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Is Your FIFO Roster Challenging Your Relationship? | Kate O'Keeffe | Becky Felstead | The Resource Podcast

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She grew up watching her parents celebrate 50 years of marriage. Both sets of grandparents did the same. Love wasn't an abstract concept — it was the wallpaper of her childhood.

Then came the classroom. Twenty-one years as a teacher, watching kids navigate their first relationships, their first heartbreaks, their first moments of feeling completely alone. She saw what happens when nobody teaches you how to connect.

Then came her own life. Japan. A career pivot. Celebrancy. And eventually, the work she was always moving toward — helping couples find their way back to each other before it's too late.

Kate O'Keeffe is a relationships coach specialising in FIFO couples, a marriage celebrant, and someone who has spent decades in the quiet front row of human connection. This conversation is for anyone who has ever drifted from their partner and couldn't quite explain how it happened.

We talk about bullying, emotional maturity, the subtle drift that kills relationships, and what it actually takes to choose someone — every day, on purpose.

In this episode: 

→ The childhood bullying experience that quietly shaped everything 

→ Why 95% of couples say "we don't know how we got here" — and what actually happened 

→ The three touchpoints that keep relationships alive 

→ Why one hour a week of intentional connection changes everything 

→ What FIFO relationships need that most couples never think about 

→ How to spot emotional maturity in the early dating phase (before you're in too deep) 

→ Why you can't build a relationship on potential — and what to look for instead 

→ The relationship bank account: deposits, withdrawals, and what bankruptcy actually looks like

Connect with Kate: 

🌐 Free FIFO Connection Checklist: https://katecollective.com.au/fifooptinpage-6490 

📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kateokeeffe.coaching/ 

💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kate-o-keeffecoaching/

👋 About Becky Felstead | The Resource Podcast host
Becky launched The Resource Podcast during the FIFO Inquiry to spark real talk about culture, mental health, and the hard stuff no one wants to touch. Think truth bombs, tough convos, and healing with humour.
Now she’s back, flipping the script again. 

After 40 episodes and 15,000 mining crew later, the podcast is diving deeper into money stress, mindset shifts, relationships, and the stories we tell ourselves.

Expect raw chats, zero fluff, and life-saving honesty. If you’ve ever felt stuck, broke, or burnt out, this one’s for you.

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🌐 Learn more at: https://www.beckyfelstead.com/podcast
📩 Reach out to Becky for podcast & speaking enquiries here: becky@beckyfelstead.com

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