The Way You Think Is Costing You: Discipline, Time, and Better Decisions

Clarity is expensive, and comfort is cheap. That’s the line we keep coming back to as I stitch together a three-part compilation of the most impactful messages from The Magnificent Ones, recorded years apart but pointing to the same destination: sharper thinking, better choices, and a life that feels aligned.

I reflect on turning 32 and why gratitude is more than a mood. Through an immigrant perspective, “wealth” stops meaning only money and starts meaning presence, relationships, health, and the quiet privilege of everyday stability. From there we get practical about mindset and self-talk: if you keep telling yourself you’re losing, you’ll build behaviors that make it true. Change the framework and you change the results.

We also get honest about boundaries and time management.  “The phone works both ways” becomes a test for mutual effort, and valuing your time becomes a form of self-respect. Then the mantra “this too shall pass” takes over, not as a platitude, but as a resilience tool for depression, heartbreak, ambition, success, and the mistakes you swear you “should’ve known better” than to make. I share what it looks like to reset with patience, give yourself grace, and move forward without pretending outcomes don’t matter.

Finally, we zoom out to community and the power of conversation. Social connection is a survival skill, and sometimes the first step is painfully simple: say hello. If you want more clarity in your life, subscribe, share this with someone who values depth over noise, and leave a review with the biggest idea you’re taking into your week.

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Transcript

PODCAST: A Voice for Clarity

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This is not a podcast for comfort. It's a podcast for clarity. In a culture flooded with noise, dangerous narratives, and emotional uncertainty, this space exists to examine what actually matters and what actually works. Here we question power itself, belief systems, and the assumptions most people inherit without inspection. Most people accept instead of dissect. This podcast is about correcting that.

The Magnificent Ones: Collection Episodes 3 and 4

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Welcome. Bienvenue. Bienvenidos to the Magnificent Ones podcast. This is a compilation episode. So these three episodes were the most impactful episode for the Magnificent Ones podcast. These three episodes were the ones that you, the audience, responded the best to. And they they all occurred at during different times. And so I felt the need to combine all three of them together so that new listeners could have a sense of of of almost like a trilogy, right? Because these episodes weren't recorded around the same time. They're you know, I guess three years apart, I suppose. But the message they kind of all connect with each other. And it just I I feel that that would be very beneficial to you, the audience, to have this three-part compilation. So thank you for joining, and I hope you enjoyed these three episodes as much as I did, listening to it, you know, with different perspectives and different growth. The episodes now mean or have taken on a new meaning to me than when they first were recorded.

