Say BAHBYE To That Scarcity Mindset In Your Biz For GOOD! | Ep. 124

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This week:

I'm diving into the powerful—and sometimes sneaky—effects of a scarcity mindset in women entrepreneurs diagnosed with ADHD later in life. If you’ve ever found yourself feeling "behind," undervaluing your skills, or holding back from your full potential, this episode has your name written all over it. I talk about the reasons scarcity thinking often hits ADHD entrepreneurs especially hard and give you the EXACT steps to take to shift toward an abundance mindset permanently. 

Learn:

• Why scarcity mindset creeps in for so many women diagnosed as an adult with ADHD and how it might be showing up in your life.
• The impact of a late-life ADHD diagnosis on self-worth and confidence in business.
• Key strategies that will help you stop that inner critic in its tracks and build that abundance mindset The Spicy Minded Way.
• How to use your unique ADHD strengths to overcome the BS and grow a business that feels aligned with who you are.

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Transcript

Karrie Lemansky (00:15.878)
Hello, my lovely. In today's discussion, we are going to have a chitty chat about lack mentality and a mindset that is rooted in scarcity due to having ADHD for a lifetime without knowing it. I'm going to also show you a few ways that this mentality may sneak into your business and show up. And of course, I will tell you exactly how to stop that shit from happening for good so that you have more unfuckwithable confidence and abundance is yours and right in front of your face any day, anytime, anywhere when you allow yourself to really believe it and lean into that as your focus. Because as we know, what you focus on grows, right? So let's get into it.

Karrie Lemansky (01:10.412)
Welcome back to the ADHD Entrepreneu(Her), the podcast for women entrepreneurs diagnosed as adults with ADHD who are here to crush business creation, strategy and growth by embracing your brains, quirks and using them to your advantage. My fellow NeuroSpicy sisters in business, I know you're here to monetize your extraness, your uniqueness and your unique ability so that you can live more freely.

and live a life that is more by your design, as opposed to default. That's what I'm here to help you do. And you are my specialty. I am Carrie, in case we haven't met. I'm your host and Chief Weirdo of Karrie Out Loud. And I am your NeuroSpicy Fairy God mentor of choice in the online business world. And if you are new here, welcome. I'm so glad that you found the podcast. And I can't wait to share with you

today about this topic and about what you are going to be able to do to change the way that you feel in this way forever. So first thing I want to do is define lack mentality or scarcity mindset. You may already know what it is, but just in case, it is the belief that resources, opportunities and success, that those things are limited to you.

and they lead you to fear, to comparison, to insecurity, and all kinds of other bullshit, right? This kind of mindset makes you think that other women's successes diminish your own, diminish your own potential, and so you might avoid taking risks. You might avoid taking bigger leaps of faith. You might avoid getting into higher-level rooms, like where you're the person who knows the least in a room.

or investing in your growth because you fear loss or you feel like you fear failing. And so in practical terms, this mentality can look like the following, avoiding investments in training or marketing or resources because you fear losing financially. You might hold back on collaborating. You might hold back on networking. You may be worried that other people

Karrie Lemansky (03:35.13)
will take away your opportunities if you collaborate or network with them. The reality is that's not true. I have collaborated with people many times and gained clients from that. And there are just all different types of personalities and different ways that people deliver things. And so having that mindset more around collaboration versus competition.

That's always going to serve you well. I promise. Another thing you might experience is undervaluing your experience, your products or your services, right? So what that does is it gives you fear around pricing. A lot of women with ADHD have fear around overpricing their products or their services and feel like that will drive clients or customers away.

And sometimes I've even seen that somebody will have 10 or 15 years of experience. Let's use marketing, for example, in marketing, but they come into the online arena and they're like, I'm brand new. No, you're not. You have 15 years of experience. You may be brand new in that arena, but you are not brand new at what you do and at your skillset, right? So you are allowed.

to be compensated for those years of experience and for your expertise, even if you are new in a specific space. You may obsess over your competitors and think that their success limits the potential you have, right? So let's say I'm I'm not let's say, I'm a business mentor. I don't look at my competition and think,

because they do what they do and it's similar to what I do, then my potential is shit because they've already done it. That's a way that it could show up. And so later life diagnosis of ADHD plays into this. How? I'm so glad you asked. We feel feelings more intensely. And so this...

