Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Strap yourself in for lots of kinky and open dialogue from a Woman who has experience with Pro-Domming and the BDSM Lifestyle. Her live-in chaste sissy sub joins in on some of the open discussions involving kink, chastity, BDSM and what it means to be a good Domme and sub.
Are you are drawn to BDSM & wondered why? Do the dynamics in a D/s relationship, intrigue you? Do you feel the submissive cravings, but cannot express that in your current relationship, or as a single person? Or, are you a female dominant and want to explore that powerful side of yourself? Does the concept of control & mental power exchange, wet your intellectual interest? Maybe you are currently in the BDSM scene and fighting to find joy. Do you have a D/s relationship but need to understand how to successfully satisfy your partner? I have the answers and many stories to share.
It is high time that I share My enriching journey, as a proud Female Dominant. I have been a Lifestyle Domme, for 10+ years & have met 100s of submissives. These, have served Me, looked up to Me & TAUGHT ME so many things about the human mind & its willingness to obey. In those thrilling years, I have learnt the delicate balance between a submissive mind and his/her body and the role I play. My knowledge + personal stories are rich with secrets, for submissives & Dommes.
I specialize in chastity, Femdom, crossdressers, humiliation play, emasculation and have experience in ABDL/DL, E-stimulation, urethral sounds, the mind games that make a Sadist so powerful and the vast Dungeon tools + tricks, that make up a High Protocol, BDSM Dungeon. Consent & physical safety will be discussed. The psychological and mental health aspects of BDSM will be discussed.
BDSM scratches so many mental itches & there are always reasons for those cravings. There will be cautionary tales, that you can learn from. There will also be much to realize, from the beauty that overflows, within the BDSM Community.
I will take your hand in Mine & we will navigate through the problems, questions & curiosities. Even if your day-to-day is vanilla, you deserve to explore your desires.
Maybe you want to understand someone who lives in the BDSM world or unearth your own curiosity? When you harness your creativity & mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. This is discussed, in Napoleon Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich”. In Chapter 11, “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation” he says, “The road to genius consists of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance. “ Yes, this info-gem, is in a “get rich” book!
If you do not have a Mentor, Goddess, Domme or Queen, you have found One now! Let Me be your Teacher, disciplinarian, mentor and queen! If you learn anything from My stories and knowledge, know that what I say, is about loving yourself and that you can do anything. My purpose is to take the misunderstanding OUT of BDSM and those who enjoy fetishes that others may not understand. I want submissives and Dommes, to succeed with ease and pleasure.
BDSM is becoming more mainstream. People are realizing their sexual potential, beyond simple sex. Power Exchange in relationships is such a satisfying way to engage. Any variety of D/s relationships can provide stimulation that surpasses Society's idea of how it should look or be. You will learn with Me, as I take you through the journeys of the mind and soul of the submissives that I control/led and what methods I use, to become the best Domme, that I can be.
There is no limit, to success. As I said, in the beginning, if you can harness your creativity and mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. Enjoy and rate the episodes, if you have a moment. Sincerely, Chastity Queen "Chastity is freedom!"
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Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Locktober 2024 with Chastity Queen
Are you ready for Locktober????
Ever wondered what it takes to endure a month-long chastity challenge? From an intriguing encounter with a cuckold at a kink club to understanding the psychological nuances of metal versus plastic chastity devices, this episode will prepare and inspire you for Locktober. Learn the importance of selecting the right device and how to mentally and physically prepare yourself for this unique challenge.
Get ready for Locktober with practical advice, like using a lockbox and setting timers for practice runs, ensuring your cage fits comfortably, and keeping a journal to track challenging moments. Discover effective strategies to stay busy and focused throughout the day, keeping your mind off the kink. My excitement for Locktober is palpable, and I promise continuous support to help you every step of the way. Let’s embark on this exciting journey together and make this Locktober an unforgettable experience!
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Thank you for tuning in to Diaries of a Dom, plus questions answered with me, chastity Queen. Before I begin and discuss Locktober, which is quickly approaching, be sure to subscribe to my premium content. It is a mere $6 a month for those locked episodes and during Locktober you will find that unlocking those may help you to manage throughout the month in your cage. You can, of course, follow me on Twitter or X under Chastity Queen, at Queen of Lockup, where I post updates and polls for you to engage in and regular quotes from me. You can also follow me on FetLife under Chastity-queen, where I always welcome friend requests. So please do send me a request to be friends, and if you wish to follow me, then you may as well. To see all of my links on all of the different social media platforms and for affiliate discounts, please go to my link tree backwards slash Chastity Queen, and you can go there and read about me and how to tribute me as well through PayPal. You can, by all means, look at this podcast, and those links will also be available to you Also. Links will also be available to you Also. Don't forget to subscribe to my OnlyFans, and that is under Chastity Queen, where I have close to 8,000 photos, hundreds of videos and much more content coming regularly. If you'd like to get yourself a device before Locktober approaches, go to LockedInLustcom and you can use promo code CHASTITYQUEEN all one word, all caps for a 15% off discount, which is also stackable with some of their other discounts. So take full advantage of that and get prepared for Locktober. Consider this a task from a queen me, chastity Queen.