Living on a Rich Persons Money

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As they say hindsight is always 2020. And that could be both positive or negative. At least in my case, I can say that it has been positive. You know, when I evaluate my life in its entirety over the past 32 years, and I look at where I am currently, and I can honestly say I don't need anything. I want things. I want more money, I want more adventures, I want more of life comforts, but I truly don't need anything. When I looked at you know where I started compared to where I am, it feels like I'm the wealthiest person on earth. You know, I'm an immigrant and I've lived in the United States for 21 years, and I've you know been a U.S. citizen for 14 years, 14 years of highs and lows, 14 years of goodbyes and hellos. My past keeps me grounded, you know, in the present while I'm still focused on my future. And due to all that I've experienced, for example, I wasn't, you know, always the the soft-spoken person that I am today. I was you know always braggadocious and yeah, I just always had this level of confidence about me, and I still have it, it's just more internalized now. You know, I remember my younger days, you know, in which you know many people didn't, you know, have electricity when I was growing up, you know, or internet, or you know, running water. And and I and I look at my current life and I realize that, okay, the things that I saw on TV, I'm living that reality. You know, when I, you know, you saw the whole cars, you push to start, you know, there were keyless. I have a car that pushed to start and it's keyless. I walk up to my car and my car opens up, you know, or unlocks itself. You know, I I you know, you see people graduate and then they start their career and all of these things, and I'm living that reality. And that is wild. That is so wild. You know, you see people falling in love on TV, and then you fall in love, and when you fall in love, it's real, and it's not a dream, and you pinch yourself thinking that you're gonna wake up and you don't because it's real. That's something that, you know, over the past 32 years, I I feel, as I said before, that I feel like I am extremely wealthy because I have the things that money can't buy. I have two beautiful children, I have a beautiful wife. I have amazing friends in my life that are actually good people, and I'm surrounded by just amazingness. So I have to always, you know, take inventory or take stock of my life to just appreciate all the things that I have in its entirety. You know, how many people get to experience this life the way that we do in this great country or in a first world country where so many things that we take for granted and privileges that we have, people dream of those things. It's a dream for them, and maybe they'll never experience the level of wealth and affluence that we have, whether we deem, you know, the fact that we have a car as is as as being affluent or not. And I mean, I think it is. I think that we have to appreciate all the the little things and the big things that we have that we forget. We forget. We forget that the things that we have are the things that we wanted one day. And now that we have them, we don't appreciate them because we have them. So we lose sight of of the journey, we lose sight of of you know how we came to be, and ultimately, you know, who we are gets lost in the chaos of life or the journey of life. You know, some people, maybe they're they have the slow and steady approach, and some people have the all gas and no breaks approach. But I think the the one of the things that I am so truly blessed to be able to even talk about is the mind is such a powerful thing because whatever you think, for example, if you think that you're a loser, you're a loser and you become a loser. If you think that you're a winner, then you will eventually become a winner. And if you tell yourself you can do it, then you can do it. And if you tell yourself that you can't, then you can't. Think about how powerful that is. That's how you can trick yourself. Your mind can create things that aren't there, your mind can lie to you, and yet, even though we know all these things to be true, we never just slow down and just say, you know what? Let me just take a step back and let me change the framework of how I approach the world and how I interact with other people and how I view myself. Because if you think the world is against you, then you're gonna do things to make the world be against you. And if you think the world is with you, then yeah, you're gonna do things that are gonna align up with that, and your worldview is going to align with that as well.

