Your Attention Is Currency

After disappearing for three months,  I return with three powerful lessons learned during my hiatus that transformed how I approach life, healing, and authenticity. In this episode, I talk about how I learned that your attention is your most valuable currency, why moving in silence can is so powerful, and remembering who you truly are.

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome Back After Hiatus
• 3:58 Lesson One: Your Attention Is Currency
• 8:13 Lesson Two: Moving In Silence
• 14:26 Lesson Three: Remember Who You Are
• 17:28 Closing Thoughts and Gratitude

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Go out your way to discover the things you like and own it. Be proud of it. Put it on display like it's cool, because you said it's cool. Validate yourself. You are worthy, take up space and stop dimming your light. Stop dimming your light. Stop getting in your own way and talking yourself out of your potential. The only way you're going to attract the people who are meant for you is if you are truly being your authentic self.

Speaker 2: 0:41

Mind over matter is magic, I do magic. Mind over matter is magic, I do magic. Mind over matter is magic, I do magic Mind over I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad, I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad. I'm mad.

Speaker 1: 1:18

I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad, I'm mad. Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, y'all, welcome. I missed it. I missed it here. I missed it here a lot. I love it here and I'm never leaving. Welcome to mind over matter. Baby, welcome, I missed it here. Um, um, welcome, I missed it here. Um, yeah, y'all remember me.

Speaker 1: 2:12

I know, I know I've been gone for like three months, but it's okay because I'm back, that's all that matters is that I'm back, that's all that matters. So, not too much on your girl, not too much. Yeah, so I'm back in the better. No, bryson tiller, miley, relax, no, bryson tiller, anyways, I'm not gonna do too much chit chat and too much politicking. You see this setup. You see this setup.

Speaker 1: 2:40

I didn't really I didn't neglect y'all for so long not to come back, right, you see, you see, you see this setup. Well, for my audio listeners, let me explain the setup to y'all. I got the beanbag, big cozy beanbag. I got the. I got the neon. Um, I have a, a mug, for aesthetic reasons only, you know, on my real reporter, reporter talk show vibes and in the cup yet, um, yeah, anyways, it's a mug, sorry, but just to give you a little visualization of what's going on on the youtube side of things for my audio listeners. I'm back and that's all that matters. That's like I said. I'm back and I also came back with three big lessons, so I didn't totally neglect. Y'all came back bearing gifts and that's what I'm going to talk about on today's episode of the podcast. So kick back, relax and enjoy the episode. Cheers, I missed it here, so bad.

Speaker 1: 3:58

But lesson one your attention is currency. Your attention is currency. What you pay attention to, you're going to see the returns of it in your reality. What you spend your, when you put your attention into something, there's always going to be a result that comes out of putting your attention into that thing. So why wouldn't you put your attention into things that is going to give you a good ROI, a return on investment? Because, like I said, attention is currency. So when you invest your intention into something, why wouldn't you want a greater return? And while being away, I realized that eight slept and breathed Mind Over Matter podcast. Like that was my life. Mind Over Matter is life and my life was. Mind Over Matter and still is.

Speaker 1: 4:59

Divert my attention into other things to make sure, when I'm speaking my reality into existence on this podcast, it's aligning with how I'm living off camera, because nothing's more cornier to me than somebody that is saying all these things but their actions don't add up. Oh my God, corny man, boo Tomato, tomato, tomato Throwing tomatoes that's the literal definition of a hypocrite. And yeah, I don't want to be that and never was and never will be. So I had to make sure that if I'm coming on here saying don't give a damn what anybody thinks about you when I turn off the camera and go on social media, I gotta keep that same energy, and I wasn't, you know. Um, I had to fight a lot of demons, so that's why I had to turn off the camera, if you want me to be very transparent. And I was getting dragged, I was getting wiped across the floor because I'm a I'm I'm not a fighter, I'm a lover for real. So I I really like I can't fight. So these demons was really like, really beating me, like, oh my god, like I really was losing. I was losing for a while, like and I did not want y'all to see that it got real ugly like Sharkisha. No, like my demons with Sharkisha and I was just like it was just, and I I don't know how to fight, you know. So, like I'm saying it, it got ugly. I had to turn off the camera and really like put my attention back on healing.

Speaker 1: 6:50

Healing is nonlinear. So what I mean by that is that you could be good one day on your healing journey and wake up the next day and not feeling like going through that day. You know what I mean. Healing is non-linear. Sometimes there's up, sometimes it's down, up, down, up, down, up, down, up, down, up, down, up, down. That's the journey of healing.

Speaker 1: 7:13

And what I started to realize is that when you're healing and you're recording it, it's hard to pretend like you're not getting your wig snatched by these demons. Sometimes I'd be going through it and it's hard to just turn on the camera and be like, yeah, I'm happy. So I had to step away from that and fight those demons off camera because it was ugly. It was ugly. I can't fight. Now, imagine fighting demons. I don't know how to fight, you know. So, like I'm saying, it got ugly.

Speaker 1: 7:52

I had to turn off the camera and really like put my attention back on healing and like being more intentional without constantly being perceived that kind of leads into my second lesson, which is why it's so important to move in silence. I had to turn the cameras off. I had to turn the cameras off and I had to do my healing journey and go through that shadow work. And when you're going through that shadow work it's dark. You don't have these lights, cameras, it's none of this. And why it's so important to do that in silence is because people cannot destroy or they cannot infect what they don't know, because people could really be parasitical and I learned that the hard way. You know, I was a part of that. I was a part of that wave of people that would be like Move in silence Hashtag, move in silence but post all my moves on my stories. And I feel like that's a lot of the society nowadays. And it's crazy.

