Ding Dong! Have you ever had that moment when you're scrolling through social media and suddenly stumble upon your ex's profile? You know, the one you promised to stay friends with, but ended up cutting ties instead. Well, this episode is all about that. We take you through some of our October antics, like our family trip to the Myers House and a visit to the whimsical Sugar Mynt Gallery. And let’s not forget our four-year anniversary and the ongoing saga of our house remodel. And yes, we even tried our hands at Halloween costumes this year. Spoiler alert - it didn't end that way.
Let's chat about exes, shall we? We posed a simple question to you, our listeners - do you still follow your exes on social media? The responses we received were anything but expected! As we navigate through the murky waters of staying friends with an ex and the necessity of cutting off contact after a breakup, we realize that it’s not all black and white. The conversation takes an interesting turn as we discuss whether exes can truly be friends, especially when intimacy was once a part of the equation.
Hold onto your hats because the episode takes a turn towards the eerie. Your paranormal experiences and our own spine-tingling tales will have you looking over your shoulder. From inexplicable phone calls to ghostly presences, the unexplained just got a little more real. And let’s not forget our take on Britney Spears' early relationship with Justin Timberlake. We round off with an open invitation to our listeners to share their own chilling experiences and secrets. Whether you are here for some light-hearted banter, some serious relationship advice, or some spine-chilling stories, don’t miss out on this episode.
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Ding Dong! Have you ever had that moment when you're scrolling through social media and suddenly stumble upon your ex's profile? You know, the one you promised to stay friends with, but ended up cutting ties instead. Well, this episode is all about that. We take you through some of our October antics, like our family trip to the Myers House and a visit to the whimsical Sugar Mynt Gallery. And let’s not forget our four-year anniversary and the ongoing saga of our house remodel. And yes, we even tried our hands at Halloween costumes this year. Spoiler alert - it didn't end that way.
Let's chat about exes, shall we? We posed a simple question to you, our listeners - do you still follow your exes on social media? The responses we received were anything but expected! As we navigate through the murky waters of staying friends with an ex and the necessity of cutting off contact after a breakup, we realize that it’s not all black and white. The conversation takes an interesting turn as we discuss whether exes can truly be friends, especially when intimacy was once a part of the equation.
Hold onto your hats because the episode takes a turn towards the eerie. Your paranormal experiences and our own spine-tingling tales will have you looking over your shoulder. From inexplicable phone calls to ghostly presences, the unexplained just got a little more real. And let’s not forget our take on Britney Spears' early relationship with Justin Timberlake. We round off with an open invitation to our listeners to share their own chilling experiences and secrets. Whether you are here for some light-hearted banter, some serious relationship advice, or some spine-chilling stories, don’t miss out on this episode.
Leave a question or secret you've been meaning to get off your chest so we could play it LIVE (anonymously), and we will give you advice, talk about it, and laugh together. Anything from relationship stuff, sex stuff, kids' stuff, and even single stuff! ↓↓↓
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8:12 Talking About Exes and Social Media
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37:58 Paranormal Experiences and Britney Spears Memoir
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No trees, no trees, no trees, no trees, no trees, no trees, no trees. Welcome back to All Tricks no trees. It's been a very busy. This is Halloween. This is Halloween Halloween. I wish you joined in. It's been a very busy October for us. October but it sucks because last year we wanted to do a bunch of things during October and this year In October, we wanted to do a bunch of things too. We wanted to like have spooky episodes. Dress up, make a website. Make like a spooky shirt.
Speaker 2:Oh wow, I didn't know we had all that planned.
Speaker 1:And we didn't, and we're doing one episode for October. You know us. I feel like they can take our word that we're going to change.
Speaker 2:They're probably not even here anymore, because they're like no, you let us down.
Speaker 1:Okay, sorry, we're back.
Speaker 2:Here we are Every week. Yeah, anyway, yeah. So it's October, our busiest month.
Speaker 1:Pretty busy Out of the whole year. Yeah, we've done a lot.
Speaker 2:So there's some things we do in October. We visit the Myers House the beginning of every October.
Speaker 1:Explain to them what that is.
Speaker 2:So when champ was a baby, we just needed to get out of the house and we were like, okay, let's just go, let's go do something, let's find something. And I found where the Michael Myers house the house in Halloween, the movie is. It's in Pasadena. And so we went there and took a picture with champ when he was I don't even know like seven months old, new born pretty much.
Speaker 2:And it's become a tradition. We go there every year. So obviously our family's grown, our pictures have developed and we go there every year and take a picture in front of the house.
Speaker 1:What's cool about that, too, is like two houses down is a museum, like a.
Speaker 2:Halloween museum, a gallery, what's it called Sugar Mint Sugar Mint Gallery. But, it's mint with the Y.
Speaker 1:They have hocus pocus stuff, stuff from the movie. They have Halloween stuff, they have.
Speaker 2:It was a ghost, no, no.
Speaker 1:They have a local artist paint scenes for movies and they sell them there, which is super. We try to buy something every time we go. If you're wanting to go, it's 20 bucks to get in, so take some cash.
Speaker 2:We're going for that, yeah.
Speaker 1:Especially if you have five people in your family.
Speaker 2:Actually they just pay. They charge us for us.
Speaker 1:Because we go every year. And it was cool because one year the mom actually was babysitting. Quote unquote Bubby.
Speaker 2:The gallery owner. She's a younger girl and her mom was there and she was like, oh, can I hold her? I don't have any grandchildren yet. And so we were like, okay, yes, take her baby.
Speaker 1:Anyway, it was cool there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so we went there. We went to the pumpkin patch. We also saw movements.
Speaker 1:The band.
Speaker 2:Movements, which was really good.
Speaker 1:Some guy almost I think he died next to us. Yeah, that guy who passed right on his head.
