Charlotte, NC - How Our Tastes in Music Reflect Personal Growth w/ Blsd Jess

Ever wondered why you get more compliments when you're dressed down rather than dolled up? Join us as we, Styles and Bless Jess, sip on some Jack Daniels Winter Jack and homemade tea while diving into the dynamics of receiving compliments from men. Jess shares her frustration over the effort women put into looking nice only to have it go unnoticed, leading us into an open discussion about natural beauty, self-esteem, and the complexities of these seemingly trivial interactions.

Hold on to your hats as we then venture into the bewildering world of fashion runways and advertisements. Why do models look so joyless, and what's up with their awkward poses? We compare these fashionistas to mannequins in the mall, questioning the lack of diversity and the bizarre power dynamics in the fashion industry. This conversation takes an interesting twist as we explore the cultural use of the term "pause" among men and women, shedding light on how it helps avoid misunderstandings.

Next up, we get real about the difficulties of maintaining relationships over time and distance. Whether it's the tendency to withdraw for self-evaluation or the necessity of a strong support system, we discuss the importance of transparency and genuine connections. Finally, we chat about how our tastes in music and entertainment evolve with age, reflecting on personal growth and the pressures artists face to stay relevant. And as we prepare for an upcoming trip to New York, we highlight the value of family and the irreplaceable nature of genuine connections. Tune in for a humorous, heartfelt, and insightful conversation!

Transcript

Speaker 1 0:03

you are now rocking with the brunch hour podcast, the best hour of the day it's the only podcast I listen to with your host styles. I like my pet red bone, flat cello, light skin yellow. Listen, I'm still trying to figure out how to start the show officially Three seasons in Actually no, two seasons in to the new transition and all of that, and I still can't get it together. But it's all right though. Listen, you got the Leo Dream Team today, hey.

Speaker 3 0:37

Jordan with the Bulls Jordan with the Bulls. Rodman and Jordan in the building.

Speaker 1 0:41

That's right 23. Now me Now me, tell them who you are.

Speaker 3 0:46

I am Bless Jess. Y'all know who I am. If y'all know him, y'all know me by default.

Speaker 1 0:51

That was a Leo statement. They know who I am. That's right they do.

Speaker 3 1:01

If you are new to the game you might not, but if you've been around and I'm pretty sure a lot of people have been around for a while, they would know who I am.

Speaker 1 1:07

You've been in the orbit. Hold on, let's do this.

Speaker 5 1:11

I used to be in love with this bitch named MJ. The fuck with her, no more. Now I fuck with Tango Ray, Tango Ray.

Speaker 3 1:17

Hey yo, Black Thunder, we need two shots, it's a combo. Yeah, no, we're taking it back.

Speaker 1 1:32

We're taking it back because what we're going to do and what we haven't been doing, I'm just going to introduce the drink. Listen, I hate the fucking summer, but I do have Jack Daniels Winter Jack, and it's the Spiced Apple Punch and I don't like it.

Speaker 3 1:42

but it's all I have. Hey, look the way the bottle is half gone. The lie detector determined that was a lie.

Speaker 1 1:49

Somebody been drinking this motherfucker Now. We had a bunch of people over yesterday.

Speaker 3 1:52

I blame it on the random people that ain't here today. Yeah, that too.

Speaker 1 1:56

The randos, you know Shout-outs to Lamp, shout-outs to Ryan and shout-outs to Shadra. They all have PTO. Yeah, they all have PTO today.

Speaker 3 2:08

Okay, what you drinking? I am drinking a blend of tea that I personally made. It's some greens, some roses and some lavender.

Speaker 1 2:20

Why you looking at me like you're lying? Because the fuck this shit just sound like straight contraband.

Speaker 3 2:27

I mean, it's the truth. I just don't know. I'll just leave it to the colors. Okay, the colors. I'm drinking some colors right now. Green, rose and lavender.

Speaker 1 2:38

All right. Well, I'm about to play something. I need some answers.

Speaker 3 2:42

Let's go All right cool.

Speaker 5 2:48

You niggas scare me sometimes. Y'all really do. I'm dressed like this Oversized shirt, hat, shorts. Niggas are still hollering Like what's good with y'all. Yo, it just happened again, like scared, like what the fuck? I'm not even showing my body nothing and it's I'm getting. The way I'm getting cat called is insane. Like why am I getting more guys trying to talk to me and approach me just like this? Then I do when I'm actually like done up and like what you, nigga.

Speaker 1 3:30

I had enough of that. Yeah, enough of that. I had to take us off mute. Um, she wilding. There's nothing to talk about she wilding. So my question is this, right? First of all, I don't even understand why she's offended, because she has sweatpants on a baggy t-shirt, a hat and some headphones and somebody's trying to talk to her, so she's offended by that. Explain that to me okay.

Speaker 3 3:55

So, from a female's point of view, I don't think she's offended. I think she's irritated because and frustrated because, as she said, when she puts effort into looking nice, they don't do anything, they don't say anything, they're intimidated right when she actually puts effort into putting clothes, on putting her makeup, on doing her hair and she probably just getting out of work where she looking. She probably just getting out of work, no, she came from the gym.

Speaker 1 4:21

Look like she's okay from doing something like.

Speaker 3 4:24

So I think it's probably frustrating as a woman to know that sometimes your efforts aren't appreciated. Like we like to look nice. We would want you to. Let me ask you a question, sure.

Speaker 1 4:38

How do you take compliments? How do you make somebody roll up on you and just be like hey, I mean nothing crass, nothing roll up on you, just be like hey, you look, I mean not nothing crass, nothing crazy right. But how do you? How do you take them if?

Speaker 3 4:50

you got on baggy sweats. Yeah, go ahead like if I'm, if I'm done either way. Either way I'll say thank you, or if I'm looking like that, I'll be like nigga but why?

Speaker 1 4:59

but why?

Speaker 3 4:59

her face is not beat, but she's not ugly she, she's not, but I guess I'm trying to be like. This is my Libra Moon thing, trying to balance out the opinion. But I guess to a man's credit it's like damn, I see you not even trying and you look good. Let me just say something.

Speaker 1 5:17

Hey, fucking man, that's exactly where I was going with this. Okay, that's where I'm going with this.

Speaker 3 5:22

But maybe she doesn't think that she's sweating. She just finished working.

Speaker 1 5:27

I don't have time for female self esteem and that's probably what it is if you got self esteem problems. I'm trying to uplift you, cause you out here feeling like you, walking around looking like Missy in a fucking hefty bag, and I'm telling you like mom, but you might be the one nah, she was going a little heavy with it she said she was going a little heavy with it. She said she was scared.

Speaker 3 5:48

Yeah, I wouldn't go that heavy with it Not to say that I'm scared, but I'd probably be like my guy ain't got nothing on, but thank you.

Speaker 1 5:54

She said you guys scare me. No, that's a little bit too extreme of a she. Act like she outside walking around dripping a garbage juice.

Speaker 3 6:05

If she's had a prior experience or something, then use those type of words, but we don't have any frame of reference to why you're using that. So if you're just using that in general, I think that's the wrong term to use.

Speaker 1 6:13

So are we free to go.

Speaker 3 6:15

Yeah, because she overdid it with that. I think so too. I think it was overdone.

Speaker 1 6:19

Honestly, I want to know what y'all think, though you.

Speaker 3 6:27

Honestly, I want to know what y'all think, though you know, I hear what Jess saying, so Jess, you ever walk outside looking crazy Very rarely, but you do, though it's happened, though it has happened. Right. I get people looking, but I don't. If I'm looking crazy outside, it's because I'm on a mission, Like I got some shit that I ain't had time to get ready to go. I need to hurry up and get some shit and get the fuck back home.

Speaker 1 6:45

I ain't going to hold you though.

Speaker 3 6:48

You look unapproachable. That a motherfucking bitch Do I?

Speaker 1 6:50

Yeah.

Speaker 3 6:51

I've heard that often too. And then when motherfuckers talk to me, they be like, well, goddamn why you just Nah, nigga, what's setting is this, though, but maybe Is somebody taking your order. Do I look unapproachable now I?

Speaker 1 7:02

don't know. You don't open up your mouth, Paws, and you just doing your thing.

Speaker 3 7:09

So can we talk about that real quick? Why is Paws so important to your vernacular? It's not Because you don't miss any instant of when Paws is supposed to be inserted. I've been waiting for two days. You have not missed a beat. That shit is weird. Like it's a talent actually.

Speaker 1 7:29

I think it's a New York thing. You know, some people may say that you know what I mean, I'm insecure, or niggas that say it is insecure, and they just, you know, it's like an affirmation of just being on that side of things. For me, it's not so much that when I say shit you might just enter the conversation and not hear what I said prior to that, so I gotta pause it. So I don't want you. Yeah, I don't have to pause it and I know no all right, so your finger be on the pause button.

Speaker 3 7:58

Now, that's a fact now.

Speaker 1 8:00

Real shit. I just need to grow up. But I'm not trying to, and if you are offended or annoyed at me saying pause, not you specifically, but fuck you. It's really that simple. It's just a very interesting observation, because you said it maybe like 69 times, but every time I said it, though, you was like yeah, that shit was crazy, like the shit you just said was crazy, you know.

Speaker 3 8:24

You know what a double entendre is right.

Speaker 1 8:25

Yeah.

Speaker 3 8:26

So I could see why pause would be used because of a double entendre situation but if somebody knows you do you still like? It's habitual at this point.

Speaker 1 8:39

It's habitual.

Speaker 3 8:41

It's habitual that shit is just a talent.

Speaker 1 8:42

It was so crazy. It's like all right in certain places in New York if you go and you say something and you don't pause it, niggas be like hey, yo, you know what I mean.

Speaker 3 8:58

They'll be like niggas will do that. Leslie says it's just like saying it's fun. No, it's not, I can hear it's fun. Do y'all still say it's just like saying son? No, it's not, I can hear son. Do y'all still say son?

Speaker 1 9:05

We do, but it's how we say it. So, first of all and I learned this way back, it's not S-O-N, it's actually S-U-N. So and because I had a problem with niggas calling me son, because when I was growing up it's like oh, this nigga's sunning you is disrespectful.

Speaker 3 9:21

Right.

Speaker 1 9:22

Right, but then of course we switch it, as we so often do, so it's not S-O-N, it's S-U-N, S-U-N, rather, you know. So it's kind of like a term of endearment. You know what I mean. It's not I'm not putting you beneath me when I say sun Now Okay. Back then yeah, but now no, it's not that.

