Stripping down the complexities of our emotional and mental 'equipment' that shape our personal growth.
Suzi invites you to take stock of your own life 'equipment.' Arm yourself intellectually, spiritually, and financially, as well as physically and emotionally. Learn how to shed the unnecessary and embrace strategies that propel you forward. It's time to redefine what it means to be 'crazy well' and arm yourself for the battles ahead, with a focus on self-care and seeking help when you need it most.
Music credit to Kalvin Love for the podcast’s theme song “Bee Your Best Self”
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Stripping down the complexities of our emotional and mental 'equipment' that shape our personal growth.
Suzi invites you to take stock of your own life 'equipment.' Arm yourself intellectually, spiritually, and financially, as well as physically and emotionally. Learn how to shed the unnecessary and embrace strategies that propel you forward. It's time to redefine what it means to be 'crazy well' and arm yourself for the battles ahead, with a focus on self-care and seeking help when you need it most.
Music credit to Kalvin Love for the podcast’s theme song “Bee Your Best Self”
Tune into our CHW Streaming Radio and the full lineup at cominghomewell.com
Download on Apple Play and Google Play
Online-Therapy.com ~ Life Changing Therapy Click here for a 20% discount on your first month.
Contact Suzi at suzigma@gmail.com or (818) 470-2013 and share your story.
suzilandolphi.com
vetsandplayers.org
wildhorserescue.org
Thank you for listening! Be sure to SHARE, LIKE and leave us a REVIEW!
I'm Susie Landolfi and welcome to Be Crazy. Well, okay, I got to check and make sure I have all my equipment. So the first equipment I need for my podcast is the computer. Got it? The computer needs equipment. It needs a microphone, it needs a video camera. We need lights. If I shut all these lights off, you won't be able to see me. So there's a lot of equipment that goes into doing a podcast. That's not the only thing I do in my life. I also don't know if you can see all the oh.
Speaker 1:Look at these, these are amazing. They're the word pro on them. Not that I am yet, but anyway, these are equipment that I use I use today, actually, and I'll have to fold them back up again or roll them back up. These are wraps, not that it's not that kind of wrap which I happen to love. These are wraps for my hand, so it's a W-R-A-P. So you wrap these around your hand before you box and then you put your hands in these gloves.
Speaker 1:Anybody that knows anything about boxing, these are grants. These are the piece de resistance, the best equipment, hard to get. Look at that logo Isn't that great. And they're small, so that when I hit someone it's going to really hurt. I know you think bigger, well, no smaller. Say, it's got special padding and you lace them up and I just got them. Thank you, jake Paul. So Jake really wants to help me box and he's a great supporter of my journey in boxing. So if you don't know it, I boxed too. I actually started boxing before he did. He doesn't even know this story.
Speaker 1:So I've probably done every kind of sport ever. I mean, I started playing baseball when I was 10, as a boy. Now that doesn't mean anything about transgender, it means that girls weren't allowed to play baseball. I was on a camp league and I was 10. So physically I had no boobs and I put all my hair up beneath the baseball cap and no one questioned who the first baseman was the first baseman. And so I played on a camp league and loved it. And then I've played every sport after that, some more seriously than others, from gymnastics to volleyball. So it's the great news about no, obviously I can't spike. I used to be five feet one. Then I was five feet as I got older. Now I'm four, 11 and a half, but boy can I dig Like. If you want me to get that ball before it hits the ground. I got you and I even played football, so I came from football family. There was a powder puff team and I played on that. I played full back and I have a picture of me on the front page of the Beverly Times, stiff, arming some young woman and carrying the ball.
Speaker 1:All of that took equipment. Now, obviously, I'm the first piece of equipment. In fact, when I work with combat veterans or any veteran actually, when I think about it, I always said the most important equipment is you. Now, I'm not the first person to say that. Great leaders have always said that about military men and women You're the most important piece of equipment that we have. Anybody that plays a sport, any coach, would say you're the most important piece of equipment Because, if you think about it, equipment has changed all course of all the sports.
Speaker 1:There is no sport right now where we're probably using the same cricket bat, the same helmet, the same football even or anything, basketball anything from five years ago, 10 years ago and certainly longer. So I noticed that people are really totally committed to equipment. Everybody's looking for their equipment. By the time that Logan played baseball his entire life, we're always looking for his equipment as equipment bag. We not only have equipment, we have bags to put the equipment in, and they're called equipment bags.
Speaker 1:If you work a trade, you need equipment, so you need tools. That's equipment. Any endeavor, I don't care what it is at this point. If you are just having a meeting, you probably need a conference table or some kind of table for people to sit around. Even if you're doing a retreat or you're doing a sweat lodge, you need some equipment. It's called a sweat lodge, actually and you need lava rocks. That's part of the equipment. You need something to heat them up. So we are equipment people. That's what we know, that's what we spend money on, that's what we look for.
Speaker 1:Everybody's about their equipment, except one time we're not about our equipment and that's in terms of our mental health. Are we equipped to be able to create a physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and financially well life? And I've noticed, with all the emphasis on equipment, when we're not emotionally equipped or mentally equipped to do something, I don't care how good these gloves are and they're great, trust me, these are amazing gloves when I go into that gym. If I'm not focused, if I'm not able to breathe, if I can't listen to my coach, if I can't manage my body and my mind. Those gloves are not gonna make me a better boxer at that moment. Only when I'm ready, only when I am equipped emotionally to do my best will my best happen. Wow, that was a good one. Let's think about that for a minute. Someone write that down. Only when I'm equipped to do my best can I do my best. That wasn't quite what I said before, but close enough.
