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Conflict is inevitable in relationships. There is no way to avoid disagreements, different perspectives, or misunderstandings. However, when it comes to conflict in a relationship knowing how to Fight Fair is essential.  Despite the rules of engagement, we have all been guilty of doing and saying things that we later regret or that were unproductive to the overall health of the relationship. 

This episode goes beneath the surface of basic “rules” and explores why we do certain things, despite knowing better.  Why do we consistently apologize for the same things, but then react when triggered? How do we get off the roller coaster of unhealthy cycles or use conflict to propel us forward instead of backward? Drawing from decades of clinical experience and research, Dr. Demas answers many of these questions and more. If you are in a relationship or looking to improve how you do relationships, this is a must listen. Whether at work, in your family, or in an intimate relationship, improving how you deal with conflict critically important. 

Don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform and follow Dr. Demas online. You can also schedule a counseling appointment with Dr. Demas online or with Dr. Nic Hardy. 

About Dr. Glenda Demas 

As an experienced psychotherapist, I offer a warm and welcoming therapeutic atmosphere that fosters personal growth. Possessing a wide array of clinical interventions and experience, coupled with a wealth of personal experiences fosters my ability to helps patients reach their fullest potential.

I am a native Houstonian with with over 13 years of Behavioral Health Management experience in education and crisis intervention. I found my passion in Mental Health advocacy from my experience working with children in the education system and the foster care system. I currently preside on the Board of Directors for the National Alliance on Mental Illness-Greater Houston. My fellow board members and I have strived to create a community of individuals dedicated to spreading awareness on mental health.

With my practice serving in Katy, Texas, and Atlanta, Georgia, I have provided psychotherapy services for individuals and families while leading support groups for parents of teens struggling with depression. In addition, I have served on various panel discussions that lead to an increase of resources that have spread awareness on the necessity of mental health awareness.

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Vulnerability is often talked about in relationships, especially among men. However, with so many voices about what it means to be vulnerable, why it’s important and what it actually looks like – this important topic can become blurred at best.  Still, being vulnerable is an essential component of connection and bridge the gap in communication. Not only does it help establish trust in a relationship, but it allows our spouse to see who we are in totality.  It’s more than a word, but a way being that allows to show up authentically.  

This is a must listen podcast episode for anyone who is in a relationship, or who simply wants to be better at doing relationships.  Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Justin Dodson as they delve into the topic of vulnerability. Listen and get answers to many of the most asked questions on this topic. 

·      What does vulnerability really look like in relationships? 

·      What happens when it’s used against you later in the relationship? 

·      What keeps people from being vulnerable in relationships and is it something you can learn? 

·      What are common misconceptions about this topic? 

·      What do you need in order to be vulnerable? 

Don’t forget to follow Dr. Nic Hardy & the  Untherapeutic Podcast on Instagram. If you are in the state of Texas and would like to schedule your first counseling appointment, visit hbhtexas.com 

 Make sure you also follow Dr. Justin Dodson on Instagram. 

About Dr. Justin Dodson 

Justin Keith Dodson creates safe and supportive environments where individuals can be seen, heard, and catapulted into a redefined future. As the visionary behind Navigating Courage, Counseling & Consultation, LLC, Dodson and his team of mental health professionals, specifically focusing on males, prioritize the cognitive and emotional well-being of adult men through personalized coaching and therapy and consulting organizations looking to improve employee culture & well-being.

"The realization of my innate ability to truly understand people fueled my aspiration to become a therapist. Recognizing the potential to fulfill my lifelong desire, I wanted to provide for others what I always needed."

Dr. Dodson achieved the groundbreaking feat of being the first African American male to attain a Master’s in Counseling from Lipscomb University. Subsequently, he went on to earn a Ph.D. in Counselor Education and Supervision from The University of Memphis, solidifying his trailblazing legacy. In his book, "The Courage of a Single Freckle, Navigating Your Black," Dodson delves into the complex intersection of mental health, race relations, implicit and explicit bias, and identity development. Dr. Dodson has been featured in People Magazine, Refinery 29, and, Teen Vogue, Ebony, & Essence Magazine. 

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When it comes to having a child, the experience and journey is different for everyone. For some, this experience is exciting, and the process is met with little to no difficulty. However, for many others, their reality is different. In this podcast episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined board-certified obstetrician and gynecologist, Dr. Tamika Cross as she shares insight and provides sound guidance on the challenges that many couples experience in their pregnancy journey. 

