5. How To Get Unstuck

Being and feeling stuck is so hard. The burnout feeling is creeping in, and we don't want that for you!! 
So, on today's episode of the Wake Up & Be Wealthy show, Nellie will be chatting about the way to get unstuck in life and in business is to MOVE and to take action!!

Listen in to learn about moving:

• in your business
• in your home 
• in your personal growth and development

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I had a lot of coffee already and some ketones today, dropped off Emma, and now we are getting ready to kick off the day, and it's gonna be a great day, stay with me, it's gonna be a great day, it's gonna be a great day. Okay, so let's talk about how to get unstuck. This is something that I hear from, oh my gosh, so many women, if I could just get unstuck, I could just get unstuck. I'm in a funk, I am frustrated, I am overwhelmed. Right? It is that feeling that does not feel good, right. And this is what I talked about so much. Whatever we think about it keeps expanding and keeps expanding, right. So if you keep saying that you're stuck, you're going to start, you're going to continue to keep seeking things that make you feel stuck. If you feel overwhelmed. Same thing, we're going to keep manifesting things that make you overwhelmed. So the biggest thing to first get unstuck, is to stop saying that you're stuck. And I know it's easier said than done when you are feeling that way. So let's just go ahead and first, like, address that. But it's not an excuse to keep saying it because we do have we have power over our words, right? We have responsibility with our words. And we we control what we say, right? We can't always control what we think and feel. But we can absolutely control what we say and what we do. So I love that Mel Robbins says that we're like, you can't control your feelings, but you can absolutely control your actions. So 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, raise your right hand and say, I solemnly swear to stop saying that I am stuck, stop saying that I'm overwhelmed. Stop saying that I'm frustrated, right? If you're feeling that way, and you say it once, then I want you to say, What am I going to do about it? Right? Say with me? What am I going to do about it? Right? Because then we immediately go into solutions mode, we immediately go in to problem solving mode, right? We take action. And that is how you build your wealthy life is one small step at a time. If we keep saying that we're stuck and frustrated. And overwhelmed. We're just getting further and further away from our wealthy life, our dream life, right? The one that we journal about the one that we think about the one that we talk about, right, that we really, really want. And we've got one life, so we might as well make it a wealthy life. Am I right? Can I get an amen? So that is the first step is to stop setting that you're stuck. So you get one hall pass, you can say it once once a day, I'm being very generous here. You can say at once, once a day. And then after that, you get to ask yourself, well, what am I going to do about it? And anyone in your circle, I want you to enroll them in this same agreement because our environment is so important. If everyone around you is whining and complaining, then you're gonna feed the beast, right? You're going to be like, Ooh, okay, how do I feel this way? Right? And then you're gonna start seeking that and manifesting it. So your environment is key. So someone has to be the first in the, in the group to be like, You know what you guys from here on out when we're frustrated or overwhelmed. This is what we're going to do about it and you can totally make it your own and say that it's all your idea. I am okay with that. I want you to look really cool and be like, You know what, okay, everyone raised their right hand and you get one Hall Pass a day, and then we're gonna go into problem solving. Remote. So you're welcome. You get to look like a badass and be the superhero. And I don't need any credit. So that is the first step. Now, the next step is really finding things that light your soul on fire. If I look at my 15 year career, and all different capacities, all the things I've done over 15 years, every time I've been passionate about something, where it lights my soul on fire, I don't stay stuck at all. So you also get to be honest with yourself, are you just creating a business and a life that you don't love. And that's why you're getting stuck because it feels so out of alignment with who you truly are meant to be your authentic self. That could be it, it equally could be you are terrified a f of success. And you're like, I don't know, if I'm ready for all of this, right? Because your brain is going to, quote unquote, try to protect you when it doesn't know if it's safe, right? Like, it's scary to get on stage and speak in front of an audience, right? It's scary to go on Facebook Live, it's scary to even go into the DMS and like say, hey, I really think I could support you would you like to hop on a call and chat more about it right with somebody that you've been chatting with in the DMS. So those things are scary. And so you may be stuck for one or two things