Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
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Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
From a Bachelor Mindset to Sissy Maid
This episode reveals the transformative process of becoming a sissy, emphasizing the importance of cleanliness and self-improvement beyond appearances. Listeners learn that a true sissy embodies servitude and respect for their environment, encouraging a lifestyle committed to personal growth and orderliness.
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Thank you for tuning into my amazing podcast Diaries of a Dom, plus questions answered with me. Chastity Queen dig into the life of a sissy and I want to talk about before a man becomes a sissy and how becoming a sissy can transform your life. I will get into that shortly, but first of all, definitely look at all of my links here on the podcast. You can send me a tribute here if you wish. That is lovely. On the podcast, you can send me a tribute here if you wish. That is lovely. And you can go to my link tree backwards slash chastity queen for all of my social media platform links and discount coupon codes, etc. So don't forget, locked in Lust is one of my number one affiliates and if you are looking for a new cage maybe a couple of new cages, maybe you have a nice collection already and you want to try out the Flathead or the Vice, by all means go and take a look and you can use my promo code CHASTITYQUEEN. All caps, all one word, and you get 15% off. Now that's also stackable. So if there are any other discounts available, you may also use my promo code for that additional 15% off. It's definitely worth your while. There's also other things on there toys and clothing while there's also other things on there toys and clothing, sissy things and fun stuff. So, if anything, go and do a little window shopping and pick out a few things for future. So today I'm going to discuss becoming a sissy.
Speaker 1:I was talking to one of my good friends, nicholas Tannick, who has a YouTube channel called your Kinky Friends, and you may or may not have come across it, but if you haven't, I highly recommend that you do. He interviews doms from all around the world and gets a lot of insight into the mind of many different styles of doms sadists and ethical doms and sensual doms and women who escort and dom a variety so you can go check that out. I've been interviewed a number of times with him and it has always been for me an enlightening experience and a way for me to express myself and also be heard by somebody who identifies as a slave and a sissy, and I found that to be very enriching for me and I love to talk to him. So he sent me a happy Valentine's song, which was really, really nice, and so I enjoyed that, and then we got talking a little and I asked him what he was doing and he said he was working doing some sissy stuff and the other day I got a photo.
Speaker 1:Actually, I got a couple of photos, but the most recent photo was him in a sissy latex dress and the background was a kitchen. Now I want all of you to really listen to me when I say this. When you send a photo to a dom, or when you send a photo to me in particular to a dom, or when you send a photo to me in particular, I will always notice the background, always, and I noticed his background. Now, his backdrop, his background was a kitchen and he was cleaning and it was immaculate, absolutely immaculate. He was immaculate, it was immaculate and that is how it is supposed to be. I commented on that and he said this. So, first of all, what I said was the kitchen looks spotless, I'm impressed. So Nick said it's funny.
Speaker 1:For most of my life I was a slob. It took chastity, kink and French made outfits to love cleaning. So it's odd, because I was going to discuss this very thing with you, my listeners, about something that I have noticed with sissies. I noticed that a lot of sissies have not lost their penchant for being slobs. Okay, and that sounds strange, and for him, it did transform him. Becoming a sissy taught him how to be a better man, be a better slave, be a better servant and to ultimately keep the surroundings clean and learn. And he's learned from a lot, even just through his podcast. He has been given the feedback necessary to realize his dream of being a sissy, and how to do that to the best of your ability.
Speaker 1:But unfortunately, a lot of you don't have that kind of guidance. You don't have the ability to interact with doms and you see the outfit as the end-all, be-all and you take some pictures and you feel slavey and sissy, but it doesn't translate in the cleanliness of the rooms that you are supposed to be taking care of or of the house that you're serving, you know, for a woman, or maybe for your partner or wife, and it doesn't match the definition of sissy or sissy maid. I mean, essentially, a sissy maid is a maid and the reason why a sissy is dressed to the nines isn't to get personal satisfaction, it's not even to impress a dom or another person, no-transcript. And the idea is you will clean that house, you will wear an apron and you will not even get a spot on your sissy clothes. You see, ultimately it's a test. It's a test of your abilities and, yes, it takes a lot of practice just makes perfect.