Speaker 3 9:42

How is the rest of the country supposed to know that the meeting?

Speaker 1 9:44

changed? We don't give a fuck. We don't give a fuck. There are five boroughs in New York and we all talk a different language. We all speak different. How are we supposed to know? I mean, I got you, got to be from there, you know.

Speaker 3 9:57

All right.

Speaker 2 9:58

Noted. No, main course, it's time to eat. What's on your mind?

Speaker 1 10:04

Had a lot on that, so I'm going to let you get to the first, the honorary. You know that thing right there, so I'm going to let you pull up the first topic.

Speaker 3 10:13

Look, I just want to read this comment real quick. My homegirl, leslie shot out the last on the West Coast. Dolomite too. I did not know this nigga was in. California. That is wild. But she said she had a wild pause moment. She said I touched a dude's booty during sexy time and he said pause loud as fuck.

Speaker 1 10:32

See, now that's that's a little, that's going extra. You're supposed to set them boundaries way before you even get to touch that booty. You're supposed to know, like, stay away from that, but that's hilarious. Ask him if that session was over after that. Did he stop as soon as? Nah, well, did y'all stop I?

Speaker 3 10:53

would hope that he wouldn't, because, god damn, just go with it Talking about that's a whole comedy session at that point. It ain't a she's. I mean if you in the moment, and you urging it on cool, it want a finger.

Speaker 1 11:08

It wasn't.

Speaker 3 11:08

Well, you got to ask her. I would hope it want a finger.

Speaker 1 11:10

You got to ask her. Make sure it wasn't a finger.

Speaker 3 11:12

Unless, I need more than these emojis.

Speaker 1 11:14

I need a yes or a no.

Speaker 3 11:18

Like, if it want a finger, nigga be quiet, just go with it. Okay, so, we'll it, just go with it. Um, okay, so you can pick any of those, okay, okay so this is fucking hilarious, like the fact that this is on the screen as well. Um, there's a question and it says please explain the model pose. Why are you slumped in poor posture?

Speaker 1 11:40

during the. I need to know niggas be posing. They like when you see the shit they be, like this and that shit is cute, like why?

Speaker 1 11:48

is that cute Okay so dudes, both oh you can't even say dudes or women, because what they do Is they cross gender the shit. So dudes are looking like chicks and chicks are looking like Dudes are looking like chicks and chicks are looking like Y'all don't even have any space. There's no space for y'all anymore. There's no space for females because dudes is encroaching on your territory. Let's get back to the posing, because we about to go straight left.

Speaker 3 12:16

I'm trying to think of myself Like I feel like my poses be upright with hella posture.

Speaker 1 12:21

But I'm talking about like the Givenchy and shit like that, like the shows.

Speaker 3 12:27

Oh, like real models.

Speaker 1 12:28

I was listen, I was scrolling, I was scrolling, there was an ad. I seen the ad and it was like for models Everybody's like that shit is not cute, though there's nothing about that makes me want to buy your shit. Professional models.

Speaker 3 12:44

Why do we even?

Model Poses and Awkward Pauses

Speaker 1 12:45

call them professional models, Like who put them in position to call that shit professional?

Speaker 3 12:51

Yo my nigga. When I be looking at the runway shows I be looking like who picked these? Who are these niggas?

Speaker 1 12:56

Who are these niggas Exactly? Who are these niggas?

Speaker 3 13:00

Who are these niggas? Stay away from these niggas.

Speaker 1 13:03

No, it's a big fact.

Speaker 3 13:05

Like and I guess because we're so used to seeing a diverse group of like. I like my people because we're all shades sizes and when you look at these clothes they be baggy as fuck on the smallest people with the stupidest looking faces. They be looking miserable as fuck. They be looking like they hate life, all of them.

Speaker 3 13:23

I don't think any model has ever looked like they liked what they were doing, but as far as when I was about to say that was an awkward pause, Because I'm thinking like I'm trying to think of like a magazine, and when I flip through the pages I'm looking at just the spread, the outfit, the advertisement, and they do be looking crazy as shit it be some awkward ass like Pinocchio on a string type of. And maybe that's what the fuck it is. We post you my bitch, so you got to do what the fuck I tell you to do. That was crazy.

Speaker 4 13:54

Like Pinocchio is Geppetto bitch Like you do what I tell you to do.

Speaker 3 14:00

You my puppet, you my puppet, you do what I tell you to do, and I feel like that might be like A subconscious Little power Power trippy shit From the photographer or from the director. Cause, why, why, I just can't stand Like I'm at the family reunion. That's a big fact. Why I gotta be Boxed the fuck up and bent the hell up and uncomfortable, looking To sell these jeans.

Speaker 1 14:19

Big fact. I'm over here doing like eight different things right now. I need to get both of those done. I'm gonna work that out. So boom, that's where we at with it.

Speaker 3 14:30

But so I think this, I think I was just confused about the question Because it didn't say professional. I'm thinking just the model pose In general, like the hood nigga pose or the jail pose, could be a model pose, I'm thinking.

Speaker 1 14:42

I wasn't thinking professional.

Speaker 3 14:43

I'm talking about yeah't thinking professional.

Speaker 1 14:44

You talking about people that get paid and food out to model clothes, yeah, 42nd Street billboards and shit, that shit and I don't understand it.

Speaker 3 14:53

Or maybe they're trying to compact all of these motherfuckers into the smallest frame possible, so they got the control. I'll take this shit a step further.

Speaker 1 15:00

What about the mannequins? The mannequins even look fucking crazy. Crazy, maybe like this and shit. What the fuck is that? It's like a fucking kung fu movie Crab technique. That shit look crazy.

Speaker 3 15:15

It does you stupid as hell. Not the mannequins. Look so it was a mall in Norfolk. That shit closed. Shout out to Jennifer, Shout out to Military Circle. We used to go in the mall and it's the hood mall and I feel like people Would go in there and fuck with the mannequins and I feel like the employees. Wouldn't know it and we'd just go in there, motherfucker, and hold on, let me add you to my Motherfucking God. Hold on, let me add you to my motherfucking God. Damn it, you ready what?

Speaker 1 15:46

you want. No, I'm on out. What you want, what you want.

Speaker 3 15:51

Should I do that? Would it be too much?

Speaker 1 15:53

I think you're doing a lot.

Speaker 3 15:54

I'm doing a lot. Okay, I'ma not do a lot.

Speaker 1 15:56

I think you're doing a lot. I'ma not Continue your talk track.

Speaker 3 15:59

But yeah, we used to go up in the mall. We used to go up in the mall and the mannequins be like grabbing balls and like if they're next to each other, that's a pause moment.

Speaker 1 16:09

Okay, you should say pause, you got to pause it.

Speaker 3 16:11

Why I'm not a dude. Females, don't give a fuck about that.

Speaker 1 16:13

Do females?

Speaker 3 16:14

say pause in New York.

Speaker 1 16:16

The ones in the Bronx do. Are they like niggas?

Speaker 3 16:20

I am from Charlotte, north Carolina. You know, new Yorkers, don't come to me. That's all I have. Do females usually say pause, they do.

Speaker 1 16:28

Not like we say pause, but yeah.

Speaker 3 16:30

Y'all have a lot more instances when it's relevant. We don't give a fuck. We be seeing titties boo-doo Like we don't be giving a fuck. We see that shit all the time With our friends.

Speaker 1 16:38

We don't care. But see, it doesn't impact you the way it impacts us when we don't say it. You get what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 16:44

I mean, but is that an insecurity problem too? It's not an insecurity.

Speaker 1 16:47

I told you I have two middle fingers in the mouth and I'm like fuck you. And then I don't give a fuck what you think. I said it nigga.

Speaker 3 16:54

I said it. I'm just saying like if you securing your life and somebody misunderstands something you say, that's not your fault.

Speaker 1 17:01

Yeah, but the thing is I'm trying to stave that off. I'm cutting that shit off at the pass. So before you even think it, nigga, I'm telling you what team I'm playing for All right.

Speaker 3 17:09

So that's what I'm saying. But if they know you what the fuck? All right. But okay, All right. It's habitual at this point All right Like an Aggie, ass Aggies so. So I gotta learn to pause, okay? Nah, you ain't.

Speaker 1 17:22

You don't have to pause, but yeah, it was just a pause moment. I just wanted to point that out.

Speaker 3 17:25

Yeah, I'm just saying, like females don't have a real reason to use it. Nah, you don't, you don't. But again, like I said, because of the conversation we had earlier, I'm just giving you that, I'll let you man your security, I'll let you guard that.

Speaker 1 17:42

It has nothing to do with any of that.

Speaker 3 17:44

Yo, I be watching Mason Cam and them niggas like this and it's fucking. But if they forget it, it's like social media murder for them. Like nigga you should have added the pause Like what Is that important?

Speaker 1 17:55

Because you got to understand. This is what we come from. It's kind of like if I go to New Orleans and somebody has like a Keechee accent, you know what I mean. It's Creole or Creole, I mean whatever. I'm not from that. So I'm speaking purely from ignorance right now. But the pause and all of that, I'm from that, okay. So I don't expect anybody outside of that to understand that.

Speaker 3 18:16

No, I get that.

Speaker 1 18:16

Nor am I here to educate anybody on why I don't give a fuck For real. Give a fuck For real. I'm going to say it. You know it is lightweight and mature and I do need to grow up, but not today. I'm not growing up today. Go ahead, Clearly it's my birthday mom. Go ahead, it is Mm-hmm.

Maintaining Bonds Through Distance and Change

Speaker 3 18:33

Happy early birthday. I feel like this is my belated birthday present and it's probably your early one 100%, 100%, that's how it worked out. This has been a long time coming for sure you my birthday present you, big brother. Can we get to the next? I'm being a little sister here. Next topic how do you maintain bonds after a significant amount of time has passed, or through distance, like what are some ways you kind of maintain the bonds you've built?

Speaker 1 19:08

It's bugged out because I'm a recluse Like, and it's good and bad and, in a lot of situations, highly unfortunate, because when I pull back, I don't necessarily always pull back because something was done to me.

Speaker 3 19:24

Okay.

Speaker 1 19:28

Sometimes I'll pull back because I need to reevaluate the shit that I'm doing and how I'm being viewed and what I'm projecting. If that makes sense.