that it's out of alignment, or it's so in alignment that you're scared AF. So you've really got to look at it under a magnifying glass, and get really, really clear with which one is it if it's out of alignment, then it gets to go boo, like it gets to go. It can't stay here anymore. So for example, I was feeling so stuck, because I was feeling like I was constantly playing catch up. And then that record, that broken record was going on in my head. And one of my favorite affirmations is I'm ahead in all areas of my life, because that's really how I want to live. It doesn't mean I will be perfect, but I really want to feel that I'm always on top of it. My team is on top of it. We'd have you know, just enough on our plate to you know, be able to stay ahead but not obviously get behind, right. So it's being really mindful of that. But the the housework y'all was killing me. I hate laundry. And so all those feelings about laundry, I can say all day long, I am so blessed. I say this to my clients all the time, I am so blessed to do laundry, I'm so excited to do laundry, and it can help. But here's the cold, hard truth. I don't believe that because I don't feel that way, right. And so even if you say something, and you really don't believe it, it's still going to frustrate you. It's still going to overwhelm you. And so at some point, we've got to be honest with ourselves and say, is it worth saving some money? Or would that be money better well spend to delegate to somebody else that truly, genuinely loves doing laundry, there are people out there, it's crazy to me, there are people out there that truly feel blessed to do laundry, they're excited to do laundry and get guests like guess what, like, I am truly grateful to be able to have a washing machine and all of those things. So let's just go ahead and call that out. So there's not a negative Nellie out there being like, well, aren't you grateful that you have you know, the ability to do that? Of course I am. Right. But here's the thing, I have a huge vision of creating the wealthy Queen foundation to be able to fund over a million dollars worth of funding for women and girls with their business and nonprofit ideas that would have not been able to happen otherwise right to truly shatter the glass ceiling once and for all. In addition to that create education from a financial aspects of financial education for women and girls that make it way more accessible and fun for them. So I've got a big mission and vision. And on top of that, obviously our whole business side with wealthy queen movement so there's lots of big goals and dreams in the pipeline for the next year, two years, three years, five years, 10 years however long I'm here so the the the time that it is taking me every single week to spend on laundry, dishes, tidying up the house, right because I really do for an ADHD brain. I really genuinely do love to have a clean home. It makes my brain feel so much more calm, which then I feel more creative. I feel more energetic. I'm a generator if you know anything about human design, so I move really, really fast, which means I do make a lot of messes, and I have a four year old that equals he makes a lot of messes. And my husband, he also makes messes. So we're all at fault here. So a few weeks ago, I waved my white flag, we have had somebody in our home before. But then she got married and got a full time job. And I just went ahead and put it on pause because I had the mindset of, well, we're paying off debt and that's money that I could use to pay off debt. So therefore, I'm going to suffer. This is completely out of alignment. And I tell people not to do this. But it was a scarcity move, and so sometimes we have to learn our lesson. I have a work in progress, just like anyone else out there. And so I waved my white flag again, and I looked at my husband a couple of weeks ago, and I said, I'm done. I am paying somebody to come in six hours a week, to help with the day to day because the, you know, even if we like declutter, which we always are decluttering, and always organizing, dishes and laundry specifically, never stop. And I think that is the hardest thing for my brain to grasp, is that is never done, right. It is something that I don't love to do and it will always be on the to do list. And when you work all day, right, I wake up at 440, Monday through Friday, and I start my day, and then I'm not done. Well, I'm a mother and a wife so I'm really not done until I go to bed. Right. So the last thing that I want to do is do laundry and dishes every single week, right? Multiple times a week. So the option is either do it and it still doesn't feel great, and it sucks up a lot of time and energy, don't do it and obviously, that's not really an option, because we're going to run out of underwear and the dishes are gonna get really, really gross. Or I hire somebody to do it. So I chose the last option. And I can feel the mental health difference, I can see the difference, even in a short amount of time on my business, because guess what, I just freed up six fucking hours in my life, right? So sometimes you're stuck, because you're trying to do a bunch shit that you don't want to do, right? So I