Review, Revisit, Revise, Renew

Resolutions fade. Rituals stick. We open the year by treating leather not as a fixed identity but as a living practice you can revisit, review, and revise on purpose. From evolving fetishes to smarter gear choices to relationship honesty, this episode lays out a clean framework for refreshing your kink life without the pressure of perfection or performative goals.

We start with a transparent year-in-review: audience growth, surprising geography, and the topics you replayed the most. Then we pivot into the heart of the show—how desire actually changes over time. I share why bondage shifted from being the entire scene to becoming a restraint tool, how cigar play moved from center stage to personal ritual, and why a simple, scheduled review can help you drop what no longer feeds you while reaching for what does. You’ll hear practical ways to audit your gear closet, gift what you don’t wear, and choose a long-term “next piece” that aligns with your evolving play.

The Ask Edge segment digs into real-world complexity. We validate submissive tops and dominant bottoms, separate D/s dynamics from sexual position, and explore how to educate a supportive but unsure partner with clear resources and honest conversation. We also talk about work-life boundaries for kinky professionals, why leather jock straps often fail on stage, and what actually matters in a dungeon. Spoiler: a sacred signal beats an expensive toy every time—think red lights, scent, music, and closing rituals that bring everyone back to earth.

If your leather life feels stuck or scattered, this conversation will help you build momentum with clarity, compassion, and control. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review with one thing you’re revising this year—we’ll feature our favorites on a future show.

Chapters

• 0:05 Content Warning And Welcome
• 0:37 Year In Review: Audience And Growth
• 7:29 Gratitude And Season Four Plans
• 7:29 January’s Energy: Intent And Renewal
• 8:17 Leather As Process Not Identity
• 10:49 Evolving Kinks: Bondage And Cigars
• 12:47 Build A Regular Review Practice
• 15:22 Gear Audit: Keep, Gift, Acquire
• 19:24 Relationship Check-Ins And Goals
• 21:15 Community Revisions And Inclusion
• 24:00 Ask Edge: Submissive Top Validity
• 28:18 Partner Education And Resources
• 31:38 Work Life And Kink Boundaries
• 34:49 Under Breeches, Jocks, And Chaps
• 38:13 Dungeon Tour: Tools And Layout
• 44:59 Create Your Own Dungeon Ritual
• 48:59 Closing Thanks And How To Reach Us

Transcript

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Revisit, review, revise. This podcast contains material intended for a mature audience. Before proceeding, please check your little laws and confirm that you are an adult. Welcome to Full Cow, a podcast about Leather Kink and BDSM. My name is Edge, my pronouns are he, him, and I'm your host. And in this episode, we're going to be thinking about revisiting, reviewing, revising. January has an energy that invites us to renew. And a lot of times that energy can become burdensome, a kind of expectation that you will set certain resolutions and then see how long they last. But the process of setting intent, but also looking back at where we've been, is really useful. And it doesn't have to be January. The act of pausing and doing some self-examination is not just a good practice in life, but in Leather and King as well. So in this episode, we're going to think about some of my practices around revisiting, reviewing, revising my kink life. We're also going to do a year in review for the podcast, and then I have a really kick-ass Ask Edge segment because someone sent in like a ton of questions that made me super happy. So all in all, it's a new year, it's a new episode. I'm excited to share it with you. So let's get started. Let's start by thinking about what 2025 looked like for the podcast. It is time for the year in review. Now, normally this is part of the season finale, but this year the season is ending when it's ready to end. And so since it's January, I thought it made a lot of sense to look back at 2025. In this past year, just in 2025, there were seven episodes of the podcast with 5,960 downloads. Dominant Chastity is at the top of the charts with 1,191 downloads. Now, my sense is every time I do anything on chastity, it zooms up in downloads. Chastity is a very popular topic. However, it's worth noting this was also the first episode of the season, and so it's been around the longest and has had the most opportunity to be downloaded. Overall, across the lifespan of this podcast, there have been 75,000 total downloads. In case you're curious, you are largely Apple people. 49% of you are coming here from Apple Podcasts, and 69% are listening on the iPhone. Once again, this podcast is listened to on every continent but Antarctica. I will ask you again, please help. If you are a research scientist in Antarctica, if you are going on a luxury excursion cruise to Antarctica, it would mean so much to me if you could just download the podcast while you're in the Antarctic area and listen to it. It would be really useful. 