cleavage, but me, because I have, you know, a chest, like it is going to appear that way. I think that shape definitely has something to do with it, because I could have on the same outfit as somebody who has no, no thighs, like right. I could put on some shorts, put on the same outfit as somebody who's just stickly right And it's appropriate for her, but I'm, i'm attention seeking because my thighs are big, so it's like I can't. I'm not intentionally posting a third, i just look like that.
Speaker 5Guy gave me some extra rolls and a poundage.
Speaker 4So it's just like you know it's yeah.
Speaker 1I've seen some pictures of you on Instagram. They're thirsty.
Speaker 4They're thirsty. They're thirst, trap-ish.
Speaker 5Mm-hmm.
Speaker 4Not intentionally.
Speaker 1Y'all is strictly for the parts. She's what the catch is, oh my. God.
Speaker 4I'm scrolling my Instagram right now and I'm trying to figure out like do I have?
Speaker 1I don't know, maybe you, maybe you cleaned it up, because I know you definitely, and I don't even want to say cleaned it up, because that just came out wrong, not cleaned it up. But I'm just saying you've been posting probably other things, but yeah, i've seen some and if it's just look see.
Speaker 4I'm looking.
Speaker 1Did you come across something?
Speaker 4On my birthday? I was definitely on that.
Speaker 1Oh my God, but it wasn't like thirst trap action, it was just like I was in my sexy girl energy.
Speaker 4Like using your element at that point For sure, and what I don't like is that they dropped this. this urban dictionary said it came out October 11th, three days before my birthday. So that means thirst trap. thirst trapping was born in Libra energy. I don't like that And let's say it's not going to change. We are the flirted ones of the Zodiac. So it makes a little sense. But I don't like. I don't like how they do that, how they did that, embrace it. You know, embrace it. Let me be great.
Speaker 1Um, okay, so quick question Let's, let's, let's get into this, let's debate this. You think that thirst trapping has changed the dating landscape? Because I know a lot of people that, like yo, the dating pool is pissed in and stuff like that. Me, i don't subscribe to that, although I am married. You know, i don't subscribe to it because it's all about where you're going to actually find talent.
Speaker 4But dating apps are also like you're going to have your people who are in it And it's predominance, like I feel like Tinder was amongst. Like you know, that is hookup, culture, energy, like. So if you on Tinder looking for the love of your life, ah, it can happen, it can. So I'm not saying it can't, but there's probabilities in anything, right, yeah.
Speaker 1I mean you're going to find a whole lot of creeps, but it can happen, Right.
Speaker 4So when you roll a dice, the probability that you're going to land on a, on a, you know, on a seven, i mean on a six, is like it's one in six.
Speaker 1But let me, let me, let me throw you a curveball. So, boom, yes, i can go on Tinder. right, and this is still in the vein of thirst trapping, because Tinder and you know when apps like that they're the biggest thirst traps. right, cause, what are you doing? You're posting pictures to get attention, right, right, cause nobody's really reading the caption, unless I was just about to say that Motherfuckers don't read styles Most can't, but this is the thing Outside of that, right?
Speaker 1So you were talking about the probability of shit working out or you encounter in a creep, right, right, we could do that, we could do that. Or you can still encounter the same creep at a hookah lounge.
Speaker 4That's a fact.
Speaker 1Add, add, add. It's just that you get to weed through it. You get to filter through the shit a lot quicker.
Speaker 4That's really except, like dating apps make people hyper accessible. That's the only difference. So, in my to my, in my defense, there's people who are actively seeking a relationship And then there's people who are just on some hookup type shit And, like I said, most people don't read, cause in most of these apps they'll let you preface it with what your dating intentions are. On a date nap, i can tell you there's several people who match with me, who are on like friends with benefits, right On my page. Don't say shit like that. If you're actually looking for friends with benefits, go ahead. Swipe left my love. I wish you well on your journey, love Right. But you get people who a um, what you want tonight And I'm like I'm actually working right now, all right. So what you doing after Having dinner? Oh yeah, i could slide. Um, did you read my profile, sir? Oh, hold on, hold on. Oh yeah, but I mean you beautiful, though, like yeah, like sir, me being beautiful don't mean I want you in my house.
Speaker 1That's a fact, though. But, that's a fact.