Speaker 3 19:34

So I guess to me it feels like so like if I feel like I'm being worrisome to somebody or if I feel like I'm overdoing it, I'll pull back. Nobody has said anything, nobody has complained, nobody has made mention of it. But when it comes to me evaluating myself, like, uh, jessica, you might be doing too much. Chill out. Is that what it is? Nobody has complained, nobody has said you're doing too much, you just feel.

Speaker 1 19:58

You got to feel it yeah because I could be going through some shit in life and you have nothing to do with that. You've been a party to that. Yeah, you've been a party to that. Like something will happen and I'll pivot and just not pick up the phone and it wasn't just for you, it was everybody Like I literally went into that space and was like I'm not talking Again.

Speaker 1 20:22

Like I said, you've been a party to that, you know. Coming out of that, I'm sorry, go ahead, no, go ahead. Coming out of that and then trying to reconnect was difficult because when I left, we had business dealings and I had just like, literally left everything on the table.

Speaker 3 20:38

So is it difficult for you? If y'all don't know, I'm a therapist, so I be, I think, different. I ask different types of questions Cause my, it's just what I do. I don't be trying to therapize nobody, I just speak like this and found a way to get paid for it. But do you find it hard to allow? I tell my clients this all the time. Support is a noun and a verb, so if I'm your support, you got to allow me to do it. Is it hard for you to allow your support to support? You gotta allow me to do it.

Speaker 1 21:05

Is it hard for you to allow your support, to support you when it's time to be supported 100.

Speaker 3 21:07

How can you call your support your support?

Speaker 1 21:09

then, if we can't do it, a lot of times they send the cops to the door hey I mean it's. It's sometimes that drastic. You know, I've gotten the time that I basically separated myself from the world again. You've been a party to that. I got numerous texts like yo I'm going to send a wellness check and that would bring me out for like two seconds just to be like yo, relax.

Speaker 3 21:35

So the bonds that you do have and appreciate, what do you do to maintain them? What do you do to show love or appreciation, even if there's a distance or it's been a significant amount of time?

Speaker 1 21:46

Listen, everybody that I love I'm transparent with, Like they know fully well how I feel and why I feel that way.

Speaker 3 21:56

Okay.

Speaker 1 21:57

Right, and it's twofold because I do it one because you do need to know, and I also do it because I need you to understand my emotional state and my bond with you. So if you go left, you understand you're going to think about it before you do that because you're like, oh, this nigga feels this type of way. If I do that, that shit might be, crossing him. You know what I mean, so that's why I do it as well okay, I guess, for me I'm like a super talk.

Speaker 3 22:23

I'm the opposite, though. I'm like a super talker. I'm the opposite, though. I feel like sometimes I'm extroverted as a defense mechanism, because I don't want people asking me questions. I will reach out and do the most so that people don't ask or people don't worry, even if I don't want to be bothered. I'll still try to maintain a certain level of communication with people, because I don't want people to know what the fuck going on or something's going on, if that's, even If any of that made sense.

Speaker 1 22:52

No, it did.

Speaker 3 22:54

But um, but yeah, okay, just a question I had. I know some people find it hard to bounce back or pick up where they're left off. Some people take shit personal. If you know you ain't did shit to nobody and somebody makes the pivot, why take it to the heart If you know that people go through shit and sometimes you just got to be understanding Because a lot of people pretend to know you.

Speaker 1 23:22

That's why and I feel like I've been a lot of, I've been around a lot of people like that and I've also killed a lot of relationships because of that. You know what I mean Like don't pretend to know me. I hate that shit. Like either you know me or you don't know me, that's a good one. But don't pretend to know me, right, meaning, if I'm not even in the room and you're talking about me and you're like, oh no, he doesn't. Like that, don't fucking know me. I can go with that.

Speaker 3 23:50

I feel that way. You got a lot of people around that can pretend. I'm surprised you even got people that can pretend.

Speaker 4 23:59

You already know I don't have any friends. You got a battle axe over there. No friends. Heads everywhere have any friends. You got a battle axe over there.

Speaker 1 24:04

No, I don't have no friends.

Musical Preferences and Evolving Taste

Speaker 3 24:04

Heads everywhere, heads rolling, zero friends Heads are rolling, so I'll pivot into what are some things you find yourself outgrowing as you get older. Do you find that it's wild? Like damn. I used to really fuck with that shit, like I ain't fucking with it no more.

Speaker 1 24:19

Yeah, cartoons Really. Yeah, it's crazy.

Speaker 3 24:23

All of them Like nothing animated whatsoever.

Speaker 1 24:26

It's funny because I'm a little bit more nostalgic as far as that's you know concerned. Okay, so like things gonna start cracking up, listen, let me before. Let me preface this with my birthday is on Tuesday. I will be 50 years old, so any of that, that nigga old suck my dick. So this the thing. Yes, I am Pray that you get here One day. That was my defense.

Speaker 3 24:50

Absolutely, that was my defense mechanism.

Speaker 1 24:52

Absolutely Too many ain't making it, but no, this the thing Like Fuck, what was the Flintstones, the Jetsons, shit like that.

Speaker 3 25:03

You made plenty Rubble references yesterday.

Speaker 1 25:05

You did have because you had the Barney Rubbles out. Yo Jay had the Barney Rubbles out. Yesterday when I seen him here you had the Gucci slides on. This nigga had plenty jokes.

Speaker 3 25:20

So you don't even watch anything. You never done anime, you never been into that.

Speaker 1 25:24

I can't get Well Robotech Like.

Speaker 3 25:26

Dragon Ball.

Speaker 1 25:27

Z Nah Robotech was my form of Anime, because it was and it wasn't really anime. Basically it was just Japanese made cartoons.

Speaker 3 25:35

I don't even know what the fuck that is.

Speaker 1 25:36

Voltron. Okay, alright. So Robotech actually came out After that, you know, and it was just kind of like A whole After that. You know, it was just kind of like a whole. I think everything else followed, like Pokemon and shit. I don't fuck with. Yeah, I couldn't fuck with none of that.

Speaker 3 25:49

Not even just like. So I'll give you one of mine, and this probably might be like it ain't trying to be profound, but I feel like I've started to outgrow my own bullshit, Like I've started to like outgrow some stupid shit that I used to do.

Speaker 1 26:03

No, I need specifics. That shit just sound crazy.

Speaker 3 26:06

Do it. So now I don't lose my temper. I've outgrown fussing. I've outgrown unhealthy communication.

Speaker 1 26:14

I've outgrown I like the way you put that.

Speaker 3 26:18

I've outgrown settling for shit just to have people around. I've outgrown the need for validation.

Speaker 1 26:23

I've outgrown I can say some silly shit. You have not outgrown the need for validation. I promise you that.

Speaker 3 26:28

But go ahead, it sounds good though I've eased up on it, I don't need it as bad as I feel like I used to Like. I've outgrown shit like chicken nuggets. Like a grown-ass motherfucker now.

Speaker 1 26:39

Yeah, wait, you used to eat chicken nuggets. Hell yeah, who didn't? It's the thing, though TikTok made me outgrow that shit.

Speaker 3 26:47

I seen how they made it, but that's an age developmental thing Like, if you Like, in my 20s I was dogging out Wendy's nuggets Cause I was that I was in that place financially.

Speaker 1 26:56

Yeah.

Speaker 3 26:57

Like. But as you get older, opportunities open up. You know what I'm saying? Circumstances change. So now, nigga, I circumstances change, so now I be on some lamb chops, like you not gonna like. I work hard like. I heard y'all motherfuckers mention that lamb chop. What's so wrong with the motherfucking lamb chop? But you kind of outgrow just and you're supposed to like.

Speaker 3 27:16

You're supposed to evolve and do better and be a better version of yourself always striving for that but I think what I'm surprised I'm outgrowing is some of our music and I don't know if I'm old now because I used to think my mama was old for playing her shit, but her shit was likable. I don't like none of this new shit, like whatsoever None of it. So you brought up Sexy Rare earlier. I'm good on that bitch Like. None of it. So you brought up Sexy Rare earlier. I'm good on that bitch Like if she ever sees this baby run up and get done up, but I'm good on all of that Like. That is not. It does nothing for me. It is not entertaining and I'm just surprised that I'm not as receptive to music as I used to be.

Speaker 1 27:59

I'm starting to find myself in that same position.

Speaker 3 28:02

Okay.

Speaker 1 28:02

Because I'm viewing my childhood artists, even going back to like my 20s and 30s, for what they really are like entertainers, you know. So we get so wrapped up in these entertainers, see, I think TikTok and TikTok Instagram and all that other shit kind of like fucked it up for a lot of it.

Speaker 3 28:24

Okay.

Speaker 1 28:25

Because you get to see who they are, as opposed Before, when I was growing up, the only thing you saw was the marketing Right, so I saw what you wanted me to see.

Speaker 3 28:36

Now we get to see how y'all behave your character Character.

Speaker 1 28:40

You know that whole thing, so it's a lot off-putting.

Speaker 3 28:45

That's a good perspective, Because I feel like the more you know somebody, the more you get to have a valid judgment of what you allow them to put in your life. Like you know Uncle Joe and them is fucked up Like you don't, let Uncle Joe give you no damn advice At all.

Speaker 3 29:00

Right. So I guess, as we get to know celebrities and they let us in their lives as intrusive as they do and as liberally as they do, you see their characters, but maybe that's, maybe that's influencing what I'm outgrowing. That's a good Ouch, mr Glass, over here. That was a good perspective. No, I appreciate that. Mm-hmm Light bulb just went off. Wow. Because I'm a music head all day so it kind of pisses me off, like why am? I listening to all this old shit Like am I really stuck in the 99 and the 2000s?

Speaker 1 29:38

I'll give you a perfect example. So Bad Boy was a really big staple in New Yorkork fuck the world. I'm not talking about the world. I'm talking about my block, specifically right on my borough, specifically because big was from brooklyn and pretty much that's literally how I think his biggest check, his first biggest check, came from that whole situation. None of forget all of that right, forget the fact that, forget the fact that you know Big in that whole situation. But now Puffy went and did what he did. Well, he was doing what he was doing.

Speaker 3 30:20

Right, it's now been exposed.

