Ding Dong! Get ready for a wild ride as we relive our surprise encounter with Atmosphere at the Five Points Amphitheater and we guarantee you'll resonate with our story if you've ever had a chance encounter with a band from your teenage years. Hear about our adventurous decision to book a 6 AM flight after a night out, with our three kids!!! If you're game for some real talk and belly laughs, don't forget to dial in and share your stories.
We've all been there - tangled in the messy web of relationships. How do you navigate a relationship that's not yet official? We tackle these tough questions head-on and share our insights on spotting red flags and standing up for oneself. We also explore the perils of feeling a bit helpless when a partner appears indifferent. If you're riding the dating roller coaster, tune in for some solid advice.
Ever felt overwhelmed by your in-laws or found it hard to make friends with your partner's friends' spouses? We've been there too. Listen as we share our thoughts on drawing healthy boundaries and dealing with the challenges of accepting your partner's circle. On top of that, we discuss the intricacy of navigating relationships with your significant other's entourage. If you're wrestling with these issues, join us as we share our wisdom and invite you to share your challenges. We promise you're not alone.
Need advice!? Voicemail or text! - (562) 457-0613 It's anonymous!
00:00:26 Five Points Amphitheater and Surprise Performance
00:11:32 Stories of Trips and Relationship Drama
00:21:32 Navigating Uncertainty in Dating
00:30:16 Manage in-Laws and Partner's Friends' Spouses
00:39:52 Navigating Relationships With Significant Others' Entourage
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Ding Dong! Get ready for a wild ride as we relive our surprise encounter with Atmosphere at the Five Points Amphitheater and we guarantee you'll resonate with our story if you've ever had a chance encounter with a band from your teenage years. Hear about our adventurous decision to book a 6 AM flight after a night out, with our three kids!!! If you're game for some real talk and belly laughs, don't forget to dial in and share your stories.
We've all been there - tangled in the messy web of relationships. How do you navigate a relationship that's not yet official? We tackle these tough questions head-on and share our insights on spotting red flags and standing up for oneself. We also explore the perils of feeling a bit helpless when a partner appears indifferent. If you're riding the dating roller coaster, tune in for some solid advice.
Ever felt overwhelmed by your in-laws or found it hard to make friends with your partner's friends' spouses? We've been there too. Listen as we share our thoughts on drawing healthy boundaries and dealing with the challenges of accepting your partner's circle. On top of that, we discuss the intricacy of navigating relationships with your significant other's entourage. If you're wrestling with these issues, join us as we share our wisdom and invite you to share your challenges. We promise you're not alone.
Need advice!? Voicemail or text! - (562) 457-0613 It's anonymous!
00:00:26 Five Points Amphitheater and Surprise Performance
00:11:32 Stories of Trips and Relationship Drama
00:21:32 Navigating Uncertainty in Dating
00:30:16 Manage in-Laws and Partner's Friends' Spouses
00:39:52 Navigating Relationships With Significant Others' Entourage
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Welcome back to All Tricks, no Cheats. This is the number one life advice podcast. So if you guys heard our intro song, it's a little different, it's a little new. If you didn't hear the story of our original song, I paid some guy on Fiverr from like Bangladesh or wherever the fuck, and we heard it on some like home improvement reel.
Speaker 2:Ad sort of ad.
Speaker 1:And she's like, is that our song? And I went back and said what the fuck? I messaged that guy quick and he was, like we provide like the animation for your logo. Like we just add a song. That's not what the song is in custom the animation is. I said bro, you're a fucking scam artist.
Speaker 3:So they just added like one little star flying through the sky, and that was what we paid for.
Speaker 1:If you watch the YouTube video, the intro, with our name All Tricks, no Treats. That's what I paid for 300 fucking dollars. I could have figured it out myself.
Speaker 3:For words, letters to come together.
Speaker 1:Yes, but um so I went to Upwork, which is not the bootleg version. I think Fiverr is like the bootleg version.
Speaker 3:Doesn't Fiverr have multiple Rs? Yes, it's Fiverr, maybe. Yeah, I should have got the hand you should have known with multiple Rs.
Speaker 1:But I hired some Americans Don't be rude and we got like three good songs back. So that was yeah, that was number one. The next couple episodes will play the other ones and we'd like for you guys to give a little bit of feedback on.
Speaker 3:They're all. They're all very good. You've been like listening to them and like you've been sending our our uh comments back and forth and stuff. So yeah, we've got some good ones.