Karrie Lemansky (05:51.866)
The fact that you have ADHD and you were diagnosed later in life can intensify this mentality because of deeply rooted self-doubt, lack of self-worth and confidence, because of past procrastination and perfectionism, which are actually kind of one in the same, because perfection isn't real, it's fake, it's not something you can actually accomplish, and so it is a great way to procrastinate. I'm gonna keep working on this till it's perfect.

You may as well just say, I'm going to keep working on this until I'm never going to finish it. Right? You're never going to get it done. And so that perfection can create procrastination and it can just be in this like wicked cycle. Right? So these are feelings that can reinforce the feeling of lack or the feeling of scarcity. And you may have internalized a lot of years of messaging.

that had to do with ADHD symptoms that you didn't realize were symptoms, you made them into traits. Other people made them into traits, personality traits, which they weren't. And so you may have heard you were flighty or you just need to work harder or you're too scattered or you're unreliable or boy, you sure do change what you do so often. Like I can't keep up with what you're doing the next thing, right? And a lot of...

Humans with ADHD change jobs often, change their interests sometimes. But when you own a business, what's really cool is that you get to create a huge brand as an umbrella and you get to have all of those ideas, those scattered ideas, and you get to create all different kinds of things. So you aren't truly scattered, right? But we can still see ourselves in an old light.

whether you have come into being aware now that you have ADHD or possibly have ADHD, or you have a diagnosis, you may be basing your future and your future successes on your past, but how can you look at your past and rely on that when you now have a different awareness, you now have different tools you can use, you now understand why all that happened, and you can take the ship by the balls, right?

Karrie Lemansky (08:12.218)
So this is an ingrained mindset that really may make it harder for you to trust in your ability to succeed, especially with other people's little titter chatter bullshit in your ears from the past that you've kind of let implant into your brain. And you may even focus on your limitations and what you can't do rather than your unique abilities and what's possible.

What's possible? When you have a later diagnosis, you go through several stages, right? The initial stage, all the feelings and the emotions, sorting through it, getting the knowledge, understanding more about it. And then eventually there's this place where you kind of come to a more leveled place. And that's, if you continue to, well, first of all, if you understand that,

and you place a lot of focus on what's possible and what can happen for you now, now that you understand, now that you know. I said it in the beginning, what we focus on grows, right? So if you're focusing on your unique abilities and your focus on possibilities, those things will grow in your brain. So there's a few reasons why you may feel this more intensely than other entrepreneurs or other people that you see around you.

First, years of masking and all that self-doubt, right? You've spent years masking your symptoms and struggling to try to meet the expectations of society or people around you, right? And that leads to thinking that your resources or opportunities are really scarce to you and that somehow you are always behind. One of my favorite mentors said, you are always right on time.

actually two of them have said the very same thing. And that's true. You're right on time. You are where you are now, exactly where you are now. That is where you're supposed to be. There is something that you are getting out of this that is going to help you move forward. So just anytime you're feeling behind, put your hand on your heart and just say,

Karrie Lemansky (10:33.04)
take a little exhale and say, I'm right on time. Just let your nervous system take a moment to internalize that. So a couple of these things that might happen are fear of judgment and rejection. You faced a lot of it probably throughout your lifetime, years, decades. And so that might make you more sensitive to criticism and judgment.

And since we are putting ourselves in such a public way of doing what we do, that can hold you back possibly on taking bigger leaps of faith, on being seen, which I talked about last week, and taking leaps of faith in your business, believing that you might be judged based on your history, not on the future possibilities, right? This might hold you back from investing in yourself, investing in your business, investing in your own success, because in your mind, it's like,

But what if you fail? But what if you fail? But what if you fail? Because that's the message that's playing up there.

You might have difficulty managing impulsivity and time blindness is a big issue that we have, correct? So, time blindness and impulsivity can make it harder to kind of plan the more long-term and that might reinforce feelings of scarcity around your time, your energy and your resources. So, how do we shift this shit? How do we reframe it?

You know I got you, right? You know I wouldn't share these pieces without giving you a few very solid ways to...