Speaker 4But what I'm, what I'm getting to. that is that works for some. that works for them In some. some cases, there's some women that might just be on some. Yeah, i want some dick tonight, so I'mma let him slide Now. you don't give a fuck about your safety, but ah, neither here nor there. I'm not here to judge you. Make smarter choices, but That works for them. You know what It works for them. that's why they do it. Styles, there's somebody out there biting, so that's why they do it. You know what You know what.
Speaker 1You're absolutely right about that, but at the same time, no, like I was caught in between wanting to be judgy Right, but then not being judgy, because it's just another form of Alright, let's talk about cheating real quick.
Speaker 4Okay.
Speaker 1Just to, because they do parallel. So if you're cheating back in the day, require other things. We didn't have the tools that we have to cheat now, right, so we can definitely hide it a lot better.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1Now You get what I'm saying, mm-hmm. So, in the same respect, going home with somebody on the first night versus going on to the app, they're the same thing, they're just two different, i guess, models and modes in which you actually, you know, close that deal, so to speak. Right, you get me. So it's been, it's been around since a different, different mode of operating. I guess You know It is, So this is the way because again.
Speaker 1I'm like, damn, that's what you're doing You know, what I mean, because in the past I'm never paying for ads Like pay for ad. Who does that? You understand, you understand, but apparently people do You understand, so it's just different. Now You cash a hat, pull me.
Speaker 4I mean It'd be like that, so I don't want to. There's people on date naps who are just like Hey. Subscribe to my premium Snapchat, baby make All your only fans. Make your only fans link and post that shit. some Like they're thirsty, but there are thirsty men out there who want that.
Speaker 1Plenty. That's why only fans are so big. Right, you know, it's, it's fucking huge. You know, and I guess, god, i was born in the right town.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1I want to say that because I'd be a fucking nightmare. Um, yeah, and that's just, it's just too much going on. You understand, i'm saying I try to like, um, chill my kids from that, you know. So it's like a whole, a whole world of technology being born on the other side of my door, inside here. Yeah, this is Little House on a Prairie.
Speaker 4Yeah, I'm just saying, Like you got.
Speaker 1You know, this is churning butter.
Speaker 4You got people who Want I don't want to say settle down, like I hate that term, like settle down Like you get people who are wanting a serious relationship and then you also get people who Don't. I respect both sides of it, but my thing is this Find what wants you. Oh, okay, right, find what wants you. In a lot of cases, people want to find what they like and make what they liked. It May not like them, like them or want them, and it's like we all have preferences, like, even like this. I'm gonna put this one out there because it's like a It's an elephant in the room kind of a conversation when you have these kinds of conversations. Well, me, being a bigger girl, i know I'm not everybody's cup of tea and I'm okay with that. Right.
Speaker 4Right, never stop motherfuckers from sipping. You might not be the one to do it, and that's all right. Right, but we all have preferences. Whether I meet your preferences, or you meet mine, or I meet yours, or vice versa, whatever, we're not all going to meet every individual's preferences. That's why we're different as a human race. We all look different. That's the fact.
Finding Attraction and Substance
Speaker 4We all have different shapes, we all have different hair, we have different complexions. We have different ideologies. We have different personalities. We have things that make us different. Find what likes you And be attracted to what like. I don't want to say only the things that like you, but like what you like. You can't make somebody be what you want them to be just because you like it. That's what I'm getting at. People will like you and be attracted to you and be upset that you don't want what they want, and it's just like. It's okay for us to want different things. You can't force me to want what you want, just like how you was. Like, uh, with the whole thirst trap thing, there's plenty of men who go after these women who just thirst trapping and they just kind of get geeked up off the attention, but they don't want none of them. Niggas, who's really in a inbox saying you know? so you beat a man, what was? what was dude's name? Our players club following which following shorty home.
Speaker 1Oh, you know what I don't? Yeah, it was Stanley. I believe it was Stanley, right The dude that assaulted her. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4It'd be them time, them type of niggas that get caught up in the thirst traps, and then they'd be like oh well, you know we made a connection and you done. Hey beautiful Me 69 times in my inbox. I ain't never said a fucking word.
Speaker 1Hey beautiful. Oh, good morning, love Good morning.
Speaker 4Like yo you got to find who likes you and like them. I literally just posted some shit about that earlier too. Like you know, like who likes you and love. But what if you don't even like that? I'm saying you're eventually going to like who likes you, Right? And then y'all want to be worn down.