Speaker 1:We're glad we have a updated original one where we don't have to see it on some home improvement video.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:But yeah, today is our episode of Skeletons in the Closet.
Speaker 3:In the Closet. We don't have a song for that. This is our second one. So we're not really sure how to do the song Is it?
Speaker 1:I don't know, but we didn't rehearse it obviously. Yeah, Um but maybe let's practice Like the cup song.
Speaker 3:Should I get a cup, like Anna Kendrick and pitch for a fake? The acapella. That was a butt ice. The acapella.
Speaker 1:But anyway it's our Skeletons in the Closet, where we have a hotline where you guys can call or text and tell us anything you want Life advice, kids advice If you want to get something off your chest. A funny story.
Speaker 3:You want to laugh with us? Cry with us, we'll fill things together, yeah.
Speaker 1:And we'll make fun of you in the process, so you don't feel as bad as you do, or whatever.
Speaker 3:Hey, we're all going through this together, so let's feel it together.
Speaker 1:Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 3:But first we just want to catch up, because we know it's been like two weeks, so let's catch up with our beers real quick. Yeah, I'm parched. Are you parched? You're hot, I'm sweating.
Speaker 1:I don't know why you get so hot. I'm sweating and she's like it's cold in here because I have the AC at like 69.
Speaker 3:My toes are blue, my hands are numb, mine are red because it's hot.
Speaker 2:Cheers oh yeah, baby Ooh.
Speaker 1:That butt. Ice is crispy. Ooh, it's very cold so here, we go.
Speaker 3:I know we talked about this before, but we went on a trip. But before we went on our trip we actually the night before we had our 6 AM flight 6 AM, 6 AM with three kids.
Speaker 1:Smart with the two year old four year old and seven year old.
Speaker 3:We were very smart to book a 6 AM flight and plan a night out before.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 3:So we went to Five Points Amphitheater which we love in Irvine Very cool, very cool, great venue. Yeah, and we saw Slightly Stupid. There were two other opening bands, but Atmosphere was there.
Speaker 1:If you grew up when we did, when we did in high school around 2004,. 5'6" Atmosphere was a big deal. It was a big underground rapper, the band and we didn't even know he was playing.
Speaker 3:No, we didn't. We saw something about Atmosphere, we heard something about it. We were like oh, maybe it's that. We were like is this the Atmosphere or is this Atmosphere? We don't know who it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so originally Sublime was supposed to be playing and we didn't know that. The card was kind of switched up and we had our beers. We were hanging out with our aunt and uncle, chris and Shelley, shout out. We loved going to shows with them and we were walking up to the spot where we entered to our seats and we heard we're Atmosphere from Minneapolis and me and Brianna looked at each other like what the fuck?
Speaker 2:Don't let them in, just drove by.
Speaker 1:Oh fuck, we missed him.
Speaker 3:He drove by very fast. He had a little umbrella over. Damn, where is he going?
Speaker 1:We have a view of our outside front yard and we live in an area where there's no a lot of them in More white people. So we stopped him one time and we bought like six things. We had workers here and I bought them shit too and I was like, damn, our neighbors are probably like oh no they're gonna bring this guy here.
Speaker 1:Anyway, back to the Atmosphere story. I was like this is an. This can't be Atmosphere. He is from Minneapolis, they are from there. And she's like, was it the Atmosphere? And I said, if it's the Atmosphere, it's different. Yeah, so we go and she's like it sounds like him and I said this is fucking slug, this is Atmosphere. Dude, I was, I got emotional, it was fucking insane. I feel like all the bands that I've been wanting to see, like Blink, tushae, amore, atmosphere this year has been like incredible Musically yeah the cure.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I was like screaming my heart out to a lot of the songs and our aunt and uncle were like damn, he really does like them. But they were like a big high school underground band, so big.
Speaker 3:I just remember his face.
Speaker 1:Dude.
Speaker 3:His face on the cover of the. I remember on my iPod, like you know how it used to show the little picture.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:His face. Yeah, for sure, it was just straight on out of his face.
Speaker 1:And I'm like a big fat, sick, hungry dude all the time and and I don't have that much energy is what I'm getting at. And when I found out it was him, I was like a kid again and I was jumping and screaming and yelling and like drinking beers more than I drink really and I was. It was fucking insane. I couldn't believe it. I was so happy, it was a good surprise.
