Bunny and I talk! So, are you ready to peel back the layers of a complex fetish that's often shrouded in secrecy? Join Me, Chastity Queen and My slave Bunny as We/we boldly go where few dare to tread, discussing the intricacies of cuckolding. From uncovering Bunny's own journey of self-discovery, to tackling the profound impact this revelation had on Our/our relationship dynamic, the conversation promises to be as candid as it is eye-opening. Add a sprinkling of societal expectations and the inevitable sting of jealousy, and you've got an open, honest dialogue on an often-misunderstood facet of BDSM. There is laughter too.
Hold onto your hats, because We/we're not stopping there! We/we venture further down the rabbit hole, examining the intricacies of evolving dynamics within cuckolding. From contemplating cuckolding as a form of personal erotica, to the tantalizing allure of denial, We/we leave no stone unturned. We/we'll even entertain the thought of introducing a dominant partner or a female slave into the mix. Bunny and I bring Our/our own evolving desires to the table, offering a broad yet intimate view of the cuckolding fetish and its place in BDSM relationships. Brace yourself for an unflinching exploration of the titillating world of BDSM relationships.
Bunny and I talk! So, are you ready to peel back the layers of a complex fetish that's often shrouded in secrecy? Join Me, Chastity Queen and My slave Bunny as We/we boldly go where few dare to tread, discussing the intricacies of cuckolding. From uncovering Bunny's own journey of self-discovery, to tackling the profound impact this revelation had on Our/our relationship dynamic, the conversation promises to be as candid as it is eye-opening. Add a sprinkling of societal expectations and the inevitable sting of jealousy, and you've got an open, honest dialogue on an often-misunderstood facet of BDSM. There is laughter too.
Hold onto your hats, because We/we're not stopping there! We/we venture further down the rabbit hole, examining the intricacies of evolving dynamics within cuckolding. From contemplating cuckolding as a form of personal erotica, to the tantalizing allure of denial, We/we leave no stone unturned. We/we'll even entertain the thought of introducing a dominant partner or a female slave into the mix. Bunny and I bring Our/our own evolving desires to the table, offering a broad yet intimate view of the cuckolding fetish and its place in BDSM relationships. Brace yourself for an unflinching exploration of the titillating world of BDSM relationships.
Thank you for tuning in to Diaries of a Domme, plus questions answered with me, chastity Queen.
Speaker 1:
So today I'm going to be talking to my slave about being a cuck. I know that all of you that listen are quite curious as to how a man comes to this decision and why, and also the fact that many men wish that their wife would be, or their partner would be, a cuck-a-lutress. So I want to say hello to my slave, but first, before we do discuss this and he says his hello, don't forget to follow me on X under Queen of Lockup, and you'll see my name there as Chastity Queen. You can follow me on FetLife. Let's be friends, send me a friend request and you can go to LockedinLust and use promo code Chastity Queen for 15% off of anything on their website, as well as if you go to my link tree backward slash, chastity Queen, you can see all of my social media platforms and those links as well. So today I want to talk to Bunny, and it's been a while, but it's nice to chat with Bunny and I'm just going to start with a question. So when was it that you realized you were a cuck?
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I first started thinking about it probably before we started dating. It kind of ended up being a bit of a shameful pleasure. I guess you can say I don't know, just something I thought about but didn't quite know how to broach it, I guess.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, and I think that a lot of men have these secret desires that maybe they feel ashamed of, for whatever the reason might be, and it could also be because their partner has been very specific in the dynamic regarding, you know, the negotiation of play, and maybe that cuck side of things didn't fit into what that whole picture looked like. So, bringing it up, I wonder if that was part of the concern for you.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, it was a concern. I mean you weren't overly receptive to it at first. In fact, yeah, it did upset you quite a bit and I guess I kind of knew it would. But that's why I didn't really want to If I was, like I said, a guilty pleasure, I guess a guilty fantasy, I guess that's how I pretty much looked at it. It's kind of a guilty fantasy. It's something I wanted to try for sure, but it wasn't a make or break kind of deal either.
Speaker 1:
When you say I was upset, I would say I think it was more confused and trying to wrap my head around what that meant for our relationship going forward. So, first of all, when we first got together, we were pretty open and transparent about what our relationship was going to be involving. And so when a person tells you that they have this additional desire that you have not known about and you'd had this desire since before we met. So we're now together seven plus years and I just learned about this desire. Maybe I've known for about a year, maybe a year and a half, I don't know.
Speaker 1:
So when you're six years into a relationship, or five and a half years into a relationship, and then you find out that your partner has had this secret desire for the totality of the relationship, but they haven't trusted you enough to tell you that, then that's why you start to have questions about how deep that intimacy might actually have been. If somebody's afraid to tell you and I mean, I'm a femme-dame, I'm a woman who's been around every single kind of kink, so you'd think that telling me wouldn't be as trepidatious as it was. But so I think that my uncertainty about it was, first of all, the fact that it was never told to me. And then, second of all you being in chastity for so long, was there a lack of desire for sex with me?