Speaker 1: 9:13

Because I had to learn how to move in silence, because I started realizing that I, by me yapping my mouth and telling everybody my moves and my plans, it was blocking a lot of my blessings and it was giving them access to speak fear into my plans. It doesn't matter what somebody title is, if they're your mother, your brother, your father, your cousin, your auntie, your uncle, your pastor, your chef, your baby moms. It's like, at the end of the day, it's better to just keep it to yourself, keep your plans to yourself, because you don't have to say too much. The work is going to speak for itself. And that's really what I learned it's better to just let the work speak for itself and save your breath.

Speaker 1: 10:06

And also, sometimes you just need to shut up, like for real. You just need to shut up. Sometimes there's nothing to be said and I don't feel guilty for leaving for so long because, like, I just had to, like, just be quiet and sit with my thoughts and go through what I went through and it was beautiful, you know, like, think about it, think about nature, even think about trees. Think about how trees are in the winter. They're cold, it's brittle, it's ugly. Nobody wants to take pictures and put it on their Instagram page, but during that season, the tree is growing in strength. Its roots are getting stronger, the branches are getting stronger by the winds and the gusts of the winter season, but nobody cares, nobody want to see that, but it happens in that time and it's silence when it's not being observed as much by people.

Speaker 1: 11:19

Some of the most beautiful trees are unseen to mankind. But, um, let me not get too too, too, um, too existential on y'all. But my thing is, when the spring comes, that's when all the nature baddies Wanna have these trees up in their IG posts, because, at the end of the day, people only Are in awe at the magnificence once they see the beauty. And when the trees start growing in its strength in the winter season and it comes and pops out in the spring and everybody's taking pictures of the tree. The tree is so beautiful, my God, the tree is so beautiful. But it's like, where was you? Where were you? Where were you shooting with me in the gym? You know, at the end of the day, what I'm saying. You can learn a lot from nature, especially when it comes to moving in silence. Yeah, the work speaks volumes.

Speaker 1: 12:32

And another analogy I have is Think of a picture. When you are developing a picture from a camera, you have the best way to develop the picture is in the dark, under red light, under very dark lighting, and I like that analogy Another analogy that I'm just here with the analogies today. Another analogy that comes to me is think of like when you're growing out your hair I've been growing out my locks for two years now, when you're growing out your hair, right, you don't want to share that with a bald-headed, hated negroid. Why would you do that? Why would you share that news with somebody who doesn't even have a hair on their head, you know? Because then they're gonna let their insecurities project onto you, like, oh no, your hair still didn't grow. Oh, your hair is still that size. Oh, your hair still didn't grow out. Oh, and all of a sudden now you thinking like, damn, my hair is not growing. I might as well just stop trying to grow it out. And that's why it's so important to like don't even give people that accessibility to even speak. That fear into your mind and moving in silence is so underrated for that reason because, like I said, people cannot destroy what they don't know, and I'm parched, but anywho, yeah, just shut up, that's. That's lesson two. Shut up, just shut up. Just shut up.

Speaker 1: 14:26

Lesson three remembering who you are. Remember who you are and don't let this world trick you out of who you are. Um, it's crazy because I had found my second grade report card and it read Deja has a great disposition, but Our only problem with her Is that she has Trouble following the rules and disturbs the class and I got my ass beat when my mother, when my mother, read that and every single parent-teacher conference it was the same thing. She's a great kid, she's very smart, but she talks too much, she's always disturbing in class, she's always talking to her neighbors and that was on replay for up until like college, for real, like I had my mom come to the school on multiple occasions for being a disruption to the class. Me like that's crazy, like I'm not even. Like I mean I do be instigating stuff, but I'm a kid, like anyway, I grew out of it. I still am an upstanding citizen of society. So they were really chatting at the end of the day and I said all of that to say don't let society trick you out of who you are, because the teacher felt like I was talking too much and I should stop talking.

Speaker 1: 16:08

Imagine if I did. Imagine if I did, I probably wouldn't have a podcast, I probably wouldn't have a very successful podcast right now and own who you are, accept it like society caters to you, not knowing who you are. So it's like an active practice go out your way to discover the things you like, and Just go out your way to discover the things you like and own it, be proud of it, put it on display like it's cool, because you said it's cool. Validate yourself. You are worthy, take up space and stop dimming your light. Stop dimming your light, stop getting in your own way and talking yourself out of your potential. The only way you're going to attract the people who are meant for you is if you are truly being your authentic self and it's beautiful. And that's really the three lessons I've learned while on my hiatus.

Speaker 1: 17:28

If you took something away from the podcast, I appreciate you shout out to like big up yourself, big up yourself, big up yourself. Thank you for a thousand subscribers. I'm so excited to be back. Got a lot in stores for mind over matter podcast and, yeah, I'm happy to be back. If this resonated with you in any way, I'm glad it did. This was very nice to be. And yeah, don't forget to tell a friend, to tell a friend mother, that it's mind over matter baby.

Speaker 2: 18:09

Thank you.