Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Strap yourself in for lots of kinky and open dialogue from a Woman who has experience with Pro-Domming and the BDSM Lifestyle. Her live-in chaste sissy sub joins in on some of the open discussions involving kink, chastity, BDSM and what it means to be a good Domme and sub.
Are you are drawn to BDSM & wondered why? Do the dynamics in a D/s relationship, intrigue you? Do you feel the submissive cravings, but cannot express that in your current relationship, or as a single person? Or, are you a female dominant and want to explore that powerful side of yourself? Does the concept of control & mental power exchange, wet your intellectual interest? Maybe you are currently in the BDSM scene and fighting to find joy. Do you have a D/s relationship but need to understand how to successfully satisfy your partner? I have the answers and many stories to share.
It is high time that I share My enriching journey, as a proud Female Dominant. I have been a Lifestyle Domme, for 10+ years & have met 100s of submissives. These, have served Me, looked up to Me & TAUGHT ME so many things about the human mind & its willingness to obey. In those thrilling years, I have learnt the delicate balance between a submissive mind and his/her body and the role I play. My knowledge + personal stories are rich with secrets, for submissives & Dommes.
I specialize in chastity, Femdom, crossdressers, humiliation play, emasculation and have experience in ABDL/DL, E-stimulation, urethral sounds, the mind games that make a Sadist so powerful and the vast Dungeon tools + tricks, that make up a High Protocol, BDSM Dungeon. Consent & physical safety will be discussed. The psychological and mental health aspects of BDSM will be discussed.
BDSM scratches so many mental itches & there are always reasons for those cravings. There will be cautionary tales, that you can learn from. There will also be much to realize, from the beauty that overflows, within the BDSM Community.
I will take your hand in Mine & we will navigate through the problems, questions & curiosities. Even if your day-to-day is vanilla, you deserve to explore your desires.
Maybe you want to understand someone who lives in the BDSM world or unearth your own curiosity? When you harness your creativity & mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. This is discussed, in Napoleon Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich”. In Chapter 11, “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation” he says, “The road to genius consists of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance. “ Yes, this info-gem, is in a “get rich” book!
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BDSM is becoming more mainstream. People are realizing their sexual potential, beyond simple sex. Power Exchange in relationships is such a satisfying way to engage. Any variety of D/s relationships can provide stimulation that surpasses Society's idea of how it should look or be. You will learn with Me, as I take you through the journeys of the mind and soul of the submissives that I control/led and what methods I use, to become the best Domme, that I can be.
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Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Dick Pics & Pussy Worship
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Thank you for tuning in to Diaries of a Dom, plus questions answered with me. Chastity Queen, I've been thinking deeply on a number of things and, in particular, I get a lot of messages in my FetLife account. I'm noticing a trend. Yes, One trend is the desire to send me dick pics. And it's funny to me because not only am I chastity queen, but I'm a femdom and penises just do not truly appeal to me. So I don't know if it's just a way for them to turn me off or it is to get some maybe well-deserved punishment from me. But I absolutely will not take the bait on the punishment, and maybe it's just an insult, and that is the agenda. So it's funny, though. So it's funny, though, getting those pictures, because there's something so unappealing about receiving such an ugly image of a male genitalia. I've never found it, in particular, very appealing or attractive, honestly. I mean, men, look in the mirror. Really, if you think your penis is so gorgeous, then why don't you take a snap of it and put it in a frame and hang it in your bedroom, right? Would that make you feel good? Hmm, would that make you want to masturbate looking at your supposedly glorious penis? Hmm, maybe you just can't control yourself. Hmm, maybe the look of what's beneath your belt is so enrapturing for you and intoxicating that you feel the world needs to see it. Right, why don't you get a billboard and post it up there? Put your phone number and see what kind of responses you're going to receive. Try it, I dare you. Go for it. Come on, spend the big bucks, show off your priceless dick, see what happens. Maybe you think there will be a lineup at your door of people who want to touch it or see it or maybe take photos of it.
Speaker 1:Hmm, something else that I've been noticing in my emails is the men that are asking if I'm interested in oral sex or if that is what I'm looking for. You know, as a femdom and a woman who has a live-in slave and some other slaves that I engage with, I've got plenty of options. And if I put a call out for every single fan and friend on my FetLife and I've got thousands to come and do that to me, life, and I've got thousands to come and do that to me I would never have to get up out of my bed for probably a few years. I could just have some feed me and the rest just take their turns between my legs. Now, is that something that I want? Newsflash, no. Are you shocked?
Speaker 1:Do you think that all doms, femdoms, women with submissive men who are their slaves, or pets, or masochists, or dirty little pigs? Do you think that all of us want a man's mouth down in our gorgeous temple? Hey, maybe some of us do so. No harm, right, I support that. If you're a woman who wants continuous pussy pleasure and worship, then fabulous.
Speaker 1:But I have to tell all of you men out there listening, there are many of us who only allow that when it's deserving. You might think, well, what do you mean by deserving? Well, I'm going to tell you what it means. It means that you must do a lot for me with your behavior, with your pampering, with your respect, before I even consider you for a kiss on the mouth, let alone a kiss between my legs. That's my truth. It takes a very long time to get between my legs, if at all.