Speaker 2:
No, that wasn't it at all. It was even a lack of trust. It was more of just. It was more of like, again, it was a shame thing, right, it's hard to come out with things that you're like, you kind of feel like you. I guess the bottom line is I was ashamed of it. It wasn't something that was easy to broach. Because of that, it really, at the end of the day, had very, very, very little to do with you, or, at the very least, what it did. If it did, it was more so. Again, it was more of a fear reaction, more of a fear of your possible reaction to it. It like fear, that fear of rejection about it. And you know, it's not like just sitting there saying, oh yeah, by the way, I kind of like it's like it's not like one of those things. Like you sit there and say, oh yeah, by the way, I kind of like maybe like a finger stuck up my butt or something. It's like, oh, okay, I guess I can accommodate that.
Speaker 1:
Oh, how could you want to finger up your butt? I mean, holy shit, I'm going to leave you now, but you want me to fuck with another man while you watch. Well, it's a little bit different than a finger up the butt. Yeah, I get it. Oh my gosh. Anyway, oh man, oh, I don't know.
Speaker 1:
I feel like a lot of men have this desire and they don't talk about it because they are used to this certain picture, and I think it's a picture that is formed by society, where the wife and the husband are monogamous and they, you know they don't go outside of that monogamy. They wouldn't even think about it, let alone have the man let the wife go out and enjoy herself with another man, because there's such a jealousy issue in regards to that as well. As well, he's my knight in shining armor. Why would he want to be anything less than a man, 100% man? He wants to use his dick on me. Nobody else would want to do that in front of him. I mean that would cause a murder, suicide situation, right, I mean worst case scenario.
Speaker 1:
You hear of all these true crime situations where someone finds out that they're being cocked without consent by their wife. She's over with a man that's bigger than him and he finds out and he goes on a murdering rampage. So there's always that concern for a woman that oh well, he might have the fantasy of it, but when that fantasy turns into reality is he going to end up taking my boyfriend's head off and me with it. So there's a bit of that fear. So it goes beyond shame on the cucks part. It's for a woman. It's this fear.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I get that. Yeah, it is an uncomfortable thing. So, yeah, I understand the whole idea that, hey, maybe it might be a murder suicide kind of deal and kind of do it, because, yeah, I mean, let's face it, the majority of murders are that kind of a base from a love triangle kind of deal. Oh yeah, or you know someone wanting insurance, but that's neither here. Yeah, as you may guess, we watch a lot of true crime. Yeah, there's these whole societal norms of if you're being cocked, you're less than a man, right, you're not. So there's that that part of the shame too, right, that's kind of baked into the human psyche and part of it's cultural and part of it's also like almost like a natural like or biological factors, like it's not normal. Most people don't understand it.
Speaker 1:
You're just degrading yourself right now with this whole cock thing. It's not normal, it's right, let's just put it this way. You know, to be a cock you have to have a lot of trust. You cannot be a jealous type and you have to also expect that there will be uncomfortable moments at the beginning. And I know that in one of our first experiences it was kind of a low key situation where I allowed him to worship my feet and you were blindfolded and you were bound and everything was great and I ended up going down on this man just to enjoy his humongous cock, right, so you could hear it auditorially and that was exciting. And when we were finished and he was gone you said I'm a hundred percent cock. That was great.
Speaker 1:
But then when we went to the sex club and it was a really busy night that night I walked around, I found somebody that I thought was a good potential and then I lost them in the mix, looking for a private room. I wanted a private room and on the private room there's a rope, so you can either close the door or put the rope up across the doorway and people can watch and then you can kind of pick who you want to bring them in. So as I'm waiting for that other person who never showed up or whatever happened I saw another man who seemed to fit the bill because of course you got men walking around with towels on, so I just had them open the towel and I saw the size that matched what I wanted and I invited him in and we closed the door because I wanted the first time, the first sexual experience in the cuck situation, cuckoldress bull scenario, and he was African-American, so he just happened to be African-American. I wasn't specifically looking for a black bull, I was just looking for a more dominant man to please my needs and even though it was, it was quite an aggressive experience.
Speaker 1:
I do think that it was kind of a shock for you in a way. I mean, you enjoyed it. I could see you enjoying it but also kind of wrapping your head around it. So do you want to just quickly talk about that? I don't want this to be a long podcast. We could always do a second part two on this.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, that was definitely kind of true. Yeah, there was a bit of shock, but again, I have read that that's actually normal, a normal process to go through. So, yeah, it is a very, when it comes down to that, it is very normal to have that Like a thought of like wow, this is kind of happening, it's a little shocking, it's I don't know what to think kind of deal. So if anyone goes through that, it is, as I said, very normal, it's not unusual.