Speaker 1:And I find that a lot of men that are interested in sissification, as I said, they focus a little bit too much on the outfit, the appearance, the label, and for them that is it, that's enough. But for a dom, I notice these things. I notice when you send me a picture, for example. I have a lot of sissies that send me photos and from, oh gosh, it's been years From the first sissy I ever had until now. It's been years and years.
Speaker 1:And I must say that 80% and I'm being kind, okay, 80% of the men that send me a photo online, for example, or who I know and I asked them can you please send me a photo? They send me a photo but they do not consider the background and the majority of these men are dressing up. Their outfit's not ironed, it's not clean, they don't have the proper shoes, they have a wig on, but it's messy, they haven't brushed it, their face isn't done up properly, the makeup is poorly done. But the worst part is when I see a sissy maid who's supposed to be the epitome of cleanliness and organization, having a background that looks like an explosion happened toilet paper rolls and and a pile of clothing on the ground and messes here and messes there and food wrappers and it's just absolutely terrible to see. It's a turnoff. It cancels out the whole idea that this person is a sissy. I just look at them and think you're no sissy. Immediately. That's what I think.
Speaker 1:So when I train a man to be a sissy, I remind them that your job as a sissy is to clean and to present yourself as clean and orderly and organized and tip-top shape, basically. And if you can't do that, you cannot consider yourself a sissy maid. If all you're doing is dressing up just to jerk off or just to tease yourself or just to talk to a dom so that you can get off mentally, then the whole purpose is waste. It's absolute waste, in my opinion, and this is why many sissies cannot find a partner or cannot find a dom, because they want to call themselves a sissy. They think that is the cost of entry by just telling a dom I'm a sissy maid and they think this woman is going to, her eyes are going to expand so wide and she's going to be excited and wet in her panties because she's found a man who's willing to dress up like a woman. And you know what Reality is. They're a dime. A dozen Seriously Understand that fact, but it's the ones that are actually trying hard that are noticed and that are considered, you see, as a slave or a submissive.
Speaker 1:You want to be considered. You're not going to immediately be somebody's slave. You have to be considered. So why would you present a photo where the background is maybe in the bathroom and there's toilet rolls all over, or the toilet seat is up and the toilet is dirty, or you're in a kitchen and the dishes are piled up or there's bugs? Trust me, I've seen it all. I've really seen it all. You know, Nicholas learnt, and I want you to consider my discussion today as a learning point for you.
Speaker 1:Some people have this natural ability, and even maybe by the way they were raised, to understand what it means to clean and how to clean correctly. It's just a environmental and habitual pattern that they're used to. You know they're raised in that kind of an environment, so for them it comes naturally, but for a lot of men it doesn't. Oftentimes they leave home and they live on their own and their bachelors, and you know there's a mess. There's a mess and it's okay. They're comfortable in it. But if you want to serve a dom as a sissy maid, you must know your job description, and that job description is clean toilets, clean services, clean floors, clean kitchen Beds, made clothing, folded and put away. The house smells nice. You smell nice. That's another issue.
Speaker 1:I would see a sissy online and they would say, oh, mistress, may I come over for a session? So after vetting them and setting up, mistress, may I come over for a session? So after vetting them and setting up an appointment, they'd come over and I'd say bring your sissy clothes right, come in, strip down, I take them into the living room. It was very much a ritual for me how I performed my domination and in which manner. I always had a very specific and strict routine. So they'd sit there with their bag beside them and they'd pull out their uniform. Oftentimes it was wrinkled, it wasn't clean, they had worn it for play and they hadn't washed it afterwards. Well, they have to put it back in their bag. You know, I'd have to say to them that's unacceptable. So now I have to get an outfit and dress you up, because yours is in absolute and utter disarray and unclean.