If you or anyone you know is considering having a child, or has experienced challenges throughout this process, makes sure you listen to this episode.  Dr. Cross addresses common questions about the process of getting pregnant and challenges experienced by countless people such as: 

·      Health factors that most impact a women’s ability to get pregnant

·      Questions patients should ask their doctor and concerns around infant mortality in the African American community

·      How we can be supportive of our friends and family and what “not to say” 

·      Egg freezing, IVF and other options for getting pregnant 

·      The pros/cons of waiting to have children and the potential impact of our decisions 

·      Much More…. 

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Visit Dr. Cross’s office in Pearland, Texas at Opulence Health and Wellness

Get a copy of her book, What a Doctor Looks Like 

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About Dr. Cross 

Tamika K. Cross, MD, FACOG, is a board-certified obstetrician and gynecologist who has been practicing in the Pearland area for several years.

Born in Detroit, Michigan, Dr. Cross moved to Houston to complete her medical training and decided to make it her new home. Passionate about women’s health education and community outreach, Dr. Cross decided to open Opulence Health and Wellness and serve the community in which she resides. She wanted to fill a void that she saw missing in our community.

Dr. Cross has received US Congressional recognition and multiple awards throughout her training, including being named Houstonia Top Doc in 2021 and 2022. In addition, she was named one of the Top 60 Most Powerful People in Healthcare among several influential people including former US President, Barack Obama. Dr. Cross has been featured on CNN, BET, Forbes, Red Table Talk, New York Times, and more. She has a passion for improving health outcomes for patients in underserved communities and has dedicated much of her time to quality improvement while serving on multiple multidisciplinary hospital committees aimed to address the alarming maternal morbidity rates in the country.

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When couples reach out for counseling, difficulty communicating is usually one of the first problems they mention. When there is a breakdown in relationships, communication is one of the first areas impacted. Is communicating in relationships that difficult or are we missing what the real problem is altogether. Whether you find yourself not communicating at all or simply wanting to enhance the quality of your communication, this podcast will help you address some of the biggest problems facing relationships today.  For example: 

·      How do you communicate with someone who shuts down during conflict? 

·      How do you communicate with someone who doesn’t take accountability? 

·      How can we effectively communicate with people at work, but not at home? 

·      How do you know if you are good at communicating? 

Get answers to some of the most frequently asked questions in therapy when it comes to communication, as well as helpful tips and strategies to improve your communication and quality of your relationship. Effective communication is a skill that can be learned. Invest in your relationship and listen to this episode on communication. 

About Dr. Huddlestone 

Dr. Huddleston earned her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Houston. She completed her internship residency training at Vanderbilt University Medical Center followed by a post-doctoral fellowship at Baylor College of Medicine, equipping her with a robust foundation for addressing complex mental health challenges.

Her commitment to advancing the wellbeing of women of color is evident in her noteworthy accomplishments. She co-authored a grant funded by the American Psychological Association focused on leadership and career development for women of color, echoing her passion for empowering future generations. Dr. Huddleston has been recognized with various prestigious awards, including the MLK Dream Award from the 40 Acre Conference and acknowledgment as one of the Top Influential Women of Houston.

As Past President of the Psychology of Black Women, Dr. Huddleston organized the significant event "100 Black Women in Psychology" at the American Psychological Association conference, creating a vital platform for representation and dialogue in the field. Additionally, she serves as a mentor for female high school students interested in pursuing careers in psychology, encouraging the next generation of mental health professionals.

Keep in Touch 

Follow Dr. Huddlestone on Instagram and visit her website to learn more about her practice and services. 

Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast, like our page and follow Dr. Nic Hardy on Instagram at nichardy_ 

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Getting over an ex can be difficult, even when we know it’s time to move on. If you have ever found yourself “going back” when you said you wouldn’t, calling after you committed to cutting them off, or blocking someone to only unblock them weeks later, this episode is for you. Dr. Holly Cotton provides practical insight on how to successfully get over an ex. She answers questions that everyone has asked at some point in their dating life.  

·      Why can’t we move past a relationship that we know is bad for us?  

·      Can you ever “really” get over an ex? 

·      Why are we so hopeful about certain relationships?

·      What do you do when you still have feelings for an ex?

·      Should you listen to your friends when they “advise” you about your relationship?

·      What practical steps can you take to move on after a bad break up? 

About Dr. Holly Cotton

Holly is a certified personal trainer and health/wellness fitness coach. Holly’s passion is embracing a holistic lifestyle, not only looking fit, but being mentally fit as well. You can hear her talking about various topics such as mental health, nutrition, and highlighting feel good stories on her podcast, Holly Cotton Conversations.

Holly earned her Master’s Degree in Nursing. She has used her medical knowledge to not only elevate her nursing career, but to become a renowned health and fitness authority.  Holly teaches/taught at the collegiate level for over 10 years. Holly’s motto as a health and wellness expert is “life is short, live it!"