Speaker 3:It was fun. And I do want to talk about something that he said when he was talking about one of his songs. He said I want to let my son know that I hear him and that was very I. Like we've said before, we, you know, growing up we've learned things from our parents and it just goes to show that we're learning, that we want our kids to.
Speaker 1:you know know that we're listening to them and I thought that was very cute. I liked it a lot. He's he's a cute dad, he's cute.
Speaker 3:He's cutie. He does have a little white patch in his hair.
Speaker 1:Dude he's dude, he's getting old. I don't even know how old he is, but they're still doing it and hey yeah, he's still got all the energy. They're killing it. They had good vibes, good stage presence. Everyone was into it. I know there was a lot of people that really didn't know them, but it was fucking incredible it was nice.
Speaker 3:It was nice. So after that we got home we slept maybe like two hours, two hours, yeah, and then we woke the kids up, got in the car and we drove to LAX.
Speaker 1:We woke up at like 5am, 4.40 or something. I woke up at 4.30.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I got a. I felt kind of cool because I got us like a cool car, a big SUV, with the guy with the black suit on and I was like we're riding in style baby, but we had to get up early and when I travel I like to catch a red eye because I feel like that's a cheat code on an extra day. But it's technically, technically not.
Speaker 3:No, it is. It's like the best way to get the bank for your book. You get there early in the morning. You take maybe a little nap in the car same thing we did in Salem. Sure, and then you explore the whole day During the day. Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1:So we got there pretty early and our flight was, I like what, six something, six, fifteen, and it was perfect. The flight was the smoothest flight in the world. The flight was very good. The pilot's name was Karen, a woman and she. I love you, karen. It was the most like smooth flight you can ever ask for.
Speaker 3:We were. I was very worried about just the kids. It wasn't champs first flight, but it was Bubby and Nucky's first flight.
Speaker 3:So, we had a two year old, four year old, the first flights and I was very nervous about what we're going to do Because you know, you see those videos of little kids like yelling yeah, and you don't want to bother anyone around you because we're all in the same little metal ship together. But so we were very nervous but we got on. We got them little. Actually. Yeah, shout out to who do we fly with JetBlue? Jetblue. Shout out to JetBlue because they were very good.
Speaker 1:That was my first time flying with JetBlue yeah, me too, and Bubby was sitting by me, champ and Nucky were with Brianna. The plane was half empty, thank God. Thank God Because we had nobody by us and the kids were free to stand up and do whatever. But we were on the runway and Bubby kept asking me oh we leaving yet, or we leaving? I said here we go. And the plane started going. I'm like all right, it's picking up. You need to be a big girl, but if you want to hug my arm, you go ahead. And as soon as the front wheel started lifting, I was looking over at her and she looked at me and she said is there any snacks? I said I said bitch. I said I'm terrified. What do you mean? I didn't say that. I didn't say that. I was just like shocked because I was like dude. I thought she was going to be scared, but she was like super chill, nucky was super chill, nucky was so good.
Speaker 3:So we saw that the TVs were working and we were like, ok, let's buy some headphones for all three of them. So I walked up to the. Is it steward if you're a man, or stewardess?
Speaker 1:I've no idea. Those guys are stewardess.
Speaker 3:Who cares? Call them steward. Yeah, little Little steward Walked up to little steward and I was like, can I buy some headphones? And he said, oh yeah, here you just here, just take it. And he gave me one and I was like, oh my God, I don't know two more, sir.
Speaker 1:And he said here, just take them. So he gave us free headphones, yeah, and they were like seven bucks each or something, yeah, so the kids had headphones.
Speaker 3:They were watching the movie. When we were taking off, I was very worried about Nucky's ears, because little kids' ears pops On the plane. Here's a trick.
Speaker 1:That's here.
Speaker 3:Usually they say if you have a baby and you're taking off on a plane, to give them a bottle or breastfeed or something like a juice or a lollipop, something to get like their like mouth moving because it makes sure that their ears don't pop. Nice, yeah, but it was good.
Speaker 1:We had a good trip. Yes, so real quick. I know we've been talking about this for a minute, but we flew up to Seattle and we drove all the way down. We hit Seattle, Portland, Boise.
Speaker 3:We Portland sucked. We didn't like Portland, so we actually stayed one night. We planned on two, and then we went to Boise instead.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then we ended in Vegas, which we love Vegas so much, oh, so much. Out of the whole trip, vegas was probably the best. But a thing about Seattle and Portland. What's similar about that is you could see homeless people smoking crack right on the fucking and meth right on the street there was foil on the floor. I said hey, here's another fucking crack. And the guys, the kids, are always like what is that?