Turning 32: A Blessing in Life

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So 32 years, man, this is my second birthday doing a podcast. To say the least, I uh to sum it all up, I think blessed is the best word to perfectly define my experience in life right now. You know, I was thinking about, you know, just how, you know, with some people, you know, I've told them that hey, the phone works both ways when they ask, hey, you haven't called me in a while. And to just to say that, hey, the phone works both ways, something I never would would have said before. So there's this a certain level of boldness that comes with age, I think. Not that I wasn't bold in other areas, but I'm finding that there's a lot more areas in which I didn't vocalize things that I'm vocalizing things now. And you know, just being able to say to an individual, hey, the phone works both ways, yes. If we're gonna have a relationship, whether it's a friendship or dating or whatnot, the phone works both ways. It can't just be you constantly giving and making time for other people. If they're not making time for you, then maybe you should use your time on other things. And when I said that to my, you know, one of my friends recently, that hey, the phone works both ways, I was happy that I said that because sometimes people need a reminder that just because you take the initiative to do something, it does not mean that me, that they should not also take the initiative, you know, because in any relationship, you know, you don't want to be stagnant. You want there to be growth, and growth is painful, and sometimes you know, you have to have painful conversations with the people that you love and care about. And saying, hey, the phone works both ways means that you should make time and also check in on me the same way I'll check in on you. It goes both ways. So the difficult conversations are becoming easier with time, and that's something that I'm I am finding joy with because before I think I was a little rough around the edges when I would have certain conversations with people. I was always the hammer and I was never the scapel. And now I'm more surgical with my conversation. You know, for example, recently I realized I was about to get into an argument with someone, and I simply said to them, I said, you know, it's gonna be my birthday in a few days. I don't have the energy to argue with you because it's gonna be my birthday in a few days. And I said that, and I just left things as they were, and I just walked away and I carried on with my day. Because not every battle is, you know, not every battle should be fought. You know, some things aren't going to actually lead you anywhere other than to a place of unhappiness. Not everyone is going to see or value your opinions or care about the things that you have to say, or care about your emotions, or whatever sacrifices that you make. So in moments such as those, why even bother, you know, engaging into a pointless argument that's not going to lead you anywhere? Move on and and focus your energy on the things that are going to move you forward. Because some things are going to drag you down and suck you dry of your energy. So I think 32 is has been quite rewarding so far because I find myself introspecting a lot now and also slowing down and evaluating more about the type of person I am and my impact on the world around me. For example, you know, I was I was looking at my daughter the other day and my son, and I just looked at them just playing, and I and I thought to myself, man, these two human beings are incredible. And the fact that I get to see them just be kids in their element, and I get to watch them grow and I and be part of their growth, that in itself is a blessing and a gift to just know that my kids are just so amazing. You know, the other day I told my daughter, I was like, oh my gosh, like my ankle's killing me, it hurts. And then my son overheard the conversation I was having with my daughter. He goes to the refrigerator, he gets an ice pack, he brings it to me, he said, Dad, I hope you feel better. And then the other day, my daughter asked me if I was happy, and I said, a little bit. And then she walks me over to the to the rowing machine to go and row because rowing makes me happy. You know, so I think that the fact that I am impacting, you know, these two little people's lives, and and my wife is doing a great job with them as well. And I think that I'm doing a great job, and just to be able to see that and experience it, that's something that money can't buy, you know. I I just I'm so fortunate to get to experience the lives that I have. And most there's most people that, you know, say that they want to have, you know, a wife and they want to have kids or whatever the case is. Even when they get those things, they don't get to experience the level of joy that I'm having and and the fun that I'm having, you know, right now. And you know, I've been having fun since they were born, but it's just so uplifting that when I see them, it's like I don't have any problems in the world, you know. It's like the migraine that I had, it disappeared. You know, and I wonder if, you know, other people feel the same thing that I do. And I don't want to do anything to ever disrupt this. So I'm as happy as can be, you know, and in that in and happiness is temporary. So I could say that I just feel fulfilled. I think that's a better way of saying it. I am fulfilled. You know, it's good, as I said earlier, to take stock of who you are, where you're at, you know, what your mental state of being is, and and how to uh proceed forward. You know, something that people should focus on is value, value of time and value of self. You can put a price on your time, but you can't put a price on yourself, you know, because your life, your life has so much value that you can't actually quantify it with an with a dollar, you know, a dollar sign. But your your time, you can definitely quantify its worth. And that's something that I've been utilizing when making decisions as to what I'm going to be using my time for, who am I going to spend time with, because that's important. You know, uh you could be spending your your your time on things that move you forward, or you could be, you know, spending your time on things that keep you stagnant or hold you back. You know, and the the the I think the message that I'm trying to convey with this is time and value of time and value of self is important for growth. Because say that you were going to invest into the stock market, I'm sure you would have a certain dollar amount that you'd want to invest, and I'm sure there's a certain dollar amount that you would want, you know, as far as returns are concerned. So your your time works the same way. If you don't know your personal value or the value of your time, then how can you use your time in a way in which you can extract value from the things that you're spending your time on, things that you're investing in, you know, the things. So if in other words, if you don't know your worth and if you don't know your value, then the the returns that you're gonna get are always gonna be random and disappointing. But if you do know your value and you do know your worth and your the the worth of your time, you can spend it in a way that will have meaningful results because you're being intentional. Intentional is key. So quality of time with friends is intentional. So you get an intentional return. The you know, if you were investing and you know had intentional investments that you took the time to vet the you know stock, the stock, that particular stock, you look at, you know, pretty good trends and you're confident about what you're doing, then that's intentional. You know, you had purpose, you invested time to see if something was worth your time and your resources to invest in it. And people are the same way. Not everyone is worth your time and your resources, and you have to be able to have um what's the word am I looking for? Discernment in that in that arena to say that this person's they're here to suck me dry. This person, they're here to uplift me. You know, this person, they're here, you know, as as a as a pillar. You know, everyone has a different purpose in your life, and you want people that are around you to add value to you as a person and to your your life and your time.