Speaker 1:So what I wanted to share with you today was how well equipped are you to be a sustainable, emotionally regulated, disciplined, consistent, kind, respectful, integrity person? How equipped are you to be in a partnership? I wasn't equipped at all. No one bit of my physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, financial well-being was equipped to be in a relationship. Well, maybe I could be in a relationship for a couple of months, but I couldn't be in a partnership for a long term. I could not. I was ill-equipped. Now, ill-equipped means that I don't have the right equipment. I didn't have any equipment at all. I wasn't equipped. I was ill-equipped. I was not equipped.
Speaker 1:So I'm thinking about this now, about why are we so adverse to equipping ourselves, to go get help, to talk about what we struggle with, to practice, to get better equipped to do the things that we do? How about parenting? Oh, there's a good one. Yeah, how equipped were our parents when we were born? I can tell you both of my parents were pretty unequipped and my mom was better equipped, for sure better equipped. My dad was not equipped at all. How he was trained to be a parent, or actually how he was trained from his parents in his childhood, did not equip him to be a good parent. It was so traumatic, it was so ill-equipped, it was so just traumatizing that when we came along, as much as he thought he wanted to have children and he probably did want to have children once they arrived, he had no equipment at all physically or emotionally, mentally, spiritually, even financially, to be able to help nurture us and deal with us and be able to stay regulated himself. It was like one or the other. He either was going to just regulate himself and then we were going to be neglected, or he would come down hard on us like just rageful on us to try to get us to be the way that he wanted. That's the wrong equipment.
Speaker 1:I was talking to a veteran last week, a wonderful man, a very successful combat veteran. Now he has his own business. He hardly ever I don't think he's ever called me for support and he's part of MVP. He said to me he actually texted me first and said my son ran away. His teenage son and he ran away were at odds. I don't know what to do and I'm just at a loss.
Speaker 1:I got on a call with him and found out all of the scenario First. What I asked him was what did he do when he was 15? You know what I heard? Oh, I was in a really bad neighborhood. There were gangs. I ran away and it was like he didn't even realize what he was saying and he stopped and went. Holy shit, I am ill equipped to be able to help this teenager.
Speaker 1:Based on what happened to me and as we went through his father's trauma and how his father treated him and treated the kids, he realized he said oh, now I'm doing to him what was done to me. I'm yelling, I'm controlling, wait. He even talked about how he used alcohol and that he's sober now. So we had to go back through what that had done as well. He wasn't equipped to feel great about himself because of the trauma that he went through and when he got anxious he had to use something, a piece of equipment it's called alcohol to help calm him down. He didn't know how to do it for himself. He didn't have that core strength and we talked, didn't take long, go apologize, tell him your story. You know you've been too harsh on him. Why does he want to be there?
Speaker 1:It took one conversation, one conversation of him explaining what happened to him and how he was ill equipped and how he was doing to his son what was done to him, and he's totally apologized and said I don't want to do that. You're 15 years old. We can start to have a very different relationship and I hope you'll forgive me. The kid was like I'm in, so it's this idea, and maybe it was because this combat veteran knew about equipment. Maybe when I started to talk to his language and I started to say ill equipped, you know, like you rucksack, and I asked him a question, I said you know, if I was your CEO and you're going to go on a mission and I give you a rucksack and in that rucksack half of it is filled with shit that's not yours, doesn't fit, you won't work for the mission and was broken, what would you do?
Speaker 1:Especially if I turn my back, he goes. Well, the minute you turn your back I'm going to take it out. I'm going to go hide it, I'm going to go bury it somewhere and never tell you that I took out all that equipment that would not keep me or my teammates safe. Same in a sport If you open up the equipment bag and there's a broken bat, you're not playing baseball that day. If there's a baseball that's coming unwrapped, you'll probably try to play with it, but it isn't going to work as well as if it was in good shape.
Speaker 1:So when I said that to that young man, I you know about giving you a rucksack filled with shit that won't work and how he would throw it out. That's what we're doing. That's what it means to do your physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and financial work, your practices. It's about throwing out the stuff that was given to you, the equipment that was given to you, what was done to you, and throw it out, start again. It's tough. It's hard to start as an adult and start to practice things that actually will help create the person you deserve to be in, the life you deserve to live. It's changing your equipment. Your voice is your equipment. Your words are your equipment. Your actions are your equipment. All of it is part of you and you are the most important piece of equipment in any kind of partnership or parenting or work or mission. That's what it's all about, so I wanted to share that with you today and I hope you watched last week's podcast. It was with Tyler Cochran and Tyler talked a lot about his equipment and his experience and we're going to have him on next week. You're going to be able to hear a week from this Monday After getting out of prison. That ought to make you want to take F for 20 years, and he's only 38. You might want to go listen to the first part so you can hear the second part.
Speaker 1:And one of the things that we do at Craft Boxing, where I do work, is we are looking at the equipment all the time. We understand how to use the equipment. We understand how important it is to have it functioning and clean and appropriate for what it is that we want to improve about ourselves If it's strength or flexibility or a better cross or a better jab or a better, you know, upper cut all of that. So what I'm going to invite you to do this week is I want you to take a look at your equipment, and that's in five areas. How are you equipped to help yourself physically to stay healthier? How are you equipped emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and financially? Even money's an equipment. So that's my ask this week. That's how we will be crazy well and that's how we'll help one another.
Speaker 1:So take a look at your equipment, find out what you're equipped to do, and if you're not equipped to do something, for gosh sakes, go get a trainer, go get somebody that can help you, find a way of being that actually gets you the results that you want, and take good care of your equipment. That's you. Take good care of you, because you're the most important piece of equipment. Be crazy well, always be crazy well. Thank you, calvin Love, for this wonderful theme song. I'll see you guys every week. I'm doing this every week. Join us and be crazy well. Bless you, zachary A'Mara.