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No Excuses Coaching with Ryan Montis & Alanna Banks
Season 4! Quotes that people hate, but are absolutely true.
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Quotes That Strike With Unexpected Force
Speaker 1Hey Ryan.
Speaker 2Hey, hey.
Speaker 1Here we are, season four of the no Sees is Coaching podcast.
Speaker 2Season four.
Speaker 1Exciting Congratulations. Today we're diving into quotes that have struck us with an unexpected force, maybe triggering us, maybe making us angry, maybe making us feel like that really hit me right in the heart or in my mind, or in my gut.
Speaker 2Quotes that have struck us with an unexpected force. Can I share the alternate title for this? Yeah, it was like quotes that people hate but are absolutely true. I hadn't heard your title until just now during the recording.
Speaker 1What was it? Well, that's not really my title.
Speaker 2With a mighty force.
Speaker 1That's not really my title.
Speaker 2I wouldn't say oh, you're just talking about what we're talking about. Yeah, I'm just talking about what we're talking about, that was just the way you intuitively described what the subject matter for this episode. Okay, yeah. Cool.
Speaker 1Well, quotes that have hit you and you're unexpectedly angry or triggered or I know you hate the word triggered but those quotes that hit you and you're just like I don't know if I like this quote or if I hate it, or if this has been a total slap in the face.
Speaker 2Okay, but we're using the word you as in the editorial.
Speaker 1You meaning hypothetical person, not me.
Speaker 2No.
Speaker 1Because I think you can hit me with all the quotes you want.
Speaker 2I'm fine.
Speaker 1Are you indestructible?
Speaker 2I'm not indestructible, but I've looked at the list. I'm not going to lose any sleep over these quotes.
Speaker 1No, but what I'm saying is like they are points of contention. Yeah. Well, I think these quotes that we're going to talk about make you pause for a second and just be like did I hear that right? You know, yeah, or do I like this?
Speaker 2You know, what I think they all have in common is that you know, if it's troublesome to hear them, then they apply to you 100% yeah. So watch out audience.
Speaker 1Yeah, they sting a little bit. I mean some of them can roll off your back.
Speaker 2Some of them yeah.
Speaker 1But some of them are going to sting a little.
Speaker 2Yeah, cool, all right, so let's get into them.
Speaker 1Okay, I got to find them first.
Speaker 2You showed up for this recording without your list of quotes queued up and ready to go.
Speaker 1No, no, I have it ready, I have it ready.
Speaker 2I just say to the audience that I lost my lip balm sometime between leaving my office yesterday and arriving to my office today, and I hate that.
Speaker 1I hate that too. It's so frustrating I think you need multiple lip balms, ryan, I'm going to gift you a three pack of lip balms One for your desk, one for your car and one for home.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, or I'll buy like a Costco box of lip balms.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2I can't leave one in the car, because then it melts during the summer and turns to liquid.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's true. Or just your jacket. But you don't wear a jacket. I learn it.
Speaker 2I don't wear jackets almost ever and I could have a backup here at my office.
Speaker 1Yes.
Speaker 2I could have a couple of backups at home, and I have a bag that I bring with me to and from the office, so I could have one in there. I never leave that bag in the car.
Speaker 1Yeah, perfect.
Speaker 2So I could have one in there. Yeah, that will solve the problem. Yeah, had I done that, I would be in a better position right now.
Speaker 1I too don't have my lip balm. Normally I have it down here at my desk, and I left it upstairs. So we're lip balm-less for this episode.
Speaker 2And solidarity. You can go without lip balm for the remainder of this recording. All right, should we get into these quotes?
Speaker 1Yeah, let's talk about them.
Speaker 2Number first. This is a different variation of the way that I know this quote, but the way we have it on the list is be interested, not interesting. And I think the theory here is if you are interested, then you are interesting.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2And it's not necessarily as easy to just choose to be interesting as it is to be highly interested in the people and things around you. Which, then, is you interesting?
Speaker 1Totally, and I think this is more for when you're meeting with people and having conversations. You want to be interested in what they're up to and asking them questions, because people like to talk about themselves.
Speaker 2Yeah, right, yeah.
Speaker 1And so when you're in conversation with people or out at a networking thing and you're asking them a bunch of questions and you're interested in what they have to say, then that makes you interesting Because then they leave that conversation feeling like they really benefited from whatever it was you talked about.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's a good tip. It's a good tip.