Be More Intentional At 32

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And or if they they can't do that, then have they need to respect your time. Because a person that doesn't respect your time doesn't respect you. And a person that you know wastes your time, which is your most valuable resource, is not a person that you need to be around. And so in this new journey of mine, I'm being even more intentional with my time because I don't know how long I have on this earth. I don't know how long I have with my family and my friends. I don't. So I'm not going to let you know things and people that don't matter take away from the things that do. Whether it's my career, if things aren't going the way they should be going, then it's time to shake things up and do something, you know, new. Um, when it comes to the fact that if I find that certain individuals are being overly complex, I immediately stay away from them because I there's a certain level of deception to people who try to be intentionally um complex. Simplicity is key. Everything that is simple and is easily understood, it creates an environment that flows. Anything that's overly complex, it stops that flow. It stops the good energy from flowing. And so, both in my career and my personal life, you know, whenever certain people are trying to be overly complex, I just, I just step aside. I let them do them, and I stay in my own lane and and I thrive in the person that I am and and the things that I do. I just think that it is where I'm at in life, but there's certain things that I just don't have the energy to deal with, you know, and certain types of people that don't want to be around, and I don't care for what they say. And and I'm okay with us just tolerating each other's existence. I'm okay with that now. Like whereas before it's like I would try to, you know, make, you know, be friends with certain people and try to work past our differences. And the truth is, you don't have to work out your difference with every human being. You're not gonna get along with every human being. Certain people you have philosophical differences with, and you can't remedy that. So the best course of action is just to tolerate each other's existence. It's not meant you know for you to be best friends, but just to let that person exist in their space and you exist in yours. It's like why why try to, you know, change someone or have you know meaning, you know, arguments that take you nowhere and just runs you uh rugged. That's kind of pointless. You don't need that. I definitely don't need that. So you know, I I'm intentional with the battles that I fight and intentional with how I spend my time. I think that's 32. That's the word for age 32, intentional. And I think the fact that I'm able to be so intentional with everything is allowing me to re-energize my spirit. And I think the version of me that is is is being developed right now, and and the version that's growing currently, I think it's a good kind of scary. So with the time that you have, find your passion, find the things that that matter to you most, and be intentional with your time. Be intentional with the with the the person that you want to be, be intentional with the person you choose to be with, the friends that you choose to have, the investments that you make, slow down, look before you leap, you know, and be intentional with all that you do. You know, my word is intentional, I don't know what your word is, but find that word and live that word. And you know, sooner rather than later you will see that. The more intentional you are with the decisions that you make, the better the results are for those choices. So