Karrie Lemansky (12:20.634)
change these things for good. So the first one I want to give to you is to reframe that now stick with me here because if you're going to hear this and be like what the fuck is she talking about? Stick with me. Reframing past experiences that may have been negative even as assets. Here's why. If you reflect on those past struggles and reframe them as lessons.

Karrie Lemansky (12:47.93)
that has given you unique insights and you're resilient as hell, right? So by making this shift, it turns those perceived failures, quote unquote, into learning opportunities, learning moments and leaning into a belief that future opportunities are available to you. And what you may not have considered that I'm gonna really, really want you to hear is,

Do you want to work with people who've never had any hardship?

challenging experiences? Or would you rather work with somebody who's been through some shit, you know, in business, in life? And what if that makes you lead your clients even better? Because you've lived through failures and come out the other side with something they may not have yet, lived experience in that area. You get to bring that work.

I'm sorry, you get to bring that into your work and say, here's what happened to me. Here's what I did. Here's what I learned. Here's how it helped me grow. And that can help if you're a coach, if you're a mentor, that can help your clients collapse time, shorten the time it takes to get from point A to point B with your lessons that you have learned. Will it happen every time? No.

But even if you are just reframing this for yourself, it fucking matters. It changes your perspective to see what good came out of it. I understand there are a lot of situations in life that you're like, how do I even find the positive in this? Let's just stick with business experiences.

Karrie Lemansky (14:49.51)
You know, obviously there are things that happen in our life that are just horrible and tragic. And I do get that. But this is more focusing on when it comes to your business, what things have you had that you perceived as failures that eventually down the road, you were like, my gosh, I learned so much from that. And then you are speaking to somebody and you're able to speak to them from a place of knowing.

Isn't that important?

Karrie Lemansky (15:24.154)
The next thing I'm going to give you is one of my favorites when I give to my clients all the time, when they have self-doubt or imposter syndrome or any of these things. I call it proof of opposite. You may have heard of this before in other episodes, but a proof of opposite is a list where you list out your strengths, your skills, your past accomplishments. You can do it on a piece of paper and carry it with you. can put it in a note on your phone.

Don't put it in four notes on your phone because you won't find all of it. Put it in one place where you can put it. You could even drop this into chat GPT and it can save to memory for you and you can pull that back up if you, you know, for when you need it. It can be business related, life related, education related, whatever you want it to be. And this will help you shift your focus away.

from what's lacking or that feeling of being an imposter or any of those things. What it does is it stops your brain in the moment from thinking of lack and thinking and leaning into those feelings. And it like cuts it off. It creates a roadblock. And if you do this enough times, your brain is epic enough to start creating new pathways. So you might start going down a road and

every time that you start going down that road or almost every time as much as you can, you stop it right there and you go to that list and you start feeding yourself and your brain the information of, this is bullshit. Look at all the shit I've done. Look at all the shit I've accomplished. Look at what I've been able to do. Eventually your brain will do that less and less and less. It takes practice. takes time. The older you are, the longer that that can take.

But it's true, it's something you can absolutely do. Look up neuroplasticity that is our ability to change our actual brain using our mind. It's pretty fucking awesome. And it's real science, it's not pseudoscience, it's legit shit. So this practice will help build your confidence and that will help you in your ability to attract clients and customers and resources.

Karrie Lemansky (17:44.248)
and overcome challenges a little bit easier each time.

And remember this, you've gotten through 100 % of your hardest days of your life and your business so far, 100%. That's a pretty fucking fantastic track record. You are here living above the ground and you have gotten through your hardest moments. Please don't forget that. Ever.

Karrie Lemansky (18:14.33)
And then finally, set goals that are abundance oriented with accountability. What do I tell you that most ADHD entrepreneurs need? One of three things, guardrails, accountability, or both, right? Those are the three core things that I see as a through line with everybody that I work with. It's one of those three things. So establish goals that focus on growth, that focus on connection, collaborating with like-minded business owners.

investing in some sort of personal development if you choose. And I want to put a pin in this for just a moment and say one thing before I go back to this actual part. Investing in personal development and taking action. Sometimes business owners become addicted to taking in information and taking in personal growth. But if you just keep consuming and you don't take any action,

Your business is not going to move forward. It's just consume, consume, consume, consume. I'm so self-aware five years later. That's not what you're here to do. You're here to build the thing that you've been seeing and envisioning, correct?