Speaker 1Yeah, and I would say this one isn't one that hits you like a ton of bricks, it's more of a nice aha. I would say Like, oh yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's a nice reminder.
Speaker 1Yeah, I should ask people more questions about themselves instead of just talking about me all the time.
Speaker 2Right, it's quite palatable. Yeah, this one we're easing into these quotes but it does shift the responsibility for being interesting to the individual. It puts us at cost. So, if you feel you're not interesting, ask yourself am I interested in the people, events and circumstances around me?
Speaker 1Yeah, it also takes the pressure off too right, because you're not like, oh, I have to be interesting, I've got to come up with all these cool things to say. All you have to do is well, you taught me this, ryan. Treat everyone you meet like they're the most important person in the room.
Speaker 2That's true. Now it's the John Grinder alternate rapport secret. Just imagine everybody's the most important person in the world.
Speaker 1That's right, it's the most important person in the world. Let's go to the next one.
Speaker 2Okay, this one, this one. It starts to get a little bit more abrasive.
Speaker 1This one's spicy.
Speaker 2Yeah, there's this old song. I don't even remember what song, it was, some song that was popular when I was in high school, but one of the lyrics in the song was if you're bored, then you're boring. The next quote on this list is you're not bored, you're boring. You're not bored, you're boring, which I suppose the interpretation here is if you report being bored, that is actually a sign that you are yourself boring, as the experiencer of the boredom is the one creating the boredom.
Speaker 1Yeah, this one stings Like. This one for me was a big kick in the butt, like probably about eight years ago, because I was complaining of being bored and then I heard this quote you're not bored, you're boring. And then that made me kind of step into action and create more for myself.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Right. So like this is kind of like a nice kick in the kick in the butt to be like well, how can I not be bored? What things can I do? How can I create more interests for myself or activities, or you know? Stop waiting for everything to come to you, like the editorial, you, and just start creating what you want.
Speaker 2Yeah, there was, as part of some training that I did last year, we had some some people come in and teach us about some of the like group dynamics in in-person social situations and we got on the topic of, like you know, having fun at parties and cocktail parties and being social in these environments and the lesson was that it's if you want, if you want to have fun, you need to bring the fun. You can't rely on somebody else to be the life of the party or to, you know, make the party fun and you get to join in. And the only way to guarantee that you're going to, you know, have fun whether it's at a again, a cocktail party, a networking event, you know, a bigger conference or bar or a club the only way to guarantee that you're going to have a good time is to bring the good time with you and to be the good time and to give gift of that fun to everybody else who's there.
Speaker 2Right, you have to take responsibility, you have to take onus for creating that energy if you want to experience it. Right, you can't rely on other people to do it for you.
Speaker 1So true, and who doesn't want to be that person that's like, oh, so-and-so, is here? Whenever they're here, it's always so fun.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Right.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Be that person.
Speaker 2Well, you want to be that coach too, yeah. That brings that energy. Yeah, yeah who?
Speaker 1yeah, create the image in your mind that every time someone comes off a call with you, they leave with that impression of increase. Right, Bob Proctor talks about that.
Speaker 2Yeah, all right. What's the next one?
Speaker 1So the next one kind of connects back to the first one, and it's this the world is full of interesting things, but it takes an interesting person to find them.
Speaker 2The world is full of interesting things, but it takes an interesting person to find them. This reminds me of Indiana Jones.
Speaker 1Ooh you know A movie I have not seen, so please tell me more. Well, first of all, it's not a movie.
Speaker 2It's like four or five movies, I think.
Speaker 1Yeah, but you wouldn't just come out. Yeah, yeah, I think so.
Speaker 2Indiana Jones, portrayed by the wonderful Harrison Ford, anyways, in the movie you see, like goes all over the world searching for, like ancient relics and you know, items, and he winds up going on all these adventures and the character is very, very, very interesting and the thing that like sort of magnetizes excitement and interest to him is that he sees in the world these opportunities you know that other people don't see Right and he looks at a barren desert and sees a place to explore where certainly treasures must await.
Speaker 1Oh, yeah, right.
Speaker 2And, of course, the character of Indiana Jones, just like the actor Harrison Ford, fascinating, interesting people who you know a lot of people want to be around.
Speaker 1Yeah, well, this kind of makes me think about, I think from our first season we talked about like experiencing the world through childlike eyes, so like having that curiosity, that wonder, and that's what this makes me think of. Like, if you experience the world through childlike eyes or through wonder and curiosity, then of course everything is going to be interesting for you because you're always discovering something new or like seeing something from a different perspective.
