All Tricks, No Treats #31 Jealousy

Ding Dong! Have you ever found yourself in the unexpected role of a coach, not just in parenting but on the baseball field? That's where I landed this week, juggling my son's enthusiasm for the sport with my own hilarious cluelessness about coaching. But the fun doesn't stop there; imagine our family's delight when we discovered our new library's 50-book limit, opening a whole new world of bedtime stories and a slight panic about where we'll keep them all! Join us as we weave through these parenting adventures, including managing an almost-eight-year-old's love for loud YouTubers and finding the hilarity in every day.

Jealousy can be more than just a green-eyed monster; it's a complex dance of emotions that can lead to some downright bizarre scenarios. Ever heard of a man divorcing his wife over a horse kiss? We've got that story and more. We're also tackling the intricacies of jealousy in relationships, invoking Tony and Carmella from "The Sopranos" to explore the fine line between emotional and physical infidelity. It's a candid conversation filled with personal insights and gender perspectives on this timeless struggle, and we're pulling it all apart for you.

Wrap up your day with us as we talk about conquering the beast of jealousy, offering practical tips and personal musings on keeping envy at bay. We're not shying away from uncomfortable truths, diving into how many sexual partners is too many to discuss and the buzz around Ariana Grande's latest romantic entanglement. And let's not forget, we're prepping for our next juicy segment about the skeletons we all hide away. Intrigued? You should be. So, send us your anonymous stories, and let's navigate the messy yet fascinating world of modern relationships together.

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0:26 Jealousy and Parenting Stories
9:51 Jealousy and Gender Differences
21:02 Overcoming Jealousy
28:13 Men's Responses to Relationship Questions
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Transcript

Speaker 2: 0:26

Welcome back to All Tricks, no Treats, the number one podcast for life advice overall, and it's wild to think that we're back two weeks in a row.

Speaker 1: 0:37

Two weeks baby. We told you New Year, same us.

Speaker 2: 0:40

but Trying a little harder Knew us yeah.

Speaker 1: 0:46

Yeah, I'm excited. It's been a little bit of a like come on, we gotta do this, let's do this, like pushing each other. Not that we don't want to be here, but just you know it's a little hard sometimes.

Speaker 2: 0:57

Yeah, especially now that we have our garage set up or I'm like I want to make a little podcast studio. I'm kind of like we need to get in the groove of things to get it going. But yeah, we're excited to be back for sure.

Speaker 1: 1:12

Yes, and so now that we're trying to be back week after week, just bear in mind that our catch up will be a little less eventful.

Speaker 2: 1:23

More boring. We're just a couple of parents who do the same shit every single day? Yeah, who?

Speaker 1: 1:30

have a routine, so our little catch up is just a few things. The first thing I have is that Chris here signed up to be assistant baseball coach. Oh my goodness For champ.

Speaker 2: 1:43

Okay. So the only reason why I signed up is because champ's little best bud is playing baseball and his dad's the coach. So he told me hey, sign up for assistant coach and they'll be on the same team for sure. That is the only reason I did it. I am not a coach at all. Like I would get child protective services called. If I was a coach I'd be yelling and going crazy, but there's no way I could. I'm gonna help for sure.

Speaker 1: 2:14

Like I helped last season. Yeah, you did that last year.

Speaker 2: 2:16

But yeah, I guess technically right.

Speaker 1: 2:20

We'll see how it goes, but also like your dad used to coach, didn't he?

Speaker 2: 2:25

Yeah, that's why I don't want to coach. My dad was the best coach ever. He coached me and all my best friends. We played baseball, soccer and football, but he was the coach I was like five till I was like 12. And when champ started playing I don't know, it was weird I always said that wasn't like my role. I don't think because I think because I had it so good growing up that I want to leave it to other people, not me.

Speaker 1: 2:59

Everyone's different, but I'm proud of you.

Speaker 2: 3:01

It was fun helping the first season he played, but I'm not trying to be all in it and plan shit and throw pitches to them.

Speaker 1: 3:11

I'm not down for that. To be honest, you're just a ball shagger. Yeah, I'm a Shag the balls baby. Okay, and next is Bubby got her first library card.

Speaker 2: 3:22

Yeah, which is cool. Wait, is it the first one in the city or overall?

Speaker 1: 3:28

This is her first one when we lived in Whittier. Champ was only old enough to get one, so when we would go, it would just be well, it would be me, champ, bubby and Nucky, but champ would be the only one with a library card. And I do want to talk about the.

Speaker 1: 3:47

I told you, the book max when we went there we signed up and we're so excited like she was so excited to get her card and her pin number and all these things that are new library and so in the Whittier library their book max is four, so you can only check out four books at a time. So I was like, okay, we were signing up and I said, oh, I'm just a quick question, what's the maximum number of books we can get? And she just looked at me and she was like, well, because we both signed up, she said, well, you can get 50 and she can get 50. And I went I'm a huge reader, so that's like a amazing thing to me and I was like, oh, our last library only allowed four books.

