Life, love and the law

Life after an affair: Divorce and blended families

Stowe Family Law Season 2 Episode 4

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🎙️Life after an affair: divorce and blended families🎙️

Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law

This episode of Life, love and the law welcomes our first ever couple to the podcast. Tom Nash, a regular face with us, brings along his partner Donna to discuss their lived experiences of affairs, divorce and building a blended family.

Tom takes off his ‘divorce coach’ hat, to get into the nitty gritty of how the affair came about, the fallout and the next 9 years of hard work and pain to get to where they are now - a successful, happy blended family with his ex-wife and Donna’s ex-husband!

00:53 Introductions

02:28 Tom introduces the topic of his affair and Donna goes on to discuss her separation and parenting

04:38 How Tom and Donna met and the end of Tom’s marriage

06:38 How could conversations have happened in those early days to be more respectful?

09:00 Coping with the aftermath of telling your spouse you want to divorce

11:08 Donna discusses the breakdown of her marriage and her experience of divorced parents

14:45 Lack of understanding around the divorce process itself

15:25 The legal implications of an affair on divorce proceedings

18:28 How does a divorce coach work with people on the edge of a breakup 

20:20 Can you recover from an affair?

23:00 The role of a stepparent in a blended family

24:14 Should you stay together for the kids?

26:00 How did Tom and Donna get from the affair to a successful blended family?

33:45 Biggest reflections on the impact of an affair and how to move forward


Useful links

Adultery and divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/divorce/adultery-and-divorce/ 

Top myths about divorce and affairs https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/adultery-and-divorce-the-top-ten-myths/ 

What should I do if my spouse is having an affair? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/what-should-i-do-if-my-husband-wife-is-having-an-affair-2/ 

Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6?si=138279a774194e5b 

How to introduce a new partner to the kids https://open.spotify.com/episode/3j7T2cGqTrFqb0rV9xat8u?si=3aaf756e1a9647c7 

Parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/SFL_Premium-handbook-Parenting-plan-template.pdf 

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