Speaker 1:And you expect me, as a dom with high standards, to interact with a sissy that is dirty and if, on top of it, their body wasn't clean, they had body odor, they didn't put on deodorant, they had greasy hair I would be taking them downstairs to the slave bathroom and they would be expected to have a full shower and then I would have to sit them down and have a training period and explain to them what they needed to do, what they needed to change, and the ones that were humble accepted that advice. The ones that didn't want to accept it and who were arrogant would backtalk and they would not be allowed to return. They would have to leave and they would never return. Thankfully, I didn't get a lot of backtalk. 99% of these sissies came in, they took the correction and they did not repeat their behavior. That was poor and they would really want to prove themselves. And that's how you need to be and that's how Nicholas is. He admits.
Speaker 1:You have to admit when you're a slob, you have to admit. When you're not organized, when you don't know how to fold a towel, watch YouTube channels. Your dom is not there to teach you how to fold a towel, to teach you how to clean clothes in a washing machine. She's not there to teach you how to wash your underarms. She's not there to tell you that you should have clean underwear and clean clothing when you present yourself in front of her. How humiliating for a man to do that to come and show up dirty.
Speaker 1:So this is a trend I notice with a lot of sissies, and online I see it so often. They ask if they may send me a photo. They send me a photo and they're in their bedroom. They've taken all of their man clothes off. It's on a pile on the ground and they're dressed up, snapping a photo of themselves dressed up in a little sissy maid outfit, and nine times out of ten it's in disarray. And I think the reason is that people that are interested in this fetish have an idea of what it should be, but they don't put that expectation upon themselves. They go out on Halloween, they buy themselves a little sissy maid outfit or just a maid's outfit, and they have to smuggle it into the house and hide it. So it's all in a ball and they're not keeping it organized or clean or, you know, they're not washing it after their play and then, when they have the opportunity to present themselves. They're not prepared and they lose a good opportunity. They lose a good chance to impress a dom.
Speaker 1:So what do you need to do? You love the whole genre of sissy maid and dom Turns you on. So what's next? All I can say is do your research and, at the very least, if you get an outfit, make sure it's always pressed, clean, smells good and that when you get dressed up you smell good, you're presentable and your house is presentable. And when you go to a dom's house and you are there to clean, you treat your outfit with respect. That doesn't mean you go light on the cleaning duties at all. It does not mean that. It means you can work very hard and scrub and shine and do what it takes, but keep your outfit clean. It's going to take you longer because you're going to be in high heels. So don't rush it, don't get hurt, don't twist your ankle.
Speaker 1:Ask the dom what do you need? Clean and if you feel your outfit might get dirty, see if your dom has an apron. Or, better yet, bring an extra apron, a nice full apron that you can put over your outfit so that when you take off that apron, your sissy maid outfit underneath is in top shape, because sissies will have to also provide food and drink to Adam after they clean. You wouldn't want a dirty toilet splash on your clothes and then you're presenting wine and cheese to your dom, would you? Of course not. So there's definitely a method to the madness.
Speaker 1:You must take on the personification of cleanliness, servitude, of being that top shelf maid, and when you do, your life will open up, just as my friend Nicholas Tanix has. His has opened up when he needs a place to go. He has a place to go Because these women know that he is going to do a good job and he will serve them in any way that they request, including pussy worship, but never before he does his job, never before, and it's not a guarantee. So never go in thinking I'm going to dress up like a sissy, turn on a woman. She's going to immediately want to, you know, have sex with me or play with me, and I can do the minimum required. It's just not going to happen, and if it does, then you're ending up with somebody who probably is equally as slobbish as you.
Speaker 1:So I look forward to arranging to discuss more with Nicholas in the future. I'm not sure exactly when yet. So I don't want to make any promises, but that's on my roster of things to do. I'd like you to have a great day, and if you are a clean and well put together sissy who knows how to do their job and how to serve, and has a great environment, that is spot on. I'm giving you a gold star. I'm giving you kudos for that, because you are going to be one of the ones that these women do not want to let go. We keep you. So thank you for listening, have a wonderful day and talk to you soon. Bye for now, thank you.