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#100 - Long Distance Relationships for Long Distance Trails

January 13, 2020 Emory Wanger Episode 100
#100 - Long Distance Relationships for Long Distance Trails
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The By Land Podcast
#100 - Long Distance Relationships for Long Distance Trails
Jan 13, 2020 Episode 100
Emory Wanger

To celebrate Episode 100, my Wife, Jessica, joins me on the podcast to talk about what it was like for her when I hiked the PCT in 2017.  We hear about the trials of a hiker, but we never hear from the loved one at home waiting for a hike to end.  

Those we love reliably answer poorly timed phone calls, offer encouragement when in need of their own, ship off items to random locations they’ve never been to in hopes that it arrives in time, and patiently wait at home praying for the safety of their hiker. They balance the load for us emotionally and their voices are often never heard.

When the hike is complete, they don’t have memories of tall peaks, beautiful valleys, or quiet morning walks in the woods. Instead, they’re left to know the trail from afar, merely peering inside from time to time in hopes of gleaning some form of relief. If they could be there, they would.

For me, Jess was my rock and the only reason I hiked so many miles.  She was far more dedicated to me than I was to the trail and I’ll forever be grateful for all she did.

This episode is dedicated to all those who support thru-hikers on long trails.  You’ll never really know how important you are to the journey.


Show Notes

  • When Emory first told Jess about the PCT
  • Our approach
  • The proposal
  • Why so confident?
  • Relationship prep leading up to the trail
  • Planning visits
  • The importance of being all in
  • Jess’ connection to the trail
  • Saying goodbye
  • Dealing with the lack of information
  • Benefits of a GPS tracker 
  • What it’s like on the other side of things
  • How short videos helped us feel connected
  • Visiting Emory on the trail
  • Pros and Cons of visits
  • Saying goodbye after a visit
  • Observing hiking habits
  • How to handle your partner when they want to quit
  • When and how to communicate feelings
  • Jess’ worst goodbye
  • Looking to Canada 
  • The smell of a hiker
  • What the trail means to Jess
  • What it’s like being an “outsider” to the hiking world
  • Advice to family and friends AFTER the trail
  • The dynamics of a partner wanting to be there
  • Watching the trail to life transition
  • What about hiking WITH your hiker?
  • What helped the MOST to feel close
  • Concerns about thru-hiking becoming a habit 
  • How to deal with the desire to hike

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Show Notes

To celebrate Episode 100, my Wife, Jessica, joins me on the podcast to talk about what it was like for her when I hiked the PCT in 2017.  We hear about the trials of a hiker, but we never hear from the loved one at home waiting for a hike to end.  

Those we love reliably answer poorly timed phone calls, offer encouragement when in need of their own, ship off items to random locations they’ve never been to in hopes that it arrives in time, and patiently wait at home praying for the safety of their hiker. They balance the load for us emotionally and their voices are often never heard.

When the hike is complete, they don’t have memories of tall peaks, beautiful valleys, or quiet morning walks in the woods. Instead, they’re left to know the trail from afar, merely peering inside from time to time in hopes of gleaning some form of relief. If they could be there, they would.

For me, Jess was my rock and the only reason I hiked so many miles.  She was far more dedicated to me than I was to the trail and I’ll forever be grateful for all she did.

This episode is dedicated to all those who support thru-hikers on long trails.  You’ll never really know how important you are to the journey.


Show Notes

  • When Emory first told Jess about the PCT
  • Our approach
  • The proposal
  • Why so confident?
  • Relationship prep leading up to the trail
  • Planning visits
  • The importance of being all in
  • Jess’ connection to the trail
  • Saying goodbye
  • Dealing with the lack of information
  • Benefits of a GPS tracker 
  • What it’s like on the other side of things
  • How short videos helped us feel connected
  • Visiting Emory on the trail
  • Pros and Cons of visits
  • Saying goodbye after a visit
  • Observing hiking habits
  • How to handle your partner when they want to quit
  • When and how to communicate feelings
  • Jess’ worst goodbye
  • Looking to Canada 
  • The smell of a hiker
  • What the trail means to Jess
  • What it’s like being an “outsider” to the hiking world
  • Advice to family and friends AFTER the trail
  • The dynamics of a partner wanting to be there
  • Watching the trail to life transition
  • What about hiking WITH your hiker?
  • What helped the MOST to feel close
  • Concerns about thru-hiking becoming a habit 
  • How to deal with the desire to hike

Support the Show.

Thanks for listening! Check out the links below to learn more, connect, and support the show.