Holly is available for hosting, moderating, motivational speaking and also as an expert guest on numerous topics. Holly's extensive resume includes various entities such as, the NBA, EBONY Publishing, Black Women's PAC, Afro International Film Festival, National Urban League, ESSENCE Festival, She's Happy Hair, The Rose Foundation, Lone Star College, Prairie View University, and several other agencies. 

You can purchase her book, Don’t Call Them at the following link. 

You can also follow Holly on Instagram at @hollycotton_ 

Don’t’ forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform. You can also follow Dr. Nic Hardy on Instagram @nichardy_  

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 We all have a need to feel appreciated in our relationships. It makes us feel valued, seen, and encourages us to be there for our spouse. However, despite its importance, so many people exist in relationships where they don’t feel appreciated.  The consequence of this reality is damaging and will prevent any relationship from reaching its full potential. It’s a simple act that carries tremendous value, and can have profound affects, either positive or negative. 

In this episode of the Untherapeutic Podcast, host Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Marriage and Family Therapist, Joseph Wilson. In this conversation, get answers to some of the most common questions and challenges discovered in therapy on this topic: 

·      Why is showing appreciation hard for some people? 

·      Why do so many people feel unappreciated in their relationship? 

·      How can you appreciate someone, and they not feel appreciated? 

·      Why should you appreciate your spouse for things “they should” do? 

·      How can you tell if your spouse doesn’t feel appreciated? 

Don’t forget to subscribe on your favorite streaming platform and follow us on Instagram at nichardy_. Also, make sure you follow Joseph Wilson, and subscribe to his amazing podcast Love.Unscripted.  

Joseph Wilson is an accomplished Marriage and Family Therapist dedicated to empowering children, couples, and families in overcoming social and emotional challenges. With a rich background in therapeutic services, Joseph has excelled in diverse settings, including in-home, school-based, and residential psychiatric therapy. As the esteemed host of the Love.Unscripted Podcast, Joseph extends his expertise to millennials, imparting invaluable relationship skills for establishing and nurturing healthy connections.

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Have you ever wondered why you can’t sleep at night?  Is it because of stress, issues on the job, problems in your relationship, health reasons… There are so many reasons why our sleep may be impacted, but what should consider most.  When it comes to our mental health, and the quality of our relationships, are we underestimating just how important a good night’s rest is?  

If you have ever struggled with sleep at night, and have questions about what you can do, when you should seek professional help, this podcast episode is a must.  Host, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by sleep expert, Dr. Holiday-Bell as she gives timeless insight on the importance of rest, how it impacts our body, mood, relationships, and overall quality of life. 

Get answers to some of the most commonly asked questions on sleep:  

·       What are the signs of not getting adequate rest? 

·       What can we do to improve the quality of our sleep? 

·       When should you see a doctor about your sleep? 

·       How do our relationships suffer when our spouse is operating on limited or lack of quality sleep? 

·       How do you navigate two people having separate nighttime routines (i.e., one person is a night owl, and the other is a morning person)? 

You can follow Dr. Holiday-Bell online at: https://www.instagram.com/thesleep_md/

Purchase a copy of your book: https://sleepingonthejobbook.com

Visit her website and learn more about the amazing work she is doing: https://thesolutionissleep.com

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About Dr. Holiday-Bell 

Dr. Angela Holliday-Bell is a Board-Certified Physician, Certified Sleep Specialist, Speaker and Founder of the Solution is Sleep LLC.  As someone who formally suffered from insomnia herself, she understands the transformative power of good quality sleep and how obtaining this regularly can lead to a happier, healthier, and more productive life.

She has been featured on local and international television shows and networks such as the Dr. Phil show, ABC News, and WGN television spreading her message about the power of good sleep.

She also sits on the advisory board of Health Magazine and regularly contributes to a number of print and online publications such as the Sleep Foundation, Women’s Health magazine, Well + Good and Today show.  Dr. Holliday-Bell is an engaging and insightful speaker and coach. Her expertise in utilizing the power of sleep to improve employee wellness and optimize performance while building resilience against burnout makes her a highly sought-after transformational speaker for corporate audiences.

Dr. Holliday-Bell’s strongest skill as an experienced speaker and presenter is her ability to provide highly informative information in a manner that is very engaging and inspiring to audience members while also providing specific, actionable steps that help audiences to get real results.

Well-recognized institutions and organizations such as KPMG, Microsoft and the FDA have invested in Dr. Holliday-Bell’s work and expertise.

