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Thank you so much for"},{"speaker":"Edge ","startTime":3104.94,"endTime":3107.79,"body":"joining me, please consider"},{"speaker":"Edge ","startTime":3104.94,"endTime":3107.79,"body":"subscribing or you can send"},{"speaker":"Edge ","startTime":3107.79,"endTime":3111.81,"body":"feedback to edge at full cow dot"},{"speaker":"Edge ","startTime":3107.79,"endTime":3111.81,"body":"show. As always, may your"},{"speaker":"Edge ","startTime":3111.81,"endTime":3113.1,"body":"leather journey be blessed"}]}