Mind Over Matter: Mindset Development
Venting about life while trying to navigate through it and sharing what I’ve learned with the world through enlightening conversation. This podcast was made and carefully curated in the essence of myself Deja Wallace. I will take you on my journey of self-discovery through a video journal-type podcast that guides you to self-discovery as I evolve with every episode. Mind Over Matter is the power to govern how you feel internally through mindset development. This podcast is essentially for dreamers, deep thinkers, optimists, and anyone who’s on the journey of self-discovery. RATE COMMENT SUBSCRIBE
Mind Over Matter: Mindset Development
Living in Alignment: Solo Trips, Mindset, Staying True to Yourself ft.TiatalksNYC
Tia shares her powerful journey of overcoming serious health challenges after being poisoned by black mold, which temporarily disconnected her from her creative voice. This experience taught her the importance of sometimes stepping back to focus on healing before returning to her path with renewed clarity. Her viral solo cruise adventure becomes a fascinating metaphor for choosing your own direction despite others' doubts – a testament to the strength found in trusting yourself.
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Mind over matter. The matter are the obstacles, the things that are put into place to stop us from reaching our goals and our purpose. We all have power, called agency, to do what we want. We have to tap in and dig deep within ourselves to overcome all those freaking obstacles and distractions and, you know, not having enough resources or being in the wrong environment. There's so many things that are put in place to stop us from reaching our full potential. But if you have the strength, the tenacity, the willpower to keep going, to keep fighting for what you want out of life, anything is really possible. And if you have to take a break while you're on that journey, that's okay. Don't you believe that you can shoot for the stars? No limitations. You are gonna go far. Keep on growing and learning. Be the best version of you that you are.
Speaker 2:That you are, because it's mind over matter. You know nothing else matters. It's mind over matter. It's mind over matter. You know nothing else matters. It's mind over matter. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I could've went longer.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm like when's she gonna end?
Speaker 2:I could've went longer, but I was like, let me not drag it, welcome to Mind Over Matter, baby gonna end. I could have went longer, but I was like, let me not drag it, welcome to mind over matter, baby. I'm your host, deja wallace, and uh, welcome to another episode. Like you really came back to listen to another episode. I love that for you. I love that for us and as you can hear from the voice, from the beautiful voice.
Speaker 2:We have a familiar face for the people watching on the youtube side of things. We have a familiar. We have the lovely Tia.
Speaker 1:Hello everybody. It's Tia Talks. I'm here. I'm excited to be here again, back on the couch. First time we wasn't in a couch, though we was like in, like a school oh yeah, talk about the glow up green screen like so yeah, there's elevation here and I want to give you props because you've been consistent as hell and everyone's watching, so keep doing your big one. I appreciate you too, oh my god, yes, always stop.
Speaker 2:I appreciate you for real, like the first time she came on, I was at the radio station at brooklyn college. Yes, yes and nothing was wrong with it. It was cool.
Speaker 1:It was a cool setup at the time but, it was time to up the it was content beginning yes, yes, yes that was like baby mind over matter.
Speaker 2:Now we're here with it. This is november, is going to be year five wow, yes time is flying, yeah, yeah, so we're gonna get into a lot on today's episode yeah, we like okay coming out here to the studio.
Speaker 1:We was talking, I was giving her so much information about what's been going on in my life, what is next, and we're gonna talk about it today, because let's just have a good time and we're friends in real life.
Speaker 2:So it's yeah, yeah, definitely, definitely. I want to get into a lot this episode, mainly living in alignment. I also want to touch on your solo trip yes I want to touch on just mindset. Of course, we always go back to mindset. Mind over matter, hello and yeah, wherever this conversation takes us, it takes us. Kick back, relax, grab a snack and let's get into this episode. Let's get into it yes episode 110.
Speaker 2:See, that's how yeah, oh my gosh consistency. So, yeah, I've found myself living more in alignment with my purpose recently and just choosing to be more focused and being more distracted in this season of my life, and I really just wanted to have you come on, because I feel like you're somebody that's living in alignment as well with your purpose and your calling. And what does living in alignment look like for you?
Speaker 1:Okay. So the word alignment is a beautiful word, but what I think that alignment means to me is basically being able to just do whatever I want when I want, but being able to say yes when it is in alignment with what I need, with what, with what my purpose is for that time being. So in the past, I feel like I've been given so many opportunities and I've always been like yes, yes, yes, yes. But then I've realized me saying yes to everything actually derailed me and took me away from, like, my alignment and my center and my focus, because I was saying yes to so many opportunities that I wasn't able to show up as of my full self, because I was drained, like I would go to these events and do the interviews and just show up but I wasn't showing up in alignment. So being able to decipher what is for me and what is not for me. So that's what I really think it is. I feel like you might have had similar experiences as well.