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The excitement of a new child can also bring about a lot of unexpected emotions. Emotions that can be hard to understand, and process during the countless changes that occurring in the world around you. In this episode of the Untherapeutic Podcast, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Shaenor Ishmael, dedicated Maternal Mental Health Therapist.  Regardless of whether you are expecting a new child, or simply looking to support someone who is or plans to, we can all benefit from understanding what happens to our mental health during this period. This episode answers many commonly asked related to maternal mental health. 

·      What happens to our mental health when pregnant?

·      How can you proactively prepare yourself?  

·      How can you support a spouse who is pregnant? 

·      What is considered normal during pregnancy and what is not? 

·      When should you seek professional help? 

·      How is your mental health impacted when you adopt?

About Dr. Shaenor Ishmael 

Dr. Shaenor Ishmael, a dedicated maternal mental health therapist with a wealth of experience in supporting women during the perinatal period, has emerged as a distinguished expert in the field. Her commitment to providing compassionate and evidence-based therapy tailored to meet the unique needs of each individual has helped countless mothers navigate the challenges of anxiety, depression, and other perinatal mental health conditions.

Dr. Ishmael's holistic approach to maternal mental health, which emphasizes collaboration with healthcare professionals, partners, and support networks, underscores her dedication to ensuring comprehensive care for mothers. By equipping women with practical tools and strategies to manage stress and enhance their emotional well-being, she empowers them to develop effective coping skills and prioritize self-care practices. Her expertise in a variety of therapeutic modalities, including cognitive-behavioral therapy and mindfulness-based approaches, further solidifies her ability to provide tailored support to women during this critical period.

Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram at @nichardy_ or subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform. 

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A topic that has been taboo, A Passion for More gives us a first-hand account on the extramarital affairs of women. Author Susan Shapiro Barash has interviewed thousands of women and explored the behind the scenes events that led to affairs, the aftermath, and everything in-between. Listen to this episode and learn some of reasons "why" these women explored relationships outside of their marriage, what we can learn from their experiences, and the many ways others were impacted. 

Infidelity has been most associated with men in the past, but with changes  in the workplace, economic power, freedom, and greater access, this conversation has evolved over the years. 

Listen now and see why this amazing book was turned into a podcast and remains on the cutting edge.

About the Author:

Susan Shapiro Barash has written over a dozen nonfiction books, including Tripping the Prom Queen, You’re Grounded Forever, But First Let’s Go Shopping and A Passion for More: Affairs that Make or Break Us. For more than twenty years she taught gender studies in the Writing Department at Marymount Manhattan College and has guest taught creative nonfiction at the Writing Institute at Sarah Lawrence College. For her fiction, Between the Tides, A Palm Beach Wife, A Palm Beach Scandal, and Maribelle’s Shadow, she writes as Susannah Marren.

She has been featured in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, New York Post, Chicago Tribune, Elle, Marie Claire, and has appeared on national television including the Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS, CNN, and MSNBC. Barash has been a guest on national radio including NPR and Sirius Radio. Speaking appearances include Credit Suisse, Bayer Diagnostics, UBS, United Way, Kravis Center and the Society of the Four Arts. Several of her titles have been optioned by Lifetime and HBO.

She has served as a literary panelist for the New York State Council on the Arts, as a judge for the International Emmys, and as Vice Chair of the Mentoring Committee of the Women’s Leadership Board at the JFK School of Government, Harvard.

Don't forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform and get one of Susan's many great Books!!!! You can also follow Dr. Nic Hardy on Instagram for more podcast episodes and resources. 

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How to Rebuild Trust in Your Relationship

What does it take to actually rebuild trust in a relationship once it is lost? Is it possible to recapture what existed before? How much time does it take? What should we do when one partner still questions your every move?

In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Angela Jones as they delve into the subject of trust. Trust is foundational in any successful relationship, but when that foundation is broken, it can make you question the person you are with and the future you once envisioned.  But, since no relationship is perfect, it's important that we all understand what it takes to regain trust and confidence once it's compromised.   

To learn more about Dr. Nic Hardy, follow on instagram @nichardy_ or on Facebook at @nichardycounseling. If you are in Texas, and looking to schedule your first counseling appointment, you can visit nichardy.com. 

About Dr. Angela Jones

Dr. Jones is Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Texas and a Certified Sex Therapist. She graduated with a Bachelors of Arts in Psychology from Sam Houston State University, a Masters of Arts in Community Clinical Psychology from Texas Southern University, and earned her Doctor of Philosophy in Counseling from Sam Houston State University. She has a segment every Wednesday on Fox 26 Houston entitled “Angela After Dark” on the show Isiah Factor Uncensored.

Dr. Angela Jones strongly believes that “you are the answer you’ve been searching for”. This belief has become the founding principle of her therapeutic work. She wants to serve as a teammate in the therapeutic process that guides you through the journey of self–exploration, reconnection and learning to truly live with a purpose. Dr. Jones develops a trusting relationship with each client and provides a safe environment where you can feel heard and respected.