Speaker 2:The ghost, the movement, ghost. No, I meant that's the ghost.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel bad for that dude.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was hard RIP. Who knows what happened. He's doing well.
Speaker 1:I don't think so. But anyway, Movements, they're good to see live. If you haven't heard them, check them out.
Speaker 2:We celebrated our four year anniversary.
Speaker 1:Four years, eleven years together.
Speaker 2:Four years married. Yes, A four year married.
Speaker 1:We just talked about this, but we would always say like two years through, isn't it? We're like man, imagine like a 10 year anniversary. No way, that's too long to be together.
Speaker 2:We'd always be like oh no way.
Speaker 1:And now we're here, all old farts, but yeah, four years.
Speaker 2:It was fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was a good time. We went to Beauty and Essex. Beauty and Essex, it was a nice restaurant in Hollywood and we hit a couple of bars which was pretty good. No kids, thank God.
Speaker 2:We took the kids to the bar. They would want to go Probably. It was probably fun.
Speaker 1:But yeah, it was a good time. Four years Damn, that's wild. Four years married and I did a cheers. I was like 10 other four years.
Speaker 2:And they went. Oh no, I was like four hundred four hundred 44 years oh no, oh no.
Speaker 1:But anyway, yeah, that happened too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so October's been very busy.
Speaker 1:And we're getting a new fucking roof at the moment. So it's been like dirty and crazy and, if you don't know, we remodeled our whole house and that was one of the last things.
Speaker 2:We did the inside.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we needed a lot more stuff outside, but we had leaks, so we had to do a new roof and it's the front house is done.
Speaker 2:We need to work on the back house, but I'm trying to make it seem like that's part of it. We're just doing a haunted house, guys. We're just you know, that's the aesthetic we're going for.
Speaker 1:It looks like all the, all the white old neighbors are like oh yeah, okay, that makes sense yeah.
Speaker 2:Instead, it's just our house is trashed because we're getting we're getting a lot of construction done.
Speaker 1:I'm just leaning into it right now.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so let's choose to that, to our October. Unfortunately, it's the end of October Halloween's over.
Speaker 1:They really have Christmas shit. So sad, you know, it's real when they have the white Santa and black Santa at Los. You're like you always high five him. I say what's up? My home dude Cheers.
Speaker 2:Cheers.
Speaker 1:Oh, but nice.
Speaker 2:We did want to wear costumes, but we didn't have time to so these things on our heads. If you can't see him, he's wearing a captain's hat. I'm wearing a beret. It's going to be for my costume, so you know why I'm in the captain's hat.
Speaker 1:baby, captain Tan, baby, all y'all are just all, y'all are just in the on the ride.
Speaker 2:Captain Crunch. Wow, that's crazy. Captain Hook, don't try to save it. Oh Captain, my captain.
Speaker 1:Wow, captain Crunch, I guess I do look like that fat guy in my box. Surah box. Thanks, oh God.
Speaker 2:Okay, so there was one more thing. I know we talked about this. We said that we wanted to start a. Actually look at my pumpkin. This is my pumpkin too.
Speaker 1:Very nice.
Speaker 2:This is my. I had a pumpkin painting night with my friends and I chose Pennywise.
Speaker 1:I heard of pumpkin painting, but who pumpkin paints? It's pumpkin carving right.
Speaker 2:I do like pumpkin carving, but even actually someone who she listens to us. She did pumpkin painting with her kids and I told her like oh, it looks so cute. And she said it's so much easier. And then after doing this, it was easier.
Speaker 1:And look at that thing, If you can't see. It's Pennywise on a pumpkin and she showed me a picture of all of her girlfriends and her pumpkin and her friends. Pumpkins were cute. There was shit.
Speaker 2:No, they weren't. They were all cute, like they had cute colors, like little cute ghosts, like look at this thing.
Speaker 1:If you can't see it, I'm going to fucking post it. On the story I'm going to post all of those and we'll see who's the best one.
Speaker 2:No, they're so cute, but I just of course went for the creepy vibes. But um, give me, I know I said that um a while ago. I wanted to start like a little segment where we talked about funny things our kids say, and so today one happened Really.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So, um, I made breakfast for the kids and I and we were sitting at the table and normally we always tell them like turn the TV off while we're eating. But I was like, okay, let's put on a movie. Champ wanted to watch Big Daddy.
Speaker 1:Nice.
Speaker 2:Family favorite, so we put it on. And then, um, we finished watching it. We were walking around cleaning up, getting ready to leave and I just hear him walking around going Hooters, Hooters, Hooters, Hooters, Hooters. Hooters and I was like oh no, what have we done? I'm like you don't even know what it means.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, is this a?
Speaker 2:hooters, no, like I said, okay, um, like, let's, let's get dressed, Go get, let's go get some clothes on. He walks away going Hooters, Hooters, hooters, no, no.
Speaker 1:My boy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's natural.
Speaker 1:He knows it's right. He knows it's right to say Hooters. But that was funny, it's hilarious.
Speaker 2:I wish I heard him say that. What's the topic of the day? What?
Speaker 1:what is a good topic for October? The scariest thing of all. What the X.
Speaker 2:Files for having the X talk today, the X Talking about our X's.
Speaker 1:Sex with the X? No, okay, just the X, the X, so spookiest thing of all.
Speaker 2:We have our polls, but also I want to know what you think of the X, the X, the X. The X, the X, the X, the X, the X, the X, the.
Speaker 1:The X.
Speaker 2:You did like a form, like a wave formation on it. You better chill out. You better chill out with that catch up. So we did a pull.
Speaker 1:Let's hear that people eat it with ketchup.
Speaker 2:Okay, Ketchup on chorizo. We said Is there any other way or no, I'm not crazy. 20% said there's no other way.
Speaker 1:Hell yeah, that sounds like the majority.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh yeah. 80% said no, I'm not crazy.
