Choice of words can make a difference between someone accepting or denying a message.
You can have a very beautiful thing to say, but say it in the wrong words and its’ (wind sound) gone. Our biggest struggle with communication is when we simply assume it happened.
There are two schools of thought that explain how we perceive this motion. Flow and Force
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On episode 30. "The power and flow of communication"
I’m a science nerd. Author John Green said, “Nerds like us are allowed to be unironically enthusiastic about stuff…that no one else cares about”. We live in a world that is constantly in motion. The physics of our environment involves dynamic motion rather than static states,
and the vitality of our relationships require constant circulation of connection and collaboration.
We often take for granted the power of the spoken word. We presume that our intentions are received in the manner in which we delivered the message. Today the potential communication bias is more likely in part, due to the diverse channels. Cognitive bias affects the way we process information and how we make decisions to communicate. The tone comes from the way you’ve chosen to write your thoughts and reveals your opinions. Similarly in the things we experience our lives are constantly moving, but there are two schools of thought that explain how we permit this motion — Flow and force.
Our communication experiences are like holding a garden hose that’s been crimped in the middle. Some water can flow through, but not very much. If you want to increase the rate at which water passes through the hose, you have two options.
The first option is to crank up the valve and force more water out. Now this option increases anxiety, induces stress, and communicates haste. The second option is to simply remove the bend in the hose and let the water flow naturally. Unbinding the hose improves the flow and reduces force so that communication is allowed to follow a natural channel.
Jim Rohn wrote, “Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals.”
Unfortunately, culture has taught us to grind it out and work hard, using force to increase the flow. That works in certain occasions, pressing to meet deadlines, hustling to close business (and there’s a time and place for it) but it can only be relied on in short bouts because it’s unsustainable.
I liken it to chasing a snowball rolling downhill gaining mass as it cascades into a landslide.
Scientist refer to this as “Dysfunctional momentum”
Dysfunctional momentum rears its ugly head and sometimes with dire results.
We can direct activities, bond the joints in collaboration, and align teams by ensuring our communications are finely tuned.
I like to bring in an element of a book or an article I’ve read into this podcast. I want to share a snippet of an article I read in Forbes. There’s a direct correlation to this episode.
I know you’re going to find value in this:
In his article in Forbes: On Jan 23rd 2022
12 Habits To Become A Better Leader
Mr Hunkins described communication flows in this manner: