Positive Day
The Positive Day Podcast is an assertive educational and informational that tackles the everyday challenges of life head-on. I share my personal experiences and the obstacles I’ve conquered, demonstrating that resilience is key. Each episode empowers you with the tools to become the best version of yourself. My mission is clear: to transform your mindset and elevate your daily perspective, making positivity an integral part of your life. Join me in this journey of growth and empowerment.
Positive Day
Feed Your Soul, Not Your Critics: A Birthday Reflection
Celebrating my 53rd birthday with you feels like the perfect opportunity to share what I've learned about living your best life. After three years of podcasting and reaching over 5,000 plus downloads, I'm filled with gratitude for this journey we've been on together.
The secret to living well isn't complicated, but it requires intention. It starts with focusing on yourself—not selfishly, but purposefully. Do things that make you happy without apology, whether that's a yoga class, journaling, or simply calling an old friend. When negative energy surrounds you (and it will), protect your peace. Some people never see the good in anything; limit your exposure to them. As I often say during difficult interactions: "You cannot give what you don't have." Their negativity isn't yours to carry.
Your physical and mental health are interconnected foundations of a good life. Even simple movements—pushups, walking, or my personal favorite of lying with legs against the wall while reading—improve blood circulation and transform your mindset. People ask what keeps me energized at 53? It's this consistent care for my whole self, combined with an unwavering practice of gratitude.
I've learned to live present wherever I am, noticing more through awareness meditation. When with friends, I put my phone away and fully engage, knowing every interaction might be our last. And perhaps most importantly, I've discovered the power of boundaries—saying no when necessary and giving only from my overflow, never from my cup. This protects your essence while still allowing you to be generous.
My birthday gift to you is this wisdom: Listen more than you speak. When someone tells you you've hurt them, resist defending yourself—just learn from it. Set clear boundaries. And always, always give from your overflow, never depleting yourself in the process. You are special, you are amazing, you are enough.
Sending you a big wave of love and positive vibes!
DANIEL MALCOLM
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Hello, hello and welcome. Welcome to Positive Day Podcast. I'm your host, daniel Malcolm, and don't forget today's, march 31st, it's my birthday, my third year on Reverse 3, and I just want to say, each and every one of you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you for your support, thank you for being with me throughout those three years, thank you for the, for the downloads. We now at 5 000 downloads plus. We have almost 2k followers. I just want to say thank you, thank you. I value and appreciate you. Without you, I wouldn't have been here today. Three years going strong. This will be my 22nd episode, so thank you.
Speaker 1:Just remember, if you listen, you find anything on here that really touches. You subscribe so you never miss an episode again. Wherever that you're listening to me, remember, share the love. Whatever you hear, whatever that touches, you share it with someone you never know and throughout my years, I've met so many amazing people and I just want to say thanks to each and every one of you who has supported me, sent me your feedback, made a comment. Don't forget, please, comment, comment, comment, comment. Put a comment in there. Whatever you think, um, just your thought, put it in there. Whatever you want me to talk more about throughout the next time um, the next year, let me know, put it in the comments. Whatever you want me to talk about things I talk about you want me to elaborate again more on it Just remember positive days about me myself, my journey, my learning, my growth, and I just want to share it with you, that everything I've learned. I want to share it with you so you find something in it. Please leave me a review. Wherever you're listening to me, I trust and appreciate all of them. Trust and appreciate all of the review. I will take it and I will respond. Please, please, please, please, please. I just want to say thank you. Today I just want to share my 53rd birthday with you and with this, I just want to say a special, special podcast, and the podcast today is how to live your best life. And with this, I just want to say a special, special podcast, and the podcast today is how to live your best life. And those are things that I have been using, I've been practicing, I'm improving on trying them out, and I will just share with you some, some of them, and again, I just my heart is so full with so much thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, um. So let's start. Let's just go right down in into it again, into again, and it's how to live your best life.
Speaker 1:Today's podcast about how to live your best life. And the first thing to the first, first thing thing about living your best life is focus on you, focus on what makes you happy, like me sitting here and sharing my podcast with you, speaking to you, sharing my life experiences, the good, the bad and always remember this is me telling it to you how I see it and how I feel and focus on you, focus on what makes you happy. Don't spend time about what people gonna think or say or do. Um, people will say things. People always do things. It's how you react to it. And just focus on you. Do things that make you happy, do things that you love, do things that that bring a smile to your, to to your, to your face. Just remember that it's not being selfish to do something for yourself. It's not being selfish to say, okay, okay, today I'll take 30 minutes, I'll go to a yoga class. Today I will sit and I'll write in my journal. Today I will go and do window shopping. Do something that makes you happy. I want to cook today something nice I will cook. I want to call this friend I haven't spoken to in a long time. I'll pick up the phone and call. Go for it. You know, do something that makes you happy. Focus on you. Focus on you Again. Positive days about loving yourself and focusing on.
Speaker 1:There are lots of people, negative energy around. When you realize that, um, some way that I use my my thing, it's like when I end the negative energies around me in the room, I just go silence, like I, somewhat, I use that silence, close my mouth, so that means I'm not hearing, I'm not listening. Let the people give their negative thought, their negative view. Let them live it out and just don't surround yourself with those negative energy. There are people in your life, you know, that are so negative they always have. They never see anything good in nothing. Don't surrender yourself to those type of people. Let them go. Cut them off. Hi, hello and that's it.
Speaker 1:You don't have much to say, you don't have much to do, but you don't need those energy. Those energy corrupts you. Those energy may, um, drain you those energy. I have this person um that when I called oh, my god, after, it's like I need water, I get thirsty, my energy is so. So I try to be so brief with this person and that's a family member. I have to be so brief, brief, brief with them that when I call, say what I need to say and I just cut it off, done, finish, not going too deep, not starting. If, if that person starts some something that I really know that's gonna drain me, I gotta go love you, I, I I gotta go find a way, find some, some way that you work with you or you just tell them just the energy you're giving it's really draining me. Can we talk about something else?
Speaker 1:Always focus yourself around positive energy, positive, happy people. And people in my life will tell you, daniel, you're always happy, you're always excited, because I try to focus myself around things that make me happy Music, play, music, sing. You are going to find yourself in situation where you're going to have this negative energy around, but don't try to have a conversation with the negative energy, don't try to understand them, don't try to justify any, any, anything. One thing I do with my negative energy that way I don't have an option, but I have to be in the negative energy. I smile, oh my God, I smile and I smile and I smile and I smile. You bring in the negative energy. It's like I'm in a situation where I don't have an option. I have to be in it. I smile, I smile and I smile and I said you cannot give what you don't have. You cannot give what you don't have. So I just smile and smile and smile.
Speaker 1:The second thing about living your best life is take care of yourself, physically and mentally. You guys know me. Physically, I hit the gym, I go for a walk, I find something, I just sit in by myself when I'm alone and I just do push-ups. I do um, I, I do push-ups. I just lie on the floor, lift up my legs, put it up and down, like always doing something physical, physical. Circulate the blood and when the blood is flowing, it change how you think, it changed how you, you, you, you see things and this is um and this is so good for your mental health. It's so good, so, so good.
Speaker 1:53 years old and someone told me um last week. I want to know what your, your daily routine is, whatever you're doing, whatever you're using. I want some of it, and I said it's just positive energy. Think positive and be grateful for what is in your life. This is my secret I shared with you every day, every day, I just tell you it's like be positive, don't let the outside energy comes in.
Speaker 1:Take care of your physical, your mental self, um, don't allow the outside energy to drain you like just you. You, you know just get up, physical, get up. Get up. Get up, just lie on the floor and do something anything. Lift your legs, lift your foot up Something I've been doing a very long time. I sit against the wall and I put my feet up against the wall and I lie on my back and I grab a book and read. Circulate, because I stand a lot with my job, so my blood circulates in the opposite direction and it is so good for your abs. It is so good for your abs. Again, I'm going to repeat just lie on the floor, put your feet up against the wall, straight up, and just grab a book, read, sing, put music in the background, some something, or take a moment, and I and I think in many episodes I've said I take a time off, go for a walk by yourself, just um.
Speaker 1:Summer is is coming right right now, and don't make an excuse it's cold outside physical activities really help your mindset. It change how you think and it help your mental state. Anything that's affecting your mental state of mind, cut. Cut it off. Your mental state is so important to you. Don't waste energy, don't waste time. Don't look for justification. Don't try to apologize for people. They're disturbing your mental state. Let it go.
Speaker 1:Practice gratitude Guys. Practice gratitude guys. This is one thing I always, always talk about. Be grateful for what you have. Be grateful, not what you don't have. What you have. Gratitude, it doesn't matter what you're going through. Gratitude. Find the good in every single thing and don't admit the bad situation. There is good in the bad situation. You learn something in the bad situation. Practice gratitude. You get up on mornings. You are alive, you can walk, you can talk, your blood is flowing. Even if you're on medication, you're still alive. Even if you're on medication, whatever you're going through, you still have breath. You be grateful for.
Speaker 1:Like when I leave work, a routine I have when I'm leaving work and I'm driving home, I have a gratitude tip download I have from YouTube and it's gratitude and it talks about everything in my life, from my blood flow, from my eyes. I'm so grateful and it repeats itself. It's the same download I have, but every day after work I'm so happy and grateful, no matter what my day at work went. But I always, always have this tape that I play, I put on the music. It's a gratitude thing and it's so gratitude for everything that my hands, my toes, my eyelids, my face, my skin, the water I drank for the day. I'm so grateful for the people I work with. I'm so grateful for the confrontation I had at work and the way that I actually handled it, the people that said things to me that hurt my feelings.