Speaker 1:I bet you, those people haven't even tried it.
Speaker 2:If you haven't tried they haven't tried it because they already know how disgusting it looks.
Speaker 1:If you haven't tried ketchup on chorizo and eggs, go try it with some tortilla. There's a lot of R-rolling going on but try it. That bitch is delicious. I'm not crazy, you're crazy.
Speaker 2:So I just wanted to bring that up.
Speaker 1:Thanks for they're scammers.
Speaker 2:I mean, we all have that, I bet you.
Speaker 1:They say they don't like ketchup on Spanish rice either.
Speaker 2:You probably don't. Oh, my God, you guys are disgusting people. Us, yes, us. Okay. So our X polls. Do you keep in touch with any Xs? 17% said yes, I'm mature and can keep it cool. 83% no, they gone.
Speaker 1:Damn. I feel like if you don't keep in touch, it ended badly.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think there's a lot of reasons to not keep in touch and I think-.
Speaker 1:The main one is yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah. The next one is do you still follow an X on social media? 20% said how else am I going to see how miserable they are? 80% said no, they're cut off for a reason. Do you believe it's possible to stay friends with an X? 38% said yes, which is I thought that's a lot higher than I thought I think so.
Speaker 1:Oh, my God 62% said no. Again, there's a lot of reasons for the yes and no, but thanks for polling, thank you. Yeah, so an X I don't have an X, oh God this is how he avoids all these conversations.
Speaker 2:I don't, yeah.
Speaker 1:I swear to God, Brianna is my only girlfriend that I've ever had.
Speaker 2:Yes, okay, I've talked All of his friends I've known I've talked let me talk.
Speaker 1:I've talked to girls, obviously, and I like girls, jesus, man, like can't stop twitching the hell Because it knows you're lying. I've talked to quite a few girls, sure, but none of them have been officially my girlfriend, and it's for a reason because I knew this one was going to be there, be there for me, and I made her my girlfriend. So, technically, I don't have any Xs, so I'm good.
Speaker 2:I don't know why. Okay, so we did our polls. Do you follow them on social media? What do you think? If you have an X, do you still follow them? And also, do you have a talk with your friends and family about following them? Because social media is a big thing now and I feel like you can. If your X is with someone and you still follow them, it can escalate into oh, you start talking to each other Like, you start commenting on things, you start you know you can go back into that Like a habit.
Speaker 1:Sure, I mean, I guess, like we were saying, it depends. So if it's like a really bad ugly breakup or kind of toxic, I guess you could say then there's no point in following an X. But if you guys like mutually break up and you guys are cordial with each other and there's no like bad blood, I guess you could say it's not bad. And if it's mutual especially, you both know that it's not really going to work out. So why can't you just like be cool with each other? There's a bunch of different reasons, but those are, I guess, the straight forward one.
Speaker 2:It's very mature. I don't know, not at all. No, I think, once you're done, you cut them off, you unfollow them, you block not block them, but make them unfollow you.
Speaker 1:Jesus.
Speaker 2:Well, you're not together for a reason.
Speaker 1:So if we broke up, you'd block me?
Speaker 2:I wouldn't block you, but I don't think I need to follow you. What I had? This talk with my friends that's rude. That's not rude, it's just. We had a talk because we're just talking about like breakups and stuff, and it was a group of us and we were talking about like, do you follow them still, do you not? And a lot of my friends are saying like, oh yeah, you know, I'd still want to follow them, I'd still want to, you know see how they're doing stuff.
Speaker 2:And I told my friend I was like no, I just cut it off, like I don't.
Speaker 1:You're the only one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, damn. No, it's a Scorpio you had a control. No, I just feel like there's no, there's no reason and I would never, but I would never tell my friends and family like you can't follow them.
Speaker 1:Like don't like that's up to them, but I would so so I think from a guy's perspective, if someone breaks up with you or something, the guys want to better themselves. That's like a thing going around Like you fucking want to hit the gym. You want to do better for yourself, to show people that, or show your ex, rather, or whatever that you're doing better in life being a boss and it's funny that you put that on the pole. Like I want to look back to see how miserable they are without me, yeah.
Speaker 1:So that's funny because, like girls have talked too long time ago. I've told you this that some aren't really like doing the best and I kind of I laugh about it and you tell me not to be mean, but I think it's, I love it.
Speaker 2:But see, that's not why you should follow them.
Speaker 1:I don't. I mean I'm not looking for these people, but I'm in a place where it's like fuck everybody, look at what I'm doing now.
Speaker 2:You know, I'm getting.
Speaker 1:I have everything I ever wanted, and yeah, I don't know I think it's funny?
Speaker 2:Well, fuck them Happy.
Speaker 1:Halloween.
Speaker 2:If you can't see, we have a skeleton on our table and we positioned his hand to be saying bye.
Speaker 1:So it's like girl, bye, Bye.
Speaker 2:What if they text you have you ever had? Okay, you don't have an X.
Speaker 1:We get it.
Speaker 2:But what if a girl that you were talking to that things ended? What if they texted you?
Speaker 1:I mean, I've never been in that situation before, but I'd be like you've never had someone text you after things ended. I mean I guess, yeah, drunk call, Okay. So how did you respond to that? I was so turned off and one person comes to mind and they're the little intoxicated and I got some drunk texts and drunk calls that were like too much.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because obviously they, like, were really into me, I was, I mean I was into them at the time, sure, but um, I mean it just wasn't the right time, I guess, for me, but just, that I was the best how did you respond, though I?
Speaker 1:mean, I'm not a dick. So I just said listen, call me when you're sober and like I kind of don't really want to listen to this, like when you're drunk, you know, let's just talk when you're sober. And I don't know if we ever did. I don't think we did. I think I texted her but we never talked on the phone. Really I'm not a big phone talker, but that was very dramatic, dramatic yeah.