For more information, you can follow Dr. Angela Jones on Instagram @drangelajones or visit her website at drangelajonesphd.com 

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Daddy Issues 

We have all heard the term, “Daddy Issues”, but how does the relationship with your father really affect you?  Is it possible to not be affected by an unhealthy relationship with your father? How do you separate “daddy issues” from a problematic relationship? What should you do, if you find yourself repeating the same problems relationally? These are the type of questions explored on this podcast episode, and have plagued the lives of countless women.  We don’t decide the family we are born into; however, as adults, we can choose how we deal with the challenges we experienced growing up. 

Whether your father was absent, inconsistent, or physically present but emotionally disengaged, there is no escaping the influence of a father’s relationship.  In this podcast episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Jonetta Rose Barras, pioneering author of What Happened to Daddy’s Little Girl and founder of Esther Production. 

 More about Jonetta Rose Barras 

Jonetta rose barras found her voice, experiencing life as a poet, fiction writer, performing artist, and community organizer. Along the way she became a magazine feature writer, investigative reporter and contextual journalist. Her strength remains her ability to connect for the public seemingly unrelated issues, enabling them to better understand the impact public policy, politics and culture in America have on their lives. 

She is a best-selling author and award-winning journalist, jonetta rose barras is a Washington, DC institution. She has written investigative reports, breaking news stories and opinion editorials for many of the media organizations in the nation’s capital: The Washington Post, The Washington Examiner, The Washington City Paper and The Washington Times. She currently writes a weekly column for the online news site THEDCLIne.org.

 She also works with Esther Productions Inc., a national nonprofit organization based in Washington, DC. It is dedicated to inspiring and empowering fatherless girls and women.

jonetta is dedicated to living her life with compassion, passion and without training wheels.

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Don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform, and follow Dr. Nic Hardy on Instagram at @nichardy_. You can also subscribe to Dr. Nic Hardy’s Youtube Channel. Where you can watch the full episode. 

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Talking about your spouse’s health can be a sensitive topic. This is an ongoing battle that most of us deal with personally; therefore,  understanding the ins and outs, and challenging outdated beliefs is essential.  If you want to learn how to address this topic without creating an unsafe environment, tune in to this episode on the Untherapeutic Podcast. 

In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Psychologist and Food Relationship Strategist, Dr. Ebony Butler.  Dr. Ebony provides timeless insight on how to address important topics around health, the influence of culture, understanding the origin of our own beliefs, and productive strategies that can facilitate healthy conversations around health. Dr. Ebony is also the creator of the My Therapy Cards, first-ever self-exploration card deck for Black women and other women of color. You can follow Dr. Ebony online at drebony.com or you can follow @drebonyonline.  

Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic podcast on your favorite streaming platform and follow Dr. Nic Hardy online at @nichardy_.  Looking to improve communication in your relationship – visit communicationhurdles.com today and invest in your personal growth.  Interested in counseling and live in the state of Texas – visit nichardy.com  

More About Dr. Ebony

Ebony Butler, PhD is a Licensed Psychologist and Food Relationship Strategist who has made it her mission to help women of color heal and thrive in the areas of trauma, including racial trauma and recovering from food and body trauma experienced through diet culture. Dr. Ebony works alongside women to help them develop skills that increase their relationships with others, themselves, and their bodies. Aligning with her passion to break through barriers that make it difficult for Black people and other people of color to access quality mental health care, 

Dr. Ebony created My Therapy Cards®, the first-ever self-exploration card deck for Black women and other women of color. Since its launch in May 2020, Dr. Ebony has expanded the card deck to include a Teen Edition and Men's Edition. The expansion of this resource has made self-insight and discovery work more accessible and affordable! 

 As a result of her trailblazing work, Dr. Ebony has been featured across several media platforms including Revolt TV, The Real Talkshow, PopSugar, and other news outlets from Florida to New York. Dr. Ebony is an experienced speaker, consultant, and course creator. Her work centers around empowerment and representation within the field of mental health for people of color, with particular interests in addressing barriers and increasing resources for Black communities.

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When we are active, not only do we lead healthier lives, but our energy level increases, mood improves, and we are able to grow our self-esteem and confidence. Although, getting the motivation to exercise can be difficult. Work. Busy schedule. Competing priorities. Fear and Embarrassment. Exhaustion. The list goes on…. 