Speaker 1:I still give gratitude for that, because you cannot give what you don't have and people always treat you the way that they are treated. Always remember that. So if someone treats you bad, just know they don't, they cannot do better. That's how they are. So don't let that energy take over you. Send them love, be grateful that they're teaching you not to be like them. One thing they're mean, they're angry, they speak to you in a certain way, told, make you feel whatever you feel.
Speaker 1:Send this feeling love and with that love, send them love, because they don't have, they don't know a difference. So please be grateful for everything in your life. Be grateful. So, please, be grateful for everything in your life, be grateful, be grateful for what you are going to have, what is going to come, what will come. Be very grateful, Grateful for that practice. Gratitude, please, please. Gratitude heals, love, heals. Send love to every emotion that you're going through. Send it love. It fixes and it heals. Send love to every emotion that you're going through. Send it love. It fixes and it heals it will. It will Live in the present, live wherever you're at.
Speaker 1:And again, it's part of being grateful for where you're at, wherever you're with, something I've learned when I'm with my friends, I don't grab my phone. I'm with you. My moments are with you. I want to appreciate that, because that could be my last with you. Enjoy the presence, the moment with someone, talk about each other. So what's new with you, what's exciting with you, what's going on with you, what's you know, talk, express, tell them what's going on with you, what's exciting with you, what's going on with you, what's you know, talk, express, tell them what's going on with you. You know, just enjoy the moment. Who's around you, not about who's not there, but who's with you, the moment. Wherever you're at on a drive, you're driving, you're walking, you're with somebody in the grocery store, you at work, always remember be so, being that present, right where you you you're at, just be there, just just enjoy it. Enjoy it. Look, look, look around you something.
Speaker 1:I I I started, I started a couple, like maybe a month ago awareness meditation of being aware of what's around me. I've always been noticing things. When I started a meditation, awareness meditation and I realized that I notice more things, I take smell of more things, I realize more people that's around me because I take a second to actually see. And something I learned in the awareness meditation is the brains, your thoughts. When you see something, you see, somebody will bring some, will say something about whatever that's in front of you.
Speaker 1:And what I've learned it was always looking for something in someone and whatever I saw your nose, your eyes, whatever you, you you're wearing you guys know I love fashion, so always somebody close and always say look for the good in everything, in every person, and and and it really makes a big difference, it's really don't look at like if a negative thought about somebody comes up, send it love, send this negative. You see something, oh something, a spot on the clothes. You see something. It's if the energy that you're getting from this person is a negative energy. You give that energy, love and away and say I send you love. I say I send, I send you love and look for something else in this person.
Speaker 1:Because the same way you see people, the same way you judge people, you are going to be judged. People will will will judge you and and on this last night, last night I was with someone and the person told me when I meet somebody, I always start judging them, and not judging them in a right in a like, not judging them in a positive way, but in a negative way. And I asked them why do you always judge people this way? And the person respond to me and say because that's what I was when I grew up, that's how I was judged. Always look at the negative in me. And I said so when are you gonna cut that? Break that trend off? Because I don't think you ever look at the other side of the coin, at the person that you're giving that energy to.
Speaker 1:Would you want to be the person receiving this energy? Because that's how you were taught, that's how you grew up. Break it, don't give that energy to somebody else. So break it, end it, and so I never was aware of that.
Speaker 1:And those are things that I grow, because it makes me aware even more of things. And I always tell you that I'm always growing, I'm always changing, I'm always learning something to better myself, for me, to have peace and for me to find more love and more joy with wherever, wherever, wherever I am, whatever I am going through, more joy with wherever, wherever, wherever I am, whatever I am going through. So always be aware of the way you speak to people. Sit back and say would I want someone to speak to me the way that I'm speaking to you, if it's the tone, if it's the whatever, whatever. You know how you're speaking to someone and you know would you want someone to speak to you that way?