Speaker 1:So now let's talk about Locktober. You might ask well, what is Locktober? Well, many of you or you that is listening knows what Locktober is. Many do not. So what Locktober is is you try to stay locked up in chastity for as long as possible and, if you are brave, for the whole month of October, and that's why it is coined Locktober. So you have about two weeks approximately to read up on it. Be inspired, maybe. Take on the challenge, challenge yourself, talk to your partner about it. Whatever, you must do, do your research and get the proper device. That's my first key element to a successful lucktober.
Speaker 1:And you know, I was talking to somebody just recently at a kink club and I quickly identified that he was a slave because he offered my cuck slave some oil for my feet. I was getting a nice foot rub and then shortly after he approached me and had a nice cup of water for me as well and I said, oh, you must be a slave. He says, well, I'm a cuck. I said, well, that makes a lot of sense and of course I kindly accepted the water. It was such a nice service that he provided in offering me oil for my feet and water to drink. So we got to chatting a little bit as my feet were being rubbed and he had a bag with him. It was a little zipper bag and that's where he kept his foot oils and that sort of thing.
Speaker 1:But he also had some chastity devices and he asked if I would take a look and I said, well, I don't know if you are on FetLife, but my name is Chastity Queen. And he immediately was excited. He says, oh, my goodness, this isn't. You aren't really Chastity Queen. I said, yes, I am. He was surprised that the Chastity Queen from FetLife was in front of him and wanted to take a look at his cages. So of course I obliged and we talked about the different cages that he had. He had two that were plastic and while they are light and, you know, easy enough to put on and wear for long periods of time.
Speaker 1:He did tell me that he prefers metal and I noticed that tends to be what a lot of chaste men enjoy is the metal. And I knew the answer, but I still asked him why he preferred metal. I'm always curious to see what the answer is from men who are exploring and engage in chastity. And he said it just feels more permanent. And I said to him it's like being in a prison. You know those metal bars and I know that that is a sensation that is powerful for a man who needs his, his cock restrained. And so we chatted some more and he's going to find a cage that fits him nicely for Locktober in a metal. And I told him by all means, go to Locked in Lust and use my discount, because if you can get a discount on a cage and enjoy those perks, then it just makes Locktober so much more appealing, saving a few dollars in your bank, you know. So if you do go to Locked in Lust, you can use Chastity Queen for 15% off, and that's all caps and all one word. And there are metal, there are resin. The vice, of course, is on there, inescapable Vice, which is wonderful for Locktober. I highly recommend it. My slave has two vices and loves them, so you know, by all means, browse and use that discount.
Speaker 1:So I am, throughout Locktober, going to be discussing chastity, doing some chastity hypnosis, giving some experiences of other men who went through Locktober, as well as sharing some fan messages and also thanking all of you for the things that you do for me, which you know is subscribing to my podcast or my OnlyFans. I get tributes that I always appreciate and I try to make sure that you know that it is appreciated by sending a message. Provide me your email so that I can do that. It's so frustrating when I receive a tribute and I don't know who to respond to to offer my thanks and gratitude for that. You know a lot of men. They come to me and they say well, october must be a really busy time for you and you must make a lot of money, and that's not the case. I just don't. This is my lifestyle.
Speaker 1:Yes, I have a lot of men that are in chastity to me and they assist me in many different ways, and it's not always financial. I tend to offer a lot of support, you know, for free and as just a part of who I am, as my, my lifestyle, you know, to support those in the community. But it is really very much appreciated when I do get a tribute and I have somebody that appreciates the inspiration and the motivation that I offer in my words, in my comfort, in my support, in my encouragement. The muse that I provide for so many men is when appreciated with a financial gift, is just so solid. It's such a definite way to express your appreciation. Or I can purchase something nice for myself, maybe a bottle of perfume, or I can go and get a nice face cream or whatever the case may be. I just feel so pampered, I feel so adored and as a queen, a dom, a femdom, I really want to feel that way. I enjoy it. I know that I'm doing a good job.
Speaker 1:When I see those financial tributes come in and it really helps me to continue this path, this purpose that I have to support men in their fetishes and in everything that I do. It could be feminization, it could be chastity. It could be a combination. It could be. Cross could be feminization, it could be chastity, it could be a combination. It could be cross-dressers, it could be. I am supporting people who enjoy A-B role play, and they love the fact that I never make them feel ashamed. And it could be a fetish player that enjoys specific fabrics or loves feet, loves wearing used underwear, loves to enjoy latex or bondage these men it's so much fun, but when there's a tangible gift of appreciation, it just means the world to me. So keep that in mind.