Speaker 2Yeah so.
Speaker 1I like this one. It's a good reminder to have curiosity, have the learner's mind.
Speaker 2Have the learner's mind.
Speaker 1Is that a thing? Learner's mind? I think it is.
Speaker 2Sure, whatever, why not? Yeah, Heck yeah.
Speaker 1Okay, that's all the minds, yeah.
Speaker 2Okay, let's go to the next one. Okay, this one. Okay, you can switch gears a little bit with this one. If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough. If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough. Yeah, that's another one.
Speaker 2It's like it's a tough pill to swallow, really what it means is if you're not growing your price, staying in your comfort zone more than you need to be, especially if you're a coach or an entrepreneur. If you're not facing challenges and disappointments on a somewhat regular basis, at least probably you're not taking risks and trying new things or attempting to sort of skip rungs on the ladder.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2If you're going to be an ambitious entrepreneur, you kind of got to do those things. You have to endure the hardships of failure in order to earn victory.
Speaker 1Yeah, and this one is tough to hear, especially if you're like a perfectionist or if you have a real fear of failing, right, because it's kind of one of those quotes where you're like I'm afraid to fail, but I feel like I am trying really hard, but maybe you're not putting the effort in the right areas. That makes sense, yeah, right. So I think that's why this one's a hard pill to swallow, because some people might be like but I am trying really hard, but you're like putting your effort into making things perfect and maybe being the best, but you're actually not taking risks that are taking you outside of that comfort zone of being perfect.
Speaker 2Yeah, very true.
Taking Action in Entrepreneurship
Speaker 1Sweat right Next one Got it. This one is kind of the same. In the same vein, I would say you miss 100% of the swings you don't take you miss 100% of the swings you don't take oh.
Speaker 2I broke this up into two different quotes, but I think it was originally one longer quote. Anyways, I think the way it was in this document was if you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough, you miss 100% of the swings you don't take, anyways, so we split it, but you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. By the way is a famous quote from Michael Jordan.
Speaker 1Ah, yeah.
Speaker 2You miss 100% of the swings you don't take is a very similar quote.
Speaker 1Very similar. Maybe a golfer, yeah our baseball person. Yeah.
Speaker 2You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, right yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah so this is just kind of in the same vein as that other one. If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough, like, if you're not taking the shots, if you're not swinging, if you're not taking the action, if you're not sending the emails, making the phone calls, putting that thing out there on Instagram or Facebook or YouTube or starting the podcast, then you're failing.
Speaker 2Yeah, cool that. One's pretty straightforward that one's straightforward.
Speaker 1yeah, but this is what you were talking about today in the social media hub, in your Facebook community your free Facebook community In the free group that I have.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah. Yeah, social media success hub.
Speaker 1Yes, the social media success hub.
Speaker 2It's a free Facebook group. There's a link to it in my link tree on Instagram and there's a link to it in my Facebook as well, for those that want to check that out.
Speaker 1Yeah, but that's kind of like what you were talking about, where you get to this place of diminishing returns or something like that, or you climb the ladder by doing the things and taking action, but some people don't take the action and so then they don't get what they want. And then they're like why am I not getting what I want? Because they're not doing the things that they need to be doing, but they feel like they're maybe doing busy work.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, that's the thing, right, that's the thing You're going to be keeping busy but still not being productive, and that's a problem for a lot of entrepreneurs, right?
Speaker 2Yeah, and that happens when you don't. Usually it's at no fault of the entrepreneur or the coach, but there's some really foundational stuff in online entrepreneurship that you need to know and you need to know how to do it quickly, and there's a lot of people that realize they need to know it and they need to know how to do it, but they don't realize they need to know how to do it quickly and they wind up burning a lot of time on stuff that, yes, needs to be done, but should have been done a lot more quickly, and now you don't have time left over for the other stuff. Yeah, it's sort of like If you think of a convenience store owner has a nice convenience store on a busy road and they know they need to sweep the floor once a day to keep the store looking clean and tidy, but they never learned how to do it quickly and they spend four hours, five hours, a day sweeping the floor right yeah which means Customer service gets neglected, inventory gets neglected.
Speaker 2people are walking out the door without paying for stuff because you're in the back of the store sweeping the floor, right? The online equivalent of this is the coach that spends an hour to make one carousel, right?