Speaker 1 30:21

Now the shit is being exposed and it just makes the music hard to listen to. Right, think about R Kelly. When R Kelly did what he did, this nigga's fucking catalog was crazy, nah. And then I have people that I know personally be like I still listen to him. I'm like nigga, you brain dead because I can't listen to it with the same ear and enjoy it the same way. Knowing what this nigga did, you get what I'm saying? It's kind of like.

Speaker 1 30:45

it's kind of like a gay dude singing for chicks, but we don't know he gay yet like johnny gill, it is like, like, like, like 90 of them right and then what happens is when I find out that you're gay and I was listening to them. I'm listening to this song totally.

Speaker 3 31:02

I can't hear it the way I. I heard it. Hey, I definitely don't listen to Road Be the Right Way, the same way.

Speaker 1 31:08

So there's no way that niggas be like, yeah, but you know he's pissing on girls. Nigga, it was a child, I can't do it. Yeah, I can't do it and the dude Not, for Nothin' was amazing. Amazing, but he was pissing on Giza Petalow Like.

Speaker 3 31:25

I can't even listen to Drake, like you saw when we was in the car. Like I gotta tap, like I don't even feel comfortable.

Speaker 1 31:30

Nah Drake is over too. Kendrick done, fucked that up for me.

Speaker 3 31:33

I love that I actually love it, and I had a thought Excuse me, excuse me, excuse me. I had a thought that maybe this nigga was collaborating with everybody, so when this shit hit the fan can't nobody talk shit about him, cause y'all niggas made music with me. Y'all niggas ate off of me. Y'all blah, blah, blah. This nigga was on everybody's everything I'm listening to old shit.

Speaker 1 31:55

So was Jay. His blueprint pretty much was Jay's blueprint. Think about it. Jay was hot every summer because of the fact that he was on everybody else's remakes, not because he was dropping albums, he wasn't dropping albums, but his albums were great too. To me Some of them, I mean best of both worlds.

Speaker 3 32:16

I'm not talking about those.

Speaker 1 32:19

I don't consider that one of Jay In his catalog at all either.

Speaker 3 32:23

So Nah, but I definitely to that one of G in you know his catalog at all either, right, um, nah, but I definitely I really feel a way because I've outgrown my love for it, like I used to love when new music came out. It's old.

Speaker 3 32:36

I used to go to. You can probably tell at my age I ain't that old, but clearly I ain't that young. I used to go to FYE or them little music stores and just sit there and listen to shit, like they had the booths where you can listen to the albums before you bomb. Like I miss doing that and people actually having shit I wanted to listen to. I miss being eager for somebody to come out with some shit, because the shit that's out now I just started listening to Afro beats and UK music. You have to.

Speaker 3 33:04

You got to switch it up.

Speaker 1 33:05

You got to switch it up. You got to switch it up Because the machine will definitely have you fucked up and listening to the same stupid shit over and over and over again. Now I will say to TikTok's credit and Instagram's credit they will make an artist hot Right, because they'll take that 30 seconds of whatever it is and these people hammer time hammer time word, it's my people what a cool out corner. Shout out to them too.

Speaker 3 33:36

They do, they think yeah, yeah they do, they think um yeah, I just, I, just, I just being I don't know if that's my innocence fading for me or me just wanting to hold on to some shit, and it's like I feel like all these new you, you were saying that TikTok and Instagram will fucking shove it down your throat until you like it.

Speaker 3 33:57

And I guess, because it's so repetitious, you can't help but to oh baby, like I don't. I've never heard that song in its entirety, but because I keep hearing, oh you, my earth, I've never heard that song ever in my life you know how.

Speaker 1 34:15

You know how. First of all, I don't listen to her at all me either I don't trash it, neither. It's not my preference to read, and I stopped trashing her. Let my preference and I stopped trashing her. Let me correct myself. I stopped trashing her right. The reason why I stopped trashing her is this I started listening to Lil' Kim the other day and I was like that was how sexy right. I started yeah, foxy, that was how sexy right. Like we was already on it.

Speaker 3 34:43

A little bit more talent involved. No, we was already on it A little bit more talent involved.

Speaker 1 34:45

No, we was on it how she wasn't writing her shit. Big was writing her shit. So what talent she was performing. I mean, come on, her memory was crazy.

Speaker 3 34:52

Man shout out to Kim she ain't going to get no rebuttal. Big Brooklyn all day.

Speaker 1 35:05

God damn it. It wasn't that she had more talent, Remember. As far as rap is concerned, it's all about preference. We can't, you know.

Speaker 3 35:07

Okay, so to your previous point we get to see more. We get to see more now. So because Sexy Red was working right after she had her baby, we didn't get to see none of these things. With Kim, we get the poster. Like you said, we get what they wanted us to see, but we didn't get any of the, we didn't get no tea until all the court shit started happening. And that's when you figured out, you, you get a little bit more in depth with people's details when she went to jail for perjury right prior to that you don't get to know nobody business unless they in the interview talking about it.

Navigating Relevance in Modern Technology

Speaker 3 35:41

But now every we get to see all of Sexy Red's, everything We've seen a partner. She got us something out on Twitter. We didn't get to see none of that back then, so I guess that's Sure we did. You had to buy the tape.

Speaker 1 35:53

This shit is being pushed, but you said we didn't get to see it. We got to see it.

Speaker 3 35:58

It was not. You know how freely all this shit is given Freely. All this shit is given Like everything is like instantaneous as soon as something happens, these niggas had to go dub it, burn it sell it Africans was on the corner with the blankets. Right.

Speaker 1 36:11

It was easy, so it was easy.

Speaker 3 36:14

The rest of the world didn't see it. New York probably already knew that shit. The rest of the world did not. They had no clue.

Speaker 1 36:21

They had no clue, selling Taibo joints and R Kelly.

Speaker 3 36:25

But we kind of get to see like in her life and I guess that helps us form like a judgment in what her character is like.

Speaker 1 36:35

Right.

Speaker 3 36:35

I know the influence is probably there for the deal and the money and, like I seen, you know who Suki is Sukiana.

Speaker 1 36:42

That bitch is ignorant as fuck. She is.

Speaker 3 36:44

But she came up with a video maybe like a year or two ago, and she was just like y'all, this is really not me. I signed a contract. I have to put these things out. I signed that I would do these things, and maybe that's what's contributing.

Speaker 1 36:58

I need more info. I just need more info. I can't.

Speaker 3 37:02

No, I feel that, but she came up with the song. I no, I feel that, but she came up with the song. I don't know if you heard it. Now I'm eating his ass and he eating my ass and eating his ass, and she was like she didn't want to do that, but she was forced to because she signed a contract to do all this. Blah, blah, blah. But she do be doing some raunchy-ass shit. But I get like you do shit for the money, money. You do shit because you want to take care of your family and you settle so, so, so. So I put a question up how do you stay relevant without compromising yourself?

Speaker 1 37:37

no, there's more to that question. I ain't beat that question. There's more to that question. Read the whole thing that is it.

Speaker 3 37:45

How do you stay relevant without compromising? Okay, no, no, no, I'm at this point, I got you.

Speaker 1 37:51

Oh, okay, without compromising yourself, you gotta stay alright. You know what's so crazy about that thing, that question in and of itself, it's like you gotta stay everybody be like yo. You gotta stay true to yourself. I'm like nigga, you cannot. I'm like nigga, you cannot. I'm gonna flip this. You cannot sell ice to an Eskimo, what you understand what I'm saying? If you got ice, the nigga next door got ice Right. The nigga outside your door has ice Right. It's not a viable product, so it's not about, do you?

Speaker 1 38:24

Type of situation and in terms of being relevant without compromise. When you say, let's understand what you mean when you, when you say compromising yourself, though.

Speaker 3 38:34

So to me, compromising is being some. If you know you do, you trust your intuition when you feel something most times yeah so compromising would be going against going against your intuition going against what you know. In any perfect situation you would never do, outside of anybody or anything's influence, some shit. You would never do Right, but you allow yourself to be compromised.

Speaker 1 38:55

You allow yourself to be influenced. So let me get back to it then. In order to make that work, you literally have to embody being a hustler. You have to be a hustler, explain.

Speaker 3 39:05

I mean, you have to embody being a hustler.

Speaker 1 39:06

You have to be a hustler, explain. I mean, you have to work. Okay, you know what I'm saying. And I'm not talking about a regular nine to five. Of course you need a regular nine to five because it's a means to an end and it's basically going to fuel or fund what you're trying to do anyway. I'm talking about, like, when you have something, study what you have.

Speaker 3 39:29

Okay.

Speaker 1 39:29

Right, but then it's a day in, day out grind.

Speaker 3 39:33

Okay.

Speaker 1 39:33

Most times when we start something, we're looking at the end result of what we're starting.

Speaker 3 39:38

That's why we started, never the in between Never.

Speaker 1 39:40

We're talking about all right. They're like cool, check it out, I like this, right, this could get me a million dollars. It may very well get you a million dollars, right, five, six years from now. Right, right, but they're not willing to grind. So that's why they burn out after, like you know, the eight months or whatever, or even a year or a year and a half, but they never achieve that because they're like looking at the end result as opposed to that. So what do we do?

Speaker 3 40:08

we compromise they get tired exactly okay, I feel that look for the easy way I don't want to.

Speaker 1 40:19

I don't want to necessarily say the easy way, the plan that they have, they, they think that that's what it is that's going to get me there, that's the plan, but we never apply it to a timetable. I'm here for this perspective.

Speaker 3 40:35

Okay, you know. So this is what I'm hearing and this is what I'm going to just regurgitate it back out. You compromise yourself when you don't grow with your plan, like when you don't, because I feel like if you come up with any idea, you have to allow that to evolve. With how you're evolving too, because just because you write something down on the paper don't mean that's how it's going to go for the entire duration.

Speaker 1 40:58

Yeah, but you can't start immediately after you write it down on paper. And the way I grew up was, every time I tried to start a venture or something, the first thing that they would ask for is a business plan. You have a business plan. We now, because money is so freely thrown around, we now forego that whole situation. We think we don't need it. We think that we're just going to turn on the camera, go viral, right, and then we good, you understand what.

Speaker 3 41:26

I'm saying Because we've seen it happen. Because we've seen it happen, it's almost like the lottery you think you can win.