58% of you are listening from the United States. However, there's a total of 147 countries where people have listened to this podcast, including in the U.S., all 50 states, and Washington, D.C., and across the globe, there have been uh the podcast has been listened to in 4,337 cities. The top spot belonged to Chicago. Surprisingly, it's not always the top, but this year it made the top. And 2% of listeners are from Chicago for 2025. I also, you know, Spotify does a really great rapt for creators. So the rest of this data is from Spotify RAPT. Uh this past year in 2025, the podcast saw a 29% increase in audience, 569% increase in total audience from last year, and a 45% increase in followers. Thank you all. Thank you all for listening. It's the only reason I do this podcast. And it is not as much work as it was, but it's still a little bit of work. And knowing that people continue to listen means everything. In fact, in 2025, there were 126,000 minutes of listening on Spotify. 57 countries were reached via Spotify, and there Poland was the top. Thank you, Poland, followed by Australia, Canada, the UK, and the US. Those may not actually be in order now that I'm thinking about it, because I don't think that Poland is my number one audience. But maybe Spotify is especially popular in Poland. I don't know. Full Cal was the top 10 show for 435 fans, top five show for 282 fans, and for 78 of you, I was your number one top show. Thank you. In shocking news, my fans are listening to Lady Gaga. Who would have guessed? Taylor Swift? What? Kylie Minogue, I would never have thought, Beyoncé, and Bad Bunny. You're also listening to other podcasts, including What's Your Safe Pod, The Joe Rogan Experience, The Bald and the Beautiful, and The Kinky Poys podcast. All of you listened on Spotify longer than 94% of other shows, left more comments than 95% of other shows, and had more shares than 97% of other shows. And that is our year in review. I am just so pleased with the way all of you have responded to this podcast, responded to me, those of you who have reached out to tell me how much the podcast has meant for you. Those of you who subscribe, those of you who continue to listen, it just means so much to me, and I can't thank you all enough. Especially since there was that real gap between season three and season four. And I appreciate that people were very patient and very kind to me in waiting for me to be ready for season four. And here we are, and I don't know where season four is going to end. I I will say, um, I I think season one had 13 episodes, and then like season two had nine, so there'll probably be somewhere between nine and thirteen episodes this season. But for now, 2025 was a pretty amazing year for the podcast, and it was an amazing year for the podcast because of you. So thank you very much. So, January. You are listening to this in January, even though I'm recording this, December 17th. And if you yoke together that December energy, which is all about year in review, and January energy, which is all about looking ahead and setting intentions and having resolutions, there's a real sense at this time of year that it is a time for revisiting, reviewing, revising, renewing. And I want to really center that and let it sort of sink into leather and king practice. I think that sometimes we tend to think of leather as an identity, but that can be really limiting because it suggests we are a thing and stay that thing. We are a master, we are a pup, we are a boy, we are a whatever you are. And that can be at first really empowering because it helps you articulate things that might have been very confusing for you, and it helped you find others who can see you, affirm you, and have really hot sex with you. So it's great that leather as identity helps us become a thing. But sometimes that thing becomes limiting because we are humans, we change, we evolve, sometimes we devolve, things shift. My experience has taught me that for me, leather is less an identity and more a process and a practice. It is something the human being that I am does. And it informs a lot of other practices in my life. It really shapes the way I move through the world. It literally shapes the way I walk down the street, but it's not the whole of who I am, it's an aspect of who I am. And I think for me, coming to leather as process and practice allows a certain kind of flexibility in what it means to be at any point in time. Because it's a way of being, it changes over time. And I've learned to really honor that by reviewing and revising my practices. Now, in many episodes, I've shared my evolution from bottom to top, and that's really strong evidence for what I'm talking about here. But I've also found that my fetishes and kinks have shifted. And this is important because there were things I was doing that just no longer satisfied me, and I didn't know why. For example, you know, my if you've listened to the podcast, my big start was in bondage, and I have historically done a lot of bondage play as a top. So much so that it's sort of what I've been pegged as locally, like, oh, Edge is the bondage person, Edge is going to teach the bondage class, Edge does bondage. All of that's true, but there came a certain point where I was still doing the practice, but I was leaving dissatisfied. And because, you know, this this notion of leather as process and practice and renew and revise and revisit, I didn't, I didn't start into leather with that set of tools. One of the ways I discovered it is when I hit this wall, I and the first time I really remember hitting the wall was with bondage, where I was like, what the hell's going on here? And I really needed to sit and think about it. And that's what I discovered. It's not the fetish it