Speaker 2:They don't know what it. I call them zombies, but Brianna doesn't like me to refer.
Speaker 1:But I like when they I tell them yeah, you yell at them, yeah, and they're like hey, zombie, no, that's not nice. That's their whatever. Fuck them. They want to choose that I don't care. Well, they're still human beings All right, we'll touch on like our trip, probably next episode. I think we should like talk about what we did so people could like see where they could go and if they haven't been there.
Speaker 3:But cool, let's get some skeletons out of those closet.
Speaker 1:We have like three people who hit us up via text and then we have one voicemail. So let's read some messages. Ok, here's the first one. So they message story time warning. This happened 10 years ago. I'm a completely different person now, somewhat, lol, my situation ship. Thank you for responding to one of our episodes.
Speaker 3:We appreciate that. Nice we got the terms.
Speaker 1:My situation. Ship was getting rocky and he was seeing other girls but would lie, saying they were just friends, quote, unquote. One day his friends was acting too controlling Over him, I guess. In whatever situation they were in, he told me to stay home. We shared a studio together. Woman's intuition told me to go to the gig he was going to. I called my friends and we showed up. When I got there he was too drunk to notice I was there. Jeez, you're a fucking ninja.
Speaker 3:Oh, and I mean good for you and your friends, Good for you.
Speaker 1:Those are good friends too, but this points out that this guy was having a good enough time where he wasn't even thinking about you, which makes him kind of an asshole.
Speaker 3:You think that's the only part that makes him an asshole?
Speaker 1:Not the only part, but that's in addition to the other two or three things that we've written.
Speaker 3:I'm sweating. Now I'm not cold anymore.
Speaker 1:I was there for a good two hours.
Speaker 3:Holy shit, was this person watching him the whole time? You were watching him. They weren't even watching the show, they were just focused, zeroed in on him the whole time. That's the toxic. I, like You're waiting.
Speaker 1:La taxica. You're letting him boil.
Speaker 3:I feel you You're letting him boil La taxica.
Speaker 1:I was there for a good two hours when I seen he was leaning, hugging up against his friend. I approached him and when he realized it was me, he yelled oh shit, while the girl ran away. This is so many red flags. The girl ran away. This is obviously a deal breaker. I told him this is what you do while I'm at home, cool. And walked away. I haven't read the rest, but thanks for not just popping him square in the fucking job.
Speaker 3:Oh, I was going to say you're a way better person than I am.
Speaker 1:He approached me and got in my face. One thing led to another and we started throwing hands at a backyard gig. He tried to get me in the headlock and I was uppercutting him. A group of my guy friends separated us and we're going to beat his ass until they seen his face all bloody Damn. He blooded his face. Nice, I ain't trying to fight with you bitch.
Speaker 1:Get it. His two homegirls were going to jump me but my friend circled me to protect me. He got back in my face and went a second round. I left him on the floor and was leaving the gig he came running after me crying saying friend wants to say sorry and for me to kick him out. Oh, my god, the friend wanted him to say sorry to her. That's fucking insane.
Speaker 3:Wait, the friend that was circling, the friend that was going to beat.
Speaker 1:No, his quote unquote. Friend, the girl wanted him to.
Speaker 3:Wait, ok, his quote unquote.
Speaker 1:friend wanted to say sorry to this person that was being cheated on, yeah, and for him not to kick him out of his house. Oh my god, plot twist. Plot twist Wait, it's not done. Plot twist I was five months pregnant when this went down.
Speaker 2:Oh my god, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3:You got in a fight.
Speaker 1:That's crazy. First of all, this guy's an asshole. I hope I'm sure you're not with him, but for him to do all this shit and the friend saying don't kick him out, please, please, don't kick him out. Who are you? If she was just a friend, he wouldn't have been hiding this whole situation to begin with.
Speaker 3:If he was just a friend, he wouldn't have replied oh shit, the moment he saw you.
Speaker 1:And her running away. That's fucking crazy. You did good. You beat his ass.
Speaker 3:Hey, you did so good. I'm proud of you.
Speaker 1:One thing I'm kind of disappointed. I wish your homeboys fucked his ass up too. That would have been tight.