Speaker 2:Definitely, I can attest to that. Like sometimes it feels like, you know, like when you have that angel and that devil on your shoulder, yeah, like every day it feels like am I going to choose the path that is in alignment, or am I gonna be distracted? Today, you, know what. I mean and fall further away from my calling. Yeah, do you feel like you're living fully in alignment and like everything you're doing?
Speaker 1:I feel like there's some days where I feel like, yes, I'm doing everything in alignment with what I want, with what my purpose is, but then there are some days where I feel like I'm not where, I'm eating the wrong foods, where I'm talking to the wrong people while I'm doom scrolling on social media. So, yeah, there are some just choices and decisions that I've made that have not put me on the right path, but I was able to get myself out of it by being in like a supportive relationship, by talking to my family, by seeking out help, like therapy and I do like online therapy, like telehealth, so like that got me back to where I should be like in alignment with, like, what I wanted to do with my life and keep me straight and narrow and not like going out and hanging out with bad influences and drinking, like I kind of just like. In a way, I feel like I kind of went cold turkey with everything. I just stopped everything, even things that I felt were in alignment with what I wanted to do with my life, which was the, the podcast. I took a break from all of that, but now I'm slowly creeping back out, I'm slowly back, dipping my foot in the water. I'm here talking to you.
Speaker 1:I've been making content online on TikTok mainly, and I've been having some like success on there. I feel like I'm just sharing like what I've been feeling for months, like not feeling enough, or just just I want to share like my story with like other people and I know there's other people or other women out there that feel the same, that feel like they're not all the way there or their work isn't making them feel like they, um, aren't having the. The work that they're in right now isn't aligned with their purpose. So I feel like there's so many people out there that are feeling like that, and so what I'm doing right now is just sharing what's on my mind, how I'm feeling, how I'm going through it, how to get out of it and the whole journey.
Speaker 2:And it's funny because I've seen a clip where you, like you have posted like um, something along the lines of like, you feel like sometimes like your job could drain your creative energy, right, yeah, you're nine to five and I always go back to perspective and mindset and everything, because you know, I do have a nine to five and I do, I did have like nine to fives I didn't like, but I feel like in everything there's a connection. You know what I mean. That's preparing you for something more. If you have that mindset to see it.
Speaker 1:That is true.
Speaker 2:But if you're not able to see it, you're just going to look at it as an opportunity to catapult you or, like just you know maneuver into that next breakthrough.
Speaker 1:Right, yeah, so it is.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I agree with you, it is all about perspective. I feel like these type of conversations I do have with other people and they do remind me that there are people out there that wish that they could be in my shoes, that wish they could have a nine-to-five, that wish that they could, you know, pursue other things outside of the nine-to-five. So I am grateful.
Speaker 2:but you could afford a rent yes, yeah, on my own.
Speaker 1:No assistance, no government no food stamps, like everything is off the back of myself. My parents don't help me, you know. So I nothing's wrong. No food stamps, like everything is off the back of myself.
Speaker 2:My parents don't help me you know, so I nothing's wrong with food stamps, y'all yeah, there's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 1:I'm just saying like I love everything that I put inside my body is coming off of me walking, going to work, hustling every day, and doing it from monday to saturday. So there are women out there that actually work and they're really fighting every day like some of these jobs aren't paying us enough to even, you know, pay for food or pay for luxury things that we so some of us desire. But we have to just keep going.
Speaker 1:Like you said, it's all about perspective there's people that have less than us and people that wish that they could be in our shoes. And you know, sometimes I can't complain and I can't say, oh like, my job is draining my creativity, but I gotta keep going to work. Bills, bills have to get paid. And I'm still going to do what I can with the time time that I have available to create, to be on social media, to build, to uplift people like you and support and repost. You are very supportive. I appreciate you, um thank you.
Speaker 2:So how are you making time for your creativity?
Speaker 1:so, uh, when I get off of work, that's like the first thing I do. I put on my phone and I'm like scrolling, I tap into podcasts, I'm listening, I'm eager to learn new types of things, to like build up the platform that my personal brand, um. So what I do is, as soon as I get off of work, I'm I'm pressing that button and I'm recording, I'm talking, I'm trying to make, give people something to see, something to encourage people. Either. When I'm going to the gym, I'm filming myself, filming myself. When I'm walking down the street, filming myself do a makeup any I could open up right now.
