The Shayna Show

Honesty of Being "Lost"

• Shayna • Season 1 • Episode 1

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Let's talk about the importance of not having it all figured out. Let's talk about the reality that we are constantly in search for what really makes us excited. Listen and dive in to the possibility of creating your future from nothing. 


I share my journey of just graduating from college and realizing that it is possible to love what you do. The word, "job" should be redefined from 9-5 to loving Mondays. 

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Whatever you believe becomes your reality. This is Shayna Weldon. Thank you for tuning in. It is time to elevate your life. Twice a week, I give guidance for you to pursue your passions and live your best life. And it's go time!

There's so much pressure to already have it figured out. And the truth is that most of us don't. And that's what is so great about life, because you're figuring it out. You know, the quote it's not about the destination, it's about the journey. Well, it's the journey of not knowing. And in not knowing your life, you can then create the life that you want. Because if you already knew that you were set on being an astronaut, then there wouldn't be any thought into creating something else for yourself.

Now, maybe some people do want to be an astronaut, and that's super great. And then you're creating How to Get There. But I'm talking about the people who don't know what they want and who are sitting here feeling bad. Because I sit here and I feel bad about not knowing and I feel like a failure and I feel like a disappointment not to my family, but to myself. 

So It was interesting, when I first started my waitress job... I'll give you a brief background. I graduated with a Civil Engineering degree from Cal Poly San Luis Obispo. Amazing. Amazing program, amazing curriculum, the most challenged I've ever been in my entire life. Anyways, I don't want to do Civil Engineering at the moment, and I want to pursue people to follow their dreams in life. More in regards to pursuing their passions related to monetary value. So in a sense, pursuing their passion projects as jobs that they love and redefining the word job, but not to be the 9 to 5, not to work, not to be waiting for the weekend, but to enjoy waking up on a Monday.

Imagine that and loving what you do. It's possible. It's possible to wake up every single day and love what you do. And if you believe it, then it could be created. And that's what's so important about your thoughts, because your thoughts become your reality.

Anyways, I am a waitress at the local Italian restaurant because I want to give myself the freedom and time to figure out what I want to do. And I love it. So one of my guests that I was serving in the conversation, I mentioned my history of Civil Engineering and that I'm a waitress here and  I get the question of "Why?" And I would say, well, I don't want to do Civil Engineering and I want to figure out my life and I'm trying to figure it out. I get a range of responses from supporting me to pursuing what I want to do and going against the mainstream to looking at me with such confusion and absurdness. But all that was great, and throughout the conversation, I would realize that I'm persuading them to agree with what I'm choosing to do, and I would notice that in the conversation I would want them to say, wow, it's great what you're doing, or to approve it in some type of way. Because of this one person at table 12 would agree with me and support me, I knew I was on the right track. Since when did I give one person so much power? Over my life? But the thing is, it wasn't just this one person at table 12, it was the next guest that came at table 11. And I had to persuade him, too. And if he agreed with what I was doing and supported me, then suddenly I'd be on the right track. But it didn't end there.

The next person who came in on table 22 would have to agree with me too or support me. And I realized it was never ending. And in turn I wasn't actually looking for their approval or their support. I was looking for my own because I felt if I can get all these people to support what I'm doing, I'd be on the right track and I can then support myself. And I realized it all came back to me. It didn't really matter at all what they had to say, not in a bad way, but that it came down to me believing in me.

Some of the guests would come in and they would have a to go order. And I spoke with this one woman and I asked her what she was doing and she mentioned how she was an accountant. And I said, Do you like that? And she said, No, I hate it. She looks at me. She literally straight up told me that she hated it! And I said, Well, what would you want to do if you can do anything? And she said, Well, I can't think about that because I have three kids and they're gonna go to college and I want to support them. I need to make money. I said, Okay, I get that. What if you didn't think about it? What would you want to do? And I can see the inner child come back and look at me and she said, I don't know. I haven't thought about that in a long time. 

Another guest comes in. So I talk with them like I always do. And again, I get to the conversation of What do you do with your life? Funny how this is usually the topic of the conversation. I say the topic as if it happens. No, I definitely create the conversation with my guests where I talk about their job and what they're doing. And I have the same questions. What do you do or do you like it? And they said no, so I say, If you can do anything, What would you do? And he says, Oh, I would be on radio. I have a great radio voice and I know, my gosh. I said, Oh, why don't you do that? He said, Oh, well, you know, I'm too old.

Okay! Reason number one, you know, of the main reasons for why people don't follow their dreams. The main excuses in life are money, experience, age, and time among the whole bunch of other excuses that we make. 

It's really difficult for me. It strikes a chord in me when someone isn't doing what they love. We need more people in life doing what they love. I don't want to ever answer and say," No, I don't love what I'm doing."