used to be for me. Now there's still a lot of bondage in my play. However, I would say actually there's a lot of restraint in my play. When I think of bondage, I think that's the scene. I'm pulling out the ropes, and the whole scene is the bondage. I don't really do that a lot anymore. I will throw some restraints on you if I don't want you to move. The same is true with cigar play. Cigar scenes were the scenes I had for a large part of my practice in my early days of topping and exploring dominance. And I don't really do a lot of cigar play anymore. Now, I always have a cigar when I'm playing. That for me is connected to my own fetishism, my own eroticism around cigars. But I don't do the force smoking, the shared smoke. I don't do that as much anymore. Fortunately, because I had that experience with bondage, when that happened with cigars, I was not surprised. And when I found my practice and my process in the playroom shifting, it didn't cost me distress because I knew that's just sort of part of who I am. So there have been these moments in my play that forced me to review what was going on in my fetish and kink life. Because I had reached a point of dissatisfaction, or I literally reached a point of confusion. I didn't know what was going on. Now, you can wait for that. You can wait until you're unhappy in your playroom. But I want to invite you instead to develop a practice of regular review. January is a natural place to do that, or late December. That's a natural place to do that because as a culture, almost as a world, we've demarcated that time as a time for that process, reviewing, looking back, but also looking forward. But you can do it anytime. You can do it anytime. I think it's useful ideally to kind of set it in your yearly calendar. Maybe it's around your birthday, maybe it's around an anniversary, maybe it's around a leather event. But if there's a marker of time that makes sense for you, then I really want to invite you to initiate this process during that time. And you know, it's it doesn't have to be, it's not like get out your journal and spend two days in meditation and writing out where you are in your leather journey. It doesn't have to be that. These days, I it's a really quick process for me because I already know what's not working for me. I know what is working for me right now, I know what might be coming. And so the process is really quick. But still doing it helps me stay on the beam, on the path that my erotic impulses are guiding me down. And it helps me know what to let go of. It helps me know what to reach for. It also helps me know who to play with. So that if I'm used to doing a lot of bondage, for example, but that's shifted, that's no longer important to me. Well, I'm not gonna be looking for this people who are really into rope anymore. It's a quick process for me now. And I don't know if that's because I've just become so used to the idea that everything shifts for me, or if I'm just more in tune in the moment. But I want to invite you to at least initiate it at least once, to really spend some time thinking about what do you still fantasize about? What still turns you on? What do you still want to do in the playroom? What have you done so much of that maybe you need to set it aside? What do you want to do differently? Asking yourself these questions can help you refine your direction and refine your intentionality as you move forward. Now, for me, because I have an abundance of blessings, the same is true for my gear. And, you know, I've been I've been doing this for 35 years. I've been doing this for 35 years. And across that, across those decades, you tend to accumulate quite a bit of gear. And so I will often stop and think about my gear and what to keep and what to let go of. Some of this can be really challenging. I still have items in my leather closet right now that I will never fit into again. I've kind of accepted that, but I've not accepted it to the extent that I'm ready to let go of that piece of gear. That's the kind of thing that's important for me in my review of the leather gear that I have. What are the things I need to let go of because they don't fit and they will never fit? What are the things I need to let go of because I just don't wear them? I'm really big on gifting gear. Now I am of a certain body shape and size, and so I can't just give my gear to anyone. I need someone kind of edge-shaped. And when I find that person, I usually have something I can gift. And I've really been thinking about this even more because I'm contemplating some really larger life changes. And I think I'm going to get rid of a large chunk of my gear as part of this process. I know exactly the pieces I want to keep. I know exactly the pieces that I'm ready to let go of. Now, again, I am super blessed. I am uh generationally privileged. I'm Gen X. We were probably the last generation to have a good economy. And so you may not have a lot of gear, but that process of regular review could still be part of your gear process because it can be about what do you have and what do you want to acquire next. That was really big for me when I was much younger and much poorer, thinking about the piece I wanted next. And back then, I was still fairly privileged. I was able to get one major item of leather per year. I remember quite distinctly when I decided I wanted custom Wesco engineer boots, my Wesco boss, I spent a year, maybe two, scrimping and