Speaker 1 41:31

It's exactly like the lottery, because when you think about, come on the platform Instagram, for instance, like that platform is huge you would drop in a bucket. Yeah, you know what I mean. If you would drop in a bucket, then bucket, then you gotta do, you gotta do more and you have to do things that are different. And then I also heard a very interesting thing with regards to um, instagram, instagram or any other those, any of those platforms is never gonna let you win the way that you want to win, and I'm gonna tell you why that they're not gonna let you win because of the, the fact that if, let's say, you have a million people on your platform, ok, all million people, one million people they each give you a dollar, a million dollars, right, right. Instagram is never going to let them all see the content in one shot because they need to be able to sell advertisement.

Speaker 1 42:24

So why would, why would I let that happen, where my advertisers don't even need to come to me? They just come to you, get a creative. You get what I'm saying. So, with that being said, instagram, all of those platforms I'm not just calling out instagram, but all of the platforms they're never going to allow you the latitude to actually win. They charge you. I have a million. I have a million viewers right and to boost a post, instagram charges me. I have a million viewers. Why the fuck do I need to boost the post?

Speaker 1 42:54

send it to all of them these are the people that actually you know I mean, but you want me to pay you to get it out come on man, you know, I think that the organic way to grow I mean organic growth right now is ultimately like non-existent. You got to take it offline in order to grow organically, okay okay.

Speaker 3 43:17

So I'm going to ask this question too, because this is these, were I put these two together because they kind of went hand in hand for me? So, how do you see yourself keeping up with how fast technology is changing? I feel like the in-person shit is going to make the difference. Because they were talking about how, like in about 2030, you're not going to be able to tell AI from real people 100%.

Speaker 3 43:38

So I'm just like damn, if me and Styles are up here and we're talking, damn AI can mock us. Ai can simulate us Like we're doing a part, like that's 100 they're doing it now right they're doing it.

Success Through Pivot and Support

Speaker 1 43:51

Now you write the script. Ai will definitely say it in your voice. They. They're doing it, right? Um, it's gonna be, yeah, all right. So technology is never gonna stop right period. It moves at the speed of light absolutely. Your pivot game and your imagination is the only thing. That your pivot game and your imagination is the only thing that's going to separate you from everybody else. So like, for instance, charlamagne and stuff like that, joe Buttons, joe Rogan, like the way that you pivot, you know I mean, is going to determine your success.

Speaker 3 44:27

Right.

Speaker 1 44:27

You know, or your ability to pivot is going to determine your success. You know, so you have to stay up on shit. You have to stay up on shit.

Speaker 3 44:36

It's so much going on though it's like how do you even figure out? But I guess, if you hustling and you got your niche and you are, like you, focused on the brunch hour, Like you focused on what you can do to make sure what you are doing is keeping up with trends, or just I don't, because I don't think you compare yourself at all, I don't. To what To other people. You do what you do you in your own lane, for real.

Speaker 1 45:03

I mean, I try not to. I'm going to be honest with you. I do what. Put it to you like this I do what everybody else does. You know there's definitely a cause and effect, right? I had an idea as to what I wanted to do as far as a podcast like.

Speaker 1 45:16

I started this podcast platform because I wanted to throw brunch events okay but I didn't want to compete with the the promoters already that were actually in that lane gotcha. So what I was like, all right, fuck it, you know what? I'm not gonna be a promoter, I'm gonna create my own platform, build that platform. Now I have a built-in audience for right, my shit, now I'm automatically a promoter.

Speaker 3 45:39

I don't have to get, I don't want, I don't have to basically be cool with anybody else to make my shit happen right I got my own shit so, just like with with your, with the podcast, you you put a spin on it, because now you're not just limited to your borough like now. You've been traveling now we outside yeah, outside, outside yeah, we outside like for real and I feel like, because you're doing an in-person thing, you are pivoting with what's going on, not even realizing you're doing some shit ain't nobody else really motherfucking doing. But because this is an in-person thing, technology can't fuck with the in-person.

Speaker 1 46:19

Yeah, I can't. This is my thing. Fuck Zoom.

Speaker 1 46:22

And shout out to everybody doing it. This is low-slide to you. It didn't work for me because for four years prior to me even attempting to do something on Zoom, everything was in person, like all my co-hosts. We sat at my kitchen table and we all did it there, right, because I can look at it's not just audible cues that are delayed if I'm doing it on Zoom, but it's also the physical cues that we take. You know, take things from and stuff like that, um, and it just feels better and it feels better to the listener hey, yo ain't no.

Speaker 3 46:56

Hold on, let me fix my light and hold on my child. No, this feels, better real time and I could.

Speaker 1 47:03

You know me, I'm quick with it. I'm quick to tell somebody shut the fuck up. Now, if I do that on Zoom, you might take it the wrong way, but if I do it in person, Niggas is not going to really take it any type of way.

Speaker 3 47:17

I definitely applaud you and commend you and definitely wish infinite abundance and blessings over this venture, because I really fuck with how y'all be traveling and doing this shit, because you're not because you ain't just talking about it, you're literally doing the thing you set out to do.

Speaker 1 47:31

I was blessed to have two other brothers sit down after I was like, listen, this is what I'm trying to do you with it. I don't have no bread, everybody coming out of their pocket to do it, but the end result is this, and down the line, anything that we make off of it is 50-50. I don't you get what I'm saying. Whatever comes from that and this is my plan to actually get the bag, so I'm not just like Yo, let's go create the content and then see what happens. Nah, there's a whole plan Behind this whole shit. There's a whole Like everything. There's something behind it, absolutely you know. So when I pitched it and then they decided to actually go out on their own dime with me to make it happen, that shit was like damn near unheard of. It doesn't happen, go mode. You know what I mean? It doesn't happen. We hit, we hit Maryland. We hit New York, of course, because those are home base. Then we hit Houston, we hit Dallas. Now we out here.

Speaker 3 48:31

So you know Queen City Definitely, definitely, definitely proud of you Because you definitely put me on to the plan and to see it, I feel like a proud mama, I really do.

Speaker 1 48:43

Appreciate it.

Speaker 3 48:43

Yeah. So I hit our last topic. Do you feel fake when you support people even if you don't like their content? Or do you feel like you're just being a truly supportive and genuine person, Because I don't be liking a whole bunch of motherfuckers' content, I'll double tap it just because you had the confidence to put this bullshit out there. But do you feel like you're being fake when you support people there.

Navigating Constructive Criticism and Authenticity

Speaker 1 49:11

Nah, I think that I've been blessed for everybody pretty much to know my stance on it. Like I don't listen to a lot of podcasters like that. I've had podcasters come on this platform and I'm telling them flat out like, listen, I dig you, I dig the content. I. And I'm telling them flat out like listen, I dig you, I dig the content. I don't listen to the podcast like that. I will. You know what I mean, and I do occasionally do it, but I'm not that. I don't ever pretend to be like yo come on this platform, I really dig what you got going on over there and those episodes of fight. Nah, I don't do none of that and I know that niggas don't support it the same way. But then I tell podcasters all the time you're not my audience anyway, so I don't get offended.

Speaker 3 49:52

You're not my audience.

Speaker 1 49:53

Your audience might be my audience, but you're not my audience. So I don't get offended when that happens and I expect the same when I do, same type of grace when I'm like listen, but I tell niggas like I don't do it.

Speaker 3 50:05

Has anybody ever told you they don't like what you do? Yeah, really yeah, point them out.

Speaker 1 50:13

I've been told, yo, you got the brunch hour. So basically there's a disconnect between the name and what the actual podcast is about. Right, but this dude, he's my man kind of, but he's a clown Because when I think about it I'm like yo, from the inception of this, the entire format of the show was a fucking menu. So now I know you really talking out of turn and you just like the sound of your fucking voice. But this is why I'm me, this is why I'm just like I don't even talk to niggas, because I just don't, I can't Like, if you don't come to me like I live for constructive criticism, I live for constructive criticism.

Speaker 3 50:47

I live for feedback. That might be some Leo shit, I'm here for it.

Speaker 1 50:49

Listen, I've had people you know in my inbox like I don't agree with X, y and Z. Blah, blah, blah. For me that's a learning moment.

Speaker 3 50:57

Right.

Speaker 1 50:57

You get what I'm saying. I've also had people like yo. I really fucks with what y'all doing over there. For these reasons, you know what I mean and then I walk away and I'm on cloud nine for the rest of the day, and then we get back to work tomorrow. But yeah, okay, yeah, do you? Because I feel like you interviewing me right now. Let's talk about you.

Speaker 3 51:19

I can ask you questions, god damn it. Like I said, if I see something, I admire people's confidence nowadays.

Speaker 3 51:30

And because I'm not so receptive to a lot, I don't ingest a lot of information that is not relevant to my life. So if I see some shit and I'm like, all right, you go, girl, and I just scroll, I won't say anything negative. I don't really give feedback to people that I know are probably too, too sensitive. I only give constructive criticism to the people I know can take it, because I don't know everybody. Everybody don't know me. I'm always coming with good intentions. I always speak and move out of love. Everybody might not receive it that way, so I'm just I'll double tap and keep scrolling.

Speaker 1 52:05

Yo listen, my new shit is God told me to mind my motherfucking business right, so sometimes it's not even my place to offer constructive criticism. You know, especially for, like the headstrong people that just you know moving at light speed, you know, with the ferocity of, you know the fucking, I don't know the force of whatever you know, they don't have time, don't know the force or whatever you know, and they don't have time to stop, slow down and evaluate what they're doing, you know. So I listen, I don't even have time for it.

Speaker 3 52:36

For the record, I would like to say if anybody, if y'all, don't like what the fuck I'm doing, you can say something. So you made the statement. I look unapproachableable and I feel like maybe if I'm doing something people don't like, I already look unapproachable so if they know you, they know that you're approaching they know me, they yeah, that's what I'm saying, if I don't know you.

Speaker 1 52:56

You look unapproachable but is.

Speaker 3 52:59

But regardless of how I come across, is that a barrier for you to tell somebody some constructive criticism if you see something that can help me? Damn, she look unapproachable. I don't want to tell her that she gonna like.

Speaker 1 53:09

Is that enough to keep? No, because if I've been around you already know whether I could say it or not.

Speaker 3 53:15

Would you not. You don't do that to people you don't know, you don't give constructive To people that I don't know do what they do.

Speaker 1 53:23

It's not my place, and I'm not even saying it like that. It's just really not my place. You get what I'm saying. If you put your shit out, you understand what I'm saying and then you're inviting criticism.

Speaker 3 53:38

Agreed.

