Choose Peace & Optimism

Can you imagine a world where calmness isn't considered a weakness but a strength? That's the world we'll be painting in this conversation. From Japanese culture to martial arts, we explore intriguing examples to illustrate how calmness and positivity can be real life-changers.

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Remaining Calm and Having Faith

Speaker 1 0:04

you , you , yeah , welcome to mind over matter . Baby , I'm a little out of breath y'all . I ran and I jumped on this stone . From audio listeners you can see we outside , we outside guys , from my I mean not from audio for my video , for my video . All right , let's get into this episode . I'm your host , deja Wallace , and if this is your first time joining me , welcome . But this is not welcome back . I appreciate you real , you , lawyer . I appreciate you .

Speaker 1 1:12

Episode 79 9 . What I didn't say is that I love you because you really came back to listen to another episode . You get me . Today's episode .

Speaker 1 1:27

I want to talk about remaining calm Home , namaste , remaining calm through every season . You get me . And having faith and trusting in your faith . You get me . We're talking about all of that in today's episode . So kick back , relax and enjoy this episode . You get me . You get me . You get me . I'm allowed .

Speaker 1 1:57

I don't know it all and I don't have it all figured out , and I don't care to pretend that I have it all figured out , but I'm gonna make it look good . You get me Not gonna see you looking crazy , even if I'm struggling , and you're not gonna see me out of character . I want this to be like my prop , my prominent Character , like this is gonna be , my default is to just go into like a natural state of Calmness , because I think that calmness is actually a strength , contrary to like other people thinking or other people or society promoting like aggressiveness and being , you know , assertive and being Mean is power , more powerful than being calm and being Peaceful and being kind . I feel like that's way more strength and being those three things than being loud and mean and arrogant , like I Think we should like glamorize these traits , not those traits , but these traits being calm , being peaceful Because it's so much strength and being calm , no matter what , it takes way more courage , I feel like , to even be calm in situations where things aren't calm . It takes way more courage , you know , and it makes you stand out . Because think about LeBron James .

Speaker 1 3:27

Lebron James , he before his games . He's chilling , he's calm , he's doing a little dougie and he has no worry like he's stress-free . Why ? Because he knows he's prepared To execute , he knows all of the work he's did . Now is just His time to shine and that's really what I got to learn in life is that I don't need to be rush , rushing anything and I don't need to be . I don't need to be anxious for the future , because it achieves nothing . Worry achieves Absolutely nothing . Worrying achieves zilch in this life , and what I learned also is that you can't worry about tomorrow , because tomorrow is not promised to no one not to be dark or anything .

Speaker 1 4:23

But my my sixth grade or fifth grade one of them Social studies teacher taught me that I didn't give him a homework . She was like tomorrow is not promised to anybody . I'm like , damn , you're just gonna throw that on me . Like that I'm , I'm like 11 .

Speaker 1 4:42

I felt sad , but it was deep . I was like , yeah , like you really can't worry about tomorrow , because you know much times plans fall apart . No , much times things don't happen as planned . Like even when you're looking at , like the weather . A lot of people worry about what the weather is going to be like on the weekend . You know like , oh , I want to go out , I want to do this , I want to do that on this weekend , and they're worrying about the weather for the weekend . On a Monday it says that it's gonna rain . You're worrying about the rain . You're worrying about the rain , and the weekend comes and the rain isn't even there . You know what I mean . Sometimes Things don't go as planned and worrying isn't going to make it any better .

Speaker 1 5:26

That's really what I want to get out of this episode is to let you know that being calm is Way more Realistic to me than worrying . Make that your reality . Make that something that is Inmate in you is to be calm , to be peaceful . Back to that analogy of the weather . It's like you were worrying all week . The weekend comes , the forecast changes a little and it's like what you were worrying for nothing . You spent all that energy worrying and still remain in calm and letting go . It's really gonna take the courage . That's why I say it . That's why I say like being calm takes courage , because you have to take the courage to step out of that Normancy .

