{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":0.0,"endTime":8.4,"body":"Music."},{"startTime":8.348,"endTime":18.649,"body":"This is belonging a podcast that explores being alive in the age of loneliness I'm your host Becca piastrelli,"},{"startTime":18.736,"endTime":22.142,"body":"a writer mother and Community tender"},{"startTime":22.022,"endTime":29.308,"body":"currently living on the ancestral lands of the coast of Miwok people and present day Marin County California."},{"startTime":30.592,"endTime":36.564,"body":"In this show we explore topics like Rites of Passage cultivating meaningful community."},{"startTime":36.768,"endTime":42.109,"body":"Seasonal and cyclical living and what it means to be a good ancestor in these times."},{"startTime":42.79,"endTime":53.776,"body":"I have thought-provoking conversations with friends teachers elders and ancestral medicine Keepers to help support you in bringing more meaning and connection to your life."},{"startTime":54.52,"endTime":64.363,"body":"I also pop in here and there to share updates and learnings from my own story because we were meant to do this together cosmically holding hands as we walk the spiral of life."},{"startTime":65.143,"endTime":71.979,"body":"You can expect to be challenged by New or Old ideas face your beliefs and what systems informed them."},{"startTime":72.255,"endTime":79.261,"body":"Curious and brave to tell the truth about the deeper harder things and feel comforted in the knowing that you don't."},{"startTime":79.12,"endTime":88.24,"body":"Music."},{"startTime":88.18,"endTime":91.559,"body":"Hello hello welcome back to."},{"startTime":91.7,"endTime":105.989,"body":"Belonging the podcast to those of you who have been here before to those of you who have never been here hi I'm Becca piastrelli your host and guide on this wild winding journey of life and."},{"startTime":106.094,"endTime":118.583,"body":"Today I'm doing a solo episode right now it's the first day of November 20 22 and the rain came surprised me this morning and."},{"startTime":118.787,"endTime":123.021,"body":"It's so cozy and I'm wearing a big thick,"},{"startTime":123.082,"endTime":133.248,"body":"knit sweater and I'm burning my favorite candle that smells like the woods and the heater is pumping in my little she shed office Temple"},{"startTime":133.074,"endTime":142.196,"body":"they've got my twinkle lights on that I bought at Target for plus and five dollars and yeah I'm thinking about Community today."},{"startTime":142.328,"endTime":148.66,"body":"I'm thinking about how much I still yearn for it and how."},{"startTime":148.927,"endTime":156.456,"body":"On my like little bio when ice talk about what I do for a living it says,"},{"startTime":156.48,"endTime":164.774,"body":"I'm a facilitator and teacher and guide around one of the things is cultivating meaningful community,"},{"startTime":164.789,"endTime":175.226,"body":"and so as I say I know that human beings learn best from storytelling so I don't really know what I'm gonna story-tell."},{"startTime":175.493,"endTime":182.697,"body":"Through this episode today but I'm feeling very reflective I want day two of my moon which means I'm bleeding."},{"startTime":183.091,"endTime":194.779,"body":"It's cozy and the season is turning here in my bio region of just North of San Francisco California coast new Auckland"},{"startTime":194.731,"endTime":201.962,"body":"and that has me in this like wanting to feel my feet in the wet."},{"startTime":202.256,"endTime":208.732,"body":"Composting soil beneath me and that sort of letdown of that like"},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":208.639,"endTime":223.046,"body":"30 at night and I've been busy busy busy and how interesting a few weeks later I'm like it's cozy and mellow and reflective and"},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":222.935,"endTime":229.95,"body":"it's just so interesting how the seasons guide us in that way and the reason I'm thinking about Community is I know that this time of year,"},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":230.028,"endTime":236.63,"body":"there's a lot of emphasis on Gathering and for many of us it can feel like forced Gathering."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":236.969,"endTime":245.902,"body":"And for some of us maybe all of us that can also feel a little exciting too and it makes me think as it usually does about."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":246.485,"endTime":255.022,"body":"The history behind these rituals that we enact during the certain times of year and."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":255.712,"endTime":259.055,"body":"There is something about the end of a harvest"},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":258.998,"endTime":272.126,"body":"because we have agrarian ancestors who farmed the land and who depended upon it to live and thrive in their communities there's something about the celebration and the gratitude."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":272.312,"endTime":279.841,"body":"Of what has been cultivated what has been harvested what grew what thrived and then a real."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":280.423,"endTime":291.688,"body":"Preparation for the coming winter for the dream time for the rest time for the cold time for the harsh time and a reminder that we're never meant to do it alone."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":292.405,"endTime":299.7,"body":"So I get really excited about Community gathering in 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in a sustainable way."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":336.21,"endTime":348.474,"body":"So this is not going to be an episode on how to do Thanksgiving and the holidays sustainably I've talked about that a lot in the past and I can talk about it another time I also think there are."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":348.705,"endTime":357.044,"body":"Lots of folks in the like wellness and coaching world that can beautifully guide us through."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":357.51,"endTime":363.013,"body":"How to do the winter holidays and Gathering and family time."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":363.253,"endTime":368.063,"body":"With boundaries and resourcing and self tending and all of that."