Speaker 2:I'm going to see her and I love that. I love that because I know that it's not easy yeah, it's not especially being consistent, always like trying to share your energy with other people to just judge you. You know what I mean. But yeah, congrats on that, because you've been pretty consistent. Even when you I had ran into you on the train, you were like I wasn't consistent. You know, I'm like girl, I still see you, I'm still seeing you. On the train, you were like I wasn't consistent. You know, I'm like girl.
Speaker 1:I still see you, I'm still seeing you, you know it was crazy because, for for a period of time like my my name on social media is called Tia Talks, right and there was a period of time where I wasn't talking. I was just posting videos of me just like sitting in a chair like a deep thought, deep, deep thought, and just like looking out into the distance like a caption, yeah. So there was always like captions and words, uh, connected to the video that expressed how I was feeling that day or what I was thinking, or, uh, some argument I got into with somebody like so, yeah, but now I'm talking, I'm ready to talk, yeah, and share, like what has been holding me back for like a few months and things like that. So now I'm opening my mouth. I'm doing more storytelling too.
Speaker 1:So, like I'll go out in during the day, whenever, if I have a day off or something, I'll go out in the day and then just like, if something comes up, whether it's in my relationship, whether it's in with my family, I'll put that little theme in the storyline of what I did during that day. So if I'm giving you like a little vlog of like what I did throughout the day, I'm telling you, okay, like me and my mom got into it and it's okay because, like, I'll just give you a sense of, like, what's going on in my life to add value when you say you weren't talking right um, I did go through a period, too, when I wasn't as consistent as I wanted to be, because I just didn't have anything to say.
Speaker 2:Yeah, sometimes you just don't have to have anything to say, you just have to observe life as it comes and is life at that moment doesn't require you to speak yeah just be an observer and take in everything and you don't have to react to it right away.
Speaker 2:You can just be present in it, and I feel like that's the part of social media that kind of annoys me, because it always promotes just being consistent, being consistent, being consistent, yeah, and having a podcast and talking. You have to keep talking, but sometimes just shut up, like sometimes you do need to shut up and just move in silence. You know what I mean? Yeah, why did you start? Why did you stop talking for that period of time?
Speaker 1:So I got like deeply sick. I was poisoned by black molds in my apartment, so I got really sick and like I kind of lost like a sense of self and direction. So I wasn't in alignment because I was so focused on my health. So that's really the reason why I stopped talking and, honestly, like I would go out and do like the street interviews and I would like space out because I didn't know what to say anymore. Like I just felt so disconnected from my brain. It was such a weird time but I felt so disconnected that I didn't know what to say when I would do these interviews and stuff. So that was me. It was more like sickness that got me into not talking.
Speaker 1:And then, as I was going through this healing journey, I was like, all right, little by little I'm just start creating the content, start talking, getting comfortable back with just being on camera and having the lights in my face and coming up with words on the spot, sentences, questions to ask people, because it wasn't coming naturally. Yeah, it felt like I was just like stuck. So, yeah, it was a weird time and no one would know. You know, like you as like a viewer watching me, no one would know, unless, like you saw a video of me talking about how I was like getting sick and all this stuff. But yeah, like I was battling sickness and I was able to heal myself, shout out to the creators on tiktok that uh, talk about how to from being sick from mold. But yeah, it was a interesting time and I'm glad that I was able to fight through and get my body back in alignment and what mindset did you use to get back to where you are now?
Speaker 1:mmm, the mindset was just being disciplined, you know, but also not being hard on myself, you know, I just had to. I feel like, as a person that grew up in athletics, like you always are going to practice, you're practicing hours and hours. So I took that mindset, that athletic mindset, like okay, I'm going to show up, I'm going to do what I got to do. I'm always have like a list, a plan. So I like, coming to practice, the coach has a plan, so I have that for myself.
Speaker 1:I use like ChagiBT. I use AI to help me compartmentalize my social media and give me ideas. I use ChagiBT for ide ideation. So if I have a video, I'll type in what the video I want, the theme of the video I want it to be about. Write me a script. Everything is like the bullet points. I'm everything's scripted through chat gbt, so I always know what I have to say and how to say it. So I just been very disciplined with the plan, creating a plan and then also not procrastinating, you know. So at one point I had like rolls of content in my drafts that were just sitting there and I was like, all right, let's take some time to just like put them out and put try to add value to each video and I do resonate when you say being too hard on yourself, because when I do take little breaks here and there, I am the hardest on myself during the break, or, yeah, during the break yeah, I'm like I need to get back, I need to get back, I need to get back.