Speaker 1Oh, danielle, don't, don't wear me down. You would have said I end up in a bed with somebody out that wouldn't check any of the boxes.
Speaker 4That's not what I'm saying, you can like what you like, but make sure they like you. That's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1Okay, there we go, because you went with another direction.
Speaker 4Get to the bottom of the barrel and find you something like that's not what I'm saying You know, whatever you like make sure they like you too, because otherwise you're going to have to do yourself a whole lot of convincing and you might not convince a person or want what you want.
Speaker 1I see you over there trying to clean that up.
Speaker 4I like what you like. Yeah, the way I worded that shit was kind of bad, like find, find your mate. That's really what I should have said.
Speaker 1Find your mate, there's somebody out there, hey, yo does somebody just pull their car over just now, just to rewind this shit. Did she just say what I think she said. Did she say just like them because they like you?
Speaker 4No, yeah, yeah, because that's not always gonna work. You're going to have a lot of people who like you, that you might not like.
Speaker 1All right, so let me, let me place you in a dangerous scenario. Uh-oh, all right, so boom.
Speaker 4We in a dangerous zone.
Speaker 1Um, um, um, um you yourself.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1Short version You, because this is a has a lot of different moving pieces. You yourself, could you take somebody's life, for instance? Oh, okay, Boom, Let's go back to chocolate waste. Do you remember I used to complain like yeah but I post like dude Oh my gosh.
Speaker 5Yeah, you used to hate that.
Speaker 1What the fuck y'all always want? We there are women in this world.
Speaker 4There are And you was like, just send us one. I'm like, but then I'm doing the work. We had a predominant um female audience.
Speaker 1Right, right, i know, but I was giving Leo any, it was just about me.
Speaker 4A sprinkle of of men who who listened in yourself included, very much appreciated. Um, so we did kind of start to try to go with the, you know, incorporating the women, and it was just like stop playing That shit.
Speaker 1lasted two seconds.
Speaker 4Yeah, cause it was just like come on now, like we're women, y'all choose to listen and we appreciate it. But the, the, the get wasted Wednesdays were yeah, That was a thing.
Speaker 5This is about the niggas. Pretty consistent with it.
Speaker 4But a niggas.
Speaker 5All right, here we go.
Speaker 4Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5Yeah, that was a tie, all right. So boom. Can you?
Speaker 1take a person serious? Can you take a person seriously That you double tap on like consistently, cause we do it with celebrities, but we're just talking about the, the, the, the, the, the celebrities, but we're just talking about thirst traps. You know what I mean, regular dudes, but in your mind they just thirst traffic. Yeah, you know that they off. but then you know, one day you wake up and then your DM cause you're, you're consistently on that page and consistently double tapping. Can you, can you take that dude serious?
Speaker 4It depends on if you have substance.
Speaker 5Cause there's a lot of people that are visually.
Speaker 4There's visually beautiful people, but they're empty on the inside.
Speaker 1No, that's the fact, though, so you would engage in conversation. See, i'm just trying to get past the gatekeeper right now. You keep. she stopped me at the gate giving me a whole fucking application. I'm standing for like three hours trying to fill it out. Yeah, i miss a part. you tell me, get to the back of the line and come back.
Speaker 4I don't know, you know, i don't think that like, my thing is this I don't know how seriously I could take you if that's. All you do is thirst trap.
Speaker 1Oh okay, i got a better one for you, are you?
Speaker 4ready Yeah.
Speaker 1Cause I know you're going to take us to church on this one.
Speaker 4Go ahead.
Speaker 1So do you think that you could trust someone, a guy thirst trapping? He never, he's never admitted to thirst trap.
Speaker 4He definitely posed those type of pictures, like big print pictures, can we just like type shit, i'm not taking you, we don't have to go there We don't.
Speaker 1I just not going to go flush my mind.
Speaker 4I'm sorry.
Speaker 1Pause Yeah.
Speaker 4But if you, if you if you online doing all that all the time. I really probably can't trust you, because you're, it's okay to have substance. Okay, it's okay to have substance, but like can can we see a little more of that?
Speaker 1A little more What. Your substance Substance ain't for everybody, it ain't great Okay.