So if that's the case and you wanna move your business forward, one of the secrets to why some entrepreneurs are wildly successful and others burn their shit down and walk away is because they consume and take no action. It's better to consume things in smaller bite-sized pieces if you can, then take action and implement it right away and keep doing that. Learn, implement, learn, implement. That's how we grow anything in our business.

So sometimes people forget the entire implementation part and then they're like, I don't know why my business won't go anywhere. I don't know why this is happening. Well, if you aren't putting into play what you're learning, that could be part of the problem. And just so you know, you can absolutely implement anything you want by learning how to use ADHD-friendly strategies like accountability besties.

Karrie Lemansky (20:26.758)
regular check-ins, a coach or a mentor, reward systems that work for you, that motivate you, that truly motivate you.

Karrie Lemansky (20:38.38)
and help you sustain these goals when you continually look at what's possible versus lack, lack, lack, lack, lack. I wasn't quacking like a duck. Lack, L-A-C-K. For the third time in this podcast, what you focus on grows full stop. If you focus on lack and sit in that energy all the time, lack will keep showing up.

for you. That is what you will see. Your brain will look around and try to prove lack. We actually have a filtration system in our brain that what we look for, we're going to fucking find it. Our brain filters out all kinds of stuff and it has to have a way to, okay, what do I filter in and what do I keep out? Because we're getting like millions of sensory, millions of pieces of information through our eyes, our senses. What gets in and what doesn't? Well,

There is a regulation system in our brain that tells us what gets in and what doesn't. So if you focus on lack and you sit in that energy all the time, you are gonna see lack left, right, front, center, everywhere you look. I had a friend like that, my gosh. He and I are not friends anymore for many reasons. But one of the things that drove me absolutely insane about him was he could find the shit.

in anything. Nothing was ever just good. Something good would happen. He'd be like, yeah, but you know, blah, blah, blah, blah. And man, I used to make him want to poke my fucking eye out. Even before I was diagnosed with ADHD, I mean, I've always been a really positive person and I would just hear that and it would drive me nuts. I don't sit in energy with people like that anymore, first of all, that's very helpful.

because who you're surrounding yourself with really fucking matters, But if you sit in an energy of, it's one of my favorite words, everything is figureoutable. Even if you have to take a different road to figure that out or a different road to get to a destination that looks different than everybody around you, who cares if it's working for you? If you figure out a way that works with your brain, keep fucking doing that.

Karrie Lemansky (23:03.782)
Keep doing that. And if you look through the lens of abundance, if you look through the lens of an abundance mindset, you will see proof that that is what you're capable of and what I know and what I believe to be true. And you may believe this already, you may not be there yet, but you're capable of any fucking thing you want.

It's waiting for you. It is right there in front of your face. But if you are looking through lack mentality, you aren't going to see it because it's filtered right out for you.

Karrie Lemansky (23:48.024)
Lean into what's possible. Lean into dreaming like stupid big. And start watching what starts showing up for you. It's wild. I can tell you because as much of a positive person as I am, there have been times where I have just sat in lack, lack, lack.

And the universe was proven to me that I was right. And then I would flip that perspective. I would start to reframe things. I would get support around that. You may even want to get ADHD coaching or therapy if that's something that you struggle with in all of these different areas. But I definitely help women switch that all the time. Find more self-confidence after they figure out they have ADHD.

You know, that's something that you can absolutely shift.

make that decision and start walking towards it, I promise you it can change. Now, hopefully you don't experience this.

this lack mentality. But if you do, I really hope this episode helped and that you know that literally in a snap.

Karrie Lemansky (25:09.69)
You can switch what you see around you and you can make that change and watch what happens. It's pretty fucking awesome. I mean, you know, you know, I'm no BS, you know, I'm no fluff. You know, I'm a little woo woo. And I've seen this happen in my own life. And I've seen this happen to hundreds of women around me who are in business with ADHD that I've worked with or that I've helped in some capacity.

Karrie Lemansky (25:41.326)
So bet on you.

bet on you.

And with that, I'm gonna end this episode.

I see you, I love you, I'm rooting for you always. Don't let anyone put you in a box ever again, including yourself, okay? Okay, bye.