Speaker 1:So take a moment and something I really, really, really want to say when someone comes to you and tell you whatever you said or did, that hurt their feeling, it's not to build a wall, it's not for you to be defensive, it's not for you to answer, it's not for you to give your comment, your reason why you act the way you react, but just listen to what a person is saying and tell yourself how can I make myself better and improve. So I don't make another person feel the way that I made you feel. And you can apologize you could, that is totally up to you but don't speak back and give a reason or make a comment, or just listen and and at the end you say you apologize. However you want to end it, but end it with, not from your point of view, but this person, because they're telling you how what you said, did, react, spoke, hurt them, make them feel the way they feel. And if they're telling you that it's just telling you, that it's just for you to learn, be aware of how you're interacting, communicating with people so you could be better, love yourself even more and see that's a sign of growing. If you're defending, you're protecting, you're giving your reason, you're not growing. You're not growing, you're not moving forward and you're not making a change in your life. So listen, hear the comments, what they're telling you, and you don't have to fight back and I know it's our human defense. If somebody's telling us something that we did, we want to fight back, we want to answer, we want to say something. Listen, listen, hear them out and at the end, apologize. But look at that situation in a way where you can learn, you could change, you could make a difference in your life and make a difference in someone else's life. So listen to the way you speak to someone. You communicate with someone and if they give you a feedback, the feedback is not for you to defend. That feedback is not for you to answer the only thing, they're just letting you know how you feel and if you felt and take that as a positive thing in that you're learning something, you are learning something.
Speaker 1:And my favorite, favorite favorite say no. Say no, it's not a bad thing. Say no is you're building you. You have. You have boundaries and when people cross that boundaries, you don't want that. You don't want people to cross your boundaries. It's like having your garden and somebody's coming in your garden and take your fruits, taking what you've grown. You don't want that and say no, it's like this, your boundaries. You just have your boundaries where, hey, nope, I don't want you to enter my garden and pick my, my fruits, and that's where you say no. And don't forget no is it's like you're building your, your boundaries, and people respect you because they know you have boundaries, they know they cannot cross your path. They, they know that and always look at the know from your perspective, from. Will that make my life better? Will that make my life stronger? Will that make me? What am I learning? And always remember, always, always remember.
Speaker 1:You always have to give from your overflow, never, never give from your cup, your overflow, never, never give from your cup. Don't give from your cup. Give from your overflow, your overflow, the excess that's not going to hurt you, that's not going to bother you, that's not going to make a difference in your life. If you give from your cup, that means you are giving from you and that will hurt you. Always give from your overflow, your overflow. You don't need it, it's not going to make an impact in your life, so you give from that. Just remember that today's podcast is about living your best life and this is part of living your best life. If you don't learn anything from this podcast today, just learn to give from your overflow, never from your cup. Giving from your cup is like you're robbing yourself and that person or that thing that you're giving from your cup. Always give from your overflow and overflow. My, my birthday gift to you today is never give from your cup, always give from your overflow and you will be able to say no, because you will see that when you give from your overflow, it doesn't hurt you, it doesn't affect you. Giving from your overflow it doesn't hurt you, it doesn't affect you. Giving from your cup makes an effect. It changes. It hurts you all the time. It will hurt you from your cup.
Speaker 1:Okay, and the last part that I really want to talk about is I did a little bit of it from the beginning it's being aware of how you speak to people, how you talk, how you speak to people. Be aware of things around you. Take a second and just smell what's around you. Take a second and just really be aware how you speak to people, how you greet people, how you interact with people, and just ask yourself is that how I want to react with people? Is that how I want to react with people? Is that how I want to speak to people? Would I want someone to speak to me that way and find out your values and your beliefs, what you believe in. It's your belief. It's your belief, your perspective on how you see things and how you hear things and how you ingest it, and just be aware of that. Just be aware of your surroundings, aware of what's around you and how you speak to people and listen more. Listen more to what's around you, listen more to when people are speaking to you.
Speaker 1:I know sometimes we just like to butt in. Somebody says something. We just want to talk back. But just listen, listen a bit more. Just take a second. Somebody's speaking. Listen, yes, you're thinking in your head, I'll miss my thought. Even independent people write it down speaking. Listen, yes, you're thinking in your head, oh, I'll miss my thought. Even independent people write it down. But listen, listen. Take some time to just listen. Listen more. Talk less, listen more. Have a belief, believe in something, believe in something and have your value, values, what makes you who you are.
Speaker 1:Okay, and this, this is and this is what I just want to share with you today. Guys, thank you, thank, thank you again for always supporting me, thank you again for always being around with me, and just remember my gift to you today. It's like it's like never give from your cup, always from your overflow, overflow, not from your cup. You're robbing yourself and as I leave you every day, I just wanna say thank you, thank you today for making my birthday very, very special. I'm honored and happy to share that day with you and thank you, and thank you, and thank you.
Speaker 1:I don't have enough gratitude to say to you, but I just made a note that I really want to leave you with, as I leave you every time. I just want you to be kind to yourself, love yourself, respect yourself, do something that makes you happy and treat yourself the way you want someone to treat you. Expect nothing from someone. Expect nothing. You will not be disappointed, you will not get angry, you will not get mad if you just have no expectations from anything or anyone, but just enjoy the moment, just enjoy where you are. And again, as I leave, you are special. You are amazing. You are enough. Love yourself. Thank you again, thank you. And this is daniel from positive day podcast. Thank you till next time.