Mind Over Matter: Mindset Development
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Mind Over Matter: Mindset Development
Manifesting Your Desired Reality ft. Eitan Koter
What belief is holding you back from manifesting your ideal reality?
Today, im joined by Eitan Koter founder of Vimmi, whose revolutionary shoppable video technology is changing the e-commerce landscape. We reflect on the transformative power of mindfulness, neuroplasticity, in shaping the lives we desire. We begin by exploring how belief systems—those seeds we plant in our subconscious—grow into the realities we experience. Whether they manifest as breakthroughs or obstacles depends on the stories we tell ourselves, and how we choose to define our experiences.
Along with Eitan’s studies of Chinese medicine this episode dissects the act of acting with intention and transferring negative emotions into positions, all while navigating the distractions and challenges that life presents.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- How to manifest your desired reality by mastering belief systems
- How to cultivate mindfulness for success in both personal and professional realms
- How to balance work-life priorities without losing sight of your purpose
- How to integrate Western and Eastern medicine for holistic well-being
- How to use challenges as opportunities for growth
- How to stay open to unexpected help on your journey
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
05:14 Manifesting Reality Through Mindfulness and Commerce
12:33 Understanding the Role of Belief Systems in Success
21:50 Balancing Mind, Body, and Emotions Through Qigong
28:57 Achieving Balance for Healing and Growth
39:02 Integrating Western and Eastern Medicine for Holistic Health
50:27 Rewiring the Mind for Positive Change
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This is going to help a lot of people who are just interested in just being better. You know, attracting that desired reality and manifestation, and how important is going through this process of rewiring neuroplasticity, how important is going through that process to attracting the reality you want.
Speaker 2:There is a lot of news, or bad news, I would say, around. Yeah, you just keep focusing on saying to yourself what you want to be and everything will be fine right.
Speaker 1:Well, it doesn't work that way.
Speaker 2:Sorry to deliver this to you right? Because if you don't believe in it, it will not work. If you are like working somewhere and you want to be that boss and you don't believe that you can be that boss because of your past experiences, life experiences you can say to yourself millions of times it will not happen. So you need to work on this initial fundamental foundation. What prevents you from thinking that you can do? And through questioning if this person, for example, seeks some help you'll find out very, very fast that there's some kind of an internal story, some past experience parents whatever that actually prevents him from believing in himself, that he can be that boss right, I do magic, I do magic.
Speaker 3:So if I walk, you think I'm mad Words over metal Magic, I do magic.
Speaker 1:Welcome to Mind Over Matter, baby. I'm your host, dejan Wallace, and if this is your first time joining me, welcome. If this is not your first time joining me, welcome back. I appreciate you for joining me and I have a very, very, very special episode set up for you guys. Today. We have Aiden with me today, mr Aiden, welcome to the podcast. Welcome to Mind Over Matter.
Speaker 2:Hey Dejan, it's a pleasure to be here. Thank you so much. How are you?
Speaker 1:I'm doing well, thank you. Thank you. How are you feeling today?
Speaker 2:Oh, feeling great. A lot of energy for this episode, really excited about it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, me too, so you could introduce yourself to the people that aren't familiar with you and just let them know a little bit more about Aiden, who Aiden is, yeah sure?
Speaker 2:So my name is Aiden Coder. I'm a co-founder of a company called Vimy we just actually celebrated a decade a few months back so we're in the e-commerce space, we're a technology company and we're developing really unique technology that helps businesses sell online on various channels using video. So we call that video commerce or shoppable video technology platform. It helps them sell online not just on their own e-commerce website, but also on their own social media channels, right With TikTok and.
Speaker 2:TikTok Shop and Instagram and YouTube, facebook, also other marketplaces. So video is very powerful and it's a tech platform, software, saas platform that in one click you can deploy all your shoppable video and product pages across social media in a very intuitive and interesting way. Pages across social media in a very intuitive and interesting way. I'm also a host of a podcast in the e-commerce space called Ecom Pulse. I've been interviewing executives from marketing and technology and finance side of brands and retailers from the US, trying to provide value to our listeners of what's working and what's not on e-commerce.
Speaker 1:Yes, and what you're doing. It's so important in this day and age, especially for people my age. I can't scroll down my TikTok feed without seeing an ad or just something, or an influencer trying to sell something to me. So what you're doing is very valuable, especially in this day and age, and I want to get more into just the mindfulness part of it, because this podcast is about mindfulness. We're going to be talking about just you, also off camera. You have told me that you dabble in just mindfulness as well, in Chinese medicine even and I also want to get into just the power of thought. Essentially, that's what this podcast is about, so let's dive right into it. If this is something you're interested in, click back, relax and, yeah, it's going to be a great episode. So Mr.