This Too Shall Pass

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once again, just want to say thank you for tuning in and thank you for being one of the magnificent ones. And if you liked this episode, please like and subscribe. Thank you. This too shall pass. Happiness will pass. Sadness will pass. Hard times will pass. Good times will also pass. Nothing is forever because this too shall pass. It all passes. Friendships go through cycle. Love, hate, all of these things aren't fixed. They pass. We say things like life cycle. Things have a life cycle. Human beings have a life cycle. You know, the weather has seasons and we have climates because things change. Nothing is truly fixed. So your hardships and where you are right now, even if you cannot see it, it too shall pass. We have to remind ourselves sometimes that what we are currently living is only a f uh but only but a infinitesimal portion of the entirety of our lives. So we could either be fixed at the problem that I should say, we we could either fixate on the problems that are before us and the challenges, or we can just move forward because the moment isn't forever. Sometimes we stop our growth because we don't know how to move on to the next thing. We stay stuck in the good thing that is, you know, present or the bad thing that is present, and we don't try to evolve from the situation at large. Or maybe we don't know how to, to phrase that better or correctly. It all passes. Growth is is painful, you know, whether it's good or bad. I remember I heard someone say to me when I was younger, be careful what you wish for, or be careful what you pray for, either or we don't fully understand the depths of the things that we want to acquire or the situation or environment we want to be in when we make certain requests. For example, when someone says, Oh, I'm working on my patience, I want to be a more patient person. How would you become more patient unless you are tested? Your patience has to be tested in order for you to become a more patient person, whether it be in the form of having kids or learning to share a space with a significant other, or learning how to collaborate with those you work with. Patience, if that's the thing that you wish for, pray for, you're working on it, it's a challenge. And you only become more patient because, as I've said, your patience is tested. When you want to become stronger, the weights only get heavier, not lighter. So let's not stay stuck in the moment and the situation when we have the entirety of our lives to live. Because it will all pass. And as time passes, eventually you get to a point where you either say, Man, what have I done with my life? Or, oh my goodness, I am so proud of the life that I have lived and the person that I am. And that only occurs when you constantly try, try to or strive for evolution, the evolution of self. You know, Marcus Garvey once said that when man masters himself, he masters his environment. And so many of us, we focus on all the things that are not us and try to make ourselves better that way. When the work has to be us, we have to put in the work to become better. We have to learn how to not only be critical of ourselves, but also pat ourselves on the back. Because if if you want to say, hey, this too shall pass, guess what? Your body is the engine that gets you there. So if you're not taking care of yourself or working on yourself, you can't ever hope to progress forward. It's not an easy thing. So I don't want to minimize what it means to overcome adversity or to get up when you're you're suffering from depression or you're going through a period of of mourning. You know, the the the light in the tunnel may not be there. It may just be pitch black. And as I've said, yes, it's easy for anyone to say, hey, this too shall pass. Yes, it is easy for anyone to say that. You know, people don't always see the work that you put in to get to where you need to be. But you are where you are, either due to the work that you're you're putting in or the work that you're not doing. And that's where you are where you are. And you don't get to choose when your hard work pays off. The the more you work on something, the higher the odds are that you will become successful at it. But again, the feeling of success, you know, can plateau. Because as I've said, this too shall pass. And I don't mean to be repetitive, but repetition is how we learn. So I'm I'm saying that this too shall pass because if you're if you're successful, you can lose everything, and if you have nothing, you could also win everything. So it we're kind of like the moon. We have phases. Sometimes we're a full moon, sometimes we're a half moon, sometimes we're a crescent moon, and so forth. Our friendships are the same way, our love lives are the same way, and hey, you know, all we can do is work to get to where we need to be, and while doing so, we are constantly working in ourselves mentally, spiritually, physically. It's important for us to get back to working in ourselves. I think that a great percentage of mankind, we chase, you know, material wealth, which is a great thing. I chase wealth too, that's why I work the way that I do. And I'm not going to tell anyone to not do that. However, in the pursuit of attempting to attain more, what is the cost? What is the toll that you mispay? Ponder that thought. Is the toll abandoning your family, missing important family events, not being there for your friends? What is the toll? What is the cost? How can you do things differently? Slow down and think about these