Speaker 1 6:23

And what I also realize is how people react to that is not your Responsibility . To cater to it does not matter . Like if they're confused , if all hell is breaking loose in front of me , I , I promise you I'm still gonna remain calm because I know that I'm protected and I know that Everything is Happening for a reason . This had to happen , so this had to , so this can happen , cause and effect and have . How many times have you been in the argument and you've regretted everything . You said it after the argument or you feel like you could have said this differently , or you could have said that differently . But how many times have you regretted remain in calm ? How many times can you remember you've regretted remain in calm ? Never , probably .

Speaker 1 7:17

In the moment it may seem like , like I said , other people perception of you is not your Responsibility for you to cater to that . In the moment , other people may make you feel like I would have done this , I would have done that , okay , that's how you would have handled the situation . But I know that the blessings on the back end of me remaining calm is going to Be tenfold compared to me being aggressive and me being angry , and it also shows a sense of just maturity and it's going to Definitely make you look at things from a different perspective . Your head , your mind , is going to be clearer . You're going to see things a clearer point of view when you're calm , compared to when you are angry , aggressive , anxious , depressed , like all of that . So it's like a superpower to remain calm in this world , because it's so Rare to see .

Speaker 1 8:27

And most of the people who are calm , they just have this sense of knowing because they know that things are unfolding in this beautiful synchronized way as it should be , and I Feel like people who Initially , action is to like yelling arguments or is to be , or their initial reaction is to be aggressive when they have any type of altercation and that's just in they in them . A lot of the times they're not thinking clearly , they're just the fence , they're just their defense mechanisms are up , they're trying to protect themselves , they're trying to Assert themselves , they don't feel Assertive , they're putting up their their walls really when they're approaching like that . But when you are able to just calm to aggressor , somebody yelling at you is , it may get them more upset because they don't , because they see that quality in you and they cannot comprehend how someone can be that powerful . You're more powerful in that situation when you're calm , and that's their initial reaction is to get riled up and get to get angry . It takes way more courage to remain calm in that situation .

Speaker 1 9:58

Yeah , I'm gonna give you a little , a little , a little situation To to really show you why Guan so boom , I'm at work , right , making my smoothies , doing my thing . You know All of that , you know . So I made my juice right , mind you , I was fasting , I was fasting . This was like early November . I made my juice so that was like my Meal . I was fast juice , fasting . It wasn't like a full fast , I was just trying out something , you know , trying to raise my vibration and all that . So , yeah , I , I made my little orange , apple , ginger . Boom , I Do suits , busing , like I love that combination .

Speaker 1 10:43

If you , if you , if you don't know , now you know that come Combat me . A shot goes crazy . Yes , I'm not to . I didn't get to sippy yet cuz I was still dealing with customers . Whatever , come back , my juice gone . Ask my coworker Where's my juice ? I don't know . Ask my other coworker oh , where's my juice . Oh , that's juice . I threw it out in the sink .

Speaker 1 11:06

Boom , it's so easy to get riled up and get mad at that and I kind of did . I'm not gonna lie , I'm gonna be transparent . I did get mad and I told her Make my shit again . Everybody looked at me like yo , like you know , trying to end . I'm what's it called ? Instigate that . But you know cuz I'm not like that . So you say that out loud in front of customers . They knew it was serious , like it was for real . So everybody's like yo , damn , they do that's day jumpin , like that . I'm like , yes , cuz like that was disrespectful , you know I . And boom , she made the juice over after whatever . However long she took , she took her time but she still made it over right .

Speaker 1 11:57

But set co-worker was testing me . This was Godway of testing me , you know , and she kind of triggered me when she said if that was me , me personally , I would have been upset . So then when she said that , it kind of made me want to like combat her . But it got worse . She was just like I could see some people can't work under pressure and I'm like , damn my God , it's really testing me . Do I drag this whole and do I hurt her feelings so hard that her mother feels it , or do I just let her be ? And in that moment I'm not gonna lie , she was testing me and it almost worked . I gave her a little , I told her a little something about her mother a little quick .