saving, collecting my change, putting a dollar in the sock drawer, whatever. I worked because I knew what I wanted next, and I knew it was going to be worth it. In the affordability crisis we're in right now, that may not be quite as possible for you, because every penny, well, we don't have pennies anymore, every coin you have, every piece of sphere change might have to go to rent, might have to go to groceries, might have to go to healthcare, might have to go to gas. But I still think having a clear picture of the piece of gear you want next creates a goal for you to work towards. And maybe that goal is five years away. Maybe it's even longer. I never thought I would own Langlets. I just, I just didn't think I would ever have the resources for it. I didn't think I would, I never thought it would happen. And it it took 30 years of my leather journey before I owned Langlets. And it was worth it. But it was something I knew I couldn't do. I wanted someday, but I knew I couldn't do. So even if you don't have a lot of financial resources, even if you don't have a lot of gear, review what you do have. Think about what you can release, donate, regift, or sell. And think about the items you want next. It's not just kink practices and gear that needs this kind of review, renew, revise, revisit energy. Relationships do too. Relationships shift and change, and they can often benefit from frank discussions of where you are, how it's going, where you want to go next. How are you evolving together? How are you evolving apart? What needs to be addressed? What endures? This can be really challenging based on what your relationship is. I know a lot of people wear. One of them is into kink, the other one isn't, and they are married. And navigating that can be really complex and require a lot of honesty and a lot of courage and a lot of tools and a lot of support. So this isn't necessarily always an easy conversation to have, but I think it's important to sort of honor the relationship as it changes and what becomes of it as it changes. And sometimes that also means letting go of relationships that no longer serve you. And that's okay. That is okay. And I invite you to do that with as much kindness and compassion as you can, both for yourself and for the other or others. It's also possible that your relationship's great, but you can still set goals for your relationship. An event you want to go to together, uh, or you want to take your first fist. Let's work on that this year, right? Still, this notion of spending time reflecting on where the two or more of you are can enable not just letting go of some things, not just acknowledging what's changed, but setting that next path. This is a process we might also all do on a community level. What needs revising in our community? I think back to the Leatherman's Handbook episode. It was such a strong indicator for me of how community shifts and changes across time. And there were parts of that book that I was like, yes, that was something we chose to keep because it is still working for us, erotically and relational in terms of community. This thing still works. And then there's a lot of stuff in that book that are just sort of really offensive now, and we let go of them. So I think as a community, it'd be useful for us to have those conversations. And a lot of them have gone on around DEI, around trans uh people in the community. It's great to have those conversations, but you know, the next step is making the change happen. And where I see that happening is with the younger generation, that they are already starting the change that will revise the community. Throughout all this, you're not just sort of always looking at what's wrong, you're not always looking backwards. It's also that looking forward, that resolution, that intention, that goal setting. And I've done that with travel, I've done that with some of the skills I've acquired in the playroom. I've done that with gear. And so I want to invite you across the entirety of your kink practice to spend some time in the coming year, whenever makes sense for you, to sit and reflect and review and revise and renew, both in terms of where you are in your leather journey, in terms of what gear you have, what gear you don't need, what gear you want, in terms of the relationships you have and how they evolve, and in terms of the community, and also then how you participate in that community, how you participate in the change, or or how you change and revise your own participation. Maybe you end up being more welcoming to newcomers. Maybe you try to reach out to intergenerationally and speak to older leather people and see what they have to offer. These are all practices that I that I've discovered by accident, primarily, but now I recognize as part of who I am and what I do. And so I want to invite you to do that as well. And finally, we have Ask Edge, the segment where I answer questions from all of you. If you're interested in submitting a question, you can leave me a voicemail at speakpipe.com slash leatheredge, L-T-H-R-E-D-G-E. That's speakpipe.com slash leatheredge, or you can send me an email at ask at fullcow.sho, that is ask at fullcow.show. And all of that information is available in the show notes. So my uh first question comes from God, I'm not really sure how he wants me to identify himself. So I'm just gonna say it comes from longtime listener, first time caller. He writes, I am a submissive top