Speaker 2:Traumatic or dramatic, tra or drudra it was like a, it was next level.
Speaker 1:I don't know I was, I was really young anyway. But yeah, I just got a couple of drunk calls. What about you?
Speaker 2:Um yeah, I had an ex reach out to me a few times. Um huh, yeah, when we went together.
Speaker 1:When.
Speaker 2:Uh, maybe about like a month or two after we woke up. Month ago After we broke up you dummy Good American Horror Story, the.
Speaker 1:X, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because when we broke up, I just had like a big talk with him like you know, I'm not filling this anymore because of this and this and all this stuff and he just sent me this big long text of like, oh, I fixed this or I did this, or I'm doing this now Because what you talked to me about Sure, oh yeah, that was nice, give me. Um, and it was just a big text.
Speaker 1:Sure.
Speaker 2:I'm about that and I just Miss him. I don't even know if I responded.
Speaker 1:Damn harsh, I don't know.
Speaker 2:But then I got another text saying like hey, I'm cleaning out my closet and you have some stuff in here, like I bought skates. I remember I was driving I was actually driving to my aunt and uncle's and I got a text I'm like immediately in my stomach like dropped. I was like oh, keep it. Yeah, and I did. I said, I haven't needed it this long, you can just throw it away.
Speaker 1:And that was it. So they said I'm not writing those no more. I'm writing Chris now.
Speaker 2:I don't need this.
Speaker 1:This is what I have.
Speaker 2:Instead of picture of you. My balls oh, oh, oh, oh, oh oh.
Speaker 1:Oh man yeah.
Speaker 2:But yeah. So if they text you, here's a couple things. You can talk to a friend because you know when you break up after a while you kind of forget about how the relationship was, the bad points, like why you broke up. So, you should talk to a friend, have them jog your memory, because we forget about that stuff. But you can be like 100% sure that your friend will not have forgot it. I will have your back and yeah, and that's why that's some advice.
Speaker 2:Yes, so they can remind you. Also and there was one thing I read to that, when you start missing someone that you broke things up like you guys broke up, you make a list, you start a list and write one thing down that like gave you an ick or one thing that annoyed you about them, or one thing that you didn't like. So then when you miss them, you read that list and you've got a lot of reasons why you shouldn't be calling them, talking to them.
Speaker 1:Why are you smiling like that? Because that one's like fucking weird.
Speaker 2:Why is that weird?
Speaker 1:It's helpful no, it's helpful, but it's like fucking cringey to do that, to write down bad stuff they did or stuff you didn't like.
Speaker 2:I mean sometimes it's hard to get over someone, Maybe it maybe it works for some people.
Speaker 1:I'm not trying to judge, but it sounds very white person, white people, stuff, you know, not in a bad way, but that's some fucking. That's some next level, next level, okay, no, healthy coping mechanisms and very interesting.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay. Number two is trust your gut. So, when they texted you, what was your initial reaction? Did your stomach drop, did you smile, did you roll your eyes?
Speaker 1:That particular one was like no feelings. Really, I was just kind of like, oh, maybe gross feeling like you didn't even need the conversation. No, it's kind of like turned off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so your initial reaction will tell you how you feel. Yeah, so you need to lean into that, okay, sure. Next one, practice restraint. So you know, sometimes people after you've broken up and you hear from them, you're like itching to talk back to them. You really want to, like you know, have a full on conversation, but you need to give them some time, like wait a little bit, see what they say, see where the conversation goes. Don't just jump right back into it because you want to see what their intentions are. Yeah, so kind of have them lead the conversation, kind of let them fill in the blanks and then that way you can figure out what's going on with the conversation, where it's going. Yeah.
Speaker 1:I could just so. Let me just say a quick story about one of my buddies, about trusting your gut. It's hard sometimes. So it's because sometimes you're in a relationship or you're talking to someone and they say something you don't really want to hear, like they're don't see going anywhere, they're not really into you, and you know, and your gut like fuck, all right, this is over, I shouldn't entertain this anymore. But in this case that happened and it was like mature, it's a mature thing to do, right, you're not going to want to leave them off for so long. But it happened to him. And but this girl ended up texting him again that oh, we should hang out soon it's going to be my birthday. After she already said what she said.
Speaker 1:As, as a friend, I gave him my advice like fuck her, you know, because she's just trying. I think she's just trying to. I don't know. She wants to do what she wants to do, but she doesn't want to take it to the next level and he wanted to. So I think trusting your gut is hard when you're really into someone and you want something to work, but at the end of the day it's not going to work. You know, they're not as interested in you as you are with them. So I mean you could trust your gut all you want, but when it comes to like dating and love and shit, it's hard to actually be like disconnect from that you know.
Speaker 2:no, yeah, it's very hard. It's very hard because you um, especially if things didn't end the way you wanted them to like you, it's very hard to backslide into it and like, go into oh my God, we're talking, we're doing this now. Oh, it feels so good Like, it feels like old times like, and that's why you need to be able to have your support system, your friends, your family, to let you know, like hey, this is why you're not together, this is why things ended this way. Yeah.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, um, last one never feel obligated if it doesn't serve you. Okay, so if your goal is to get over something that hurt you, then you're not obligated to respond.
Speaker 1:Like you you don't?
Speaker 2:you don't owe anything to them. So, um, sometimes relationships reach their end and that's okay, yeah, and it might be painful for you to communicate with them. It might be very hard for you, it might be very, like you know, it might be too much, yeah, so if you don't have anything and that's like keep tying you to them like kids or anything, then you know, yeah, you don't have. You don't have to respond if you don't want to.
Speaker 1:And, like you said, it is hard to kind of accept that because they were important person in your life at a point. But there's people in your life that are meant to come and go and that should be that. You should just not like a stepping stone, but it's like a step towards you growing as a person and learning and developing yeah whatever. So people are meant to come in and out of your life. It's not like everyone you meet. You're not going to fucking keep them in your life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, especially you know romantic people, you can't just string them along forever, yeah.