Speaker 1 12:50

But my co-worker brought me back to reality Like it could have been way worse , and that's why I don't like arguing , because I'm gonna hurt your feelings . It could have been way worse . But my co-worker looked at me and was like Deja , she's not worth it . And I came back to reality and I'm like yo , I don't like that version of me . It reminded me of an old version of myself and some people are gonna test you and bring out that old version of you .

Speaker 1 13:13

But be strong . That's why I say it takes way more courage to remain calm in moments like that and that was God testing me . And I'm happy that I did stand on business , like I told her to make my juice back , but at the same time I let go . You know what I mean . I didn't push the situation , like me , and set co-worker . I see her and it's still hey , how you doing . I'm not gonna hold that against her . You know what I mean . So that's really what I learned from that is to be calm , remain calm in every situation , no matter what .

Speaker 1 13:51

And my thing is , when you're angry , in a situation like that , if I was to respond with anger , it would have satisfied the aggressor way more than when you respond with calmness and peace , because it confuses them , it trips them up . It's like yo , like damn , she knows herself , she's really sturdy in how she feels about herself and I can't infiltrate that energy . Oh nah , like she's different , you know , or he's different . So , yeah , like you really have to realize that kindness is a strength , being calm is a strength , love is a strength .

Speaker 1 14:44

All of those things are innate in us , but society kind of distracts us from these characteristics and promote aggression , and it promotes confusion ultimately , because how many times you mad and you just don't even know where to start . You just like , damn , I don't know , this is happening , this is happening . I don't know what to do . God help me , help me . God help me . You don't know what to do and you just all confused . You know what I mean and that's how it's feeling in that moment with that coworker . I'm like , damn , this bitch , this bitch this and this bitch that . But like , really , don't give people that power over you . And that's my message for today . If you learn anything , cool , yeah , I don't got nothing more for you . That's really what I had to get off my chest and I got it off my chest .

Speaker 1 15:41

So if you got anything to say , say it in the comments down below . You can't make yeah . Is there anything else I want to share with you all ? Um , yeah , just keep going at what you're doing , remain calm , like everything is happening on God's timing . It may not be on your timing , but God's timing is way more accurate and way more precise than your timing . Your timing is a little off and I go live God's timing though . Immaculate Trust in him , trust in yourself , let go and let God and stay calm . That's your . They get super power

Remaining Calm and Positive

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It is how you respond to the world around . You . Can't , you can't influence , you cannot influence how other people are responding to this world , and don't be influenced by how other people are responding to this world . Respond to this world in a way that feels good to you and for me , that's being calm , that's being peaceful and that's being loving . So that's how I'm a move . You know , my faith in myself is stronger than anybody's perception of me . At the end of the day I'm a quote that my faith in myself is stronger than anybody's perception of me , and I really hope you feel like that , like I'm not to get cozy because I , yeah , oh , like telling you y'all , being calm is a strength .

Speaker 1 17:26

Like you ever see , like these um jujitsu warriors and stuff , a lot of them prioritize meditation and remain in calm . Think about that . That's some food , some food for thought . A lot of these um Japanese cultures , when they do these intense , just martial arts and different type of fighting . They prioritize remaining calm . Remaining calm , think about that . It's actually a strength , y'all , it's actually a strength , you being self models , are . You react to your reality . So don't be a victim . You get me .

Speaker 1 18:26

I'm trying to drop bars , but I don't know if they coming out good or not . I'm gonna have to watch it back and I'm like , ah , it came out good , but I don't know Cause . Like in a moment , I just been thinking a lot . You know , yeah , yeah , yeah . You remember when they had like those viral , that viral thing that said keep calm . And yeah , keep calm and do what you need to do . Random thoughts . I just be rambling , but if you listen to the end of this episode , thank you , I appreciate you . Shout out to you . You failed . You loyal . I appreciate you . Uh huh , I appreciate you , uh huh . Yo , what is wrong with me ? Oh yeah , I forgot to tell y'all . I forgot to tell y'all real quick , tell a friend to tell a friend . Mother , dog , auntie , cousin , sister , brother , grandfather , mother , sister , mother's mother . That is mind over matter , baby , shit , I'm out of breath . How I start this out of breath and end it out of breath . Oh , I gotta stop smoking that shit .