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Is it normal to feel unsure even if your relationship looks good on paper?

Stowe Family Law Season 2 Episode 1

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🎙️Is it normal to feel unsure, even if the relationship looks good on paper? Navigating relationship uncertainty🎙️

We've all heard the phrase 'looks good on paper' - the relationship has everything you ever wanted, you've got the house, the kids, the date nights. But something doesn't feel right and you can't understand why. Is it normal to feel that uncertainty? Can you come back from it? And what happens if actually it's not that you can't fix things, it's more that you don't want to?

In this episode, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell welcomes Kate Nestor, a divorce coach with a combined role as Content Lead at Stowe, to discuss all things insecurity in relationships and understanding our emotions.

00:50 Introductions
02:24 What is a divorce coach?
03:25 Feeling unsure or unhappy in your relationship and taking initial advice
04:30 Expectations in relationships - the impact of modern life
08:35 Feeling uncomfortable in your relationship and the build of disconnection
09:55 How does uncertainty manifest mentally and physically
11:10 Facing your emotions head on
16:25 Are doubts and overthinking always a linear process ending in separation?
18:55 Pressure of expectations from others about your relationship
21:15 Our own expectations of how our partners should behave - the mental load
27:39 The importance of safe place to work through and listen to your emotions: emotional awareness
29:27 How a divorce coach or therapist can support through emotions and practicalities
32:10 Taking the first steps and building resilience
35:20 The tipping point from uncertainty into a decision
37:18 Top tip for the understanding a period of uncertainty

Useful links

How can you tell if your marriage is over? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-can-you-tell-if-your-marriage-is-over/
Reality TV to real life: why compatibility matters more than a 'spark' https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/reality-tv-to-real-life-why-compatibility-matters-more-than-the-spark/
When growing apart doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/when-growing-apart-doesnt-have-to-be-the-end-of-your-relationship/

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