Speaker 1:Or get strung along forever.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You need to know when to fucking move on. Yeah, and say I'm out now, onto the next one. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Best way to get over someone is to get under someone. Damn dog.
Speaker 1:If I can, therapist over here, sex therapist Okay.
Speaker 2:So can exes be friends. This is a big one.
Speaker 1:I think they could. I think they could be friends. Wow, You're being trying to pretend she's a pretend jealous or jealous pretend. She's a jealous pretender. She pretends to be jealous pretending jealous or whatever the fuck, not an English major professor, teacher, doctor.
Speaker 2:Oh, wow.
Speaker 1:Thanks, fucking construction worker, I think you could. If it doesn't end bad, I mean damn, can I talk to me? If it doesn't end bad, I don't mean like being their best friend, where you're still fucking communicating. Pause, oh, oh, play. I don't think you should be like buddy buddy with them, but like I Mean it's. I don't know, you're not necessarily friends, but you're not fucking enemies, so you're not trying to block them or be weird, you know, I think that's fine.
Speaker 2:I don't think so.
Speaker 2:Okay, why is that Because I feel like you've had so much, like you have history. You Usually been intimate with each other. That's a big thing, mm-hmm. You've had a lot of stuff that you've like gone through together. You've done stuff together and I think it's very hard to get over that and it's very hard to move on when you still have that constant reminder of what you went through together. Like you can't look at someone and be like, well, I know what you look like naked, but let's be friends like I don't. I don't think you can do that.
Speaker 1:But what do you mean by friends like Like going out to fucking have drinks and no, yeah like part of a friend group, part of like.
Speaker 2:I don't talk to each other like, not acquaintances, like friends not, like you, run into someone on the street. I'm like oh, how are you like friends?
Speaker 1:No oh.
Speaker 2:You change your mind.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I thought you meant like friends on fucking Instagram or something.
Speaker 2:No, I didn't mean in real life, you don't mean IRL.
Speaker 1:I thought fake life, it's Sims in the Sims, yeah. So obviously that's weird. You're not gonna surround yourself with it. I mean, if you have a same friends group, maybe I'm sure that happens, but I think it's. It definitely is kind of, especially if you're moving on into a new relationship.
Speaker 1:It's kind of it's kind of you're taking like a step back or being, I don't know, surrounding yourself with Someone, like you said have been with intimate, with, trying to move on from that. You shouldn't, I don't think you should be friends like that, be buddy, buddy in the same group, I think, like acquaintances like on social media fine, everyone grows up and has families and I think that's okay to just see you once in a while. But, yeah, being friends, ah, that's kind of weird.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, question work.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I know. I mean, like I don't even know about like friends on social media, like that's kind of weird.
Speaker 1:Yeah, to me it's not, it's kind of normal your friends with everyone. My god, are we being like real or you're just being fucking judgmental?
Speaker 2:Okay. So I asked a few people About their different points of view and someone said well, how did it end? So it does you know, there's a lot of big things that depend on it, like how did it did it? Was it a mature? Like ending Someone that I asked? Their only response was hell, no. So there's, I think there's a lot that goes into it. Yeah, but here's a few Times where being a friend, being friends with the next, is a good idea.
Speaker 1:So if you have platonic feelings, if you don't have romantic feelings for each other anymore, which is kind of you know so, like I said before, if it's a mutual breakup and you guys know it's not really, if you're in the same Friends group and you guys see each other, the same bars, and that's fine, you could, I mean, be friends, right I guess, but it's not. But if it's like a bad breakup or something you shouldn't be, but that one's like, that one's a pretty, pretty good one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, if you have.
Speaker 1:Who's mature nowadays like that Not?
Speaker 2:really anybody. None of us anyway.
Speaker 1:Damn dog, you fucking have allergies. Maybe blow that little nose.
Speaker 2:They're just my nostrils okay. Aligned goals. You're both on the same page and genuinely want to be friends with each other. Mutual support you have mutual respect for each other and continue to be a source of support to one another. Closure you have both process the breakup and don't have any unresolved feelings for each other, so you've both moved on, which is that's a big one. Yeah, like no more feelings you like can truly look at them and say, like I'm good, like have your fun like, especially if you guys are in your own relationships.
Speaker 2:I think then it's more.
Speaker 1:Okay it's. If you guys are just trying to move on, but still around each other, then it's Weird. But if you're like growing up and being with other people and but that's where it's hard, though, because people tend.
Speaker 2:People are like jealous not we're all jealous, but they tend to get jealous.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so you have you shared something with them, no matter how it ended, like I think, but that that's when it comes up in conversation with the person you're with to See if it's okay or not. But in general it's what I mean, whatever.
Speaker 2:Okay, last one emotional maturity. You're both emotionally mature enough to maintain a supportive friendship without any baggage or unrealistic expectations.
Speaker 1:Again.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's pretty easier said than done.
Speaker 1:Yeah, who has emotional maturity these days?
Speaker 2:Okay. So, on the other hand, if you're trying to be friends with an ex, it might not be a good idea if there was any abuse or anyone who was harmed in any way. Anyone lied or cheated or seriously hurt each other in that sort of way. You still have feelings for your ex and you're trying to get back together with them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's.
Speaker 2:That's a big no-no yeah you know your ex still has feelings for you, but you don't feel that way anymore.
Speaker 1:Yeah, don't be around them. Yeah, it's kind of scary and you'll give them like false hope kind of.
Speaker 2:I feel like that's like a lifetime movie.
Speaker 1:How does it end? Bad yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, every lifetime movie always ends like, with like happy music and the person walking out of the house with the cop cars arriving. But it wasn't a good. Wasn't a good like middle part? You're feeling lonely and want comfort and attention.