It’s not always easy, but now more than ever, is it critical to invest in your health.  Furthermore, when we feel good about ourselves, how we interact with others is positively impacted.  In this episode of Untherapeutic, I am joined by Willie Cruz, Director of Performance for the Houston Rockets.  With years of experience training professional athletes and peak performers, Willie knows what it takes to break through barriers and establish a healthy routine.  Willie also offers a number of practical tips to accurately assess your progress, and overcome the comparison trap that keep many of us from finishing our race. 

Don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic podcast on your favorite streaming platform, and follow on Instagram @nichardy_.  You can also find Willie on Instagram @williecruz20

We all know the benefits of exercise and maintaining an active lifestyle. However, getting the motivation to workout, and overcoming mental limitations can pose a challenge

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Dating can be difficult. Dating when you have a career that is public facing can be extremely difficult. When our professional lives are also public, how do we maintain privacy? How do you determine if someone is in to you, or who they believe you are? How do you create boundaries, and determine what to share and what not to share? 

In this episode of Untherapeutic, I am joined by Tessa Barrera cohost of Houston Life and cohost of the @rodryanshow. Tune in to this episode as Tessa answers many of the tough questions about dating in the public eye. Tessa shares stories from her personal dating experiences, and what she has learned throughout her professional career. 

If your professional career places you contact with a lot of people, this is a must listen.  Learn the dos and don’ts to consider when vetting a potential partner, and ways your spouse can be supportive with those you interact with.   

Watch the full episode on the @drnichardy Youtube channel and don’t forget to follow, like and subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast online at @nichardy_.   You can also follow Tessa online @Tess1tess2 

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If you are in a relationship or have considered being in a relationship, social media has played a role in some way.  With access to “ex’s”, past relationships, and endless exposure to the lives of our peers, it makes sense why social media is the reason a lot of relationship fail.  Since social media is a part of our lives, , it’s best to learn how to manage it in a healthy way. 

In this episode of Untherapeutic, I am joined by Karen De Amat, CEO of Social Behavior – a full-service Social Media Marketing Agency. This podcast episode addresses many of the controversial topics found in relationships and on social media:  

 ·      Does it mean anything if my partner doesn’t post pictures of our relationship? 

·      What if you are dating a “private” person and they choose not to post certain aspects of your relationship? 

·      What does it mean when we like, follow, or comment on pictures? 

·      What if your spouse is comparing or competing with others they see online? 

If social media has ever been a problem in your relationship, or if you and your spouse ever argued over what’s okay and what’s not okay, make sure you listen to the latest episode. 

Don’t forget to subscribe to Untherapeutic on your favorite streaming platform, and follow us on Social Media at nichardy_. Also, subscribe on your Youtube channel @drnichardy as well to listen to more episodes and to receive new content from Dr. Nic Hardy

If you are having trouble with communication in your relationship, and need to get to the bottom of your problems. Purchase the communication hurdles course, and learn how to overcome common obstacles like appreciation, not feeling heard, safety, resentment, and growing apart. To learn more, visit communicationhurdles.com 

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Discrimination at work is stressful. It’s sometimes subtle, and the signs are not always obvious.  Even when discrimination is not the case, if you have experienced it in the past, it’s impossible to exclude that possibility. However, when dealing with problems at work, most of us don’t have someone that can coach us through the process. If we do, is this someone you can trust and be truly honest with? In these situations, it’s easy to feel isolated, alone, and question our own ability. Secondly, it’s easy to second guess your own beliefs and wonder if your experiences are in fact real, or worthy of addressing.  

• Am I being too sensitive?
• Is my boss discriminating against me or does he just not okay with my work performance ? 
• Did I miss out on the promotion because the other person was more qualified, or was I overlooked because of how I look? 
• Do I have difficulty establishing relationships, or am I not willing to kiss As%& and be fake around others? 

We spend a 1/3 of our day at work, and therefore, what happens on the job, impact us at home, in our relationships, and in every aspect of our lives.  Listen to the latest Untherapeutic Podcast episode with Zella Life founders Remy Meraz and Julian Lewis. Zella Life is a cutting-edge coaching platform and closes the development gap for diverse talent and middle management.  Their company provides 1-on-1 & group coaching for both leadership and talent, and gives individuals the skills and resources to excel professionally.  If you are serious about investing in the talent in your company, ZellaLife is the way to go. The results they achieve are unbelievable. 

To learn more about Zella Life or if interested in partnering with this amazing company, please visit their website at Zellalife.com   

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 Is your job destroying your sex life? Do you give so much to growing professionally, that you overlook the potential consequence on our sex drive? Does your partner get the leftovers?   Is it your fault or are you the victim of an oppressive system that forces us to exhaust ourselves? Is it just how things are in a capitalistic society, or do we put more pressure on ourselves then necessary? 