Speaker 4So look, also, you got to realize that post. like you know, during the pandemic, motherfuckers really clouded up off this internet, profiting For for sure. So you could be posting certain shit because it makes you money.
Speaker 1Or it makes you feel good.
Speaker 4Whatever it is In a lot of cases, right. People post the shit that they post because they're getting views. They're getting monetized for these posts.
Speaker 1Okay, no, that's a fact, but this let's say that he's not there, okay.
Speaker 4You know 500 likes. What are you doing, sir? What was you doing this for That? doesn't matter.
Speaker 1You have substance, can you trust him? Nah, nah, why I don't?
Speaker 4know, Cause I'm like what is your intention with this?
Speaker 1Well, he has substance, so clearly there is some type of intention.
Speaker 4That's not. That's not what you're putting out there, though, So like.
Speaker 1But that's not for everybody.
Speaker 4It's not for everybody. He's giving you something different. It really that's. that's super situational. I don't really date people who are like internet influencers. That's not really my cup of tea, okay.
Speaker 1That's not to say it couldn't happen.
Speaker 5Ah, all right Cool.
Speaker 1Let me take you to deep water. Hopefully you can swim. All right, you're in a relationship, yeah Right, and I know you're going to get. You're going to come at me with your grown woman shit, which is fine, i'm here for it. The um, your mate. I don't even want to say you catch him because you can't catch him. Like liking, like you're clearly looking. Yeah, he's not hiding it because he can't hide it, but I did phrase it catching him. Yeah, liking pictures of a thirst trap consistently.
Speaker 1Is that a thing for you? Is that put?
Speaker 5you in a mood.
Speaker 1Like, does it upset me? Is there a conversation?
Speaker 5to be had.
Speaker 1I, the internet's not real. See, you want to make me go back to the, to the previous discussion we were just having about trust and all of that and why he does it, and if it's not real, i mean okay. So no, right, right, if you don't take that same thing, you're going to get it.
Speaker 5All right.
Speaker 4So if, if all you do is like and like and like and like and like and a whole bunch of thirst trap type shit, like people put it out there for you to like it, Right, Right, Um, I might be like what? like? what's good with you with all this? Like I don't think it's going to make me insecure. I don't think it's going to make me insecure. Like I don't think it's going to make me insecure, but it'd be like okay, Like that was my follow up.
Speaker 1You just deaded me on my father. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4Cause you'll never notice motherfucker.
Speaker 1That's a fact. Well, you don't know. See, don't do that Come on now, don't?
Speaker 4do anything you're going to be be fucking for real.
Speaker 1Don't do that. Fucking for real. Don't do that.
Speaker 4You over here like double tapping Kim case. You don't know the reason I say. That is this. I know that you're going to know that you're dating quality.
Speaker 1Hold on, you're dating quality, right. So I believe I have always. But um, every everybody can be touched the. The internet made the world a lot smaller.
Speaker 4Yeah, people are super accessible. But what I'm saying is like, if that's, if you get to that point where you feel like you got to be Reaching out to these celebrities on that level and you dating somebody you not for me anyway Okay, so I'm gonna let you go find that.
Speaker 1All right, danielle, aka to shut down Queen.
Speaker 4I'm just saying I'm gonna let you go find that cuz at this point, like you said, couple rewind Violence to protect my peace, or sometimes you got to just cut motherfuckers off cuz like I don't want to even let you get that out of me, so go in and find what you like.
Speaker 1So you already answered my follow-up question. As there you know as their partner or his partner. How does that impact your ego or self-esteem? and clearly it does not. You're just not going for, you know, with the I'm not like, don't play, don't play with it. Now you gotta do it right, don't?
Speaker 4do that, don't play with it. Don't play with it.
Speaker 1Don't play with it. All right, there we go. Yeah, that's what I'm talking. You gotta do Brooklyn proud.
Speaker 4Yeah, i mean I'm from, I'm from the verbs, but I'm that shit.
Speaker 1Come on, oh, that's, we even go over that. Where are you from What? let him know where you from.
Speaker 4Okay, we talk about it. You know I'm from the Northwest suburbs in Illinois. The S is silent.
Speaker 5The well in your state.
Speaker 1It was less. Every text book Illinois s, we pronounce it. Illinois, Illinois yeah, that's fucked up. I feel real dumb right now. Why cuz like for my 48. You've been saying Illinois has always been plural.