Speaker 1:
And now from the woman's perspective, you know you've decided that you're going to give your partner the gift of his cuck desires, and so in my experience, we had a lot of conversations before we did it and we had finally decided okay, we're going to do it. This is why you want to do it. You don't love me less, you love me more and you just basically want to experience me having pleasure with somebody else and you want to be able to be a voyeur to that experience and watch it, sort of like watching your own personal pornography experience. But the subject of the porno is your queen, your number one, the love of your life, and she's there having sex and you're watching it in real life. So, even though it was shocking for you, it's also a realization that hold on, this is a thing and this is more than just fantasy. So you kind of gulp down the thought of we can't undo this situation, we can't unring this bell right, and then you can settle into it right Now.
Speaker 1:
For the female perspective, my perspective was I did it. It wasn't a mind blowing sexual experience, but that's just me. I don't find men to be exceptionally good in bed because I like to lock men up. So I had to understand at that point that most men to me are lackluster. So you'd have to be really special to get my attention. So I can't expect that when I go to a club I'm going to be 100% involved or pleasure 100%, because I just don't think men have it in them to make me 100% happy. Right, you'd have to be super special. What do you think about that, honey?
Speaker 2:
Oh man, that's a bit too unpack, oh my God. Okay, so yeah, I mean, I get it. Women are a little bit harder to get off than a man. Let's be honest. Guys can just rub one out and that's pretty much it. I mean, I'm not saying that that's 100% the case all the time. Yeah, I mean, I, in a lot of ways, I'm a lot like a woman.
Speaker 2:
I do I need to be stimulated in like kind of my brain. Essentially, my brain has to be stimulated in a lot of ways and I guess that's what I think that's the big appeal to the cuckolding thing. It is like, in a lot of ways, it is kind of like your own personal porn and you're instead of, like you said, your porn star is your partner, in this case, my queen, and that I think that's the awesome part about it right there is it's like, oh shit, that is fucking amazing. It's like it's kind of weird in a sense that yeah, it's like you, you're experiencing it almost like third person. You're your, your queen, your, your partner having, like taking pleasure, but you're just sitting watching. I think that's a big part of the appeal, right there.
Speaker 1:
Yeah. So it's the denial that is the most exciting. And you know I'm interacting with somebody that now as I was thinking it could be another bull for me, right? So I've had some overnights and some weekends and that and, and at the core of it, you know, he's got a big cock. But the twist is this when I go to the sex club I've done that once, okay, I've done the sex once, and we've been multiple times and I think that I am a big degrader.
Speaker 1:
I'm a huge humiliator of men and when I go, I enjoy flaunting my body and realizing that I Don't have to give it up to anybody. Right, that's what I am. I'm a femdom and If I want to, I can. But I'm very picky and even with Bunny's desire to be cooked, he understands that I'm not going to engage with somebody unless they really turn me on or it just falls flat, and it would fall flat for him too, because then I'm just doing it to make him happy and that makes him a top from the bottom, which isn't what I want, and I don't think he wants that either. So well, I know he doesn't want that. He wants me to be happy. So I have had some one-on-one interactions with somebody in the past two plus months and Bunny's not come. Bunny hasn't been involved because this person is kind of private, but bunny's been able to see some photos, some imagery in that and that has been a form of cooking from a distance, which is great.
Speaker 1:
Now here's the twist. This new person that I'm involved with wants to be denied forever. So last weekend I allowed him to have one come in a condom, as I wrote him, and that will be the last come he ever has. That will be the last time he ever has sex with me, ever again. So now that puts me on a platform of Okay, now what do I do? Right now I have another chastity slave who enjoys denial a hundred percent. I've got bunny, who's a cook, who loves denial, and that gets him off and that gets the other person off. So now do I introduce another person that's just a hundred percent dominant? So that's a big question and as the months unfold you will all find out what transpires.
Speaker 1:
And it's a Continuing saga in the life of Chastity Queen and her cuck slave, chased cuck slave. And of course everybody knows, you know bunnies on a very extended Chastity sentence, there's going to be a piercing in the future there's going to be tattoo, there's all of that stuff. So Bunny has settled into his position as a chaste cuck. I am comfortable with that. I don't need to engage with him Sexually if I don't want to, and he's okay with that. That being said, if I need to use him, I will. I can't, I'm the boss and he's okay with that right. So I am still in charge.