Speaker 1:That one's another scary one, big one, because it's, it's hard.
Speaker 2:It's hard to you know, get over someone. It's hard to feel lonely, it's hard to like grieve that relationship. Yeah you don't want to just go back to something, because you want something no way.
Speaker 1:Yeah that's negative.
Speaker 2:Yeah, You're trying to prove that you're over the relationship and you're doing well without them. So you just want to talk to them and be like, oh yeah, I met this guy last night yeah. You're trying to get gossip on what their life is like without you.
Speaker 1:That's just unhealthy.
Speaker 2:So those are a few things why you should not be friends if you have any of those feelings. You should not be friends with an ex.
Speaker 1:Yeah that's a good one.
Speaker 2:Nice. So what about when they start dating someone else? What if your friends and Either you or the person your ex start dating someone else? That's when things get very tricky if you, if you stay friends.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it could be hard, for sure it could be hard.
Speaker 2:But if you're mature, quote, unquote, you'd be happy for that we don't know that Maturity, we don't know her, I fucking.
Speaker 1:I'd plot to fucking hurt you and your new boyfriend. I Mean rewind. Don't use this as evidence. I.
Speaker 2:Speaking of lifetime movie, he'll fight me walking out of a basement.
Speaker 1:That'd be fun, it'd be rough on me for sure. But I mean if it ended and you both ended it, then it'd be fine. I mean it depends. You know we always say depends because it's so many variables in time. But If it's mutual, obviously you're gonna want to be happy for someone, to move on and find happiness. But if you saw feelings on either side then it's gonna be hard. But I mean I think that's good, it's a step in the right direction, even if it hurts you because it's like Confirming yep, that's why it's confirming like it's over you know yeah, and you need to accept it and truth in time.
Speaker 2:Happy Halloween. Justin Bobby has re-emerged.
Speaker 1:So time it's cheesy, but over time you'll kind of lose that little flame, for them ever get more and more dim, you know.
Speaker 2:I think that if you are friends with your ex and you start dating Someone else, you definitely need to have that talk with them about hey, so, so and so in my friend group We've been together, we dated, we hooked up, whatever. Yeah, I think you definitely need to have that talk and have an open conversation about what your history is with someone, and I think that I actually think, if you're friends with an ex, I think that ends a lot of the being friends with them, because that's the true test of when you start dating someone else Mm-hmm, so yeah, that's hard for sure but the last thing is Take time for yourself.
Speaker 2:When you go through a breakup, you need to heal and work on yourself before you come back to any sort of friendship with an ex, any sort of like, even idea of Talking to them.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I think you need to spend A lot of time. I was reading things and they said there's no set amount of time, like some places said, like One year, six months. Like I read Reddit Threads where someone said it took me two and a half years. There's no set amount of time. But you can't jump into being friends right after a breakup. You need to take your time.
Speaker 1:He'll find yourself again be able to set your boundaries, and I think that's like a piece of advice on oh.
Speaker 2:The skeleton hand just fell out and oh Well, oh, oh no.
Speaker 1:That thing's flexible.
Speaker 2:You little jealous right now. Oh wow, need to elbow, need to elbow.
Speaker 1:So, no we've said that before, take time to yourself and always, yeah, when you're fighting with a, your significant other, like if you need time to yourself. We've always said that for a lot of topics and it's true it's like a good thing to to do is to spend time with yourself and do things you like to do and kind of reset, I guess yeah, your your priority.
Speaker 2:You know your mental health, your happiness, is the number one priority. So take your time. Do we need to do? Find yourself, find your happiness, and maybe then you can be friends with your ex. Some of us can't you guys don't see this right now, but my hand is gripping his knee. Some of us can't, some of us won't, but yeah, so good luck out there. Yeah, do what's best for you, for sure, okay. So I know we usually do our Uh-huh ask man yeah, but since it's um.
Speaker 2:Halloween the one week of Halloween that we, the one week of October that we record our Ask men reddit has changed to a different reddit spoopy.
Speaker 1:All right, let's hear it.
Speaker 2:It's dark theme reddit. Dark theme reddit, All right spit it out.
Speaker 2:Let me sing if I want. So what paranormal activities have you witnessed? One weekend I was at my dad's house. He'd come to the upstairs bathroom to get a shave and heard footsteps in my steps sister's room. I thought I was him walking around initially, so I got up to find him standing at her closed door. He looks back at me and whispers. You can hear that too right. I nodded and he opened the door slowly. My steps sister was asleep. Never had been awake apparently they have in parentheses. There was no way she could have crossed the room, got in bed and pretended to be that convincingly asleep. In two seconds it took my dad to open the door. He went in, checked her TV, which had never been on. She had a big one from the 90s. The radio hadn't been on either. After that we heard the footsteps a bunch of times, usually very early in the morning. Some of the footsteps were so heavy They'd shake the ceiling fan of the dining room directly under her bedroom and they'd woken her up a few times as well.
Speaker 2:Whenever I'd shower at my dad's, I always felt like someone was standing behind me. Eventually, I got so stressed and paranoid that I refused to shower at the house or even go into the upstairs bathroom. My dad asked me one day do I feel like someone's in the shower with you when you're here? After months me feeling that way and never mentioning it to anyone, you get chills no.
Speaker 2:No but um, that's weird yeah not sure if this is considered paranormal, but when I get fevers as a child I would always, in my pain-infused state, here, a man counting in a very deep voice Jesus. He would count from one and up. As the numbers get larger, the voice gets louder and more intense, which kind of reminds me of insidious. Remember that part of insidious.
Speaker 2:It started to get less frequent as I grew older, and now I do not experience it anymore. I brushed it aside as a recurring nightmare until only recently. I've learned that my sister would experience the exact same thing when she was younger as well. It's not the scariest thing, but it does send shivers down my spine trying to comprehend this. That's fucking crazy they do say that kids, you know, can feel a lot more or more open to, like you know weirdo shit not weirdo, but you know like yeah, yeah, demon.