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":368.456,"endTime":375.742,"body":"I think what I want to talk about more what gets me more jazzed is to talk about intentionally."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":375.847,"endTime":383.097,"body":"Calling in and cultivating community in your life and so the best way I can do that is to talk about where I'm at."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":383.562,"endTime":392.342,"body":"Because I wonder if there are some misconceptions out there in the world and the big bad World about."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":392.501,"endTime":400.417,"body":"How Community shows up in my life and I certainly love to share the Highlight Reel is particularly on social media."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":400.648,"endTime":413.714,"body":"Of when when I am because we naturally do that when things are exciting we want to share it we want to share it and so I do have these ways of gathering with community that I share and I also feel loneliness."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":414.017,"endTime":417.801,"body":"Often and I also live in,"},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":417.879,"endTime":426.596,"body":"you know a single family nuclear family situation in the suburbs of California."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":427.088,"endTime":436.813,"body":"And as you know if you listen to past episodes or follow along with me or my emails Tim my partner and I are thinking."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":436.955,"endTime":444.429,"body":"More long-term about how to do community like do life in a more communal relational."},{"speaker":"Autumn 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take a bath or watch a show and then"},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":554.641,"endTime":568.103,"body":"there is a point where that sort of tips over this invisible line that I sometimes can't notice is there until I've crossed it tips over into okay I've been alone too long I'm lonely,"},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":568.154,"endTime":574.017,"body":"I need Community this is where I'm interested in like what it would be like"},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":573.879,"endTime":586.917,"body":"to live in close proximity with other folks you know that meals are shared with or like play dates are scheduled with or paths cross where that could sort of Bowie me a little bit more."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":587.256,"endTime":592.166,"body":"Because what I have to do in 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human beings so when that line is crossed and I've been in the bathtub too long and I start you know making up stories about how everyone's hanging out without me because Instagram is not helping that which is why I'm."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":669.447,"endTime":678.812,"body":"There might be an episode coming down the line about my relationship with social media because that feels like it's evolving quickly and it's definitely seasonally attuned."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":679.152,"endTime":688.337,"body":"That can reinforce a feeling of being alone or everyone hanging out without me or missing out is scrolling on Instagram I know I have to reach out."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 9","startTime":688.55,"endTime":690.245,"body":"And so."},{"speaker":"Autumn Harvest I think last episode my intro was like it's 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surrounded by folks who are also in leadership and so I do get these invitations and I do make these invitations."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1103.122,"endTime":1106.06,"body":"So I wrote in my journal that is sitting in front of me"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1105.985,"endTime":1119.518,"body":"like ideas and notes for this episode I wrote what skills am I still in need of Becca and there are so many there are so many I feel so new there's something about the more."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1119.75,"endTime":1124.83,"body":"It's probably a great meme out there about this but the more you learn about a topic,"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1124.908,"endTime":1133.535,"body":"for the more you devote yourself to the Mastery of a topic the more you realize you have no idea about it that's how I feel about."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1133.739,"endTime":1139.495,"body":"Cultivating meaningful Community how to live in a community way how to be a more relational human being"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1139.483,"endTime":1150.279,"body":"the more I learn the more I unlearned the more I realize I know so little and I'm in a devotional practice to grappling with my desire to feel more in community,"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1150.357,"endTime":1153.547,"body":"and also the ways I'm repulsed and scared."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1153.706,"endTime":1165.952,"body":"About Community Living I think I joke a lot about like a you know you don't need to go live on a commune in order to feel a presence of community and I think that's because I'm scared of living on a commune I'm also obsessed with any sort of like"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1165.814,"endTime":1174.081,"body":"podcaster documentary about all these like land-based communities from the 70s most of which have not gone well and I'm very curious as to why"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1173.934,"endTime":1183.579,"body":"when I talk about Community Living I know a lot of people default to ways that it hasn't worked in Modern Times And so I am,"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1183.648,"endTime":1196.947,"body":"curious especially as someone who's married to an introvert who feels very suspicious of human beings a lot if you listen to episodes with Tim you know that about him as someone who was raised in a bike hyper individualist family situation and,"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1197.043,"endTime":1203.041,"body":"still lives in one how we as human beings in this modern time."