Speaker 3:But maybe you know what you tough, maybe you did it all.
Speaker 1:Hell yeah, I hope you're not in that situation. Thank you for the story. That was fucking juicy.
Speaker 3:That was a good story and honestly, I don't know who you are. But hey, message me. I want to be friends with you.
Speaker 1:You're a badass, I want to be friends with you. Thank you so much for writing in yeah.
Speaker 3:I hope. I hope your life has flourished. I hope you have nothing but positivity. You don't have that negative people, Anything in your life. I hope you're doing. I hope you're doing real good.
Speaker 1:And this happened 10 years ago, so I hope your kid's fucking killing it in life. Both of you Might be like 10 years old probably.
Speaker 2:Both of you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that was the first story. Thank you for writing in On to the next one. All right, I'm a newly single mama and haven't been single in years, capitalized years, we're talking almost eight. Being together with someone for eight years side note is a long time. That's a big part of your life. So I think being single after that long is A lot of things have changed. Is gnarly yeah.
Speaker 3:That's a big change. You're a new person. I mean even just that outside environment, dating has changed. People have changed, that's a big thing.
Speaker 1:I decided this weekend, instead of working quote unquote kids with dad, to take a spontaneous trip to Vegas with someone I'm seeing Nice. Call me crazy, reckless, whatever, but I've never, ever in my entire life done anything. This last minute slash spontaneous and bat shit crazy. I'm excited to live my life for me and be a little messy along the way, Ain't posting a damn thing while I'm there and location off. Be back in three days, laughing face.
Speaker 3:I love that. Good for you, Girl. Be as messy as you want to be. You deserve it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so again, eight years is a long time and after separating with someone, in my opinion, it's hard to move on or it's hard to talk to someone, but at the same time, if someone sees interest, it feels good, especially, like you said, you have kids. We're older now. I don't know how old this person is, but they have kids. I'm assuming maybe our age. But if someone's into you, it feels good.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it's good to have that little spark especially. I don't know what happened in the marriage, but obviously something happened to where it wasn't there anymore. So, to feel like something else to make this person excited and to feel like let me go do this, that's a good thing, yeah.
Speaker 1:And you're allowed to, so you deserve it. Yeah, I always tell Brianna I hate that Drake fucking said this, but you only live one life, you live once.
Speaker 3:Yellow, you're yellowing forever.
Speaker 1:And you can't let shit stop you from doing things you want to do, for doing things that make you feel good.
Speaker 3:So Especially other people.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you've said you've never done anything like this, Like you're allowed to do this. You're allowed to make bad decisions. It's not saying that that was a bad decision, but you're allowed to make decisions that you never have previously. So I hope you had a good time. Hopefully you send us what happened.
Speaker 3:Live life for yourself, especially being a mama of kids. You know you're living your life for your kids, so I'm glad that you were able to take that time. No work, live it for yourself. I hope you had all the shots. I hope you had all the but ice. I hope you had all the dick, all the messiness you want.
Speaker 1:All the messiness baby.
Speaker 3:Can you next skeleton in the closet Call in and just let us know how it went.
Speaker 2:Tell us the deets baby.
Speaker 3:We'll pump you up even more Hell.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all right, thank you so much for that call as well. So this next one is a voicemail. Let's hear the voicemail. Who's brave enough to leave a voicemail?
Speaker 3:We got it right here, but still these are all anonymous. We don't know who these people are. That's why we're like oh, we don't know yeah.
Speaker 1:Here we go.
Speaker 2:You guys are so cute. I love that greeting Hi. Ok, I don't know what to do. Long story short. I've been talking to someone for about three months and I mean, things have gotten pretty serious, all except for the fact that we're not official. We weren't official and I just decided to add things because I felt like I was begging for his attention at this last point, and I don't want to have to beg for someone's attention, so, anyway. So I ended things a couple days ago about five days ago, six days ago and he never responded. And it really hurt my feelings that he didn't respond to me.
Speaker 2:Ending things because I felt so disposable, like you're not going to even give me a goodbye or I wish you well, or not even a fuck. You Like nothing. And what hurts more than someone being angry or like cheating you, is when they don't care. Does that make sense? I've always said the antithesis is the opposite of love is not hate, it's apathy, because someone who is so apathetic to you or anything in life is like as if you're non-existent. So that's how I can feel. Anyway, I can already feel Chris Garza rolling his eyes at me. Anyway, he finally responded today, like a week later. And what do I do? Just what do I do? Do I ignore that text? Do I acknowledge that he texted me? I mean, the text was pretty much like him saying sorry, but he didn't necessarily say like he wants to meet up again. I don't know. I don't know what I should do. I do miss him, but I don't want to have to beg someone's attention. So what do I do? Love you.