who is seeking your advice. I know I am a bundle of contradictions and feel like I am a rare beast. I am into chastity, bondage slash restraints, uniforms, and all of the things that tops are typically into giving their bottoms, not asking them to subject those things to me. My husband is completely supportive, but is completely GGG. I'm not sure what that means. That's some sort of internet lingo I haven't picked up yet. I've taught him what I like, but we haven't done a lot of scenes. Only recently I've been more comfortable in my kinky skin to bring him more into the scene. On a recent trip to Berlin, we did some kinky shopping and I shared more of my fantasies and what I'm into. He even encouraged me to buy my first PVC shirt and forced me to try on some leather shirts. Do you have any suggestions on how I can educate my husband and help me accept myself as a Sims of Top? I've read a lot of Metal Bond stories and have thought about assigning some of my favorites to him as homework, but other than that, and admitting I have cultivated quite the Twitter slash X and Blue Sky subscription list, I'm stuck for ideas. Now that I'm ready to let my king flag fly at home, I want to dive in but need help educating my husband on my kinky desires and the culture that I've been consuming for decades online. Thank you for bringing back the podcast for season four. Your advice and guidance shapes more people than you know. Please keep it up. I always get excited when a new episode drops. This is a really, well, it's a multi-part question, and part of it I feel is very delicate and very complex. First, let's just say submissive tops are totally a thing. Totally and completely a thing. In fact, my boy in DC just recently had a submissive top visit him, which he loved because he could get fucked in the ass all he wanted, whenever he wanted, he just demanded it. So there's nothing unusual about being a submissive top, and you should be able to accept yourself. Now, part of the way to do that is find other submissive tops and realize that you're not alone, or find dominant bottoms. And I, my experience, my my intuition is that a lot of times that pairing of submissive top and dominant bottom also crosses generational lines. I think of much younger dominant bottoms with older submissive tops. But in general, I think if you look around on recon or if you look around on the social media you're on, you're gonna find that you're not alone. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that combination. Dominance and submission is completely unrelated to sexual positioning, top bottom. Those are two separate things. What you do for sex and what you do for kink are two different things. And so you can have these combinations that seem a little unusual, but they're not. So the first thing I want to do for anyone else who's listening who's a dominant bottom or submissive top is simply say, you are valid, you are not alone. The second question here is about this is that kind of relationship where one person's been kinky, the other person's not. Now, this becomes really complicated because as you have these discussions with your husband, the real question is, is your husband kinky? Or is he going to participate in kink because he loves you? And that's beautiful. And that is a beautiful relationship. It's a little bit people-pleasing, but it is beautiful if someone says, I love you so much, I know this makes you happy, I'm gonna force you to try on this leather uniform shirt. That's great. I find from my experience and the experience of others that when you are playing with someone and they are doing something that turns you on just to make you happy, it doesn't hit quite the same way as someone doing it because it turns them on. The erotic charge when both people are in the scene and doing two sides of an equation and both are turned on because that is their specific erotic button, that is very powerful. So the first thing I think needs to happen here is hopefully a brutally honest conversation where your husband can reveal what are his kinks, what are his sexual interests, does he have any? How does he feel about your kinks? And if he has problems with them, then what do you do? This might be an opportunity to consider various forms of polyamory, not required. Ideally, your husband's like, oh my god, I've been kinky all this time too. I never knew you were, let's go do it. But that begins with conversation. You're coming out to your husband as kinky. You need to open the door for him to come out as vanilla, come out as a little kinky, come out as whatever. And hopefully your relationship's healthy enough that that conversation can really be honest. Because if it's not honest, if he pretends to be kinky to make you happy, that's going to cause problems down the road. So the first thing is simmissive top, you're perfectly normal. The second thing is, your husband and you need to have a serious conversation. In terms of education, there are a lot of resources. Obviously, I'm going to recommend my podcast. Obviously, my podcast, as well as the videos I've done on social media. There are other podcasts, as you know, like the King Boys Podcast. But the resource I generally recommend to people, there's a book called Leather Sex by Joseph Bean. And I still find it the best written introduction to Kink. It might also be useful now that the Leatherman's Handbook is in print to kind of offer that as a resource