Coffee House Coaching

Ep 176 Angela Falcini - Air Force to Internal Coach / Coaching DNA / "Love Actually"

Season 4 Episode 176

Question-by-Question Highlights

1) Best coaching advice you’ve gotten

  • Don’t be attached to the client’s outcome
  • Presence improves when control is removed
  • Client commitment matters more than coach frustration
  • Missed actions are data, not failure

2) What are you still trying to improve about your coaching?

  • Leaning more into somatic awareness
  • Asking “where do you feel that?” more often
  • Trusting body signals as much as intellect
  • Slowing down instead of goal-chasing

3) Most outrageous thing you’ve done, tried, or said in a session

  • Told clients they weren’t ready for coaching
  • Paused engagements instead of pushing through
  • Redirected clients to books instead of sessions
  • Prioritized service over revenue (wild, I know)

4) What still makes you squirm or uncomfortable?

  • Ignoring internal discomfort
  • Not asking the question her gut is screaming
  • Leaving insight “on the table”
  • Playing it safe instead of pushing edges

5) Advice for someone new to coaching

  • Learn multiple coaching models
  • Don’t copy other coaches, synthesize them
  • Stay a student of coaching forever
  • Let formulas guide early, not define forever

6) What have you had to conquer to become a great coach?

  • Attachment to doing it “right”
  • Fear of losing clients by being honest
  • The urge to rescue instead of reflect
  • Trusting that readiness can’t be forced

7) How are you using AI in your coaching practice?

  • AI note-taking with client opt-in
  • Using transcripts to deepen recall
  • Exploring tools and exercises with curiosity
  • Letting tech support presence, not replace it

8) What have you learned about yourself through coaching?

  • Imposter syndrome is universal
  • One-on-one depth beats loud rooms
  • Curiosity is her superpower
  • Being heard changes everything

Fun Stuff Question

  • Favorite movies: The Princess Bride (classic), Love Actually (Hugh Grant wins)
  • Celebrity look-alikes: Laura Linney, Kirsten Bell (15 pounds ago, allegedly)
  • Strong opinions on names, silence, and Italian pronunciation