Speaker 2:And it's funny because, like you said, like the audience doesn't perceive it as that, because the algorithm is still pushing stuff out.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because you were so consistent. It's still like showing people stuff and people aren't waiting for you to drop. I know that that's hard to hear, but people aren't waiting for you to drop when they see you. They see you and then they if they, if they're feeling it, they're feeling it and they like it and then share it. But I think more so because we know who we are and like it's our content. We have a different type of connection to it than the audience who is just like oh, look, tia, yeah, like.
Speaker 2:But for us, like yo, I haven't been here in months and they don't even realize they like the video from like three weeks ago.
Speaker 1:Yeah you know what I mean, so just having grace with ourselves, that is true, because, like with the algorithm uh, speaking about the algorithm, like I'll have uh co-workers, they'll like, uh, they follow me on social and they'll be like oh, I saw you were here and I was like no, that was like two weeks ago yeah so like the algorithm is picking it up and pushing it out to people, but I don't realize it either that they're just seeing it later exactly yeah, so yeah, that happened to me too, like when I go to work, you're like yo, you were in jamaica.
Speaker 2:I'm like, that was like a month ago yeah, but okay, keep scrolling yeah, oh, let's get into your solo trip. That content has really blew you up recently, right yeah?
Speaker 1:it went out to that old trip. So in December of 2024, I decided to book a trip to Bermuda, a cruise leaving from Manhattan. And it was a gift to myself, because my birthday is in December. So I was like, like, let me just go and do something on my own that I've always wanted.
Speaker 2:I always wanted to do a cruise. Um, it's a vibe I love.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I never did that with my family, so I was like I'm just trying to go and do it on my own. So, as I was there on the cruise, I was like, all right, I'm at dinner and I was by myself. If you go, if you're a solo cruise traveler, they'll sit you by yourself sometimes or they'll sit you with a family. My first dinner I sat with by myself so weird and I was like making content while eating, like filming myself eating does the family authorize you to sit there?
Speaker 1:no, so they. It's weird, like so they'll have. I was sitting next to like a uh, three person group, a family, an indian family, and they had their table and then there was space in between the tables and then my table was right next to theirs, so it was like an arm's distance, so like the table was right where you are and I was sitting here. That's still kind of yeah, that's close so like I would turn and then the guy that was sitting next to me, we would like we had like a brief conversation.
Speaker 1:But yeah, they'll sit you up with like family so you won't feel alone okay, and they also have solo like solo events for solo travelers to like meet up at like one of the bars in on the cruise. Um, so I did go. I did, like you're so brave. Yeah, I attempted to go so I can meet people, but the ones I guess that I went to, no one showed up or they were at other people were. There were so many events, like on the first few days, so I felt like people didn't show up to that one so I went. I didn't meet nobody so I was like you know what f? F it? I'm just going to just roam around the ship, chill. I ate so much good food Like I think I gained like five pounds on that trip.
Speaker 2:I was just like the chefs on cruises.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the food is really good, top tier. I was loving it. I was like, yeah, I'm just going to eat. And the pastries and the cakes and everything.
Speaker 2:Because they usually come from different corners of the world right like real top-notch chefs that they hire on those cruises.
Speaker 1:So I was loving the food aspect and my favorite part was getting off the boat going to the island, just like chilling out on the beach sipping a little margarita. I had one drink the whole time. I was just like. You know I wasn't into like the drinking aspect because I wanted to be safe. You know, there's like a bunch of stories of like women going missing on cruises, like solo travelers and stuff.
Speaker 2:So I was again, yeah.
Speaker 1:So I was just like let me just I don't want to over indulge like I was just more about having a peaceful experience, relaxing, because my life outside of travel is chaotic, so I was like let me just chill.
Speaker 2:So it was beautiful I love that yeah one day I will be like that yeah, right now I know so.
Speaker 1:The one video I posted on tiktok went viral hit like 400k and I was like how come the video that I put the least effort into that just goes viral, like literally? I was just sitting there playing with my hair and then blew up overnight. That's a fact and I'm like dang like I didn't even talk. I wasn't even talking, I was just like looking at the camera flipping my hair and then the end.
Speaker 2:That's crazy what were they saying, like, what was the main thing you were um getting feedback on?
Speaker 1:you know there's trolls, so the trolls, I would like to mention the trolls. So they were just talking about, like oh, are you flipping your hair so many times? Like why would you go on a cruise by yourself? Like, why, why, why. And they couldn't even afford a cruise probably right so I was just like, okay, haters, bye.
Speaker 1:But then, like the other people, they were reaching out, like, oh, trying to give me advice, like, oh, I should do this, what type of activities I should do to like, meet more people trying to encourage me, people that were like, wow, you're so brave like I'm gonna book a cruise too, since, like you did it. And I'm like, oh, okay, okay, girl, do what you gotta do. Um, so yeah, people were saying I inspired them which was dope.