 We hear a lot about sex and a lot of advancing our careers, but rarely, do we get the chance to hear about them together.  In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Nicole Hargons, award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky. Dr. Hargons is a thought leader in this field, and provides timeless insights to improve work-sex-life balance. 

 In this episode, Dr. Hargons answers common questions about what it takes to have a thriving sex life, even with a demanding job.  Whether you are trying to muster up the energy for your partner at night, or overcoming unhealthy stigmas around worthiness, this podcast episode is packed with timeless insights on sex, shame, worthiness, and unhealthy cultural norms that we have adopted.  

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 Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons About 

I am an award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky, where I study sexual wellness and liberation. I host F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast, as well as How to Love a Human, a liberation podcast that asks people with multiple marginalized identities what the world would be like if it loved them. I have published over 50 research articles and have been featured in HuffPost, Women's Health, Cosmopolitan, the New York Times. and elsewhere.

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How to Wait Well 

What does it mean to Wait Well?  When you have done everything you know to do, and still, nothing has happened – there is a tendency to question. Did I hear God correctly? Am I doing something wrong? Why others and not me? Is this even the Will of God for my life?  

In the book Wait and See, author Wendy Pope shares timeless biblical wisdom on how to prepare for the future, when you experience discouragement and weariness about your present circumstance.  Instead of getting distracted with the “object of your wait, you can grow closer to the Person of Your faith” Wendy shares.  

Regardless of what you are “waiting on to happen” in your life – a relationship, children, career opportunities, or a better outlook on life, Wendy touches on in her book and in this podcast episode.  

About Wendy Pope 

The most important thing you need to know about Wendy is that she loves the Lord, and His Word with all her heart. She lives and serves in ministry everyday with the desire for every person to love the Lord and His life-changing Word.

Wendy and her husband Scott have been married for thirty years. They have two amazing adult children, and one very cute Boykin Spaniel named Maxie.

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy_pope/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WendyPopeOfficial

Website: https://wendypope.org

 You can also purchase a copy of her phenomenal book Wait and See here.

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What you believe is important, but what role does faith really have in our relationships.  Is it a deal breaker if two people don't share the same faith? What does it actually mean, when someone says, "equally yoked". What should people look for when they say their Faith is important to them?  Can it be used to restore relationships and overcome many of the challenges we experience on a daily basis. 

In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Licensed Therapist, Rashad Skinner (LCSW).  Rashad is the founder and Executive Director of Sapphire Therapeutic Services, Inc. His non-profit agency has been working families by providing counseling and training for over a decade to preserve and improve the family unit for children. Prior to founding the agency, Rashad’s social work expanded to include helping clients in hospital settings, treating drug addiction in the criminal justice system, and with families involved in the child welfare system. He specializes in motivational interviewing, cognitive behavioral therapy, structuralism, and grief counseling. Rashad has bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Fisk University, and Master’s in Social Work. He is a Licensed Clinical Social Work Supervisor, DWI educator, and parenting instructor.

To Learn more about Rashad and his practice, you can visit him online at http://www.sapphiretherapy.org/ or follow him on instagram @thats.helpful. Also, make sure you subscribe to Dr. Nic Hardy Youtube channel and follow online  @drnichardy ​

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If you knew this 20 years ago, what would you do different in marriage? For anyone who is married, considering marriage, or interested in a long-term relationship, learning from those who have been in the trenches can sometimes be the best form of counseling.  However, what does it really take to be married for over 20 years… 

Sometimes we want to be "happily married after" but how many of know what it takes to go the distance in relationships. In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Tasha and Neil Lyons from Love and Marriage DC on the OWN Television Network. The Lyons have been married for 20 years and share timeless advice on what it takes to thrive relationally. As high school sweethearts, Tasha and Neil discuss the highs and lows of their relationship, and timeless advice for others. Watch this episode and learn insider secrets to a lasting, healthy relationship.

Neil and Tasha Lyons met and began dating their senior year in high school in the year 2000. They've been married for 16 years and have 3 amazing children from their union. The Lyons have a family real estate firm called The Lyons Den Group, which their oldest daughter, JaNeil is also a part of. Neil and Tasha were also a part of new reality TV show, Love and Marriage: DC on the OWN television network. They enjoy educating people on the power of homeownership and the financial rewards that come with it.  

Make sure to follow them online @tajaly to connect and learn more about the work they are doing in the community and around the country. 

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If you have ever wondered whether or not you should go to therapy, or if the problems you are experiencing warrant talking to someone, then this episode is for you.  Join Dr. Nic Hardy, and Arron Muller, LCSW as they discuss the subtle signs if you are okay or not. Although we can “push through”, or maintain a “business as usual attitude”, the impact of what we experience in life can create problems in future relationships if we don’t get help.  If you are in a relationship with someone who needs to go counseling, or if they have tried to figure it out on their own, this episode may offer helpful tips on how to have that conversation in a productive way.  