Speaker 1:So mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:When I was three, I told my parents that my great-grandmother came to me in a dream and said her feet didn't hurt anymore. I think she had a problem with it due to diabetes. She had died that night. They received the call shortly after I told them yeah.
Speaker 1:Incidents maybe.
Speaker 2:I work in a cemetery. One evening I had stayed late to do some ketchup work. I was taking pictures of some granite saples to have on my phone and how already locked up I was alone. As I was holding my phone, I heard the doorway to the basement swing open, slam shut and her footsteps go down the stairs. I froze. I Thought for sure someone had come in. I called out to see if it was someone for maintenance. No reply. I got scared because if it wasn't them, someone had broken in. I stayed still for a bit and listened and called out again Nothing. Finally I got brave enough to look. No one there. I peeked down the basement empty. All the doors were still locked. Hmm, okay, last one. I don't believe in paranormal activity, but my grandparents house is considered by many to be extremely haunted. In parentheses, it's part of a tour of haunted houses in LA area and according to legend, was part of the inspiration for American Horror Story.
Speaker 2:Nice I know there are tons of stories, but the one I experienced myself was when I was living there as a child. I was about six years old and my elder, my older sister, was 12. We shared a room. My mom had decorated our bedside table with an antique telephone that didn't work. It was not plugged in. That would be us. Yeah. My sister and I were asleep asleep, and for some reason we both woke up at the same time and turned to face each other. I remember feeling an extreme feeling of dread. Then the phone rang in between us. We locked eyes and both hit under the blankets until it stopped ringing. What we both thought it was a dream, because we didn't say anything for years about it. Then one day she was talking about it. We realized we had the exact same experience. There are so many more stories, but that's only one I experienced directly.
Speaker 1:Damn that's fucking scary, isn't that crazy? I'd sock that phone. I'd answer that phone.
Speaker 2:What would you say? Well, fuck it is, I want to sleep.
Speaker 1:Can you order a pizza? I'm hungry. Okay so those are good they were little spooky creepy. Frickin naughty.
Speaker 2:Well, freaking naughty, that's. That's what's the scariest part of this podcast. I was saying freaky naughty. Okay. So last is our. We should have tried to sing it like a spooky way. Why can't I go low? So Britney Spears came out with her memoir titled the woman in me.
Speaker 2:Okay so it's a lot. There's a lot in there to unpack, but a few of the things that Stood out is her relationship with Justin Timberlake Damn, she's still on that, okay. So Let me talk about this first and we'll talk about that. So allegedly she had an abortion. Oh yeah, I did hear about that together because he quote-unquote was not ready to be a father.
Speaker 1:That's her fucking fault for doing that.
Speaker 2:Okay, relax, there's a lot of things that go into that there's. You know she was young, she might have felt pressure, she might have felt a lot of different things to his young dumb and full of cum literally. So I mean technically no, but yeah so that sucks.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's very sad and and did you just witness a ghost or something?
Speaker 2:No, I thought I heard a child crying. Oh, I thought I heard Nucky crying, uh, okay, um. So apparently he wasn't be. I wasn't ready to be a father. So I know a lot of people are saying, like, well, why is she talking about this now, like it's so long ago? And even Justin Timberlake has come out and been like you know, I've supported her from afar and like but a lot of people are saying she had her conservatorship so she couldn't talk about this stuff. She couldn't, you know, do what she wanted to do.
Speaker 1:And now that?
Speaker 2:it's over. She's getting her time.
Speaker 1:I guess it's healing for her. Yeah, I'm going to try to be a what's the word? Supportive.
Speaker 2:No, I'm going to try to be.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I guess receptive it's not receptive. But vulnerable oh yeah, yeah, I'm going to try to be vulnerable, I'm going to try not to be a dick about it Nice, but yeah, we're improving we're we're working together.
Speaker 2:Okay, and after her and Justin broke up right, Remember she started. She had that little thing with Colin Farrell.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:Well, her and Colin Farrell showed up to an opening of one of his movies and it was like a huge thing because her and Justin broke broke up, so she referred to it as a two week brawl, and so this is a quote. Brawl is the only word for it. We were all over each other, grappling so passionately. It was like we were in a street fight. Colin Farrell, colin.
Speaker 1:Farrell. Colin Farrell is tight, yeah, he is.
Speaker 2:I like him as an actor.
Speaker 1:He's he's in a couple good movies that I really like. Colin Farrell is beautiful man. Still.
Speaker 2:Is he beautiful?
Speaker 1:Was he beautiful Dress as Scarecrow and Batman? Hell, no, he was fucking ugly. I was looking. I'm not a good looking dude, but I was better looking than him as Scarecrow.
Speaker 2:Colin Farrell. He was Scarecrow.
Speaker 1:And the new one, the new Batman.
Speaker 2:Oh, he was. No, he wasn't Scarecrow, he was the penguin Same shit Same shit Same shit, different villain.
Speaker 1:He was a penguin, yeah he was Okay. Anyway.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so those are a few things, okay, and lastly, a list of places that girls do not want to go on a first date goes viral.
Speaker 1:What else do women want? Let's hear it. What else do they want? Want to complain about.
Speaker 2:Okay, so it's a group of women, I don't know. Some woman got taken. The candles move, the candles moving the skeletons moving.
Speaker 1:What is happening? We're hearing children laughing.
Speaker 2:We have children in the house, but we're still hearing children laughing. The candle doesn't agree with the list. So it was a list of 28 places that women do not want to go on a first date. Okay, so let's 28 places.
Speaker 1:women do not want to get a free meal at that should be the fucking title.
Speaker 2:Okay, it doesn't say anything about anyone paying.