Speaker 2:What's the biggest takeaway you have from that solo trip?
Speaker 1:don't let nobody stop you, like, from doing anything. Like I did go on a solo cruise by myself, I'm probably going to do more solo traveling. There were people that were against me going by myself, like family members and stuff. But if you have your heart set on something, I would just say do it. Try to make the best out of any experience that you are a part of. Try everything experience that you are a part of, um, try everything, try all the food. That was like my big thing. I tried everything and um, I would say I I would want to be more social. So, like I was kind of to myself during that trip, I wanted to talk to people. Then I was also nervous too because, like I didn't, I wanted to be safe and there were just a bunch of people telling me that I wasn't safe.
Speaker 2:So, yeah. Like being more open to the experience.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, yeah.
Speaker 2:Okay, well, you always have another time, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm definitely gonna do something like that again.
Speaker 2:Yeah, do you think solo trips are for everyone?
Speaker 1:no, I don't think it's for everyone, like I've learned from, like the comment section, that a lot of people are like afraid to do solo trips, and it definitely isn't for everybody. Some people in life, I feel like there are people that can lead and then there's some people that just are destined to be followers, and you know what I'm saying. So if you, if you're a follower and you like being in groups and that's your vibe, that's okay. You don't have to go on solo trips. But if you feel like you're a person that is strong-minded and you don't like listening to the itinerary and you like doing your own thing, then best be it, go do it you ate with that answer?
Speaker 1:thank you. I feel like I'm flowing right now going into it.
Speaker 2:You heard all the oh, you're not safe, yeah, be on your p's and q's. And now that you've done that trip, what's the misconception that you realized?
Speaker 1:um, I would say the misconception would be not everyone's like out to get you, I guess, but I don't know like you just still had to be aware. Like, especially being a woman, you know, like I feel like if I was a man it would be fine. There's like a bunch of like. I feel like there were a bunch of men that were like roaming the ship by themselves, but being a woman in those situations it is a little terrifying.
Speaker 1:I'm not going to lie, just I've actually like met a few people women that do solo travel and they say they still have to be aware like they're not able to have so much fun where they're like, where they're putting themselves in like yeah, not like going out drinking and acting crazy.
Speaker 2:I think I haven't been solo traveling, but I do go out. I've tried to go out alone more recently during the summer, like going to like a party or something alone. What I realized, too, is you people can see the energy that you bring, and if you're bringing that energy like, oh I'm alone, I'm scared, nobody's talking to me, I'm shy, that's how, like just that's the vibration that you're going to attract yeah and I feel like for me, like if I was to ever go solo on a solo trip, I feel like I wouldn't come on.
Speaker 2:I would try not to come off as I'm alone yeah, yeah, that's what people were saying.
Speaker 1:Like, make it seem like you're with a group, yeah, but you're not.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I would try to, like you know, my best to be as social as possible, like you said you would do in the future yeah, yeah, just I think I gave off the energy like, don't fuck with me, I'm on a solo trip yeah, you see, you see, you see so that might be why it wasn't like the best, like socially, but it was the best for my mental health.
Speaker 2:I love that we love good, stable mental health over here. On mind of matter, yes, let's get into my first segment of the evening. Mind over matter. When you hear that statement, what's the first thing that comes to mind?
Speaker 1:wow, mind over matter. Wow, I feel like the matter are the obstacles, the things that are put into place to stop us from reaching our goals and our purpose. Right, we all have this word. We have this power called agency to do what we want. So we have to tap in and dig deep within ourselves to overcome all those freaking obstacles and distractions. And you know not having enough resources or you know being in the wrong environment. There's so many things that are put in place to stop us from reaching our full potential. But if you have the strength, the tenacity, the willpower to keep going, to keep fighting for what you want out of life, anything is really possible. And if you have to take a break while you're on that journey, that's okay, you know give yourself grace and, like I said before, don't be so hard on yourself I love that
Speaker 2:yeah, if you want to take a break, take a break. If you want to eat a cheeseburger, you could eat a cheeseburger like I like cheesecake I hate cheesecake. Um, I'm big on speaking your reality into existence. This is why I created mind over matter was to speak life into my days when I was going through a hard time. What is a specific moment in your life that you spoke in your?
Speaker 1:I would say what I spoke into reality is having like a support system. You know, when I first moved to New York after college, I really didn't have like a community of like friends that like really could support me. So I was always just like in seek of like community and I feel like even this, like summer and this year, I was able to tap into like different communities. I had to like obviously think about it and manifest meeting different types of people that were supportive. So I feel like this year I was able to tap into that and it came true. I met great people that inspire me, that support me, and I'm just going to continue down that path of speaking those things into existence because I feel like you're only as strong as like your community in some ways.