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Or the coach or the entrepreneur that spends three hours fighting with Canva because they haven't learned how to use Canva or whatever other software right. Meanwhile, other stuff is getting neglected.
Speaker 1Yeah Well, it's also like not being able, like sitting on the fence. If you haven't learned how to make a decision effectively and you're always sitting on the fence and coming and hawing, oh, should I do this, should I do that? Then it's the same thing as the floor sweeping like missing out.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1I had to be in action.
Speaker 2I had to be in action. Which was it $6,000 or $7,000 coaching program a couple of years ago, and the first two weeks of this coaching program was 100% focused on learning to be more decisive.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2The first two weeks of a 12-week program was just dealing with being more decisive in business and in life because it was so important.
Speaker 1So important. Well, that's the difference right Between successful entrepreneurs and those that aren't. They can make decisions quickly Cool.
Speaker 2Sweep the floor fast, people, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1Don't perseverate on what broom to buy, just buy the broom and sweep the floor.
Speaker 2Yeah, don't do it with your hands. You do want to get the broom, but once you got it, just get it done. We all know that things OK. Next one here is from Zig you don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. There's actually kind of a lot of levels to this quote and it's true, right, there's a lot of people who think they've started, but they haven't. If you got your coaching certification, if you got your hypnotherapy certification, but you haven't started actively inviting people to become your paying clients, you haven't started.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Right, you've learned, but you haven't started being in business yet, right, yeah, that's one very small example, and the other thing that's implied here is you don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. What this implies, reading between the lines here, is that when you start, you're not going to be great most likely, and that's OK, yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Well, I mean, this is kind of like you don't have to get all of your ducks in a row to get started either. Right, Like, because there's some people who are worried about like, oh, I need a website before I can like reach out to people, or I need this thing or that thing before I can do anything. Like just get started. Like take one action, step, whatever it might be. Like ask a couple of friends if you can do free coaching with them for a bit in exchange for, like a donation, or like there's just so many ways you can just get started. It doesn't have to be perfect. You don't have to have your messaging and your niching and you know all of the like branding, because this is busy work that people do before they get started.
Speaker 2Yeah, have you seen that? Have you seen that meme with the ducks? I'll just show it to you.
Speaker 1I'm sure my screen.
Speaker 2It says. The first line in the caption is my ducks are absolute me. My ducks are absolutely not in a row. Second line at this point I don't even know where my ducks are. And then it says my ducks, and it's a photo of a police car with two ducks sitting in the back seat, as if they've been arrested by the police.
Speaker 1You never seen this? No, I've never seen that, yeah.
Speaker 2That's what I think of when I think of my ducks. Get your ducks in a row. Yeah, and the ducks are looking out the window of the police car at the person taking the picture. It's wonderful.
Speaker 1Yeah, you don't need to know where the ducks are, you don't need to know how that's the whole manifestation thing. It's just like you come up with the idea and you just start taking the action steps, one step at a time, to get there. But you don't need to know how it's all going to unfold, because it may unfold in a completely different way. Yeah, yeah, like when I was palm reading this summer, I put it out there in a Facebook group and said I'm going to be in town, I'm going to be doing palm reading. If you're interested, comment below. And I was inundated with comments and I was like crap, I don't even know where I'm going to do this palm reading. I don't know, I didn't know anything, but it all clicked into place. And then I ended up getting a great room at a gallery and it all clicked into place. But had I waited until I had all of those things, I would have probably missed out on the opportunity.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Right, absolutely. So it's almost better to not have your ducks in a row, because I wouldn't have been able to create what happened. You know what I mean. In the reverse order.
Speaker 2Yeah, I think we've drilled down into the duck metaphor. Probably enough for this episode. Maybe, I don't know, or we could talk more. Bear, in which farm did the ducks grow up on?
Speaker 1You ever heard a duck?
Speaker 2scream. I have Like no, it wasn't scared or upset, Just sometimes they just do it.
Speaker 1For fun.
Speaker 2I don't know what. Maybe it's fun, I don't know. So years ago I worked as a courier, like an express courier, and I would make like 60, 70, 80, 90 stops in one day and I had this route that was like a little bit of city, a little bit of suburb and a little bit of rural, and sometimes I would deliver to these farms and they were like way out there middle of nowhere, and so you drive onto these farm properties and the animals are just like hey they're not like behind the fence, they're just like there and they just know not to leave.