Speaker 1:You know, these fucking hoses are paying for the first date. Oh, God.
Speaker 2:So men want to be like um, I'll provide for you, I'll do this for you, I'll do that for you, but then, when it comes, to all of a sudden.
Speaker 1:all of a sudden, you want to be provided for Talking about fucking food.
Speaker 2:No. So men want to say that. Men want to say that, they want to say I'll provide for you. I got you girl, I guarantee you.
Speaker 1:Cheesecake factory is probably on there. I fucking probably all of garden. Good ass, fucking places. Fucking bitches want. Want fucking steak and stein and shit and fucking whatever Breadsticks Fogo to chow bitch. You're getting fucking pizza from now on.
Speaker 2:Oh, thank you, I love that.
Speaker 1:Not you. You're missing girls Pisses me off.
Speaker 2:This isn't all women.
Speaker 1:Yes, it is All you motherfuckers in this category, are you?
Speaker 2:What it is not.
Speaker 1:You want fucking equal rights bitch. You're getting fucking spaghetti factory. You're getting red Robin endless fries.
Speaker 2:Actually their portions have gone very down, so that's offensive. You notice every time we order.
Speaker 1:We say can we start with some fries?
Speaker 2:We never used to, but remember they had like a basket, then it had a little silver cup.
Speaker 1:And then they got rid of that shit. Yes, yeah, the portions are less and less. Anyway, I hate this, but I'm boys, I got your back, boys, fuck this. What free meals don't they want? Let's hear them. Chili's, probably.
Speaker 2:OK yeah, Chili's.
Speaker 1:Please, none of us want Chili's.
Speaker 2:Let's hear it OK. So here's a few Knock them off. Number one is Cheesecake Factory. Oh my god, you don't want Cheesecake Factory either you don't want Cheesecake Factory either, I want it twice.
Speaker 1:So do not. I never ordered dessert. I'm getting dessert at Cheesecake Factory. Oh, all of a sudden now you're going Cheesecake. Factory's number one. I knew it. See these, it's dude.
Speaker 2:You don't even like Number two Applebee's.
Speaker 1:That one is gross. I don't even take it. I don't even take it. I don't even take it. Your voice went down. Your voice went down. I don't even take you to Applebee's.
Speaker 2:Number three I hate you Chili's. You want to explain?
Speaker 1:I don't even want to talk. You want to explain. Girl should be singing Boys we need to.
Speaker 2:We used to hate. We need to exterminate women. How about that? Ok, well, then you'll go buy two. What are you saying? I'm a woman.
Speaker 1:I'll go buy two.
Speaker 2:No, I'm saying the whole world will disintegrate, because you need women, you need women, you need women, you need women, you need women.
Speaker 1:You need women, you need women.
Speaker 2:Anyways, we used to hate Chili's. And then one night we were laying in bed and what'd you say to me? I need to tell you something.
Speaker 1:My buddy forced me to go to Chili's with him for lunch we went to Chili's 10 years ago, and it was the worst experience ever, when we said we'll never go back and I didn't want to tell Breonna, I was like, oh my god, I can't believe I'm doing this. Chili's just stepped their game up and I told her she's been fucking pissed off and I'm like give second chances Because I want him to hate things with me.
Speaker 2:I hate everything. You know me, but what's next?
Speaker 1:Chipotle. I took a go to Chipotle once. I took a go to Chipotle once.
Speaker 2:OK, olive Garden. I said Olive Garden. Number six, the movies.
Speaker 1:I love the movies. I love the movies. I don't know you don't want to interact there though. Oh, that's a good point, that's a good point.
Speaker 2:Number seven, your House, which I completely agree with A first date. I want to get murdered. No one wants to get murdered. What if it's cute, though?
Speaker 1:You could come down here.
Speaker 2:It's a Dateline episode of White N'.
Speaker 1:White, that should be the second date. I think the first date. You should definitely go out into the community, yeah.
Speaker 2:Eight, you're going to be offended. Any fast, oh no, that's on it. Eight any fast food chain, why? Why not?
Speaker 1:Bitch.
Speaker 2:So then we're done, because our first date was. One of the first things we did was we went to the movies and we went to Wendy's. We saw 50-50.
Speaker 1:What's your freaking the best? So so.
Speaker 2:Um nine Buffalo Wild Wings that's gross. Ten Wingstop 11, red Lobster 12, a buffet it depends.
Speaker 1:It depends if you find a cool chick, that bitch is going to like that shit. I don't love a buffet. I know you do. Take it a buffet please. That's all it depends. That's a good one though.
Speaker 2:Okay, I hop. Denny's the gym, the church, starbucks, coffee dates, ice cream dates, family functions, which is true, yeah. Like you should not do family function things together. Um, yeah or uh. There's another one that says somewhere that requires a long drive, movie night, a bar for just drinks, which I don't think that's bad.
Speaker 1:Well it's not bad yeah, especially if you're like older and it's like more fun.
Speaker 2:I think it's you know, a bar for just drinks. It's very you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It gets things going Chill. Yeah, so that's it.
Speaker 1:Cool, I hope you guys got something from this episode.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like On.
Speaker 1:X's. Well, we thank you for listening. The same few people have been hitting us up for a new episode and we got you, but you have to wait till tomorrow night because I'm not fucking editing this bitch right now. It's fucking late and I'm trying to play Call of Duty with my can Chemp play Call of Duty?
Speaker 2:No, it's bedtime.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, thank you Again. Well, uh, do you want to shout out the phone number? So if you could call, Skeleton's in the closet 562-457-0613. Yeah, so if you want to tell us a secret or need advice or whatever the case. Yeah, have a laugh, get something off your chest. Call our number, text our number, and we'll say it over the air and we'll uh, I don't know laugh with you and shit. Tell you our advice, personal experience. But anyway, we'll catch you on the flip flop later.