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1203.264,"endTime":1215.078,"body":"With the privilege you know the Privileges that we have which is you know my audience in this like Western industrialized world with a fair amount of privilege like how do we shift the culture too,"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1215.147,"endTime":1221.334,"body":"be more Community minded and that starts and always is with me."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1221.628,"endTime":1225.682,"body":"So what skills am I still in need of I think a lot of what I want to work on is."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1225.877,"endTime":1237.745,"body":"I really liked my interview with Carmen Spagnola which was my last episode she has this incredible Community called the numinous network and I love how she talks about."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1238.499,"endTime":1250.817,"body":"Like a nervous system regulation getting contact nutrition and like the titration the small bits of easing your nervous system into a new way of being."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1250.949,"endTime":1259.486,"body":"And that's that really resonates with me I think Becca few years ago did all this research and was blown away and I think."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1259.654,"endTime":1264.302,"body":"Yeah you can't just go 02 land-based commune"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1264.263,"endTime":1274.826,"body":"I remember Rachel Maddox was I interviewed her on this podcast who I know just recently did an experiment with a land-based community talking about like how can we meet."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1274.949,"endTime":1280.659,"body":"These needs for the village in ways that our nervous systems can actually handle and is it just two friends buying."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1280.926,"endTime":1286.123,"body":"House next to each other and knocking down fences I think are really daily talked about that too and."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1286.625,"endTime":1291.714,"body":"My interview with her and Megan McGuire I think there are many different ways to do it."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1291.999,"endTime":1301.445,"body":"And what I want to work on is my fears of losing control my nervousness around men in charge"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go 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11","startTime":1327.738,"endTime":1341.127,"body":"conflict in community it's like what is the thing if you're afraid of something you just have to have enough interactions with it for the fear to like go away that's they say about fear of flying you're afraid of flying just fly a lot or like afraid of spiders just look at a lot of spiders"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1341.034,"endTime":1346.52,"body":"exposure therapy so I feel like I need exposure therapy in navigating conflict in community."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1346.652,"endTime":1354.09,"body":"And I think I just always wanted to let it be known to myself and to others that like I'm a baby."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 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there so it's okay on what I was supposed to do."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1418.796,"endTime":1428.638,"body":"On the farm in it I didn't like that feeling in this is like a side note for this as yet unplanned podcast."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1428.77,"endTime":1433.544,"body":"Conversation with myself or maybe someone about consent and DMs"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1433.353,"endTime":1451.0,"body":"and Anonymous relationships of intimacy we establish over DM's but yeah I've been told you have to do permaculture you have to be a vegan and not raise any animals just rescue them you have to do grass-fed beef you had do a cut flower garden and and so I remember when we were in the first few months of"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1450.943,"endTime":1460.776,"body":"just like learning about farming and figuring out the survey and getting the inspections and like testing the soil and we're still in all of this process it's taking a long time"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1460.72,"endTime":1468.167,"body":"but we're not being urgent about it I lost the thread of the why like why are we called to do this and."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1468.362,"endTime":1476.927,"body":"I'm returning to that now with the letdown of bottom with the leaves releasing from the deciduous trees and and its community."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 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up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1509.575,"endTime":1518.139,"body":"I dream of glamping tents or like belt ends in the summer having campouts I dream of"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1518.136,"endTime":1523.954,"body":"animals in the barn baby calves nursing on their mamas I dream of."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1524.059,"endTime":1533.983,"body":"A massive vegetable garden where part of the plots are given to maybe students at atlases school and we can teach and learn gardening together."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1534.268,"endTime":1543.489,"body":"I dream of releasing some of the fields to Young Farmers just learning so they don't have to have that barrier"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1543.45,"endTime":1555.678,"body":"farming that comes with owning land or even leasing land can be so expensive I also just learned from the farmer who is tending to the land while we're not there that"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1555.594,"endTime":1562.682,"body":"Dairy Farmers have a higher suicide rate then veterans."