Me Time Minutes: Taking Back Mothers Day

In this episode of 'Me Time Minutes,' host Molly discusses the common frustrations moms face on Mother's Day and provides actionable steps for how they can reclaim the day for themselves. She emphasizes the importance of clearly communicating their desires, letting go of guilt, and rejecting the notion that moms must always be selfless. Molly offers practical advice on how moms can ask for what they really want and deserve, whether it's alone time or a specific activity, to ensure they spend Mother's Day in a fulfilling way. Join the conversation to learn how to celebrate yourself more authentically.

00:00 Introduction to Me Time Minutes

00:27 The Reality of Mother's Day

02:11 Comparing Mother's Day and Father's Day

03:50 Reclaiming Mother's Day for Yourself

04:08 Practical Tips for a Better Mother's Day

05:37 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

06:23 Closing Remarks and Community Invitation

Transcript

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All right. On today's episode, we're having a real honest conversation about why I do Mother's Day my way. Hey, welcome to me time, minutes, your quick self-care boost and honest mom conversation in the middle of a busy week, because even a few minutes of me time can change everything. Let's dive in. Hello, hello, and welcome back to me. Time, minutes, your midweek break to take a breath and talk honestly about what it means to take care of you. As always, I'm your host Molly, and today's episode hits very close to home as we are approaching Mother's Day, the holiday that's supposed to be for us. But often ends up being for everyone else. So let's talk about it. Why is it that so many of us go into Mother's Day with a lot of hope and just a glimmer that maybe this will finally be the year, it will finally be a day off some pampering or maybe just some peace and quiet, and then at the end of the day, we're left feeling guilty, overwhelmed, and honestly resentful. Here's the truth. Mother's Day is pretty performative if we're Honest. Cards, brunch reservations, a cute little drawing or hand print from the kids, which yes, is adorable and so sweet, but it rarely includes what we actually want. Time alone or time spent, how we choose. No interruptions, no snacks to prepare, no expectations, and no invisible labor to carry. And here we are year after year. We keep hoping someone's going to step up and read our minds and deliver what we're looking for. But that's the hard part. Many of us don't say what we want. We don't ask for it. We're afraid. We think we'll seem selfish or ungrateful. We worry that people, mostly our partners, our in-laws or even our kids, are gonna be disappointed if we opt out of the picture. Perfect. Pinterest style, mother's Day. So let's look at why Father's Day is treated differently. Let's just take a peek for a second. What do dads get? A lot of times they get to disappear to the golf course or to go fishing. They get to take a nap or be in control of their remote control. They get a steak or whatever meal. They want to feel like the master of the grill, and no one asked them to cut their fruit into fun shapes or to have a themed picnic or to find clothes for everyone to wear. It is not that they don't deserve to be celebrated, because dads definitely do, but the bar is so wildly different. No one questions if a dad wants to spend his day alone doing his thing. In fact, it's expected that we have them do that. So why is it so hard for moms to ask for the same respect? Honestly, here's my take. It's because we've been conditioned to see our role as a mother as selfless. We should be celebrated, but we should be celebrated in a way that showcases what we do. We are always available. Moms are always nurturing. So even on our day, we feel the pressure to perform, to show up, to smile. And to center everyone else's comfort above our own. That's not motherhood, that's martyrdom. As a mom, we are not put on this earth to be martyrs. So here's what I propose. What if we did things differently this year? What if instead of waiting for someone to guess what we want, we said it out loud. What if we wrote a little wishlist and shared it with the people who love us? Not because we're demanding, but because we matter. Here's a few ways that I. Think that we can reclaim Mother's Day as our own. Say it early and say it loud. Hey, I'd love a few hours alone on Sunday to go for a walk, read a book, get a coffee, go wine tasting, and not be responsible for anything. If you wanna be in your house by yourself, say it. Send your husband to the park and tell him to go grocery shopping, to do all these things with the kids that normally you would be doing, and let go of the fact that it's not gonna be perfect. Create a menu of options. Let your family choose from the things that you genuinely enjoy doing. A solo breakfast, uninterrupted bath time, or a quiet house. Whatever you want, you go do your thing. And like I said, you have to release the guilt about it. Needing time alone doesn't make you a bad mom. It makes you a human being. We are constantly functioning on this level of frying our nervous system. This doesn't make you bad. It makes you human. It makes you self-aware and wise. Let's be real. The best gift that you can receive on Mother's Day is not a mug that says Super Mom or chaos coordinator. It is feeling like your needs, your time, and your peace are valid. That the work you do 364 days a year is appreciated. So here's your little takeaway toolbox from today. Don't just hope for the day. You want. Name it, claim it, and ask for it. You deserve a mother's day that fills your cup, not just everyone else's. Just because your husband thinks you want your kids to make you breakfast in bed, when really you wanna go to the local restaurant and get properly made eggs benedict, you should be able to do that without the guilt. And that means if you do it without them, fine, you're not bad, you are worthy, and maybe even more so than you think. So go out there. Name it, claim it, ask for it. And if this episode made you nod your head yes in your car, do me a favor, share this with a fellow mom who needs permission to want more than a candle or a cray hand-drawn card on Sunday. And if you're looking for a little more community around with this kind of honesty, come hang out with me in the mom squad. This is our supportive guilt-free space where moms come as they are and learn to just put themselves. Back on the top of that list. So next. Until next time, take care of yourself. Get the me time you deserve because you've earned it. All right. That's it. That's your me time minute. If this resonated with you, make sure to follow. Mama needs me time on Instagram and Facebook, and join our community for more support. And remember, you're worth every bit of rest that you can get. See you next time.