as well, with the caveat that it is historically situated, that parts of it are just crazy and wrong. But it does have a lot of porn in it, and it has a lot of the underlying dynamics that turns all this things on. So I hope that's a sufficient answer for you. I hope that you and your husband are about to start a new amazing journey together. But whatever turns out, I hope that both of y'all are able to move forward with honesty and authenticity and love and kindness. And thank you for the question. My next series of questions comes from Lane from South Dakota. And Lane, you have no idea how happy I am because you sent me like one, two, five, seven questions. I never get that many questions. So here we go. Um, hey Edge, I have finished listening to season two and almost all of season three since I last reached out a few months ago, and it has been an absolutely amazing experience. I want to take this opportunity again to thank you for the time and effort you have dedicated to this podcast. The knowledge you are passing along has been extremely valuable as I continue to explore the leather kink world. I've had several questions come to mind that I wanted to submit to you, though I imagine you're probably getting ready to wrap up season four. No, I'm not. That's exciting, right? So I don't know if this is super convenient timing, but I figured I would submit them anyway. So, first question. First two questions kind of work together. What career field are you in? And have you ever been afraid that your kinks slash fetishes would affect your job if your coworkers slash supervisor found out? Great questions. No one's ever, you know, no one's ever really thought to ask a lot about me in the Ask Edge segment. Broadly speaking, I am in education. That's what I will say. And that is why, like, if you look at my social media videos, that's why I'm very comfortable speaking and I'm very comfortable teaching. I'm very comfortable teaching about leather and kink because that's my career, it's what I do for a living. The fact that I'm only leaving it at that broad level, education, I think will partially answer the next question. I've certainly been afraid that Edge would be discovered in my workplace. And I have some protections. I would not, I would not be in immediate trouble. However, especially with the current political climate, it's a little terrifying. I have always been concerned about that. And that is why I've always tried to keep at least some at least thin wall between Edge and the rest of my life. And that's why I don't really use my full name, my actual legal government name. I don't use that a lot online. Um, and I've I've wavered back and forth. Like there was a point where I'm like, I'm gonna be me everywhere. And then I was and then the politics got really scary, and I'm like, I'm gonna hide because this is scary. I've absolutely been afraid of that. And even though um I have had protections, I will say I've just turned 55, and that means that technically I can access my retirement accounts without penalty, and so I feel not invincible, but I feel like, okay, what are you gonna do? What are you gonna do? Okay, you're gonna fire me? Great, I'm gonna retire early. So I'm starting to feel less concerned, but I've spent, oh, let's see, 20 years being a little afraid about that, even though I have certain protections. And I think everyone who has a a kind of a career and a kink fetish should probably be concerned and is probably concerned. The next question: what do you like to wear under your leather breeches? Nothing. I feel pretty strongly about this. Um, that leather is supposed to touch the skin. That's you know, part of the reason I love leather is I love the way it feels. So I want to feel it. I will say, I know some people, and first of all, if you choose to wear underwear with your breeches, I'm not gonna judge you. I think there are some people who have comfort issues or they have issues down in that area and underwear is useful. Certainly there are people who have underwear fetishes, maybe they want to combine that with their leather fetish, that's great. I know people who wear jock straps, they like jocks, they put that with their breeches. But if the question is, what does Edge wear under his leather breeches? The answer is nothing. In fact, if you're curious, it generally goes I wear a jock strap to the gym, I wear briefs to work, and I wear nothing at all other times. Oh, the other time I wear briefs is if I'm flying, because I just want to be feeling somehow that's polite to the other passengers. I don't know why. But I go commando quite a lot, quite a bit. Next question: What are your thoughts on leather jock straps? Wow, you are opening up a can of worms. Because in general, when it comes to leather gear, I have very strong and specific opinions. I am not a fan of leather jock straps. And you know, I have judged some title contests, I have been to many title contests, and there's always a sort of jock strap part of the contest. And these days, everyone is wearing a leather jock strap, often connected to a harness, connected to straps down their legs. I despise them because leather jock straps do not show your junk at all. They they do not conform to your junk. And the point of a jock strap is to show your junk. I would love, and I've I've told many people, people who are going on to IML, people are running for titles, because particularly because every single