Speaker 1:Eden, how do you bring mindfulness into your business?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so work-life balance and mindfulness and finding ways to unwind and relax is very, very important.
Speaker 2:It started for me around probably 10 years ago, I guess, working too much and reached kind of a burnout phase a lot of difficult times in terms of mental, I would say clutter and a lot of thoughts of launching a new startup and dealing with a lot of challenges around that, and it had kind of a dramatic impact on the way I think and the way I feel and it drove me to research a lot and so I started to have really severe lower back pain and I tried a lot of things, which obviously didn't help, and I did find someone that helped me through an online program.
Speaker 2:Well, the majority of the practices involve Chinese medicine and a specific version of Chinese medicine called Qigong. Okay, so Chinese medicine called Qigong, chinese medicine is all about qi. Qi is the life force, energy that drives everything, both the universe and us as human beings and animals, and the sea and everything you can feel the qi, you know, it's aware, but you cannot see it right. It's like, for example, like you see a wind right, you cannot see the wind itself, but you can see the leaves, the moving or the trees moving right and and like you know, if you, if you talk to a cardiologist, right, you can fix a lot of things in our heart, right in terms of all the plumbing and they can do so.
Speaker 2:So many great things, but no one can tell us why the heart starts to pump. You know when we were like four or five weeks. You know in our mother's womb, right, and why it's keep. You know pounding and pumping like hundreds of thousands of times in our lifetimes. So there are a lot of things that we are unaware of. They are not a really good solution in terms of new science and new medicine, but for Chinese medicine side of things, it was very, very clear and started, you know, like 7,000 years ago, where they realized that ice turns to water and water turns to probably steam or vapor, right, and it's the same CO2. So we have our physical state, we have our emotional state and we have our mental state right.
Speaker 2:And it's called jing, which is our physical body. Physical body, the chi, which is our emotional state, and we have a lot of emotions, positive and negative, and it's like a really big spectrum of emotion. And we have the shen, which is our spirit, our mind, what we think, and all of these needs to work in balance. And qigong is a special practice within Chinese medicine. Obviously, chinese medicine is so many, so many things right. You have, for example, the acupuncture. You have a lot of other practices, like you know, body massage and movement and others. The Qigong is a special version of Chinese medicine. Probably you heard about Tai Chi, right? Did you see?
Speaker 2:people have heard about this movement in the park. So Tai Chi is one version of Qigong. Qigong is a medical practice that works with the body, extending the meridians, which are like channels of energy inside our body, and each one of the body parts has a specific task physical task, what it does, but it also has a spiritual task, an emotional task in our lives, and each one of the organs has an extension of meridians that are just flowing inside our body. So the Qigong is an art of moving meditation. We move and we breathe by an aligning movement with breathing, and this creates some level of relaxation in our body, reducing the clutter in our head, balancing our emotion and create a balance of the mind, body and emotion. So that's the purpose of Qigong. The primary use case today for Qigong is transforming stress into vitality. We know stress is like. Even according to medical doctors out there, like 85% of the world's problems these days are because of like the stress is their main.
Speaker 2:Yes for sure Type of ailment and illness. So there is a way to take stress, even panic attacks and like really severe mental problems, and transforming them into positive energy, into vitality. So I'm a certified Qigong teacher. I've also studied a lot about the brain science. I'm a certified brain coach as well, so I combine a variety of these practices into my daily routine and also helping others as well routine a little, so you know helping others as well.
Speaker 1:That's so interesting that, um, you mentioned that you transform the energy, you redirect the energy, and I think that's so important, because another topic I wanted to talk about is rewiring your subconscious mind. So that's so important that in that practice you said that you take the stress and you transform it into something else, because energy never really dies, it's only just transferred. And I think it's very interesting how it's all interconnected and they use movement. Instead of, like the conventional, you know, sit down and just be aware of your thoughts, you actually use your physical body to transfer the energy back, and I've always seen videos of it, you know, like movies of it being done. But the way you explained it was so spot on. How do you think someone can rewire their subconscious mind using those practices?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so a lot of people that have difficulties just sitting and meditating, right, because it's very, it may be, I mean, if you're not practicing to it and there's no one guiding you, so it's quite difficult and probably not effective. Okay, you need to be in a certain state where you can start creating all these neural changes in your mind and working with your mind. It's all about neuroplasticity or even neurogenesis, right? So the idea is that we have a like default circuitry in our mind and every thought has an impact on our body, right? So if you think about things that we think or things that we feel, we will not find them in our body. I mean, if we do a surgery and trying to find fear, for example, will you find fear anywhere in your body? If we just open your entire body, will you find fear over there? No, you won't.