Speaker 1 53:38

You get what I'm saying. What I'm hearing from you is just in general.

Speaker 3 53:45

I'm not saying walk up to the nigga around the corner. No, I'm talking about like if there's some shit going on and you're invited to be a part of it, or if there was like a guest host or if you're like, would you not give constructive criticism if?

Speaker 1 53:59

In that space, all right. So, for instance, I'm a martial artist, right Okay. So when I've I don't compete anymore, but when I do go because my cousins are actually doing this thing right now but when I go I'm tempted, and when I'm seeing, you know, sparring matches and stuff like that, I'm tempted to offer Correction.

Speaker 1 54:21

Yeah, just a little bit and I have to temper that because of the fact that that's not my place. Okay, and I have to temper that because of the fact that that's not my place. I don't know you. You do what I do and you might be doing it and it should look crazy, but I don't know you. That's somebody else's problem. Go ahead and handle that. But if I know you right, let's say that that's somebody else's student or my man's student.

Speaker 3 54:41

Then I'ma step in and I'ma say something well, do you see this going on a lot just in the lanes that you're in? Do you see a lot of fake love and support, like you know damn well?

Speaker 1 54:52

Yeah, but I told you my grown age though Mind your business, it's not even mind my business, it's just kind of like there's a saying that what you eat doesn't make me shit.

Speaker 3 55:02

Right.

Speaker 1 55:03

So what you doing, that's cool. What I'm doing, I think, is cool too. You understand what I'm saying. If you think that you know, you over here, just double tapping for the sake of it, you can recognize the real love and all of that, right, but remember, the goal isn't the double taps from the people that are in your orbit. That's not the goal, true, because they're going to. You know, I have people that are near and dear to me that don't double tap like that. You understand and I get it, that's fact, yeah, but I get it.

Speaker 1 55:31

But remember, at the end of the day, just because they're near and dear doesn't mean that the shit your talk track is their talk track. You know what I mean. It doesn't mean that what excites you excites them. They like you. They might not necessarily like the material, right, I have people near and dear to me that don't even fuck with podcasts. You know what I'm saying. So it's like you can't. There's a lot of fake love, but fake love is marketing. It's not even fake love. You can't even call it that anymore. It's marketing.

Speaker 3 56:02

I feel like all of these questions kind of technology, the fake love, the staying relevant without compromising of these questions kind of the technology, the fake love, the staying relevant without compromising all of that shit kind of falls into the same little grab bag Like are you being genuinely yourself, are you evolving and learning who you're growing into, are you embodying that, so that you don't compromise, you don't show fake love? You? Don't fall behind.

Speaker 1 56:26

What's even crazier like this right here, because you know my birthday is Tuesday and I do have a birthday wish I wish that I could bump into somebody that's going to jump in my inbox and be like yo, that segment is trash, because I'm going to be like that's cool, not for your birthday.

Speaker 1 56:40

No, no, no. I'm going to invite them to a conversation. Let to invite them to a conversation. Let's have a conversation about it, because I'm trying to grow, so I'm gonna ask qualifying questions, as well understood. But I'm on a time limit. What you get you about to get kicked off? I'm on a time limit, yeah. So yeah, you outside, but not really I'm on punishment.

Speaker 3 56:58

I told you they've been.

Speaker 1 56:59

Goddamn street lights just came on you can't ban a snowman but my whole thing is like I want that person and Bob used to always she still does to this day Podcasts won't invite me on their platform If I ask. I don't know what the fuck it is, but if I ask to come on their platform, it's not like I'm getting denied, but I won't be invited. Niggas will really be on some like.

Speaker 3 57:26

Is that really the trend?

Speaker 1 57:27

I don't know if it's a trend, but I know it's a thing you know and I'm not offended by it or whatever you know, and she'll be like yo, you're just too.

Speaker 3 57:36

Real.

Speaker 1 57:36

Something. You know what I mean. Like your mouth is a little too crazy, but I mean. I think that you know again. Again, I'm not with the rubbing elbows with niggas, I'm not about the go along and get along.

Speaker 3 57:49

That's not me, fuck that that's called settling to me.

Speaker 1 57:53

Is it?

Speaker 3 57:56

To me. Let's book it.

Speaker 1 57:57

I think I was. Riders is joint Shout out to riders. Riders always show up Always. But nah, you got kicked off. They did. It's crazy. You can jump back on Pause. I'm just saying.

Speaker 3 58:15

That's like number 74. Nah, that's fine, keep counting, golly.

Speaker 1 58:20

Get to doing what you do. But see, the thing is, rod, my thing is I can't do Zoom. It has to be in person, you know, and I know that you and I in person, the shit would be crazy. Pause, it would be. No, seriously, it would be. Rod, this is your real one, you know, and I need to get out to Chicago, actually, I want to come. Oh, now you're doing it. You're more than welcome. Who Huh?

Speaker 3 58:48

Who you talking about me.

Speaker 1 58:48

You just said you want to come. I want to go to Chicago. All right, jess, you continue doing what you're doing. I'm going to talk to the people real quick. I don't know what the fuck you're talking about. Let me jump in. Good.

Speaker 3 59:02

Yeah.

Speaker 1 59:07

All right, cool, okay, we good, but yeah, that whole thing, yeah, so that's my birthday wish. My birthday wish is that I actually had people in my orbit that would you know, that actually listened to the show and then would critique the show because I'm all about growth, you understand Because then it's going to force me to think Whether I go with the idea or not. Go with the idea, like I have people that I talk to, and all right. So let me explain me. Sure, you come to me and you like yo styles. I'm trying to do x, y and z. I swear to god, five minutes in the conversation I'm already thinking about the marketing and promotion. I'm already thinking about your demographic. I'm always but that's the nigga, that I am right, I am right. So it's kind of crazy, because niggas are coming to me. I'm'm like, oh, you really wasn't ready. I understand.

Speaker 1 59:47

Not for me, just in general, you wasn't ready.

Speaker 3 59:49

Look, I had a. I had a client she again I'm a therapist, I don't know and she was complaining about her, her husband, how he says he wants to do certain things and she's just like I feel like I'm like that as soon as you tell me you want to do something, I'm already thinking of ways I can help things. Blah, blah, blah. And I said, well, and he gets frustrated when she reminds him hey, you said you want to do blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Sometimes an idea is not a goal. So sometimes people might come to you with ideas but it's not yet a goal to them yet, because the goal requires you to put things in place for you to achieve that. Sometimes they're just talking about ideas that they Sounds fun to do.

Speaker 1 1:00:31

No 100%, but I think between the ages of 20 to 35, that might be the case At 35,. You've seen some things.

Speaker 3 1:00:43

I feel you, but everybody's not developmentally where you are mentally, or everybody don't have that same type of intelligence.

Speaker 1 1:00:51

Yes, I'm about to be 5'0", so I'm not expecting everybody to be where I'm at. I get that, you know but again, you know, I've been trying to put shit together forever, like I've had a magazine, a whole fucking magazine, and there's a whole story behind that whole thing. You get what I'm saying, and from that magazine venture it, put me in a space where it's like when I do have conversations with everybody, niggas make it sound cool, like yo. I'm about to take a meeting for blah blah blah, but you're not ready yet though.

Speaker 3 1:01:17

Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:01:17

Right so, the meeting sounds good, right so, but the fact of the matter is, you're not really ready but that's, but that's part of.

Speaker 3 1:01:30

Is it an idea or is it a goal? Because if you are, this is just my opinion if you're operating up from a goal oriented mindset, as soon as I tell you some shit I already got, if I'm talking to you about it, I've already mapped out some shit. It sounds like just maybe from the examples that you've given, these are just ideas, that they just popped up.

Speaker 1 1:01:53

And because you're a go-getter, they'll know you.

Speaker 1 1:01:56

I think rap music got a lot of niggas fucked up. And when I say rap music, not everybody's trying to be a rapper, but niggas is really holding on to the shit that these rappers are saying. There's a lot of work that goes into this and I feel like there's not a lot of. I don't want to say everybody's lazy, they're just not expecting it Right. So when you go, when you like looking at it, they could fucking he's red. You know what I mean? Stomach is crazy, arms is crazy and you're like I want to do that. There's a lot of fucking work to get there. There's a diet. You got to get in the gym, you got to get the proper rest right.

Speaker 3 1:02:32

So they're like yeah, and you got to give it time.

Speaker 1 1:02:34

And you got to give it time. The most important thing and a lot of people are impatient I'm impatient, so I know far more people are impatient.

Speaker 3 1:02:42

You got to give it the time you. You got to give it your all you know.

Speaker 1 1:02:44

I want to definitely practice patience, but yeah, Maybe you'll get something for your birthday.

Speaker 3 1:02:51

Nah, that's not going to happen.

Speaker 1 1:02:52

That's not going to happen. It's going to be a lot of fuck you's and shit like that. You know, and I'm quick to tell niggas to stop talking to me, Like don't talk to me, but that whole thing. So this is what we're going to do. You covered everything you got here we covered everything.

Speaker 3 1:03:07

We even did the model pose.

Speaker 1 1:03:08

Let me see, got that All right, you sure yeah. Nothing else you want to talk about. Yeah, All right. Oh what? What is this? What's that you talking about this? What is it? Marvel makes Robert Downey Jr replacing Jonathan Mays?

Speaker 3 1:03:30

They replaced my man with a white man.

Speaker 1 1:03:30

All right, stop, stop, stop, because Ryan would slap my head off my shoulders. All right, never mind. Okay, because it was something that we were supposed to talk about and this is something he's very well versed on. Control-alt-delete yeah, my bad, so I don't even want to do that. Stop slapboxing the mic. Bad, you did put that one in there. Gifts, money and experience Put that in there.

Speaker 3 1:03:48

Yeah, what would you prefer? Gifts, slash money, or time and experience?

Speaker 1 1:03:53

Time and experience. Where am I getting this from?

Speaker 3 1:03:56

It doesn't matter, this is just your preference in general.

Speaker 1 1:03:59

Oh well, no, it does matter. I didn't put a person on there because I mean we discussing.

Speaker 3 1:04:05

You can make that variation.

Speaker 1 1:04:07

If it's a random person, give me money.

Speaker 3 1:04:09

Absolutely.

Speaker 1 1:04:10

But if it's like a family member, friend, stuff like that, I'll take the experience Okay, because when I'm fucked up in life I could draw on that. I feel that I feel that the bread I might fuck up.