Speaker 2:So yeah, your community in some ways. So yeah, what mindset has carried you into this chat? I?
Speaker 1:feel like the mindset of my entire existence was just not giving deep it's just not giving up, like even in moments of hardship and you and I felt like at my lowest, I was just like I can't give up, like there's so much that I've done, while also struggling, and I'm so proud of myself that I didn't give up. Just looking back back, I'm like, wow, I am a warrior, I am strong as fuck. Like nobody could stop me, I feel like I'm the only person that can stop myself. So I have these conversations with the people I said was talking about earlier my support system and I'm like all right, it's time to turn it up, like it's time to go hard. It's time to be even more consistent than people think I'm consistent. I'm just I'm going all in. I'm locked in, locked in, and that's the mindset people talk about this on social media locking in, okay, so what are you willing to give up to? Lock in? Are you not going out? Are you not drinking? Are you gonna stop eating fast food? Are you gonna, you know, be consistent with your rollout of content? Like those are the things that, like, I had to like.
Speaker 1:That list was my list, so that's a good list, though. Yeah, it's always like I have to get my body right and then my mind just follows with it. You know I'm saying, and that's the mindset, you know body first. So tapping into my wellness, tapping into what I put into my body, and then, once those two things are in alignment, I'm able to create, I'm able to put out energy, I'm able to do podcasts, I'm able to do whatever I want. Nothing is impossible. So one day you can wake up, you could just be here working at nine to five. The next day you could be on a boat going to italy. Like anything is possible thanks.
Speaker 2:What's the toughest? What's the toughest mental battle you've overcome to get where you are now?
Speaker 1:oh my gosh. So the toughest battle that I had to overcome, I would say, would be I feel like this is a theme in my life is love and forgiveness, like forgiving those, that that you know, you realize that everyone's human right and so we all make mistakes and so we should have give space for people to get better. And that has been like the biggest thing I had to learn this year was forgiveness and love. Like that was like a repeating theme of just learning how to forgive Not necessarily forget, but having an open heart and knowing that other people are going to learn from their mistakes and to move on.
Speaker 1:I'm the type of person that like kind of holds a grudge, so like if you hurt me, I'm like, oh no, like it's over. But I'm realizing I can't be so like stern and strict about that. Like love it, like it like it's like a wave, it just like flows, it's the highest frequency. Yeah, it's like ups there's ups and there's low points, but you have to realize that if you are meant to be with somebody, then you'll be able to get through it. So, yeah, I hope that answers your question.
Speaker 2:No, you answered it you had to overcome forgiveness. Yeah, okay, let's get into our next segment. Yes, explain this piece of art.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'm kind of nervous about this because I'm like what's going on?
Speaker 2:nah, don't be, it's fun, we're having fun, okay, all right. So what was going on through your head during this? Oh yeah, oh, that's so. I'm gonna show y'all. I'm gonna show y'all that is such a beautiful pick.
Speaker 1:You know what I love that you picked that one yeah, I do my research yes, wow don't cry I might cry. No, I'm not gonna cry, but what so? The question is what was going on?
Speaker 2:um, yeah, like explain to people like where were you in life when you took that picture?
Speaker 1:oh my gosh. Well, the picture was taken at the barclays center, okay and your dad looks like childish gambino.
Speaker 1:Wait, that's crazy I thought it was childish gambino when I first. So yeah, it's a picture of me and my dad at the Barclays Center. We were. I think it was like a winter concert you know how they do those like Christmas holiday concerts with a bunch of artists. So that's where we were at and we were just enjoying the night and we were like high up in the stands in the Barclays, but it was still cool. It was a vibe.
Speaker 1:Um, where was I in life? I was in college. I was trying to figure out what would be the next step in my life. I thought I was going to become a physical therapist. I was playing lacrosse in college. I was on winter break, um, spending time with my dad. I believe it was like around the time of my birthday too. So I was like, let's go to a concert together. Yeah, I was young then. I was figuring out life. What are some obstacles I had during that time? I feel like during that time I was feeling like I wasn't enough. It was crazy, like I felt like there was always someone better than me, or I feel like I wasn't. I didn't fit in with the community in in the college that I went to. I was my college I went to a PWI, so I was like, uh, I don't feel like I belong here.
Speaker 1:And then everybody was just like crazy rich, like it was giving crazy rich asians vibes like everyone was just like wealthy and it was an interesting experience my college life, but I enjoyed it. I made the best out of it, like I always do, um, and I'm here to talk about your.