Mistakes Are Things That Can Be Learned

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things. I recently made a mistake. And I and I my my goal is to never present myself as this virtuous perfect person because I'm not. I'm flawed and I have so many imperfections. I own them. One of the mistakes that I've made over the past two weeks is I just have not been slowing down. I've been grinding and just thinking that I'm progressing. And I strayed away from the things that have made me successful in the first place, which was patience. And because things were going so well, I kept just putting my foot on the gas, not analyzing my moves. And in the process, for the past two weeks, I've made, you know, errors in judgment, I've miscalculated things, and I've disrupted the flow of how things are supposed to operate. And I own that because I was the one that didn't slow down. And I was counseled to slow down. So someone gave me some advice to slow down, but I just cared about the the progress that I was making and the success that I was achieving, that I missed out on, you know, a lot of little things that turned into big things. So I and I say this to say that am I beating myself up about it? No. Did I at at first? Absolutely. And it just goes to show that your intentions mean nothing. The outcomes are what truly matters. The results of the fruit of your labor are the things or or yeah, the things. I think things sounds excellent, are the things that you will be judged by when it's all said and done. So I was having a great streak, things were going great, I was doing a lot of things right, but I didn't slow down, I became impatient, and even though I it didn't cost me a great deal, I still have to fix my miscalculations and make those adjustments. And that's not something that I've had to do before because I've always been patient. I exercised patience. I would always look before I leapt, as they as they say. So it is so difficult to give myself grace when I know that I messed up. It's easy for me to forgive the misgivings of others. It's hard for me to forgive myself because I hold myself to such a high standard. There's lots of things that morally and ethically I just won't ever do. And I think when things don't fall into the moral or ethical category, and I make mistakes that are so easy to avoid, and I don't avoid them when they do come up, it tears me apart in the moment. And yes, I need to go back to home base and navigate that so I don't make those mistakes again. But I would say that patience is the thing that often, many times, stuns my growth. And, you know, I had to kind of do a reset, a healthy reset, so that I could say to myself, this too shall pass. So yes, I messed up, I own it, and this too shall pass. So, same thing for you out there, whoever is listening. Don't get hung up on all the mistakes that you've made, because your mistakes are things that have happened. And at the end of the day, you have to get to the point where you love you, you accept your mistakes, no matter how terrible they are, you have to accept that they've happened, you've done them, and move forward. And you can't make other people forgive you if it was something that you've maybe you offended someone, you can't make someone forgive you. You can't make someone accept your apology, but you know, you can acknowledge to yourself that, hey, I messed up, but I'm gonna move forward. That you can do. Hey, I forgive myself. That you can do. Hey, I love myself. That you can do. So get back to home base. And whatever crap you're going through, just remember this too shall pass. I wanted to make this very point and and uh hopefully this episode, you know, resonates with with you, and know that in your darkest moments, whatever they may be, whether it's depression, whether it's heartbreak, whether it's you feel stuck, or loneliness, whatever it is, this too shall pass.

The Power of a Conversation

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I think that human beings are social creatures. We've been told this time and and time again, and we don't realize the power of a conversation. It always amazes me how much we have in common with complete strangers, and how you know so many people have similar stories, or how you know maybe they have incidents that are you know the same that has occurred to them at different points in life, and you get to bounce, you know, off ideas with each other, or you if you're creative, how you can get more inspired by just listening to the conversation of other people. I think that's a human experience that really helps us grow because we growth doesn't just come from us, right? Growth comes from the situations that we deal with and the information that we have to process. And so by communicating with other people, we learn to kind of you know get a learning curve for for different you know situations because we now have knowledge of how to tackle you know some of life's uh struggles or or uh major decision-making things. The power of a conversation can reveal who you are as a person. Maybe maybe you thought that you were a very understanding person, and then someone reveals to you that maybe you're you're a little on the ignorant side. Maybe you thought that you know you you were a very polite person until someone had vastly different values than you did, then that also reveals a little bit more about you as a person. So it's very important to have conversations with people because that's that's kind of how we grow. And the moment that we stop talking to each other is the moment where we lose each other and we can no longer see the viewpoints of other people, and we become a less tolerant society. So maybe you just say hello to a to a person here or there, say good morning, good evening, goodbye, and say how are you doing to your neighbor. Because the less we communicate, the less chance we have of reaching each other. As you get older, you realize that these connections, these human connections, are vital to our just survival. People who tend to have fewer connections go through depression, they get sick easier, they have weaker immune systems, but people who have greater social, greater and stronger social connections, those are the people who thrive in society. Even the workaholic high performer that kills themselves by you know just outworking everyone else, or what have you, or they're they're narrow, you know, narrow-minded and narrow-focused and and what have you, that person networks. That person has other people who believe in the same views as they do, that to help push them forward. Because someone probably told them, like, listen, if you want to get to here, this is what you have to do to get to there. You have to put in the work. But imagine if someone didn't tell a lot of us that you need to put in this body of work to get this result, where would we be? So again, this is the power of conversation. I always loved my wrestling coach. My wrestling coach would tell me the most amazing things. To this day, I think that coach Tony is one of the greatest human beings that's ever lived. A selfless, kind human being that had a very unique way of communicating. And there were days where he'd be like, Hey Oakley, like, what's up, coach? Still call him coach to this day. He's like, How you doing, asshole?

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I'm like, what?