Speaker 3 1:04:25

I feel that I know a lot of people that would rather give some money, regardless of what the fuck it is, because then with the money they can go do their own experience.

Speaker 1 1:04:32

No, I can see that, but then that means that I'm receiving it from somebody I really don't give a fuck about. Like I said, give me a rando he going to give me some money, or a partner she going to give me some money or he going to give me some money then I'm good.

Speaker 3 1:04:49

I could go fuck that up. I don't worry about that. I'm definitely. The older I get, the more I want experiences and I value people's time over money. The money's already printed, I can go get it. I can't get your time and your and the experience I gotta. That's something that has to be willingly given. I can get my own money Big facts. I don't mind getting other people though.

Speaker 1 1:05:05

Big fact.

Speaker 3 1:05:07

To flip it, let's not get that fucked up, nigga. The Zell and Cash app do work, but I would definitely the older I get, I preference experiences over material shit. I'm good on that. Bay night, sexy nights and good food.

Speaker 1 1:05:27

Alright, I ain't gonna get into your business, but I'm gonna get into your business. Sure, let's go Um Single. I am Lying, motherfucker.

Speaker 3 1:05:39

That shit trash. Nah, that is trash.

Speaker 1 1:05:42

There's nothing trash about being single. It is why.

Speaker 3 1:05:45

The experience isn't a pleasurable one when you're in it too long Like if there's no. What the fuck it too long Like if there's no.

Speaker 1 1:05:50

What the fuck does that mean? Like?

Speaker 3 1:05:52

there's. No, I'm not enjoying this. I prefer to be in partnership. I'm just that person. I do better with someone than to be out getting in trouble. I like somebody holding me accountable.

Speaker 1 1:06:04

I got you, and that's a very weird statement.

Challenges of Modern Dating

Speaker 3 1:06:08

But it's not even like on a codependent type of thing, it's just I don't like. I don't like dating.

Speaker 1 1:06:14

It's shit trash the older you get, the worse it gets, you know, and that's because let me explain that, though the reason why the older you get, the worse it gets as far as dating is concerned, is because, remember, you have way more experience with every, remember, you have way more experience With every passing day. You have more experience. Yes, sir, so when you're talking to me, I'm translating this shit.

Speaker 3 1:06:36

Right.

Speaker 1 1:06:38

And I'm already making up my mind like this ain't gonna work.

Speaker 3 1:06:42

Immediately, though and I be feeling bad because I really be trying to give people a chance I really be like, alright, jessica, you're not settling, you're allowing yourself to get to know somebody, and nigga, I'd be settling. I'd be like, nah, because it should be trash.

Speaker 1 1:06:58

It's trash. But let me ask you a question, though. But why are you settling?

Speaker 3 1:07:02

But I don't. It's not that I'm in a relationship with people. I'm getting to know people and giving them my time, giving them energy, giving certain parts of me that like pause, pause, pause, All right, cool Shit.

Speaker 1 1:07:19

Wait, you didn't mean the certain parts.

Speaker 3 1:07:21

Right, I just meant like so right, See, so that pause was valid.

Speaker 1 1:07:25

That was a valid pause. You're learning.

Speaker 3 1:07:30

I just think it's trash because a lot of people I guess nowadays everything is expected, there's no work being done, there's no time being allotted for you to kind of get to know people. People want shit from you without earning it. And because I give a lot, I feel like people can sense that on me and I don't like some of the attention I get. You know, as a Leo, I feel like people can sense that on me and I don't like some of the attention I get. You know, as a Leo, you get attention period, Like I don't have to do a lot to get it. So when I do get it, I don't like to feel like you're here with a purpose to get a need met and not to reciprocate to me too.

Speaker 1 1:08:04

Yeah, I'm big on reciprocation too. That's a big thing for me.

Speaker 3 1:08:09

Maybe that's the problem I'm having with dating People don't reciprocate.

Speaker 1 1:08:12

Maybe that's what I can give to them, or maybe you're just reading the shit wrong.

Speaker 3 1:08:19

Read the book for me, then Read the paper.

Speaker 1 1:08:21

No, no no, what I'm saying is this. You're reading it wrong because maybe that person is going to sound fucked up, but I don't mean it like this let's go. It's not into you like that. Okay Right, and it just just to piggyback off of what you just said and not even to remix it, because you just said this literally it's, it's you're. I don't even know how to fucking say this.

Speaker 3 1:08:46

Be blunt, nigga. You be blind, nigga, not you. Tongue tied over here.

Speaker 1 1:08:50

We don't do that here the person is not into you like that and unfortunately, they're gonna say what they need to say in order to further the nothingness of what you've built which is my point.

Speaker 3 1:09:02

Like there's no substance, people don't have depth, like I've had the worst time dating since I've been in Charlotte and I attribute that to me being raised in VA and I feel like anything north of North Carolina. You're a different type of person. I feel like I'm a little bit too outspoken for people here. I'm a little bit too blunt. I'm a little bit too direct.

Speaker 3 1:09:26

I have very, very thick skin so shit don't bother me for real and I can go back and forth with it and I feel like men don't think that that's like ladylike. Yeah. And I feel like I intimidate a lot of people out here.

Speaker 2 1:09:38

So, for instance, I'll say something like I'm going to beat your ass.

Speaker 3 1:09:42

Oh, my God, you so Like, nigga. You can't tell I'm being sarcastic, my nigga Like. I got to explain my jokes to you. Nigga, I don't want to fuck with y'all country ass. I mean, if I get somebody from Charlotte, my bad Like, but I ain't been having no motherfucking luck, you are, you are.

Speaker 1 1:09:56

yeah, that's crazy.

Speaker 3 1:09:59

I just have not had any luck since I've been here. I tried one person since I've lived here recently and he fucked that shit up royally. So I'm like it's my own fuck with y'all country niggas now and I be feeling bad because I want somebody to prove me wrong. I'm waiting on somebody to prove me wrong. Okay. But they do not. I feel like nowadays people want what they want without having to reciprocate.

Speaker 1 1:10:21

Big facts, all right. So what's your ideal first date since you, you know?

Speaker 3 1:10:30

you're not involved. Ideal first date and I'm fun as fuck. So I don't like no boring shit. We can do a picnic or some shit, but let's go to the Museum of Illusions. Let's go like motherfucking bar crawl.

Speaker 1 1:10:42

I said first date. You can't go on a bar crawl on a first date. Reason being is because y'all niggas gonna be too sourced to have any meaningful conversation. You can't get to know somebody when they sourced up. Stop it. Alright, dinner, you don't have to have dinner. You can be creative. Yo, leo, be creative. What the fuck you talking about?

Speaker 3 1:11:00

But I don't like boring shit. If we got to a first date, that means our conversations have been had. We've been speaking Like I've been real picky now, like I don't just meet somebody, and then it's happened. But nowadays I would rather much have a conversation and figure out who the fuck I'm about to go out with.

Speaker 1 1:11:21

I got you.

Ideal Partner Qualities and Relationship Expectations

Speaker 3 1:11:29

Because if we go into a range like how are we having a meaningful conversation and we blasting the little man 90 yards with light, so before we even get to a date, I would rather. Who know you? Big Brother Styles in the building. Who know you? Who is it? Slim Kid? Underscore 66. She was just here last night.

Speaker 1 1:11:45

Oh, that's Peecha hey. Peecha Look.

Speaker 3 1:11:50

I gotta get to know your name. Oh my God, you should have just said Petra. Petra ain't nowhere in the daggone title.

Speaker 1 1:11:57

It don't matter, it threw me off.

Speaker 3 1:12:00

So look, I just feel like if I'm even taking a chance on spending time with you outside of my house, I've gotten to know you a little bit first.

Speaker 1 1:12:08

Okay.

Speaker 3 1:12:09

So my first date can be something dope for real, because we've already established.

Speaker 1 1:12:14

Nah, you've established that you haven't established the alone time actually being in person with this person. So all of that other stuff, that was just the application.

Speaker 3 1:12:23

All right, no block roll.

Speaker 1 1:12:25

You ain't had the interview yet.

Speaker 3 1:12:26

Of course, dinner is cool. Karaoke is my shit. We can do that shit all day. If you know somebody that's a music lover Petra, I'm sorry, girl, you don't know what I'm sipping on. Sorry, but I feel like, if you're getting to know me, something about what I'm telling you about me should spark an idea for you to say oh, she says she likes painting, so let me do a painting support. It doesn't have to be me coming up with it.

Speaker 1 1:12:55

I mean, it doesn't have to be you coming up with it, but I'm just telling you an ideal date. I'm asking about an ideal date for you.

Speaker 3 1:13:01

Paint night karaoke. Of course, dinner Feed the fuck out of me Shit.

Speaker 1 1:13:11

But can you see how? That's a little bit confusing.

Speaker 3 1:13:13

No.

Speaker 1 1:13:14

Because you just hit me with the I don't like boring shit and you was like dinner. How exciting can dinner be, unless you're doing like a blind taste test and stuff, shit like that?

Speaker 3 1:13:23

So if I can't do a bar crawl, is wine tasting not a good first date? Huh. Is wine tasting not a good first date? Huh, is wine tasting not a good first date? I mean, it's cool.

Speaker 1 1:13:33

So no ball crawl. You can't do a ball crawl. How are you going to do a ball crawl?

Speaker 3 1:13:38

I'm not even saying like we got to drink, it's like going to different places. So I'll say this I went on the first date with somebody one day and we went to three different places that day. It went somewhere for lunch, somewhere for dinner, somewhere for after like two o'clock in the morning, pizza. We did three different dates in one day and that was our first day.

Speaker 4 1:13:57

Lunch went so great he was like look, let's do dinner.

Speaker 3 1:13:59

Cool Out, chilling, whatever club we was at around here.

Speaker 4 1:14:03

2 am pizza and called it a night. Like that was fun to me it sounds like and called her the night.

Speaker 1 1:14:09

Like that was fun to me. That was dope. Sounds like a fire date. Sounds like a fire date.

Speaker 3 1:14:14

What's your ideal person? That shit evolves as I evolve 100%. Definitely don't like the same shit I liked when I was 25. All right.

Speaker 1 1:14:22

stop, because you about to take me around the world. I just want to go across the street. So ideal person right now 2024, August the 4th.

Speaker 3 1:14:27

I just want to go across the street.

Speaker 1 1:14:28

So I'm talking about-.