really want you to look at, okay, what are all the things that are on my plate that don't need to be there? And you get to make abundance moves, not scarcity moves, and really figure out? How can I get them off of my plate? Can I delegate them to a child? Can I delegate them to a significant other? Can I pay somebody you know what's so beautiful about paying somebody is they are they have got skin in the game. And I make a list for our person. And she checks it off. And by the time I'm done working, our home is like put back together. Right? It's like the honey do list that like actually fucking gets done. Right? It is improving my mental health. Like I said, it's improving my relationship with my husband with my daughter, to the point where I'm manifesting somebody to come in our home, she comes in twice a week, I'm manifesting somebody to come in every day, Monday through Friday, because there's so much that that person can do, whether it's meal prep, mopping toilets, laundry, dishes, run errands, right? I can think of plenty of things for somebody to do, right. So I took that next step, right? So we are first choosing to not say that we're stuck, right and to make something to really decide, okay, what's better, right? I'm going to take action on it, you get your one hall pass a day. But then we got to decide, are you feeling stuck because of the out of alignment? Or are you fear? Are you afraid of success or both? Right? And so then we're getting really clear on what are all the things all the shit in your way that you keep putting on your plate that you don't want to put on your plate, right? So we either get to delegate it, we get to delete it, right? Or we do get to do it. So if you do have to do it for whatever reason. So like in that interim amount of time where the person left for a full time job, and then we hired our person. Although I still didn't love it. I find I found ways to try to love it right? I listen to a podcast, I listen to music, personal development, whether it be a book or a program that I'm in right, talked on the phone with somebody. So we get to really, really decide though, even if you can get a few things off of your plate, especially if they're reoccurring. It's going to make you feel so much less stuck, and way more creative. I make so much money when I travel because I don't feel stuck at all right? I feel so free. I joke with my friends that like one of these days. I'm just going to buy a plane ticket to like somewhere and then like have lunch and come back because I feel so amazing when I'm traveling because it feels free, right? I get on a plane. I have my cup of coffee. I can't really go anywhere. So I open up my laptop or my journal or read a book And then I go to the location and even if it's business related, we go explore we go do right we be we, we see new things. So my my senses are all like, on huge like overstimulation in the best way possible that I'm like, so excited to live, right. And so all the creative ideas happen, all the content is created, like how I truly want to show up in the world. So it's really taking all of that and incorporating that in my day to day life that I always feel that way. Right? So we really got to look at all this shit in your way. And what are we going to do about it? Right? This is all about action here. The way you get unstuck is moving. I don't overthink things. Because I know if I overthink that I will, I will, I will stop myself and I will self sabotage. So one of my biggest tricks is as soon as I have a really creative idea, and I'm passionate about it, I just trust my intuition that it's going to guide me and I move. So the best thing you can do to get unstuck at the end of the day is Move, move, move, move your ass, right? Move it, move it, move it, right, it's like the song, I like to move it, move it, you like to move it, move it, we like to move it, okay, so I hope this really supports you motivates the crap out of you to get unstuck, because you are better than that. And you know that you know that. So we are getting our asses moving. We have one hall pass a day. But after that, I really want you to say what am I going to do about it? What am I going to do about it? Because that money that I'm spending on that person to come into the home? I am now motivated to make that times to make that times four, right? That I can see that compound? And that's how we get to our wealthy life. Right? I don't want you or you or I the struggle to get there. Right. So I had to give my own wake up call, right? My own come to Jesus with being stuck. And it was a choice, right? And I had to look in the mirror and say, What am I going to do about it? Right? And that's when I enrolled my husband. And guess what my husband did not even question it. He was like, let's do it. Right? We eat out all the time. We go to target all the time. So really the small amount of money that it's costing us every single week. We can find ways to create in our budget now right? So don't make moves out of scarcity make moves out of abundance so we can get to that wealthy life that you so deserve. Okay, I'll see you on the next episode of wake up and be wealthy. Have a wealthy fabulous fucking day.