Speaker 2I don't know how.
Speaker 1Oh, there's probably electric fencing invisible electric fencing.
Speaker 2Well, for an invisible electric fence to work, the animal has to have a collar.
Speaker 1Oh OK.
Speaker 2And so these are ducks. They don't have any collars, they just like, don't want the person to go or whatever, I don't know. And so I got out of the truck to deliver package to the plinth. I was just going to leave, like whatever it was on the porch, and I hear this screaming and it sounds like a human person screaming in desperate terror. I was like, oh, I viscerally reacted to it.
Speaker 1I was like oh my god, something is wrong here.
Speaker 2And I turned and I look and it's just like a couple of ducks, just totally fine, just sitting there just making this scary duck noise.
Speaker 1Weird.
Speaker 2Yeah, it was weird.
Speaker 1That's interesting.
Speaker 2But they were like clearly not in duress of any kind, it was just like stay at the farm.
Speaker 1I just found my lip balm. Son of a gun.
Speaker 2Son of a gun. I wish I would find my lip balm in my pocket.
Speaker 1I'm going to put it on.
Speaker 2Listeners, if you've heard a duck scream the way I'm describing, please send me a message and I want to look that up.
Speaker 1Actually, why are they doing that, I wonder? If they thought you were going to hurt them Like you're like a predator, coming in delivering this package and so?
Speaker 2I don't think so, because they made no effort to move away.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Anyways cool. I saw a lot of really interesting things during my time as a day's breast career.
Speaker 1I'm sure you saw many interesting things, many interesting things OK. Next one what we're?
Speaker 2doing Podcast. We still doing that, all right.
Speaker 1Yeah, we're still doing the podcast Right Recording.
Speaker 2Yes, ok.
Speaker 1Coaching Season four. The list season. I don't think we mentioned that, but this season is all lists.
Speaker 2Season four.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2We got a list of episodes coming up, each episode featuring a list. I got a list of duck related stories and metaphors to share with the audience, going to parse them out over the course of this season.
Speaker 1List. That's like the Easter egg of every episode. They have to find the duck metaphor.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah. Or the mention of duck, or the illusion two ducks, yeah, ok, you missed 100% of the swings you don't take. Is that so we don't have to pay royalties to MJ? Maybe I changed it to I don't know.
Speaker 1I just wrote that out. I didn't take that from anything that came from my head, but I guess it's shots, not swings.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's shots and it came from Michael Jordan.
Speaker 1Yeah, ok.
Speaker 2Number 23.
Speaker 1Yeah, good old Michael Jordan we love him.
Speaker 2I think it's 23. No, no, whatever. Yeah it is, it is 100% yeah. Or no P.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2And then Zigg OK, we've got that one, we've got three more. Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. I like this one, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1Because I feel like there's so much out there about happiness or something, or being happy, and happiness is not a destination and I feel like I don't know. Instaworld creates that illusion that happiness is this place that we find, but it's not. You could be happy right now, it's just an emotion.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Right, it's not. You're not getting to happiness. Yeah, agreed, agreed so that's what it means Like it's not ready-made, like it's not. It's not a place you get to. It comes from your own action, so you create it.
Speaker 2Yeah, Actions and decisions right your decisions.
Speaker 1Yeah, it's kind of like you're not bored, you're boring.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1You know, yeah.
Speaker 2You have to choose happiness.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2You have to figure out what your terms are for happiness and make the decisions and take the actions to create that.
Speaker 1Yeah. But I will say that that is also kind of demotivating, because it's not easy. Like you can't just be, like we'll just choose to be happy yeah, you know what I mean. Or if you're not in the right mindset, yeah, like we understand it, you know.
Speaker 2Like if you were to say to me Because we're smarter and better. I'm not saying we understand it. Alana and Ryan, is that what you're saying?
Speaker 1She's turning right, everybody, I know I know I don't mean it in that way at all. I'm not saying that we're better. I'm just saying we're coaches who are well informed and trained and have like training behind us to be at this place where we understand this quote. But someone who is not there yet, someone who is maybe unhappy and hasn't had any coaching experience, might hear this quote and be kind of offended or just like what do you mean? Create my own happiness? Like I can't just do that. It's not easy.