Speaker 2: 4:33

I'm good with four books. You know I'm good with four books because if I ran them out I wouldn't even I won't read them. Hey, maybe I won't return them either, but 50 books. Sorry 50 books. Who's reading 50 books? Nobody.

Speaker 1: 4:52

I think it's for kids it might be a little easier because they're like five pages long. Yeah, you just go through book, but I told where we go every day, or every time after her ballet, so I let her get seven books, so one a day, that's cool.

Speaker 2: 5:08

Yeah, damn 50 books, I know I was proud of them. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 5:13

Nice, okay, I'm the last one. Champ is going through a yelling face.

Speaker 2: 5:19

Dude this kid. Half the time I'm mad about it and half the time I can't stop laughing about it, because this guy's face is. He makes and noises he makes and like, oh man, and then I tell him, stop, dude, like stop doing that. And then he knows what to do to make me smirk and tell him that, though, when you're laughing, because it's so confusing.

Speaker 1: 5:43

You're like dude, stop it, dude stop it.

Speaker 2: 5:47

And he's like he's the freaking, funniest, most annoying guy. He's fucking hilarious. Oh man, I don't you know what it is. It's a fucking YouTube channel as he watches all those gamers all the gamers. For some reason, instead of just like showing you how to play or whatever they show you, they're always like oh my god, I can't jump over this box.

Speaker 1: 6:13

What's going? So much yelling?

Speaker 2: 6:14

Yeah, like dude, what are you? I mean? It grabs all the kids attention. They like that shit. And champ gets all these noises from different YouTubers and man it's funny and then not funny.

Speaker 1: 6:26

I'll just hear like these little squeaks, yeah, and I'm like what is happening?

Speaker 2: 6:32

Dude, this guy is hilarious.

Speaker 1: 6:35

Well, it's parenting for almost eight year old.

Speaker 2: 6:38

The cure to that or to fix that problem is don't let them watch YouTube anymore.

Speaker 1: 6:43

Or don't laugh when you're trying to discipline.

Speaker 2: 6:46

It's hard, it might be hard, it's funny Anyway. Well, cheers to our two weeks in a row. Let's do it. We're still sick.

Speaker 1: 7:00

So yeah, my nails match your bandaid.

Speaker 2: 7:05

You got a you got an interesting blue Cheers.

Speaker 1: 7:15

Okay, so our topic for this week is jealousy.

Speaker 2: 7:26

Swimming through the sea swimming through sickle.

Speaker 1: 7:29

I only know that way.

Speaker 2: 7:31

Because I licked it up like two days ago and I what would we say?

Speaker 1: 7:36

I think we just said gibberish.

Speaker 2: 7:44

Isn't it funny how you listen to these songs for 20 years and then you look up the lyrics so you find out what the lyrics are and you're like I didn't know what said that?

Speaker 1: 7:54

Wasn't also funny that you make up your own words like you have your own words to it.

Speaker 2: 7:58

Yeah, for sure I think it's funny. But yeah, finding out the real words is kind of like oh yeah, that makes more sense. That like it fits in more like better, but yeah, anyway, more better jealousy.

Speaker 1: 8:13

So we have our polls. We asked would you say you're a jealous person? 64% said yes, what's mine is mine. 36% said no way, I'm unbothered, which I also want to preference. That we pull out a note saying this doesn't just pertain to romantic relationships, relationships.

Speaker 2: 8:37

Relationships.

Speaker 1: 8:40

This doesn't just pertain to romantic relationships. It can pertain to anything. You know, friends, a random person, someone you just met. And our next question is have you ever had someone be jealous of you? 60% said it happens when you're amazing, like I am the little emoji doing like yeah. 40% said no, I'm still amazing, though, probably Mm-hmm. And our last one how would you deal with jealousy? 33% said be like Elsa and let it go? 33% said hype myself up, I'm the best. 22% said slush some tires.

Speaker 1: 9:25

Damn, those are those crazy jealous people 11% said hand me some scissors, they're cut off.

Speaker 2: 9:33

They're crazy too. What would you be?

Speaker 1: 9:36

Tire slashing.

Speaker 2: 9:41

I'm the let it go guy.

Speaker 1: 9:43

You are not Elsa, oh please, olaf, I'm the.

Speaker 2: 9:51

Thanks to everyone who voted, but I wanted to. I just looked up something real quick online and I wanted to see what you think is the most outrageous jealousy story.

Speaker 1: 10:03

Oh, I get to vote. Ooh, I like it.

Speaker 2: 10:06

They're just cheesy. It's literally what we used to do Look up a topic and then it's the first link, and then I just did that.

Speaker 1: 10:12

Well, I just did that.

Speaker 2: 10:13

So the first one is the jealous Saudi husband who divorced his wife after she kissed a horse.

Speaker 1: 10:20

I what I mean? Was it with tongue? Oh, the horse tongue. The horse tongue.