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He's like, make sure you're getting some rest. I'm like, okay, that's it's you know, it's random. I'm an adult now, and my wrestling coach is telling me to get rest. Alright, okay, alright, I'll guess I need to get some rest. But that's important, right? Like just being able to talk to another human being, and they're able to just tell you something like that. And you know it's coming from a place of love, you know. Not many people have that. But it it it it starts from somewhere with a simple hello. All relationships start somewhere. Your enemy doesn't start out as your enemy, you know, it's something had to incite that. So when you're when you're going through life, know that you can either go through life alone and miserable, or you could go through life having strong connections, and it doesn't mean that you're not gonna get it wrong sometimes. Sometimes you're gonna choose the wrong person to date, you're gonna choose the wrong person to be your friend, you know, you're gonna choose the wrong person to fall in love with. It's all a part of the journey of life. So don't get too caught up in the things that might happen and focus on the possibility of the things that can happen. You know, you have to open yourself up. Sure, by doing so, you need there's a potential of getting hurt in the process, but that is also a part of life. You have to learn what doesn't work for you so you can understand what does work for you. So the next time you see someone, learn to say, hello, good morning, how do you do, and goodbye. Society, we have to get back to the basics. You know, we need more Coach Tonies of the world, we need more Zach Demopolis of the world that are truly just advocates for humanity, and they're seeing the storm to come. They're they're looking past the right now, and you know, and they're able to see what is coming down the line. You know, for example, with Zach, just such a stand-up guy, one of the best human beings that I've had the pleasure of encountering, you know, his work, and just talking about being a selfless human being, his work, you know, has been such an eye-opening experience for me as well, you know, when it came to caregiving advocacy, and just to see what he's doing and the things that he's bringing to light in in our society that we take for granted and we don't see, especially in the corporate world, that caregivers, you know, just this, just the the light that he's shedding, that a lot of caregivers don't even realize that they're caregivers. And again, that starts with a conversation. So the conversations are important to society. So we have to get back to the basics of just saying hello and good morning and to each other. That's that is so crucial. Because if we're not communicating, then we're not moving forward, both as people and as a society. So I just want to say thank you to Zach for shedding you know light on on a lot of things that I was not aware of, and then that's even impacted me and how I view myself in a positive light. So if we don't say hello to each other, then what are we doing? How are we how are we gonna become better? So I say to you, challenge yourself to say hi more to people. You know, be the light in in not only your day, but in another person's day. Get back to saying hello. You know,

A Conversation With Yourself

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one of the things that I've come to understand is that life is very simple, but people make it complex. Remember when we were children, and this is gonna not be a generational thing that everyone can understand. But when I was growing up, as a 90s baby, I understood something quite simple. If I wanted to be friends with someone, it was very simple. Hey, you like Dragon Ball Z? I like Dragon Ball Z. Alright, we're friends. Hey, you like soccer? I like soccer. Alright, we're friends. But just how easy that was, some of those conversations that were meaningless at the time, or at least I thought they were, you know, have you know created friendships that have lasted for the span of two decades now. And it literally started like, hey, you like anime? And to this day we're still talking about anime. And life life evolves and we have so much to Learn from each other, but we have to get in the habit of talking to each other more. I mean having a real conversation with each with just with people in our lives. And you have to have a conversation with yourself as well. Like a real conversation as to who are you and who do you wish to be, and the impact that you want to leave on this world. I'm not saying that you your your goal has to be that you want to save the world, but I think you should think about what you want your impact to be on this world. What is your legacy going to mean? I think that starts with the conversation. Maybe you should have that conversation with yourself. You know, and I guess that's my two cents in this situation. But I I sincerely hope that this conversation sparks something within you to just put yourself out there more, you know, to learn more about yourself and those around you. And you may be surprised of the positive things that can come out of it. So go forth and conquer you magnificent ones. If this podcast challenged you, good. Clarity often does. The point here isn't consensus or reassurance, it's to leave you more precise than when you arrived. Keep what sharpens your thinking, discard the rest. But don't confuse familiarity with truth. If this conversation mattered, follow the podcast and share it selectively, with people who value depth and not noise. Until next time, stay disciplined with your thinking, selective with your attention, and honest about what you're really optimizing for.