Speaker 2:No happiness no a thought no, it's something. No, happiness no A thought no, it's something spiritual, or it's what we call the difference between biomechanics and bioenergy. So the biomechanics is all about our organs, internal organs, our skin, our physical organs and bioenergy is all of the other things. Right, the chi that we talked before, but also our thoughts and emotions. Now, our thoughts is eventually some kind of electricity in our mind, right, and, by the way, this can be measured, right? I mean, we know that we have brain scans that can identify, you know, feelings and thoughts in different locations in our brains. So a thought is some kind of an electrical movement, usually activating existing connections of neurons or creating new neural paths, okay, in our brain, and a thought has an impact, direct impact on the physical body. Any thought, positive or negative, okay, it's like maybe a tingling or that you feel, but most of them we don't feel. So when we are stressed, like, the default scenario is that we're going to contract something in our body, right, and we can get, we can have millions of reasons to get stressed, right, stress is is not a, is not a someone, something that you know, god, provided it's something that we are perceiving as stress. I can be stressful from a certain topic that you doesn't stress you at all, right, and vice versa. So I'm stressed because of something. This immediately creates some kind of a contraction or a physical impact on our body, usually in our internal organs, something that we don't feel if we don't learn how to pay attention to it.
Speaker 2:Okay, so in Qigong and in the practice of relaxing the face of stress. We learn to identify the stressful event, learn to move and to breathe and to think in a certain way that creates new wiring in our thoughts, which I will explain shortly, but mainly relaxes our body. So there is a connection. So you can think about like three main circles, like spheres of emotion physical, body and mind. There are like three circles that are like touching one another. One is influencing the other. We can have an influence on our body through our thoughts, but we can influence our thoughts through moving our bodies and also balancing emotions through movement, and the impact is really really powerful. Just 20 or 30 minutes of just doing this practice makes your body really calm, really powerful. Just, you know, 20 or 30 minutes of just doing this practice makes your body really calm and relaxed. Emotions are much more regulated. So in terms of emotion, we can be very, very happy If we do, if we're like happy all day long.
Speaker 2:This is too extreme, it's not good at all. Ok. Like if we are too angry or we are too afraid all day. This is obviously not good at all. Okay. Like if we are too angry or we are too afraid all day. This is obviously not good at all you said too happy is not good.
Speaker 1:You said no it.
Speaker 2:Everything needs to be balanced. Okay it'll be happy. We need to feel also that we are sometimes afraid or sad.
Speaker 2:We know you need to have something to compare it to something, to compare it to right and if there, is one of those emotions is out of balance or is just taking over our life again, positive or negative, and usually emotions are not negative or positive. These are just feelings that we have, right, if one of them extreme and we most use it through the day, it's not good as well. So we need to have, in terms of emotions, we are aiming for balance, right, balance of emotions, those that we perceive as positive and those that we perceive as negative. Okay, that's on the emotion line, in terms of the thought, what we want, we want to reduce the clutter. What does it mean?
Speaker 2:A lot of people are probably sad or depressed, and this is usually because of things that happened to us in the past. Okay, whether we have a trauma, or it doesn't have to be a trauma by the academic definition of a trauma, right, it can be something that we think that happened, a situation with ourselves, maybe a situation with someone else, some kind of a social event that might happen, and when we think about it, we feel sad or even depressed, and it's about something that happened in the past. Okay, the other thing that we are thinking too much is about things that might happen to us in the future. Okay, and this is called stress. Stress is all about that might happen to us in the future. Okay, and this is called stress. Stress is all about future. It's not about the past. Stress is about things that might happen to us in the future, that we think might happen to us, and it causes us stress.
Speaker 2:Okay, and thinking about the future is something that it's a natural behavior for us as human sapiens. Right, because we need to run away and we need to learn how to run away from the tigers, and we need, you know, all the fight or flight mechanism, right, the parasympathetic state and the sympathetic state. But the idea is that thinking about the future creates a lot of stress. And we have media, right, just all over us. We have politicians, doesn't matter from which party, bombarding us with a lot of scary thoughts and stories. It also comes from politics people with money, okay, who want to create and people who control the media right, so all their purposes is to create fear in our thoughts. Right, so we can be less creative, less open for individual thinking and probably inventing something new which is counter their interest.
Speaker 2:Right, whether it's the political side, the economy side or the media side. So there is a lot of. We are bombarded by a lot of negative news, right? Obviously, news is negative. It's not positive, right? So thinking about the future creates stress. We are bombarded with a lot of news, and those two combinations create a lot of clutter in our mind, and clutter means that we can think the same stressful thoughts hundreds of times a day in a loop. We are not aware of that, but if I ask you to count tomorrow every time you're thinking about something negative, right, you will be shocked with the number. We just repeat it on and on, and on and on, right? And we learn that it doesn't have to be that way. We control what we want to think about and we need to stop blaming ourselves or stop getting stuck, or probably understand that we need to get help to get rid of sad events from the past that we perceive as sad and cause us some kind of a depression.