Speaker 4See the S, but release it when you say it, like don't say that. You can always tell like like kind of how you your intro kind of goes in. Like you know, motherfuckers Introduce themselves from they burrow. They don't say yeah, i'm from New York, no, you hear a mother saying I'm from Illinois. You know they are lying, you are not from here.
Speaker 1You already know I'm on a prowl right now. If I happen to ask you that, don't fucking answer it. It's a trick. I promise you with it. Yeah, i'm looking to call somebody a fucking liar right now. That's it. You have any final thoughts of on Thursday traffic?
Speaker 4No, no, no, Thursday, it is what it is. If that's what you went to, that's what you went to, but you just better make sure you understand the The, the weight that comes with that shit. In the event that you do want to be taken serious, are you gonna be willing to shift the way that you present yourself In the event that you find yourself in a relationship?
Escape Rooms as an Ideal Date
Speaker 1you got to understand that there's a territory that people might not like See this is why I had you close out the segment, because I was gonna close it out with my for you page. That shit is nasty work, man.
Speaker 5Let me see what my important day just is talking about it.
Speaker 4Hey, wow, yeah, yeah, cooking videos cuz. I be, i be yeah see, it's probably because you'd be liking all them thirst traps, that's no.
Speaker 1And that's the thing I tried to tell my wife I was like listen, nah cuz. I told I was like yo, this is I matter of fact, i'll even show her. You know, whatever, and like I don't, i would love, if I would love, it to be every other post Somebody clapping cheeks, but it ain't that. They twerking in every fucking post, every post.
Speaker 4I got dogs fucking twerking. I got all fucking squirrels twerking.
Speaker 1I got every like this is wow.
Speaker 5Yeah, yeah, it's nasty work. I'm sorry, nasty work.
Speaker 2Bay night sexy nights and good food, mm-hmm. Yeah, you already know what it is.
Speaker 1I'm not gonna explain it twice. Like I always fight with the guests during this segment, this segment, right here, this segment, right here, this segment. Why? But you got something for me. It doesn't matter. Oh, it doesn't matter. Yeah, cuz you're gonna give me something. Good pause, we're just gonna sit back and I know I got my pen, i got my paybook. I know I'm gonna have questions and I'll try to keep up.
Speaker 4All right. So what are we talking?
Speaker 1floor is yours.
Speaker 4Bay night like what you want me to just get into a uh, and that's why we fight because like that's why we all right then, be quiet and let me run. Previous bay night, or a bay night that I can say I really enjoyed myself. We did something That I liked, and then I was encouraged to want to know more about what he liked, what he enjoyed, so He shared that. One of the things he loves to do is escape rooms, so I was like all right, cool.
Speaker 4Like I was very nervous though at first, like this is this? is Danielle coming out of her shell? because I don't like scary shit, right. So I'm like is it, is it scary? like I don't like this. I'm having hard computations on the low because I'm like I don't want to get stuck. Like what if people jumping out at me? I'm swinging, like do I lock my purse up? kind of thing.
Speaker 1Because Then yo can I jump in for a second. So There's some irony here. My wife and I went to a escape room.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1Right and nobody expected anything scary whatsoever, right. So right now you blogging, is she like, yeah, how good, i'm gonna let you go, i'm okay.
Speaker 4So look, because I don't do the scary thing either. I don't like people jumping out at me and I'm the type to swing if I'm like, ah, all right, like, and I know it's just for play, but you playing with people's reactions like gut reaction And it's just it's not going to be good. So I'm like I don't want to go fuck with my reflex.
Speaker 4Okay, so I'm like I don't want to get in here on date night. We supposed to be, you know, having a good time together and I'm right to knock somebody to the fuck out and we on a date Like I don't want to have to get on that type of time.
Speaker 1But it's an escape room. It's not gay.
Speaker 4I didn't know what to expect because this is my first time going. I'm seeing reviews and I'm seeing they got a couple scary like scare factor percentages on here. So I'm like, uh, so I'm kind of nervous, right, because I'm not knowing what kind of escape rooms he likes. So I'm asking more questions and he, like you know, um, he's a computer engineer, so he's like into the tactical thinking and and right, right, the challenges of things and, like you know, problem-solving. So, right, the escape room that we did, um, it was like a pharaoh's tomb, right. So our, our goal was to, um, get the scare up. Am I saying it, right, like the little?