Make sure you subscribe to the Untherapeutic podcast, and follow us on Youtube, and social media.  Also, if you are positively impacted, make sure to leave us a review. 

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About Arron Muller 

Arron Muller, LCSW is the CEO and Founder of Modify Wellness, Inc a nonprofit providing mental health programming and education in NYC. Arron is also a School Social Worker and Adjunct Professor at Adelphi University School of Social Work. 

Arron Muller provides Individual and Couples counseling using a eclectic approach. Arron conducts stress and anxiety trainings for nursing schools, facilitates workshops at churches and colleges.  Arron holds a Master of Social Work degree from Adelphi University.

He was also selected as the Expert Consultant for The Root.com’s topic on “Black Love”. Working in a predominantly female industry, he recognized the absence of black males in the field which led him to develop a network of Black Male Therapist from across the country whose membership is at 800 members.  He utilizes social media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook and Twitter to provide mental illness information and promote awareness to reduce stigma. Arron was highlighted as one of the “15 Black Male Therapists You Should Know” in the Huffington Post in 2017.  Also featured in Black Enterprise as BE Modern Man 100 Men of Distinction.  Arron has been a contributor to The Grio, Oprah Daily, News 12, Hot 97, THE DOCTORS, ABC News, Cosmopolitan and NY1. He was also featured on Vh1’s “Black Ink Crew” as the Resident Therapist.  

One his most notable  projects was the launch of t-shirt line promoting Black Men seeking therapy which includes the empowering slogan, “Black Kings Need Therapy Too”. Arron facilitated the NYC Brothers Thrive- a conversation about mental health developed by Former First Lady Chirlane McCray of New York City to provide a forum for black men to have conversations about mental health. 

Arron’s mission is to change the stigma associated with mental health and therapy in the African American community by providing information, educating and providing low-cost services.

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The secret to happiness in our relationships is not always what we think.  More money, less arguments, more time together, better vacations, the list goes on of what we think will make us happy.  However, all too often, we focus on the wrong things and find ourselves consistently dissatisfied, both in life and in our relationships. We all want to be happy, but what does it really take? In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Robert Mack, Positive Psychology Expert, Celebrity Happiness Coach, Published Author, and more.  Learn how you too can experience the joy of happiness, right where you are.  

About Robert Mack

Robert Mack is an Ivy League-Educated, Positive Psychology Expert, Celebrity Happiness Coach, Published Author, and Television Host & Producer.

His work has been endorsed by Oprah, Vanessa Williams, Lisa Nichols, and many others. In addition to serving as Celebrity Love Coach for Famously Single on the E! Network for two seasons, Robert also worked as Consulting Producer and On-Camera Expert for Mind Your Business on the OWN Network and Executive Producer and Host of Good Morning LaLa Land on Apple TV and Hulu.

He has been featured on television shows like Good Morning America, The Today Show, CBS Morning Show, and Access Hollywood and in magazines like GQ, Self, Health, Cosmopolitan, Well + Good, and Glamour. Robert's first book, Happiness from the Inside Out: The Art and Science of Fulfillment, is celebrity-endorsed and critically-acclaimed.

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If you haven’t already, now is the time to binge on Season 1 and review the many great episodes from the Untherapeutic Podcast.  The first season is filled with timeless insights to help you relationally and in life.  In the meantime, don’t forget to subscribe to our new Youtube channel @drnichardy and follow us on social media. 

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Despite how much you love someone, it takes discipline to make a relationship successful.  One of the most important disciplines, is the discipline to establish healthy boundaries with those outside of your relationship. In this episode, I am joined by Anthony Flynn, CEO and Founder of Amazing CEO and execution expert.  In addition to growing multiple successful businesses, and coaching some of the worlds most renowned executives, Anthony’s greatest accomplishment is centered around his marriage and family.  

Anthony has been a brother and mentor of mine for over 20 years, and I have personally watched him invest in the daily disciplines of safeguarding his marriage.  With an abundance of resources and global access, how does one practice in private what they preach publicly? How do you avoid pitfalls that have tripped some of the most powerful men in our society? When your relationship is less than perfect, your needs are not being met 100%, and no one is watching – how do you say No?  How to be Faithful in Marriage is a must listen to for anyone who desires to be committed in their relationship. If we are not intentional, disciplined and anchored, the temptation of our own selfish desires can negatively impact the ones we love most. 

To learn more about Anthony Flynn, you can follow him online at @anthonyflynn_ac  or visit him at amazingceo.com 

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