Speaker 2:We need to learn that we need to stop watching the news or doing those things that impact us negatively and causing us to think about the future equals stress, and we need to just move those past and future away and just concentrate on here and now. When you concentrate, on here and now you are much more relaxed, You've been very, very creative and courage. Courage is very important for creativity, and all of this thing that I just shared with you has an immediate impact on our immune system, on our cardiovascular system on any type of internal mechanism and we know that all the medicine out there in the world.
Speaker 2:the purpose of the medicine is to help us probably reduce pain or accelerate some kind of positive or negative effect in our body. But whoever is healing us is the body. Right, that's the chi. Okay, so we want to put ourselves in a state of balance, right? Think about energy that is flowing in our body and those energies are like rivers. So if there is one of the rivers is like blocked right With stones or with rocks, there is no water for the near village and that village will dry and die. Think about this village as our organs. Okay, so we need a clear path. The chi needs to flow. It needs to flow. It flows in like spirals and circles, and whoever just is blocking them is us, through our thoughts. It has a major impact on our physical body Because when we are stressed, we contract, and each one contracts. We can contract our kidneys, our heart, our stomach, internal organs, maybe our head, and then we have migraines. So we do that for ourselves.
Speaker 2:so we just need to bring all of this into attention, and Qigong helps a lot for this practice of getting to a balanced state which put our body in a, in a very homeostasis, or very, very very good status for healing, for growth, less of you know contracting. Think about a contracting stomach. Right, instead of being floated and nice, it's now being contracted. There are some gray areas, or maybe shadows, inside his stomach and this is where disease starts to start to build up right so the origin of any disease.
Speaker 2:it's like a battle between vitality and a crisis, right? So you need to be aware that your vitality is high so you can overcome a lot of ailments, and you do this through this balance of thoughts, emotional state and physical body.
Speaker 1:So do you believe that, like depression or anxiety, anxiety attacks even, are these things just? Are these states just um, because some people say it's inherited? Right, like depression is inherited or you can't really control it? Do you believe you can control your depressive states?
Speaker 2:through your thoughts. 100, 100. You can, but you cannot heal someone who doesn't want to be healed. That's like very, very important. If someone wants to get healed and he has some kind of a positive, even a small light right can make a huge difference. Then we have someone whom we can work with.
Speaker 2:And we know today, we know for many years, about genetics, but today we know about epigenetics, which is, how do we impact the genetics. So we know that genetics is a thing that we inherited by the way, not just genetically or through our chemistry. And the way we inherited by the way, not just genetically or through our chemistry and the way we operate, but through the experiences that we had in our life, through our family and parents, right? For example, our fathers or our mothers impact us a lot and we behave exactly like them, right? I take only this example. Is it a must? It will always be like that? Can it be changed? Of course, 100%.
Speaker 2:And at the end of the day and I want to repeat itself some kind of a disease or some kind of an ailment is always a fight between a crisis and vitality. So, you know, I saw people that are like they worked all their lives and then they retired and three months later they got some kind of a disease right and that disease is caused by an internal trauma that they have. 40 years back Now, when they woke up every morning, their vitality was in a very, very high state. The vitality was higher On this seesaw. The vitality was higher than the crisis. But when they retired, then the crisis become higher than the vitality and they got their disease.
Speaker 2:So everything can be. I believe that if there is a will by the patients or by someone to get better, there are a lot of tools out there that can help 100%, yes, and some of those traumas are like minor ones that you can practice and find ways. I probably want to talk about that. But some of them are more severe. That requires professional help, but definitely those have dramatic impact on our wellbeing, on our physical state and building a foundation for, for ailment ailments.
Speaker 2:So this is definitely something that we can work on a lot.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I want to lean back into epigenetics. That's been a topic that has interested me a lot recently. Explain what epigenetics is for people who don't understand what that is.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so epigenetic is your way to influence what people perceive, right as genetics, which is probably a combination of your genes, your chemical states. We are like a huge pharmacy, right? This head, this mind, is the world largest pharmacy, right? If you're now hugging someone, if we just meet and get a big hug, there is like oxytocin that is just spreading all over from our brain into our body. We feel this warmth, we feel very, very good.
Speaker 2:Right, think about it when you give a hug to a loved one right that's oxytocin that the brain decides to right, and and when we are happy and we are full of energy, then those dopamines probably right. And when we are stressed, then you know, it's the cortisol and the adrenaline that is coming up into our body, by the way, preventing us from healing and digesting and get well, because cortisol and adrenaline just pushing our muscle for strength, just for running, you know, fight or flight. There is no place for internal processing, for healing, for digesting, for relaxing. So all this chemistry in our head is something that you can influence. How you can influence by few things.