Speaker 2Yeah, I mean this one's big, this one kind of. There's a whole lot implied here in order for this one to make sense. You know this includes fairly heavy subject matter, like accepting, taking radical responsibility for everything that you're allowing to exist in your life right now, which is by no means easy, especially, you know, when you're starting out on a personal development journey. But, at the end of the day, those who accept this, you know, happiness is not something that will be issued to you. It is something that you need to earn, for lack of a better term, or, in some cases, fight for or, in some cases, do all the internal work such that it does manifest easily in your reality, which, again, is still not necessarily easy in general terms. But understanding this is a good first step.
Speaker 1Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah, so, specifically thinking, the reason I'm saying this is because I was watching something on YouTube. Is it Dr Mike or something like that? He's like a YouTuber, he's like a young doctor I don't know if his name is Dr Mike. Anyway, it was an interview with him on a podcast and he was talking about how this is like not a helpful quote, not this one specifically, but it was similar because there's like really there's people out there who quote unquote are happy because they're rich and like they have a yacht and they have, you know, like parties and live a life of luxury, but they're actually really unhappy and so, like they may have created what we think is happiness, but inside they could be, you know, completely broken.
Speaker 2Yeah, they could be.
Speaker 1And they haven't like, and the external. I think basically what it was all about was like happiness is not an external job, it's an internal job. So you can have all the things that we think make us happy, like the cool cars, the yachts, the like hot partners, the all the things, but you can still be really unhappy if you haven't done any internal work.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Anyway, that's not what this episode is about. I feel downer there.
Speaker 2Second last quote, no I just have.
Speaker 1I have a lot of compassion for people who are maybe not ready to hear something like that. That's all.
Speaker 2I know, I know.
Speaker 1I know.
Speaker 2Okay, cool.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2Next one. Right along is the last one. Here's a source we can all trust Dolly.
Speaker 1Parton. Oh man, I love her, I like.
Speaker 2Dolly Parton. Dolly Parton has done some cool stuff, she's so cool she's helped a lot of really young people get into reading and have access to learning resources they wouldn't otherwise have I believe.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2She has her own amusement park too.
Speaker 1She has her own amusement park and she's had to live through so much adversity and like so many negative comments and, just like you know, people not being very kind to her. But she is a powerhouse woman and I think of, like you know, a successful businesswoman, dolly Parton. I don't feel like she's given enough credit.
Speaker 2I'm just looking at the website here for Dollywood. Yeah, it looks pretty great.
Speaker 1Yeah, I'm going to go there. Where is it?
Speaker 2Is it in Tennessee? Let me check.
Speaker 1Roadtrip.
Speaker 2Yeah, no excuses, roadtrip yeah.
Speaker 1Where is this?
Speaker 2place, dollywood. Plan your visit? Yeah, I just want the address or the state. It's like, not, it's like, maybe it's such common knowledge.
Speaker 1Is it Nashville?
Speaker 2And I didn't have it on the website. It is Tennessee. Okay, I found the address. It's in a town or a city called Pigeon Forge in Tennessee. Okay, hey, stand by listeners, I'm going to look up. Where is Dollywood? Maybe we'll have our first ever, no excuses coaching podcast retreat at Dollywood in Tennessee. See here, okay, I found the town that it's in. Yeah, it's pretty close to Knoxville. Pretty close to Knoxville, tennessee. It's certainly not in or part of Knoxville.
Speaker 1So it's like out of town.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's out of town. I'm guessing the closest to airport is Knoxville. That's an hour drive. It's an hour drive from.
Speaker 1Knoxville. Okay, all right Do-able.
Speaker 2Oh yeah, I mean it's in the States, yeah.
Speaker 1Has anyone been to Dollywood? Let us know at our Instagram, at the no Excuses podcast.
Speaker 2They got a steam train. They got an old mill.
Speaker 1Is it like roller coasters and stuff, or?
Speaker 2I don't know. It's definitely like an amusement resort place.
Speaker 1I would love to read Dolly's poem.
Speaker 2Yeah, I think it's like a family thing. It's kind of got like great wolf lodge vibes, but like on a much larger scale.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2Anyways.
Speaker 1Anyway, her quote is life isn't about finding yourself, Life is about creating yourself. Did you add that?
Speaker 2Did I add that no?
Speaker 1Because that wasn't the original quote. The original quote is just if you want the rainbow, you got to put up with the rain.
Speaker 2Oh Well, there was no quote to end here and start here, so I asked.
Speaker 1That was just my bad texting.