contestant now is wearing a leather jock strap. I would love for someone to get up on stage with a white jock, just a classic white jock, slightly used, right? So not snow white, but not like so dirty as disgusting, but a classic white jock. And if I was the judge, they would get all my points. Because the whole point of a jock strap is to cup and cradle support, it's an athletic supporter, right? Support and present both uh this beautiful crotch. And leather jock straps don't do that. They will never do that because leather simply, ultimately not form-fitting enough or supple enough. So those are my thoughts on leather jock straps. Oh, next question. I'm very attracted to the look of leather chaps with just a leather jock strap underneath. What are your thoughts on this look? Where or slash how often do you see leather people actually wearing it? Um, I'm I'm a little more comfortable with that. I mean, I mean, for me, that's a good that's a good look if you're in a playroom. If you want to start off with some layers of leather, particularly if the leather jock strap has a cod piece that can be pulled off and then you have access to things. I think that can be a really good look. I uh I usually see people wearing that specific combination only in porn. It's not something I see at the bars, it's not something I see in contests. If you love it, you should be wearing it. Ideally, you should be wearing it with someone because it provides a lot of access to a lot of things and it's really good for play. I could certainly imagine it at a bar, assuming there's either a strap up the crack or you're in a place where anal cleavage is okay. I would not blink at it if I saw it at a bar. Right? My my aversion to leather jock straps, let me be clear, my aversion to leather jock straps is very much driven by the way I've seen them done in leather title contests. I don't hate them per se, except in that context. I hate them in that context. So this combination I think would work great at a bar. I don't I don't usually see people doing that at the bar, but the truth is I don't see a lot of people wearing chaps at the bar either. We have so centered the leather uniform in ways that I really want to resist now that I don't really see that. I encourage you to wear that look. I think it would look great on most people. I think it's a good combination. I think from the front it looks like you're very well covered with leather, and then in the back, you've got a beautiful ash showing. Make sure your chaps are cut right. The back of the chaps should just run underneath your ass cheeks. If the back of the chaps are too far down, I don't think it's quite as appealing. That's the only thing I would say. Next question. What types of toys slash equipment slash furniture do you have in your dungeon? Oh my lord. Okay, this is a big question. Um I will give you a verbal tour of the dungeon. So it is uh, first of all, a versatile space. It is primarily my office, but converts to the playroom. And as you walk in, there's a wall of closets to your right. And the first set of those closets is all leather shirts and vests, leather pants, leather accessories. It's all leather. The second closet has the strait jacket, my um winter jackets, like my langulets, my rubber and cloth uniforms, and then leather cleaning supplies. Against the wall, as you walk forward, right? So you're walking in to the right, there are closets. There's a big black wall. If you've seen my videos, you've seen it. Big black wall in front of you. It's covered with leather art that I've collected across time. And then in one corner is what I call the bondage chair. Now it's just, it is literally a wooden chair someone put out at a dumpster back in an apartment building I was living in, and I just, I covered it in eyebolts. I use it for I use it for a lot of impact play. I use it to, I sit in it. If I'm fisting someone, it's a comfortable chair. I use it for some bondage slash restraint. Uh next to that, to the left of the bondage chair, is an old sort of really it's an IKEA TV console, but I call it the leather altar. It's where I keep things that are very important and special to me. It's a place of focus. Underneath the leather altar is a fuckbench that is disassembled, so that can slide out and very easily be assembled. Moving onward to the left of the leather altar is the daddy chair, which is really it's a cheap faux leather chair from Wayfair. However, it has that kind of presence where I sit to be serviced. That's what I will say. That's where daddy sits. To the left of the daddy chair is desk with my computer, because this is primarily an office. And then you're you're you hit a wall with windows. Now, um on so across from the black wall of art, there are huge wardrobes with mirrors on the front from IKEA. Now, on the very left end, at the bottom, you have um uh a portable sling and essentially a uh um a cot that you can uh get for camping. And the cot goes with the milking machine, which is actually stored underneath the bondage chair. So you open that up and you have at the bottom is all the sort of the rest of the heavy dungeon equipment, the sling and the cot, and that obviously goes with the fuck bench. Above that, that's where I keep my cover. Uh I have a bin full of rope, and then above that, I have some pull-out racks with some impact toys, canes and floggers, but also some shackles. In the middle, too, you have at the very bottom, you