Speaker 2:First, quality of life, for example, sleep, okay, so, like, sleep is like foundational, right, and when you see that people suffer, they probably sleep four, five, six hours to the maximum.
Speaker 2:So think about what do you do to move from six hours sleep to seven and then to eight? Maybe you need to change a few things in your life. It's not easy, it's not easy. But think about the way you sleep, the things that you eat, things that you eat, right, those you know fried food, you know sweets they are like stimulate. Stimulating are, you know? No, so, not so productive hormones and chemicals that are circulating in our body, right? So and I can give you like a crazy example, like you heard about the bipolar people, yes, some people, they might have like 40 or 50 different characteristics inside one person, right, and they know when they are switching, by the way, from one to the other. If you take the chemistry in their body, when they are switching between bipolar states, the whole chemistry is like completely different and it's the same physical body right because their mind is completely on a different state right now.
Speaker 1:Okay, so if so are they going through personalities as they sleep or?
Speaker 2:no, they go to. They're changing personality even during the day, so I can speak to right now and in the next second. I'm different, different personality, but I'm the same person and if you take blood levels and you calculate, you'll find different results.
Speaker 2:Like one minute after wow okay because, this brain is like the world largest pharmacy. Okay, it's all about. What is your mental state right now? Are you in, are you relaxed? Right now, you're not thinking about the past or about the future. You're happy right now. Let's create a chemistry in your body and that chemistry is it positive? Is it negative? Forget that. What type of chemistry?
Speaker 2:We can all feel it in our body, right, if we pay attention, if we look inwards, what do we feel right now? Okay, and qigong and chinese medicine teach us that not only to feel physically. If we have some pain in some kind of an area, are we digesting? Okay, do we have any headaches or the back? These are like the physical stuff, right, and, by the way, each one of the organs has a source of ailments, which is the physical state. Is the result of all these issues that we talk, right? So so we can think about or feel. What do we feel physically in various organs in our body? But can we feel energetically? What do we feel? Do we feel the flow, the chi is moving, or we feel stuck? Okay, and Qigong teaches us through practice to reach this level of understanding as well.
Speaker 1:Okay and yeah as well, okay, and yeah. So chinese medicine and the standard just american medicine. I know that in the culture I grew up in, when people are experiencing certain things going on with their mental health, it's very likely that they're going to be recommended that they try something outside of themselves to try to cure whatever they're going through. And it's interesting that you said that your mind is a pharmacy, because we have these chemicals released every second to really just communicate with our body. So it's interesting that you have that perspective. How do you feel about the quick fix that American medicine promotes, where you are just suggested to try this drug or try that drug, and how do you feel about that?
Speaker 2:So both of them coexist, right? I mean, Western medicine is very good for trauma, for example. Right, If you're hit by a car, you don't start to chigong.
Speaker 2:Right, you have to go to emergency, right, they need to fix you go to surgery. That's like trauma, like immediate response is very, very powerful. Okay, if you need to fix a physical problem in your heart or your kidneys or your stomach, again, these are like the results of years of damage that we do to ourselves, right? So this will be done very, very well if it's reached like an extreme state that it must be opened and fixed and, by the way, the Western medicine is also very good in those individual organs.
Speaker 2:So you start and you get practice in one organ. This is what the doctor is doing for their life cardio. Uh, so someone is dealing with your heart, someone is dealing with the you know with, with your spine, or with your kidneys, or with your skin or with your head, right? So there is like, this is the only thing that they do, right? Um, yeah, while the chinese medicine is like has a completely different approach. It's like a holistic approach about balancing all your organs into one holistic system.
Speaker 2:By the way, this is something that is really in early stages of exploration in Western medicine. So you have your heart communicating with your lungs. What are the? How do you look at it as an entity, right? So no one is, I mean, because it's going to all these verticals. That's the way it's being evolved, right? And today, if you go to medicine, like on the first year, you will start. The studies will be all about medicine, okay, and that's probably a new topic completely how the medicine companies just took over Western medicine, right? Oh, so, of course, there is a business here that needs to be discussed, right? So the business of supplements and pills and a lot of these things that are just probably doing things on the uh just on the surface, but they're not going. They're not going inwards and trying to come up with the solutions for that. So definitely there's a place for both practices.
Speaker 2:Western medicine, Eastern medicine, and you'll find a lot of Western doctors. Just in some of the scenarios recommend patients to go to the Chinese medicine. Now, where they do that, they do that mostly on chronic issues like chronic pains or chronic ailments.