Speaker 1:Damn, that was a fucking deep ass voicemail.
Speaker 3:But we appreciate it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean a couple things. There's a lot of variables in this, the situation and how we have to respond. So one thing dating three months. When people date, typically it's not usually with one person, so three months might seem a long time to some people, but it's not that long in reality.
Speaker 3:Especially if you haven't had that exclusive talk which she said. They're not official.
Speaker 1:Yes, Number two, you feel like you're begging for his attention. Yeah, To me that's your fucking answer. Yeah, guys are being guys. Guys are doing their own thing. I'm glad that he responded and it made you a little hopeful. But again, guys will do anything to keep something going.
Speaker 1:That's good If you're hooking up, if you're again showing him attention, like not that it's bad for you to keep responding to him or keep trying to text him, but it feels good to be wanted. So he might be in a situation where, oh damn, that feels good that she's texting me and trying to get a hold of me. But again, he could be doing his own thing and I mean, I'm not trying to be like a dick, but he can always go back to you and give you a fucking sentence or paragraph, wrapped up with a bow, to make you feel like, okay, he's interested in me again. So take it with a grain of salt and I think you should focus on you, have fun, date other people and don't put all your eggs in one basket, because nobody deserves that. Everyone deserves to find true happiness and you need to find it anywhere, not just in one place.
Speaker 3:So I do agree with you. I do think that it's hard being not I'm doing air quotes, not official and not being able to. Obviously you can't control what the other person does. You are kind of in this little situation where you don't know what's going on. You know, because as girls, we always like to think that we, you know, we want more, we would like to think that more is coming of it. Whatever our situation is, you know, that could eventually lead to something, because that's what we all date for, right. We all date for someone who is going to be our lifetime companion.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so that's what we want. So I get that. I get wanting to be with someone and choose someone who's going to come from a situation ship and turn into a lifetime companion. But at the same time, I do agree with you You're not official, so it is very great. It's a very great area to know, like where you go from here, what you do from here, and that's the worst part about dating.
Speaker 3:The worst part about dating is you don't know Like you don't. You don't know what you can say. You don't know what you can do because you know you don't want to do one thing and eventually turn them off where they're like oh, yeah, it's definitely a risk being in that area, where you are, when you're.
Speaker 1:I don't know if you're ready to make it exclusive, but even if you bring up the conversation saying, hey, where are we?
Speaker 3:Like do we see this, See this going forward? That's actually going to be a topic.
Speaker 1:It obviously could lead one of two ways. It could stay the same, just as confusing as it is. Or they could say, yeah, let's move this into, but as a man, if I'm there already, I'm bringing it up as a man. I know people are like anybody the girl could say it, or the guy we know if we wanna move it forward or not. So I think as a man, you should step up and say I wanna move forward. It's a risk for you to bring it up, so you have a decision to make.
Speaker 3:I think traditionally we are used to the guy saying that and initiating it and us, as you know, someone else with them Taking the lead being a man. Following and saying okay, yeah, let's do this, and that's what we all want. But my number one thing is, girl, I never want you to feel like you're less than.
Speaker 1:Aw, girl's gang. Yeah, sorry, the bang gang, bang gang.
Speaker 3:I never want anyone to feel like they're less than or like they don't deserve anything, because you do.
Speaker 3:You really do. You deserve the most. You deserve the best. I don't even know you, but I I think all girls, all anyone who's willing and ready for that that you deserve the world. So I don't think that you should be sitting here and waiting for someone or being made to feel like you're not enough, because you are, and I know that, whoever you are, there is there's a million people out there who would be willing and lucky to have you. So I think, like he said, you got your answer, you know.
Speaker 1:Good one babe.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:Oh, good advice, Listen and again like, who knows, maybe this could turn out good. We just don't know. But hopefully we get an update and it's a good one.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you just deserve to be happy, so hopefully, whatever your update is is Oops, even if you are still with that person and things are better, or if you've moved on and you're having fun. I agree with you, though have fun.
Speaker 2:Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
Speaker 3:Go out, go out, girl. Yeah, take Brianna, take me with you, let's go to some CD bars.