have the rim seat. Uh above, there's a drawer above that, which is pain and pleasure levels. So it has a lot of my impact stuff like brass knuckles and lead pipe and boxing gloves, but it also has a lot of other milking stuff, so things that can really edge you. Above that, you pull out a drawer and it's filled with small accessories and cock and ball toys. So that's where all my locks are, that's where I keep all of my tit clamps, all of my cuck rings, and other small accessories. Above that, you pull out a drawer and it's hoods. It's just hoods. There's like six or seven hoods. Above that, you pull out a drawer and on the right side it's gags. On the left side, it's blindfolds, and in the middle there's a posture collar and some fist mitts. Above that is the anal level, and there's a uh dildo harness and some dildos, as well as puppy pads to put down for play and some lube. Above that is a drawer just with nothing but chassid devices, and then above that is more storage. And then the last, the last mirrored cabinet is just all boots, and and that's a sort of verbal tour of my dungeon. Um, you know, I think if you look at my videos, you can kind of get a sense of where things stand. But if you're talking about what real equipment and furniture I have, I have a fuckbench, I have a sling, and I have a cot, and then the toys are manifold. The last question from Lane from South Dakota, who I'm in who I adore, Lane, I adore you for all these questions. Last question. What advice would you have for people who want to start creating their own dungeon? You know, the big thing I would say is that you must find a way to mark the space as special. And that doesn't mean a dedicated space. I mean, who the hell has so much real estate that they can have a dedicated space just for the dungeon? Some people, but a lot of us don't anymore. So even if it's your bedroom, even if it's your living room, you need to find a way to mark that space as special when it becomes the dungeon. Maybe that's hue lights that you turn red, maybe it's lighting a leather candle, maybe it's uh just the music you're playing, but something needs to fill the space. And it should be a kind of obviously sensory clue. Visually, it's red or the sound of the music, or maybe it's chanting, or maybe it's a candle, leather-sented candle. The key, if you want to create your dungeon, is to mark the space because you're transitioning from the ordinary world into this different headspace, this headspace of kink, fetish, dominance, submission, play. And you need to mark, you need markers that let you and the people you're playing with know that you've moved from ordinary space into extraordinary space. That's the biggest thing, that's the biggest piece of advice I would have for someone who wants to be creating their own dungeon. The rest, like what equipment you get, but honestly, it doesn't matter in the end. It doesn't matter in the end. If I have a well-demarcated space, I can dominate someone with my body. I can take my hand and hold them by the throat against the wall and knee their balls in increasing intensity until they are sobbing or delightfully orgasming. Who knows? Right. So it's not about the stuff you have, it's about the space. In my dungeon, right? So I call it the playroom. I don't know, it's because it doesn't feel very dungeon-y, primarily in office. If I tell Siri, hold on, I have to pause because Siri's always listening. If I tell Siri to activate the dungeon, uh all of the hue lights come on red, and that really is what marks the space. And then I will pull out. Sometimes I have a rug, and underneath the rug is sort of black cushioned foam mat. So if I'm doing sort of a messy scene, I will pull up the rug and that, and then I will lay out whatever equipment I'm using. The rim seat, I will set up the sling or whatever, whatever, whatever. But the key is none of this would feel to me like my dungeon if I didn't have those red lights. That for me is the marker. And so if you're gonna create your own dungeon, that is my advice. Doesn't matter how big the space is, it doesn't matter where the space is, it doesn't matter how multifunctional the space is. What matters is that you make it sacred, transitional, and a way that you and your partner, and that's important, right? Like a lot of times we think about, oh, I've I've got a I've got a submissive, I have to get them into that right head space. Yeah, yeah, you do. But you have to get into the right head space too, as a dominant. You have to make that transition from your ordinary life into this extraordinary world. And part of that is entering into this space. So that is my answer. Uh thank you, Lane from South Dakota. And uh thank you from my other person who I don't know why I'm withholding the name in the email, but it just felt like such a personal question that I wanted to give you a little bit more anonymity and still address your question for other listeners. That's it. That's it for this episode. I'm so thrilled with this episode. I'm so thrilled that you're listening. I'm so thrilled with these questions. And please send me more questions. I love the Ask Edge segment more so than probably the other segments because they really allow me to connect to people and meet people's needs where they are. So that's it. I hope all of you are having a great 2026. And um we'll I'll I'll be talking to you soon.

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