Speaker 2: 10:30

Okay, the next one is Britain's most jealous woman makes her man take a lie detector test every time he leaves the house. That has to be false.

Speaker 1: 10:39

Did they have like a contest or something Like who's most jealous, and she won?

Speaker 2: 10:44

No, I think she wins every time. She's fucking crazy. If that's real, Okay. And the last one is the jealous man who smashed his girlfriend's laptop after seeing a photo on her Facebook page and suspecting an affair. Only it was a picture of Mitt Romney. Oh my gosh, you think they broke up. They had to have broken up. If you're that fucking crazy and you're that dumb who you don't know who Mitt Romney is then you should break up with that guy. What you need? Things are craziest. I don't need the horse tongue. Well, we don't know if it's the tongue.

Speaker 1: 11:25

Yeah, we don't know if it's the tongue the lie detector test or the Mitt Romney. I feel like the lie detector test.

Speaker 2: 11:32

That one's the most crazy, for sure.

Speaker 1: 11:34

But also like poor horse. What did the horse do to you who?

Speaker 2: 11:37

hurt you. Good looking horse. Probably we gotta let's look at this one. Anyway, I thought that was funny. I wanted to read it. Yeah, that's wow.

Speaker 1: 11:48

I mean jealousy can get the best of some of us so well, how would you define jealousy?

Speaker 2: 11:57

Are you asking me or are you just?

Speaker 1: 11:58

Yeah, I'll ask you.

Speaker 2: 12:00

I define it as the ugliest feeling inside your belly that makes you wanna kill someone.

Speaker 1: 12:11

Oh, you are a tire slasher, no.

Speaker 2: 12:15

I don't know, that's what is it?

Speaker 1: 12:17

So, according to Oxford definitions, jealousy is the state or feeling of being jealous.

Speaker 2: 12:23

Oh my God, you can't really explain it right. I'm sure you could, but it's a weird word to, or weird feeling, I think.

Speaker 1: 12:33

I would feel like saying wanting something that someone else has. Hmm.

Speaker 2: 12:41

I'll give yeah like anything instead of that. It's very dumbed down to make people like.

Speaker 1: 12:48

The most dumbed down is the state of being jealous.

Speaker 2: 12:51

Yeah, that doesn't answer any question. No, it doesn't. Nothing's defined.

Speaker 1: 12:56

But, like I said when we did our polls, I do wanna say it's not just romantic jealousy. People can be jealous of you or vice versa. You can be jealous of someone else for various reasons, such as a job, car, money, horse.

Speaker 2: 13:10

House.

Speaker 1: 13:13

A lot of different reasons.

Speaker 2: 13:14

OK.

Speaker 1: 13:15

So do you think guys show jealousy different from girls?

Speaker 2: 13:21

It depends on what it is. I think my biggest thing is that I wasn't jealous. Ok, so for a long time you took care of me and I wasn't jealous. But I could see how men would be like kind of jealous of that, like damn, she has a better job than me or she's doing better than me. I think maybe in that.

Speaker 1: 13:42

But so studies from around the world have reported that men are more jealous of sexual infidelity than emotional infidelity, and women are the opposite they're more jealous of emotional cheating than sexual cheating. So I have emboldened and I didn't tell you I had this.

Speaker 2: 14:01

And I asked you what was on the agenda but this I have Tony versus Carmella. The Sopranos.

Speaker 1: 14:11

So, if you are watching the Sopranos, if you haven't watched the Sopranos and you think you might just fast forward a little bit, we're going to get into jealousy of men versus women and this is a Well, let me just give a preface. Tony is habitually, physically, sexually, emotionally cheating on Carmella all the time. Different women, multiple women, strippers, hookers all the time.

Speaker 2: 14:41

One-legged women.

Speaker 1: 14:42

Yep, carmella has never, ever physically.

Speaker 2: 14:47

Yeah, she did, don't say.

Speaker 1: 14:49

Oh, she did. She kissed one man in the bathroom.

Speaker 2: 14:55

Or.

Speaker 1: 14:56

OK, see, this is why I brought it up. She has only kissed one man. She felt so guilty. She went to see her priest after, and then nothing passed. A kiss, nothing, nothing else but that.

Speaker 2: 15:12

And so and she was emotionally cheating with her fucking priest. Don't forget about that. Oh, they had some a fling. They had something in the beginning. I mean they had like I've never heard your voice go so good You're for the streets.

Speaker 1: 15:33

That's wild no, it wasn't cheating, it was just there were. There was a connection there and it wasn't. It wasn't a Very like, strong like. Oh yes, we love each other. It was just Carmella craves Because she doesn't get it from her husband. She craves Attention, and even that's what she said about it. Say the same fear be yo. That's what she said about him.

Speaker 2: 15:58

That's the problem. It's emotional cheating. Women have an attachment to the guys that they either Talk to or hook up with physically men. If men fuck a girl, it doesn't mean anything to men, it's. They could just be like, okay, that's, for example, I could hook up with ten girls. Those girls don't mean anything to me. You're my soul, that's no, I'm telling you as an example, it doesn't mean anything. But fucking Carmella over here is proving my point exactly. It's emotional and and men don't get emotional over hooking up with other girls.