Speaker 1:Let's find you someone, let's find you someone. Thank you so much, though we appreciate your call. Okay, we have one more.
Speaker 3:Okay, one more.
Speaker 1:Overbearing mother-in-laws and making friends with your partner's friends' spouses. Okay, so let's break both of these down. The first part is overbearing mother-in-laws. Did you write this?
Speaker 3:I cannot inhale. I'm sorry. I'm gonna like inhale these, but I see through my nostrils.
Speaker 1:I'm not trying to get into too much detail, but, as some of you know, I don't really talk to my family anymore. We don't, yes, which I mean sucks, but I guess Brianna might have been in that boat for a little bit, so she could relate, might have. So what do you think about this? What are you gonna do?
Speaker 3:I mean, we all hear the stereotypical version of in-laws, so we all know, you know where people are like ugh, my mother-in-law.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I'm not gonna go into a lot, but it sucks. It sucks to have someone as an in-law who is domineering, Relittling, Catty, you know, cuts things off, makes you. Because I'm a very I'm a very empathetic person. I'm someone who is very I don't like drama and I don't like confrontation. If it comes to me, I'll put up with it and I'll, you know, do what I have to do, but I would much rather avoid it. So, to have an overbearing in-law, it sucks a lot to have someone who's oversteps their boundaries, because the biggest thing as a parent, as a spouse, is your boundaries.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:And to have someone who comes into your relationship and puts their Two cents More than two cents puts their dollar 50 in way more than they should.
Speaker 3:It's a lot and it sucks and it also puts a strain on your relationship as a parent with your spouse. It sucks, so I get that it's very hard, but the advice I have for you is I heard this one time. Something happened to me in like third or fourth grade, I don't even remember, but one of the noon duty aides came up to me and I was really sad. They were like you know what? You gotta just be like a duck, and when the water gets on the duck, they just let it roll off their back.
Speaker 1:You just Water off a duck's back.
Speaker 3:Just gotta let it roll off your back. There's been a million times where I've been like okay, and I've just had to do the deep sigh and just be the bigger person and move on, because I never wanted it to affect my relationship with my husband or my relationship or my kid's relationship with their grandparent. I mean obviously things are different now, but and listen, I mean being in a relationship.
Speaker 1:Growing up, we're programmed to love family and be around family and friends and that's what life's about. And I think I've gone through enough things and I'm at a point where I'm successful enough and I have my own family to say fuck family. You need to do what you need to do to be happy, whether that's with friends or girlfriend or wife and kids. My kids are my life and I refuse to have them around any negativity, anything that makes them question like what's going on? Like whoa, this is crazy to be around, you know, like Like a relationship.
Speaker 1:If a relationship with someone is meant to be, it'll happen. If you fall out with your family and it's meant to be you guys will rekindle, apologies will be made. You guys will grow and mature, but until then, fuck everyone. You need to look out for you and your own, so don't try to get approval from family or mother-in-laws. You do you. You do what makes you and your partner happy and they should support you. Your spouse should support you. Your kids should support you. So I mean down, this is getting a little deep.
Speaker 3:But I think that's the hardest thing is the spousal support, because there are times where the spouse is cut in half, like they're like well, you're my husband or wife, but this is my parent, this is my mom.
Speaker 1:That's true. At the end of the day, you stay true to yourself. You'll feel 100% better if you stick to your guns and you stick to your beliefs.
Speaker 3:So let's use some Jonah Hill lingo Don't let your boundaries be crossed.
Speaker 1:Hey, stick to your stick to your boundaries. Fuck the noise, fuck everybody. So, just be happy. We live too fucking short to worry about family and mother-in-laws and father-in-laws and whatever, so overbearing mothers.
Speaker 3:Ultimately, they're just a person.
Speaker 1:Yeah they're nobody to you. You start your own life, you figure your own life out. But that's the first one. Come hang out with us. Yeah, we'll talk.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we'll talk Way deep.
Speaker 1:We're a small, tight knit unit. So the second part is making friends with your partner's friend's spouses. That's a good one as well, I think when we were dating I didn't really like any of your friends.
Speaker 3:No, when we started dating, you were such a hater.
Speaker 1:And I don't know why, maybe because I was. I don't like people in general.
Speaker 3:No, new, friends.