Speaker 2:How has your mindset we love mindset over here evolved since that picture?
Speaker 1:that picture. Wow, um, I would say, my mindset it's, it's still the same, like I feel like I haven't really I've changed, but I feel like I'm still like that determined at the base is the same.
Speaker 1:Yeah, at the base it's still the same, like I still have that determination and fight and grit of like not giving up and pursuing what I want. Um, but I've allowed myself since that time to venture out and do new things. So I was very into like fitness at that time and then I realized, yeah, I want to do something else, I want to tap into media, I want to do social media, I want to do podcasts. So that was probably like the most. The thing that changed the most was just like my destination.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I know that there was a period that you kind of ditched the name Tia and then you were like you know, I'm going back to like, yeah, my government name government name.
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna give people your government name. Okay, I was gonna say it.
Speaker 2:Oh, you were gonna say yo I'm going back to like yeah, my government, name your government name.
Speaker 1:I'm not going to give people your government name. Okay, I was going to say it. Oh, you were going to say it. Yeah, you could say it.
Speaker 2:It's Janella, yeah, but I know you as Tia and a lot of people know you as Tia. Tia Talks.
Speaker 1:And there was a period are you okay? Like I had to strip myself, like strip myself from everything, like I think I got lost in like the social media and then I also got lost just being outside all the time, um, and that I lost my identity, I feel like. I feel like I was just not who I was supposed to be. It was a weird time it's hard to describe. But, yeah, I took, I took, changed everything, all my socials back to my name and I got back to like what I like to do and I was having a hard time too with just like my health, like I was saying before, but through that I came back for some. I was so happy when she I was like, oh, she's back, she's back, yeah, because I was going to ditch it. But then I was like, girl, I actually really like doing this type of stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I'm happy that I'm back. We love to see you doing your thing. Yeah, so Tia Talks is back. I'm not going nowhere. Our last segment conspiracy theories. It's funny because I made a whole segment out of this and you remember our little thing where we went to do the public interviews and the conspiracy theory segment I did with the public interviews, Asking people like do they believe in this conspiracy theory? It was inspired from that oh cool, so Circle moment, I know. Asking people like do they?
Speaker 2:believe in this conspiracy theory? It was inspired from that, oh yeah. So circle moment. I know love those, um. So do you believe in these theories? Do you believe in the theory that flat earth theory that earth is flat and that we don't live on a sphere?
Speaker 1:uh, negative. I do not believe in that flat earth bullshit, I believe in science. Okay, so what shape? Is the earth the earth is a sphere. It's a. It's like a glow. It's a globe. It's a sphere. Yeah, I believe that. I don't think it's flat. There's no way the world is flat when there's pilots that will tell you that they could see curvature while they're flying. So I believe that there is curvature, there's, it's a sphere, and the world goes around in an orbit.
Speaker 2:Okay, next theory do you believe in this the cloning or human experience? Do you believe in the cloning or human experiments theory? That theory that secret cloning programs for human hybrids, that people are just being cloned?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do believe it. Oh, you believe in that. It's science. I believe in science, I don't. They're not going to share it with us, unless there is some type of benefit that could help us in life so you think they're just cloning anybody?
Speaker 1:I. I feel like they're cloning the people that are giving their body to science. So, like you know, when you check that box that says I'm a donor yeah, potentially that's a conspiracy. Maybe I just made that up, but if you're checking that box, you never know they might be keeping your organs and then trying to clone them for future use. You know.
Speaker 2:Damn girl yeah.
Speaker 1:It's just an idea.
Speaker 2:So you watch who cloned Tyrone.
Speaker 1:I've seen it. Yeah, I've seen it. Yeah, I seen it and I feel like, yeah, they're doing that shit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's real life, all right. The last one is big pharma suppresses cures wait, I want to go back real quick they yeah, rerun, yeah, yeah, they're doing the cloning.
Speaker 1:Okay, she's passionate about this. No, because I'm remembering the movie, the Tyrone movie, and I'm just like, yeah, they're doing the cloning. There's no way that they're not doing it already. They calling fishes.
Speaker 1:Listen, when Hollywood releases movies like that, that means that they're behind the scenes. They've been doing it. They had to get the government clearance to release these movies to us. So think about Black Mirror. All those things that they're pushing on Netflix is happening now in real time. You remember that? I don't know if you've seen the episode about the social media, but like that's happening, right now I've seen every episode of Black Mirror.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so like even the one with the memory thing where, like the girl, she lost her memory and now she's paying a cloud subscription to remember things. So weird, like all of this is happening behind the scenes. They're only letting us know bits and pieces and Hollywood is allowed to release it to us because the government said okay you see, it's all of your friends conspiracy.