Speaker 1: 16:41

That just means women are smarter and they just don't go sticking things where they shouldn't go.

Speaker 2: 16:46

No, it's men, are men. It's a beginning of time we have to, we have to freaking. We have to get it out. It doesn't mean nothing, just like I tell you I have to jerk off. I don't want to, but I have to. It's natural, my god, I have your prostate issues or whatever. Things with prostate are different man, I have to know it doesn't matter. No, they have to yes, that's why you fucking ruin all your socks.

Speaker 1: 17:18

I was matching socks today, or I should say trying to match socks Mm-hmm none of them match. You had a double wash a couple of you owe me a lot of parents of sauce.

Speaker 2: 17:28

I'll buy you whatever you want but I Don't know.

Speaker 1: 17:32

It's just Men and women, I guess, are different in their jealousy. But also, do you think men are more vengeful in their jealousy or like more, I Don't like show it more outwardly than women?

Speaker 2: 17:47

I think both men and women could be pretty nutty when it comes to showing the jealousy.

Speaker 1: 17:53

I think yeah, I think yeah, yeah, that both can show for sure.

Speaker 2: 17:58

I think it's both, and it's just so many examples of it's not like one's more crazy than the other. It's when someone's jealous, which is not a good like quality to have, or trait, what would you call it it's not a good quality to have quality if it's not good.

Speaker 2: 18:17

It's not good to have jealousy in your body in and around your body, because it's kind of toxic, you know, like you should be able to trust. If it's relationship-wise or partner-wise, you should be able to trust your Significant other in that regard, I think. But other stuff, I mean, and even another stuff, like if your friends doing good or your friends doing better than you like you shouldn't be jealous about that. That kind of stuff, yeah, you should pump them up. I think they're like cheer for them. You know you shouldn't have. You shouldn't be jealous of anybody. I'm not jealous of anybody, but I wrote three things down real quick. Can I say, yeah, the only things I'm jealous of are Lottery winners is one to to is People that are in Vegas right now in the buffet line.

Speaker 2: 19:12

I'm jealous of them because they're about to eat. And the last one is good-looking men that are in shape because I just started. I just started meal prepping and I wish I could skip it and look like dudes on Instagram.

Speaker 1: 19:30

I Agree with that one. I'm jealous of good-looking girls that are in shape.

Speaker 2: 19:34

Those are the only things I'm jealous of. I think I'm not really jealous of anybody.

Speaker 1: 19:39

That's good.

Speaker 2: 19:40

Like I said on the last episode, I have everything that I've ever wanted, so I'm I'm good, except these fucking people On my list, but yeah that's funny.

Speaker 1: 19:51

When you said that you were jealous of the buffet people, before you said that, when you were like, oh, these are people I'm jealous of, I thought of the last time we went to that Chinese Place, the one where it's kind of buffaista, a little bit of that's the greatest one you go and you load up your plate and they weigh it and then you eat your food.

Speaker 1: 20:10

And Last time we went, I think we went right before the dinner, the dinner rush, so we were just finishing up because I love getting the fried plantains that they have, and we went just before the dinner rush and everything was a little like a Little, yeah, you can tell.

Speaker 1: 20:28

Yeah, I was a little bit old and then I even told you that. And then we were sitting there eating and I could see them bringing out fresh like white rice, fresh Like orange chicken, like fresh everything, and I was jealous of the people that were there.

Speaker 2: 20:44

Oh man you forgot the best one, your favorite, cream of shrimp.

Speaker 1: 20:48

Please don't say that you love you get it every time. No, I told you last time. There was a lot of like sauce or whatever on top, so I had to flip whatever, it's white. That's that noise, that climb.

Speaker 2: 21:00

Please stop, I'm a flim.

Speaker 1: 21:02

All of a sudden, you're French.

Speaker 2: 21:06

I'm from France, chinese, french, same shit, you know they all love the creme.

Speaker 1: 21:14

Yeah, okay, how can you tell if someone is jealous? There are a few Specific body language related things to being jealous body language Mm-hmm, whoa. Mm-hmm, it's not like the last one, where you're like, tilt your head to an 80 degree angle and smirk your eye.

Speaker 2: 21:34

What is it the?

Speaker 1: 21:35

eye roll, okay, so here's some frowning or scowling. Mm-hmm glaring or staring. Oh, it's a rhyme.

Speaker 2: 21:44

You're rapping now.

Speaker 1: 21:45

Uh-huh, give me a beat, give me a beat. Frowning, scowling, well, oh, that's a good start, guys.

Speaker 2: 21:58

Jesus, mm-hmm. We probably sound like dying walruses every time, sorry trying to exit our lungs okay.

