Me Time Minutes: worth and productivity

In this episode of Me Time Minutes, host Molly addresses the common misconception that our worth is tied to our productivity. She emphasizes that personal value is not measured by completed tasks or constant busyness. Molly encourages listeners, especially busy moms, to take time for themselves, rest before exhaustion hits, and practice self-care. She highlights the importance of being present and nurturing over simply getting things done. The episode is a powerful reminder that you are enough just by being you, not by what you achieve.

00:00 Introduction: Self-Worth Beyond Accomplishments

00:25 The Trap of Hustle Culture

01:17 Redefining Worth and Value

03:30 Practical Steps for Self-Care

05:01 Reframing Daily Accomplishments

06:28 The Importance of Presence Over Productivity

07:46 Final Takeaway: You Are Enough

09:07 Conclusion and Community Invitation

Transcript

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On this week's episode, we're gonna dive into why what you accomplish doesn't equal who you are as a person. Let's go. Hey, welcome to me time, minutes, your quick self-care boost and honest mom conversation in the middle of a busy week, because even a few minutes of me time can change everything. Let's dive in. Hello, hello, and welcome back to me. Time, minutes. As always, I'm Molly, super glad you're here with me today. And today I'm gonna give you a hug in words because if you're anything like me, which I feel like most of you are, if you're still here and still listening, you sometimes fall into this trap of believing that who you are and that your worth is tied to how much you get done. Does that sound familiar? Because we live in a culture that glorifies the hustle. We praise people and commend them for being busy, and we clap for women who say they did it all without ever showing cracks. And somewhere along the lines, we believe this lie, we start believing it. That if I'm not producing, if I'm not achieving, if I'm not accomplishing, then I am not valuable. And we're gonna knock that shit off right here. Cut it at the quick. Your worth is in no way, shape, or form measured by the tasks you complete. Your value is not earned through being exhausted. You are worthy and valuable simply because you exist. Full stop. No conditions, no, and or, but also. No checklists. You are worthy. I feel like I can stop that episode right there, but I'm gonna keep going because we need to be honest about this. Of course, there are things that need to get done. Laundry, dishes, appointments, bath time, homework, folders, work projects, and getting those things done is important, but it isn't what makes you a good mom, a good wife, or even a good human. For fuck's sake, you're already good. You're already good for acknowledging all these things that need to happen. Think about all the things you do, the love you show when you cuddle your child. That's valuable. The patience that you practice when you are running on empty and coasting and on fumes that matters. Those quiet moments where you simply get to just breathe and exist. Also valuable, also productive, also helping you accomplish things. And this isn't because everything valuable can be measured from a goddamn to-do list. I get it. Part of what makes me. Successful as a coach is helping people build systems and projects and practices in their life to move forward and accomplish things. But you're missing the point. Accomplishing things is not all that we want. The reason that I use things like to-do list time blocking organization, things like that, is to help you build in time to realize. You don't have to fill every goddamn minute of every fucking day. Like you don't, because that's too much, and that's how we get burnt out. So here's what I want you to try. I want you to try to take a rest before you deserve it, okay? Don't wait until you're collapsing exhausted to take a break. Take a break right now. Finish this podcast. Turn this podcast off. I don't care if you even finish it. Take five minutes to sit down with your coffee while it's still hot. Even if the laundry is beeping at you or someone asked you to do something for them in the house. Say, I will in a few minutes. I will in five minutes. Set a timer. I don't care. Take time for yourself. Rest before you need it. Rest before you feel you deserve it. Okay, take it. Number two, celebrate being not just doing recognize. I'm really proud of myself for taking that time today. You woke up this morning, you showed up for life. Girl. That's a victory. That is a win. You may have answered a million questions about things you knew nothing about. You wiped up 10,000 spills, changed a million diapers. You manage the emotion of tiny humans and your own emotions. You are doing enough. Even if there's dishes in the sink, even if there's a paper towel that the dog tore up, that you didn't get every scrap in the trash, you are doing enough, even if there's unopened emails or notifications on your phone. This is the big one. Try reframing your day instead of asking, what did I accomplish today? Ask yourself, how did I care for myself? How did I care for my kids? Because loving, nurturing, surviving, laughing, breathing. Those are all accomplishments too. You know, we have 10,000 apps and things glaring and blaring at us on our phones, telling us to drink water, to do this, to do that. Great. If you wanna use those things, if they're helpful for you, if it is just one more thing that is adding to your day and adding to things you feel you have to do, it's not creating a space of rest or understanding for yourself. Forming healthy habits and forming behaviors is important. But so too, it's resting. You have to take time for yourself. So if you're struggling with guilt around accomplishment, productivity, your self worth by getting things done, I want you to remember rest is not laziness. It is required. You need to relax. Your body needs it slowing down. Is not giving up. I don't care if you did 42 things yesterday and you only did three things today. That's not giving up. That's not failure, that's not quitting and choosing presence over productivity is not a failure. Your kids are not gonna remember how clean the kitchen counter was. They're gonna remember that you took them to the park or that you went to library story time or that you were always at their soccer. They're gonna remember when you were there. If you're never there, that's what they're gonna remember. Being present in the moment with your kids is super important. No one cares if Layla from PTA emailed you about the bake sale signage that needs to be done on Wednesday. Your kid cares if you're there. Now, I've talked at length about dropping things and putting the same amount of weight on saying no as saying yes. Because you wanna be available for these moments that matter. Resting and replenishing yourself is one of the most radical acts of self-care and motherhood that you can practice. Your kids don't need a mom who gets it all done. They don't. They need a mom who's there, a mom who is kind and alive and not constantly burnt out. You need that too, and if you didn't get that from your mom or you're having a hard time experiencing that now. I am sorry. And you deserve that for yourself and your kids deserve that now. So here's your big takeaway today. You're enough without checking everything off the list, you're enough on the days that you feel low and don't wanna be around everyone. You're enough when that to-do list doesn't even get touched. You are so worthy because you are you not because of what you accomplish. So today, please release yourself from that hustle and grind culture. Give yourself the permission to simply just be and know that you are deeply, wildly, and wonderfully enough, and know that this was kind of ranty and in your face and not really the hug you were expecting. It's kind of more of a bear hug than like a soft cuddle, but this is so important. You don't have to earn relaxation. You don't have to earn rest. That is an old, antiquated and bullshit ideology. You deserve to rest. You deserve to be present. Your worth is not how many things you did in a day. Your worth is how re like, rested, recharged, and wonderful you feel being the matriarch and the head of your. So go out there, take the time you need, and the time you deserve because you're worth it and you deserve it. See you next time. All right. That's it. That's your me time minute. If this resonated with you, make sure to follow. Mama needs me time on Instagram and Facebook, and join our community for more support. And remember, you're worth every bit of rest that you can get. See you next time.