You'll Become the 6th!

The top 1% of successful people have influential and supportive inner circles. Who is in your inner circle? Who are your closest friends? I guarantee you are the average of your five friends. "If you hang around 5 intelligent people, you will be the 6th intelligent person." You become the 6th! Knowing, this...

Find friends who elevate your life. Find friends that support you and uplift you to be your best self! Choose friends that you want to be like that have qualities that you want. Support yourself and create your life!

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Chapters

• 0:18 Realization of My Unhappiness
• 1:17 All About Your Inner Circle
• 3:30 Find the Smartest Student

Transcript

Whatever you believe becomes your reality. This is Shayna Weldon. Thank you for tuning in. It is time to elevate your life. Twice a week, I give guidance for you to pursue your passions and live your best life. And it's go time!

I remember four years ago it was in the summer and I had a civil engineering internship or more specifically an environmental engineering internship. I was just off my lunch break and I went to my van and I put down the back seat and I literally slept for 30 minutes. I was doing so much work over 40 hours a week into this internship, and I was not seeing the results that I wanted. I wasn't actually happy.

I wasn't happy with what I was doing because it wasn't in alignment with what I really wanted. And I also wasn't happy of my accomplishments. Okay, so I went to work and I helped some guy. I look at asbestos in the building and credit cards for him, but I don't bring any meaning in my life.

I started worrying about money and I was only making a little bit above minimum wage. And I saw it. How do people do it? How does the 1% actually get to the top? And so I started talking with my Abba. I started reading books and I picked up the four hour work week and six months to six figures and Tony Robbins Money Master the game and performance habits. And I started learning that it's all about your friends who you associate yourself with. Who your inner circle is. The five greatest people in your life that are the five closest people in your life. Who are they? What are they doing? How much money are they making? How happy are they? Because the top 1% have really successful inner circles.

And I realized I didn't know how to find one. Create one. So we've all heard the quote. If you want to become a millionaire, talk to billionaires. You'll get there faster. Yet, we're all hanging around people who make minimum wage.

Why do we want to be millionaires but our friend group is full of people who make minimum wage. And we talk about whatever's in the news, the drama who wore what at the Oscars? Well, my friends talk about performance habits and productivity, and call of duty. But what are your friends talking about? What are your daily conversations like in college? Well, it taught me a lesson. I was in Physics three and I was having a really hard time. Oh, I would totally put so much effort into studying.

And it was funny because I was going to study groups and I remember on Friday night. I distinctly remember being in my dorm room and I had the window cracked open and I was studying different formulas about waves.

I heard drunk kids slurring their words. I heard the clinking of bottles and I thought, Wow, that could be me. And then I thought, I'm happy. It's not me though. I'm here to do great things. I want to get an A on my test. Anyways, I was studying a lot and I was not getting the results that I wanted again. So One of the things Abba said is go to your next class and find the smartest kid in the room whi is paying so much attention and study with him. So I remember his name was Nick and now, we are friends on LinkedIn. He was the sweetest person and we started studying together and suddenly my grades got better. Suddenly I was getting A's.

So let's do a little test of your life. Think about the five people that you spend the most time with. Think about it, really the five people you spend the most time with and add up what their grades are, whatever that is and divide it by five. Guaranteed, that's your grade. That's just an average. I'm guaranteed that's your grade because that's you. You're the average of the five people that you spend the most time with. Maybe you've heard the saying, you're the sixth. Don't be the sixth or you're going to be the sixth.

Six person, your friend group. You're the avatar, the five people that you're hanging out with. This goes along with qualities. Think of your five closest friends. It's not even friends. It's just people in your life. Think of the closest five people in your life again.

And what qualities do they have? Guaranteed you have one or you're struggling. Do you have that one, clay that you want that your friends will have? So in knowing this, shouldn't you be finding friends that you want to be like?

Go find friends that are extremely positive, uplifting, giving, grateful. Fine. What friends do you want in your life? If you want to actually elevate your life, shift your focus and create an extraordinary inner circle. You need to communicate with people who are playing at the game higher than you.

So in my case, I found a guy named Nick in my physics three class. He was playing at the game way higher than me, getting the A's doing extremely well on the test testing quizzes. So in your area, whatever you want to pursue, find someone who's doing it better than you because also goes into the category of a role model or a mentor. Find someone literally when you get home. If you're at home right now, pauses for gas. Go on LinkedIn and find someone who's doing it better than you. If you want to be a talk show host, go on LinkedIn.

Research. Talk show hosts. Look it up. Find someone who's a top ten talk show host. And message them. You want to be the next Alan. Find out which team. Find her PR manager and email them. Be around people who can make your success actually happen.

And in turn, you can help your friend success happen. Choose friends that can add value to your life and where you can add value to theirs. This could be either in the form of funniness and sharing and also could be in the form of literally helping you succeed as a monetary wise or succeeding happiness.

So think of your closest three friends and have you told them about your goals and what you're up to in life? And if you have, why would they say, did they laugh? What was their response? They downplay what you said.

Were they excited for you? Did they connect you with someone? If you're not sure your goals with people in your life. Why aren't you sharing? Are those really your friends? Yeah. Why are you not sharing your goals and what you're up to?

Your ambitions, your drive, your passions. Why are you not sharing it with them? So start sharing or go pick some new friends. Thank you again for listening. This is Shane Wheldon. Have a tremendous day.

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