Speaker 1: 22:11

Frowning or scowling, glaring or staring narrowed eyes. What does that even mean? It means your eyes are like, really like squinty eyes you mean squinty eyes, squinty McSquinty.

Speaker 2: 22:25

Okay.

Speaker 1: 22:26

Clenched jaw. Well, pissed off, mm-hmm yeah well, actually wish I mean I might need a clenched off. That'd be good for me too jawline. Titan fists like Arthur.

Speaker 2: 22:40

Jesus, this is like.

Speaker 1: 22:42

Well, this is weird tense facial expression, stiff posture, crossed arms, pacing or restlessness.

Speaker 2: 22:52

I hate all of those.

Speaker 1: 22:53

So if you ever see someone pacing by you back and forth, it means a jealous of you. The frickin' with their fuckin' fists, with their thighs, I'm like they're gonna beat my ass.

Speaker 2: 23:05

I'm like this guy's gonna beat me up for no reason. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Yeah, those are stupid.

Speaker 1: 23:09

I don't like any of those, Well you don't know, physical, physical jealousy. That's how it like shows itself sometimes. That's how people you know.

Speaker 2: 23:19

Yeah, I guess that's the first time I ever kind of heard of that.

Speaker 1: 23:22

It's body language. Ok, so do you have any advice to overcome jealousy?

Speaker 2: 23:30

Um, that's kind of the same advice I give to every topic is to not be a bitch. No, I'm just kidding. Um, probably don't like compare yourself to other people Because, like before I had what I have, I'd see other people and be like, damn, they fuckin' have this and that and that, and that is like very negative. To think that way and thinking of that way like it holds you back, I think. So I don't think you should compare yourself to people. Everyone has their own path, their own lane, um, and you should stick to it and fuck everything else. I think I think just worrying about yourself is advice I give In regards to like a personal shit, like in relationship stuff, like trust. Be more trusting instead of jealous, because someone who's with you is with you for a reason and not, I mean, without trust, it's not probably a very good relationship. So, in relationship, trust, and if you're on your own trying to better your life, just worry about yourself and don't compare. I think those are two pieces of advice I'd give.

Speaker 1: 24:51

Nice, I thought you said two pieces in a pod.

Speaker 2: 24:54

Um.

Speaker 1: 24:55

OK, so mine is just always try to remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side, like the grass is greener where you water it for sure, for sure. Um and then um. I feel like you should use jealousy to work on yourself, like use it to reach your own goals.

Speaker 2: 25:18

What do you mean Like?

Speaker 1: 25:19

like, if you're jealous of someone, then this is before I even like wrote anything else under this. But um, if you're jealous of someone, I feel like you should kind of look into that and kind of use it to like. Like, if I'm see some girl on Instagram and I'm like man, her body's great, like oh gross, look at her. I'd be like, well, what can I do?

Speaker 2: 25:39

So use it as fuel kind of like.

Speaker 1: 25:41

Use it to reach your own goals.

Speaker 2: 25:43

Make you get to the next. That's interesting because mine is more like don't.

Speaker 1: 25:47

Don't pay attention yeah.

Speaker 2: 25:48

But I mean it could, it could go either way.

Speaker 1: 25:51

Yeah, that's why we're here, guys.

Speaker 2: 25:53

I guess you can use it as a motivation a little bit, but yeah.

Speaker 1: 25:58

Yeah, and I've in um, like pertaining to a relationship, I've always said like I've all. I kind of like when we would talk about people that you've been with before, I would say things like well, I've always known like you ended up with me, so you're mine.

Speaker 2: 26:16

Isn't it weird how people like stress on who have you been with before, Like people you hooked up with?

Speaker 1: 26:26

Oh, you're good. What do you mean? Just wait.

Speaker 2: 26:29

But it's crazy.

Speaker 1: 26:31

Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 2: 26:32

That's all I wanted to say.

Speaker 1: 26:33

Okay. So we have a few tips to overcome it. Trace it back to its source, so ask yourself what lies at the root of it. Then take steps to change what you don't like in order to get what you want. Next one is voice your concern so you can bring it up to whoever you need to. Maybe sometimes they haven't noticed their actions or you know? Just talk it out. Next one is talk to someone you trust, Like a friend. In the moment of jealousy, Sometimes it can take over and it can give you a slightly warped sense of reality, Not to say that you like you know things you saw aren't true, but sometimes, when we're in the moment where just like this, this, this you're holding on to what you think, you thought.

Speaker 2: 27:19

Your senses are heightened.

Speaker 1: 27:21

So maybe talk to someone else who's looking in.

Speaker 2: 27:24

Sure.

Speaker 1: 27:24

Mm, hmm, the last, oh no, not last one. The next one is change your outlook on jealousy. Jealousy can show you there's a difference between what you have and what you want. So kind of like what I said, like they can show you what you have and then you can work towards something else.

Speaker 2: 27:42

Yeah, that makes sense.