Speaker 1:
But it's interesting how everybody that I meet I end up wanting to put into chastity, or they end up wanting to be in chastity, and Then I start to like I'm on the third cage now with this new man. I've given him a bigger cage, big metal cage. Now I've gone down to the same style of cage, yet smaller tube, and now I've purchased the steel down boy that makes him unable to have an erection. Now the ring was a bit too big for his balls so I've ordered the ring size smaller. So you know, denial, denial, denial, and in the sense that they are denied, I'm also denied because I talked to bunny about it and I've had sex now seven times in one whole year or since bunny has been cucked, which is a year, a year and a half ago. So that's not a lot of sex for me, and do I need it? Do I require it? Not necessarily because you know I can get satisfaction from toys, from dildos, from a mouth and Bunny's very adequate in that department and the other slave is able to excite me that way as well. So when do I go from now? Or from here, and I don't know Do I have any of my own secret desires that are starting to evolve?
Speaker 1:
Well, as we explore this new, new desire with with bunny, you know, a year and a half ago, things have evolved for me too. So do I want to have a female slave? Do I want to Find myself somebody that doesn't want chastity but just wants to Give me Penetrative sex? I don't know. I'm sort of up and up in in the air about that. So you know, we'll continue to evolve in search. I've had a lot more sadistic desires too. Since all of this has happened. I Become more of a sadist in that I want to mark men with my tools of pain, and I have found another man who enjoys ball crushing, so I've accepted him as a ball crushed slave. So you know, things are opening up and evolving. I don't know what the future looks like, but I guess I'm a collector of slaves at this point and I'm an experimentalist at this stage of the game. So I'm going to wrap it up for today and I will allow Bunny to maybe say a couple words at the end. But that is basically where we're at.
Speaker 1:
If you are a man who has these desires, don't feel shame. Sure there are women that aren't going to accept it, and I think you can probably figure out who those would be. And if your partner is one of them, then might be best to keep it a fantasy. Some things are best kept in fantasy land. Now, bunny's fortunate in that I'm an open-minded person and I'm willing to adapt, and everybody's cuck and cuck cuck-oldress situation doesn't have to be static, it doesn't have to be one way.
Speaker 1:
So maybe her riding on a Sibian while he is tied up in the room, watching her get pleasure from that, would be okay in her mind, right? And maybe he can picture a man fucking her, maybe her masturbating herself in front of him while he's tied up and not able to touch her or lick her or fuck her. Maybe that is the cuck cuck-oldress scene that can be presented to her. But basically, if she is the object of affection, then let her make the choices and you'd be grateful for what she offers. Maybe she's totally against interacting with another man. That is her right and she can say no and you must respect that. So I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about fantasies and having the conversation. What do you think, bunny?
Speaker 2:
Yeah, cause at the end of the day it is a. This is two people involved, right? So yeah, it is about like compromise. At the end of the day, both people might not get 100% of what they like or want, but you're getting something of it. That's as long as you're both getting something from it, then hey, that's just a successful relationship, right, I mean?
Speaker 1:
So I guess, to just wrap it up, I just want to say you know, don't be ashamed of your desires. There's a lot of men who have those same feelings and cravings, and it's only because they want to see their partner pleased, and that is not a bad thing. That's just something that's a little bit outside of the box, and sometimes the best things that exist live outside of that box and you need to buck the system. You have to become more open-minded and liberal, because no one is going to strike you down for having thoughts. That's all they are. And if your partnership is toxic, then that's a different topic for a different day and that's something that you have to assess. If you are not having any satisfaction, any joy in the relationship and it's one sided, then it's not a team effort. So you know, you can figure that out, and but in the meantime thank you, bunny, for giving your feedback on that and you know, none of us are perfect and some days we just can't handle certain bits of information, you know, and some days sexuality isn't something you want to talk about. So you know, when you're on a vacation or you're comfortable or you're feeling a little kinky, that's when you can bring it up.
Speaker 1:
You know, I think I even had the secret desires for it when I had an experience where I and I don't I'm not a smoker, but I had a bit of pot and I had a client who enjoyed dressing up and I was thinking about, oh, wouldn't it be kind of cool to have two men that are here pleasing me at once? So that was a bit of a desire for me and it came across a little bit surprising for Bunny. And so what happened was I went into my shell about it because I thought, oh, I went too far, I said too much, and yet at the same time he had had these desires. And so we were kind of crossing paths and we were both thinking, oh shit, we shouldn't tell each other. But then it was kind of similar. We both wanted the same thing, but we didn't want to hurt each other's feelings, and that's a nice thing to do.
Speaker 1:
You don't want to hurt your partner's feelings. You don't want to lose your partnership. You don't want it to affect the respect that has been established in the relationship, the foundation, of course, that's so important. You don't want to break down something that has been worked hard for, that you have built you've constructed together. So you don't want that all in one word or one fantasy. It's like an explosion and everything's blown out of the water. So that's a normal concern, but I think if you have a good foundation, you can definitely work through it and be realistic. So anyway, thanks for listening. I hope you enjoyed this episode and there will be many more to come, so don't forget to follow me and like this and review it, if you can. That would be great. Otherwise, have a great day and bye for now. Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil Oil film.