Speaker 2:If you just do a. You know you did a CT and an MRI in your head and there is no physical evidence that something is wrong. But you feel your head is burning and you feel those headaches and it's been going on for years. Western medicine they don't have anything. But you feel your head is burning and you feel those headaches and it's been going on for years.
Speaker 2:Western medicine they don't have anything to offer you anymore, probably just pills, probably to reduce pains. But when it's chronic, then you understand that there's some kind of a few layers below that is foundational for things that evolved through years of, let's say, internal damage or harming that you do for yourself for many, many years. If you work too hard and you reach a burnout, you will face some physical or mental or emotional problem. That's clear, right, but it took years for you to to create that damage over the years, some, most of the cases, unknowingly that you're, you think that you are very powerful and you can sustain, but the body is giving you signals along the way that you need to stop. Okay, and it can be, um, you know millions of other scenarios, right, it eventually impacts what, what, uh, what your, what, your lifestyle and what do you feel about your spouse or about your?
Speaker 2:friends and these are things that you are keep repeating to yourself, and this repetition has an impact on the physical behavior of a specific organ okay and then you go to your doctor and you ask for some help, okay, and but that's very far in the process, after years of you know this damage.
Speaker 1:It's too much, but it is after years of impacting in a very negative way the way your body operates I know you say that it's a quick fix in both ways, but I think these pills or like it will be more ideal for you to take these pills. But I think that, like on the minor scale, a lot of the times these medications can cripple you from even developing certain, just certain things that you have to go through that your brain needs to go through to develop that mental fortitude. So I think it's way more costly sometimes when it comes to just, you know, fixing something with pills in the long term percent.
Speaker 2:So for me I mean sometimes you need to take those pills just to relax, right pills, but pills will not solve the root cause.
Speaker 2:That's clear, right? I hope it's clear for all our listeners that none of the pills out there just fixing the root cause they are helping in any in any certain way. They are probably reducing pain, but they are not fixing anything internally, right? So, like no one was able to, uh, to reduce the time that probably we get cold, right, and our body needs to recover, right, the body fix itself. No one else fix our fix it right. And all this external um medication or things that you know doctors do to us, they're just for ease or for reducing pains.
Speaker 2:And you asked before and I'm not sure I gave you the full answer about how we impact our thoughts and the two important issue that now it's very, very known for scientists and it's about neuroplasticity, neurogenesis, right? So neuroplasticity is our way to create new neural pathways in our mind that is really changing the way our body has been structured and the chemistry that is moving in our body. Right, and this is done primarily by thoughts, affirmations, qigong, movement, changing of lifestyle lifestyle, right, if we change what we eat and the way we sleep and what we tell ourselves during the day.
Speaker 2:and if we close, we stop listening to news for 30 days, this will change our mind.
Speaker 2:Okay, and if we, if we, if we think about the past and we have like a um, you know, a negative, a negative thought that is immediately influence our body, we can feel it in our body.
Speaker 2:If, for example, we had a process that after a certain point of time, when we think about the past, we don't have this negative thought, or we think about this negative thought, but we learn how to not create a major issue about these thoughts like no big deal type of thing, right? So people that have, for example, headaches or tinnitus or back pains, and this creates huge impact on the way they think, they feel and the quality of life, like it's the default state, they feel and the quality of life, okay, like it's the default state. So think about a situation where you think about something that usually creates a lot of pains in you, but you look at it in a non, not big deal type of attitude. Okay, you look at it from a distance on this negative thought, like an observer, like a flight coordinator. You look at it from above, from a distance, but it's not getting into you. You don't get overwhelmed by it.
Speaker 2:It doesn't cause you any negative thoughts or emotional problems. It's just a thought that comes and goes. Okay, there are ways to train yourself to think that way, to think about learning to detach yourself from something that has impacted you negatively for many, many years. Okay, and there are ways to do that through practice. And then those thoughts are not creating any impact on your mentally, physically and emotionally. You look at them from a distance, like an observer. There is no emotional or physical impact on your body.
Speaker 2:This is a process of neuroplasticity, of rewiring your default state of thoughts and the way they impact your body. So we're thinking about something and now we are thinking about it of the same topic in a completely different way, because this is rewiring. If we're afraid of something, let's say afraid of flight, or afraid of something that we knowiring, if we're afraid of something, let's say afraid of flight, or afraid of something that we know that our friends are not afraid of, so for any human being, it's an area where I'm really, really afraid of and my friends they don't care about it, they're not afraid of, let's say, flights. You are wired, your default state of wire, wiring in your mind and, as we said, thoughts are electricity rewiring, rewiring of two neurons, okay, and if your default state of these neurons is to just cripple you and go into panic mode, then this is your default state. You need to understand that Through practice, you can change that, and we saw a lot of people that are now not afraid of flights. It's something that can happen in life, correct? Now, when you moved and finalized this transition, then you rewired your brain neurons and you actually created this neuroplasticity.