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1562.922,"endTime":1569.452,"body":"And he's teaching me and Tim so much about the devotional work of farming"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1569.449,"endTime":1575.672,"body":"particularly if you're doing it in a like non Mass sort of corporate agwe,"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1575.705,"endTime":1589.689,"body":"and I want to support that I dream of like learning and raising animals to feed my family from like beginning to end including the sacredness and just brutalness of harvesting."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1590.28,"endTime":1602.256,"body":"It's that I can really be an Integrity with my food I dream of doing that Community I dream of bringing folks who know indigenous ancestral skills to lead skillshare classes on the farm"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1602.217,"endTime":1611.51,"body":"and having some of the attendees be able to attend for free I dream of weddings in the barn I dream of retreats in the barn,"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go 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country living who is a few steps ahead of me in going from the city to a homestead and how that goes but I dunno"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1652.81,"endTime":1661.167,"body":"that the way of this life is one that is slower and more informed by the land and."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1661.722,"endTime":1677.533,"body":"I feel like it's somewhat Colonial to have all these plans for land that I have I don't I'm not sitting on that land right now and we have some work to do on the house the house was built in 1860 and we have some things to finish up here in California"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1677.368,"endTime":1682.538,"body":"and so this is all moving in a really really at a really slow pace so."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1683.247,"endTime":1690.64,"body":"To have a vision and then get it in motion before even getting there and feeling the land."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1691.754,"endTime":1693.566,"body":"And there's just so much."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1693.932,"endTime":1702.991,"body":"In the way of ritual and relationship with this land that has seen many quote owners Society of owning land is very challenging to me."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1703.412,"endTime":1711.661,"body":"Yeah there's some work to be done there's some relationship building to be done so yes I've been reading about flower farming and."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1712.009,"endTime":1715.622,"body":"Raising cows and and dreaming about."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1716.105,"endTime":1725.299,"body":"Okay I'm dreaming about a cut flower filled with arches in a maze like a pumpkin patch like corn maze."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1725.602,"endTime":1734.49,"body":"But with flowers that bloom in October like maybe dahlias or sunflowers and then having a little Farm Stand that's like"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1734.46,"endTime":1747.913,"body":"little person size like Atlas toddler sliced this is this is what I'm thinking about maybe I'll do it maybe I won't and selling pumpkins and eggs for my chickens and things like that and supporting other farmers in the farm store."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1748.135,"endTime":1755.826,"body":"And having it been being on or system with a little like venmo code and a cash box and then maybe a stage."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1756.291,"endTime":1764.558,"body":"For local bands to play on those are my dreams hold them tenderly we'll see what happens."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1765.257,"endTime":1772.291,"body":"So as we to bring it back preform dream list head into the seasons of gathering."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1772.405,"endTime":1777.017,"body":"To consider what you really want out of these gatherings and to be clear in your invitation."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1777.212,"endTime":1783.985,"body":"It's okay to do it differently it's okay to actually decide that even though we've always done it this way let's try this way,"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1784.009,"endTime":1794.67,"body":"it's okay to make people a little uncomfortable by honoring the ancestors of the land you live on it's okay to say you want to leave out an ancestor Spirit play Thanksgiving."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1794.992,"endTime":1804.321,"body":"It's okay to opt out of the drunken Christmas Eve party if that's not your thing I don't know why these are coming through this these aren't true for me but maybe they are for you."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1805.038,"endTime":1813.674,"body":"It's okay I think it's radical act to choose to do a gathering in a more conscious way and I know that a lot of us are craving that."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1814.266,"endTime":1824.216,"body":"OK hope this served as always when I complete these solo episodes I have a confusion as to what I just said but my trust"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1824.096,"endTime":1831.202,"body":"I trust that the right words came through I'll be back in a couple of weeks with another interview bye for now."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1836.096,"endTime":1848.999,"body":"Thank you so much for joining me in a time when our attention is being pulled in so many different directions it means a lot that you took time out of your day to spend it with me and in these important conversations."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1849.194,"endTime":1856.624,"body":"For show notes and links and more information about my guests you can head to belonging podcast.com."},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1856.891,"endTime":1862.476,"body":"And if you'd like to hear more from me and get access to my free newsletter called slow and seasonal,"},{"speaker":"we can all meet up for coffee at 11 but like wanted to go pick up her kid before naptime at 11","startTime":1862.563,"endTime":1867.616,"body":"you 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