Speaker 2:We got another conspiracy theorist in the building right only some, only not all of them. So, yeah, it's like all right, tupac is not alive, y'all let it go it go?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't think he's alive.
Speaker 2:The last one. Big Pharma suppresses cures. Claims that pharmaceutical companies hide cures for diseases like cancer to maintain profits. Do you think there's a cure for cancer and they're hiding it?
Speaker 1:So there are cures for cancers for certain cancers, you know. But I believe that Big Pharma is for the bottom line. They want money. You know it's not to have healthy people. If you're sick, you go to the doctor, right? If you're sick, you go to the doctor, the doctor gives you medicine. They're not necessarily there to like the doctor. The doctor gives you medicine. They're not necessarily there to like heal you completely. They'll give you a medicine and then, like, if it's a chronic problem that you're having, you're going to be hooked onto the medicine for extended periods of time. So that's why people are going to alternative medicine, because there's other ways to heal your body. That's not going to big pharma, that's not going to the pharmacies and being on these medicines that are only curing one symptom but then also giving us bad symptoms. Example we have Ozempic. Yes, we have Wegovi, these weight loss supplements or whatever that are supposed to help us lose weight and control our appetites, but there's so many severe side effects. It's all about money. They probably had this medicine for years and they finally released it and now they're giving it to athletes. Serena Williams is now promoting a weight loss medication. She's been an athlete all her life and now she's promoting a weight loss medication.
Speaker 1:I don't know. It seems wrong because now people are like, oh, if she? And they're using a black woman, so it's even more fucked up. But it just, it just pisses me off. You know what I'm saying? Because everything is about money. It's not about health and wellness and holistic healing. It's about how can we get you money, how can we get you hooked on a substance, and honestly, I feel like they don't want us to see us live long, and I'm talking about black people. They don't want to see black people live past 90. Because we're a threat to society, apparently.
Speaker 1:Okay, I believe in science okay, okay, we gotta, we gotta come fellow conspiracy, okay, I didn't know I was gonna get so like passionate about it, but like when someone asked me a question like about this, it really like makes me think, like about what is really going on in our world, because I feel like if we didn't live in the United States, we wouldn't be asking these questions about big pharma and all this bullshit it's just us.
Speaker 2:The United States is fucking corrupt. That's a fact. It's the richest industry in America.
Speaker 1:It's the pharmaceutical industry.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was a lot. Hope y'all got something from that. Yeah, I hope y'all got something from that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I hope y'all have fun.
Speaker 2:This was fun for me yeah, we love to you on the podcast. We love it, thank you so much.
Speaker 1:Yeah, of course a nice moment yeah, I'm glad you enjoyed yourself.
Speaker 2:I was super excited for this episode because I know anytime you link up his vibes, vibes no, hold on, it doesn't end.
Speaker 1:I have one question for you. Oh my god, I'm nervous. Okay, so you're also on a journey of personal growth, so what have you learned about yourself thus far, um, since the start of 2025?
Speaker 2:um since the start of 2025. I learned that I learned how to trust myself way more okay. I learned how to. I learned that I'm not crazy for following my dreams. I think it's crazier to take advice from people who aren't.
Speaker 1:Yes, I like that when you want to be in life.
Speaker 2:Yes. So the biggest thing that I've learned in this year is that I have to listen to myself and trust myself, because God has given me this vision. He hasn't give others my vision. Why am I listening to people about where I should go in life when they're not living my life? So just trusting myself? Way more that's been like the main personal development.
Speaker 1:You're in alignment, yes, in alignment. Good, bring it back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, thank you for that question.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no problem.
Speaker 2:Yeah, is there anything you want to highlight before we?
Speaker 1:Yes, so many things. Check me out on social media. Me on tiktok instagram. Tia talks nyc. Um, I'm gonna be releasing some episodes soon as well. Uh, if you want to be on my podcast, find the dm and we could set some something up you.
Speaker 2:You gave them the Instagram.
Speaker 1:TiaTalksNYC Yay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, tap in, tap in. Make sure y'all there when she drops. Yes, thank you for joining me again and, yeah, if you got something from this episode, I appreciate you for tuning in to listening to us. Yap, and I hope you gained something from this. I hope you gained something from this. I hope you're living in more alignment, like I hope this enlightened you in some way, shape or form, and if you listen to the end, I could just tell you love yourself.
Speaker 2:I could just tell you're glowing right now. I could just tell like something big is on the horizon for you and I love that for you. You know I love that for you. So, yeah, make sure you tell a friend, sister, auntie, auntie, mom, dog, that it's mind over matter. Baby Period. You, you.