Speaker 2:Okay, by the way, neuroplasticity is something that you can do until the last day of your life. Scientists thought it's something you can do, probably until your 20s, but now, obviously, they know that you can do something all the way throughout our entire life. The effectiveness and, I would say, the ease of doing that is reducing over the years, but it's a, it's a muscle that we can practice throughout our entire life. So this is about neuroplasticity and how do we change? We want to feel at the end, right. So if we are afraid, okay, instead of just repeating the words of those negative words I'm afraid of this, I'm afraid of that let's start speaking and think and talk and even write. So I I recommend a lot about of therapeutic writing, right, which, when you write it helps a lot embedding all those new thoughts into your mind, just describing what do you want to feel on your new state on that state that you want to achieve, instead of fighting your existing negative thoughts.
Speaker 2:When you do that, you always make it bigger and bigger, and there is no way for you to win. Instead, when you do that, you always make it bigger and bigger and there is no way for you to win. Instead, like a seesaw, instead of thinking about this negative thought, try thinking more and more during the day about that new story that you want to build for yourself. It's a process. Some of it will take weeks, some of it will take months. Some of it will take years but it's a process.
Speaker 2:You can expedite this process, by the way, through writing, through affirmation, through practice, through Qigong this helps you a lot with this and then you create all these neural pathway in the tactic of focusing on what do you want to be or what do you want to feel at the end result. Okay, that's that. That's a practice of neuroplasticity, which is very, very powerful, by the way, for physical ailments, for trauma, okay, sometime you cannot ignore what happened in the past and you need to do some processing. Okay, if the trauma is big. But a lot of the things that most people going through their life can be done, you know, in that way of thinking, writing, affirming to yourself what do you want to feel on that end result of that new state that the problem that you're trying to fix and neurogenesis is creating, recreating from scratch these neurons, just the quantity of them, okay.
Speaker 2:So we know that and this is probably the latest in terms of brain science is not just we can create new neural pathways of ways we want to think Again, having huge impact on our physical state, our emotional state, our mental state. Also, we can create new neurons in our mind, in our brain. It's a physical thing. How do we do that? By changing, mostly by changing quality or the way we'll live hours of sleep, for example, things that we eat okayusing a lot on omega-3, you know, fish, olive oil, this type of more healthy food, things that we like to do right and we don't have time to do right. If we have, like a child dream to be someone or to do something on our personal life, like a hobby or anything, start doing that. If you want to get rid of people that are harming us and we don't do that, it can be family members, coworkers just get rid of them. This changes a lot in your wellbeing. So the number one impact on your wellbeingbeing, according to any report and statistics out there, is your, your community, your social connections right they create the most impact on our
Speaker 2:quality of life. So, thinking about who you meet every day, are they good for you, are they bad for you? Right, and change that. So it's 100% on our control. Okay, I'm not saying it's easy to do all of them, but with the right motivation and the right help, doing all those things can create huge impacts in the way you create new neurons in your head, you create new neural pathways in your head, therefore changing the chemistry in your body, your physical well-being, everything flowing much better, and this just has an impact on everything that you do in all aspects of your life.
Speaker 1:I could keep you here all day. I have so many questions for you. You're just so well knowledgeable on this topic and I I'm grateful for this conversation because this is going to help a lot of people who are just interested in just being better. You know, just being better and attracting that desired reality and manifestation, and how important is going through this process when it comes to being that person you want to become and having that life you want to have.
Speaker 2:Sorry, I missed that question. Can you repeat?
Speaker 1:So how important is that process of rewiring neuroplasticity, how important is going through that process to attracting the reality you want.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So there is a lot of news or bad news, I would say, around. Yeah, you just keep focusing on saying to yourself what do you want to be and everything will be fine, right.
Speaker 1:Well, it doesn't work that way.
Speaker 2:Sorry to deliver this to you, right, because if you don't believe in it it will not work right. Right, and if you are like working somewhere and you want to be that boss and you don't believe that you can be that boss because of your past experiences, life experiences you can say to yourself millions of times it will not happen, right. So you need to work on this initial fundamental foundation. What prevents you from thinking that you can do? And through questioning if this person, for example, seeks some help you'll find out very, very fast that there's some kind of an internal story, some past experience preference whatever that actually prevents him from believing in himself that he can be that boss right?