Speaker 2I see In the notes. Oh, okay, so the quote from Dolly is if you want the rainbow, you got to put up with the rain. Yeah, yeah. It's very much like kind of what was implied by some of these other quotes, right Like if you're not failing, you're probably not moving towards success.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, if you want the rainbow, you got to put up with the rain. So true, and then there was one more. This, I guess, can be bonus.
Speaker 2Bonus quote.
Speaker 1Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself, which I also love, because everyone wants to know what their purpose is. Right, like, especially when people come to me to read, when I read poems, that's something that people want to know, like, what's my purpose?
Speaker 2Or like what am.
Speaker 1I meant to do and I don't think that we're meant to look for our purpose. We need to become the person who is living out the purpose, yeah, which is really creating. Like, who do you want to be?
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1And in that creation you will find what you want to do and who you want to be Right I don't know. Because it's like, okay, if I were to say to you right now, Ryan, your purpose is X, then wouldn't your life be over?
Speaker 2No, what is it? And you were accurate. And if you were like Ryan, your purpose is teaching social media to hypnotists. And it was perfectly accurate.
Speaker 1Would my life be over? Would I be like okay, done.
Speaker 2Well, I guess yeah.
Speaker 1I guess that's like a short cut.
Speaker 2I would disappear.
Speaker 1No, but then? But isn't the fun part like figuring out what your purpose is and be like creating all these little things to figure it out? Or maybe you want the short cut, I don't know. I think it's subjective.
Speaker 2I think it's a matter of perspective. Maybe that's great for some people, maybe some people don't care, but is your?
Speaker 1purpose. One thing. There's another question or is it ever evolving?
Speaker 2This is outside of the scope of this episode. I'll have you know, alana Banks, your deep philosophical thoughts and tangents. However, since you asked the question, probably it's more than one thing because, like, my purpose even a year ago is different than my purpose now.
Speaker 1Exactly.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's dynamic, it's never changing, it's dynamic.
Speaker 1There is no one purpose, it's every evolving. I think, but there's like I feel, like there's like an overarching purpose, and then there's like the ever evolving journey to that purpose.
Speaker 2Yeah Right, it's the overarching purpose, the meta purpose.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2And then there's chunked down, individual purposes, purpose, eye purposes for during the life.
Speaker 1All right.
Speaker 2I'm down with that, that's cool, cool, cool.
Speaker 1All right, and on that, that's it, that's it.
Speaker 2And profound can of worms. We're done the quotes. This is the first episode of the list season, the first in a list of episodes yeah, I love that.
Speaker 1Yeah, what will come next? We don't know.
Speaker 2You know what? Just on my screen over here popped up another list from oh, what is it? From Facebook.
Speaker 1Is this a teaser for next week? Maybe?
Speaker 2Posted by my friend Chris Emery Bowman. No, it's a, it's a meme. It's like it's a photograph of a brick wall like a white brick wall, and somebody's written on it with marker. It's a list and the title of the list is things I hate.
Speaker 1Oh, I love it already. Number one on the list.
Speaker 2This is with a black marker on a wall. Number one on the list is vandalism. Okay, number two on the list is lists. Number three on the list is irony. You get it. Number four on the list is lists again. Number five on the list is repetition Get it.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2And number seven, no number F on the list. So it's one, two, three, four, five F, and then it's inconsistency Because the numbering system that they're following is in. So I've mentioned two memes on the podcast today. If you want to see these with your peepers, shoot me a message with the word memes and I will send you the duck meme and I will send you the list meme. I'm even going to screenshot the list and put it on my desktop before it disappears, okay.
Speaker 1Cause you might be like what If you're having a hard?
Speaker 2time visualizing what I'm describing, which fair enough. Shoot me a message.
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Speaker 1That would be amazing, and I'm reading, reading Dolly Parton's poem.
Speaker 2Exactly.
Speaker 1Yeah, book in with me for a palm reading. You can reach me at my Instagram, at Atlanta Banks coaching. I've also started a community of people. It's called the Ascension Circle. It's a bi-weekly group where we basically I just help answer questions and coach you around expanding your business, overcoming fears, whatever that might be. You can find out more information about that on my Instagram, too, at Atlanta Banks coaching. Yeah, and that's it. It's also very affordable, so come and join us.
Speaker 2Yeah Cool.
Speaker 1All right, that's it for this one. Thank you very much.
Speaker 2Bye everyone.
Speaker 1Bye.