Speaker 1:I have some slaves I've had for years and they will never do that, because I don't want it and it's not an offense to those slaves. They serve me in other ways. And do I consider pussy worship a service? No, no, it's not, because, honestly, if you ask most men, okay if they would do that, they're going to say yes. So how does that work for a man? Really, it's not. It's a turn-on for a man, and I'm not here to please men, I'm here to be pleased. And there are very few men who can actually do that well, though all of them say they do it well. I'm surprised the men don't go to the pussy worship university online and get a phony certificate, because that's what it is it's phony.
Speaker 1:You say you're good at it. I'm going to tell you that most women will not tell you this, but oftentimes it's a disappointment. So let that sink in. Do you want to know what really turns me on? You must say, well, this woman mustn't have any sex drive. Oh, that's not true.
Speaker 1:But just like you fetishists, you need certain things to get your engine warmed up right. I need a lot warmed up right. I need a lot. I have a lot of offers to provide me that warmth in my engine. By doing everything I say. What gets me started? Do you want to know Control started? Do you want to know Control, power, exchange, somebody who will do as I say when I say it. Somebody who looks up to me, respects me and trusts me, and that comes. That definitely comes, but it takes time. Do you understand that? And the minute I know that you have gotten to know me long enough to trust me, respect me and obey me, that's when the control can get much tighter from me, much tighter for me, and it's at that point that the tides turn in my opinion of a particular slave. And when the tides turn, that is when I am pleased and that's when I can exert more control. Does that mean that when I get to that point, I'm just going to automatically spread my legs and say, okay, you may have your fun now with me? Well, if you think that's the case, you're mistaken, truly mistaken.
Speaker 1:Sex is a bonus For me. It's not a guarantee for you, and many who serve me know that. That's not even an option. And that's the mark of a true femme dom Right, this is a DS. I'm the dominant, you're the submissive, it's about what I want, and if you don't like it, you can find another dom you can serve.
Speaker 1:And if you want to spend 24-7 between her legs, there's not much power exchange happening Mentally, and that's okay If that's the dynamic you're looking for. But for me, that doesn't cut it, that's boring. I like intellectual stimulation. I like something even more than that. I like the control. I like something even more than that. I like the control. I like power exchange. You give it, I take it and I play with it in whichever way I choose, and the only reward for that is my pleasure in that power, do you understand?
Speaker 1:So back to dick pics. If you send me one wanting to be humiliated, it's not happening. Am I annoyed with you? Of course, but annoyed in the sense that I'm laughing at you because you're just absolutely stupid to think that you will ever have a chance with me if you do that. The moment you send that picture, it's finished. It's finished.
Speaker 1:You could have a dick that's thick, 12 inches long maybe bigger wouldn't matter to me, it would be over, because you are not respecting me as a female superior. You are being disrespectful and your penis is just a mound of flesh, that's it. I don't care if it's small, hard, soft, huge, thick, thin, mediocre. Keep it in your pants, bitch. It doesn't interest me. You have to be extra special for your penis to make its mark on me, if you want to say it that way.
Speaker 1:I don't know, if I want to say it that way, very few have made an impression or gotten close to me physically. If you have, you have followed the rules. And even if you do follow the rules, that doesn't mean I want to touch it or see it. Remember, I am Chastity Queen. I prefer it locked, denied, degraded and cross-dressed in panties, nighties, lingerie. And you know that doesn't turn me on, that amuses me. So if you want to be chaste and you want to be respectful and maybe you have a small penis and there's not even a cage that would fit because it's so small, then kudos to you, but just don't show it to me. Okay, simple, isn't it?
Speaker 1:And for those men who think that they're going to have a date with me and not offer me something before we even start, they're not willing to send me a tribute as a display of authenticity, forget it, I'm not interested. I'm a queen, remember? Why would I go out? Just because you seem like a nice person, right? Oh, your personality is enticing. There's plenty of people out there, lots of men who I talk to without the offer of a dinner, that are fantastic individuals. For those men who think that, sending me a message in FetLife and a picture of a suit and a tie who say that they travel the world or they're poets or whatever the bullshit story is, or they're poets or whatever the bullshit story is. That doesn't give you a free pass not to give me a tribute. I'm sorry, you want me to notice, you Submit, and that's a good way to start.
Speaker 1:And if you think well, this woman is obviously a lesbian because she doesn't like dicks. I will tell you this much. First of all, I am a lesbian. I like to play with men who are dressed up like women. That makes me a lesbian, right Another reason why I don't like dicks. I like to de-dickify the men and the slaves that I deal with. But oh, yes, I do. But I am extremely choosy, and if I need to wait two years to find a man that I enjoy for that purpose, or three years or four years or five years or six, that's my fucking prerogative, isn't it? I'm not desperate for dick. I can get it whenever I want it. I choose not to. So thank you for listening.
Speaker 1:These are the things I've been thinking of the past few days. I thought I'd share it with all of you and see what you think. I'm sure many of you are on the same page with me, understanding the importance of being submissive and respectful and never, never, expecting anything sexual from a gorgeous queen. So lock up, remember, chastity is freedom. I've given you that key, that key to freedom. Put that cage on. Hand me the keys, whether it be physical or mental. Lock them away. Learn about yourself. You know, I have denied myself as well, and I can truly say it has been the best thing for me. I have not settled for less, I'm not desperate, I'm quite satisfied and ultimately, I can satisfy myself better than any man can, and that's a beautiful thing. So have a wonderful day. I will be speaking again soon in my next episode. Thank you.