Speaker 1:And I'm territorial, like even with my family growing up. That's a big part of my family's identity too is they're territorial people. That's part of the overbearing mother-in-law.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So it was hard for me to accept a lot of her friends, even her friends husbands. I was like fuck them, like I don't know why I always had like this mindset. But I think over time you'll enjoy the company, because I used to say and Breanna hates this that I was a lone wolf.
Speaker 3:Like I had a few friends.
Speaker 1:I was just going to say that I had a few friends, but at the end of the day, I look out for me only until I got her and I got our kids. They're the only ones I care about. So other people I didn't give a shit about. I didn't care about her best friends and her best friends husbands or what they were going like. She'd tell me the T. Don't, don't get me wrong. I love the fucking drama. I love to stir the pot, baby.
Speaker 3:Oh, he's got his big wooden spoon. Yep, no, come with it.
Speaker 1:But to make friends with them. I mean, I didn't care, like I yeah, they were an afterthought of, like us, like I'd all right, they're going to come around, Sure, I guess. But over time I think I grew a love for for them. I love them as much as you and I would help them out if they needed it. And, yeah, and whoever they're with, whoever they're surrounded by, I think, because our family is so small, it's OK for me to love.
Speaker 3:Are you going to cry too? Are you crying too?
Speaker 1:No, but same for you. It's OK for you to be territorial.
Speaker 2:Quote unquote.
Speaker 3:It's.
Speaker 1:OK for you to keep your partner and your babies close. But as you grow you'll learn and you'll accept that it's OK to make friends, to let them in your life, to let people in your life. As long as it's not fucking toxic or weird, it's OK to be surrounded by by love.
Speaker 3:So I am a big advocate, but I'm a big believer of Drake. No new friends, no new friends, no, no yeah it's a big Drake day guys.
Speaker 3:But yeah, no new friends. I've got my core group of friends. Like you know, that's all I need in life. They're my sisters, but, like we said, we have a very small. We have a very small family. We don't have a lot and my best friends are, you know, they're all I need, even before he came along. They're all I need in life. They're, you know everything. You know my supporters, whatever, but that's for him too. Those are your guys. Your friends are the ones who have known you. You know some of them longer than I have. Some of them know you better than I have. They have a lot of memories with you, they have a lot of good times with you and uh huh.
Speaker 3:So, coming into a relationship where your partner has friends, someone who you know want to spend time with them, it's hard. It's hard to be like OK, who is this? But also same thing about boundaries as long as they're not overstepping their boundaries of not just you but your relationship, that's what you need to keep in mind. If they're not making you feel uncomfy. If they're making you feel uncomfortable, then you need to say something to your significant other, especially if they're making anything in your relationship feel uncomfortable, you need to say something again. But you know, as someone who is an introvert, I'm an introvert. I'm not like I said no new friends. I'm not like, come on guys, I'm not like a big person to do that, but those that's your significant others family, that's your significant others friends. So you just got to. You know, no one says you have to be best friends with them, but just kind of take it day by day. You know they obviously love the person that you're with.
Speaker 3:So stay true to yourself, but also keep in mind that your significant other loves them for a reason. Yeah, I think, just kind of be open to it. I know it's hard, I know it's hard, it's hard, it's very hard, but take a shot. Just take a little flask drink throughout the day and yeah, maybe they'll share it in your flask with you.
Speaker 1:They are the liquor always turns you to someone else. Liquor goes quicker. But anyway yeah that's all we got.
Speaker 3:That's what we got.
Speaker 1:Damn, I think we got. Instead of making fun of you guys, I think we felt for you guys.
Speaker 3:Oh, this is a very I told, I told you guys this, that I'm empathetic. Anyway, yeah, yeah, that's it, that's it, but thank you for leaving your skeletons out of the closet with us.
Speaker 1:Yeah, If you guys have any thing you want advice on or to clear up things or want our opinion on, you guys could text us, leave a voicemail call us yeah, whatever, yeah, and we'll or DM us. Yeah, we'll play it for you guys, our next skeletons in the closet, and we'll tell you what we think and what we feel.
Speaker 3:And these are fun because we do like to. We do like to get to know the people who are with us in this journey, who listen to us, who fill the things with us. So if you have a skeleton in the closet you would like to release, our phone number is 562-4570613.
Speaker 2:I got to memorize now. That was good.
Speaker 1:Say it again 562-4570613. All right, guys. The next episode will have our second intro that we received. We'd like for you guys again to let us know how you like it. But other than that, we'll catch you on the flip flop later.