Speaker 2:So there is always a gap. It's very difficult for us to find those gaps right, but if you think about it on your own, you say, okay, I want to achieve that, but I'm still not there. What prevents me from achieving. Achieving this is this is something that is related to me. I am the problem. The limitation is on my side because of this, and this is so we need to do some research internally. Okay, by the way, the best way you can do that just start a journal. Okay, write a problem and try to solve this problem, just throwing out ideas on paper. You'll be amazed what happens in this process. Okay, because when you write things, it's like you have the best you know psychologist right in front of you.
Speaker 2:Right, you are the best psychologist of yourself and anyone in the world. Okay, so of you, right, you are the best psychologist of yourself than anyone in the world, okay, so you just write things and you just try to answer that for yourself and you will identify those gaps right, and you'll find why you're you're so stuck or limited and you feel that there are problems there. But yeah, I mean, you need to find for yourself first and resolve that problem right and try to clarify and open this black box right. What's preventing you from taking that next steps? And then, obviously, we know there is no limitations in the world, right, because we we see what people can achieve all over, like every day. It's like unbelievable, right there is no difference between anyone.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, and it's not related to education, it's not related to, uh, you know, people started from nowhere and achieved crazy things right, amazing things because of self-belief, you know, tenacity. They couldn't accept no as an answer. They had this internal motivation to do things and they were not afraid of breaking things and fail, and they knew that they have this internal power to overcome everything and they knew that the only way to fail is probably just by giving up right.
Speaker 2:So there's no way to give up. So that toughness and mentality, I think it's very, very important right and obviously for business and for anything in life. But can you work on yourself? Can you create a process, that of improvement, of creating a better state for your work-life balance, for example, or for your relationship? 100, 100 of course anyone can do that, anyone and I want to finish you off with this.
Speaker 1:I always ask my guests this what's the first thing you think of when you hear mind over matter?
Speaker 2:of when you hear mind over matter. Yeah, for me it's very powerful statement, right, and, as we discussed throughout this whole episode, anything we think has immediate impact on our body, right, mind is a very powerful organ that we have. I think it's like 6% of our body weight, but it consumes 25% of our blood and energy, right? So this is where everything starts and finished, and you need to put your mind in a state of here and now, because most of the time, we just spend too much time on the future or on the past. So future is all about stress. The past is about sadness and depression. So we don't want to be in the past, stuck in the past, and we don't want to be afraid of the future, of imaginary stories we have in our head that cause us stress.
Speaker 2:Just focus on here and now. Create a state of balance. Think about your emotion Something is more to extreme, maybe, or needs to be balanced, okay and think about your physical state. Try to find few minutes during the day where you concentrate on your. Just concentrate inward on yourself. Look kind of a baddest body scan. Right, think about what do you feel right now? Where do do you are contracting? What's stressful? Just be an observer, right.
Speaker 2:Mind over matter is all about being detaching yourself from stress and pain. So think about what's happening right now in terms of your thought process, of your emotional state, of your physical state, but look at it from remote, detach yourself from those events, look at it from a distance, like an observer. You'll be amazed. This is a very, very powerful tactic to just put things into perspective and just identify the gaps and just right those gaps and know what you need to work on. Everything is achievable. So that's, for me, is mind over matter. I mean, if your mind is in a good state, the matter is in outmost performance. It's like bio. It's the issue of like biomechanics and bioenergy, right. So biomechanics is a physical state and bioenergy is all the rest, right? The chi, the energy that moves within us, the thoughts, our emotions. These are the things that we cannot see, we cannot touch them, but we can definitely feel them.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much, aiden. Your time here was well spent, because I think a lot of people are going to find value from this episode and I really appreciate you for sharing your knowledge today and anything else you want to just get out there about this topic and have on your chest that you just want to get out there your chest that you just want to get out there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, just spend some time, you know, observing, observing yourself, you know, throughout the day, maybe just a few seconds or even a few minutes, because our body is telling us, providing us signals all the time. Okay, so our body, our mind, our thoughts, our emotion, everything that we own right and possess internally in terms of our physical state, our emotional state, our mental state, it's operating like a team.
Speaker 2:We are think about it that we are just one team working together for the benefits of everything right ourselves, society, the universe and look inward, trying to think about those things. What do you feel? What are you thinking of? Okay, what is the current state that you are? And try to work with those emotions, with those thoughts, positively Again, as a team, balancing thoughts, emotions and relaxing your body and relaxing your body. That's something that anyone can do and can definitely start creating a positive process in everyone's lives.
Speaker 1:Right. Thank you so much, Aiden I appreciate it, thank you. So if you found value in this episode and you reached the end, congratulations. I know that you are just one step closer to just loving yourself. You know this episode was very therapeutic for me personally, so I'm grateful for this conversation and thank you for your time, aiden. And yeah, if you reach the end of another episode, make sure that you tell a friend. And tell a friend that it's mind over matter, baby.