Speaker 1: 27:44

Last one, use it as a chance to practice gratitude for what you have. So, appreciating positive things in your life that don't relate to jealousy can help you realize that while you're, you might not think your life might not be perfect, because who does think their life is perfect?

Speaker 2: 28:00

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 28:01

You've got a lot of good things to be thankful for, so cool.

Speaker 2: 28:05

Those are some good tips yeah. Nice, for sure.

Speaker 1: 28:09

Okay.

Speaker 2: 28:13

And next is our ask men. What are we asking men today?

Speaker 1: 28:18

We're asking all of us what's your response when your girlfriend asks how many people you had sex with?

Speaker 2: 28:26

Oh, I say one because it's true. Oh God, you took my V card.

Speaker 1: 28:34

Okay, we all know I didn't, and that's why I said here you go. That's why, when I read this, I was like, oh, this is gonna be a good one here you go my baby. Okay, first one true number, honest answer, good for him.

Speaker 2: 28:55

So he tells her the true number.

Speaker 1: 28:57

Yeah, he tells anyone. Oh, we'll see. Now we know that you're lying, sneeze, okay. Next one is I tell her, if she asked, I don't really have anything to hide. Next one is I'd be honest and direct. That's important to me and so, of course, I'd respect if it's important to her. Plus, it would be good in seeing if we have similar views of sex and intimacy, which is also good.

Speaker 2: 29:26

I think you're on the ask women page.

Speaker 1: 29:29

Why? Because you don't like that. Guys don't agree with you.

Speaker 2: 29:32

No, just false, this is falsified information.

Speaker 1: 29:38

Oh well, you'll like this one About 12 ish depends on exactly how you define sex.

Speaker 2: 29:44

One thing I'm going to answer that now about 12 ish.

Speaker 1: 29:47

I'd rather that then would the truth the truth I thought we're about truth and honesty. We are about truth and honesty. One God, please. It's funny that you tell me one, but then in like the moment of other times, like, oh well, this happened, and then this happened. But then we come back and it's always on one.

Speaker 2: 30:07

You're out.

Speaker 1: 30:08

You're out, out in the fields. I tell her I can count them on one hand. I'm a sign language minor. I can count to any number on one hand.

Speaker 2: 30:21

That one's not bad. I like that one.

Speaker 1: 30:23

I haven't had a girlfriend ask me this since I was in my early 20s. Most people don't care, and I'm worried of those that are, but I would answer truthfully.

Speaker 2: 30:32

Yeah, I'm worried about those that are.

Speaker 1: 30:35

That are what.

Speaker 2: 30:36

Interested in that.

Speaker 1: 30:39

Meaning your wife.

Speaker 2: 30:41

Sure, yeah, yeah, I guess it is okay to be open and stuff.

Speaker 1: 30:48

It's good to be open.

Speaker 2: 30:50

But for men it's not, it's just brush it to the side a little bit.

Speaker 1: 30:55

That is so crazy. You say that because, if I told you a certain number, you, you did, you told me something different. Okay, we're not. We're not doing this. Ah, Don't get it. Why are you getting mad? Because you literally told me one and then you want to start this.

Speaker 2: 31:14

Then we'll be laying down.

Speaker 1: 31:15

You'd be like oh well, I did have sex with that girl, oh well.

Speaker 2: 31:18

I never said that you did, I never you said I had sex with that girl.

Speaker 1: 31:22

She sat on top of me and then you said I had sex with that girl.

Speaker 2: 31:25

Oh, yeah, what.

Speaker 1: 31:27

Uh huh.

Speaker 2: 31:28

You're spinning false facts. No, I remember. So if you want to, start this.

Speaker 1: 31:33

these are things you said I never said that, and then you also said well, I lost my virginity to this girl. Who? Who is this person?

Speaker 2: 31:42

I would never tell you people's names or people.

Speaker 1: 31:45

You didn't tell me her name. You told me who she was, how you knew her.

Speaker 2: 31:48

Uh huh.

Speaker 1: 31:50

All of a sudden, you're telling the people fake stuff.

Speaker 2: 31:54

Fake stuff. You want me?

Speaker 1: 31:54

to keep going. Okay, then I'll say it. You lost your virginity to your sister's friend who was in her 30s, who was a nurse. Yeah, then also you had sex with a girl at your New York camp. Then also you had sex with, uh huh, you had sex with another girl who you went to high school, with, who you said you guys hooked up. So that's already three girls there.

Speaker 2: 32:21

I was just trying to look cool.

Speaker 1: 32:22

None of those are true. Uh huh, all of a sudden. I was just trying to look cool, yeah.

Speaker 2: 32:28

I don't okay.

Speaker 1: 32:32

I'll come with receipts. There ain't no receipts.

Speaker 2: 32:35

Those are all receipts. No, those are fucking false receipts you wrote you. Those aren't the actual receipts. Those are the ones you. You buy that receipt book at the 9910 store and you feel that bitch out on it.

Speaker 1: 32:46

I traced your words and those receipts, so don't bring that.