Speaker 3 1:14:28

So I do person right now, yeah, 2024.

Speaker 1 1:14:29

Yeah.

Speaker 3 1:14:30

August the 4th.

Speaker 1 1:14:32

August the 4th. What time is it? Yeah, that time 8.26 PM.

Speaker 3 1:14:35

Yeah, I like people that are genuine. I like people that are investing in themselves, ie some type of therapy, or they allow some type of outside influence to positively influence how they grow.

Speaker 1 1:14:50

I like somebody that's presentable. I need you to stop right there. Just bookmark that for a second.

Speaker 3 1:14:55

Okay.

Speaker 1 1:14:56

So your man has to be in therapy.

Speaker 3 1:14:58

No, I'm just saying.

Speaker 1 1:14:59

He has to have a therapist.

Speaker 3 1:15:00

No involved in some type of inner growth, some type of evolution.

Speaker 1 1:15:04

Like what.

Speaker 3 1:15:05

So reading, fucking exercising something like investing in your health. Wealth I got you Some type? Of just growth in general. You cannot be stagnant. Okay, I'm too much of a motivated person to be with somebody that's not growing themselves, because I'll leave you. All right, I'll just.

Speaker 1 1:15:24

Leave.

Speaker 3 1:15:26

On every level. Physically, I'll leave your ass. Like I outthink people. Like I hate being the smartest person in the room sometimes. Like, give me something to challenge. Like, challenge me. I like, I like men that can challenge me. I like men that ask appropriate and thought-provoking questions. I like a presentable looking man. Um, look, since I've been here, hey, gino, look, gino can attest to this. Like people here are kind of country like I don't, like I've been. I feel like my, my soulmate is probably from virginia, can't be nobody from here. They got to be from outside of this state. Um, somebody that allows um me to be me because I I'm different me's every day. So somebody that'll allow me to be me, cause I'm different me's everyday. So somebody that'll allow me to be whatever me I wanna be.

Speaker 1 1:16:11

I don't know different. You's everyday is kinda scary.

Speaker 3 1:16:14

I might get up today and not be in the best of moods.

Speaker 1 1:16:16

That's a red flag for me who the fuck is not.

Speaker 3 1:16:20

I am a fucking Leo. Who gets up the same way every single day? Me? No, you don't.

Speaker 1 1:16:26

Listen, I wake up grumpy as fuck everyday man.

Speaker 3 1:16:29

Even on paper. What do Me? No, you don't.

Speaker 1 1:16:31

Listen, I wake up grumpy as fuck every day.

Speaker 3 1:16:32

Man, Even on paper Elevate nigga, nah, what do you mean? Even on paper? No, I might wake up one day and be tired. I might wake up one day and have energy. I might wake up one day and want to fucking rearrange some furniture.

Speaker 3 1:16:41

I might wake up one day and want to be lazy. I might wake up one day and want to make breakfast day and want to make breakfast the next day. You get pop tarts, like, let me be, I'm gonna be and accept me for that and allow me to see who you really are. But everybody's not really willing to be vulnerable nowadays because people do fuck shit do fuck shit. They take advantage, they aren't like have ulterior motives that's the trend that's the trend. That's the trend.

Speaker 3 1:17:08

Everybody wants whatever they want without working for it. They want microwave satisfaction. Microwave satisfaction that popcorn Funny as fuck. I mean set it and forget it. No, nigga you got to work. You got to goddamn work over here. I hear that Somebody's that attractive too. You can't be over here looking like Ackbok or that damn Gargamel Nigga. Please be attractive.

Speaker 1 1:17:33

Give me an actor that suits your fancy.

Speaker 3 1:17:38

What's the nigga off Queen Sugar?

Speaker 1 1:17:40

Oh, I know who you're talking about the son, ralph Angel.

Speaker 3 1:17:46

Nami, nami. What a Ralph Angel's. Ralph Angel. You know what I mean. You know what I mean. Put a Ralph Angel's egg out of it. Anybody black and healthy looking Look, I'm a stickler, right? If you ain't got all your teeth, I'm like one of them ones.

Speaker 1 1:18:04

Yeah, that's a fact.

Speaker 3 1:18:05

It could really be a side tooth missing, but it got to be like in the back. It can't be like one, one of the main. Yeah, you can't have your smile fucked up in the pictures, like I'm so big on that and I hate that. I feel like that sounds superficial. But you got to have all your motherfucking teeth At least like the ones that count.

Speaker 1 1:18:22

You said the ones. They all count.

Speaker 3 1:18:23

They do, but if, but, if you got like, so I don't have my wisdom teeth.

Speaker 1 1:18:27

Me either.

Speaker 3 1:18:28

Right, but all the remaining, how many were we supposed to have? 32? 32, yeah All the remaining 20, 28?.

Speaker 1 1:18:33

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3 1:18:34

Them motherfuckers is stout, them niggas is postured and they got a good foundation popping on. So when I like a good smile is in real, like I'm a sucker for a good smile.

Speaker 1 1:18:43

Somebody come get your girl, please Come get your girl.

Speaker 3 1:18:45

Never trust dark skin and a smile is what I'm on.

Speaker 1 1:18:48

Is that what it is?

Speaker 3 1:18:50

That's my weakness dark skin and a good smile All right.

Speaker 1 1:18:53

Yeah, now, teeth are important. I'm not going to lean into it any more than you've already leaned into it, because then people are going to come for me because I'm probably a little bit more reckless than you with regards to that. But yeah, the side tooth, the missing side tooth, is kind of crazy.

Speaker 3 1:19:09

I mean, some people can't help it and it's like I ain't knocking nobody because shit be happening. Cavities my daddy knocked out Like just shit, be life, be lifin' for people and I don't want that to keep me from finding my soulmate. So, soulmate, if you are out there and you are missing a tooth, we can go get that motherfucker. Like at least replace it.

Speaker 1 1:19:30

Just get like one door. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Get like a fucking chick lit or something.

Speaker 3 1:19:34

Nigga, you can ball up a gum wrapper or something and put that motherfucker there you just want to come out that shit and just get the bad ass.

Speaker 1 1:19:40

All right, we going too hard. We going too hard Because I'm actually giving this right now, which is why we ain't cool.

Speaker 2 1:19:47

Dessert. I hope you guys enjoyed your meal. Can I get you something off of our dessert menu? What's a dessert?

Speaker 1 1:19:55

Nothing. You just gonna tell people where they can fucking find you.

Speaker 3 1:19:58

Well, I've changed my name off social media from Bless Just to Goddess, just my own little personal reasons. I just wanted to do something a little different. Red flag. I'm right do something a little different. That's right, I'm right.

Speaker 1 1:20:12

Well, you got mad, you ain't helping my cause.

Speaker 3 1:20:13

man, I'm just saying though.

Speaker 1 1:20:15

I'm just saying you ain't helping my cause.

Speaker 3 1:20:18

I'm not doing anything else because I've been like super career focused Getting licenses and y'all motherfuckers need therapy and me I'm probably licensed in your state and if not, I'll get a license Just for your motherfucking ass. So I'm really, really big on mental health right now. So I've been just focusing on building my career and my brand. With that, I moved to Charlotte with the intent of starting a black-only wellness center, so I've kind of shifted gears and been putting a little bit more in place to get that started.

Speaker 3 1:20:52

So, um, my regular page, this one right here that you find me on, you can, um, god is just um, I'm God is just on everything Twitter, tik, tok, all of that. Snapchat, don't come being worse. I'm a creepy. Um, cause I'll block your ass. But outside of that, I've just been working on my therapy shit.

Speaker 1 1:21:12

Yeah, I'm not blocking anybody unless it says like yo come see me suck dick. And I'm like, yeah, I block, like you're wasting my time, you know. Yeah, and I'm trying to figure out like how that's even a thing. I swear to God, I go on my stories. I swear to God, I go on my stories.

Speaker 3 1:21:27

Yeah, the spam Is getting out of control. Like I block the fuck Out of them immediately. But yeah, I'm not really doing Too too much, but as I do, I will keep everybody posted, especially you. But yeah, I'm hoping, like when you do your International show, I get an invite, cause I would love To fucking go out the country and be talking shit.

Speaker 1 1:21:49

I'm a Paul, that you even said that, so I'm going to just leave it there how you call it? Yeah, so now you can catch me the Brunch Hour podcast. If you found me here, then you know where to find me, so I'm not even going to waste my breath on that. Normally it's like a button here that I press and it tells you all the shit you need to know.

Speaker 3 1:22:11

Button's not here, anyway, shout-outs to Lim, shout-outs to Ryan, shout-outs to Shadra, shout-out to Petra, my bad girl.

Speaker 1 1:22:15

Shout-outs to Petra. She popped up over here too.

Speaker 3 1:22:17

Yeah, she probably going to find me later.

Speaker 1 1:22:19

Yeah.

Speaker 3 1:22:19

I'll allow it. I was wrong.

Speaker 1 1:22:21

I'll allow it. I'll allow it, that's crazy.

Speaker 3 1:22:26

Oh oh yeah. This has been fun. I miss this. I really do. This has been very nostalgic and it's been good for my soul, so it's good to see you, big bro, on the agenda. I gotta pull up On a couple people, so yeah.

Speaker 1 1:22:40

I don't even understand when I say like Come to New York, and then we mention them niggas.

Speaker 3 1:22:45

I'm coming specifically For you.

Speaker 1 1:22:48

Who are those?

Speaker 3 1:22:49

niggas. Who are these? Who are these?

Speaker 1 1:22:51

niggas, you know what I mean Like, like out of here, we not, we not talking about them, niggas.

Speaker 3 1:22:55

My family.

Speaker 1 1:22:56

I'm like yo Cunning to y'all. Yeah, there's a couple of peeps, fuck them. I got family there. That's different. Yeah, that's different.

Speaker 3 1:23:04

Auntie, he ain't mean that.

Speaker 1 1:23:05

Not at all, not a little bit. I was misinformed.

Speaker 3 1:23:07

Cousin Sylvia, I'm coming to see y'all.

Speaker 1 1:23:10

I can't with you. I can't. It's that time again, and since we really don't know how to say goodbye, I'm not going to say goodbye, but listen what I will ask. Pardon, I'm not even asking. If you liked it, please don't forget to like, comment, subscribe and shit. And that's homework, homework also. There is no. Also, we'll catch you next week. We'll save a seat at the table for you.