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200. Why are teens self-diagnosing on TikTok—and what should parents say?

Caroline & Andrew Season 6 Episode 200

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Peanut butter crumbs, a surprise lap dog, and a teen who’s meeting new people at bars… this episode starts like a sitcom and lands on a real parenting pressure point: when kids start wearing diagnoses like usernames.

Andrew and Caroline talk about the “sick role” trend online—especially on short-form video—where teens self-diagnose, compare who has it worse, and sometimes copy symptoms they’ve seen on their feeds. They unpack what gets missed when labels become identity: loneliness, shaky self-worth, and a craving to feel noticed. You’ll hear why this trend can hurt kids who truly need support, why parents can’t treat siblings the same way, and what to say when your teen comes home convinced they have a specific disorder.

There’s also a reminder worth writing on the fridge: some kids are just quirky. They don’t need a label—they need their people. And, in the meantime, you’re their people.

Homework activities for adults

  1. The “Two-Minute Mirror” check-in
    Ask: “What felt heavy today?” and “What felt good today?”
    Reflect back what you heard—no fixing.
  2. Swap the label for the need
    “What part of that feels true—feeling overwhelmed, lonely, wired, numb, stuck, left out?”
  3. Sibling spotlight audit
    Identify what each child gets attention for—and what gets missed.
  4. Feed clean-up plan (together)
    Unfollow one account that fuels distress. Replace it with one that supports skill-building, humour, or learning.
  5. Build a ‘their people’ map
    Home / School / Outside. Strengthen one connection this month.

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