Speaker 2: 32:49

Those aren't facts, those are fucking fibs.

Speaker 1: 32:53

So you fib?

Speaker 2: 32:54

I was just trying to look cool for any of you.

Speaker 1: 32:57

Oh, okay, okay.

Speaker 2: 33:03

Oh man, this got a little, a little wild. Yeah. Yeah, you see how she got, because I called her out and how she changed her number to me a while ago and then she fucking got crazy.

Speaker 1: 33:14

The amount of, the amount of you know. You know what I'm talking about. The amount of people that I've had actual sex with will never change. All right, it will never change. It changed, did it.

Speaker 2: 33:27

Yes.

Speaker 1: 33:28

No no.

Speaker 2: 33:30

Oral counts too.

Speaker 1: 33:35

Okay.

Speaker 2: 33:46

And next is our hot goss, hot Gossley.

Speaker 1: 33:50

Wow.

Speaker 2: 33:52

That was one of our songs, I know it's going to say it.

Speaker 1: 33:54

I know you're the one that's saying it. Okay, so we only have one today.

Speaker 2: 33:59

Are you gonna cry?

Speaker 1: 34:00

No, I'm frustrated.

Speaker 2: 34:01

What is it?

Speaker 1: 34:02

Ariana Grande.

Speaker 2: 34:03

Ariana Grande. She said her name's fucking Grandi on a radio show. Ariana Grande, shut the fuck up she doesn't even know. Grande, You're big bitch Grande.

Speaker 1: 34:21

If you were a Starbucks cup, you'd be a large size.

Speaker 2: 34:24

Yeah, you fuck Grandi.

Speaker 1: 34:27

Well, she got called out by friends of her new boyfriend's wife.

Speaker 2: 34:32

Okay, wait.

Speaker 1: 34:33

Wait, say that again.

Speaker 2: 34:36

What are you talking about?

Speaker 1: 34:38

Ariana Grande got called out by friends of her new boyfriend's yeah, wife Because he's still married. Her new boyfriend.

Speaker 2: 34:47

His wife.

Speaker 1: 34:48

Uh-huh, his wife.

Speaker 2: 34:50

He's married, but he's with Ariana Grande. Yes, huh, I never heard of this.

Speaker 1: 34:55

Wait, we talked about this.

Speaker 2: 34:57

Okay.

Speaker 1: 34:58

The guy that she cheated with. He's technically still married.

Speaker 2: 35:03

Uh-huh.

Speaker 1: 35:04

And so.

Speaker 2: 35:06

Her friends called her out.

Speaker 1: 35:07

No, his wife's friends called her out for her new song.

Speaker 2: 35:13

What's it called or what does it say?

Speaker 1: 35:18

It says your business is yours and mine is mine. Why do you care so much who's dick I ride? They called her out for her complete lack of remorse on what she did. What do you mean?

Speaker 2: 35:33

I'm not saying pfft because I'm against you. I'm saying pfft because I'm for you, Don't? There's no remorse. I agree, that's fucking grimy, slimy.

Speaker 1: 35:44

I have a little quote from a friend. She could have taken this opportunity to create music that would be therapeutic for her to heal and for fans to listen to. She could have taken this time to create art that would help those who were hurt to heal, but she didn't. She created art that basically says fuck you, I don't care what I did to her anyone because I'm happy.

Speaker 2: 36:06

She was happy with the last fucking 10 guys she was with.

Speaker 1: 36:09

Yeah, a lot of people were saying that yeah.

Speaker 2: 36:11

She sucks. I just looked this up, but let's see, she dated Graham Phillips. She dated fucking Jordan Viskomi, jay Brooks, nathan Sykes, big Sean I heard he's big too, so after Isn't that-?

Speaker 1: 36:27

that's why it's nothing.

Speaker 2: 36:28

After him, she's useless. Ricky Alvarez, mac Miller, pete Davidson, Mikey Foster is that him?

Speaker 1: 36:37

I don't know, I don't even know who that is.

Speaker 2: 36:39

Herself. Oh, I know Dalton Gomes. Oh, that's the guy she married this guy.

Speaker 1: 36:45

No, Dalton Gomez is the guy she married.

Speaker 2: 36:47

And that's her new Ethan Slater. Okay, spongebob, speaking of fucking body counts, this is who we know 11. Useless she one part of her is grandi, and we know what that part is she's yeah, no, that does suck. I'm just I mean, I'm just kidding, obviously, I'm just talking to you, but no, she sucks. No, it does suck when you don't have remorse for ruining a marriage Allegedly. We don't fucking know.

Speaker 1: 37:22

Allegedly, they're literally in the process of divorce. We've all seen the pictures where it's like a few months ago he was posting about his one-year-old child and his wife, and now he's with Ariana Grande.