Speaker 1beetle, what Oh it's called? uh, um, that thing scare up, i don't know. They'll google it later, right?
Speaker 4I don't know what I'm talking about? a little beetle thing, right?
Speaker 4So, and You had to, there's like four rooms within this room And you had to figure out these different clues and all of this and, like, what I liked about this date night was that Me I'm getting to know this man but I'm also being able to kind of reveal how, how actively we can problem solve together, right, how compatible we are when it comes to communicating like and figuring something the fuck out together like. That was sexy to me, like seeing this man actively, right, you know take charge.
Speaker 4Yes, It was just like it is locked room you know, in this locked room, like how they, how we Fucking get now and he like, look we, we gonna figure this shit out, and like he's over here figuring things out, i'm over here figuring shit out, and if we come back together like all right, look what I found, type shit, and we, we're figuring this room out. And we got out. This is my first escape room and we got out. So, um, i like the experience because it was just like you know we. It was like a team building, um right, and also too like it. It it taught you to. You got to trust your partner And I feel like, in a lot of different ways, this escape room Was also relative to a relationship. In a relationship, you got to understand how to trust your partner, understand sometimes when you are the one who possesses the knowledge that you might be able to help A situation, and understand that sometimes you're gonna be the motherfucker who don't know what to do.
Speaker 1I'm not you know what, and it was so crazy about it is that. Um, i think that Escape rooms are an ideal date. Yes, right, not before you're going, you know you're with your partner, with your partner type of situation. I went with my wife, who was then my wife at that time. Yeah you know and had it went horribly, we got divorced. I'm playing.
Speaker 1Oh my god but I'm playing, but we're both like hyper competitive. We're trying to figure shit out. Yeah, in this escape room or whatever. The day um also allowed you to like, get clues and hints and stuff like that, like the walkie-talkie thing, right.
Speaker 4So right um, it was like dark in that room, so like we had a lantern till, we could not pitch black dark. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1I don't care, they're doing too much. So it was like every light on in this motherfucker, no it wasn't like that.
Speaker 4It was like it was like dim lighting. And then you had this. You know your little Lantern or whatever um, and you know you go on from room to room and it was just like there was like three padlocks on feroce tomb to have to.
Speaker 4Open up. But you had to use these clues that were all throughout the you know different rooms and, like you know, there was like a date, uh, it had like uh, june 21st on something Very blatantly obvious on this desk. So we like, all right, bet zero, six, two, one was the combination to get one of them open. So we got that open and then, um, shortly after getting it open, kind of started just figuring out other clues throughout the whole, the whole spot. So we got all of this shit done and once we got to the end, like you had to crawl out right And when we got out, like we both looked at each other like just not surprised, but it was just like damn, we did that and it was just like a feeling of accomplishment because You're dating somebody, you getting to know them, you're kind of getting to know what their problem-solving skills are like, you're kind of getting to know How they communicate, like how they are under pressure, and that's what this shit really revealed and it was just I don't know, it was super attractive.
Speaker 1It's a teamwork aspect. for me It is.
Speaker 4It is.
Speaker 1You know, and it kind of gives you like some insight as to what that first argument is gonna or disagreement is gonna look like Yeah, cause there's gonna be plenty of them in that room. You know what I'm saying, you know what I'm saying, so you gotta allow each other the latitude to actually make a mistake.
Speaker 4Yeah, be wrong, that is a fact. What does that look like?
Speaker 5That is a fact.
Speaker 1What I'm saying You'll find out in that room.
Speaker 5I promise Exactly.
Speaker 4So I love that part. You know, being able to get to know him in that way. I kind of see what that was like, so super fun.
Speaker 1All right, he's still around.
Speaker 4Yeah, he's still around, for sure.
Speaker 1That's what's up.
Speaker 4Yeah, that's what's up.
Speaker 1Okay, man, That's actually a. really it's one of my. I'm gonna get punched in the face. What I'm saying is it's one of my favorite date nights that I've, or bay nights that I've gotten on the show so far. You know, Yeah, The escape room.
Speaker 2It was so fun, and just the mere fact that I could really relate, cause I did it.