Speaker 1:You know, I also find that the men that have the least amount of money tend to be the ones that give the most, and I appreciate it so much that you know those who are on a budget or on a tight budget. They will put aside a certain amount of their monthly budget towards their appreciation, their gratitude, their thank you, and I just can't say thank you enough. It means a lot it really does for a woman who it may seem as if I am probably flushed with endless amounts of money, but I'm not. So you know, this is my purpose and the podcast itself. I have a lot of listeners, a lot have downloaded the free content and it gives me a sense of satisfaction to know that I'm a voice in the dark for many who are struggling with this inner sense of shame. They don't know where it came from, but it's just there and when I'm able to tell you that you know you're not alone, you are not a freak, you are actually doing something that a lot of men do and just don't admit to, and that I support it.
Speaker 1:There is a huge level of appreciation that comes from that and there's satisfaction for me, because I want you to enjoy life Really I do and when you become an adult and you are able to explore these different sides of your sexuality, it's so powerful when you find something. You find a fetish or a kink that you had never thought of before and it just ends up turning you on. And this is so enriching for a man's life and also for a relationship. Even I know a lot of partners that have started to engage in chastity and it's not only enjoyable for the man but it's also quite satisfactory for the female, the woman who's in charge. You know it gives them, as I have a sense of. You know it gives them, as I have, a sense of empowerment and that female power.
Speaker 1:Having control over a man and his member, his cock, having it locked and holding the key around our neck is such an erotic experience For me. It is every time I put those keys around my neck or I'm out engaging with one of my slaves and I have just their keys around my neck or around my anklet or on my wrist. I know I'm in charge. I'm making the decisions for them. They no longer have to decide on when they're going to touch themselves. That's something that I choose to tell them to do or to not do, and that is such a full circle moment when you find something that is new and thrilling and exciting.
Speaker 1:So let's talk about October. It's quickly approaching and you can choose many different forms of chastity. You can try a mental chastity. You can self-lock. A lot of you have to self-lock and that's okay. I know that it means so much more when you have a dom that's there or a partner that's there holding the key because you don't feel like you're going to cheat. You know there's that feeling of calm, knowing that it's in somebody else's hands, and you know you can take that key and put it in a lockbox and you may want to try for a few days, have the lockbox unlock and then decide are you okay to go a few more days from there, and so on and so on. You can take things day by day, step by step. The key is measuring. You can go online anywhere looking up how to measure for a chastity gauge. You can go to Locked and Lust. They have a proper measuring instruction sheet for you you can take a look at and as soon as you find the proper measurements, then you can be prepared for lockdown.
Speaker 1:I highly recommend that you measure first, know if you're allergic to anything, if you're allergic to a particular type of metal or resin or plastic, and if you are, then you avoid those things and you choose something that is comfortable and feels good for you. I also recommend having something planned for that month. So something around the house, a honeydew list, a hobby, maybe a series on Netflix that you want to watch. That will keep your mind distracted from what's happening in your pants, which is you have a cage on, and if you have a cage on, that's going to be very difficult to ignore. But if you have some hobbies, some plans for the month, some things that you want to accomplish in that month, then you can keep yourself busy and I think that's so important. So measuring first, keeping busy and keeping distracted second, and I would say a close third, is have things to listen to. You can turn to my podcast and get some advice, get some hypnosis to keep you locked up. I'm going to offer that this month Lots of keeping locked, staying chased, hypno discussions, etc.
Speaker 1:Now, if you really want to amp it up a bit, I would say, try something else that's new. So chastity may not be new to you. Maybe you have engaged in Locktober for a year or two or three and you're comfortable with it. Add something in. Add in some cross-dressing, add in a specific kind of porn that you want to watch, a specific kind of porn that you want to watch. Lots of options there. Maybe explore different fetishes and see if you have any other desires. Go to a munch or go to a BDSM event. Spice it up. You know, challenge yourself a little bit. Maybe edge more often.
Speaker 1:There are so many things that you can do. So I think that the first task that I can give you all right now is to go to Locked and Lust. Get yourself a device. Okay, I've got a couple other options on my podcast for cages. You can take a look at them as well and find my discounts. But if you go to Locked and Lust, it's Chastity Queen, all caps, all one word for 15% off and get that cage to your house or wherever you want to get it to your post office box, get it cleaned, get yourself ready. Trim your pubic hairs and get ready.
Speaker 1:Get a lockbox. If you need a little lockbox, you can find them anywhere you know. Set a timer on it. Maybe you've only been caged for one week maximum. Well, maybe do some practice runs before October starts. Well, maybe do some practice runs before October starts. Right, do some practice runs and see what you need to adjust. Maybe the ring needs to get adjusted to a larger size, smaller size. Maybe you need to add a little bit of a lot of time.
Speaker 1:But your first task is to get your cage ready. Maybe you have one already. Get it cleaned, get prepared and, if you want to go one step further, keep a journal of the times in the day that are your challenging times, maybe, where you think about kinky things a little bit too much, so you can identify those times and keep busy, have a project that you have to work on during that time and cross off all of those what-ifs before Locktober begins. And you've got me, chastity Queen, telling you that I want you locked for Locktober. I love to know that you are locked for Locktober and you can lock for me if you don't have somebody to inspire you or a partner to engage. So thank you for listening. There's an exciting month coming up and I am looking forward to it more than you know. So get started, get your cage, get ready. Let's do this.