Speaker 2: 37:33

Okay, let me just say this If people are married and they're together and say they break up say like a month after they break up and they're not they're not interested in working it out and he or she starts hooking up with someone or gets to someone that's not they're not together, no more. That's not cheating. So maybe they broke up and nobody knows. Nobody knows when they broke up, how they broke up. So that's why I say allegedly it doesn't matter that they're married If they're broken up. So they have to wait three years to start dating someone if it takes that long to fucking divorce.

Speaker 1: 38:09

I don't think you need to wait three years, but I also think you need to wait more than one or two months. You were literally-.

Speaker 2: 38:14

Says who.

Speaker 1: 38:15

You were in a marriage.

Speaker 2: 38:16

Says who.

Speaker 1: 38:18

Says the rules of physics and everything else.

Speaker 2: 38:22

The background theorem yes, a squared plus B squared plus C squared. Yes, yes, no, no, there's no way that you can You're just talking shit.

Speaker 1: 38:29

I don't care. There's no way that you can come from a marriage and start dating right away after you ended that marriage. It's happened millions of times it has, and those people need help.

Speaker 2: 38:40

They need help, but they're free to do whatever they want If they both know they're not gonna work-.

Speaker 1: 38:44

No one says they're not. That's why they're off carrying their relationship.

Speaker 2: 38:46

Okay, but to me that's not cheating.

Speaker 1: 38:50

You're legally still married who?

Speaker 2: 38:52

cares. So you're saying that's cheating because they're legally married.

Speaker 1: 38:57

I think yes, I think, legally you're still married.

Speaker 2: 39:00

You said yes.

Speaker 1: 39:02

I also think you need to give it depends on the time of the relationship. You need to give yourself way more than less than six months.

Speaker 2: 39:11

No, you don't, yes, you do. You can move on and Because then what?

Speaker 1: 39:14

does that say about your relationship?

Speaker 2: 39:17

It says it didn't work out which it didn't clearly. So that's why I say allegedly, I'm not saying-.

Speaker 1: 39:23

You're not saying. It's not allegedly. This is what happened. Allegedly is for when we don't know what happened. This is what happened.

Speaker 2: 39:29

So we know they were together and she hooked up with this guy while they were together.

Speaker 1: 39:32

Yes, while they were filming the that play, she was like well, she was a wicked witch of the east. Isn't that the good witch? Well, she was the bad witch?

Speaker 2: 39:42

No, that's the bad witch. Oh, okay, anyway why can't?

Speaker 1: 39:46

you say her lady bits are grandi, but I can't say anything about her being with a married man.

Speaker 2: 39:51

Because if they're separated, he's not they're not married anymore.

Speaker 1: 39:55

But they weren't separated, is the point.

Speaker 2: 39:56

Okay, you're fucking Tansy. I guess they called your fucking hotline and said Brianna.

Speaker 1: 40:05

And I said let me tell you-.

Speaker 2: 40:08

His wife's friends called you personally Good.

Speaker 1: 40:12

Girl, hey girls, I got you, I'll be there for you. Okay, okay, okay.

Speaker 2: 40:17

Yeah, she still sucks. She's fucking horrible, that girl.

Speaker 1: 40:20

From the moment she licked those donuts she sucked yeah anyway, yeah, well, that's it. That was our hot goss for the day.

Speaker 2: 40:29

That was good hot goss.

Speaker 1: 40:30

That was very hot, it got a little hot. It got heated.

Speaker 2: 40:34

Yeah, it did. Fucking hot goss. That's what a hot goss should be every time let's find something that will borderline make us fight like that.

Speaker 1: 40:43

Then we could bounce back. Anyway, Wait. So you don't want to hear about millionaires anymore trying to go back in their age.

Speaker 2: 40:51

No, that's stupid. No that guy was stupid. That wasn't stupid. But yeah. Anyway, we appreciate you guys tuning in. That was our episode on jealousy. Hopefully you took a little away from this. I felt kind of lost, to be honest. I don't know why my mind is just-.

Speaker 1: 41:10

You're not a jealous guy.

Speaker 2: 41:12

Nope, you could do whatever you want, just not anything with boys. You could go make more money than me.

Speaker 1: 41:22

No, back then it was a dirty issue. I'm just kidding.

Speaker 2: 41:29

So in the next few episodes we want to do skeletons in the closet. We say it every time. It's a number that you could call and leave a voicemail or text Any questions of advice about your personal life, dating life, your kids. You could talk shit. You could fucking get something off your chest. We play it or read it anonymously and we hope you guys do it. But Brianna will say the number, since she knows it off the top of her head 562-457-0613.

Speaker 1: 42:04

Yes.

Speaker 2: 42:04

Yes, it is 562-457-0613.

Speaker 1: 42:07

It is anonymous. You can call, you can text and it will always be anonymous.

Speaker 2: 42:13

We'll play your voicemail or read your text yeah it's fun, it's cool. We like doing that.

Speaker 1: 42:19

We already got one, do we?

Speaker 2: 42:21

Yeah, we got a long one, so maybe we just need one for that episode. No, I'm just kidding. But yeah, we'll catch you in the flip-flop later.