Speaker 1You know I was going to a haunted house for Halloween. Right, it wasn't a haunted house, i'm lying, it was actually a haunted warehouse, i'm haunted anything, i'm good, no, no, no, hold on, i'm with you. You preaching to the choir right now. I don't play them games, like when we watch scary movies. The only way I'm watching it is if she's there. I'm not watching it any other way. It ain't gonna happen.
Speaker 4I don't give a fuck if I'm I like the sleep one at night and I don't like them disturbances.
Speaker 1You wanna, or anyway. So she's for all of shit. She's like how you call it? Everything that comes like the walking dead, the walking anything dead. Nah, but hold on.
Speaker 1I took her to the haunted house I mean the haunted house Cause this is her thing. So I'm like, all right, cool, we went, whatever This happened, to be in Dallas And in Dallas, you know, they do everything big. It was a fucking warehouse. I'm like I don't know how the hell it's a fucking warehouse. There's too much room, right, just like you said earlier, she was like now I want people jumping out testing my reflexes. She was so fucking scared And I'm like I'm walking through like nothing, like it ain't, like this shit is corny to a degree for me, you know, and then for her she's all like jumping at everything, literally everything. Matter of fact, we was coming through almost on the way out of this shit And one of the dudes I guess he was like in the wall some way, some how It's my fucking drops itself off And he's like, can you pass that to me? Yeah, no problem, hold that. But yeah, no, i don't do the scary thing either. And thank you for that Bay Night, i appreciate it.
Speaker 4That was good shit, bay Night was fire.
Speaker 1Uh-oh, hold on Cause. Oh, so this will be yo. you are the consummate professional.
Speaker 2Dessert. I hope you guys enjoyed your meal. Can I get you something off of our dessert menu?
Speaker 1All right, we reached the end of the road. Hey, to the end of the road. I don't know where they can find you and all of that. Uh-oh, sorry, there's already album coming soon.
Speaker 4Nah, ha, ha, ha ha. Oh man, this was fun.
Speaker 1It was, and we will definitely do it again. For sure, for sure. It's nothing to talk about, for sure. But I think it'll have to be like a face to face, so I might have to come out to Chicago.
Speaker 5I'm not Illinois.
Speaker 1Yeah, no S Illinois.
Speaker 4There you go.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 4I'm rocking.
Speaker 1It's that public school education. I'm rocking, yeah, and you too. Let everybody know where they can find you.
Speaker 4You can find me, daniel underscore, underscore Alexandria on IG. Due to my line of work, i had to make my Facebook private because my students were trying to add me and shit, and we can't do that.
Speaker 1You thirst happen when you end up stopping.
Speaker 4Great games. I recently made a TikTok Danny B Cooking, where I love to cook, so like sharing different recipes and shit like that, but if I say it, i'm giving birth to it. On the pot right now.
Speaker 5OK.
Speaker 4I will be coming out with my own podcast In the upcoming months. I'm just kind of putting some ideas together so I can then, when I do it, i do it and I do it right, but, yeah, kotox. So my nickname is Coco, but yeah, kotox. And the objective is it is for me to speak to myself but also speak to y'all at the same time. So these are, these are necessary conversations, and I feel conversations that we have with ourselves that are pivotal and transformational can also be transformative in somebody else's life if we share it.
Speaker 4So just some real life conversation, because a lot of the podcasts out right now are really heavily geared on the whole click bait, shock value material, and that's not transformational. My make you laugh for the moment, but in the grand scheme and the end, all be all, it's not really helping to transform or elevate yourself in any kind of way, and that's kind of the energy that I like to fuck with. So, kotox, stay on the lookout for that, because if you follow me on my page, i'm definitely going to let y'all know when it drops.
Speaker 1Podcasts Susanness, i'm with it. Yeah, i'm with it. That's right, and that was heavy And I ain't going to hold you up. However, i will let you know that I greatly and deeply appreciate you coming through. For sure You know.
Speaker 4It was a time.
Speaker 1Thank you. Shout outs to my wife. Shout outs to Paul. Shout outs to Jess. Bless Jess.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 1We'll catch y'all on the flip side, step time again. And since we really don't know how to say goodbye, i'm not going to say goodbye, but listen what I will ask, paul, i'm not even asking. If you liked it, please don't forget to like, comment, subscribe and shit, and that's homework Also. There is no. Also, we'll catch you next week. We'll save a seat at the table for you.
